The Refreshingly Normal Podcast with Kēfla and Cree
The Refreshingly Normal Podcast
Welcome to The Refreshingly Normal Podcast, where real life meets real laughs. We are Kēfla and Lucrecia (Cree), a married couple of 22 years, long-time educators, and now stepping into the world of mental health counseling. Think of us as your favorite Unc and Auntie of the podcast world, keeping it honest, heartfelt, and hilariously human.
We’re also proud parents of twin young men who just turned 21 and are officially stepping into adulthood, which means paying their own bills (finally!). From raising kids to letting go, we’re navigating this new chapter with the same mix of love, humor, and a little side-eye.
Each week, we dive into the ups and downs of parenting, love, marriage, dating, and everything in between, served with a side of humor and practical wisdom. Whether we’re sharing lessons from the classroom, stories from our travels, or awkward moments at the gym or dinner table, one thing’s for sure, we keep it refreshingly normal.
So grab a cup of coffee (or a protein shake) and join the conversation. It’s therapy meets kitchen table talk… and you’re invited.
The Refreshingly Normal Podcast with Kēfla and Cree
When Life Changes Fast
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A job offer can feel like a miracle when you’ve spent a year grinding, doubting, and still showing up anyway. We’re talking about the real-life chain reaction that starts with CPR certification, turns into a last-minute interview, and ends with a new elementary PE teaching job that actually fits. We also get honest about what it costs to chase opportunities when time is tight and you’re trying to protect your marriage, your health, and your peace.
From there, we jump into a boundary question that hits a nerve: what do you do when you’re 18, paying rent to your parents, and they still treat your room like community property? We react to an “Am I the A**hole” story about moving out with zero notice after being told to give up a paid-for space, and we break down family power dynamics, fairness, and what respect should look like when money is involved.
Then it’s “Believe It, Sister” time with two headline stories that sound like a movie but aren’t: a fatal patio umbrella accident during sudden severe weather and a dog accidentally firing a shotgun in a vehicle. We pull out the lessons, talk summer safety, and end with side-eye moments, gratitude, and a reminder to check yourself and refill your own cup before you try to carry everybody else. If you enjoy real marriage talk, faith-driven perspective, and funny stories with a point, press play, subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave us a review.
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Playful Intro And Quick Catch-Up
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SPEAKER_02Yeah, the Melissa Ford in the in the podcast. No. She was a video vixen back in the day.
SPEAKER_05Remember we listened to her book?
SPEAKER_02No, that was Superhead. That was different.
SPEAKER_05And who you say?
SPEAKER_02Melissa Ford.
SPEAKER_05Isn't that the same person?
SPEAKER_02No, Melissa Ford is the one that's on that podcast with like uh she was on that one with Joe Budd and them. She's the one that had an accident and she got real, um, she had a bad, bad accident.
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SPEAKER_05I love the writer.
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SPEAKER_02That's what I said, video vixing, but you're talking about the one that was doing all the other stuff. That's superhead.
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SPEAKER_01I love when she's wrong. I love when she's wrong.
SPEAKER_05Why did you done say her name before? You just thought of it. You didn't say Korean.
SPEAKER_02But I never mind. It don't even matter. It don't even matter. You know what? You want me to be wrong? No, be wrong.
SPEAKER_05You're right. But ain't no buts.
SPEAKER_02It's either right or wrong. I never seen but as a multiple choice question. Is it a yes or no, true or false, A, B, C or D?
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SPEAKER_02Let's go. Yeah. This is starting off great for this episode.
SPEAKER_03Anyway.
Work Wrap-Up And Summer Transition
SPEAKER_02So how was your week? Let's recap.
SPEAKER_05My this was the last, well, almost the last week. My official last day is this coming Monday. However, it won't be.
SPEAKER_02Last week in the building, though, right?
SPEAKER_05But my last day in the building was pride.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_05Um, and so this week was just really finishing up things, closing out the year, finishing up um presentations that I will need when we come back in July. So finishing up those for approval. So I was doing that this week and closing out all of that kind of stuff. Um, last run throughs for our presentation at the conference next week or this coming week.
SPEAKER_02How many days is the conference?
SPEAKER_05The conference is two and a half days. Well, maybe more than that. If you do, you know how people pay to do the pre-conference. Like they like Sunday, we get there. And some people, like there's some a couple of pre-sessions on Sunday? Mm-hmm. Uh there might be. I don't know. Oh, but sometimes they have pre-sessions. But we are set to attend our session, first session Monday. So Monday's a full day, Tuesday's a full day, and then Wednesday there are a couple of sessions, a half a day.
SPEAKER_02Do you have to present Wednesday also?
SPEAKER_05No. We are our presentation is Tuesday.
SPEAKER_02Okay.
SPEAKER_05So we just we're presenting once.
SPEAKER_02And you stay until Wednesday?
SPEAKER_05Yeah. And so we get leave Wednesday morning. About 11.
SPEAKER_02Okay.
SPEAKER_0511. Once when checkout is, is when um heading one.
SPEAKER_02So that gives you and you don't have to report back to the office?
SPEAKER_05Done.
SPEAKER_02Hey, so do you get this leap?
SPEAKER_05Yeah, so Wednesday, I'm sorry, yeah, just Thursday and Friday. And Saturday because my flight is later on Saturday.
SPEAKER_02Okay, you cancel. Yeah, you can't.
SPEAKER_05My flight is later on uh in the afternoon on Saturday. So then, anywho, so that was my week. Um, have clients all week. Um, everybody made it except for just one little person, forgot about their appointment. So that was about it, but everybody else made it and had I had two new clients this week. So I got two new clients this week.
SPEAKER_02So in total, what's your load?
SPEAKER_04Three, six, nine, eleven, fifteen.
SPEAKER_02What did you start with that first week?
SPEAKER_04Oh, that first week not many.
SPEAKER_05I probably started the first week. I'm trying to think of the ones I just did updated their things. Uh five.
SPEAKER_02Five to fifteen.
SPEAKER_05And so, and of my clients You talking about that check was nice. Yeah. So of my clients, only um it it actually is more than I count my new because well it's still I I got if that's not correct, you guys. Because some of them I have to see bi-weekly.
SPEAKER_08Okay.
SPEAKER_05So I actually have I see some of them bi-weekly. So really, if I counted all of them up, I have eighteen.
SPEAKER_08All right.
SPEAKER_05I have eighteen, but three of them I see bi-weekly. All right, therapy? Four of them I see bi-weekly. Well, that's wrong too. That's 19. I don't know. You got 19.
SPEAKER_07I don't know.
SPEAKER_05I have 19. Four of them I see uh biweekly. And then what I think, I don't know, I'm just gonna toot my own horn. Two to two. Alright, two to two. Um most of all of my clients I have seen for a great amount of time. Um from my start to now, I've only had uh well, I never saw her. Three of them that started, but for whatever reasons didn't continue. Whether it was we weren't in a good match or they weren't ready for therapy, whatever the reasons um may be. I know one of them because he they didn't want to do it, and they were parents were making them do it, and I guess they won that, they won that battle. Um, but the other two, I'm not quite sure why they stopped, but anywho, so I think that's a pretty good percentage going. So, yeah, I feel good about that. So maybe I'm doing a pretty good job.
SPEAKER_02I think you are.
SPEAKER_05Yeah. So how was your week?
SPEAKER_02My week was pretty good. It it uh ended on a high note. Um, it started with me getting uh CPR certification. Yeah, yeah, CPR certification for my internship. Um And you know, I used to be I used to be the CPR instructive. You were the instructor, yeah. When I was in Clayton County, I used to I used to do the very same thing I was sitting down having that guy do. And then he was like, Man, you're very knowledgeable with this because you ask us questions and I would hit things. Boom, boom, boom, boom. Oh, it's on your knowledge. I said, Well, I used to be a CPR instructor back. He said, Well, hey, if you're we always need people here at the Red Cross. And you know, we can for if you look for a part-time, I said, I might not have to think about that because I could do some Saturdays, you know, whatnot. Um, so I I I I honestly think I might think about that. But right now, we already don't have no time together, you and I. So it's like, and once I start interning, it's gonna be, we're gonna be strangers. And I'm not trying to have that.
SPEAKER_06There's a stranger in my heart.
SPEAKER_02It's gonna be one in mine.
SPEAKER_06Took some time to figure out.
SPEAKER_02Ain't gotta figure it out. I already know.
SPEAKER_06There's no way it could be.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, she is who she says she is.
SPEAKER_06Gotta be someone else.
SPEAKER_02Nope, I know who she is. She better start touching me like that.
SPEAKER_06All right.
SPEAKER_02Oh. I was ready. But anyway, um, and then I went on an interview, last-minute interview for an elementary PE position that I saw. As soon as I sent the stuff out, boom, got a phone call. Uh was it shortly thereafter?
SPEAKER_05Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_05Or email or something.
SPEAKER_02It was a call. It was a call. Oh, they called. They called, said, um, the secretary. Yeah, the secretary called and said, uh, would you be willing to do an interview? So I said, yes. Because you know, I was supposed to have been going from high school special ed to middle school special ed. And uh, you know, this time in my life I want to do elementary PE because I'm approaching the retirement side of education. And then PE, that's one of the spots people do. You know, elementary. They either die in that position, retire, or look, they just push them out because they're too old. And so I was like, I need an elementary PE. And I want to get that youthfulness um spirit of education back. Not of myself, but the reason why we came in it was the why. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because you started in Started in it, full circle, yeah. And it was P-I.
SPEAKER_05I mean P-E.
SPEAKER_02P-E-P-I-E. And so um I the lady says, so we have an 8:30. I said, yes. Nine, um, 10 o'clock. And I said, no, 8:30. I mean, I was just trying to give you, I said, no, ma'am. You don't have to give me no other time. I'm gonna take that first one. She started laughing, and I did the interview, and I went in there, and I was just my unique self. Um, just being who Kefla Hare is.
SPEAKER_05Um nailed it.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, I nailed the interview, thank God. Um, and then the next day, they wanted, well, that same day they told me I update some things and I update. I said, Oh, this is a good sign, it's a good sign. I didn't want to get too excited, but then also I didn't want to not get too excited because I didn't want to feel like I didn't have faith that this was for me.
SPEAKER_04Yeah.
SPEAKER_02And so I stopped myself instantly and said, no, let's go. Feel it. God, this everything that all the no's that you've had, you know, the interviews that you uh knocked out the park, but they say you was inexperienced for, you know, other jobs, other things you were inexperienced for, and they gave it to an inexperienced person. All of this was to lead you to this role. And um, I had to do a Teams interview online with the uh department that I would be working with, and I knocked that out the box. They answered all their questions, I gave them some great questions, and then was at the gym, got that call that they would like to offer me the job, and I took it. Yes, Lord. I was so excited.
SPEAKER_05Can I say something? Okay, yeah, say what you want to say. The interview was Thursday, Wednesday. I think you had called me that afternoon and said that the job had posted or something like that. So that morning, because I know you had been having last week was a rough week, but for whatever reason, I said I'm gonna do my prayer is all for you. Like I always pray for you and the boys, but that prayer was solely extra focused on you.
SPEAKER_02Get y'all a praying woman. That's the key. Get you a praying woman.
SPEAKER_05It was just for you. And um I know that we don't always know. Well, I know we don't. Ain't no, we don't know what's best for us.
SPEAKER_02Right. But it was scary sometimes, we didn't.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, yeah. And we don't know what's best for us, but in order to fulfill the will that God has for our life, um, sometimes there are certain things and places things that we maybe are like, why am I here? Why am I doing this? Why didn't I get this? Why didn't they choose me? Why didn't they and that's what I said because yeah, so it does, you know, for whatever reason, which we don't know, it doesn't fulfill, you know, the will that God has over your life or whatever. But anywho-to-do, I did that super prayer.
SPEAKER_02I appreciate it.
SPEAKER_05And then when you call and said teasy and they did an interview, I was like, man, Lord, you work fast. I just said that super prayer this morning. Yeah. And it it was super fast. Um, I don't know. I was like, what's that? You know, maybe I was like, sometimes I think you gotta be, you know how they say you gotta be very specific in what your prayer is. And sometimes I do know in the morning, sometimes I'm praying in the morning, I'm like, I'm rushing, and my prayer may be a rush.
SPEAKER_02Or a repetitive prayer. Repetitive verbiage that you've always said to say I'm it's a it's a uh what do they call it? It's just something I check, I check my box, yeah.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, a check mark, or sometimes in the morning I have to use the bathroom. So then I gotta be doing it. Sometimes I'm like, no. I think even that morning I said, no, I'm gonna go use the bathroom and then I'm gonna come back and do the prayer. So, anyways, um, yeah, so I'm so happy for you that you thank you.
SPEAKER_02I'm happy that you prayed for me.
SPEAKER_05That you get to I did good picking you. Oh Lord. So I'm happy that you really got something that you wanted. Yeah, it really wasn't you settling or thinking maybe this is where you ought to be next. But I know this is something you talked about prior to, but it's so hard to come by.
SPEAKER_02Um Yeah, it's something that you can't say, are you you think you might be settling? Because I know you've said that before.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, I'm always asking that, like thinking about that.
SPEAKER_02Do you think this may be something you're settling on?
SPEAKER_05This I know you're not.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, because even think about it, the week prior when something else came up, AP position came up, and you said, Are you gonna you said, are you gonna apply for any more APs or are you gonna let that boat sail? And I said, I'm gonna let it sell. I said, I'm not applying for anything else unless it's a what?
SPEAKER_05Uh elementary PE job.
SPEAKER_02That's exactly what I said, and that was like a few days. I don't know how many days, it probably wasn't that many days, but I I really said that.
SPEAKER_05And that's And what is so crazy about it is like a couple years ago, that's when PE was like really cut. Like the positions were cut.
SPEAKER_08Yeah.
SPEAKER_05Um, and for this to just open up, um yeah, it definitely divine intervention. Your new principal, what the even how she fit what she wrote in her email to you to me just solidifies the divine intervention.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, God showed us, He's He showed Himself today.
SPEAKER_05I mean I mean, even to speak through her.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, Charlie's move. I'm gonna start crying on that.
SPEAKER_05Okay, I'm sorry, but even for him to speak through her, yeah, just that makes you feel like that's the place because there's not many admins where that is spoken through them and feeling comfortable to speak it to you. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, and it's and you know, I I thought I said it's not any pressure on me. You know, because oh, she said this. I better make sure I do what I need because I'm always gonna do what I supposed to do.
SPEAKER_05No, but they want you.
SPEAKER_02That's what I'm saying. And so that's why it's not any pressure to do. It's not any pressure. I'm gonna do what I'm supposed to do. I always try to do what I'm doing.
SPEAKER_05You are, yes. We both are that way. We're just made that way.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, yeah. That's like you say, the the one of the worst things you can do to me is lie on me or say that I'm something that I'm not. That's I'd rather you hit me. But and to than to do that.
SPEAKER_05Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Because I work hard daily on being the the best, throwing up as the best person. Yes. Somebody you could trust, somebody that you could count on. Yeah, you know, being a just I I just my name and my likeness is all I have. You know what I mean? Well, it's important to you. Yeah, it is. So, yeah, and so I'm I'm I'm so grateful. So that's my week, man. Um Summer can officially start now. You know what I'm saying? Um I'm so just grateful, thankful, and deserving. And deserving, because this was a physical, not a physical, but it was the mental, mental, the mental uh strain that I went through this year took a big hit, um, or or caused a big hit and dip to my physical. You know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_05But guess what? What's that? What I will say about you is there are lots of things that happened, and of course, naturally to respond to them the way that your natural response would be. However, you showed up in a way like you weren't bothered by how things were. You still showed up for those babies, you still have to kept connecting with your students, you still went into that school every single day. Yeah, like you loved what you did. Not to say that you don't, but I can't say that you necessarily did not want to be in that role, yeah, right? But you just sort of like, you know what, I'm here and I'm gonna not, I'm gonna rock it out, I'm gonna do the best, and that's what you showed up in that, and that's what you did. Um, and I feel like that's like when we talk about tests, like I think like that's tests. Like, yeah, what do you do when you get placed in a space where you don't necessarily like how do you show up as a person? And you stepped in that building every day showing we're supposed to be like God. Yeah, you showed up every day with goodness, yeah, with goodness, with mercy, with joy, with purpose, with care, um, all of those things you showed up every day like, even to even though you didn't necessarily like what role you had to play and didn't have a choice in that. But I feel like like that is the test. And from the start of the year to the end, like the fact that you knew you weren't going back, and like you said, some of those teachers didn't that weren't coming back, didn't go through the graduation. But for you, you still showed up for those babies till the last day.
SPEAKER_02Still reported to my duty station. Yep, still came to work on time Friday when it was time to turn our keys in. Yes, yeah, still did everything, paid.
SPEAKER_05All the things, things that people who have a position in that school did not do.
SPEAKER_02Did not do, yeah.
SPEAKER_05So people who are able to stay in their role and do whatever, things that they didn't even do, and you knowing that you were not gonna be there, and then also being in a role that was kind of like, could somebody have done a little something, something to make sure I stay, you know. So, even with that, that you showed up in such a godly purposeful way. Yeah, you did.
SPEAKER_02I showed up so God could show out.
SPEAKER_05That's right, and there you go. And here's your gift.
SPEAKER_02Wait a minute, kids. You so you making me feel all mushy over here. You better be quiet.
SPEAKER_05Sorry, but that's the truth. That's the truth.
SPEAKER_02About to make me shit a tour. Okay, a two. But I thank you. But that has been my week, man. So summer is starting.
SPEAKER_05Um and you're coming with me.
SPEAKER_02Yep, coming with you. I'm excited to the uh to the coming to be on my work. To the festival. Oh, to I'm gonna have a festival. Y'all at the meeting, I'm gonna be eating it. I'm putting on about 30 pounds, get all fat and sand sick.
SPEAKER_05He's coming on my workshop with me. And the ladies on my team, um, they were so excited in regards to you having the interview and So the day that you have the interview, they were like, Kree, what time is Keith Food's interview? I said 8:30. And so um Alexa's like, it's 8:34. Okay, I'm praying right now. And so all of them went into prayer.
SPEAKER_02Appreciate it.
SPEAKER_05I hope that one word went into prayer.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_05And um they all did. And uh Jen was like, check it in. Has he heard anything? Has he heard anything? Has he heard anything? And she's like, because I know my birthday's Monday, but we're gonna celebrate Kiva Jeff. I know he's gonna get that. So yeah, thank you. A shout out to the ladies on my team that got it put in special little prayers and were just as excited for you as we were. So yeah.
SPEAKER_02The only problem is the school colors are them omega colors.
SPEAKER_03Oh no, yeah, they're purple and gold.
SPEAKER_02Shout out to all my omega homies. Yeah. But yeah, I gotta, I'm like, dang, I gotta get some purple and gold stuff. But I wear any color.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_02I remember I had in Troy, I had a shirt. It had um A5A in like blue, red, and I think purple.
SPEAKER_05Oh. Oh, because it was like representing all of the organizations.
SPEAKER_02But what I said, I said on the bottom, I said first in any color.
SPEAKER_05Oh.
SPEAKER_02And they was like, what? I had it made because I used to, you know, this place in Troy, she used to make custom all my stuff. Anything I wanted, she would custom. And I used to sport that sweatshirt, and everybody would look at me crazy. But all the bros looked at me like, oh, bruh, I love that shirt. I love that shirt. You know, so uh it was risky, but you know, old heads were never defame the name of Alpha in any other color, but old gold and black. Oh, gold and you know, those old guys. But anyway.
Paying Rent And Family Boundaries
SPEAKER_02All right, so uh let's move on to uh some good stories of the week.
SPEAKER_05All right.
SPEAKER_02So which one you want?
SPEAKER_05Well, you told me I'm doing the moving out of the parents.
SPEAKER_02Is that yeah, I like the buttons actually just read the Reddit part. Yeah.
SPEAKER_05All right.
SPEAKER_02Read it. You want to read it on that or your phone? I mean, on your phone and your laptop. You can read it right here. All right, you got them little eyes, some good eyes.
SPEAKER_05I have those, um, what's the names in my eyes? Oh, that's right. My readers are in my contact lenses.
SPEAKER_02That's right. Y'all need to get those progressive contact lenses.
SPEAKER_05All right. What is A-I-T-A?
SPEAKER_02Am I the asshole?
SPEAKER_05Oh!
SPEAKER_02A-I-T-A.
SPEAKER_05Am I the asshole? For moving out of my parents' house where I was paying rent and without any notice when I was told to give up my room again. So this is a male. He's 18, he has three younger brothers. They're 16, 13, and 12. Our parents were always a little harder on me than them. And I know that that can be normal sometimes. But some something that always drove me crazy is when they were hosting people from my dad's family, I would be the only one asked to give up my room to keep to keep them. People from dad's family stayed over a lot too. So there were a lot of times I had to sleep on the couch for them. And sometimes I didn't even get much notice. My brothers never had to give up their rooms. In fact, if there were more than more than usual, if there, if there were more than usual, my parents would blow, oh, okay, so if there are more guests than usual, my parents would add blow-up beds to my room for them, and the and the guest room would get a mattress or two depending on the situation. It always bothered me, and I spoke to my parents about it several times. I thought we had a breakthrough last year when they told me they had not wanted me to feel that way, and they would do better. After I turned 18, I started working full-time and started paying rent. One of the agreements we came to was there was no more me giving up my room. I told them since I was paying for that room now, the least they could do was respect that. This was never formally implemented and it was all just very between family. But what happened? A bunch of family visited a month ago, and my parents told me to give up my room for them to have space. When I tried to stand my ground and also talk to them about it, they told me it was their decision and it was their house. Instead of just accepting it, I called my grandparents on my mom's side and I asked if they had a room for me and were okay with me moving in. And they said yes immediately. And they came over to pack me up and move me in. My parents thought it was a joke until they saw all my stuff being brought out to my grandparents' car. My parents told me I couldn't just leave and I was paying rent, so I need to give them real notice. I told them if I was kicked out of the space I was renting, then I was just going to leave. And ever since my parents have been telling me to move back in, and they said it was childish to move out in such an overdramatic way. They told me I left the family members who were visiting feeling awkward and like they were intruding. Am I the asshole? First of all, baby, your parents are wrong. If there are three other brothers, and I'm assuming all of them have a room or some maybe two-share room, somebody got another room. And to me, to make it fair, if I were the parent, it would be a rotation. We tried to do that with the boys. Yeah, yeah. That um, if when they were little, if somebody came and it was more than just the guest room, like we needed another room, they would one of them would give up their room.
SPEAKER_08Yeah.
SPEAKER_05Um, but we tried to rotate it. And if we mess up the rotation, they always let us know. They always say, Last time, that'll be.
SPEAKER_02Last time they slept in my room.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, they would say it and we go, oh, okay. So then we would swap it or skitch it out. But we did that. But then when the boys got of a certain age, they didn't have to share their room. Um air mattress. Yeah, we there were air mattresses for extra guests that stayed past the guest room. That's what we did. Personally, for me, I mean, if I were visiting someone's home and the only room left was the 13, 15-year-olds room. I don't think I ain't gonna see no matter.
SPEAKER_02No, especially little boys.
SPEAKER_05I just don't think I want to do that.
SPEAKER_02Especially little boys.
SPEAKER_05Um, yeah, I just no. I think I'd rather have the air mattress personally.
SPEAKER_08Yeah.
SPEAKER_05Um, so um that's I feel like he whatever what he did, it may have seemed um to the extreme for his parents, but they were wrong. I don't care if he is the oldest.
SPEAKER_02He said they never they never put booted the uh like that makes zero sense.
SPEAKER_05My only how do they never have to share their room?
SPEAKER_02My only thing is maybe his room was larger since he was the oldest child. So, you know, of course, you know, like Kurtz had the room had the better room. Yeah. Um De Nova and I had to share, well, we had the big bedroom that Sponky sleeps in now a lot. We had that room because it was smaller than the one that the boys sleep in. Well, Kimone or whoever was sleeping in that one room. So, but because we had two beds in there though.
SPEAKER_07Yeah.
SPEAKER_02You know what I'm saying? But when we were um when we had guests, we had to give up our space. You know, um we slept in the floor, but it was never to any guests that didn't have children. You know what I mean? So, like when Aunt Evelyn came, well, all of us slept in the living room, all the kids. That was fun, we didn't care. Yeah, you know, um, but it was never to the point where we, you know, we actually just like, yo, why am I constantly giving up my room where people can't? And that was only during the summertime. We didn't have many people visit us, you know, then.
SPEAKER_05Um, but And then people that come all the time to visit.
SPEAKER_02And that's what the kid was saying. He's like, they're coming a lot, and it's always my dad's side of the family, and they're coming more frequently than they normally do. Yeah. And so for him to have to give up his room all the time, I understand that. That is, especially now since I'm paying for it. Yo, bro, I'm paying for it. Yeah, once I start paying for it, hey, you need to kick X, Y, and Z out of their room, not me. But then I also thought how the grandparents were so eager to help him out. Because normally grandparents be like, Well, that's your mama. Then your family. You need to make space for your family. But they was, I thought when the grandparents did that, I said, Oh, they see that there's some wrong in this stuff too. Baby, come on. You ain't they ain't say nothing about no rent, they ain't say nothing. He's like, baby, come on, you you come on, move over here. And then what also upset me, well, not upset me, but when the relative said, We feel uneasy. He moved out.
SPEAKER_05Why do you feel uneasy? Why do you feel uneasy? First of all, if you know every time you come, he has to give up your room. At some point, I'd be like, please don't make him give up his room.
SPEAKER_06Yeah.
SPEAKER_05I know we've come to visit a lot. We are more than happy to sleep on the air mattress. If you broke out air mattresses some other times, then you can bring breakout air mattresses other times.
SPEAKER_02If you're traveling that often, you would have your own air mattress knowing that somebody, you know, is giving up the room. You know what I'm saying? If I'm coming to your crib all the time, I'm bringing my own.
SPEAKER_05Why can't sometimes they get a hotel room?
SPEAKER_02Yeah, but they may they may live so far. This thing about you go to Tuscan.
SPEAKER_05They come in so often.
SPEAKER_02You go to Tuskegee.
SPEAKER_05They come in so often.
SPEAKER_02Think about this now. Tuskegee. I'm trying to be close to you.
SPEAKER_05Oh, yeah. Where are you gonna stay?
SPEAKER_02Where?
SPEAKER_05Where are we staying?
SPEAKER_02Hey.
SPEAKER_05That is true.
SPEAKER_02I just think none of them little moat tails.
SPEAKER_05They also need to be considerate um of him. And like I get it with the because his brothers' ages, um, 16, 13, and 12. I mean, maybe he could have gone in the room with this with his 16-year-old brother. Maybe they could have, you know, been in a room.
SPEAKER_02Somebody, somebody sharing.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, something sharing. Something like that. Um, and then they got the 13 and 12-year-old. I just think there could have been something. There's some shifting going on. Shifting or something that could have been a bit different.
SPEAKER_02Maybe he had a bedroom with a bathroom. And that was that was why the you know, the whole the full bathroom. So they was like, yo, you gotta, you know, your uncle Joe gotta stay in the bathroom.
SPEAKER_05I get it. Uncle Joe got bad. Like for the boys, we were like, at some point, we were like, listen, yeah, they they need their own space. Correct. And personally, for me, I don't like for people to be all sleep on my sofa for days on end. And like, that's just uncomfortable. There's no privacy there, but then people, I don't know. I just don't want people sleeping and sweating and doing all the things on the sofa that everybody sits on to watch TV.
SPEAKER_02You know the difference between us and the sofa?
SPEAKER_05I just, I just don't, I don't know.
SPEAKER_02If somebody's sleeping, you know, because when we have a big gathering and they have to, you know, because but it's never like for a long time.
SPEAKER_05No.
SPEAKER_02And they sleep, because we got one of them sofas that is to really get some good sleep. But what we what would we do if somebody, we know somebody had to sleep on a sofa. Even when people had to sleep in here, what do we do when we come get up in the morning?
SPEAKER_03We're very quiet.
SPEAKER_02Come on now. But when we gotta sleep on somebody else's sofa.
SPEAKER_05Oh, ain't nobody quiet.
SPEAKER_02Oh.
SPEAKER_05Let me tell you how my parents.
SPEAKER_02Oh, ooh.
SPEAKER_05They so loud.
SPEAKER_02They so loud. I love them though, but they so loud.
SPEAKER_05They don't get up quiet. They don't get up quiet. You ain't getting no sleep. First of all, you're not even gonna be able to go to sleep because all the TVs are on in the house.
SPEAKER_02Hey, what did I do? What did I do? Remember, I went down there that one time.
SPEAKER_05They got the they just had the stereo on.
SPEAKER_02I turned the T with the stereo, the when she had the big stereo by the window in the kitchen, by the dining room. I turned it off. What happened?
SPEAKER_05She woke up. That's when she woke up.
SPEAKER_02Turn it back on.
SPEAKER_05And turn it back on.
SPEAKER_02And I went back down there.
SPEAKER_05I said, dang, I thought I thought I turned it off.
SPEAKER_02Because it's not, it's not on, like, you know, just you know, how you got ambient music. Oh, no. It's on as if, oh yeah.
SPEAKER_03No, that ain't what she listening to.
SPEAKER_02No, but I'm saying that's how loud it sounds.
SPEAKER_05What she listening to. I wanna know what turds you are.
SPEAKER_02I like to know. I like to know. That's how loud it sounds. And we in there trying to sleep.
SPEAKER_05Yes.
SPEAKER_02That's downstairs, and she's upstairs in the room next to us.
SPEAKER_05With the TV on.
SPEAKER_02And then Paw Paul downstairs, he done fell asleep.
SPEAKER_03TV on. Hunting on.
SPEAKER_01Yep, yep, yep, yep.
SPEAKER_02That's what we hear all that. He listened, he watches YouTube hunting videos. So we can't sleep it out.
SPEAKER_05You can't.
SPEAKER_02You can't sleep it out.
SPEAKER_05You can't sleep it out. So then they got that on. Then they get they sleep good through it. Oh, yeah. They used to it.
SPEAKER_02They gone.
SPEAKER_05They gone. They sleep. Get up in the morning. They down there cooking. Ow.
SPEAKER_02Ow.
SPEAKER_05Ow. And they just going and they just talking. And they just so loud. And I remember when I was, I think I was in college. And they were just so loud. And I was just got so frustrated. And I opened up that door. And I said, some people in here trying to sleep. And I slammed the door back in my chair. I was like, oh, she'd have lost her goddamn mind. I said, who she talking to? But they do, but that's just them. It's just so, and so it's just so funny. Like, I was raised with that. But then when you live on your own and you're like, wait.
SPEAKER_02It don't have to be like this.
SPEAKER_05It don't have to be like this. Like, wow, going to sleep without the TV on, and it's just quiet, and you can wake up to the birds chirping. Oh, this feels so much calmer.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. My mama says she'll come in.
SPEAKER_03Oh, God.
SPEAKER_02She'll knock on the door. Y'all sleep? I said, Mama Chris, sleep. Okay, well, I just wanted to ask her. I said, Mama, she sleep. Well, I just want Ma. Okay. And then she leaves. Now she's mad at me because I didn't want her to wake up my wife from sleep for something that she really didn't. Like, it could be like, what y'all want to do today? Yeah. Something that can wait. Yeah. Or she'll come down there and she'll try to open her the door to get something out of the closet that she really ain't going to wear. And I don't know what she just in there. And clanking everything in the closet. Clank it. Clank it. Clank it, clank it. And I be like, you really don't need nothing.
SPEAKER_05But now that makes sense to me why you like to lock your doors.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. I gotta have my privacy.
SPEAKER_05Yes. Ah now.
SPEAKER_02Come in and just be like, so this is what we're gonna do. No, you're gonna you're gonna knock at the door, and I'm gonna be acting like I'm asleep. Like I don't hear you.
SPEAKER_05And you have to because even when she was here, it was in the morning. We was getting dressed. I was in the shower. You was sitting, you get dressed, and I'll I think I came out the shower next. And she knocked at our door, but we didn't answer. We were we were having, we were really talking, we talk all the time. Yeah we were really in a deep discussion about something, and we were just talking, talking. He said, I think that's mama. And she just walked on in. I said, Well, I'm naked. Oh, I know you was naked.
SPEAKER_02Come on now. My house. Pay the bills.
SPEAKER_05So I can see down, like, well, I locked the door.
SPEAKER_02You must have gone and came back. You know, I locked the door all the time. I locked the door so much. Sometimes she'll be right behind me. And then I locked the door. She'd be like, why you locked the door? I said, My bad. It's a habit. It's a habit. I lock the doors all the time.
SPEAKER_03The doors.
SPEAKER_02All the doors.
SPEAKER_03Yes.
SPEAKER_02I'm just now getting to the point where I don't lock the garage door until late at night. Yeah. And but I'm so used to just locking it because if you come in, you should have a key. You know, but I just, yeah. That privacy is something. And I understand little man getting upset, man. You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_05Um, and I, you know what? You did the right thing. Yep.
SPEAKER_02I would have I would have done the same. I'd have moved out so quick too.
SPEAKER_05Yes, I'm still.
SPEAKER_02You paying rent, can't even enjoy the yeah.
SPEAKER_05I mean, that's literally like if you were renting an apartment and the landlord came and said, Hey, I need you to uh move out your place for a couple days because I got somebody else that's gonna be staying in your place for a minute.
SPEAKER_02No prorate on your on your amount.
SPEAKER_05No, keep on paying.
SPEAKER_02Just get on up out of here.
SPEAKER_05Get on up out of here for a couple days. I got some guests coming in.
SPEAKER_02Matter of fact, you can sleep in the laundry room.
SPEAKER_05Yes, that's what you can do.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, no, I don't think so.
SPEAKER_05I do not think so. So, sweet pea.
SPEAKER_02You are not the eyehole.
Freak Accidents And Hard Lessons
SPEAKER_02All right, so let's go to our Believe It Sister of the Week. Now we had a few. We had two stories to choose from.
SPEAKER_05Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Which one are we actually gonna choose? It don't matter.
SPEAKER_05We either short. I they're both a pretty short.
SPEAKER_02That's okay. So you want to do two Believe It Sisters?
SPEAKER_05Okay, let's do two.
SPEAKER_02Believe it sister. Oh, how do you want to do it? Which gonna be two?
SPEAKER_05Believe it.
SPEAKER_02Leave it sister. All right. So the first one, you got it ready? Pulled up.
SPEAKER_05I don't because you didn't tell me to, but I can find it real fast.
SPEAKER_02Well, hey, I got some victory points in this episode. Don't I do that?
SPEAKER_05You didn't tell me. You said it.
SPEAKER_02It don't matter, but y'all know. Y'all know. Y'all can chime in anytime y'all want to. You know what I mean? Y'all can throw me one of them life rafts on the if you got an iPhone. I don't know if it's a little bit more. Okay, got it.
SPEAKER_05I'm ready.
SPEAKER_02Put a life raft in the comments if you throwing me some help. All right.
SPEAKER_05Believe it, sister. Guess what, guys? There was a woman in South Carolina restaurant. Come on out. She was just sitting there, child, just finishing her eating her meal. And all of a sudden, she was struck in the head and the neck by a flying patio umbrella. Authorities were called to the Driftwood Grill in Somerton around seven around 7 40 p.m. and found the woman identified as Dana Winger, unresponsive with a laceration wound. The Clarendon County Coroner's Office said in a statement. Winger and her husband were eating at the restaurant when a gust of wind blew the umbrella from a table. The umbrella hit her in the head and the neck area. The case is being investigated as an accident, and an autopsy is scheduled for Wednesday. The Driftwood Grill said Monday in a statement on Facebook that there was a sudden severe weather event in the area Friday night. And they said this has deeply affected many people in our community, including guests, staff, first responders, and everyone involved.
SPEAKER_07Stabbed them.
SPEAKER_05Out of the respect of the family and those impacted, we asked for continued prayers, compassion, and privacy during this incredibly difficult time. So imagine you're outside having eating food outside. They probably have to listen out. Ooh, a little storm. It's windy out here. But some people okay, I'm gonna keep going because the lady has lost her life. But sometimes you gotta really look and say, whoo this wind is really.
SPEAKER_02I might need to get inside.
SPEAKER_05I might need to get inside. And that gust of wind came. So when they say her head and neck, I wonder what happened. How do you think it killed her?
SPEAKER_02So it blew off one table. Yeah. It probably, or it could have just bent and said, like on fatal, what's it not fatal attraction? What's that thing? That show called with all the deaths before.
SPEAKER_05It said laceration. When they say laceration, that means it could have. Whoa!
SPEAKER_02What's that show called? That movie came with all those crazy deaths.
SPEAKER_05How traumatic.
SPEAKER_02What's that movie called?
SPEAKER_05Total recall, no. Um, total destination.
SPEAKER_02No. Final destination. Final destination. There you go. Total recall. That's honest. What's that?
SPEAKER_05Okay, well, I was just blowing them out. That's how you get ideas.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. So yeah, I mean, but I understand because you know, you see videos when uh umbrellas like blow off tables and they float around. Y'all need to find that little girl.
SPEAKER_05What you think? How you say her name? Chanias?
SPEAKER_02Yeah, that's what's going on.
SPEAKER_05We keep getting this Chanias is missing. She's a little runaway. So if y'all see this, she's uh 11 years old, light skinned black female, short brown afro, afro with a bonnet on. Four nine, and she got a pink bonnet on. How they know she got an afro? She got a pink bonnet.
SPEAKER_02But the parents told her. Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_05Blue shorts with ducks on it, and mismatched black and white socks, possible cream color backpack. And she is in the Pauldon County area.
SPEAKER_02Real talk.
SPEAKER_05Somebody called 911. And y'all know, y'all say, we say, because oftentimes they don't look for us.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_05And somebody's actually looking for this um young lady. So if y'all see, we this is our time to take care of this baby. So they looking for her, so let's help.
SPEAKER_02All right.
SPEAKER_05By the time y'all see it, might be.
SPEAKER_02See, this is live. This is refreshingly normal. This is normal, normal. We normal.
SPEAKER_05Anywho.
SPEAKER_02That's what happened when you're normal.
SPEAKER_05So that can you imagine though, being at the restaurant and that you think that. Just seeing it. Oh man, that's so traumatic.
SPEAKER_02You'd be scared to not even go out to eat. I wouldn't be that's better than old Zimbabwe. Oh my what? Oh, child.
SPEAKER_05That's for people that eat out all the time. The next believers.
SPEAKER_02Alright.
SPEAKER_05This one here is uh I don't know what the believer sister is about that, but believe it.
SPEAKER_02She died from an umbrella. Umbrella killed her. That's believable. The only umbrella I known to kill people was the one from the penguin off bad.
SPEAKER_05That is totally a final destination freak accident sort of thing. Which, where they say life, what do they say? Life is is the word thing. Life is fragile, but that's not what I was thinking about.
SPEAKER_07Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_05But it is. So that I mean, just the idea of appreciating everybody every day. La, la, fly. I was gonna, I don't, I was gonna say, is it flight? No, that's wrong.
SPEAKER_02Don't worry about it.
SPEAKER_05I don't wanna say the wrong thing. I can't figure out the phrase I was trying to say.
SPEAKER_02Life be life.
SPEAKER_05Life does. But it just kind of shows to appreciate you know the people in your life because you never know. Like who would ever say, how do you, you know, think that that their death would be an umbrella from an outdoor restaurant line up, slicing your neck. Slicing your neck, that that would be your cause of death. Like, who would ever imagine that? Like, I would never Yeah, you couldn't write that script. You couldn't even write that.
SPEAKER_02That's just unless you're writing a horror movie. You know what I'm saying? Yeah.
SPEAKER_05Or yeah, that that's just really crazy.
SPEAKER_02And speaking of something you couldn't write, what couldn't you write? This story here.
SPEAKER_05There's another one.
SPEAKER_02So the story is called Police Respond to Gunfire at a convenience store. That's all I'm gonna say. After this person was shot with a shotgun. So they come in there ready.
unknownHow did they even do it?
SPEAKER_02They come in there ready. So in Scotts Bluff, Nebraska, the Scotts Bluff Police Department was called to a convenience store on Saturday after a dog accidentally shot a person with a shotgun. A dog, four-legged dog, old dirty dog.
unknownOh dirty dog.
SPEAKER_02Officers were called to a shortstop at 202th Avenue after receiving What's a short stop? It's like a gas station little thing. Like convenience store.
SPEAKER_05Who calls something a short stop?
SPEAKER_02What do people say? Oh, think about country for where you going? I'm finna make a little short stop right here and get something. You know what I mean? I'm gonna pick this up. Here we go, back a little short stop, get some.
SPEAKER_05Here we go back to Foley Light.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, because yeah, I keep forgetting in Wichita, y'all don't do y'all just hear Hey little house on prairie, y'all got any more milk and eggs for us? That's y'all convenience store. All right, so anyway, so they made after this receiving a report that a person has been shot by a gun. So while on the way, they were informed that the incident involved a shotgun. Upon arrival, officers found a truck with an attached camper. The passenger side door panel of the vehicle had been had taken damage. So when it shot, the shotgun blast blew the uh side door panel off. All right, according to the Scotts Bluff police, the owner of the truck had pulled into the convenience store while the passenger was standing near the front passenger side door. A dog in the back seat moved from one side of the vehicle to the other. The dog triggered a shotgun that had a live shell in the chamber. Oh, it should be against the law. The firearm to discharge in some places. Maybe not, maybe not there.
SPEAKER_05Why was there a gun in the chamber?
SPEAKER_02Hey, in the country, that's how you travel. You gotta be ready to shoot that thing, that that raccoon coming across the road. Oh gotta get it. That's dinner. That's supper. At the same time, I mean, at the time of the gunfire, um, a woman was stopped at the traffic light on Aven, on the edge road, with her arm resting out the window. One um actual Yeah, so she she was just somebody, a passenger. I mean, uh innocent bystander. Yeah, she just chilling, had her arm out the window. You know how people hold their arm out the window? And one of the uh buckshots hit her in the arm. Yeah, her injury was not believed to be life-threatening or anything.
SPEAKER_03It's just a buckshot.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, and a family member transported her to the uh hospital for treatment. So they still investigating the matter and whether or not to uh charge the dog with uh aggravated assault.
SPEAKER_05She could have pulled out herself.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, sometimes you can, but that'd be on TV. You see that. Pull dig up in there and pull it out. Depends on how deep it is. You would have pulled it out yourself. Lies. Exactly. So those are our two stories of the day.
Wild Childhood Stories And Pranks
SPEAKER_06Um What did you learn from these two stories?
SPEAKER_02I learned one, I learned that when when you see the weather getting bad, get up out of there. Don't be sent to, ooh, it's I hey, I'm okay. No, get up out of there. All right. And the other thing is, one, don't have a loaded gun in the car. Especially that shotgun when you got dogs. If it's not secure, it wasn't even secure because the dog was all around it.
unknownNo.
SPEAKER_02I understand now because some people could probably have a you know, a pistol, they have it loaded just in case, you know, somebody comes, boom, they ain't got time to, oh, let me get my clip, put it in and chit-chick, you know.
SPEAKER_05But it should have been somewhere where somebody could touch or step on it or oh, Rufus was back there. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Saying, you know, oh, so you you talk about you, you gonna take my nuts so that I can't hump no other dogs. I got something for you. Shot in the arm. That's what he did.
SPEAKER_05So it was the lady in their car?
SPEAKER_02Yeah, those that shot the passenger, shot the lady, the owner, and shot the when it went through, it shot the other lady.
SPEAKER_06Oh, damn.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, he got two of them.
SPEAKER_06He did.
SPEAKER_02He got two of them. Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_03Lord, having buried.
SPEAKER_02He's and and then it was two ladies. Because he said he tried to make a point. He said, How does hot lead feel? I don't know, because I can't use hot lead no more. The women that I'm messing with can't feel hot lead. That's what he was saying. So that's what's hot lead? Hot lead, what he called that thing.
SPEAKER_03Oh my god.
SPEAKER_02That's what they call that little dog thing.
SPEAKER_00Hey, Sparky, where's that hot lead?
SPEAKER_02But he ain't got it. So he said, I'm gonna get his hot lead to deal. And he gave it to him in the arm. Both of them.
SPEAKER_05Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_02Yep.
SPEAKER_05I'll say.
SPEAKER_02Because he was mad. You know, dogs like to hunch. You ever been hunched by a dog?
SPEAKER_05Yes.
SPEAKER_02See, they that's the as a kid, that's the most embarrassing thing.
SPEAKER_05It's so embarrassing. And if he's somebody else's dog, you be wanting to kick them across the room. Plenty of dog. But it's somebody else's dog, so you be trying to be nice, and they won't even come get their little stanky dogs. They be like, oh yeah, you bet. That ain't funny. Nobody wants your dog hunching on their leg.
SPEAKER_02Plenty of fights in my neighborhood started because somebody dog was punching them. I remember that one time we said that boy in my neighborhood said he had sex with a dog.
SPEAKER_05What?
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_05Oh, because the dog was hunching his leg?
SPEAKER_02No, we because the dog had.
SPEAKER_05No, I don't even want to hear this story.
SPEAKER_02The boy had a big head, right? And so his dog had puppies. And the puppies' heads were like they were not normal. And so some of them had to be, well, we didn't put them to sleep. They just probably just died. But they had real big heads. And so it's like, oh, he slept with that. Well, he didn't say, sleep. He f that dog. That's why the dog heads, the baby big. And everybody, the whole neighborhood went over that.
SPEAKER_03So that was a lie.
SPEAKER_02The whole neighborhood went over there to see the dog's heads. And everybody was like, oh yeah, he did. You know how little kids are. Once somebody said it, everybody rolled with it.
SPEAKER_05Poor baby.
SPEAKER_02So for a minute, he was known as the.
SPEAKER_05Did you spread that lie with everybody?
SPEAKER_02No, look. Did I go? I think I did go over there. And I said, oh wow. Hey, hey. You know?
SPEAKER_03Oh no. That's terrible.
SPEAKER_02But we thought he, we thought he had beastality going on because the dog, when she had her puppies, the heads were big. And he had a real big head.
SPEAKER_06Oh no.
SPEAKER_02Too. So you know, um, yeah. And that's what the story. Everybody in my neighborhood, y'all know what I'm talking about. That dude that had, they said he impregnated that dog, and then dog had babies. And then it was his kids.
SPEAKER_05He probably never was able to live that day. How does he feel today?
SPEAKER_02Oh, they had that that family had a lot of other stuff going on.
SPEAKER_05Oh, so it wasn't just that.
SPEAKER_02They had a lot of stuff going on. In my neighborhood, boys. We got stories for days.
SPEAKER_05Let me. We had this family in our neighborhood, and they came over and they was talking about um the sister had got laid. And so I was, I didn't know what laid meant. And then I told my mom, I said, Yeah, they came over here talking about this. Such and such got laid. So my mom said, She did what? And I was like, Well, what's wrong with the word laid? Who talked who said that? Who was the word? And then finally, it's like I got older.
SPEAKER_02You started learning what laid mean.
SPEAKER_05What laid meant. And I was like, oh, I didn't know I was saying that, but yeah, she got laid. I thought, oh Lord, I didn't even know what that meant.
SPEAKER_02I remember one time, it's about me.
unknownOh Lord.
SPEAKER_02Me and one of my close friends.
SPEAKER_03Yes.
SPEAKER_02My older brother, these idiots. Well, I guess we the idiots.
SPEAKER_03Okay.
SPEAKER_02But we were young. Yeah. We didn't know. You do you listen to your older brothers and older cousins are gold.
SPEAKER_08Yeah.
SPEAKER_02You know, they teach you about manhood. They let you see your first porno magazine. You know, you play boy, and let me show you this. Watch this. And you like, oh my God, come here and listen to this. And you in the hallway listen to them make out with their girl. And you were like, oh, that's amazing, you know, as a little kid. They told us in order to make our little manhood grow, we had to go in the cornfield and you put dig a hole and put the corn, you pull the corn shucks in the hole, and you had to put your thing in there and hunch it. And it's something in the corn shucks. That's why corn grows and it's so hard. If you do that, your thing will grow hard. And how about me and my friend actually did that?
SPEAKER_03Oh my god.
SPEAKER_02But we had no idea. And we said, man, we're gonna, them thing gonna be hard like that corn.
SPEAKER_05I can't believe you said that out loud.
SPEAKER_02Hey, look, it's a lot of stuff. I ain't look, I'm not extending.
SPEAKER_05Look, you need to write a funny story. I'm telling you. You can write a sitcom.
SPEAKER_02It's so much that happened in our life that my brother.
SPEAKER_05We could write a sitcom.
SPEAKER_02So look, that's just one of the things that my brother made us do.
SPEAKER_03You call your sitcom.
SPEAKER_02I don't know. Look, but but my my older brother and his friends told us, and we did that, and uh we was just knowing. And then you be checking. Yep, I think it got in let the next morning. What about you? Because you know you wake up well, guys wake up in the morning. Oh my god. You wake up in the morning, and you, but you had a we used to have a little ruler we used to measure. Oh my god. Yeah, I think it did get long. Mine got like a little extra centimeter longer. So if we keep doing this, it's gonna get long.
SPEAKER_05So y'all kept on doing it. Oh my gosh. And I bet cursing them and just laughing at y'all. Oh my god.
SPEAKER_02I think like after a week, they was like, man, we know we we've tricked y'all. What? And you know, here we go.
unknownWoo!
SPEAKER_02Trying to fight them mad. And you know, that's when they used to put their hands like this, and you couldn't even fight them, you know, because they was bigger and stronger.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, that's my brother used to do that too.
SPEAKER_02And so, but yep, being my homeboy, you know, to save the name, because I got a lot of homeboys to save the piece. I ain't gonna say what homeboy. But he knows who it is.
SPEAKER_03You talk to your homeboy. Oh, I'm gonna tell my speak my truth.
SPEAKER_02Look, that was that was uh hilarious. Oh my god. And as I got older, like, and when I got old, I was like, man, I can't believe them fools, man. You know, you know, they told us to do that, we did that. But it was stuff like that happening when we grew up. Like they would tell kids to do this, tell us to do that. And we did it because we trusted our older siblings and cousins and stuff, man. Because but they would, it wouldn't be nothing that would take your life.
SPEAKER_05You sometimes I think somebody obviously probably did them that way, so maybe you're gonna be able to do that. Of course.
SPEAKER_02Of course. I'm telling you, because you think about it, you know, with Kurtz, you had Vince and our other older cousins, you know.
SPEAKER_05And they probably couldn't wait to get somebody else.
SPEAKER_02And think about it, there's nothing else to do in the country but creative stuff like that. You know what I mean? There's like that's why all our stories are so crazy because there was nothing else for us to do. All of my injuries are so funny because it's like it was me climbing trees, dropping out of trees, and doing all kinds of craziness. You know what I'm saying? So, yeah, that was one that that story there is for the uh yeah, it's for the books there.
SPEAKER_06For the books.
SPEAKER_02Definitely gonna be, it's gonna be in my um chapter book.
SPEAKER_06Okay, chapter.
SPEAKER_02That will come out. Um, I would say, what's this, 26?
SPEAKER_06Yeah.
SPEAKER_0228. It comes out 28. Yeah.
Side Eye Moments From Real Life
SPEAKER_02So um, side eye of the week. That could be a side eye if I was back then.
SPEAKER_05I had a side eye.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, you thought about it. You said, oh, I know it's gonna be sort of a little bit.
SPEAKER_05And it was something that happened either Sunday or Monday. Was it something we ate that was terrible?
SPEAKER_02Where did we eat? Sunday.
SPEAKER_05Sunday we did with with uh Noli. So that was okay.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, that was good. Um and then Monday. Did we do anything Monday?
SPEAKER_05No, Monday you you um, yeah, Monday we didn't because you made um the lamb chops for dinner and everything.
SPEAKER_02Okay, that was Monday, yeah. Um I don't know.
SPEAKER_05I know, I just really can't think of what it is.
SPEAKER_02So, what would my side eye of the week be? Um, I would say my side eye of the week was probably and I probably shared this already once before, but it it uh came up again in the gym. Um there was somebody in there with uh very bad, very, very bad odor. I mean very bad odor, but it was the clothes. You know how the clothes smell real spoil? And it got to the point where I was like, I'm smelling myself.
SPEAKER_03I'm like, Oh, yeah, it ain't me.
SPEAKER_02And then I saw other people doing that, like smelling themselves. And so, and I was like, we looked at each other, we said, we was like, because it ain't me, it ain't me. And so, and then the guy came back around and we was like, and he looked at me and I looked at him, and he and so I was like, we knew like that's who it was. Um, and and the thing about it, it wouldn't be so bad if he didn't have an arrogant attitude, like while he was doing the weights and stuff. He's like, you know, just being trying to be arrogant at first. Yeah, just doing all this and stuff. And so I was like, bro, you just you flexing, all right. Yeah, you ripped. You need to take them clothes and rip them up. But you know, so that was one, and and then um I do, I know what it is. And and he he went into the sauna. I was just getting ready to go.
SPEAKER_05No, we did not take his little funky self and nobody's sauna.
SPEAKER_02I was getting ready because I as soon as I finished working out, I always wash my hands. And then I he walked past me and I was getting ready to go in the song. I saw him growing up. I said, ooh, all right, time to go. I left.
SPEAKER_06Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_02I said, nope, not me. I'm not going in there. So that was my side eye of the week for was for uh stinky people in the gym acting as if they don't stink.
SPEAKER_05Okay, I do know who my side eye is, and it really is for Ray J. Why did Ray J take his little not in shape heart conditioned self in that ring to get knocked out? Why Ray J do that? I had to side eye on him because he needs it. It had to be some uh some money that came along with him. He said he he trained for one week. And Ray J's out of train because he's been sick.
SPEAKER_02He's been sick, yeah.
SPEAKER_05Because he's been sick. Up and his mama was so upset with him.
SPEAKER_02I think Ray James. He got some. I think maybe some of the drugs he took um starting to take effect on him.
SPEAKER_05Oh my gosh, he is losing it. And and he doesn't see, he doesn't listen to anybody.
SPEAKER_02Nah. He's gonna do his thing.
SPEAKER_05He's gonna do his thing. He's not gonna listen to anybody. Chris Brown told him, don't go in there and get yourself knocked out, and he's showing up dead.
SPEAKER_02And everybody laughing now, too.
SPEAKER_05Oh, everybody laughing at him. Just, oh, Paul.
SPEAKER_02He fell into the little ropes and everything. That big old knot on his head.
SPEAKER_03Oh, poor Ray J.
SPEAKER_02And I and I know knowing Ray J, he'll probably get in there again to prove a point. He needs to fight somebody uh both of them was out of shape. He need to fight Shamar, somebody like that.
SPEAKER_05No, Shamar can be like Shamar. Shamar can fight.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, Shamar be windmilling too.
SPEAKER_05Wow, Shamar can fight.
SPEAKER_02Because Shamar, the reason why Shamar can fight is like, cause you know, a boxers you gotta move. And if you try to, if you try to like do a kidney blow, Shamar, he just do it one extra, and then that his back already bent, and you try to kidney punch him, that back even more. You're gonna miss.
SPEAKER_05You gonna miss.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, so that's one thing about Shamar. You can't really get no good body blows on him.
SPEAKER_05You can't, not for Shamar.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, and Shamar seeing when he cross-eyed, he he already sees like two spots he can hit you at with being cross-side.
SPEAKER_05Big Marco, I'm not gonna talk about you like that.
SPEAKER_02I like Shamar. You know what I'm saying? But I am not gonna deny the truth.
SPEAKER_05Okay.
SPEAKER_02You know, I'm just saying that's his, that's that's his uh advantage.
SPEAKER_05Interesting. How do you think? I wonder people that are cross-side, how the how the how their vision is.
SPEAKER_02I know when I cross my eyes, I see two things. So I'm sure they probably see two things too. They probably do. Unless somebody that's cross-side want to speak up, go ahead. I don't, you know, don't mind.
SPEAKER_05But how do they know what's different? Because they've only seen that way.
SPEAKER_02But they know it ain't two people. They know they got one mama and they sitting in at home. They see two mamas. You know, you only came out one of them things.
SPEAKER_03Oh my god.
SPEAKER_02You know, Lord, Lord, so they know they know there's a problem.
SPEAKER_03Lord, anyways.
SPEAKER_02You would hope so. All right, what are you grateful for?
Gratitude And What We Need Next
SPEAKER_02Grateful I ain't cross-eyed.
SPEAKER_03Oh no.
SPEAKER_02Because you know, you better be quiet because you know if you sneeze and they hit you on the back. You're gonna be stuck like that.
SPEAKER_05Oh my god.
SPEAKER_02So uh, what are you grateful for?
SPEAKER_05I am grateful that summer is approaching in uh Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and four more days. Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, yeah. Yeah, so I'm looking forward to that. Although, you know, I'm not going on vacation quite yet. But um, I get to go and help my mama after her surgery, and so, but even it's gonna be amazing. Even amazing, still they got to get on me. Y'all gonna say I'm crazy. Y'all gonna say I'm crazy. But they but I do have a summer schedule. Um, we all are gonna adhere to the summer schedule.
SPEAKER_02Get them.
SPEAKER_05Um, so for three weeks, get them. I'm in charge. Three weeks.
SPEAKER_02It's real sergeant.
SPEAKER_05It's me. I'm in charge. Ella May.
SPEAKER_02Come on.
SPEAKER_05Curtis Cat Daddy.
SPEAKER_02Come on.
SPEAKER_05Y'all need to know.
SPEAKER_02That's right.
SPEAKER_05I'm in charge. Y'all got us to listen.
SPEAKER_02The big kahuna right there.
SPEAKER_05Right here.
SPEAKER_02Yes, ma'am.
SPEAKER_05Just know it. Anyways, I'm looking forward to summer approaching and taking myself on the cans to take care of my peoples.
SPEAKER_02All right. I'm grateful, of course, for the opportunity. It's looked over with the interview and the um the job offer that I accepted. Um I am so grateful for that. Um, no need to say anything else, but I'm grateful that I have grateful what I wanted. Thank you, Lord. All right. What are you looking forward to? And you know what song I was listening to? Grateful grave.
SPEAKER_07Um deliver me. It's hurt me.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, I listened to that. Leandria, you you caught you brought me through. And you should have, because I taught your children.
SPEAKER_05Your children.
SPEAKER_02They was they was good to me. Um I love them kids. Yeah.
SPEAKER_05I'm looking forward to not having to get up at 5 a.m. for six weeks.
SPEAKER_07Yeah.
SPEAKER_05So I look forward not to getting up at 5 a.m. for six weeks. That'll be my reset, rejuvenate. Um, so yeah, I'm looking forward to that. Not getting up at 5 a.m.
SPEAKER_02And you know what too? I was thinking I said, you know, when you're taking care of your mom and stuff, y'all are really gonna have some bonding time y'all haven't had in a while.
SPEAKER_05If she don't be acting crazy.
SPEAKER_02But you just put on a movie and tell her to watch this movie. Because you know your mom, she's I don't do that. But as soon as she does something, ooh, that was pretty good. You know what I mean? Yeah. So you're gonna be able to, okay, you're gonna sit down and watch this movie with me. Because you're gonna catch up on a lot of shows. I know you are. And it's gonna be you're gonna kind of open her eyes to some different things. And it's just, I think in in this time in our lives, the connection. Between the parents is good. You know what I'm saying? So um, and your mom.
SPEAKER_05I'm gonna take a bell and tell her.
SPEAKER_02She your mom is is uh she'll have some restraint at the beginning, but after a while she she settles.
SPEAKER_05Yeah. She ain't got no choice.
SPEAKER_02My folks different. They they if they don't if they don't know they're gonna fight to the end. Yeah, so it's they should they shut it down. You know what I'm saying? And um, and you know me, I'm I'm I'm like, all right then, cool.
SPEAKER_05Well, you don't know. Three weeks of you, they might you might get them. If you had three consecutive weeks with them.
SPEAKER_02I probably could.
SPEAKER_05You could.
SPEAKER_02In my yeah, when they when they actually had to rely on me.
SPEAKER_05That ain't gonna happen.
SPEAKER_02But if you had three weeks and they had to rely on me.
SPEAKER_05Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_05You could.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Oh, if I know I could. Yeah. I know I could, yeah. But a weekend, yeah, I definitely could.
SPEAKER_05Weekend ain't gonna do it.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. So, all right.
Summer Safety And Closing Thoughts
SPEAKER_02So um it's time to go. It's been a great episode. This is episode 45.
SPEAKER_0440.
unknown45.
SPEAKER_0245. Yeah. 45. Um, we gotta figure out what we're gonna do. How we're gonna record when you're gone. I know. We're gonna be zooming.
SPEAKER_05You're gonna record Zoom?
SPEAKER_02Yeah. Okay.
SPEAKER_05I'm gonna hook it up on the script and I just I'll be in Kansas, but I'll still be seeing some of my clients. Some are taking a break while I'm away.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_05And then some want because some don't want to do Zoom.
SPEAKER_02You're gonna have to log in.
SPEAKER_05So I'll be I'll be logging in for some sessions, and then um I can log in for you.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, might take your little that little microphone you couldn't return back that you were mad at.
SPEAKER_03So mad.
SPEAKER_02Uh and so take that and hook it up to your computer, or your phone is gonna be the best bet. So we'll figure it out.
SPEAKER_03We'll figure it out.
SPEAKER_02But we're gonna make sure we do what we do. You know what I'm saying? Do what we do so that we stay consistent because consistency is key. Is key. Fluff. That's right. So, ladies and gentlemen, thank you so much for rocking with us.
SPEAKER_05Gracias.
SPEAKER_02Um, we hope that y'all have a safe summer. Be safe out there.
SPEAKER_05You act like we ain't gonna see him the rest of the summer.
SPEAKER_02No, I'm just saying to start it off. Some of them, some of them may not lock in with us. Okay, because they got different things that they do. You know, some people they roll with us on Mondays to work.
SPEAKER_06Okay.
SPEAKER_02Some people that educate us, they're not, you know, so it's like everything's different for them now. Okay, you know what I'm saying? Um, so we asked you to be safe this summer.
SPEAKER_05Be safe.
SPEAKER_02Um, do not go to Lake Lanier.
SPEAKER_05Don't.
SPEAKER_02Um, do not get in the Chattahoochee, got E. coli in there.
SPEAKER_05Oh gosh, y'all saw those dead fish?
SPEAKER_02Yeah. And um just love on each other a little more than than usual. Communicate a little more than usual. Check in a little more than usual. And um check yourself a little more than usual. Check in on think that it's everybody else in the world.
SPEAKER_05Yeah.
SPEAKER_02You know, really check yourself and say, am I um responding well in this scenario or situation?
SPEAKER_05Or am I well enough myself to be putting in so much effort and care into somebody else? Am I neglecting myself in order to care for others? Because it's like the air, the airplane thing, you gotta put on your oxygen mask before you can pour it.
SPEAKER_02Before you can put it on someone else.
SPEAKER_05Yep, do that. That's right. You gotta do that.
SPEAKER_02Pour into yourself before you can pour into others.
SPEAKER_05That's right. Can't pour from an empty cup. No, you can't. From an empty cup.
SPEAKER_02No, you can't. And when the cup is empty, you can't get no more wine.
SPEAKER_05Oh.
SPEAKER_02Then you won't be feeling good.
SPEAKER_05It says you cannot pour from an empty cup, so I need to fill the cup so that I can pour it.
SPEAKER_02So you can pour more. See how I am? I'm consistent. So, ladies and gentlemen, thank you again for rocking with us. We would love to see you uh every week. Hopefully, we've given you what you were looking for: some laughter, some entertainment, some knowledge, and just something refreshingly normal. I am Keflo.
SPEAKER_04I'm free.
SPEAKER_02And we are out. Peace.
SPEAKER_00The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.
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