We Trade Schedules, Compare Loads, And Find Balance In Real Life

Ever notice how one small change can flip an entire day? We start with a simple switch—morning workouts—and follow the ripple effect as evening anxiety melts, dinners feel lighter, and client sessions get the focus they deserve. From there, we open up about what “fair” looks like at home. Is coaching after hours the same kind of hard as homework, dinner, and bedtime triage? Instead of keeping score, we land on something better: name the load, respect the context, and rework the plan without turning the past into a weapon.

On the work front, we compare two worlds: a micromanaged day job where every word needs approval, and the open runway of therapy practice where a plan is a guide, not a cage. We talk through how real therapy works—clear goals, careful prep, and the courage to pivot when a client needs something different. You’ll hear stories of teen-parent breakthroughs when active listening finally arrives, plus a few alarming tales of what bad therapy looks like and how to spot red flags. The thread through it all is trust: hire for competence and then make room for it; show up prepared, human, and ethical; believe in best-case outcomes without losing guardrails.

We also keep it refreshingly normal with a run through Love Is Blind spoilers, date-night food wins (hello, ceviche and fresh margaritas), and weekend plans for a live meet-and-greet and a peek inside a pro podcast studio. Self-care isn’t a slogan here—it’s scheduling a verbal outlet, protecting a rest day, and choosing where to spend your emotional budget. Come for the candid back-and-forth, stay for the gentle push to make one small change you can feel by tonight.

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Transcript

Cold Open & Welcome

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.

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No, that's in my Alma all my grill.

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Why are you all in my grill?

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Remember that song?

Life Updates And New Routines

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Mm-hmm. Can you pay my bill?

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Welcome back, everyone. Thank you for joining us on the Refreshingly Normal Podcast. I am your host, Keith La.

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And I'm your other host, Lou Cresha.

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Refreshingly Normal Podcast is a podcast that you can listen to in your car, in your bed, on the toilet, on a jog, with some friends, anywhere when you want to feel refreshingly normal. You like that?

SPEAKER_02 1:00

I love that.

SPEAKER_07 1:01

That's my commercial. Alright, so um, let's see. What's going on? What's going on? What's happening?

SPEAKER_02 1:13

Ain't nothing going on, bro.

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But the rent. You got to have a J O B if you wanna be with me. No romance without finance. Hey.

SPEAKER_02 1:29

Okay. Um, so uh um try to think of anything different. I want y'all to say same old. Y'all hear me say same old same.

SPEAKER_04 1:40

We heard that badly.

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I'm trying to think of was there anything else different? One thing I did have to change in my weekly routine um is now the not morning person is getting up. This should be a part of believe us.

SPEAKER_07 2:01

I know that's right. I know that's right.

Morning Workouts To Beat Evening Anxiety

SPEAKER_02 2:04

It's getting up um in the morning before work to exercise um because my evenings are long as my clients grow, but I ain't growing no more. I've already set my schedule. So anybody else? I'm so sorry to that man or that woman.

SPEAKER_07 2:25

I can't take no I can't take no more.

SPEAKER_02 2:29

So um, yeah, I'm I'm at capacity.

SPEAKER_07 2:33

Your cup is full.

Division Of Labor And Keeping Score

SPEAKER_02 2:34

My cup is full. It's folded it up, folded it up, and so um, anyways, so I um I um am doing that. And then it actually does feel better because um I I I used to, although I, you know, y'all know I enjoy exercising is is what I I do like it. Um but it did it did make me anxious as I got closer to the end of the day, and I'm like, oh gosh, I gotta go home. Go home and exercise. I think I gotta do dinner, I gotta do da-da-da-da. And I would get anxious feeling, like knowing that I gotta go home and do all those things. But then when I do it in the morning, that took away anxious feeling.

SPEAKER_07 3:17

And your man be at home and pretty much I do dinner.

SPEAKER_02 3:23

Yeah, but I'm gonna tell you something about the dinner. Ah, he does do dinner. But I just think about I want, I just said, I'm gonna share with him, but he'll probably say he won't appreciate my share. No, go ahead, share. Remember, because it's kind of like a vice versa, because remember, like all the years you coached, and it was me home cooking, getting the boys settled and all the things.

SPEAKER_07 3:54

Yeah. Priorities change when you have to coach, you know.

SPEAKER_02 3:59

I'm not saying it's wrong.

SPEAKER_07 4:00

What I've been obviously saying something in order to make the uh reference point.

SPEAKER_02 4:06

But okay, let me finish my thought. I'm not saying it's wrong because that's what you did. Uh what I'm saying is so I would, and then I cooked all the time. Um, and so this week I was thinking about you and how you kind of get things settled and together. Like when I come home, food is like ready, like, um, but it's like pick up something or something easy, like to do. And I thought, I wonder does he does he ever think like, man, I remember when I coached and I come home and like creepy really had cooked and done all the things? Like, have you thought about like that the how it was for me all you know all that time? But when I had littles to also care for and cook and do all the things. But now for really for you, it's just really worried about us, not like having to get kids' homework and stuff like that done. I thought, I wonder if he think about that now that it's kind of like I'm doing like my therapy stuff, and then him having to think about food and that stuff, does he like think about, man, she really was doing a lot?

SPEAKER_07 5:20

To be honest, I I I didn't I didn't think like think about it like that because we did what we had to do according to how our lives were structured.

SPEAKER_03 5:33

Yeah.

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And so it was just like, no, that's that's how we were designed, that's how we were built.

SPEAKER_02 5:39

Yeah.

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I didn't keep score.

SPEAKER_02 5:40

I'm not keeping score.

SPEAKER_07 5:42

No, no, I'm just saying, no, but I'm saying I didn't keep score in that regard.

SPEAKER_02 5:48

I'm talking about right now.

SPEAKER_07 5:49

I know, no, that's what I'm saying. Okay. In order to talk about now, I had to reflect back then. Okay, right?

SPEAKER_02 5:55

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 5:55

And so it was like, you know, of course, when I didn't, like when the season was over, you know, that's when I was like, I scooped them up from school and I didn't do what I had to do. You know, but it was like that's the dynamics of life.

SPEAKER_03 6:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 6:11

You know what I mean? So, you know, it's no, I I I don't I didn't think of it like that. It would have been different if I would have been like not doing nothing and then coming home.

SPEAKER_02 6:25

I don't think you understand what I'm saying.

Micromanagement Vs Professional Freedom

SPEAKER_07 6:27

No, I do understand what you're saying, but I'm just I'm just adding it. That's what I'm I'm saying that it was the dynamics of our life. So I didn't think about it like that.

SPEAKER_02 6:37

But you would have think about it like then.

SPEAKER_07 6:40

All right, never mind.

SPEAKER_02 6:40

I'm asking you, that's what I'm saying. Like, I'm asking you, like, that is the dynamic of like what was happening. Like, this is the dynamic of it now.

SPEAKER_00 6:49

Of course.

SPEAKER_02 6:50

So that's what I'm just saying. Like, I'm not asking what you thought about then, because you wouldn't think about it then. Okay, so Because it you weren't, you wouldn't think about it then.

SPEAKER_07 7:01

So did you think, did you, do you think like, oh man, I wonder how, you know, because I come home and dinner's ready, but I had all this other stuff to do, like kind of how he had all this other stuff to do. Do you think of it like that?

SPEAKER_02 7:17

No, like I don't think of it. Um I know that I'm out doing. Right. But what I'm saying, like, the difference, like now to me, to now is like we only got to worry about ourselves because we we got grown children. Um and not to say that you weren't like out, it's a different doing. However, and maybe this is just my thought, and maybe I'm wrong in my thought, but I feel like getting kids settled, homework, um, dinner, exercising myself, doing all those things, I feel like it's harder than a a football practice in the evening.

SPEAKER_07 8:17

I understand why you would say that because you've never done it.

SPEAKER_02 8:20

Maybe so.

SPEAKER_07 8:21

Yeah, so I understand.

SPEAKER_02 8:22

But that's how I feel. I feel like there's just more there's more pieces to that to what my evening than your than that.

SPEAKER_07 8:33

Yeah. From somebody who's never done it.

SPEAKER_02 8:36

Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_07 8:37

Yeah, it's it's easy to see it that way. But you know, we're not I'm not gonna go into the intricacies of it all, because I could say it's either gonna be the same or different.

SPEAKER_02 8:50

Yeah, so maybe it's just different work.

SPEAKER_07 8:52

Yeah, it is it's different work, you know, but um it's either way or go, it's still tiring.

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You know?

SPEAKER_07 8:59

So I mean we could pull a putt, we could pull I'm not that.

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I'm just saying, I know I'm just saying, because it's I don't even know why I even brought it up for Mr. Tip for Tat.

SPEAKER_07 9:08

I'm saying because it could be harder.

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I'm just saying for tip for tip without sleep. Just saying, Mr. Tip for Tat.

SPEAKER_07 9:16

It's all good. So my Kalia Bella. Y'all need to get that wine. It is amazing. Oh my god, I need to show it.

SPEAKER_02 9:28

Anyways, let me finish my week.

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Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 9:31

That's it. Work was the same.

SPEAKER_07 9:34

Let me finish my week. That's it.

SPEAKER_02 9:37

No, that I mean, because this I don't want to keep repeating myself. Y'all know I saw clients, a lot of clients, and I had my work at work.

SPEAKER_07 9:51

No trainings this week.

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I did more um walkthroughs.

Therapy Craft: Plans, Goals, Connection

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Okay. What was one thing that opened your eyes this week? Be it about yourself, about situation, about life, about uh the world, what was one thing that opened your life this week? And then and then or and what was one thing that made you I know it's kind of like what are you grateful for, but one thing that made you say, you know what? I like like I would, you know, we just said, I don't need to complain because I'm I'm okay with anything like that this week.

SPEAKER_02 10:35

Well, I think I was telling you this before, and I was in getting my coffee so that I had this afternoon to make sure I have enough energy, like with my clients or whatever. But um, I do like um the work that I do, because everybody said, Oh, Cree, you have a long day. Um, but the work, my day work is different from my evening work. Um, so like the therapy work, I feel like uh it's not restricted. So through my day work, it's very restricted. Things have to be approved. You can say this, you can't say that. You gotta answer to this person, you gotta answer to that person. Um, so it's very restricted, um, micromanaged, that sort of feel. But the work that I do with my clients, because it's essentially like contracted work. And I do there is a owner of the comp of the of the of the counseling center, but you still are really doing you.

SPEAKER_07 11:43

It's not micromanaged.

SPEAKER_02 11:44

No, um, it's not micromanaged. Um the comp the things that happen within my clients, like I'm at liberty to do what I feel is best for my clients. Yes. Um, and that is I love that.

SPEAKER_07 12:00

The freedom to be your professional self.

SPEAKER_02 12:02

Yes, the freedom to be your professional self and not have to worry about people nitpicking, overthinking um specific things when I wouldn't harm any. I mean, just the kind of of human being that I am, I'm always doing it for the best interest of whomever I'm doing something for. I'm just not built that way. I'm blessed to have uh a brain that um um I'm not dealing with any mental health issues or or or where I can't think logically or look at the perspective of others or have empathy for others or that sort of thing.

SPEAKER_07 12:43

Why do you think is that way, though, you know, sometimes I do know, you know, there are, like you said, more restrictions. But why do you think is that way? Because I always question that too, when you're in the hiring, in a position to hire people, right? And I commend Coach Hansen for like when he hired his coaches, he before he hired him, he was like, okay, this is a person I can hire and let go. And you would want or you would hope, a person that's in the position to hire, that they hire somebody for the position where they're qualified and capable, and they know they're trustworthy enough to do their job.

SPEAKER_02 13:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 13:26

But why do you think a lot of times they still feel like they gotta have their finger on the button at all times?

SPEAKER_02 13:32

I think it's either coming from um whomever leads them, who they have to answer to. Um I think um people have insecurities. There are people who overthink. Um, if you're always thinking of the worst case scenario, then you're gonna that's what happens when people get micromanaged or or or you're having to let me double check that just to make sure because you've already thought of the worst case scenario. And I I love the there was on um, I think it was Instagram where somebody says, Well, why don't we think of the best case scenario? Why do we go to the worst case scenario first?

SPEAKER_07 14:19

I try to live by that way. Yeah. All the time.

Active Parenting In Teen Therapy

SPEAKER_02 14:21

And so I think I feel like that's what quite often happens um is that worst case scenario. But that is true. If you've hired people, um, you hired them. So obviously you saw something competent, um, that they were able to fulfill the duties and responsibilities of that job.

SPEAKER_04 14:45

Right.

SPEAKER_02 14:46

Um, and so with that, then there should come a level of trust. Um, because it's it's challenging to feel like every single thing has to be approved, or like it makes you feel like you don't trust my work, or is there some doubt? Um, because we're aware of the requirements and what can be and what can't be fully. And um I'm not a person who is um a rebel to go against the what the I'm not gonna do that. I know what I know I know what I was hired for, I know what the stipulations are. Um, and if I ever feel like it goes against who I am um as a person, my beliefs, um, or or my character, then I'm leaving because I don't ever feel stuck in a position because I know who I am and I know what I'm capable of, and I know that I'm valuable everywhere. So I'm not gonna I if if if anything like that happens, I'm out of there. But I'm not gonna be like to go against what I know is the expectation for that position because I'm a professional, right? So, anyways, in my um current thing as my therapist, it really is like feels like a freedom, I guess I should say, um, because I get to use my professional skills to help people um with no micromanaging. And I'm and and for me, what I feel like it makes me do is to um I feel like I'm extra careful in that space because I do have that freedom. So it makes me give them the best care. So like if when I'm coming up with doing um deciding what we're gonna do for a session, um, and of course it aligns with their treatment plan and goals and objectives, like I'm making sure that whatever I'm giving them is it is going to help them to achieve the goals that we've set out for them. So I'm very like looking at it and what what am I gonna do? And like I carefully plan all of that. I don't go in there all willy-nilly with no plan. Every one of my clients I plan for. So um I enjoy that part of it, and I also enjoy the opportunity um for somebody to choose me to help them with such sensitive um life things.

SPEAKER_07 17:33

Yeah, I think another part for you is you just said you go in there with a plan, but Oh yeah, I don't stick to a plan at all. That's what I was about to say. I will go with them. With that, this particular field, you scratch it based off of what what they need at the time. But in your job, you have to stick with the plan. You have to stick with the PowerPoint. And it's script it.

SPEAKER_03 17:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 17:57

You have to let somebody read your script.

SPEAKER_03 17:59

Yeah.

Self Care For The Therapist

SPEAKER_07 17:59

You know, and it's like, so like you say, you throw in your little comedy sessions in there when you can, but for the most part, it's it's almost like it's somebody else's words and you're just performing.

SPEAKER_02 18:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 18:11

That is But here, it's like now I really get to be.

SPEAKER_02 18:16

And I shouldn't say, I guess I shouldn't say it's a plan, it's a guide, right? So it's a guide.

SPEAKER_07 18:21

I mean, we go in with a with a plan. You always have a plan. Yeah. Because you know my my ultimate goal is this. Yeah. That's a plan, is to get to this goal. But whatever that looks like is different.

SPEAKER_02 18:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 18:32

You know.

SPEAKER_02 18:33

So, yeah, and and on top of that, like, I'm not gonna waste people's money and their time. And people, when they come to therapy, they are really desperate. A lot of them are desperate for answers and change and and advice.

SPEAKER_07 18:53

Extremely brave to be in there from the beginning.

SPEAKER_02 18:56

Yes, and and the parents, these parents that bring their teenagers for therapy, yeah, it's just commendable that they do. And and and even having a parent that once I talk to you and tell you, like, this is what your child needs, this is what they said will help to grow y'all's relationship. And then for them to come back the next week and say, I had a great week with my parents, they really did stop and listen to me. And it was from my conversation with them. And so for them to come back where they started the week before, worried and stressed, and this week is like happy and happy because their parent actually said stopped, really listened to them. Where normally they're like busy doing, doing, doing. And as soon as she came to talk, like to stop what she was doing, sit down and like so that sort of thing to me is just like special.

SPEAKER_07 19:58

Yeah, you have to be an active participant in therapy in order for it to work.

SPEAKER_02 20:03

Yep. And so yeah, and so I don't know. I feel like either the way that I've explained it or the connection I've made with the child and the parent, I don't know. It just I feel like You make it believable.

School Realities And Boundaries

SPEAKER_07 20:19

That's what it is. Maybe so and make it believable for them because a lot of times, and you know, you the horror story that I hear from kids is that when they go to therapy, there's no um connection like to this person. Like the person is talking at them. It's almost like, you know, if you're in class and you're just on the board and you're not even facing your students, and you're just writing the problems down for right this, right this, right this. There's no connection.

SPEAKER_04 20:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 20:48

Yes, they can get it all right based off of your directions, but they want you to turn around and see if they're really got it. Yeah. It's everybody good. Are you, you know, that they want they want that eye contact. They want to see where you actually care because most of the time people select therapy is because they are tired of not being heard.

SPEAKER_02 21:10

Right.

SPEAKER_07 21:11

They want somebody to hear them.

SPEAKER_02 21:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 21:14

You know what I mean? And um and and I think, you know, what you give them is that opportunity to be heard and that connection and that that belief that this is possible.

SPEAKER_03 21:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 21:28

You know?

SPEAKER_02 21:29

So anywho. Well, that's good. Yeah. So I think that that to me was like uh opening. I don't know which week this is for me. I feel like I might be going into maybe like I know I had the whole month of February, last two weeks of January that I started. Um yeah, so I think maybe that I'm feeling that way now because I do have some um consistent, like my regulars. And I'm just seeing within this six week time such growth for them. Um, yeah. And that's what we're that's that's the work. Like, I'm not I don't want them to be with me forever.

SPEAKER_07 22:14

The goal is for you to be able um to to, you know, yeah, have have the have the strategies and the skills and so to be able to apply them when they need them.

SPEAKER_02 22:25

So that's what I feel like um making sure they have those and they're able to use them in real life and uh make sure to give them the things that go try this. Let's talk about it when you come back. Like they have things they try. We work, we try it together, they go out and do it in the real world. We come back and talk about it. Um, so yeah, so there is it's a lot of talking, but it's a lot of work, like we're doing the work. So, anyways, I really enjoy it. So even though I'm like gone to like eight, um, I don't know.

SPEAKER_07 22:59

Eight to eight almost.

Pop Culture: Love Is Blind Talk

SPEAKER_02 23:01

Yeah, I am doing like eight to eight. I did do Mondays, I don't see anybody on Mondays. I said I do have to find a day that is just where I come home and do Sunday, like Sunday, Monday. I like that together. So um, yeah, I'm doing that. And then um, yeah, we'll see. And but I I am all, you know, I'm also um believe in taking care of myself. So I'm doing what I can do, and then as I feel like, oh wait, hold on. I will adjust, but right now I'm doing okay.

SPEAKER_00 23:32

That's good.

SPEAKER_02 23:33

I'm adjusting fine, especially since I took my Monday back because I was doing Monday too.

SPEAKER_00 23:39

Gotta have that.

SPEAKER_02 23:39

So I took my Monday, and so I feel like that feels better.

SPEAKER_07 23:42

Now, your next thing is to find out how you're going to be able to communicate as opposed to, you know, most people say, Well, workout is my release. That's not enough.

SPEAKER_01 23:58

Oh, no, no, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 23:59

Because, like you said, with being on this crisis team, you know, grief.

SPEAKER_03 24:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 24:04

You know, counseling and all that stuff, you're gonna need a release.

SPEAKER_02 24:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 24:09

You know.

SPEAKER_02 24:09

I thought about treating myself to a massage once a month.

SPEAKER_07 24:13

Yeah, but I'm talking about you need a verbal release.

SPEAKER_02 24:15

Oh, a verbal.

SPEAKER_07 24:16

Yeah, so that you can get out any feelings and emotions. You can't be a a therapist afraid of therapy.

SPEAKER_02 24:22

I'm not afraid of it.

SPEAKER_07 24:23

Then you're a hypocrite.

SPEAKER_02 24:24

So I guess that would be my Monday. I have to do virtual.

SPEAKER_07 24:28

That's fine. Okay. And it could be somebody that's you don't even that's far away.

SPEAKER_02 24:34

That is true.

SPEAKER_07 24:35

You know? But and you don't have to do it. And I don't have to do it once a week. Yeah. I could do it once a month. Once a month. Right.

SPEAKER_02 24:41

Yeah. And I could find the time to do that anytime.

SPEAKER_07 24:44

Yeah. But you need to plan that. You need to plan that.

SPEAKER_02 24:48

Okay. I shall.

SPEAKER_07 24:50

Yep. Gotta take care of yourself.

SPEAKER_02 24:52

I shall.

SPEAKER_07 24:53

Yep. Can't what'd it say? Can't pour it from an empty cup.

SPEAKER_02 24:56

Can't pour it from an empty cup.

SPEAKER_07 24:58

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 24:59

Got to put your mask on first.

SPEAKER_07 25:01

You can't pour clean water.

SPEAKER_02 25:02

Into dirty water?

SPEAKER_07 25:04

No. Well, if your cup already dirty, you can't pour nobody clean water. No, because that's the thing. And expect them to drink it.

SPEAKER_03 25:10

No. It's gonna be polluted.

SPEAKER_07 25:13

Yep.

SPEAKER_03 25:14

It ain't gonna work.

SPEAKER_07 25:15

Yep, it won't be as effective.

SPEAKER_02 25:17

Nope.

SPEAKER_07 25:18

So make sure you get your purifier.

SPEAKER_02 25:21

I shall.

SPEAKER_07 25:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 25:23

What about your week?

SPEAKER_07 25:25

Um I forgot it.

SPEAKER_02 25:29

You forgot it.

SPEAKER_07 25:30

I knew what I was gonna say earlier, but you know, you got all your supposed started.

SPEAKER_02 25:37

You put me on the supposium and then and gave me a microphone.

SPEAKER_07 25:41

No, my week was um it was, you know, it was a good week. Um one because I didn't have much to do as far as uh, you know, my IEPs, but the kids were good. Um and I I think I'm at a point too now where like when I say I don't care, like I really don't care like about the the nonsense that go on all all the the rules of this and that, you know. I'm like, you know what? I'm just doing what I gotta do for these kids. And if I need a break from the classroom, I'm walking out. And when they ain't acting right, I'm walking out because it's another teacher in there. So I'm cool. And and it's that that's how I was this week, because it was like it was getting to the point, like, you know, one teacher, she wasn't handling the behavior right. And I was like, I just said, I'll be back. And I just walked away. Cause I was like, I'm trying to help these kids, you know, get this stuff together, and and now I'm dealing with this, I'm doing my job and your job. Hell no. And I say, you know what, I'm out. And I just walked away. And uh, you know, walked in the hallway a little bit, took it a long way back around and came back and I was just you know, it's good. It's all good. But um, I'm at that point now, so um just doing my job, doing what's for best for the kids, and um taking all the stress off my plate. You know, um going to the gym, trying to stay regular with that. Um I am noticing a a big change in my leg though. And my my but not it's uh not for the better. Like in my my ankle, that's the feeling sensation, the nerve damage, it's not feeling good. So I'm probably gonna plan for next summer to get the surgery. Cause um this summer would be perfect, but you're helping your mom.

SPEAKER_04 28:00

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_07 28:01

And um, not that I don't need some help, but you would need help. Um need help for.

SPEAKER_03 28:08

What do you mean? What do you mean?

SPEAKER_02 28:10

What do you want to need help for?

SPEAKER_07 28:11

Get on crutches and get to whatever I gotta do.

SPEAKER_02 28:13

But when you first come and you do need a little help.

Date Night Food Reviews

SPEAKER_07 28:16

But I know, I know it now. I know how to handle it now. Goodness. And the boys be home for the summer.

SPEAKER_02 28:23

I understand that.

SPEAKER_07 28:24

And so I'll be straight. I would be straight. There's a lot of people that live by themselves get surgery. I could be like, what's the name? We can set it up like 600-pound life, and we can put the mic away, the little air fryer right there by the bed. And we'll be straight. And you always talk about you want breakfast and bed.

SPEAKER_02 28:48

Uh-uh. I do like breakfast and bed.

SPEAKER_07 28:50

For the summertime, you break it, right?

SPEAKER_02 28:52

Breakfast in bed. Right. I only get it on, I only get it on Mother's Day.

SPEAKER_04 28:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:59

That's the only time that I get it. And I really, y'all, I really do like um having food in bed.

SPEAKER_07 29:11

And you know I hate it.

SPEAKER_02 29:12

He hates it.

SPEAKER_07 29:13

I hate food in bed.

SPEAKER_02 29:14

When I go like to a business trip or uh work something, and I'm in the hotel room, it is a joy.

SPEAKER_07 29:27

You be laying in the bed, like laying.

SPEAKER_02 29:28

Yes, sir.

SPEAKER_07 29:30

Where do I sit at? When we have room service.

SPEAKER_02 29:34

At the table.

SPEAKER_07 29:35

Yep. Yeah. Or the edge of the bed. I do not.

SPEAKER_02 29:38

When he is not with me, I get my food. Yeah, I can't do it. And but only one time I felt really bad because I got wings from the room service, and I got it on the sheets, and it was white sheets. I felt so bad. But who cares? It wasn't mine. But I that's a joy. Like to be there in your robe eating room service in your bed. It feels just comfy. Especially when you drop it's like comfy. It's just comfy.

SPEAKER_07 30:19

And the way you drop food.

SPEAKER_02 30:20

It don't matter because somebody else is gonna come clean up that room and make it crumless. And mm-hmm. I love it. It is a joy. It is a joy.

SPEAKER_07 30:33

Well, we've caught up. So um on the therapist note.

SPEAKER_02 30:39

CC senor.

SPEAKER_07 30:40

I didn't even read those two.

SPEAKER_02 30:41

I did.

SPEAKER_07 30:42

I read one, the first one, to see if it was gonna be good enough to send to you. Yeah. And so I sent it to you, and I was like, oh, you might like this.

SPEAKER_02 30:49

Yeah, I did because I thought of um some of the situations that I've had and been reading some of these. Like this one said, um, they have a list of like people who put in like crazy stories with their therapist. So I guess this would be our believe it, sister. Believe it therapists.

SPEAKER_07 31:12

Oh, believe it therapist, sister.

SPEAKER_02 31:16

Oh, and I did the this morning before I went to work. I did the I did the sister's ride on with Toon Day on a Peloton bike.

SPEAKER_07 31:25

Yeah, it was a good one. I did it last night.

SPEAKER_02 31:27

It was fun. I enjoyed it. Anyway, so this one says, when I finally told her everything that had happened to me, her reaction was, holy shit. It included abandonment issues. Then she ghosted me a couple of sessions later.

SPEAKER_07 31:44

So that means it was too rough for her to handle. Yeah. Or she thought she was weird or something.

SPEAKER_02 31:48

Maybe so. I've had some clients, I said, Well, what happened to your therapist? They go, I don't know. They just called me and said they switched, um, they left the practice.

SPEAKER_07 31:56

Oh, they left the practice. That's what they say and because you're not supposed ethically, you're not even supposed to like say, you know what? Hey, I can't do I'm gonna refer to somebody else.

SPEAKER_02 32:06

No, you're not supposed to do that.

SPEAKER_07 32:08

Yeah, you're just not supposed to do that.

Weekend Plans And Live Events

SPEAKER_02 32:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 32:10

I read the one about the girl that had the fear.

SPEAKER_02 32:14

Oh, and she turned the fans on and then laughing. She should have turned her into the boy.

SPEAKER_07 32:20

I think that's up at the front.

SPEAKER_02 32:21

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_07 32:22

Yeah, that was the first one. I said, Oh, I didn't know.

SPEAKER_02 32:24

She said, she the girl said, um, I had an I had an issue where I would find random things scary, like phobia level scary. So I gave her an example. The fact I was afraid of, what is it, oscillating?

SPEAKER_07 32:40

Oscillating.

SPEAKER_02 32:41

Oscillating fans. It felt like they were looking at me and it freaked me out. Um, had nightmares about it, had no idea why. She called me a liar, then decided to do exposure therapy by turning on oscillating, turning on an oscillating fan right in front of me and making me just sit there. No guidance or anything from her, just giggling because she thought it was funny. And when we when she went to get a coworker to show how funny it was to them, I walked out mid-session and never went back to that clinic. Like that definitely should have been reported.

SPEAKER_07 33:20

Yeah, I would have called.

SPEAKER_02 33:21

I would have I would have to do that. Um reported that.

SPEAKER_07 33:26

Should have been re and she does need to be reprimanded.

SPEAKER_02 33:29

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 33:30

If not uh, you know, make her leave the practice.

Side Eye Of The Week

SPEAKER_02 33:34

Yeah. And and then some of these things that I read, like, like there are things that when my clients are talking to me that they say, and in my mind, I have a question I want to ask, or I think, child, why didn't you like, but you don't say it. You just are supposed, and I and y'all I I wear my expression. I mean, or how I'm feeling on my face. So I I worked really hard on uh hard on that. I should ask my class, how am I doing? Because I do, but I try to be very like mindful of like what my face is doing. Um, but this little this one says when she was 15 or 16, I was going through some really tough things and I was very depressed. I told my therapist that I didn't think anyone could ever love me enough to marry me and have kids with me. And her response, well, some people just aren't meant to get married and have kids. You might be one of them. It was exactly the opposite of what I needed in that moment, and that really stuck with me for a long time, and I stopped going to her after that. What would you say that?

SPEAKER_07 34:41

Like love is blind.

SPEAKER_02 34:42

Yeah, you just let them talk, but you don't say some people, you ain't gonna be made. Yeah. Like that is just crazy. It is just really crazy that she was saying that that one said she had one that fell asleep and she had waited months for that appointment. I saw that lady on TikTok or Instagram that fall asleep.

SPEAKER_07 35:03

That's what I was trying to say. It was like the therapist fell. I said, the therapist fell as well.

SPEAKER_02 35:06

Because it was virtual.

SPEAKER_07 35:07

Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_02 35:09

So the girl, because sometimes you get in there, you know, like they just be talking and talking and talking and talking.

SPEAKER_07 35:17

Well, that's true. That's true. You could be in a in a session, and that client could go on, and you just like, and you know, remember back in COVID, everybody had something in their little Yeti cups that wasn't coffee.

SPEAKER_02 35:31

It wasn't coffee.

SPEAKER_07 35:32

Yeah. And you know, next thing you know, they they quiet, and then the the meetings for an hour long. Next thing you know, about 45 minutes in, they real loud and participating and laughing and giggling. And don't nobody know they're giggling why they're giggling, but they got that yeti cup.

SPEAKER_02 35:47

Because they got that cup. And this one says mine yawn continuously at every session. Um, needless to say, she's a former therapist of mine, and now I have a great one. Sometimes you have to shop around. That's why I go get me some coffee because I think I don't want nobody to think that I think what they're saying is boring. So I try to get me something just to make sure I'm not yawning. But they yawn on me. So you know what I say? I say, Oh, you tired? No, I'm not tired. I said, Oh, okay, I'll just check it.

SPEAKER_07 36:16

I've been yawning on my kids.

SPEAKER_02 36:18

It's okay. I told them it's okay. Like some of them, they've been in school all day, and then they come into this, and but I don't because I think it's rude for me to do it. They can yawn, but I don't do it. I chewed. I chew gum too, just to kind of keep me there. So this one said, now I haven't done um the office does do group counseling. I haven't done that. I did have a where they asked that I want a couple to do couples therapy, but my cup is full, so I can't take a couple to put in this cup because I'm already fool. Yeah. But this one says, once in a group setting, a therapist said I was weird looking. That's terrible to tell somebody they're weird looking.

Gratitude And Growth

SPEAKER_07 37:07

But the thing about it, I don't, I it's none of this is hard to believe. No, because every profession has outliers. You know, and those are the people who do not deserve to be in the profession, be it that they are just weird themselves or they don't really care about what the profession is for. Like, you know, having a teacher that don't like kids.

SPEAKER_03 37:31

You know, it's a lot.

SPEAKER_07 37:32

Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Somebody like that. Or you just don't need to be in the profession. So yeah.

SPEAKER_03 37:39

Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_07 37:42

Anything else? You want to end with that? You good?

SPEAKER_02 37:46

No, I'll give this last one. Okay. Um, this one says, I have very low self-confidence, and the therapist insisted that I needed to get a man in my life. So men bring confidence now.

SPEAKER_07 38:04

Mm-hmm. Ciao, good. The right man will.

SPEAKER_02 38:08

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_07 38:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 38:11

Well, not at all.

SPEAKER_07 38:16

Be careful who y'all getting for therapists. Yeah. Shop around.

SPEAKER_02 38:20

Shop around, shop around. And I don't take it personally. I've had a couple that didn't come back to me. I don't know why. Um You know why. Well, I know one why, but the others I don't know why.

SPEAKER_07 38:33

I mean, I'm sure it's probably something. Like you have to look, because if you're observant enough, you probably could say, let's say if it's a kid and you see the parents body language. What did the reason for the kid coming? Now the parents are afraid that, oh, he wants to be there. Now he's gonna tell our secrets. We're not gonna seem as per perfect as we supposed to be. So you kind of gotta look and listen.

SPEAKER_04 38:59

Yeah.

Prom Chaperone And Closing CTA

SPEAKER_07 38:59

Yeah. Um I read something in one of my classes where it was saying the more observant you are, the better understanding you will have when it comes to why patients are leaving. Which will also help you to understand that the majority of the time it's not you. It's that they're either not willing to handle their own truth at the moment, or the person that's supporting them is not ready to handle their truth.

SPEAKER_03 39:29

Perhaps.

SPEAKER_07 39:30

So you have to, you know, be on that. Are you ready to give a spoiler or two away from married at first sight or love is blind?

SPEAKER_02 39:40

Oh yes. Is a love blind?

SPEAKER_07 39:43

Did you see? Okay, with spoiler alert, did you see if y'all haven't seen, because we need to come on Wednesday?

SPEAKER_02 39:51

The marriage When does the uh reunion come on? Uh maybe next week. What did they say?

SPEAKER_07 39:55

Maybe next Wednesday. But um, okay, so the one that everybody's saying looks like uh Cabbage Patch Kid.

SPEAKER_02 40:01

What's his name? I'm gonna look it up. You keep going.

SPEAKER_07 40:04

Uh Dante. Something. Baby Doctor.

SPEAKER_02 40:07

Devante Devante?

SPEAKER_07 40:08

Devante. Because she called him DeVo.

SPEAKER_02 40:10

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 40:11

She said his name was Devo. That's what his face. D.Va. The one that said he he never dated a woman of color. And he mixed. But I guess it just depends on what side of the side track.

SPEAKER_02 40:22

Yeah, he had his just his mom.

SPEAKER_07 40:25

Yeah, you know. And you know how sometimes they people get scorned and they tell you every bad thing about that person. And so then they grew up not liking that person or what they stand for. But he said never date a person of color. And so it was obvious that he wasn't into the girl that he was dating. But remember, he was the one talking about the prenup, right? And so people posted, they said, this Joker talking about a prenup, and he just hopped in a Honda Civic.

SPEAKER_02 40:52

Where that's our Honda Civic.

SPEAKER_07 40:54

You weren't paying attention. Remember when he left the apartment? That's what he the car he got in and drove away.

SPEAKER_02 41:00

Uh-uh, I didn't pay attention.

SPEAKER_07 41:02

When he left the apartment. He got in a Honda Civic. So what yeah, well, not Honda Accord or Honda Civic, but it still they talk about freedom. Like you had maybe. Maybe he's not into the cars. Yes. But even his fits and his little half, he didn't have a good blend.

SPEAKER_02 41:22

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_07 41:23

You know?

SPEAKER_02 41:24

So. Uh huh. And um.

SPEAKER_07 41:29

The professor.

SPEAKER_02 41:31

No.

SPEAKER_07 41:32

He talked like this every time.

SPEAKER_06 41:34

Every time you said something, he was like, you know, really, I really think you're something special.

SPEAKER_02 41:39

Well, he had to, because I think he was trying to hold up those locks. They're so long and beautiful. Yeah, his locks are so long and beautiful.

SPEAKER_06 41:49

Every time he talked, he was like.

SPEAKER_02 41:50

He had to keep up. But let me tell y'all who got who got themselves told. Who got told? The liar. Oh, liar. Alex. Soccer. Liar. Yeah. I was so proud of that girl talking about himself. And he's still sitting there, him and his little raggedy friends. They probably a whole team of liars.

SPEAKER_07 42:09

You see.

SPEAKER_02 42:10

Trying to act like he didn't lie about anything.

SPEAKER_07 42:12

You saw the dad's face before she even said that. So the dad knew she was going to say that. So he's sitting there smiling the whole time.

SPEAKER_02 42:19

You didn't get to see her dad grill him.

SPEAKER_07 42:22

No, that's what I told you. Yeah, but I just saw in the audience, like when she was just talking, before even nobody knew that she wasn't going to choose him, her dad was smiling, like, okay. And then when it got closer, the camera panned to him, and it was like, it's finna get sick. Because mom was still like, what's about to happen?

SPEAKER_02 42:38

Mm-hmm. Oh, probably maybe she and her dad just talked smoke. And not her mom. Without her mom.

SPEAKER_07 42:43

Yep. And then he let it go, and dad was just smiling. That's why dad got up real quick to walk her because he knew, like, it was like, okay, so I'm gonna I'm gonna leave Pops and then you walk me. Cause mom was still sitting there, like, you know. Mm-hmm. What what what am I doing here? And left him up there. He all awkward.

SPEAKER_02 43:03

And you know what also is funny? That little cabbage patch Devante or Devo. Um, to your mama named you Devontae. And you got the nerve to act like you don't know.

SPEAKER_07 43:15

That's why he changed it to Devo.

unknown 43:17

Oh my God.

SPEAKER_07 43:18

You remember that group called Devo?

SPEAKER_02 43:20

No.

SPEAKER_07 43:20

Look up Devo.

SPEAKER_02 43:21

It's a white.

SPEAKER_07 43:22

Look up, look up Devo. If I'm not mistaken, it's the group that had the hats on. You blinded me with science. And then they saying whip it too. Isn't that Devo? They had those little red like it? Yeah, into shape. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_02 43:40

Uh-huh. That is who. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 43:42

Yeah. So Devo. So he changed it to something that he likes. That's more on his side.

SPEAKER_03 43:49

Oh no, I lost my space.

SPEAKER_07 43:51

Mama called him Devontae, boy. She was into she would probably got him off of Jodic.

SPEAKER_01 43:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 43:58

Yeah. She got him off. Off with Jodie's. He's like, Jodice? Well, you know, Joe to see?

SPEAKER_02 44:04

Like, um, and supposedly he's supposed to be engaged with a baby on the way, and that is what's going to be the surprise on the reunion.

SPEAKER_07 44:17

Hmm. So y'all better tune in. And fellas, don't act like y'all ain't watching. I told myself I wasn't gonna watch because you know, a lot of times they don't never have us looking good and they don't put us in a good light.

SPEAKER_02 44:31

Um Well, I'm not watching it anymore because of that thing you sent me.

SPEAKER_07 44:35

Oh, yeah. Yeah, do your research. What they say is based off, like it's it's uh supported heavily.

SPEAKER_02 44:42

Well, and on top of it, it hasn't been very diverse in regards to the black couples for the last few seasons.

SPEAKER_07 44:50

That's because of the support structure. The the how it's how it's coming down from top down.

SPEAKER_02 44:55

Yeah, and since somebody, wherever that thing that you sent me from, I think it was a TikTok thing. I think this was my last season of Love is Blind.

SPEAKER_07 45:05

Yeah. I just have to stick with my Love on the Spectrum. Yep. And what's the other one you like?

SPEAKER_02 45:14

Uh I used to watch what's her name.

SPEAKER_07 45:16

Marriage Marriage at First Sight.

SPEAKER_02 45:18

Married at First Sight. I haven't watched that in so long. I feel like the last one I watched was the one, the one that I really watched from beginning to end was New Orleans. Because that was really one of the better ones.

SPEAKER_07 45:31

That's the one with the people from Marietta. Isn't that where they were from? Remember the the boy? Oh, yeah, Woody. Woody, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 45:38

Yeah, I really enjoyed that because it seems so genuine.

SPEAKER_07 45:43

Um, Woody, they're still married and that one guy and that girl, I didn't think they was gonna be together.

SPEAKER_02 45:49

Who?

SPEAKER_07 45:49

The one, the big, the big guy that he was like not really being into the girl, and they wind up getting married. They divorced. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_02 45:57

They were they were um good friends with Woody and his wife, but they're not together anymore.

SPEAKER_07 46:01

Yeah, okay.

SPEAKER_02 46:02

They didn't make it.

SPEAKER_07 46:03

And then what's the other show you liked? I don't know. With uh Michelle Buteau. She hosted the Cubes or something like that. You know, that cube talk, she, you know, she just you just hear her voice.

SPEAKER_02 46:16

Oh, oh, that's um dang, but that's not a dating show.

SPEAKER_07 46:20

Oh, isn't that? Oh.

SPEAKER_02 46:22

It's just trying to make it to the end.

SPEAKER_07 46:23

It's where uh Oh, where they be friends, they gotta pretend to be something else.

SPEAKER_02 46:28

Yeah, pretend to be something that they're not, and it's like a circle. Circle, the circle, yeah. Yeah, the circle. But that's not a dating show. Okay. It's just uh, what's the namey? Um, what else was I gonna say from I think that was the only thing. It was something I said I was gonna say on here about love is blind, but now I can't remember.

SPEAKER_07 46:54

They say that one was um guy, he's still with the with the girl, the one who was uh the what's the name guy?

SPEAKER_02 47:04

Connor. Connor is like uh, right?

SPEAKER_07 47:08

Is that the sports guy?

SPEAKER_02 47:10

Uh huh. He was the one where the girl was kind of said she needed to talk to that guy one last time. Remember the guy that won't say the girl didn't exercise, so he didn't want her.

SPEAKER_07 47:20

That was definitely the one, okay.

SPEAKER_02 47:22

Connor is the one that he was.

SPEAKER_07 47:24

The other one.

SPEAKER_02 47:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 47:25

That was that was dating the well, who's supposed to be engaged to the girl who said, Yeah, I need closure.

SPEAKER_02 47:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 47:32

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 47:32

And he's just like whether people would describe him as a golden retriever. Have you heard me?

SPEAKER_07 47:38

Yeah, just loyal. Um loyal to a default. Yeah, yep. Loyal to a default. Yep. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 47:45

Yep. That that's how I would describe him. There's some little lady out there for him.

SPEAKER_07 47:51

Yeah. Some for everybody. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 47:55

Everybody.

SPEAKER_07 47:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 47:58

600 pounds of life, they have people. They do. They do have somebody, child.

SPEAKER_07 48:03

You haven't them pretty line for them, too. No, she she didn't eat it. She didn't eat three pizzas. I ate them.

SPEAKER_02 48:11

Oh. They be like, You did not eat those pizzas.

SPEAKER_07 48:14

Come on now. Well, why don't you gain a weight and she gained all weight?

SPEAKER_02 48:17

And she didn't gain all the weight.

SPEAKER_07 48:19

Yeah. Child. But it's always somebody for a moment. Wrong. Crackheads, they find somebody. Remember that one lady? Bom, boom, boom. Remember that lady she did that part?

SPEAKER_02 48:31

Oh, she be, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 48:32

She just passed away. At the beginning of the uh What she did, overdose don't crack? No, I think she was just real sick, cracked out. But she died. Yeah. Bom, bum, bum.

SPEAKER_06 48:45

Bon, bum. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 48:47

It's somebody for somebody for everybody. But um, yeah. Would you ever do love is blind? Like if you were uh marriage, marriage age, yeah, I could do it. Would you do love is blind?

SPEAKER_07 49:00

I could do it because I think I'm a good judgment of character and I know that I'm a great catch. And so if it messes up, it mess, it's gonna mess up on their part. Oh I'm just saying, in the in a situation like that, if you are somebody that's worthy, and if I chose you and and we clicked and all that stuff, yeah, I think I could.

SPEAKER_02 49:28

But what if they imagined you to like they weren't attracted?

SPEAKER_07 49:31

They weren't?

SPEAKER_02 49:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 49:33

Yeah, but I'm saying that that's their fault. Oh, yeah, that's it. That's messed up on their part. You see what I'm saying? But for me, if it's like, you know, um because the attraction comes in different ways.

SPEAKER_01 49:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 49:47

You know what I'm saying? Um I'm I want somebody like you got you gotta have certain qualities about yourself. Um, you know, you don't necessarily have to be a former athlete, but you know, somebody that does care about the health, that maintains the health and stuff like that. Um, but I think I could do it. But at the same time, I'm also um a sucker for love, too, where you gotta go through the phases. Like, I like the phases of love. I like the courtship, I like the you know, getting to the point where, oh, I think I'm really far. Like, I don't think it's gonna happen that fast. Like it doesn't love is blind. Right. I don't think it will happen that fast for me because I'm so cautious because I know I want to make sure. Well, child, it did it happen that love is blind fast. No, it didn't happen, love is blind fast. It happened fast, but not love is blind fast.

SPEAKER_02 50:51

But if you were in a in a a place where all you had was time to just be and talk to a specific person, it could because you're taking out all the outside elements.

SPEAKER_07 51:03

It's not just conversation. I need to see you amongst people. I need to see how you act if somebody cuts you off.

SPEAKER_02 51:08

Well, then you can't do love's blind.

SPEAKER_07 51:10

But I'm saying, um, that's what I was saying. I say I'm also a hopeless romantic, too, where it comes to the point where it may not be.

SPEAKER_02 51:18

That negates everything that you said at the beginning. You can do love.

SPEAKER_07 51:21

I could do it. Yeah, I could do it. A lot of these people, they did it, and then they was like, I don't know, maybe not yet.

SPEAKER_02 51:29

There are some couples that are still together from Love's Blind.

SPEAKER_07 51:31

There are. There are. Now, if if you know, I go on there and be all of a sudden be like, oh my God, this is amazing. Mm-hmm. This girl named Lucretia is amazing.

SPEAKER_02 51:42

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_07 51:43

You know? If she's serious, then I'm serious. Then we can make it.

SPEAKER_02 51:47

Yeah. The one thing about it though, to I think anybody going on there, I've never really seen any uh unattractive people on there.

SPEAKER_07 51:58

But they're not gonna have unattractive people.

SPEAKER_02 52:00

That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_07 52:00

Because it's on television. So you know you're gonna have some, but still somebody's attractive one person's attraction may not be your attraction.

SPEAKER_03 52:08

That's true.

SPEAKER_07 52:08

Just like the boy said, and you never date no woman of color. So all those attractive, you know, black women, none of them were attracted to him.

SPEAKER_02 52:17

Attractive to attractive to him, he could tell you. See what I'm saying? So But I think she kind of fooled them with her voice.

SPEAKER_07 52:23

Yeah. Yeah. She had one of those voices. Yeah, you know, that was. But you didn't really know what it was. But no, I could do it. Could you do it?

SPEAKER_02 52:30

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 52:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 52:32

I'm up for trying anything.

SPEAKER_07 52:33

Yeah, and that's what I was saying. I I'll try it.

SPEAKER_02 52:35

Yeah. You know, and so I mean, if you don't find anybody, you don't. Now, I I would not be like those people who we live in a world of people who just want to be on TV. And so they're settling or or are or what you're doing.

SPEAKER_07 52:52

Yeah, I'm not doing it.

SPEAKER_02 52:53

Dragging someone alone because there are people that are there for real because they are looking for a partner, and that's just not fair to do. I just I don't know. And I know they can't, I think in some ways they probably do know from some of those people's responses, and they like that because that's where the drama comes from. But I personally feel like um if you feel that like they should be dropped from the selection, yeah, um, so that you can truly get people in there that really are looking for their um their wife or participants.

SPEAKER_07 53:29

For that show to hold the drama even more, you should have it within the contract that your payment would be withheld if you do not make it to the altar to reveal what your plans are.

SPEAKER_02 53:40

Yeah, that is true. Or those people that be trying to leave out early.

SPEAKER_07 53:43

You got to reveal your plans. Because, like, you know, those two people didn't even go.

SPEAKER_02 53:47

Yeah, yeah, two couples.

SPEAKER_07 53:48

Yeah, they didn't even go, and so it was like, wait a minute, we the whole point is do you decide up there? Yeah. Yes or no. You know what I mean? So, um, but it's a lot of people that just want to be on TV, and so you know, it's kind of like like uh the challenge when all of a sudden what they call vacationers.

SPEAKER_04 54:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 54:10

They get there, get their check, and then they bounce. That first uh elimination, they either flop on purpose, yeah, or they'll say, something tragic came up, I have to leave.

SPEAKER_02 54:22

You know, so Oh, do you want to share what you're gonna have going this weekend? Oh, as we um get ready to wrap up.

SPEAKER_07 54:29

Well, this weekend, um, so the episode will be out Sunday morning when y'all wake up. So that Sunday, uh, what is this? March the 8th. I will be in Alphoretta at I forgot the name of the comedy club. So comedy club in Alpharetta for challenge mania. And I'll be there with um a few other challenge um people.

SPEAKER_03 54:57

Comedy club in Alpharetta, Georgia.

SPEAKER_07 54:59

I think it's like six of us.

SPEAKER_02 55:03

Um in Alpharetta, Georgia.

SPEAKER_07 55:05

I went to this, we I went there last year with with some of the people. And so it's just like a meet and greet. And then but Saturday I have to do another podcast with uh Scott and Derek for uh Chalice Mania Podcast. Uh I'm kind of excited to go to this podcast studio. It's uh um Oh, so you can get some ideas. Yeah, uh-huh. And and check out their mics and all that different stuff and and look at their back drops and just get some inspo. But uh yeah, I'll be doing that this weekend.

SPEAKER_02 55:34

Helium Comedy Club.

SPEAKER_07 55:35

Helium Comedy Club, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 55:36

At 12 p.m.

SPEAKER_07 55:38

Yeah, 12. So I gotta be there by 11 something. You gotta go. I'll be there. Um and then uh it's it's cool. It it normally lasts so 12 to 1, and then we the meet and greet probably be about from 1 and to 2.

SPEAKER_02 55:56

It seems so much longer than that.

SPEAKER_07 55:58

It won't be on this one because we don't have a big crowd.

SPEAKER_02 56:00

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_07 56:01

Um, we don't have a big uh panel of guests.

SPEAKER_03 56:05

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 56:05

And I don't know if the set the tickets have jumped like they want to. Okay, he's even talking about not even coming back to Atlanta until later, so because Atlanta has not been a good market.

SPEAKER_03 56:14

Oh, okay. Okay.

SPEAKER_07 56:16

So, you know, maybe we don't fight enough in Atlanta. If it was baddies, oh, they'll be jam-packed. You know.

SPEAKER_03 56:23

Maybe so.

SPEAKER_07 56:24

But um, I don't know. But yeah, that's what's going on Sunday.

SPEAKER_03 56:28

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_07 56:28

Um, so I guess that's my uh what I'm looking forward to. Uh what are you looking forward to?

SPEAKER_03 56:35

Hmm. What am I looking forward to?

SPEAKER_02 56:43

Oh I know I always say this too. I'm gonna share two things.

SPEAKER_04 56:50

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 56:51

Um I am looking forward to on Sunday sleeping in a bit.

SPEAKER_04 56:58

Alright.

SPEAKER_02 56:59

Um the other thing I am looking forward to is Oh, a dinner. We're going to do dinner tomorrow.

SPEAKER_07 57:13

So trying to decide what we want.

SPEAKER_02 57:15

Yeah, we did a little we did a we did a date night last year. Well was it? Oh you want to go to the fancy Argentine? Was it Argentinian?

SPEAKER_07 57:30

Yeah, I want to say it was Argentinian. Well, Mexican.

SPEAKER_02 57:34

What was it called?

SPEAKER_07 57:36

Uh El Valle. How do you pronounce it? L E L V A L L E. How do you say valle?

SPEAKER_02 57:48

Valier.

SPEAKER_07 57:49

For you know, when you speak in Spanish.

SPEAKER_02 57:51

The L.

SPEAKER_07 57:52

How does the L the L's go?

SPEAKER_02 57:54

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 57:55

Yeah, put this on El Vela. El Velia.

SPEAKER_02 57:58

El Vela. We went there. It's in Midtown right down from Fox Theater. Uh-huh. Um, very good. Well, my okay, let me say. The appetizer is very good. Um we had we had uh fried rice cake with uh like grit cake.

SPEAKER_07 58:20

Grit cake.

SPEAKER_02 58:20

But it was like a it's like that uh um dang it, what do they call it? It's like a tuna thing.

SPEAKER_07 58:26

Tuna tartare?

SPEAKER_02 58:27

No, it's like tuna, but it's a it's a sushi thing at a sushi restaurant. But it's like crispy, crispy crispy rice. Crispy crispy tuna rice or something like that it's called. But it was like that. Oh it was so uh good. And it was raw tuna, but it was just so seasoned well.

SPEAKER_07 58:48

Halibut ceviche.

SPEAKER_02 58:50

And halibut ceviche.

SPEAKER_07 58:52

That was good. Very good. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 58:56

That was very good.

SPEAKER_07 58:57

And what was your dinner? Oh, mine was good. It was a breaded chicken, like uh it was it was like thin chicken slice, rolled up in uh mushroom was rolled up in the middle, and then it was like panko fried, sort of. Yeah, it was like a sitting on a bed of like a a mushroom sauce. It was very good.

SPEAKER_02 59:25

Mine was okay. It was like a t was a pork tenderloin. I don't know why I got that. I don't know.

SPEAKER_07 59:29

Cause you be asking people, what is your favorite thing? And I just I just order what I know I like to eat.

SPEAKER_02 59:35

Yeah. I didn't really I mean it wasn't bad, but it wasn't like where I would say I would order it again. Now they did have that elote corn cake.

SPEAKER_07 59:45

Oh, yeah, that was very good.

SPEAKER_02 59:47

Woo!

SPEAKER_07 59:48

That was very good.

SPEAKER_02 59:49

The elote corn pudding.

SPEAKER_07 59:52

Yeah, it was amazing. That was the size.

SPEAKER_02 59:54

Yeah. Um, I will say, like, if the like the tuna fried grit tuna cake, um, they're to me raw things like the tuna and the ceviche. So fresh.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:09

Like I think next time that's just probably what I would get, and a salad and be done with it. They're they're margaritas, very fresh, not like cow. I feel like when we go to our little Mexican place, which we lose.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:22

Like it's pre-made around the corner.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:24

It's very sweet, and you could tell it's got a lot. But this one was like fresh, good, very good. So, and then we did um the little wine tasting thing of wines from wine flights from Mexico.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:37

All of their wines in-house are from Mexico.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:41

So they're Mexican wines that you won't find just anywhere else in the world.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:44

And it was true. We double checked because we were like, they just stay in that. But when we looked up the names of them, yeah, you can't get them everywhere.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:50

Um but they were very good though.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:52

Very, very, very, very good. So, anywho, that was our date night last Saturday. And I don't know where we're gonna do this Saturday.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:59

Yeah, I don't know if we're gonna keep it up or we're gonna break it down a little bit. How are we gonna do it? If we break it down, are we gonna do some good old burgers somewhere?

SPEAKER_02 1:01:08

Ooh, that might be cool.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:09

Are we gonna do 1885? We're gonna do 1885. South City because um but South City is up.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:18

I don't wanna do South City.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:20

Um, we're gonna do um Tapas Small Place. Or you wanna do a uh a um see if they got a dinner music place?

SPEAKER_02 1:01:32

Oh, with some live music?

SPEAKER_07 1:01:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:34

Oh, that'd be cool.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:35

Or wanna go to a place on the south side where we be at. They got some little uh south side different kind of um jazz places and stuff like that. It's two of them I think I know of.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:45

Yeah, I don't know. So anywho, we'll figure it out. Or do we want to go to where we went for Mr. Adams?

SPEAKER_07 1:01:51

Uh Harold's ice chicken and ice bar. Yeah. Get some good old fried chicken wings.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:58

And they got some good old music playing over there.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:01

Every now and then they have live music too.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:03

Yeah, maybe we'll see that. If Harold's got something.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:05

We'll check them out and see. Yeah. But it is one place that does have live. I think I sent it to you. It has live music. It's actually, I want to say, is that place that they wanted to have Daisy's thing at?

SPEAKER_02 1:02:15

Oh, they do. I seen that.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:17

And people say it's real nice. They say the vibe is great.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:19

Oh, maybe that's it.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:20

So, yeah, just to be out there vibing for a little bit.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:23

Vibing.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:24

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:25

Um, but we'll figure it out. What's your side eye of the week?

SPEAKER_02 1:02:30

Y'all don't tell him because he in here. My child. That's my side eye. Because he thinks he pays bills up in this house. And guess what? He don't pay none. He won't make decisions. He won't make decisions.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:53

They was uh T I and 50 cents.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:56

He won't make some decisions and go and and gonna put it on the family group chat about the decision.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:03

Beefing like T I 50 Cent.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:04

But let me tell you something. As as as Mama Joyce said, oh no, no, no, no, no, not Mama Joyce. Uh what's the name, mother in law?

SPEAKER_07 1:03:12

Mother Samuels. Mama Samuels.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:13

Mama Samuel said, I set that heifer straight.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:16

What was that? Real housewife Petonia.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:18

Yeah, I set that heifer straight. Show did. Got him all the way together.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:25

Shawanda's gonna listen to this, gonna die laughing.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:29

I did. I set that heifer straight. Listen, you don't pay not one bill up in here. So what what we need to happen, guess what? It needs to and gonna happen.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:42

It gon' happen.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:43

Period poo.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:44

It didn't happen today, though.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:45

Pear-poo.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:46

It didn't happen today.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:47

I know. But it won't make you like, it's won't make you act crazy.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:52

Well, you know, I can't say nothing. I ain't trying to get defects called on me.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:56

Well, he's too grown for defects. So I guess he called the police on you.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:59

I don't know. What's the people that do elderly abuse?

SPEAKER_02 1:04:02

Nobody.

SPEAKER_07 1:04:03

When he's too too young, now he's too old.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:06

Uh-uh. Ain't no such thing.

SPEAKER_07 1:04:07

I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:08

Ain't no such thing. Ain't no such thing. That's my side eye.

SPEAKER_07 1:04:12

Yeah. My side out of the week is with the uh school. School system didn't tell me that my um my driving privileges was up until I had to try to get a field. Yeah, try to get a field trip. I was supposed to drive the field trip, and they didn't tell me my driving privilege was up. No, just leave it alone for the case. I was so mad, man. I said, man, God almighty. I was supposed to drive them children. And uh, well, I said, oh well, I stayed at the school and helped these kids get this math work right, and we got it right. So, it's what it is. Hey, I'm telling you, and what you tell them? Okay. All that stuff I was doing for y'all. Okay, now with no, okay now. All that extra, when I was coaching, I was doing everything. Extra hours, because it's just in me. Because it needs to be done.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:03

But it don't have anything to do with your school.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:06

And what and then why But I wonder, I I wonder. Because I did ask, I said, hey, nobody asked me to, you know, it's some trips that I know I could have been driving.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:16

Oh.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:16

And ain't nobody said nothing. I bet they said Harry ain't got no uh, he don't have the pr the cr the uh credentials to be driving right now. Cause he missed, you know, I missed, I missed those drives. And so they say he's not on our active list. I know they do, because I'm telling you, it's a lot of trips that's been going on.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:35

But that's not their fault that you didn't do your rides.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:37

No, but I'm saying so I know they knew, but nobody told me.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:41

Oh.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:42

Well, you nobody told me nothing.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:43

Oh, okay. Well, oh, because you thought it was at till the end of the year.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:46

Yeah, because that's how it used to be.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:47

Maybe they figured you knew.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:48

That's how that's how it used to be.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:50

Maybe they figured you knew.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:51

Hey.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:52

They probably this is probably what they said. Well, he said he wanted to stop coaching and he wanted to stop, so maybe he's really just. Taking a lot of things off his plate.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:02

Not this, no. These folks won't, as much as they want to drain you dry. They want to juice you like that new, what's the new juicer called? Nama? Nama juicer? Something like that.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:14

Okay, well.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:15

A new one that I want.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:17

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:17

Yeah. But that's my side eye. All right, what are you looking forward to?

SPEAKER_03 1:06:21

Alright, we already did that.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:23

No, we did. Grateful. Oh, we did at the beginning, though, I guess. We did what we're looking forward to. That's what we did?

SPEAKER_02 1:06:29

Yeah, because that's how I look forward to sleeping on the cellar.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:31

Okay, so so I guess it's grateful for. So I guess grateful is the last one. Because we always do what are you looking forward to? What are you grateful for inside eye? That's what we always do at the end. So tell me what three would which one of the three do we need to do right now then? Grateful. Okay, we'll go ahead and do it.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:47

Oh Lord geez.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:50

I am grateful for my bed.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:02

That's it. All right. Um, I'm grateful for the opportunities that come my way. Um, the ones that I'm not um thinking about. That God always finds a way to say, hey, I got something else for you to do, young man.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:18

Leave that alone.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:19

It's uh, you know, it's my OCD.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:22

Selective OCD.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:23

Well, it is. I selected you. Was I wrong in that? I guess I was. Don't worry. I got it. I always buy extended warranties.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:33

Right. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:35

Um, but yeah. I'm grateful for opportunities that come my way. And um I got a feeling I got some more opportunities coming. I got an interview on Monday for an internship. So hopefully that goes well because it's only I'm not getting any calls, and I gotta have an internship placed by the summer.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:56

Okay. Well, you got this, buddy.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:58

Yep. I'm gonna normally kill the interview. I just hope they don't say, oh, well, you know what? Our hours don't work.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:04

Uh-oh. That don't sound like being.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:06

Oh, that's right.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:07

You talk about it. You told me you don't even do that.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:10

I try not to.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:12

Worst case scenario.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:13

I know, it's just stuff I just like stuff I'm discovering. It's like, dang, the hours, you know, not thinking.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:18

What up?

SPEAKER_07 1:08:22

Ciao. I hope you listen to yourself.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:26

Zip it like it, put it in your pocket.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:28

Zip it like you put it in your pocket.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:30

Zip it, lock it, put it in your pocket. That's what I said. Uh duh.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:36

Well, ladies and gentlemen, I'm gonna get this old lady in her bed. Cause I'm about to go bananas. And I ain't got time to be dealing with no bananas.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:47

So I ain't got time.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:49

Be quiet. All right. So um next week, we uh we go to the prom. We'll tell you about, well, no, we won't tell you about that until the week after because the prom is on Saturday. So we have to chaperone the prom. But we'll talk to you about it.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:08

We well, I don't have to. I'm choosing to. She has to. She has to. She has to. Mine is a choice. I could say.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:16

All of the stuff I be supporting.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:18

My name is Well, you know what?

SPEAKER_07 1:09:21

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SPEAKER_02 1:09:44

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SPEAKER_02 1:10:01

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SPEAKER_07 1:10:03

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SPEAKER_02 1:10:10

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SPEAKER_07 1:10:11

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SPEAKER_02 1:10:15

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