What Happens To Kids When We Remove Every Hard Thing

Episode 40 starts with our usual check-in, but it quickly turns into one of those conversations that sticks with you. We’re talking about heavy weeks, supporting people through grief, and how easy it is to carry everyone else’s emotions home with you. Then we pivot into a story we can’t stop thinking about: Shay Taylor Allen worked as a janitor at Yale New Haven Hospital for 10 years and later returned to that same hospital as a doctor after matching into anesthesiology. It’s a feel-good reminder to respect every role, stay consistent, and never assume you know someone’s future. 

From there, we go deeper into parenting advice and “therapy time” reflections, especially the idea that the hardest part of parenting isn’t the exhaustion. It’s realizing you can’t control how your child experiences the world, only how you show up in it. We break down lawnmower parenting, why overprotecting can block resilience, and how explaining the “why” builds trust more than “because I said so” ever will. If you care about raising confident kids, healthy communication, and real emotional growth, this part is for you. 

Of course, we keep it Refreshingly Normal with a word game, side-eye moments, and our “Believe It” stories, including a wild prostate dinner mix-up and the unbelievable cocaine hippos linked to Pablo Escobar’s legacy in Colombia. We wrap with gratitude, what we’re looking forward to, and what we want from you next. Subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review, then tell us what you want us to talk about next.

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Transcript

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.

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I knew you was gonna say that. All right, all right, all right.

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Said it before.

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Okay, don't you ever say another song before? Don't you ever say um any he or don't ever say uh song. It don't matter.

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That's who I am.

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Okay, no, they ain't gonna wanna hear that. You done say it. Put your foot in your mouth now. Welcome back, everyone. Thank you for tuning in to the Refreshingly Normal podcast. I am Kefla.

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I am Koree.

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And we are the dynamic duo known as the Hares.

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Sure are.

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That's right. It's a there's a couple of them. You got my older brother and his brother. It's a lot of hairs.

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Child, he can go out forever. It's a million dollars.

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I'm talking about, I'm talking about within my family.

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Oh.

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Yes. And then you got my younger brother and his wife. They're known as the Hares.

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And that's it.

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And then that's it.

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And your dad and your mother.

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Oh, and my mom and my dad are known as the Hares.

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Yeah.

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And of course my uncle and them, but you know, hey, we're talking about the immediates. And it really ain't that many. Well, yeah. It is. I mean, no, I tell you that. My cousin John. Yes. Yes. And then Nod and his cousin. Okay, yes, child. So uh yeah. That was my crazy.

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You know what? Rabbits.

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That's right. We're all old. Hey, what do rabbits do?

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That's what I know.

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They multiply.

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They do.

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That's right. Better be glad we didn't multiply.

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I ain't got to worry about that.

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Yes, you did. I was a one-hit acquitter.

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Yeah. That's why I was a one and acquitter.

A Heavy Week In Therapy Work

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So the one and only town, baby. Yeah, one and only town. Yeah, baby. Two out of two. They guys. Right there, baby. Yeah. All right. So um today's a nice day outside. Beautiful. Started off with uh you waking up and getting ready to go to uh therapies.

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Yep, I went to therapies this morning. Um, and uh this week has been a full, full, full clients got all showed up.

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Yeah, got back on schedule.

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I think well, I did have um um just one that canceled this week. But other than that, they were all present and accounted for.

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Here, here.

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And um, so busy week with them. Um, and this was probably, I will say. Okay, say with my eyes the most challenging week as a therapist this week.

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Yeah, I can see it.

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Yeah, it was. Yeah, this week was wearing it, and I think it's because it was layered with work.

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So with the layer with the luteal phase.

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Isn't that the layer?

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That might be it too. Yep, yep. It was just so it was layered with that, and then my therapy. Oh, my people just and then at work we had um, I had some crisis things this week. Maybe week um some deaths, and then someone struggling with death, and so just being all the things to support people going through hard, hard things. That's right. So, anyhow, that was a full week of doing that. Um, and then spent the week with my team. Four of us are going to present at a conference in Savannah this summer, and so we spent the week working on our presentation. So we think we well that's the 30th through the second, yeah. Yeah, um, so we be we will be presenting at this. I want to say it's a school climate conference for the state of Georgia or just an area? Hmm, that's a good question. Um, not sure. But it's the school climate conference. We went last year. Um, and so this year we were gonna go anyways, but we um took it up a notch and we will be presenters.

SPEAKER_07 4:51

Well, so you were attendees and now you are presenters.

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Yeah. And you know what? I just imagine this, just imagine a goal for me. I really want to be like a keynote speaker at a conference. Okay, well. I think I'll do well with that. We'll do it. But I probably need to get a little bit more accolades um for somebody to desire to have me as no, you just gotta have the right person in charge that believes in you and put you forward.

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Because there's a lot of people that are that are keynote speakers that we have seen.

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Yeah.

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And you're like, because accolades don't mean Jack.

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Yeah.

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Anybody can get an accolade. Like you can give yourself, oh, they won this and they are this, they have been nominated. Like, okay, and that pertains to me how. Yeah. And then they get up in front of somebody, and a lot of times all keynote speakers do at conferences are selling books.

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Yeah. I don't have a book to sell. Right. But my my keynote would be about philosophy. Yeah, as the philosophy. And I'm not a person who toots their own horn.

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So I do that, baby.

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Oh.

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Two now.

Getting Banned From Hotels

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Oh my gosh. So I don't know. Anywho, I'm just that's something I would love to be able to have the opportunity to do. But um, and so that I spent spending the week doing that. So this week was a heavy emotional week. Um, even though it wasn't I'm not, I don't have the hard things that the people that I dealt with, but just be empathizing with them. Because as a therapist, you don't turn off your emotions and that sort of thing. So that to me made it a heavy week. So, but other than that, I'm alive and well. There you go. I made it through, and so um, yeah, I made it through, but I will tell you, this was a busy week. And something I learned this week. What you learned that you can be banned. You can get banned from specific hotels and places. So y'all act right when you in places, yeah.

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Uh like the no fly, what's it called? No fly list.

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You could be on a no-stay list, honey. I ain't know that.

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Not us, guys.

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Not us.

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Not us. Yeah.

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But child, that was a part of my week that had me running crazy. People on milk folks. Goodness gracious. I didn't even know that was a thing. And I'm talking about like it could be Hilton, and you banned uh uh out of all the Hilton's in the United States of America.

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I could, but but the thing is, I can understand a Hilton, you know, uh W.

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Yeah.

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The one hotel, uh Intercontinental, but Motel Six.

Sinus Drama Dentist Visits And Gym Plans

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How you get how you get they supposed to leave light on for you. How you get banned from the Motel Six in all of the United States of America? Hey, it's possible. They didn't everybody can get. Listen, it's possible y'all behave yourselves out there so you don't limit where you can stay. Okay. That was my week. How about your week?

SPEAKER_07 8:08

That's your uh, what's the thing like to know? You know, the little things that come on. A little banner. Yeah. Things you should know. Um, my week was uh was good. You know, it was um it was just I don't know. It was just it was this week was just like chill for you. Yeah. The first part I was because I kind of had my sinus attack.

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Oh, the sinus.

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Sinus attack when I came back from LA because I came back Monday.

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Yeah.

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And so I was off.

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You got a sinus attack.

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Yeah.

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Cha.

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Jumped on me. Because I was I was chilling.

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Next thing no, that's the sinus just went to your neck.

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And got me in my in my in my eye right here.

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Had my whole left my little incisors.

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Gotcha. I couldn't even chew right.

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Cha.

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I went to the uh then Tuesday I was at work.

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And who said you didn't take yourself to the urgent cap?

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Yeah. And I went after I got I got to school and I had to stand up a few times and got lightheaded. So I look around like this.

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I said, Oh yeah.

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I got on my phone in the hallway.

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Oh, so you didn't listen to me.

SPEAKER_07 9:15

Huh? I did. I heard you. I listened. Okay. And then, you know, that and that was like a team effort. You and the lightheadedness was a team that said, okay, let me go ahead and go to the urgent care.

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Okay.

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So I got my little permit, got my little uh penicillin or whatever it was, and uh a little uh prednisone.

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You look much better.

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I feel much better. And um, you know, got my little Wayne, my little lean.

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Oh, we got some lean.

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Yeah, dry me up.

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All right, dry you up.

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Yeah, for some reason when I took it, I started, dug little Wayne talk. You know, he talk like this now. I'll talk like that for a minute.

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That Wayne took his esophagus out.

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Yeah.

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I mean the little Wayne. I mean the little the lean.

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That lean took him a little bit.

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Took his whole esophagus out.

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Yeah, but I no, I feel I feel much better. Um today. I mean, uh, I didn't go to the gym this week. That I missed that part.

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Because you're sick.

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Yeah. Um no, I did not.

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No, I did I run? Yes. You did run because you told me about it.

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Yeah, I ran Wednesday. I ran Wednesday. Um and then um kind of took a little out of me.

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Uh-huh, because doing two merch.

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Yeah, I ran Wednesday and I came back and just chilled out. But uh, I'm going back Monday strong. Hitting the hitting the gym strong. We're gonna do a little Pilates tomorrow.

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Yes.

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We're gonna try some Pilates tomorrow, and um I cut the grass today. Thank God. Finally used my new lawnmower. I thought I wasn't gonna use it because it rained, and I was like, oh, you don't want to, you know, use the lawnmower in wet grass because it bogs it down. And I was like, man, our grass is high in the backyard. Um, but it's a new lawnmower, powerful lawnmower. My wife gave me the green light to get what I needed.

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Yeah.

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And it works very good. All right. Yep. Yep, yep, yep.

SPEAKER_02 11:02

Oh, I I also went to the dentist. So if you're like, hmm, did Creek get Botox on one side of her face?

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They ain't gonna say that. No.

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I went to the dentist, and my face is still sore. When did I go?

SPEAKER_07 11:12

They're gonna think you're chewing tobacco. I knew it. I knew that she from Kansas. You chew that tobacco.

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Um, you went was it the same day I went to Wednesday. Was it Wednesday? Yeah. It was Wednesday because Thursday I was running around like a fool. It was Wednesday. Yeah. Wednesday morning. I went Wednesday morning, and um, yeah, they mm-mm. I'm still sore.

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Yeah.

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That's why I'm not sure.

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You put you didn't put no ice on it. I told you to put ice on it.

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Do not enjoy the dentist. I had to get a crown back here.

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The main reason we don't enjoy the dentist is because they that insurance don't be insurancing. Yeah. It don't make sense.

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No, I hate going because dentists. Whoever been to the dentist other than cleaning and it don't hurt. It always hurts.

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It does, but I rather I I'd rather put my teeth. I hope that's what I said.

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So just do what you gotta you do what you gotta jail.

SPEAKER_07 12:07

I hope I don't ever have to get the uh veneers.

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Yeah.

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But who knows? I'll get them before I walk around looking.

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Snagger teeth.

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Empty mouth, yeah. I sure will.

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Yeah. Well, just make sure you don't get the ones, uh the same ones that uh King got.

SPEAKER_07 12:23

Oh no, where they're all the same size.

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They were big.

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Like 32 molars in his mouth.

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They were so big. I think he got it fixed now because I don't notice him looking so big. Oh no. But when he first got them, woo, woo!

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I'm gonna see if they could get me some veneers with braces on them. And you're doing just be like, hey, we got veneer, and you know what I'm saying, all in one veneer braces.

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Guess what? Y'all gonna say, we don't never see Kree and Key together no more.

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Oh, they're gonna say, yeah, he had them on eight, nine, ten years ago, the same braces.

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The team is already straight. I'll be like, he at home with his braces. He at home with his braces. That's where he is.

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But I sure get them before I have a snag of mouth, though. No, um, but I'm not going to Turkey. You know how they be going to Turkey or wherever to get the go for hair replacement. No, I saw a video of these girls went and got their mouth done for like the both of them. The whole thing, the hotel, the flight, and everything was less than uh both of them to get$5,000. When they, you know, get out and they take care of them for a little bit, make sure everything, follow-up appointment. Yeah. But you know, oh um, international insurance is way better than the United States anyway.

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So that's why they were- What wait, wait, wait. You they can't go over there and get insurance.

SPEAKER_07 13:38

No, they pay out of pocket.

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Oh, yeah, yeah. Oh, you mean not insurance, but medical care. I say insurance. Yeah.

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Oh, my bad. The medical, medical, yeah, the medical care, I'm sorry. Um, but that's one of the reasons. Remember in Oh, that's money calling. Remember in the media where people were there was I guess the what what do you want to call it? The the government was saying that they're prohibiting doctors from coming over here getting education, then leaving, going back and taking it back because of that reason.

SPEAKER_02 14:11

Oh, because people go over there to get their work.

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Yeah, because they like, we yeah, we get trained here, but we're going back what we can actually do right by our profession, as opposed to make everybody else rich off of our skill set and then punish, you know, the people that we're taking care of. And so uh, you know, they're trying to, oh no, uh, you better use all that. You better work and do slave like we want y'all to.

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Yeah, yeah.

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But uh anyway, uh what's what's uh and then today I for some reason I just wanna go get some small bite today and just people watch for about you know a couple minutes.

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Small bite, people watch.

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I don't know.

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Let's do it.

SPEAKER_07 14:51

Yeah, but you know, I don't know. Somewhere, somewhere different or or the same, like maybe untapped, just somewhere is it untapped? Yeah, okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 15:03

Yeah, sometimes, yeah. It's been kind of the same. I I think I might want to go somewhere else.

SPEAKER_07 15:07

Yeah. So, what episode is this?

SPEAKER_02 15:10

It's episode 40.

SPEAKER_07 15:18

Hey, you see the this is a different painting. Kimani did this one off.

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It is a lotus flower.

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Yeah, and then Lotus Flowers represents new beginnings. So 40 new beginnings. Yeah, I want this tattoo. Um, but Kimani, uh, this is a textured paintings, and the other one painting was done by Kimani as well. Um, this is one of my favorite ones. I asked him to make this one for me.

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And uh that's not my favorite one.

SPEAKER_07 15:44

This is this is like because I'm a I'm huge into the meditation and you know, centering, grounding, all that stuff. So whenever, anytime I see this, like this is my healing painting. Like, honestly. Um it's right by my little meditation, little wall over here in the side. And uh it's very I love this one to death. I love all of his paintings. Yeah, but I think because when I asked him, he did it. And he put yeah, and he he put so much effort. Yeah, like this is me. You know what I mean?

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Uh-huh.

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Everything about this is me.

SPEAKER_02 16:18

So this is uh my favorite for him is the one with the hand reaching out. It's going um, it's a little bit, it's bigger than this, but it goes um horizontal, not vertical. But he has his hand that's kind of reaching out. I don't, and it has all these different um textures, like there's a sand.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 16:39

Um, it's beautiful. I don't know if it's in his room or in his dorm where he put it, but um beautiful. He is just yeah.

SPEAKER_07 16:47

Yeah, I got a few more that he done for me. And um, even the one his his practice ones, I'm like, no, I need those. Like, it's so dope. Um and so just I'm I'm trying to find I wish I had just a room where I can put them all up. Put them all.

SPEAKER_02 17:02

We need to start just taking them and then like I told you, that was one of my things, but I know it's gonna change up some things, but I just would like would like to start just doing different art everywhere.

SPEAKER_07 17:11

I mean, I think we can't like to meet art, there's no rhyme or reason. It just needs to be up.

SPEAKER_02 17:18

Yeah. That's what I really want to do.

SPEAKER_07 17:20

Yeah, like, oh, this doesn't float and look. It's put it up there.

SPEAKER_02 17:24

Like I saw on TikTok this couple, um, and um they both are artists, and they had their kids kind of guess how many how many art pieces are up in their home, and they had like over a hundred and something different art pieces, some that they purchased that are other people's, some that are theirs. The kids are like getting into art now, and um, they had just so many beautiful art pieces just everywhere in the bedrooms and different places. But yeah, I want to be able to have art up like that. I think it'd be nice.

SPEAKER_07 17:53

I would love to put them up, but I think I just hate when we gotta put all the holes in the wall. I wanna you know I was I would I wonder if you can put them up the same way, like those what we say, those tile photos are, you know, the magnetic whatever.

SPEAKER_02 18:06

I bet you can.

SPEAKER_07 18:07

Yeah. But then I'm like, how does the magnetic part go on to the actual wall without destroying the wall itself? Stripping it.

SPEAKER_02 18:13

I don't know.

SPEAKER_07 18:13

You don't have to research that. Yeah, but Miss Producer.

Janitor To Yale Doctor Feel Good Story

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Well, yeah, today I kind of put did the lineup. Well, it still was a coordinated effort because the stories are all stories that were by the research team. By the research team. Uh, so uh uh yeah, it's still a team effort. So our first thing we're gonna talk about is a feel good story, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 18:42

It feels good, it feels good.

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All right, so this story, you might have already heard it, but there was a young lady, her name was Shay Taylor Allen, and she was a janitor at Yale Hospital for 10 years. Um, just to, I think it was like paying her way through theirs as Shay Taylor Allen's dreams came true on March 20th. The Howard University College of Medicine student was matched into anesthesiology residency program at Yale New Haven Hospital, the same hospital where she was born and later worked as a janitor for 10 years.

SPEAKER_07 19:40

What doesn't her mother work there or something?

SPEAKER_02 19:42

Um, it says that was her number one match, so she was happy to come back in in a different space. Um I don't know. I'm trying to look see if her mom worked there. Um that's so cool. Yeah, but the but the idea of being a janitor in a hospital, and you know what the what it what it made me think about was um some people look down on people in those roles. Oh, definitely. So I think of even when I've worked in schools and different places, how people treat the custodians and janitors, the lunch ladies, the um paras, teachers' assistants, um, and the idea that she was working towards something.

SPEAKER_05 20:35

You never know what they'd work towards.

SPEAKER_02 20:37

You never know. And the idea that a place where she would consider to be loaded, probably the lowest on the totem pole to actually go back in that space to be a doctor.

SPEAKER_07 20:49

Like I mean probably over some of those people that were not so kind to her.

SPEAKER_02 20:55

Yeah. So um somebody just said that. Oh, when I went to Kimani's honors convocation, the the man that was the speaker said, be careful how you treat people um going up because you'll have to see them going down if you go down or something like that. Is that the phrase? But the idea of if you were a person that mistreated her, made her feel like not much, the idea that now she's in such um an amazing role. I wonder how many people were like, You doing what?

SPEAKER_07 21:32

Mm-hmm. Or once they got there, say, What are you doing with that jacket on?

SPEAKER_02 21:36

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_07 21:37

You suppose oh, or excuse me, was it name Shay? Can you come and empty this out, please?

SPEAKER_06 21:42

Um I'm sorry. I see my coat. Uh sorry.

SPEAKER_02 21:45

Excuse me, you mean Dr. Shay?

SPEAKER_06 21:47

Yeah, I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_02 21:48

I'm Dr. Shay.

SPEAKER_07 21:49

What or parking? I used to tell my people with parking spaces. Um, you you're not supposed to be parked. That's for doctors and residents only. Um, excuse me. I'm Dr. Shay.

SPEAKER_02 22:04

Oh, well, she's anesthesiology. Is that Dr. Shay?

SPEAKER_07 22:06

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02 22:07

Knock you out, child. Okay. I don't know if they because if they're a good thing. Well, they could.

SPEAKER_07 22:10

Yeah, but hopefully she is.

SPEAKER_02 22:11

Because I don't know if they're always the doctor.

SPEAKER_07 22:13

Some of them are not, yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:14

Either way.

SPEAKER_07 22:15

But if I don't know if you in the match program, though, if you match, I think that's big turn. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:21

Because she has her white jacket.

SPEAKER_07 22:22

Yeah, she might be Dr. Shea.

SPEAKER_02 22:24

Yeah, she says they said returning as a doctor.

SPEAKER_07 22:26

Yeah, that's Dr. Shea right there. That's what I'm about to say. She's the what they call Lee Anesthesia.

SPEAKER_02 22:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 22:31

She's the one that they just call every now and she only worked that long.

SPEAKER_02 22:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 22:35

They make that money.

SPEAKER_02 22:36

And in this uh Go ahead, Shay. And in this uh article, they showed her picture when she was a janitor there next to her in her white coat. You better do it, girl. You better do it, Shay.

SPEAKER_07 22:50

Because I'm always cool with the janitors wherever I am.

SPEAKER_02 22:53

Well, listen, I treat everybody. Me too. It doesn't matter.

SPEAKER_07 22:57

It don't matter.

SPEAKER_02 22:58

No matter what your role is, I'm treating you the same.

SPEAKER_01 23:01

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 23:01

Now, um, for the for those who are in higher positions who don't know how to act.

SPEAKER_05 23:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 23:11

I'm professional.

SPEAKER_05 23:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 23:14

But um I got my eyes on you. Know that.

SPEAKER_07 23:19

Yeah, it's not your role that makes me change the way I treat you.

SPEAKER_02 23:21

It doesn't. It's how you treat others. How you treat others.

SPEAKER_07 23:26

How you behave.

SPEAKER_02 23:27

How you behave. That is exactly right. So that is exactly right.

SPEAKER_07 23:31

Feel good for Shay. You ever had a feel-good situation like that?

SPEAKER_02 23:35

For myself?

SPEAKER_07 23:36

Yeah. Where, you know, something you came back and you had your not necessarily like a redemption moment, but a moment of Oh, I do.

SPEAKER_02 23:45

I well, when I was in my junior year of college, um, I went to sub at a school, and my favorite elementary principal was still the principal. Oh, okay. Mr. Breckinridge. He's a black man. So you know that. Breckinridge. Yeah. Black Breckinridge. Yeah, he was his name was Mr. Breckinridge.

SPEAKER_07 24:13

He wore them jackets with the uh suede on the elbow.

SPEAKER_02 24:15

I think he is.

SPEAKER_07 24:16

I bet Breckinridge, that's a suede elbow uh wearing brother.

SPEAKER_02 24:20

He was the best elementary principal there was, and he now I forgot I I feel bad because I don't really share the story about him as much. I always talk about the people that was trifling. But um he um there was I had a favorite sweater of his, and every time I wear it, he said, There you go, my favorite sweater.

SPEAKER_07 24:41

But when I went breaking reads, sweater, see there, he likes sweater.

SPEAKER_02 24:45

And so then when I went back to to sub, and um, it was either my junior year or the fall of my senior year. Um, I went back and he was the principal there, and some of the teachers that were my teachers and elementary were there, and they were like, Oh my gosh, look, Chris, we're so excited to see you. So, yeah, that would be that for me, I think. What about for you?

SPEAKER_07 25:08

Mine was when I went back to my high school um to speak um when I was on MTV. Oh and uh it was it was so cool because uh all the kids um watched it. Some kids didn't even know I was you know from Foley because they probably missed the very first episode when they said from Foley. And then, you know, the kind of news spread, and they did a little newspaper article, and some people kind of knew. Um and but when I came to the school, it was like he used to play baseball, he played soccer, played football, and all this stuff. And and you know, I I didn't come out, and so you know, yeah, and they was just talking and talking. And it was so cool because uh Renee was the one that wanted me to come speak, Ms. Daniel. And so some of the people, you know, that was there didn't, didn't want one, didn't expect us to go to college, was trying to get us to go to the military, yeah. Um, or get just get a job. And I had good grades, you know, and my parents were gonna help pay for it. And so I didn't even, when I went, I just went and spoke to Renee. I didn't even go and speak to the other teachers. Because I was like, I'm gonna just chill. And they just talking it up. Um Renee was speaking about, you know, he's doing this, he's on television, traveling in the world, and you can see him now on MTV, and you can hear the because the kids say, What? What MTV? He's on every, she's there every day on MTV, whatever. And uh she said, bringing out, you know, Mr. Kefla Hare. And I walk out, and because you know, some of the kids, I've been gone for a while, you know, kids didn't know, and but when they saw my face, oh my, I know him, I know him, oh man, that's all and you can just hear him, the snakes and the crackers, all that stuff. Uh-huh. And you see those teachers, they was like, they just looking at those particular ones. Their face was just so just and that gave me the biggest joy.

unknown 27:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 27:08

Oh, the biggest joy for you to say I couldn't do nothing, da-da-da, and here I am, almost finished with school.

SPEAKER_04 27:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 27:14

And, you know, doing all this stuff on television, all these kids going crazy and stuff, and saying, um, you know, and then when it was over with, just signing autographs in the gym, taking the little click pictures, um, you know, stuff like that, the kids that did have them. And uh, it was just that was my moment of, you know, coming back after you telling me I couldn't, we weren't gonna do nothing and all that stuff. And some of those coaches sabotaging, keeping letters from coaches and schools, you know, about scholarships and stuff, not showing them to me until after the deadline. Uh-huh. And so that was that was an amazing time.

SPEAKER_02 27:49

That makes me think of the video I saw Cardi B when she was on uh Yes.

SPEAKER_07 27:55

Uh was it Love and Hip Hop? I loved it.

SPEAKER_02 27:57

Well, she said, Oh, you and then the lady that was commentating, she was like, Who are you talking to? And she's like, I'm talking to her.

SPEAKER_07 28:06

Oh, big beep.

SPEAKER_02 28:07

And she, of course, is card in Cardi B fashion. She got lots of four-letter words to say. And it was a teacher there that told her that she wasn't going to amount to anything but being a stripper. Yeah. And but the teacher was there now watching her. And I'm sure she was like telling me, Oh, that used to be my student, this and this and this and that. And never saying that she told her that. And I it that to me, like, teachers have so much power. There's so much power in your words and impact. And so for some of us, like me, um, and maybe it's just who I am or how my parents are, I don't know. But if you tell me I can't do something, then I'm like, oh, I'm gonna do it. Just so I can say, in your face, I did that, right? Um, and Cardi B, we know, of course, same way. And so the idea of her being able to have that moment. Um, now she she she said what she said, but that I'm sure, like for her, it was like, well, she did, she got her.

SPEAKER_07 29:14

So I'm gonna tell you this you can't at 10:30 night get butt neck and run around the house, especially in the room. You can't do that.

SPEAKER_02 29:22

Oh I was like, what is he even saying? Oh my god, you stupid. I'm just saying, you can't do all those things. Oh my gosh, Lord. Who did I marry? I'm about to do a uh, what's that lady that was on TikTok that said who did I marry? Tessa. Tessa, somebody, Tessa Rose. I don't know. It was a lady that married the man and he was uh he had a whole other you don't know the Tessa lady, everybody was into her. You know that long story? Yeah, oh I just yeah, who did I marry, whatever it was called?

SPEAKER_07 30:00

So let's say all right, what's up?

SPEAKER_02 30:02

Therapy time, therapy time. You got a song for that?

SPEAKER_07 30:06

Uh let's see, therapy time.

SPEAKER_02 30:09

He ain't got a song.

SPEAKER_06 30:11

Therapy is the greatest time of life. It's when you learn about yourself and give them to yourself some love and kindness. Therapy time.

SPEAKER_07 30:32

That's our new introduction.

SPEAKER_03 30:34

Oh, I love it.

SPEAKER_07 30:35

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 30:39

So our therapy time this week is around parenting. Um, so therapists say that the hardest part of parenting for most people isn't the relentless exhaustion, which parenting is exhaustion. You own 24-7.

SPEAKER_07 30:55

Some people are.

SPEAKER_02 30:56

Yes. Well, those who the it said parenting. You gotta be parenting. Yeah. Okay. Right. Um, it's that you can't control how your child experiences the world.

SPEAKER_01 31:08

That's right.

SPEAKER_02 31:09

Only how you show up in it. Um, and so I remember the exact moment this landed for me. My daughter had come home from school upset about something that had happened with a friend. Nothing like awful, crazy, catastrophic.

SPEAKER_04 31:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 31:28

The ordinary social friction of childhood, the kind that resolves itself within a week.

SPEAKER_04 31:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 31:34

But she was really hurt, and I could see it, and every instinct I had was pulling for me to fix it. Um, the lawnmower apparent. Is that what that would be?

SPEAKER_07 31:44

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 31:44

Helicopter lawnmower apparent. I wanted to call the other parent. I wanted to give her the perfect words to say tomorrow. I wanted to engineer a resolution that would make the hurt stop, the friendship repair, and the whole thing be over so she could go back to being okay. I didn't do any of those things. I sat with her instead and I listened. And I didn't try to fix the story or skip to the part where it gets better. It was one of the hardest things I've done as a parent. Not because sitting with her was hard, but because not fixing it was. Because every part of me that loved her was pushing me to intervene. And the truest thing I could do was resist the push. What I understood in that moment with more clarity than I'd had before is that my job isn't to stand between her and the difficult parts of the world.

SPEAKER_06 32:38

That's right.

SPEAKER_02 32:39

Um, so what are your thoughts on that? And then thinking about as a parent.

SPEAKER_07 32:45

Well, the first thing, just uh let some people know what the lawnmower parent terminology is.

SPEAKER_02 32:49

Oh, yeah, because that was well, if you should be listening, because we talked about this already, but you go tell them.

SPEAKER_07 32:56

Yeah, I'm gonna tell them. I'm gonna tell them. Because you know, some people would maybe just all of a sudden say, oh, that's true, that's true, that's true.

SPEAKER_02 33:01

We're we're happy that you're here. Welcome.

SPEAKER_07 33:05

Yeah, definitely. Because the first few episodes we did, the sound sounded like we was in the closet.

SPEAKER_02 33:10

It don't matter, we were still good.

SPEAKER_07 33:11

We were still good, that's right. But a lawnmower parent is a parent that tries to think about if you're cutting the grass, you're trying to, the lawnmower uh uh pretty much uh eliminates all the trouble in front, you know. So if I mean, like, you know, cutting all the grass in front, then as my feet walk behind it, then my feet are walking in new, trimmed, perfect, manicured space. And that's what the parent is trying to do. The parent is trying to go in front of the kid and prevent so many things from happening that they don't have to experience it. That's why it's great what you said you can't um control how they experience how they show up in it. And that's even for ourselves. You know, I love that saying. Um and so you doing so, being a normal parent, the word, what is it? Uh we we don't teach them how to um resilience. Yeah, they don't learn resilience.

SPEAKER_02 34:04

They don't don't, like they said here, they need um kids need to experience hard things to develop the capacity to handle them. Yeah, that's what builds resilience.

SPEAKER_07 34:13

Yeah, it's like and and that's sometimes I I try to like even with Kahari, a lot of times, he when it's uh he knows it's a tough situation, he just shuts down and won't go through it to know that he can do it or to even try to manipulate it. But give him a hard game, he'll play it several times to manipulate the way to get to that through that game. And that's the the the way I try to always explain it to the kids, even at school. I say, you know, think about it. Y'all can play a game that's difficult and try to manipulate and manipulate and manipulate and manipulate until you, you know, get that successful feeling of say, oh, I beat the game. But when the game of life comes at you, y'all just want to say, forget it or get somebody else to help you. You would never let them do that for a game. And so I think, you know, um, with this situation, I definitely, you know, with with kids, uh I'm going back to middle school and I'm gonna be doing this a lot, dealing with those friendships and all that stuff.

SPEAKER_02 35:15

Because middle school friends are it's the world. Highest priority.

SPEAKER_07 35:19

It's the world. Because um high school, some kids may not have friends, but they may have teammates they they can talk to and all that stuff. But middle school, it's like it's not like that. It's more so your friends is your everything. And I know how the parent feels because no parent wants to see their child going through anything because you want them to, you, you know, you want to be happy and feeling good. That's just you know the the nature in us. But at the same time, it's that that fine line is like uh not not stepping in, not calling the parent, and also sometimes not telling your child what to do to get out of the situation or to help the situation.

SPEAKER_02 36:00

That's hard.

SPEAKER_07 36:00

Yeah, very hard. And but sometimes you can't, it's like kind of putting those little, let me put a key here to, you know, sorry, get out of the escape room. Let me give them a little clue about this, yeah. To you know, to make them think that they figured it out. Yeah. But I think if you could um I guess do, you know, certain little things like that, um, it will benefit them, but I mean benefit them, but it's it's uh it's parenting is tough.

SPEAKER_02 36:27

It is. I think that's why it's so important. We think about as educators, we always talk about modeling for the students.

SPEAKER_05 36:33

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 36:34

I was gonna say parenting as a parent and your parenting, that's the same. And so often as parents, we say, Well, I'm an adult, I do it the way I want to do it. Don't like don't do as I do, do as I say. Do as I say, yeah. And that that should not be a thing. Um, you should be modeling what you want your kids to do in their friendships, in their relationships, all of those things because they're watching.

SPEAKER_07 37:04

Yeah. Quick thing. I want to ask you this. Do you think some parents say, Don't do just I mean, or like if you say, Can I do this? Why? Because I said so. Do you think sometimes parents say that because they don't know what to say to their kid or how to um articulate the reasoning to their kid, the reason to their kid?

SPEAKER_02 37:26

Um, I think sometimes I think it's a natural thing because that's how we were raised. Um our parents, we didn't ask.

SPEAKER_07 37:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 37:36

The why. If they said we couldn't do anything, we'd be like, well, I guess I can't do it.

SPEAKER_07 37:40

But sometimes you never asked your parents like why? Well, I didn't have that issue.

SPEAKER_02 37:46

I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_07 37:46

Yeah, you got to do anything anyway.

SPEAKER_02 37:48

So I mean, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 37:49

So that wasn't Okay, let me ask myself. So do you I I honestly do think so. I think that my parents didn't know how to speak to Well, my parents didn't know how to speak to me as a kid without making it feel like they were giving up their status of being the adult.

SPEAKER_02 38:12

The hierarchy.

SPEAKER_07 38:12

Right. There's a certain way you can talk to a kid to let them know, let me this is understand what I'm saying to you, son or daughter. I don't want you doing this because boom, boom, and boom.

SPEAKER_02 38:26

And that what they didn't realize is how the learning that comes through the explanation, when you don't tell me, I think you just trying to keep me from fun. Yeah. Um, but then when you explain it to me, I go, oh, I didn't even think that that that was a possibility, or that was something that could happen, or then it helps me understand, oh, my parents are scared for me.

SPEAKER_04 38:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 38:50

Um, and so there's a there's a fear or something that they're having. Um, and sometimes parents have to be cautious of that because that's also what they said here, too, is that we oftentimes are um I don't know, creating fear or stepping in because we are thinking our child's story is going to be similar to our story. And what we have to remember is I know for us, our boys are amazing, kind. Their character is is amazing, but they're not like us.

SPEAKER_07 39:28

Yeah, no way, they're not like us.

SPEAKER_02 39:31

And so for us to be trying to tell them to move in the way that we moved, well, that that I mean, that that is silly. So it is better because our and most people's children aren't like them, yeah, um, because they were raised in a different time than you, so their experiences are different than you, access to things, access to things are different, people are different, and so the idea of sitting back and allowing them to kind of maneuver here and there, and I think that creates a space for them to develop, but then it creates also the relationship between the two of you because they feel like I can come talk to you, you're not gonna make me feel bad about this, and then I'll say, Mom, I went to Susie May and I said this to her, I said this to her, and she did this back. What do you think? Then they may say, What do you think I should do next? Yeah, you know, so then they'll begin to ask you questions because you're creating a space that they say you're listening.

SPEAKER_07 40:39

And when they ask, that means that somewhere down the line your advice has been beneficial to them and they, you know, they trust it. Yeah, but no, that's just thinking about that, you know, it's like um that cause I said so is you hear it so often, it's like, well, what is the said-so? And I know me, I didn't know until I got older why they said so.

SPEAKER_02 41:07

And it created resentment, right?

SPEAKER_07 41:09

Yeah, because I was like, I'm a good dude, I'm a good kid. You know, why I can't do X, Y, and Z. Um, but I I I understood because I looked back and all of the some of the things that I did ask that other kids were doing um didn't pan out well for them. But I think it was other uh things that were tied to it, too, you know, the support system, the, you know, but um you know, some of the things, some of those because I said so's make sense now, but I just wish I would have been explained those things because it probably would have channeled my, I'm not gonna say anger, but my thoughts towards my parents differently. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02 41:51

Well, and I'll say we have explained things more so like Kimani just hears us, Kahari is the why.

SPEAKER_07 41:58

Um, and we could we explain, and even if our why don't match his reasoning, he's he's gonna do it because it's like, well, that ain't what I was thinking, so I'm gonna do it.

SPEAKER_02 42:10

Yeah. And so what I'm saying is like you can sometimes explain the why, um, and they still don't understand or think we know what we're talking about because you have some of your children who have to learn from failure and learn from experience. And if that's how they choose to learn, guess what? You have just chosen a more challenging life for yourself, and it is what it is. Yeah, you there's at some point, hopefully, you let it levels out, but we can't keep them from that. And so I'm still gonna tell you the why. But we also now have the understanding of knowing now he probably gonna go and do what he wants to do, anyways. But I will say the one thing about him is he'll come back and say, Y'all was right.

SPEAKER_07 42:58

Yeah, remember when y'all said such and such now. Now, he may he may not do it the moment it happened.

SPEAKER_03 43:05

No, no.

SPEAKER_07 43:06

He'd be like, Yeah, and that happened a long time ago. Remember when y'all said such and such? Yep, that's what like, do that's high school.

SPEAKER_02 43:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 43:13

But hey, it happened.

SPEAKER_00 43:14

It happened.

SPEAKER_02 43:15

Yeah, so they will come back and he'll come back and say that. Um, the other thing to think about when you're parenting, one thing they didn't mention is that, you know, when they're little, they think mom and dad are everything. And then, and I think I found this happen this happened with um, I won't say both boys, with one boy. Um, when they get into high school and then they start to have friends and they talk um amongst about parents and what parents allow them to do and what your parents don't allow you to do. And then their image of you changes, and it feels kind of like now we some good ass parents. You know, like those things. That those parents are doing is because those parents are scared of their children. We are not scared of our children. We're gonna parent, right? And so parenting is important to us, and our goal is to raise some successful young men. Yeah, and that's what we're gonna do. However, there are parents who are scared of their children. Yeah. Um and scared of saying no. Scared of saying no. Scared they'll be mad at me. They won't want to be my friend.

SPEAKER_07 44:28

You ain't supposed to be my friend.

SPEAKER_02 44:29

Hello.

SPEAKER_07 44:30

Supposed to be my son.

SPEAKER_02 44:31

Yeah. So when as they grow into teenage years, you have those moments where they think, and then, as you say, it comes back around where they realize, oh, wait. That was their parents were crazy.

SPEAKER_07 44:48

Were crazy.

SPEAKER_02 44:49

They weren't doing what they were supposed to do. And we found that that is the full circle moment that somebody had to see on their own. So the thing about it is that the most important thing, like we say, don't be the lawnmower parent. Um, and sit back and let your child experience the world. And like we said before, with guardrails, and you are the guardrail, because you're not gonna let them be in extreme danger, but you're gonna let them figure out life um for themselves because there's so many parents who are afraid that their children will make the same mistakes they made. And that's part of it too. Um, but remember they aren't you.

SPEAKER_07 45:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 45:36

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_07 45:37

Yeah, you it's uh not even mistakes.

SPEAKER_02 45:39

There's some parents that want their kids to live up, some parents who were stellar or overachievering um people um children, and they want their child to be that same overachiever, and sometimes either the child doesn't have the same drive, or the child may not be as intelligent as you are.

SPEAKER_07 46:00

Right. Because remember who your match was.

SPEAKER_02 46:02

That's what I'm saying, depending on who you marry, or or slept with. Hello, you better think about it.

SPEAKER_07 46:13

So you over there uh valedictorian and forgot who was your dictorian, right? That's what I'm saying. Yeah, you got the valedic on your side, but then the volunteer that you got from uh slow.

SPEAKER_02 46:33

No, and so your child is a mix of the two. That's hey, listen.

SPEAKER_07 46:38

The valedict or the volundic.

SPEAKER_02 46:40

Hey, you better know it.

SPEAKER_07 46:42

Hey, all right, come on now, okay.

SPEAKER_02 46:45

So we hope that that helped you think about parenting and and how you will um parent and help your child along the way. Um, don't be the lawnmower parent, don't be a part-time parent.

SPEAKER_07 46:58

Parenting is a full-time job. Don't stop even when people say, Hey, can you chill? I gotta keep parenting.

SPEAKER_02 47:06

You gotta keep parenting. And the biggest thing, allow your child to have resilience and know that they can do hard things.

Word Game To Test Our Sync

SPEAKER_07 47:15

Yep. It's in them. Tell them. Yep.

SPEAKER_02 47:18

All right, so now we're gonna play a game.

SPEAKER_07 47:21

All right, let's do it.

SPEAKER_02 47:22

All right, so I think we played this game before.

SPEAKER_07 47:25

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 47:25

I think it was at the very like start of our podcasting.

SPEAKER_01 47:30

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 47:30

We've been doing this podcast together, talking more, doing the things.

SPEAKER_05 47:34

All right.

SPEAKER_02 47:35

Are we better connected? Are our brains better connected?

SPEAKER_05 47:39

We'll see.

SPEAKER_02 47:40

So this is will we guess the same word? So I'm gonna say a word and then I'm gonna say one, two, three. Let's see if we say the same word. Okay. All right, are you ready? Yep. All right, first thing. The word is snow. Okay.

SPEAKER_06 47:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 48:00

One, two, three. Man. Snow bunny? Yeah. You must be in my daddy's head. Well, your daddy likes snow bunnies. No, he's always talking about a snow bunny. Somebody got a snow bunny. All right. All right. Uh-oh. I'm nervous. All right, here we go. The word is car. One, two, three. Wash. Oh, Lord Jesus. All right. Hey, look into my brain.

SPEAKER_07 48:37

I'm trying to.

SPEAKER_02 48:38

All right. All right. All right. Here we go. Um, the word is beach.

SPEAKER_00 48:45

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 48:46

One, two, three. Sour. Lord have mercy. All right. You ready? I'm ready. The word is strawberry. Okay. One, two, three.

SPEAKER_07 49:02

Shortcake. I knew that because that was because that's what you like.

SPEAKER_02 49:06

Strawberry shortcake. I love strawberry shortcake. I had two strawberry shortcake birthdays. And I like to eat strawberry shortcake. All right, here we go. Um, the word is blue.

SPEAKER_04 49:18

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 49:19

Right. One, two, three. Bird. You're trying to think too hard to my brain. Get out of here.

SPEAKER_07 49:26

No, when you said blue, I just knew Ivy. That's okay. Yeah, blue bird. I wasn't thinking about blue bird.

SPEAKER_02 49:31

Okay.

unknown 49:32

All right.

SPEAKER_07 49:33

I almost said blue balls, but.

SPEAKER_02 49:35

Oh, Lord. That sounds. I should have said that because that sounds like something you would say. All right. The word is dirty. All right. All right. One, two, three. Dishes. Dirty dog. Dirty dog.

SPEAKER_07 49:51

Oh, dirty dog. Dirty dog. That lady called me a dirty dog for not giving her no money.

SPEAKER_02 49:56

We only have one together, Rora. All right. All right, here we go. The word is paper.

SPEAKER_07 50:03

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 50:03

All right. One, two, three. Chow. Paper trail.

SPEAKER_07 50:10

You leave a paper trail. Find you every time.

SPEAKER_02 50:14

What in the world? Alright, here we go. The next one is the word is turtle. Okay. One, two, three.

SPEAKER_07 50:22

Turd. Turtle turd. Yes. Turtle turd. Turtle turd is like that one that you sitting on and it just won't come out. It's just stay there. Uh-uh. That's what a turtle turd is.

SPEAKER_02 50:32

I ain't never heard of a turtle. Leave it to doo-doo bed over here. Doo-doo struggle. He had a turtle right now. Listen, my turds, I still have to be.

SPEAKER_07 50:44

It's a turtle, it's a turtle head. You never heard somebody say that?

SPEAKER_02 50:50

I never heard of a turtle turd.

SPEAKER_07 50:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 50:52

Okay. If you heard of a turtle turd, will we post this snippet? Put a turtle. Put a turtle on there. Put a turtle on there.

SPEAKER_07 50:59

If y'all know what a turtle turd is, put a turtle on there.

SPEAKER_02 51:01

Oh.

SPEAKER_07 51:02

Or you can put a turtle in the and the uh the crap emoji, both of them.

SPEAKER_02 51:06

All right, here we go. All right, we got two more. The word is picture.

SPEAKER_07 51:11

All right.

SPEAKER_02 51:12

One, two, three. Picture pages.

SPEAKER_07 51:17

Yeah, remember picture pages, picture pages, time to do your picture pages, time to get your creepy pages. And your pencils. Picture pages, picture pages, time to do the picture pages. Come and watch McCosby do a picture page with you.

SPEAKER_02 51:32

All right, remember that. All right, last one. The word is book.

SPEAKER_07 51:36

Okay, let's do it.

SPEAKER_02 51:38

All right. One, two, three. Marker.

SPEAKER_07 51:43

A book in. A bookshelf. I guess we ain't in sync. We ain't. Bye bye bye.

SPEAKER_03 51:52

Did they sing that song?

SPEAKER_07 51:54

Oh, dude. One of them did. One of the white groups did.

SPEAKER_02 51:57

Was that in sync of uh one of them some bye-bye bye?

SPEAKER_07 52:02

Hey, we are out of sync.

SPEAKER_02 52:04

All right, y'all. We have believe it. Uh-oh.

SPEAKER_07 52:08

Yeah, look at that.

SPEAKER_02 52:09

Believe it, sister.

SPEAKER_07 52:11

We got hands today because last few beliefs, so we was nubbing.

SPEAKER_02 52:14

Now listen. Believe it, sister. Somebody keeps wanting to focus on. Somebody keeps wanting to focus. Now no, no, let me finish. Somebody.

SPEAKER_00 52:25

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 52:26

If y'all know the last few times we didn't talked about animals and cocaine. His believer.

SPEAKER_07 52:33

It was only one animal and cocaine. The other the little man you call, so now you call the little man a little beaver or something. What kind of animal?

SPEAKER_02 52:41

He ain't no beaver. He ain't no beaver. I don't.

SPEAKER_07 52:43

He be a snake. No, no, because he ain't got he don't move. You can't move with just a if you're a salamander.

SPEAKER_02 52:50

A salamander.

SPEAKER_07 52:51

No, because they can move a torso.

SPEAKER_02 52:53

He got nubs.

SPEAKER_07 52:54

But he can't.

SPEAKER_02 52:56

Well, last week we talked about a paraplegic.

SPEAKER_07 52:58

Quadriplegic.

SPEAKER_02 52:59

I mean quadruple. Paraplegic.

SPEAKER_07 53:01

No, he's quadruple. We kept saying paraplegic. Oh, he's a quadruple. But he's a quadriplegic.

SPEAKER_02 53:05

Okay, quadriplegic.

SPEAKER_07 53:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 53:07

And uh he was doing um cocaine upside down.

SPEAKER_07 53:11

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 53:11

Then we talked about shark and cocaine. This one now has a story about hippos and cocaine.

SPEAKER_07 53:18

Hey, it came up. Cocaine is a hell of a drug. So we're gonna let it.

SPEAKER_02 53:21

So I guess today we got two believe it's sisters. Okay, talk about your hippo.

SPEAKER_07 53:29

So I don't know. You could have had the story produced by it.

SPEAKER_02 53:33

Okay, I got you.

SPEAKER_07 53:35

Was it in Japan? I think it was. But I was just thinking that hey.

SPEAKER_02 53:39

You want me to go with my story first since we don't have yours? No, I mean you can. Okay, go ahead.

SPEAKER_07 53:43

Because you know, we film it with the phone.

SPEAKER_02 53:45

So okay. So my story was a lady that thought this man, it's called uh a green flag that turned to a red flag.

SPEAKER_07 53:55

Oh, this one I sent.

SPEAKER_02 53:56

Oh so she was dating this guy, and he was given all green flags. He was the green flag was the one that was like, oh, he's so amazing. He cooked this dinner for cooked dinner for her. Healthy person. Healthy person. He's like, he made this healthy meal for her, and it's gonna help this certain part of her body. She was like, oh man, look at him. He knows I'm healthy. He's worried about he's worried about my body. He's cooked me a special meal that's for a specific part of my body.

SPEAKER_06 54:31

He's so good to me.

SPEAKER_02 54:32

He's so good to me, girl. I mean, he went and bought special ingredients for this special part of my body.

SPEAKER_07 54:39

What he said, I ain't say yet. Go ahead, keep going. I'm just the other guy.

SPEAKER_02 54:43

And and and so she's like, girl, I don't know. But when I go over there, he's gonna let me know. He's gonna let me know what part of the body um that he is making this meal for me. Yeah, girl, no, I'm still trying to get there, but as soon as I get there, I'm gonna text you. I'm gonna text you and tell you what was the part of the body that he um did this for. And um girl.

SPEAKER_07 55:07

Hey, I made this meal for you.

SPEAKER_02 55:10

Uh, excuse me. What well what what's so special about this meal?

SPEAKER_07 55:13

Well, you I know you're in the fitness. Yes, this meal is perfect for you. Oh my god, it helps you, it strengthens you on the inside.

SPEAKER_02 55:19

Oh my god. Yes, you're so thoughtful.

SPEAKER_07 55:22

It's very good. It's gonna strengthen your prostate.

SPEAKER_02 55:25

My who?

SPEAKER_07 55:26

You're a prostate. My prostate? You're the one you have on the inside.

SPEAKER_02 55:30

I don't have a prostate.

SPEAKER_07 55:32

Yeah, you everybody has a prostate.

SPEAKER_02 55:35

No, no, no. No, not everybody has a prostate.

SPEAKER_07 55:40

No, you gotta be Josh. He had to say Josh because somebody else, you don't know she got a prostate.

SPEAKER_02 55:48

No, sir. Only men have a prostate.

SPEAKER_07 55:52

No way.

SPEAKER_02 55:52

Yeah, yes way. Oh my gosh, what you don't know that women do not have a prostate.

SPEAKER_07 55:58

I'm gonna have to Google that because I could have sworn that I mean, you know, hey, well.

SPEAKER_02 56:05

Girl, he just made me eat it. It's good.

SPEAKER_07 56:09

It's good for you.

SPEAKER_02 56:10

He said he made this meal for my prostate. Red flag.

SPEAKER_07 56:16

Green flag turned red.

SPEAKER_02 56:18

Now let's go back to the parenting store. Remember, we talked about um what you made your baby with? Yep. Now you the valedictorian and you the now if you made something.

SPEAKER_07 56:29

That's the valedic right there.

SPEAKER_02 56:30

If you made something with somebody who thought women have a prostate, your baby ain't gonna be as smart as you, honey. Stop putting pressure on her. He's not gonna be. A grown man. A grown man and put in a whole meal for a woman for her prostate.

SPEAKER_07 56:50

He missed a lot of biology classes and commercials.

SPEAKER_02 56:53

I bet you saying, I can't believe this. But guess what? Believe it, sister.

SPEAKER_07 57:02

She should have told him, no, you eat it because it's gonna help your ovaries.

SPEAKER_02 57:05

Yeah, that's what she said. She said she was gonna make a meal for him and say, Yes, I made a meal for you for your ovaries, dumb butt.

SPEAKER_07 57:13

Look at it. Believe it, sister.

SPEAKER_02 57:15

Believe it, sister. It's people out there think women got prostates.

SPEAKER_07 57:18

But anyway, I don't know what a hippo story is, but uh You were supposed to be fighting it. With what, Cree? You was reading it on your phone.

SPEAKER_02 57:26

Sorry.

SPEAKER_07 57:27

We filming with the phone.

SPEAKER_02 57:29

We are.

Cocaine Hippos And Escobar’s Legacy

SPEAKER_07 57:30

I done, you know, I get my laptop back out. I could have the laptop out. I could have the iPad out. That's why I need to get me an iPad mini. So we need to put that in our producing budget. All right, Miss Producer. So here we go. In Colombia, all right, they have to euthanize dozens of cocaine hippos linked to drug lord Pablo Escobar in bid to control the population. So Colombian officials, they authorized a plan to cull dozens, cull, you know, uh euthanizing, dozens of hippos roaming freely through a region in the center of the country where they threatened villagers and displaced native species years after notorious Pablo Escobar bought in the first ones. So Pablo Escobar bought in some um hippos, God only knows why, all right. Um the previous method to control the population of the so-called hippos have been expensive and unsuccessful, including neutering some of the animals or moving them to zoos. All right, 80 hippos would have to be affected by the measure. They didn't know when they were going to start hunting them, but they definitely said that we got to do something because they're terrorizing the people. All right. And so, you know, if you think about it, uh these huge hippos. Huge hippos are huge. Very huge. All right. They were bought in by Pablo Escobar, put on a little private ranch, and he had like a private zoo farm with the private landing strip that served as his uh, you know, landing strip to bring in drugs and take drugs out. All right. And so Columbia declared them invasive species after some of them just went wild and got away. Okay. And how did they get the cocaine? Well, they believe that a lot of the cocaine is stashed throughout, like in certain parts of the water and stuff like that. Pablo Escobar uh put them underwater so that they can go get them later. And they think that the cocaine, the hippos. They got the cocaine. And so as the hippos uh got the cocaine and started eating the cocaine, they started noticing that they were acting very erratic.

SPEAKER_02 59:34

Oh, because once they got the first bit, they was like, I feel big.

SPEAKER_07 59:38

They got their high.

SPEAKER_02 59:39

And then they were like, Oh, let me find some more.

SPEAKER_07 59:41

Well, crack addicts do, they go.

SPEAKER_02 59:42

Yeah, just like humans.

SPEAKER_07 59:44

Yeah, and so they probably noticed that that the hippos were running faster. Because you know, crack adders get real fast. Uh-huh. And they're strong. Hippos already look like they got muscles. Yeah. So some of them were probably leaning up because they didn't have wrinkles.

SPEAKER_00 59:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 59:56

Because remember that little crackhead used to be in California. That joke was ripped.

SPEAKER_02 59:59

Man, he was ripped.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:00

Everybody knows about him. The one in Inglewood.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:02

Right by the uh, you the Starbucks used to be there and the uh uh uh uh burger place.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:08

Yeah, the burger place. It was right there across the street from Pans.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:12

From the uh, what's that burger place called? Uh Fat Burger.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:15

Fat Burger.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:17

The Starbucks and Fat Burger that um Caddy Corner on that. Magic Johnson used to own.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:21

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:21

You know, where they used to always have the run club at the uh at that Starbucks. At Ralph's right there. Yeah. And that little crackhead, he was ripped up. Never saw him work out, but he was ripped up for all three years.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:34

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:35

And so them hippos, they got they were probably running real fast, probably ripped up. And almost like Ozimpit.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:43

They was probably on O Zimpic. They was like, how do you hippo look?

SPEAKER_02 1:00:46

So they wasn't eating food. They was eating crack. I mean cocaine.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:49

Swimming real good in that water, too.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:51

Can you imagine?

SPEAKER_07 1:00:52

Yeah. Golly. And you know them little two teeth that they had, they probably rotted up.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:57

They ain't got no two teeth, too.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:58

Hippos do have teeth.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:59

Oh, the two front teeth?

SPEAKER_07 1:01:00

No, it's like right here. Like right here. Are you thinking of a hippo? No, hippo got teeth right there.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:05

No, I got to look it up.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:06

Yeah, they do. Look at them. Yep. But them jokers, boys. So you got cocaine sharks, cocaine bear, cocaine hippos. What's next?

SPEAKER_02 1:01:19

Who do y'all think will be? Oh, animal eyes?

SPEAKER_07 1:01:21

Yeah. It's something going on. What? I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:24

Something like that. It's some cocaine, yeah. The last thing we need is some cocaine monkeys. Oh, yeah, that's. That'd be crazy.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:33

Because they already naturally ADHD.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:35

It's a rap. It's a rap.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:37

Well, what about a cocaine gorilla?

SPEAKER_07 1:01:39

Yeah, he's gonna be, yeah, he's gonna be jacked up. He already strong too. When they get to them zoo, they bust them, uh bust through the blast, yeah. Yeah, yeah, you don't want that.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:50

We don't want that blow.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:50

They need to start stashing the weed away then.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:53

Uh uh.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:54

Then birds will be walking to get into some weed. They won't even be flying no more.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:58

No.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:58

I'll be flying upside down.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:00

Glide. People like, why not birds just kind of like this? Glide.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:04

And giraffes won't even hold their nick up. No.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:06

They just be Yeah, or camels.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:09

Yeah. Camels, yeah. They yeah, they be dragging. They humps will be sideways.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:13

Oh, now this will be an interesting animal to have on cocaine. A sloth.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:19

Oh, yeah. Man, but moving real fast, gliding.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:22

I ain't never seen a slump go that fast. When we was in Costa Rica, you just see them and they just kind of move.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:28

Casually take their turn.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:29

Yeah, I mean, so slow.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:31

They crossing the street, like we had to go around them because they wouldn't cross the street fast.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:36

They just move slow.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:37

Yeah, they get on cocaine. Man, we'll be like, even the monkeys that was in them tree.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:41

When we was going, they was they was going through there. That'd be crazy.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:48

Something else getting ready to be on cocaine. Y'all better watch out in the world. We got hippos, we got bears, we got sharks.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:54

And why they all got cocaine?

SPEAKER_07 1:02:56

Cocaine. Cocaine, hell of a drug. Rick James told y'all. Rick Jane told y'all. Rick James, bitch. You told you, cocaine is a hell of a drug. So that's our other believe it.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:07

Believe it, sister, the hippos on cocaine.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:09

Or believe it, veterinarians. Crack hippos now. Yep. Crack is whack and crack me. Kill Applejack. Remember that? He jumped in and he didn't jump back. He was just too blind to see that. Def lives in a rock house.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:24

You remember that song? What about the song? They said, Yo mama on crack rock.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:30

Your mama owned crack rock.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:32

No, she ain't. Yep.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:33

That's a really good song right there. I just love that song. All right.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:37

Okay. All right.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:38

So what's next?

SPEAKER_03 1:03:38

We're ready for the side eye. What is your side eye of the case? Oh, I had one too.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:45

Oh, I'll be.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:45

I'm ready. You want to think about yours?

SPEAKER_02 1:03:47

Yes.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:47

Give me, give me yours, and then I'll I'll give you mine.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:50

Well, I'm side eyeing myself again. Okay. Okay, so I um um on Monday or Sunday, I I heard this uh right before I went to bed on TikTok, Instagram. Some good inspirational, like little things. And so it was encouraging you to spend the week being positive. Being positive. And I was like, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do it. I'll spend a week being positive. I'm gonna be mindful of my thoughts. All right, all things. So Monday got up, it was like being positive all day. I'm driving, and all of a sudden I hear myself, what is you doing? I was like, Oh, that's not Lord, I'm sorry. I said I was gonna be positive. It's all right, just take your time. There you go. But I immediately did. So what it did, it made me aware of when I'm not positive.

SPEAKER_07 1:04:38

Self-awareness. Um I mentioned that to you, remember? Yeah, because you said something about it, so what are you gonna do about when you're driving? Yeah, because you were saying, I'm in my you know, I'm driving, I'm I like to be peaceful in my thoughts. And I was like, Well, when you driving, you be peaceful.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:52

But I'm some of my thoughts I don't be though. When I turn everything out, but I was I was like, oh Lord. So that is what I'm gonna work on. So, but I side on myself because I mean I wasn't good into my drive before.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:05

You gotta change it.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:07

So, anyways, so yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:09

Well, I'll give you my most recent side, but I couldn't even think. I definitely had some good. I said, Oh, I got some choices this week. Okay, choice. And I know some of them had to do at work, but the main one is yesterday when I was returning something and picking up something else for our uh something new we're getting ready to try to do, and I'll tell you about that later. It's dealing with all this content stuff though. Um, but I said, I wanted some chicken bags. I just wanted a little some fried chicken wings. Yeah. And you know, I should have gone to Popeye's, which was behind me, but then I was like, KFC always hit their little spicy chicken.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:46

You know, the little chicken wings?

SPEAKER_07 1:05:47

Their spicy chicken wings always hit. But then I was getting ready to go get some, but then I said, Well, nah, I don't want to make that extra turn. Let me just dip onto the crib. And so I get there.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:59

You get what?

SPEAKER_07 1:06:00

Well, I get to the intersection. I said, it's a little place right here. So I decided to go to Carl. What's it called? Carl's or Junior's?

SPEAKER_02 1:06:08

Carl Junior.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:09

It's not Carl's Junior. It's something else. I don't think it's Carl's. I think it's just called Carl's.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:13

I don't think you went to Carl's. That's not what that place is called. It is. Look it up.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:17

It's called Carl's. Look on your phone.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:19

No, I know what you're talking about.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:20

Okay, well, just look on your phone and see if it's called Carl's. Or Jax, maybe. Yeah, Jax. So it's not like Jack in the Box.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:26

It's not Jack. But sometimes I was like, is that Jack in the Box? It's not Jack in the Box.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:29

It's called Jack's. So it's Jack's, right?

SPEAKER_02 1:06:31

Sorry, Carl's Carl's Jr. He was trying to.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:33

Sorry, Carl Jr. But if y'all got some chicken wings you want to sponsor your boy, I can send them over the hill.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:38

Dang goddamn.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:38

I'm a chicken wing connoisseur because I'm allergic to beef and pork due to a tick I got bit when I was hunting back in the 90s.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:45

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:46

All right, but anyway, so I go over there. I order everything. I mean, they're very nice people. Yeah. You know? All of us in there working.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:53

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:54

But everybody's waiting for their food. Yeah. And so they pull on up right here. I said, well, I pull here. He said, oh, you can park. I said, well, I just pull up when this car give me a lease. Alright, no problem. So I pull up. I wait for 10 minutes. They come back. What you ordered again?

SPEAKER_00 1:07:08

Oh no.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:09

I said, I just ordered the plain chicken wings and the strawberry. It's like a strawberry cream pie. Just want to try that. Okay. And so they go back, come back with my chicken, open up my box. It had a little smell to it. Like a little greasy. But I said, that could be a good sign.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:30

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:30

Because there was a lot of us in there. They probably fried them right. You know, but greases are, you know, fast food greases.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:35

Well, you have fried chicken, so it should be.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:37

Even outside, right. Even outside look greasy.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:39

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:39

So I got, I took a bite and said, well, nah, I'm good. Just ate and threw it and, you know, put the little thing to the side. Save it for Kahari, because you know, he eat anything.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:49

Why would you give Kahari nasty food?

SPEAKER_07 1:07:51

But because he eat anything.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:52

Okay. He don't eat anything. My baby does not eat anything.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:55

Well, he eat all anything I have, he eats it. He don't eat everything. Okay, he eats all my stuff.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:00

He eats the good stuff. But anyway.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:02

So then I took my pie, took my bite, my pie. I said, nah, shoot, ain't hidden. I said, now you can't mess up my fries. So I started nibbling on the fries. The texture was great.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:11

Okay. What kind of fries were they?

SPEAKER_07 1:08:12

The uh crinkle. Yeah, the crinkle fries. You know. I got me a good crinkle fries. Oh, okay. Texture was great. Not real crunchy, not real soft. But then I said, don't taste right. They taste flamiliar. Don't taste nasty, but it just don't taste like regular fries. So I bit it again and I looked at my finger. My fingers were kind of yellow. So that's the salt. I knew it was a salt, but I was like trying to figure the seasoning. And I took a few more. You know, I said, it's interesting. And I said, This is popcorn salt.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:46

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:47

They done put popcorn salt on the French fries. What's it called again? Junior? Jax. Jax. At Jack's in Dallas, Georgia. I said, boy, they don't know Jack about Jack. I was so mad. I was like, my whole little taste was ruined.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:04

Well. No we say. I meant you didn't need it.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:08

But you never know until you get it.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:10

That's right.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:10

You know, so.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:11

What about your little pie?

SPEAKER_07 1:09:13

The pie was, it was um, it wasn't um, it was now crispy. It just wasn't the the flavors didn't didn't have the true flavors of it.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:25

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:25

You know what I mean? It was like a it was like a cheaper version of it.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:28

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:29

Yeah. So that's all it was. It's uh whatever jacked is just a jacked off version of somebody else.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:38

Uh-huh.

Gratitude Birthdays And What’s Next

SPEAKER_07 1:09:38

And we don't even know who it's I was disappointed. Very disappointed to say the least. But uh, that's my side eye. So let's let's uh tell about our gratefulness. Let me go first.

SPEAKER_04 1:09:49

Okay, go.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:50

I am grateful that I know we gotta get the AC done. I mean the the the th furnace and stuff, but I'm grateful that we do have AC.

SPEAKER_04 1:10:03

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:03

You know what I mean? That it didn't just like shut down, but we still gotta decide.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:07

We need to decide.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:08

And I and I said we're deciding on the very cheap one. Okay. That's it. But the thing about the cheap one to finance.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:15

We're talking about it.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:16

Yeah, but we're deciding, like, m by Monday, we're just gonna say, boom, this is it.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:19

That's it, we're doing it.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:20

This is it.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:21

We're doing it.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:22

And but I'm grateful that we're like things could be real bad. Like, uh, you know, the media and all that stuff, it's a lot of stuff going on.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:29

It is a lot of style.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:30

You know, um, but we're good. I put$70 in my G. I ain't never put$70 in my G.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:36

It's crazy.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:37

70,$77 in my G. And um, but I had, we, you know, the means to do so.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:47

So I'm grateful. Thank you, Lord, for for that. Um, and he just keeps making a way, man. Keeps making a way. So, and I come home, my wife treat me right. She don't, you know, she's a good lady. She's a good old lady. So I'm grateful.

SPEAKER_01 1:11:08

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_07 1:11:09

Because it could be where I be feeling for them folks out there talking about they lady but I got me a good lady, y'all.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:16

I'm grateful for. Ciao. Go ahead. Well, I'm grateful for um a husband that is supportive and encouraging. Um, my plate has been pretty full for the last four months. And um, he has not complained about it. He's just encouraged it.

SPEAKER_07 1:11:37

Let's do it.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:38

And um made it easier um and encouraged me to take care of myself. Um, so I'm grateful um for that, that I can do what I need to do and um still come home to a happy place. So I'm grateful for that.

SPEAKER_07 1:11:57

That's what, you know, I'm uh my whole purpose or my whole goal is to just make sure you're comfortable and happy. Whatever that looks like. That's what I that's my joy to know that you're you're good.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:12

That's what I do.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:12

I forgot to say, did y'all notice something different about this guy over here?

SPEAKER_07 1:12:19

I had to shave my beard because it wouldn't fit in the the uh the head of the Bow Wizzle costume, the Snoop Dogg costume. And then when I shaved it, it still didn't work. The chin strap didn't work, so it's cool. It made me look a little slimmer.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:33

So he's here, he's here with the goatee.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:35

Yeah, little goatee.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:38

What's different?

SPEAKER_07 1:12:39

I'm different.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:40

Yeah, yeah. So he's on old Zimpick.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:43

Yeah, right. Somebody you got that face Zimbabwe. All right, uh, looking forward to what are you looking forward to?

SPEAKER_02 1:12:51

My birthday!

SPEAKER_07 1:12:52

Right, coming up, Lil' Coming up.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:55

My birthday is next Sunday.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:57

Yeah, yeah. My birthday is next. It's stuff that and it's I'm so mad because some of the stuff that I wanted to do.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:13:04

Then I went back and looked, and now it's like ridiculous? No, it's it's it was ridiculous. Now it's like, yeah, but it may not be able to do in time. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02 1:13:15

Okay, oh, okay, okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:13:16

So it's like I'm trying to say, well, also Mother's Day. Well, there's Mother's Day. That's what I'm saying. Mother's Day is coming, so it's like bam, bam, or what? So uh I kind of took a risk on something today. Okay. And we'll see what happens.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:27

We'll see. So yeah, super, I'm looking forward to that. So Sunday is my birthday, then the next week is graduation celebrations. And the most week is Mother's Day.

SPEAKER_07 1:13:37

I told y'all, May is always expensive.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:39

Yeah, May is all expensive.

SPEAKER_07 1:13:40

So always.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:41

Um, anywho, I am excited about um all of May. It's gonna be a um great festivity.

SPEAKER_07 1:13:49

Because remember that one year of May, we had my graduation in Arizona for the doctorate. The boys' graduation, boys' graduation, your birthday, and the mother's day.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:13:59

And we still took a trip. Is that was that the year we went to New York in July, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:04

Yeah, we went to New York in July with the godparents.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:06

Yeah, it was like we were rolling that year.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:09

That was such a fun trip, too, with the godparents and the boys. We had a blast.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:14

We had a great time.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:15

We had a great time with them. Yeah. Remember when we when we were doing the Ubers in New York, we just we kept getting crappy ones. And we ended up getting like a special needs exam.

SPEAKER_04 1:14:28

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:29

Goddad shows up, Malachi shows up, he's like, Oh, I'll get it. Uh, here comes the black uh Uber black, yeah Uber black, and we're like, oh, okay. So he had us looking crazy, but yeah. But we had a great, we always have a great time with the godparents. They're just so easy to travel with.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:46

Yep. So um, all right, so and you that's what you're looking for, your birthday and all that stuff. I'm looking forward to um, I'm looking forward to your birthday as well. I always do. Um it's it brings me stress because I want to make sure I get it right.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:01

Oh goodness. Um Kimani will be here so that you know that.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:05

But no, I'm but he's here then. I need to be now. You know what I'm saying? The prep.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:11

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:12

Like, did I, you know, okay go here, let's see if I can get this, go here, do this, and do that, do that, do that. Um, but um, so I'm gonna just start doing like other Folge Geese gift card here.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:23

I wish you would now do that.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:26

Um, but no, that's what I'm looking. I'm looking forward to your birthday. It's just fun. I like I like when you celebrate.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:31

Um, and that's really it. You know, nothing else.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:34

Alrighty then. Well, we ready to go?

Closing Shoutouts And Listener Requests

SPEAKER_07 1:15:37

Yes, let's get out of here. Um, we're done for the day. Uh, thank y'all for watching the clips. Uh I I like loaded y'all up last night with some clips um or Friday night. Um, I'm gonna throw y'all some more tonight of this episode.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:54

Uh we're gonna jump on them and um tell us what y'all would like to see, hear, talk about.

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Oh, yeah, what y'all want us to talk about.

SPEAKER_07 1:16:00

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SPEAKER_00 1:16:28

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SPEAKER_02 1:16:42

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SPEAKER_02 1:17:26

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SPEAKER_07 1:17:28

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SPEAKER_02 1:17:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:31

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SPEAKER_02 1:17:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:31

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SPEAKER_02 1:17:38

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SPEAKER_07 1:17:39

That's how y'all know us. Yeah. All right, y'all. We're gonna get up out of here, go get us something to nibble on. Yeah. I have a little nibble this morning. We're gonna get another nibble later on tonight. Oh, we talk about food. My bad. Oh my gosh. Goodbye, everybody.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:53

Goodbye.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:54

All right, y'all. Peace.

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