The Refreshingly Normal Podcast with Kēfla and Cree

GLP-1, Love, And Life

• Kefla and Crecia • Season 1 • Episode 26

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A lash tech, a box of cheesecake, and a plan so bizarre it could be TV—our opening story turns a casual catch-up into a masterclass in paying attention to your gut. From there, we move through the joy and grind of school life: patient math help, energetic environmental science, and what it takes to lead adult trainings that actually change classrooms. We share how to set student teachers up for success, why letting interns into real workshops matters, and the small choices that build confidence before day one.

Then we go deep on GLP-1 medications and the science of obesity, guided by clear, compassionate takeaways. Weight isn’t just willpower. Set points, hormones, and brain chemistry push bodies toward familiar numbers, which is why so many people rebound despite clean eating and exercise. We challenge the “cheating” narrative and focus on the health metrics that count: A1C, fasting glucose, blood pressure, lipids, and inflammation. Whether vanity goals or disease risk brought you to the question, the better frame is longevity, energy, and quality of life. We talk about making space for empathy in families, quieting shame, and choosing tools that fit your biology.

Along the way we laugh through grocery-store scavenger hunts, partner questions, and those everyday moments that make a home. We honor MLK Day with memories of parades, service, and traditions that keep the light on. And we close with gratitude—new therapy work, resilient health during a rough season, and the stubborn hope that small choices still change futures.

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.

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Welcome back, everybody. I am Kefla.

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I am Kree.

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And you have just tuned in to the Refreshingly Normal Podcast. Where your favorite uncle and auntie, cousin, slash, friend, slash, coworker, slash person you know, slash soror, slash frat. We talk about everything that is what? Refreshingly normal.

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Oh, I guess I was supposed to say that.

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And somebody's over there in the sleep time. It's all good. So let's get it.

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Uh-huh.

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Um, this question okay, what's the question?

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Last week, did y'all think that we sound chopped and screwed because air war wrong and like it was weird.

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I don't think we really sounded our voices sounded that deep, but it was really weird. It was it sounded like we were chopped and screwed on the um episode uh last week.

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But it was I tried to see if there was any uh sound issues. It was on full speed.

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It was weird. I couldn't even listen to it.

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It was weird.

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It was weird. Anywho, what y'all think?

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We'll hear from you. We'll hear from about five of you.

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Yeah.

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The other five, y'all just be clicking and like. I appreciate you.

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Anywho.

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Give a shout out. We're gonna start giving a shout out. Oh, yeah. We're gonna give our gift bags.

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Yeah, let's give a shout-out to uh Sarah. Sarah, my colleague supervisor, she always listens. And Miss T and Miss T, y'all are the best.

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And Foger, because she always posts, reposts.

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Oh, yeah, she reposts our shorts. Y'all ladies are the best in the West and the East and the South and the North, all over. You are just the best.

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And it's like Peloton, you know, if you want that shout-out, we gotta know you there to force to shout you out. You know what I'm saying?

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We got you. Sarah, Miss T, for good Nicole.

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Yeah, we got you.

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Y'all ladies are all of that and a bag of chips.

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That's right. And any of my relatives that have not listened to a complete episode.

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Shame on you.

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Or more than one complete episode, don't worry about it. I'm looking, I'm cutting them off.

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Oh, cut them off. I forgot to say Piff because Piff got caught up.

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She got caught up? Sure did. Shout out to Piff.

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That's my niece.

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Yeah. Shout out to Piff.

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Yeah.

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Uh-huh. But the rest of y'all, mm-mm.

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Like, straight up. Raggedy. Straight up. Y'all raggedy.

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And then be wanna add something. A favor.

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Nope.

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You think we finna host another uh holiday? No. Nope. Not even.

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Y'all better listen to hear our jokes because you ain't gonna hear them in person.

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Oh, we'll come to your spot, eat up, mess up, and don't clean up.

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And tell minimal jokes.

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Yeah, I ain't telling none.

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Oh, anyway, we just gonna eat and run.

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That's right. That's right.

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You don't get none.

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That's right. That's right. All right. All right.

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How was your week?

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My week was great.

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Why?

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Because it was uh I was alive. There's a lot of stuff going on in the world, you know, but I was alive. Um, you know, stressful. Like I said, I need an IEP. This math got h hard today. I be sitting in there, ooh, that math be whooping my butt. Well it's whooping my butt. But um, I mean, you know, I I I know it, but it just takes a minute for me to get um to get the answers. Because, you know, like the the teachers that know the math, that do it, the kids can say, uh, where where did I go wrong? And it's oh, you did this. And they'll say, you know, Dr. Harry, where did I go wrong? And I'm looking at it, hold on, let me see. Let me go get my notes. Now I get my notes and I said, I said, oh, this way you did it. So it takes me a minute, you know, to look at everything, and then I can help them. But uh the ones, some of them don't, they they want me to know right then. You know. But hey, other than that, I I can help environmental science, I gotcha. Zoology, I gotcha. Even in, you know, geometry, I'm a great motivator. I got kids believing in themselves.

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Yeah.

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And I got kids that only ask me.

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Oh, they love you.

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Yeah, because I I'm patient too. Like those teachers.

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He is very patient.

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The teachers, they're not that patient, and they'd be like, well, we gotta move on. I'm like, but these kids don't get it. Yeah. And it's not fair to them. But I understand, like, you, especially when the kids are trying and they're not being distracted by being on their phone.

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Yeah.

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You know. But the kids that like they'll be on their phone and they're like, hey, hold up, hold up, hold up. When I used to teach health and I would give them notes, and they would be like, Wait, hey, Dr. Hell, go back, go back. I was like, Nope, you was on your phone. I saw you. So you missed that one.

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They all know that about you because if you miss something that he said because you was on your phone, you will never know.

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Is that especially if I'm talking to you? What you say. Anyway. How was your week?

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Oh, my week. My week was good. It was busy. I had a two-day training um with a wonderful group of participants.

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All right.

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Um, I enjoyed them, the two days that I got to spend with them. Um, I love when you have participants that are engaged and they share their own personal connections and stories. And um, yeah. So it was a good two days of training with those people.

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Are you that person in trainings? The person you want to see in trainings?

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Yeah. I am.

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Yeah, I am too.

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But sometimes I be I have to pause, I say, Am I talk am I sharing too much?

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I have to too.

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Am I talking too much? So then what I'll start to do is um if there's like a discussion or I'll pause to see if anybody's gonna go first. Yeah. And I do like a pause, and then if it begins to get uncomfortable, like towards the uncont, then I'll then I'll just say, let me just go. Cause they yeah. So anywho, but yeah, I do, I I try to I try to do that. If but it does depend upon the um um the presenter.

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Yeah, well, I'll I'll say like I'll jump in and do my thing, and then if nobody goes, I'll say it. I'll say like, well, I'm gonna go since it seems like nobody else wants to participate. So y'all prepare to get sick of me. Yeah. I say because and then I'll say something like, because I've presented before and I know how it can be if nobody I I do it because I'm like, because y'all are some jerks.

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I don't do all of that. I do, I don't know. I just participate and just have a good time. Um, but I do like to have a good presenter. I hope that I'm a good presenter for people that's important to me. I think I think I'm pretty, pretty, pretty good. So um they call you back. You must be yeah, and I enjoy doing it um because I really um care about giving educators tools um to change their mindset and to just show up and be able to give students what they need. So I that that's really important to me.

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So it's always easy to present something to believe in.

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Yeah. You know. So um, anywho, so I got to do that this week and um yeah, this I got to go out and um visit a school to to to observe a student. And I always love that because I'm telling you, if you ever need your cup full, go to a school with littles because they just say, I like your hair, I like your earrings, I like your this. They just every little thing they notice and they have such sweet things to say. So yeah, they really filled my bucket today. Um they did. They were very sweet. Feel that bucket. And um, and then it was good this week because on Monday, Kimani started his student teaching. So uh we get to hear about how that's going at first, because Kimani is ever since being a little guy, when he has to do anything, whatever the role, his mind, he has this idea of what you should dress, what your dummy is. Your demeanor, all of the things. And so he has been, he probably should be an actor. But anyways, um, he's been doing that all week. So yesterday he said, I finally got to do something that's more like teacher like. And we're like, what did you get to do? He said, I got to take role.

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I was like, what? I thought he was gonna say he, you know, got do some papers or present the one, you know, the introduction or something. He said, I got to take roll.

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I take roll. And then today he had to be on duty because his supervising teacher was out, so he had to do her duty. So I asked him today, I said, Well, how did that go? Because he had to make sure kids got to class and all the things because he's in a high school. And um, I said, So I said, What did you did you have to say anything? He said, Well, but he got closer time for class to start. I said, Hey, you guys need to get to class. I go, No, tell me how you say it. He says, I said, All right, hey, about time class getting ready to start in about a few minutes. You guys may want to make your way.

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I said, All right.

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He done heard it enough.

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Yeah.

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He's heard it enough. So I think when he had me for health, he had me first block.

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Yeah.

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And so all the kids would come to my classroom and when that warning bell hit, boom, and I'd be like, all right, ain't no need to be waiting on that 820, you late. Let's get, but coach, uh-uh, let's go. And then he dip on up out of here.

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Yeah, so um we um, so he's had that, and so this excited and kind of hear the things, and he's writing his first lesson plan and excited about that.

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So that's because they actually use lesson plans at at um Jamaica School too.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, we don't use them in high school.

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So yeah, that's really cool there. And it was a lady that was in my training, and her daughter, um, my assumption is she's elementary, and she says, um, I really wish that she would have a chance to come to some of these trainings too before she starts in her first year of teaching because all these things that you guys do, you know Where's she teaching?

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I mean, where does she go to school?

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She's somewhere in the I I'm gonna get it wrong. It might have been the Carolinas.

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Uh okay.

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I'm not quite sure where she's gonna be.

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Because I was saying that is definitely something. I don't know if that's what you spoke to that lady about at uh KSU, but that would definitely be something for them to do. Um, but they probably have to be vetted if they're gonna actually sit in the trainings with you guys.

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You know, if they're student teachers, they're more than welcome to come.

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Yeah, because they are vetted already. Yeah.

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So I've had um people who come to my trainings, and if they happen to have a an intern or a student teacher, they ask me if they can come, I'm like, absolutely. I want them being mandatory. And um, yeah, so yeah, I I I feel like if they to me personally, like if I knew the list of all of the student teachers that we had in the county, uh I would love to every single training that we offer to allow them an opportunity to come because they don't get things like that, like you know, that the trainings that I do, but it's gonna definitely help them uh classroom management, tier one strategies of that connection and relationship building.

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Yeah, I maybe I should bring it because the fall is when they do their observations, like they have to be there three out of the five days a week.

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Okay.

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Because my student teacher, she was with me three out of five days a week. And then so when she got ready to actually do her student teaching, the kids already knew her. Yeah, you know, um, and so she was ready to roll right into it that spring semester.

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Maybe I'll ask about that because yeah, I think it's so important. I love when they're able um to come because they get to leave with some strategies they can use in their first year.

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And, you know, with anything, if you are their first impression on how the environment should look, you know what I'm saying? That that's that sticks. You know, because it's just like if a person's first impression is sour, then they think it's always gonna be like that.

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Yeah, because sometimes I mean you're you don't know what kind of um supervising teacher you're gonna get.

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Good job.

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You know, so um, yeah, so at least they'll have some other um experience, other educators to connect within that space and hear. Um, because I always have um lots of opportunity for people to share their experiences and and all that to build the connections and for people to kind of connect and relate and take away ideas from other people because I'm I'm not the only expert in that room. Yeah.

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So uh yeah, that would help them so much because even the people in the room knowing that these kids are about to go into the profession, you know, they may have some questions that everybody would want to be. Yeah. You know, you can probably open it up to, okay, let's, you know, make sure y'all give the let's we have a one, you know, student teacher per group. All right, y'all let them ask you some questions. Yeah, okay. You know, that would be good.

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We'll have to bring that up and see if that's a possibility for us.

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But anywho, that's a possibility. Everything is possible.

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That is true. You know, I don't mind asking.

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They probably everything is possible.

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I don't mind asking. And then if something doesn't sound right to me, I don't have a problem also asking. Can you tell me more?

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What I've learned a lot of times you gotta learn how to make it sound like their idea.

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Yeah.

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Because oh no, that's not a good idea. But then you say, remember you were saying something about us doing it like this, and I was thinking that is great. Your idea fits right in.

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Oh, yeah, you are right.

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I did think of that. Yeah, some people have to be like that.

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I will say, uh, my new supervisor, Sarah, you don't, yeah, you don't have to play all them little tricks and games with her. She's like, um, yeah, you can just have a good conversation. Yeah. So I love that. Because I yeah, I hate to go around the corner back up and down the street, and then, you know, you don't have to do that. So that's nice.

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Yeah, whenever you got somebody, especially supervisor who's open. And when a supervisor really understands what a team is, a team means that yes, I may be here on the tier, but I still rely on everything else. You know, you got a supervisor like that, you're gonna be successful.

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That's pretty awesome. That's what I yeah, I definitely love that about her. But that was my week. I will say, coming towards the end of the week, whoo, I'm tired. So I'm excited for our three-day weekend.

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Three-day weekend. Yeah, me too.

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I don't have we don't have any well, you have plans. I don't have any plans, so I'm excited about not having any plans.

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Yeah, I'm gonna go to uh Clemson to watch uh one of my frat brother's son play. Um Trey Donaldson plays for Miami Hurricanes. We're gonna watch him play. He's been he's been balling these last few games. Yeah, it's been like 23 points one game, 27 another game.

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Oh, that's awesome.

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Yeah, he's been doing pretty good. Um so me, Russ, and um Jameson are gonna check him out.

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Um I'm gonna watch his and hers. I think that's the name of that show on Netflix.

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That's what everybody's been talking about. His and hers.

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I think it's called His and Hers. It's number one right now. So um that's what I'll be watching some. I don't know. I have no idea. I'm not quite sure what it's all about. But it ain't gonna be no good. Quite a few people have said it's great.

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Can't be no good if ain't got no killing in it. Well, it might.

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I don't know. It could have killing.

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I'm talking about like like action killing, not like oh it should stay.

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Well, I'm glad it'll be me watching it. Me too. Okay.

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All right, so what's next? Let's talk about uh uh oh is this a believe it still? Oh, what you say? Oh, believe it sister. Okay. It's a story that I read.

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What'd you read?

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Um, so we're getting to our segment called Believe It Sister. Believe it. So it was this lady, she's a uh uh lash tech.

SPEAKER_01:

Oh, I read the story you sent to.

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Yeah, she was a lash tech. And this lady made an appointment with her. And she was like a an adamant, you know, appointment. She was like, I it's urgent. She's like, I gotta have this appointment. I need this appointment. And the lady was like, Why is it so important? Yeah, that she had, but she was like last minute appointment, I gotta do the X, Y, and Z. So the lady would, as um a favor for her doing the appointment, she said, Well, I'm gonna bring you some cheesecake. She said, which was a little weird, but she was like, Well, that's real weird. Sometimes clients bring stuff like, you know, like, you know, you brought Miss Kimmy some French fries.

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Well, she asked for them, though.

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I know that's your home girl. She didn't ask, because you know Miss Kimmy didn't ask for nothing.

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Well, she didn't ask for the when I asked her what she wrote for her birthday, she told me.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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So this lady, she um brings, and then when I was reading, she brought several slices of cheesecake. And she, the lady said she ate some of the cheesecake that the uh Russian lady gave her. She ate the cheesecake, nom, nom, nom, nom, all good and stuff. And then she said she got sick very shortly after. She got sick, threw up on the floor, and she was, I think she was doing it, I want to say she was doing it at her home.

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Mm-hmm. Because she had gone to the lady's home to get the lashes.

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And so then she passed out. Yeah, she passes out, and story cuts to her friend saying, I didn't see my friend at work for several days. She went to go check on her, and she found her at her house. Because she was at her own house. And she said when she went in there, she found at her house, and she was, and it was like pills. She was laying in a bed, and it was pills on the bed, everywhere on the bed, and to try to make it look like she had committed suicide.

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And they said Oh, so she thought she was dead.

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Yes. But she said she was a little drowsy. She she thought she was dead at first when she first saw it, but she wasn't. This is what happened. I read deeper. So the lady gave her some, it's a poison that you cannot get it in the United States legally at all. Like not even prescribed. It was something you had, it comes from out of the country. Okay. All right. And so it was mixed into the cheesecake. The poison well, okay. Then the lady had turned the um the heat was on in the house, real hot. And so her friend was looking like, why is the heat on so hot? You know, trying to turn it down. She couldn't find a remote. The remote was under the bed. The uh drug that was in the cheesecake can become fatal once the body temperature gets to a certain point. So she was turning the heat up so that the lady's body temperature would get up, then she would kill her, and then make it look like she did suicide. Committed suicide.

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Oh God.

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Yeah. So then she did a police report, and then the police uh found that there was uh money missing, there were uh her passport was missing, uh, credit cards were missing, and some other valuable items like jewelry and stuff like that. But the lady, her intentions were to steal her identity. Come to find out, this lady was wanted for murder in Russia and she had escaped. And before the police could catch her, there was a man who befriended the lady. Well, the lady befriended the man, and she did the same thing to him to start stealing other items for him.

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Did he die?

SPEAKER_09:

No, he didn't die either.

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Come on, she is not a good murderer.

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But it was one, but see what she did for him, she got him poisoned. I mean, she got him sick, and then he passed out, but she got all his money and stuff like that. Yeah, and she dropped him off at his job. Like she picked him up from a bar and then dropped him off back at his bar at his job, and everybody just thought he had too much to drink. Yeah. Yep. And so they finally found her and they put her in jail, and they convicted her of um assault, attempted murder, and um some other felonious charges because, you know, stealing passports and and all that kind of stuff. And when they connected, found out that she was wanted for murder in Russia, they was trying to do should we extradite her or what? Because it was like, well, they don't want to know if they can extradite her, and then she gets off free.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, yeah, that is true. That sounds like a movie.

SPEAKER_09:

Well, it's on um ID, the ID channel.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, like a documentary.

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Yeah, it's a show. I forgot the name of it, but it's a title. I had to find the name of it, but it's Oh, I saw it on the butt.

SPEAKER_02:

I don't remember the title, but it said on there.

SPEAKER_09:

Who happened? What happened? Uh Believe It Sister. I think that might be the title of I think that is what it's called.

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Have y'all heard of the show on ID? Believe it Sister.

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It's gonna be one. It needs to be starring your hosts. Because I could be like one of those guys who says, little did she know, the murderer was right behind her. And then Creepy one talking to her, go girl, run, run. She could not run fast enough. Go, girl. Uh-uh. That you could do that.

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Now, listen, the moral to this story is Don't eat no cheesecake. Don't eat everybody's cheesecake. Somebody trying to bring you a cheesecake. Mm-mm. Because look, hey, that is, as I say, weird.

SPEAKER_09:

What what what did it make them kids go do? Get that cheesecake. And they was been messed up ever since.

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Ever since.

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Hmm.

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Ever since.

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Ever since. Eat that cheesecake alone. Only certain people. Now, if you if I know you and you bring me some cheesecake, we good. I'm eating.

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Yeah. You know something that's funny that was in our uh my train and we were doing conferencing, restorative conferencing, and we were doing a uh role play. And these um the students had done a senior prank and they had gone into the school. It was so funny when the lady was reading the description. She goes, okay, so these 12th grade students have gone in, they have done a 12th uh senior prank, gone into the school, they um cover their faces with masks, and they put baby oil and flour all over.

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Everybody was like, baby oil because it's so closely tied to the diddy to diddy. We would just die laughing about this.

SPEAKER_02:

That was part of the thing. And it has always been in the training about their senior prank, but with light of anytime you say baby or didn't.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, that's the first thing you think of is uh is that. So that was so funny.

SPEAKER_09:

No diddy, no doubt. Speaking of high school, you saw you saw that video? I know, I think I sent it to the car coming through the thing?

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, the cafeteria. I'm calling my mama.

SPEAKER_09:

So they was kids were at the cafeteria in the cafeteria eating lunch, and all of a sudden a truck lost control and ran through the window of the cafeteria, drove through the wall.

SPEAKER_02:

Somebody said it was AI. That didn't look AI.

SPEAKER_09:

That didn't look like no AI to me.

SPEAKER_02:

AI to me looks more dramatic.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, that didn't look like that at all.

SPEAKER_09:

It was probably AAI. That's what that African American individuals.

SPEAKER_00:

Oh Lord, they were running to those babies around it.

SPEAKER_09:

And then that one, they had like headphones on, and everybody was running. He was looking around like this. And they just run, he was trying to figure out like what we know he because he didn't hear the sound. I was like, see?

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Yeah, that wasn't looking.

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That ain't that ain't good.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, no, you're gonna be the one get popped. Uh-huh. You're gonna be the one getting popped. In out, you know, things that happen in our work today's time. You can't have it where you can't hear at all.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, that's what I tell you. When you go jog, what I say, turn that noise cancellation off, put it to ambient noise. Yeah, ambient noise. So you can hear that joke if somebody comes up behind you.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, you know. Yeah, that's true. We live in a crazy world, guys.

SPEAKER_09:

Mm-hmm. I tell my students that even when we were talking about um driving, you know, uh accidents and stuff like that, and when I had to teach them for the ADAP, um, how even when you're, you know, your noise canceling headphones are on and walk in, you don't hear the screeching of the tires because you got all your music on. Next thing boom. You ain't got hit, but screeching on the tires, you, oh, what is that? Oh, watch out.

SPEAKER_07:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

Hey, come on now. You gotta be on your P's and Q's. Gotta be ready to go at any given moment.

SPEAKER_02:

And your Q's and P's.

SPEAKER_09:

That's right. That's right. You gotta be.

SPEAKER_02:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_09:

Because I'm I'm quick. I pay attention to everything around me.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, y'all better believe it.

SPEAKER_09:

Remember that time we was at the coffee shop?

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

We had just moved out.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

On a date night. It was on a date night.

SPEAKER_02:

I know, but we had been there for a little while.

SPEAKER_09:

No, we was at uh the first house.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay, you can't.

SPEAKER_09:

That's why we were over in camp on Camp of the Road.

SPEAKER_02:

We had a date night, and then we decided on the way home, because we wanted to be out just a little bit later, so we were gonna go by Starbucks and get um uh dessert and cool. Good dessert. And so we walk in. Yeah, and I just walk in like my Lottie Dow sell.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, we walk in, we see some old men playing uh chess. Chess in the corner, and we looking at, we order, you know, we order our coffee, you know, at the menu, get our stuff, and then we see, you know, because the window, you see a little guy with some dreads walk in, come around, and he goes and he's looking. He ain't paying attention to the menu. He's like looking back, and then he's paying attention because the man was in the corner over here, and we were over, like this way. And he's not looking at us, but he keeps looking at them, and then he looked up and he looked around and he looked back at them, and I told Kree, I said, let's go.

SPEAKER_07:

She's like, I said, we're gonna enjoy our coffee.

SPEAKER_09:

I said, Come on, let's go. So he stopped, stopped questioning me. If I say let's go, let's go. So we got up and left, and that morning we heard uh um at the Starbucks. Yep, because one of the men was an attorney or something like that, killed him because it's supposed to be he was supposed to be like an attorney with a case. Yeah, well, some kind of case. Some kind of gang-related case. Look at us. I say it our lives.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, that's true. Because they might because we would have been witnesses, we would have been dead too.

SPEAKER_09:

Then they would have been trying to come get us. Smoke us out. Smoke us out. Uh-uh. Not me. Uh-uh, child, not today. And then we was on the martyr one time, and somebody got on the butt on the martyr, and they lifted up, and I saw that gun, and we got we had just got on, and I said, Let's get off this stop, this stop, this stop. And we got off. I don't know where we was coming from, but we it was maybe a concert or a show or something, but we got off immediately.

SPEAKER_02:

We was like, I don't even remember that.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, I said, let's get off, get off, get out, get off. And we got off. And then and I was like, why? You was you said why? I said, I this cat had a gun on there. And so then we got on the next one. I was like, shh. Let's go.

SPEAKER_02:

Does a Martyr have a no, they don't have a metal detector, do they?

SPEAKER_09:

Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_02:

There's probably a lot of people on Martyr with a lot of things.

SPEAKER_09:

Well, I don't know if they do, but they, you know, they did, do or did, but they didn't on that guy.

SPEAKER_02:

It's probably 10 people on Martin with a gun. I'm sure. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_09:

You hear about a lot of people getting shot.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_09:

I would not not mean. Hmm. Not today. I pay attention to my surroundings.

SPEAKER_01:

You better. I do better at it.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, you're getting better. Hang around me more. You get better. You be surviving.

SPEAKER_02:

All right. Well, are you ready for questions?

SPEAKER_09:

I don't have them.

SPEAKER_02:

I sent them to you.

SPEAKER_09:

But I don't have them on my phone. You want me to get my computer?

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, okay. Right.

SPEAKER_09:

I don't have. Yeah, you told me, stop having my laptop and all that stuff.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm gonna well.

SPEAKER_09:

Unless somebody wants to donate me an iPad mini. That'll be good. We put it on the iPhone.

SPEAKER_02:

He does not need an iPad mini. He has his own iPad.

SPEAKER_09:

I do, but it's big. It's the same thing. I'm like we had a computer. Okay. But if we get an iPad mini, it's smaller.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, okay. And we'll put it on our business account. We talked about doing these questions, and he is not prepared.

SPEAKER_09:

Are we doing which ones we doing?

SPEAKER_02:

Questions that a husband can ask their wife, questions that a husband can ask their wife, and questions that a wife can ask their husband.

SPEAKER_09:

Oh, so it's not the who is more likely to do X, Y, Z? Not the paddle questions?

SPEAKER_02:

No, did you have to?

SPEAKER_09:

Oh, the questions you sent last week. Oh, yeah, no, I I thought you were talking about the other stuff.

SPEAKER_02:

Well, I'm gonna ask you these questions.

SPEAKER_09:

Go ahead, ask me.

SPEAKER_02:

All right.

SPEAKER_09:

And then pull yours up and I'll ask you.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay. If you lost me in a supermarket, where's the first place you'd look?

SPEAKER_09:

The bathroom. Because knowing you, you probably taking a dump.

SPEAKER_02:

What? I did not take dumps in the supermarket.

SPEAKER_09:

Well, maybe not a supermarket. Maybe if we was in the mall and and all of a sudden out of nowhere we just had a little extra money. Because when you get excited about shopping, you have to poop.

SPEAKER_02:

Yes. But we said the supermarket.

SPEAKER_09:

Supermarket. I don't know. Cause I don't really look for y'all. I do my whistle and then y'all know to come find me.

SPEAKER_02:

That is true. Do your whistle.

SPEAKER_09:

When I do that, everybody come. Like, no matter what. I go, shh. And then they be like, hey, over here, over here. The boys do it, she does it. And that's what we do.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay.

SPEAKER_09:

So now somebody's gonna do the whistle and you're gonna be looking for.

unknown:

Well.

SPEAKER_09:

But that's fine. That means you just watch the podcast. Wink and gun. Alright, give me another one. What are three words? Well, where would you look for me at? Because I'm sure the men questions are different. I will look for you at the okay, it depends.

SPEAKER_02:

If we are I'll tell you, if we in sprouts, he buy the apples.

SPEAKER_09:

If we in sprouts, oh yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Because he is so into all these different flavors of apples. So he's gonna definitely be at the apples.

SPEAKER_09:

If we in, if we're uh we're in Whole Foods, where am I?

SPEAKER_02:

If we're in Whole Foods, huh? Where would you be in Whole Foods? Would you be by the wines?

SPEAKER_09:

By the meats?

SPEAKER_02:

By the meats?

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

No.

SPEAKER_09:

Looking at for all the different meats.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, I don't know.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah. You, if we are in the grocery store and I'm looking for you, where am I? I would go back to the beginning. And then because you always say, you might as well just get everything in order right now. Instead of You might as well get it. We right. No, no, you tell me not to do that. I be trying to go like bam, bam, bam, but you say get it by item. I'd be like, What? Yeah, you be saying get it by item. Get one by item. Like when we got a grocery list and we trying to make, as they say, I'm cooking macaroni and cheese. You be like, all right, well, grab this, grab this, grab this. No, by section. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

I shop in sections.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

He on the other hand, shops.

SPEAKER_09:

I go all over. Or get my steps in.

SPEAKER_02:

No, he shops in his unorganized ADHD brain.

SPEAKER_09:

Get my steps in.

SPEAKER_02:

Now, the first place you will also see me if I'm at Kroger. If y'all don't know this tip, Kroger puts their fresh flowers on sale and they still look very nice. And you can get you a good bouquet of flowers for a fourth of the price that they normally are. So that is where I'm usually going to see. Do they have any nice um any nice flowers that have been marked down?

SPEAKER_09:

Our dog is laying down, guys, with her arm like people would lay in the bed like this. I ain't never seen it on your phone from Khart. I ain't never seen her lay on her arm. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_02:

That must be the old lady in her.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

All right. Question two. What three words would you use to describe my personality?

SPEAKER_09:

Um bubbly. And bubbly caring and the word I'm looking for. It's so many, but I'm trying to get the best of it. Bubbly caring.

SPEAKER_01:

And um Just choose one.

SPEAKER_09:

Um I mean, yeah, you're respectful. You're respectful. You're respectful to everybody. That's why you respect everybody.

SPEAKER_03:

Okay.

SPEAKER_09:

Like you love all cultures. You give everybody the benefit of the doubt, the chance. You know what I'm saying? Whether it's gay, straight. That is true. You know what I mean? Like you can we can act honestly say that we know black, white, Hispanic, Mexican, you know, religious, non-religious. We know some drug dealers, you know. You know, we we knew some scrippers. You know, and we know gay, we know trans. And we still treat them all, you know, as human beings. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

So all right. What's one smell? I'm kind of scared to ask this question. What's one smell that instantly reminds you of me?

SPEAKER_09:

Um smell that instantly reminds me um roses.

SPEAKER_03:

Roses?

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah. Why? Because that's where we got married at. In the rose garden. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

I don't even remember. Did you smell roses when we were at?

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah. And and remember that. When my remember for our anniversary, I bought you that bush of uh the knockout roses that that died this year, last year.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh no.

SPEAKER_09:

Because it got taken over by some weeds and stuff. Like an oak tree was in the middle.

SPEAKER_02:

And I thought I I didn't even We didn't even have an oak tree.

SPEAKER_09:

I that's what I know. But it was growing through the middle. It was growing through the middle, and it was killing everything around it because the roots was taking over. So I tried to kill the oak tree and it killed the thing. No. Yeah, so I said I was going to do a new one.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay. What's the very first thing you'd say if I called you crying?

SPEAKER_09:

Where you at? What's wrong? What what what I need to do? Right there. Because where you at, so I can go come and get you, help you out, and I'm getting my gun. What's wrong? So I know do I need to bring gun, knife, shovel, all that other stuff? And that's it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

What's something you know about me that almost no one else does?

SPEAKER_09:

Um that you are actually uh a shy person.

SPEAKER_02:

How do you know that?

SPEAKER_09:

Because you just told me.

SPEAKER_02:

Have you experienced me being shy?

SPEAKER_09:

At the beginning. Oh yeah. Yeah, you wouldn't do half of the stuff you're doing now until you got with me. Got comfortable in being able to laugh at yourself, being laughed at and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Okay. If I got arrested, what would your first guess be for why?

SPEAKER_09:

Um somebody uh you had to fight somebody for some uh racist Karen out there. You had to fight her. Huh? Oh, what else? Or some uh racist um heelbilly. You know, they just said the wrong thing. Cause, you know, we got a lot of tolerance for stuff, but when it comes to stupidity and people getting in your space like, you know, treating you as if you are less than, yeah, you know, boy or nigger this, it's it's because that's probably why I would go to jail.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, or if somebody spit on you.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah. Oh yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

That'd be terrible.

SPEAKER_09:

Right.

SPEAKER_02:

So Oh, here's a good one. If you had to introduce me without using my name, what would you say?

SPEAKER_04:

Instead of saying this is Lucretia, this is my wife. What else am I saying? My boo.

SPEAKER_02:

You can't say wife.

SPEAKER_04:

This is my boo.

SPEAKER_02:

You know that already.

SPEAKER_09:

This is um my landlord.

SPEAKER_07:

What the hell do you want me to say? Okay, how would you introduce me? Lord. Huh? Come on now.

SPEAKER_02:

I would say what you gonna say? Introducing where it goes. Oh my god. And you just slide it across introducing.

SPEAKER_09:

Introducing what?

SPEAKER_02:

The funniest, crazy you didn't say like if you most is that introducing.

SPEAKER_09:

Okay, so almost next time I introduce you, introduce me to your friend, ladies and gentlemen. This lady is my wife. Lucretia hair. You didn't say introduce as if you was on a stage.

SPEAKER_02:

You can't say my name. You already messed up.

SPEAKER_09:

No, but but the way you're saying is as if I'm on a stage. Oh. You didn't say if I was on the stage, hey guys. Introduce me without saying your name.

SPEAKER_02:

Hey guys, let me introduce you to my sugar booger.

SPEAKER_09:

Okay.

SPEAKER_02:

You just said you said. Here, guys, let me introduce you to my wife. What names do I call you?

SPEAKER_09:

What names do I call you?

SPEAKER_02:

Nothing. See? That's sad. I call him Sugar Booger. He calls me nothing but Crecian.

SPEAKER_09:

Stankytail. I call you that. Donna.

SPEAKER_02:

Hey guys, let me introduce you to Stanky Tail.

SPEAKER_09:

Because I say, get your Stanky Tail self out of here. Oh my gosh. Donna?

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

All right then.

SPEAKER_02:

Don't you introduce me as Stanky Tail?

SPEAKER_09:

Well, I'm just saying, you say I don't call you nothing. I call you wife. You know how many men don't call their wife wife? Call them old lady. Yeah, old lady, or they be like, oh yeah, it's my better half. It's my my significant other.

SPEAKER_01:

That's the same as a wife.

SPEAKER_09:

No, it ain't. Better half ain't the same as a wife. Oh Lord. What's wrong with you?

SPEAKER_02:

What's wrong with you?

SPEAKER_09:

Alright, here we go. If I gave you a free day with zero responsibilities, what would you actually do first? Oh, I read this. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

What would I do first?

SPEAKER_09:

A free day with zero responsibilities. What would you actually do first?

SPEAKER_02:

Sleep a little longer.

SPEAKER_09:

And then you miss the whole day.

SPEAKER_02:

That's what I decided.

SPEAKER_09:

Alright, well, good job. What's one habit of mind you tolerate out of love, not enthusiasm?

SPEAKER_02:

His your stacking habits.

SPEAKER_09:

Alright.

SPEAKER_02:

Stack stack stack.

SPEAKER_09:

If we switch roles for a week, what's the first thing you'd make me handle?

SPEAKER_04:

Oh, the bills. Alright.

SPEAKER_09:

What's something I do that you pretend not to notice, but definitely do?

SPEAKER_02:

What's something you do, but I pretend not to notice?

SPEAKER_09:

This is a woman who wrote these questions.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm not a pretend not to notice per kind of person.

SPEAKER_09:

Okay.

SPEAKER_02:

I tell I as my mama says, Ella May.

SPEAKER_00:

I just keep it real. I just keep it real.

SPEAKER_02:

I don't think there's anything I pretend that I don't I can't think of anything for that. Cause I don't I don't why would I why would I be pretending that I don't see it? I don't know.

SPEAKER_09:

I don't know either. Alright. Okay. If you had to give me a rating as a husband today, no explanations allowed, what would it be? What's the number? I don't know. It just said if you had to give me a rating as a husband today. If it was zero no explanations allowed, what would it be?

SPEAKER_02:

If it was zero to five, I give you a five.

SPEAKER_09:

All right, great. Thank you.

SPEAKER_02:

You're welcome.

SPEAKER_09:

What's the most wife-coded thing I completely underestimate?

SPEAKER_02:

Wife-coded? What does that mean? What's a wife coded?

SPEAKER_09:

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02:

Read it again.

SPEAKER_09:

What's the most wife-coded thing I completely underestimate?

SPEAKER_02:

Like something I do?

SPEAKER_09:

I don't know. I mean, like you say, like, what's the thing called? Bro code means like certain things you can't go against the bros with. Something, you know, like, oh, that's bro code. Like bro code means you can't uh pat another dude on the butt or you can't wipe another uh like man law violation, you can't wipe another man's mouth, say, hey man, you got food right there in the corner of your lip right now.

SPEAKER_01:

Okay.

SPEAKER_09:

Or you got something in your eye, let me blow your eye. Can't do that. That's a man law violation.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay.

SPEAKER_09:

So I guess I don't know if that's it or not. But a woman wrote these questions.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

Because every question she wrote about the man is pulling something out.

SPEAKER_02:

Well, it's no different than those one questions you gave that were all that were written by a man.

SPEAKER_09:

No, it wasn't. My chat GPT is a woman. So maybe she's a man at the time. Yeah. Maybe it was a man at the time.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, because those questions were man-related.

SPEAKER_09:

But these are real women.

SPEAKER_02:

Okay, read it again.

SPEAKER_09:

She's a woman hater. See, she don't that's this is definitely a woman question. Because she wrote something that women can't even understand.

SPEAKER_00:

Say it again.

SPEAKER_09:

What's the most wife-coded thing I completely underestimate?

SPEAKER_04:

And she's talking about that.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, I know what a wife-coded thing is multitask. How well I multitask. I can get some things organized, done, planned to a T.

SPEAKER_09:

I think I do that too. I multitask a lot. I do multitask.

SPEAKER_02:

You may multitask, but it is a task completed. I multitask with task completion.

SPEAKER_09:

I I have a completion um amount. So if I say I want to do 50% of this today, 20% of this today, and I get I work up to those.

SPEAKER_02:

That's why you underestimate the wife code of thing, because we do 100%. I do 100%. I didn't underestimate it. 100%. Y'all just go big.

SPEAKER_09:

Y'all just doing the most. No. We're just doing what we feel like we want to do.

SPEAKER_02:

No, we're not doing the most.

SPEAKER_09:

We are um if you if you do it all, that's doing the most. That's the most of it. You done most of it.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. We're rock we're rock stars. Yeah, you are. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

Some of them just people don't listen to to rock stars.

SPEAKER_01:

I'm a rock star.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah. We don't listen to rock music in this house. If you wrote a disclaimer about being married to me, what would it say?

SPEAKER_02:

My disclaimer would be he is an amazing step in, do all the things kinda husband, but look down when you walk so that you don't stumble over a stack.

SPEAKER_00:

A stack of something.

SPEAKER_09:

I'm gonna walk down on stack stumble over stack of somebody. Stack these. I got a disclaimer.

SPEAKER_02:

That's it. Well, what you think of those questions?

SPEAKER_09:

They suck.

SPEAKER_02:

Who else had the snail?

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, because who wrote it? Some little lame old bitter child. That's what she was. She was bitter.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, the questions for y'all were better than the ones for the ladies.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, because the ones for us, she wrote it with emotion. The ones for us, she was like, oh, let's get out there, you know. But the ones, I mean the ones for the men men, like she wanted to employ it.

SPEAKER_02:

What personality? Like it was really like to feel her fill you up and make you feel good as if we're gonna.

SPEAKER_09:

Where would I be in a grocery store? What would I be doing? You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02:

We don't even care where y'all are.

SPEAKER_09:

Right, that exactly. Shawn down. All right, give me a disclaimer for my husband. Tell it's telling. That's all she was a little snitch. Oh, snitch a witch. Well, believe it, brother. All right, hmm. I ain't believing none of that. And that wasn't even no sister.

SPEAKER_00:

What was it?

SPEAKER_09:

It's sis. Sissy. She was a sissy. It's somebody sissy.

SPEAKER_00:

Oh my God.

SPEAKER_09:

I mean, black people say sissy. A lot of black people say sis. Yes. Covisha say it, but I'm from my.

SPEAKER_02:

Yes, because Kovisha calls me sissy poo.

SPEAKER_09:

But I mean, most of but that sissy poo, she said like that too, but she don't talk like that normally. Hey, Sissy Pooh.

SPEAKER_00:

That is how she talks. She talks like that all the time. No, she doesn't. Now you sound like somebody else I know.

SPEAKER_09:

No, she don't. So I don't know. Hey. Oh well. Said the snake. Some of you say so. That's my sir.

SPEAKER_02:

I don't know who says that. Oh, I don't say that. But I don't have a sister, so.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

I have a brother.

SPEAKER_01:

Yep.

SPEAKER_09:

Well, you got any more questions?

SPEAKER_02:

That was not those questions. I thought they were pretty neat questions.

SPEAKER_09:

Okay, well, you know what? I'm gonna go along with you.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

There are neat questions. This is great, guys. Did y'all like that? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Anywho, um, if y'all have not, I would say, you know, everybody, maybe it's just on hours because we talk about it and here's our phone. But the GLP one, we know is a thing that lots of it's a lots of people. I think a lot of people are using them. Yeah, yes, it is. A lot of people are using them. Um, but if you are some people are using them because they need them, I will say there are some people that might be abusing it.

SPEAKER_09:

But if you're vanity, yes, I'm for vanity.

SPEAKER_02:

That's what it is for vanity. However, we all know Oprah has amazing things on her podcast and all the things, but she has an excellent um, is it her podcast? Yeah. Um, if you just look up Oprah, but she has, I watched it um from YouTube, but she has an excellent one about GLP1s um that's out now, but it has a doctor, I think she wrote a book, and um there are other people on there that kind of share their stories, but it's not just about the GLP one, but um just understanding obesity and the body and genetics and um all those things um that impact um people um for years, but just the understanding of it helps you to better understand what people who struggle with weight, um, people who have struggled with it their whole lives, like really what they kind of go through. Yeah, and that a lot of it is um not in their control. Yes, it's their makeup, it's their body makeup.

SPEAKER_09:

It's not when we always say it's willpower, it's not, it's not willpower. You know, it's it's chemical makeup of the brain and the biological makeup of the body and the demands the body is saying it needs. You know, it's the my the body is demanding food. Yeah, the body is demanding that it does not burn the calories.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

You know, it has nothing to do with exercising or not. You know what I mean? Um, you know, as you research a lot, yes, you can exercise and lose weight, you know, but you gotta understand every rule does not apply for everybody. You know, a great trainer will give you an exercise routine, but he will also watch you and once he and observe you, and once he realizes that this is not working for you, he would be able to change it. A horrible trainer is the one that keeps making you do the same workout everybody else is going through, even if you're not getting any results. You know what I'm saying? And that's what we're saying, that everybody is built different. So this person may not have the may have all the desire and all the the mental fortitude uh to do the resilience, everything. But the body is saying, Do you you do understand that I have a number that I want to be at? I want to be at 220 pounds. You may be able to hold 180, but your body, you know, all the chemicals that are inside of you right now that's telling you, I want to be at 220. You know, and so that's what the podcast. The lady's name is Dr. Ania uh Jastroboff, and she is the leading endocrinologist and associate professor at Yale School of Medicine. And her new book is called Enough, Your Health, Your Weight, and what's it's like, what it is like to be free. Okay, and that's what she's talking about, enough. And what enough means is just like you get to an enough point where your body says, That's enough of the weight loss. I this is where I want to be. I'm not losing anymore. This is where I want to be. But with the GLP one of the Kree was saying, it can get you beyond that enough point, you know, help you get those numbers down.

SPEAKER_02:

Um it's not like you told me, it's not just about the weight, because oftentimes we just get stuck on a weight.

SPEAKER_09:

And that's what I meant by saying numbers. I'm sorry. Yeah. Yeah. Because weight is a number too.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, but he's we're talking about numbers in regards to your health. So, like bringing your cholesterol to a normal range, and your blood pressure to a normal range, and your sugar. Yeah, all your vitals, yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

All your vitals different enzymes, all that.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, into a healthy range is what is most important. Um, not just what the scale says, but what do your vitals say? Um, because that is what impacts. That's what heart disease and all those things um come from when you uh when your vitals are are out of range, right? So um, but it was very interesting. Um, I think everybody should listen to it.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Um, because it was just information that I know I wasn't um kind of a little bit of knowing, but the way that they explained it was just like, oh, like it really was enlightening.

SPEAKER_03:

So yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

Um yeah, I enjoyed um listening to it. So I know um some people have been getting a bad rep for using um the GLP ones, um, but there are some people who need it to live. Yes, right, uh to live a longer, healthier life.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, and yeah. The the main thing because we had like, you know, we we hear people even personally to us that we speak to, they say it's cheating. They don't want to be cheating. And that's what Oprah and Serena Williams said. Yeah. Uh Oprah's uh nephew, uh Stepman's nephew, um, and so he said that he didn't want to do it because he felt like he was cheating. And he didn't want people to say he was cheating. And we've heard this by people that was been very close to us who said, I don't want people to think I'm cheating, you know, that I can't do it the hard way. But you know, sometimes we can't do it the hard way.

SPEAKER_02:

Well, it's not even about doing the hard way, it's about your your makeup.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. That's why you can't do it the hard way, you know. You burn yourself out realizing that my body really ain't gonna be. It's like you push your foot on the gas of a of a car, and it's it's not built to go 120 miles per hour. But you're pushing it, pushing, burning the engine up, knowing that, you know, thinking like your grandpa's car that only went so fast. That's right. Well, it would go fast, but he never would go. But then after so long, we would try to push it, it wouldn't even go that fast because it was so used to going like that. Yeah, so it's like, you know, you had your body at times may need a little help. And he said that what was the kicker for him was when I was so sad when Oprah Winfrey um he thought about her. He said, Man, my aunt has all of the Oh, about the uh grandmother? Yeah. He said, Oprah Winfrey is my aunt, and she has all the drive, all the desire. She's the most dedicated, um, the most determined woman I know. And she has trouble maintaining, losing, and standing. And she has therapists, she has uh dieticians, she has cooks, you know, and chefs, and she still couldn't do it. He said, so, you know, if she if she can't do it, I know I'm done. But then once she did the GLP one, he said that encouraged him to go with it too. It wasn't about cheating, it was about getting yourself to a better place and getting yourself to where you want to be. Like he said, some people do it with vanity, but then at some point, I understand if you have a certain image in mind that you want to look like. I do want to because we all don't just come out of the house looking willy-nilly. No, you know, we want to, you know, look, present ourselves in our own light, what regardless of what that is. You know, and so if that's your reason, hey, but understand the real reasoning behind um how this can help some people.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

If you listen to this podcast, it may help you, or it may even help you educate someone who you love who knows that if it'll help them live a better life.

SPEAKER_02:

And it also may help you from um being so judgmental and um critical of a loved one or friend who ha who does struggle with their weight. I think that the understanding to help you to understand their brain and how their body works, it gives you that understanding. So then it will allow you to be a little bit more empathetic and understanding to what they feel and what they go through.

SPEAKER_09:

So definitely, definitely. So, hey, take take your time. Um, but before you listen to her podcast, you better listen to us first. You better listen to ours.

SPEAKER_02:

But you but you gotta listen to us first, or you ain't you wouldn't even know. Well, you you already dead then. You already did. We ain't even talking to y'all. We ain't even talking to y'all.

SPEAKER_09:

We talking to your friends and them. Mm-hmm. We talking to your friends and them. And then you go on Oprah and say, click in her comments after you click on our comments. But you click on Oprah's comment and say, I came over here to your podcast because of the Refreshingly Normal podcast.

SPEAKER_02:

And and and uh link us in there.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, and say, and they need a car.

SPEAKER_08:

Yeah, and then she was like, Oh my goodness, you guys. Is that Lucrisha? Keith La. This is Oprah Winfrey on the phone. Yes, you guys. Thank you so much for sharing my podcast. I love you guys. That's what she's gonna say.

SPEAKER_00:

Oh my goodness.

SPEAKER_09:

So yeah, that'll be great. Yeah, but um, what else? So, what are you looking forward to this week?

SPEAKER_02:

Well, I didn't share that. I did get to do my mom's birthday.

SPEAKER_09:

Oh, yeah, you did. You want to talk about that?

SPEAKER_02:

Well, yeah, so we um we or we meet, um, I went to Kansas. Remember, I told y'all I wasn't a surprise because her boss messed it all up. Yeah, but my niece was a surprise. So she was so surprised to see my niece. And she's like, this is the best birthday ever. So we tried to do that thing where you know how you put up two things and they have to choose and they decide what are we gonna do. That listen, that lady really wasn't going for it. We did massages because that had to be scheduled. That is what I did, and they were very nice. She had never had one before. She did not want to do it. But see, I told you she ended up doing it and fell asleep during her massage. She's a good one. So we did that, but then she says, I sure hope a pedicure is on the schedule. So, anyways, we did that next and um we went to lunch at Olive Garden because she really likes Olive Garden. We did have her choose that because it because she kept talking about Applebee's, so we put Applebee's. Applebees or Olive Garden, and we did Olive Garden. And then we did a little bit of shopping and went home and then got the rest of the got my dad and my uncle and then my aunt and her husband. And we went to dinner at Texas Row House. Texas Row House. Y'all should have put in that saddle. She wouldn't get in the saddle either. By the end of the night, she was tired and grumpy. But we couldn't get her in that saddle. Texas Roadhouse, that is a busy place. I mean, like we got there, we're able to be seated about 7:30. And we left out there at 9:30. It was just as many people waiting.

SPEAKER_09:

You know, in Midwest, that's steak country. You know, in Midwest, so they're gonna get them a steak.

SPEAKER_02:

So anywho, we did that. And um, so it was a good time. And my and she just says, she just kept saying, This is the best birthday ever. And so that was really nice. So we had a good time. I think she really appreciated it. That's good. Um, I know one thing she really, really, really wants, she really wants a party.

SPEAKER_09:

Um, you might just have to throw it and don't worry about if the folks can come or not.

SPEAKER_02:

You just invite and the only thing, yeah, the only thing is her birthday is like right after Christmas. So um, I'm trying to figure out like, should we like maybe make it like at Christmas year?

SPEAKER_09:

I would do one during Christmas. I if you wanted to throw one, you throw one this year during Christmas. And don't even do it a surprise.

SPEAKER_02:

You just took Oh, ain't no need to do no surprise.

SPEAKER_09:

You say, Mama, who all we gonna throw you, let her know. Say, Mom, we're throwing you a party.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, who you want to call it?

SPEAKER_09:

All the people that's coming.

SPEAKER_02:

And it'll still be a surprise, whatever happens there.

SPEAKER_09:

It'll be a surprise with who actually shows up.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

And they show up for her. But that's gonna be. And even if it's not a surprise, just for her to have a point.

SPEAKER_02:

No, it doesn't have to, yeah. I mean, not a surprise, but she still won't know what to expect in regards to decorations and that, but she'll just know it's gonna be Yeah, who coming, what they got on.

SPEAKER_09:

It's gonna be a party.

SPEAKER_02:

So we may have maybe have to do it at Christmas. She's gonna be uh, because we're 25 years apart, so she'll be 75 next year, and I'll be 50. Yeah, 2027. So anyway, she really wants, she I know she really wants. She thinks she's gonna have to wait till she's 80 um to have one.

SPEAKER_09:

So or maybe 76. Because you you're 50. We gotta be gotta say that yeah, say the coins for that go somewhere.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, so I don't know. So we'll we'll we'll figure out a little something, something to be able to um to do for her.

SPEAKER_09:

But anywho, um unless we just take you to Gatlinburg for your uh I think not. To Dolly World.

SPEAKER_02:

I think I will be.

SPEAKER_07:

Please buy me a Mercedes Ben.

SPEAKER_02:

I don't listen. We went to Gatlinburg and did um, is that where we went when we went to Dollywood and all that? Pigeon Forwards.

SPEAKER_09:

Pigeon Forge, yeah. Stayed in uh Guess what? What's that place called? Margaritaville.

SPEAKER_02:

Guess what? I don't have to go back ever.

SPEAKER_07:

It wasn't too special. Yeah, I don't ever have to go back there.

SPEAKER_02:

Um, what am I looking forward to? Um I'm looking forward to um, of course, our three-day weekend. Um I don't know what else am I looking forward to. Oh, we're doing a um wine tasting event with our uh couple friends.

SPEAKER_09:

But it's not that's a long way.

SPEAKER_02:

But this week I don't, I don't there's nothing happening this week. Oh, oh, I do know what I'm looking forward to. What are you looking forward to? A snow day. Hey y'all, it's supposed to snow uh um this upcoming week.

SPEAKER_09:

It changed it.

SPEAKER_02:

It's not gonna snow now, changed it.

SPEAKER_09:

It's gonna snow in South Georgia, like it did last time. So like Granonelle might get some South Georgia, a little bit of Florida. Oh yeah, it it changed.

SPEAKER_02:

Well, that is what I was really looking for to do. But we were scheduled to get a good little amount. But I'm not looking forward to that anymore.

SPEAKER_05:

Yep.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm getting some new hair on Saturday, next Saturday.

SPEAKER_05:

Well, there you go.

SPEAKER_02:

So I'll be looking forward to my new hair.

SPEAKER_09:

There you go.

SPEAKER_02:

All right, what are you looking forward to?

SPEAKER_09:

Um, I'm looking forward to uh one, you know, the game tomorrow. Go check that out. Um definitely looking forward to being off of Dr. King Day. You know, Dr. Martin.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, we're supposed to play that when we our entry of the song.

SPEAKER_05:

Sing, sing, celebrate. Sing, sing, celebrate. For a king, celebrate. Sing, sing, celebrate.

SPEAKER_09:

Yep. Um, yeah, I'm looking forward to just chilling with Dr. King because I like watching the parade on TV and the um the sermons that they have over there at uh uh Dexter Avenue Baptist Church. Um when y'all were little, did y'all used to leave y'all light on? The porch light on? Yeah, we used to they say leave your porch light on. And then before when car before cars had automatic lights, you would drive around with your lights on. Like if you were.

SPEAKER_02:

Hey, V. That sounds familiar.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, because it's because his light still shines, and then for black folks.

SPEAKER_02:

I think we did leave the lights on on the cars, I think.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, you drive with your lights on the car so we always be like, all that Dr.

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King.

SPEAKER_02:

Now, I will tell you one thing in Wichita, we did have um good representation of uh of black holidays, black history. Um Dr. King like a parade event. Um we had um um Juneteenth celebration. I mean, like we had all those things. Um, so yeah, I remember doing that, that sort of thing on Dr. King Day.

SPEAKER_09:

That's good. Very good, very good. But that's what I'm looking forward to. Just a little time of, you know. I wish I could find somewhere to do some little service, but sometimes the service be so long. I know I said I got a lot of money.

SPEAKER_02:

Why didn't service? I wanted to go do actual acts of service. No, that's what I'm saying. Like Mr.

SPEAKER_09:

Uh Adams, you know, he goes to uh is it the food something he does? He does something. I forgot what it is. Hey, Monroe, just mentioned what it was. And I said, Yep, he sure does. It's something he always does. Where he would uh do like they would pass out clothes or something like that that they would get. That he does that all the time. Uh so I said I could probably reach out to him. Um But in college we used to do stuff, you know. We would uh that week leading up to it, we would go to the schools and read. I used to love reading to the kids. Um the whole the the uh NHPC, I mean NPAC used to do it. Um we would read to the kids and stuff, and that was a lot of fun. Yeah and then on the day of we would either um we had a s we had a parade in Montgomery. We would do that, and then we would like like pick up trash um around the project area or something like that, or the old folks. We would go to the uh old folks' home or something, you know.

SPEAKER_02:

My um one of my line sisters, her mom cooks like a Thanksgiving meal on Dr. King's birthday.

SPEAKER_09:

Oh, yeah?

SPEAKER_02:

Mm-hmm. And they had a big family, like Thanksgiving meal on um.

SPEAKER_09:

I can see that happening.

SPEAKER_02:

Every year on Dr. King's birthday. I said, that's a that's nice. Because we don't do that. And that's the time we should be having it.

SPEAKER_09:

Gather, yeah, get the family together. Gather, man. And to gather for that. I could definitely do that. I might do that next year.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

For Dr. King. Martin Luther the King. What's your side eye of the week?

SPEAKER_02:

Oh gosh, I have lots of little side eyes, but not all of them.

SPEAKER_09:

It ain't gotta be long.

SPEAKER_02:

It's just gonna be a lot of sorts of them I can share. I will say, let me see how I can.

SPEAKER_01:

Oh no. All of them I can share. You go first.

SPEAKER_09:

All right, my side eye of the week is all these kids coming to school sick. I'm talking about sick. Well, they don't even make it through the whole day. Like, you'll see them sick first block, and then I'll be walking in the hallway. Say, hey man, what you doing on the hallway? I'm getting ready to check out. I don't feel good. I said, What were you doing here the other day? At the beginning of, you know, the first block. Well, I just came and, you know, I said, oh, well, I might as well go home because I I feel horrible. Um I was like, uh-uh. So all these little chillings sick, and then they want to come up to you and tell you they sick. Oh. And they go, oh, I take your word for it. I'm talking about they hey, we had three in my second block gone, uh-huh. Four in the first block, uh-huh, and like maybe just two, two in in the uh other box. But you know, you that's just my class. Uh-huh. So you think of all the other classes. If you had those same numbers, you know, and you got teachers walking around with masks, not because they don't want to get sick, but because they are very sick, because you can see their eyes.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, they look sick, though.

SPEAKER_09:

They eyes look sick.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, I guess if I did my side, I would be a lady at the airport who was not covering her mouth, just coughing. And so I did say, I mean, grown people should know how to cover the mouth.

SPEAKER_09:

You should. By now. Right.

SPEAKER_02:

Grown people should know. Um, but that didn't change anything. So I did wear my mask on the plane ride there and back in in the airport because people and she looked, you know, she looked sick in her eyes.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, I every time I see people like that.

SPEAKER_02:

Like there's some people that cough, you know, because like one of the ladies I work with, because she has long COVID, she just has cough.

SPEAKER_09:

But I don't care about you coughing.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09:

But cover your cough. So if you don't cover your cough, I always think of that episode, the the famous episode.

SPEAKER_02:

Of what's the name?

SPEAKER_09:

Of what?

SPEAKER_02:

That movie where it was like uh a pandemic.

SPEAKER_09:

No, child, I was gonna say the episode of uh Different World. Every time I see somebody cough without covering their mouth, I think of the episode of A Different World, what Whitney's husband told Dwayne. What Whit Whit Whitley's mother told Dwayne. What did she say? When he walked up there, she turned around and said, Die, just die. She do it like that. That's what I be wanting to say. But you know, I can't let nobody die.

SPEAKER_07:

No, you didn't.

SPEAKER_09:

But it's like, oh, die, just die.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh my lord.

SPEAKER_07:

I hate that.

SPEAKER_09:

Every time a person coughs without covering their mouth, I think of a different world. Oh my god. And that particular episode.

SPEAKER_02:

Lord have my just die when he came back to win Whitley's heart. Yeah. Um, and so what are you grateful for?

SPEAKER_09:

I am grateful for my health, thank God, because I've been dodging that thing. But I'm um next week I'm going to the back to the gym. Uh I was been away from the gym because of the sciatica pain.

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SPEAKER_09:

And then that sick season came, and I just so scared of getting sick, man, because they say this flu has been it's been doing a number. And the last thing I need with my little scarred heart and lungs is to get sick.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, Kahari's sick right now, guys.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

But he didn't have the flu, COVID, or whatever else else they tested you for, but he's had a fever. That was Kimani had the flu, but didn't have a fever.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

So, um, anyways. Um he caught that truancy.

SPEAKER_09:

That's what he caught. Lord. Yeah. This one's been real tough.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Um, and I am grateful for my new did I share last time my new opportunity?

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, I think you did. But you can share because somebody might, this may be their first time ever listening to us.

SPEAKER_02:

Well, I'm grateful for my new opportunity of being a clinician or therapist at this um facility that's right near my home. Um, gonna get these hours done. Um already got clients.

SPEAKER_09:

Yes, you do.

SPEAKER_02:

She's she's uh I've I've I'm all I've already got four or five of them. So next week I'll be busy helping people work through their life's challenges, their hurdles and things they're going through. So I got to read a little bit about some of the things that they're going through already. So um, anyways, so um yeah, I'm excited about the opportunity and also another opportunity of helping people get to a spot where they feel their best selves. So, anywho, I'm thankful for that and grateful for um my new opportunity.

SPEAKER_09:

Come on, opportunity.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, the opportunity I prayed for opportunity. So things are showing up and with choices because let me tell you, interviews, baby.

SPEAKER_09:

Oh, you got that on Monday too.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, I got another interview at another place. That's right. But um, yeah, there that I've well prayed for me to get an internship spot. I did. I already do. I do that every day.

SPEAKER_09:

I keep getting nose.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, I keep doing that every day. And your nose mean your the the is not the spot. So the perfect spot is on.

SPEAKER_09:

I know they say it's sometime. Nose mean not right now. I need it right now. If not, I'm gonna be messed up.

SPEAKER_02:

So what do you need it for?

SPEAKER_09:

I need I need my um for when? For summer. Oh, stop. But you but it takes eight weeks to process.

SPEAKER_01:

Okay. Okay.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah. So So we need it by March. Need it by March. Okay. I got a month and some time.

SPEAKER_02:

You got this dude. Remember that from Oh, you probably didn't watch that.

SPEAKER_09:

Watch what?

SPEAKER_02:

Um, you got it, D. With the Olsen twins. What was that show?

SPEAKER_09:

No, I sure did not. I did not watch the show.

SPEAKER_02:

You got it, D. You didn't watch that show.

SPEAKER_09:

They were.

SPEAKER_02:

What is the name of the show?

SPEAKER_09:

I know you're talking about because that one.

SPEAKER_02:

Everywhere we came. Everywhere we mm. I don't know, but here the home down to what's that what's it?

SPEAKER_09:

Because that one uncle used to always tell the jokes and all that stuff.

SPEAKER_01:

But one of them, he was he's a he's a he's a somebody who needs to be.

SPEAKER_09:

He's somebody I don't ever see eye to eye in these medical platforms.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, and the yeah, I don't forget the name of it. But anyways, you got it, dude.

SPEAKER_09:

Okay, thanks. Do that.

SPEAKER_02:

All right. All right, so uh hopefully this time we didn't sound chopped and screwed. Hopefully we had a little energy in our voice. Because I'm telling you, last time I was like, what was going on? We kinda sound like little monsters.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah, I don't know. I tried to see what's going on. But uh I don't know.

SPEAKER_02:

So hopefully this time we don't sound that way.

SPEAKER_09:

Yeah. Anyways, we'll see.

SPEAKER_02:

All right.

SPEAKER_09:

Hey, all right, ladies and gentlemen, we're gonna get up out of here. This has been your most fantabulous host. The hoster with the most third.

SPEAKER_02:

And I am the hostess with the most is I am Keith Love. I am a Luke.

SPEAKER_09:

And you have just tuned in and have been watching and listening to the Refreshingly Normal Podcast. See you when we see you. Bye. Peace.

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.