Caring For Aging Parents Without Losing Yourself

We’re back, and the first thing we do is tell the truth about why we disappeared. Between a studio refresh, packed schedules, and trying to make everything “just right,” we learned the difference between being consistent and being realistic. Season two starts with a catch-up that turns into something deeper: how do you keep your routines, your relationship, and your peace when life gets heavy? 

A big part of our summer is caregiving for aging parents, including a three-week stretch of managing meals, appointments, and medication like a mini nursing home. That experience raises a question every adult eventually faces: what’s the plan when your parents can’t do what they used to do? We talk elder care planning, the cost of support, the emotional toll of being the dependable one, and why self-care is not optional when you’re caring for everyone else. 

We also get into family boundaries and marriage boundaries through two wild stories. One is about relatives moving in and a teen’s things getting “borrowed” until dad puts a lock on her door. The other is about a spouse who wants a 90-day break and expects it to be funded. We break down respect, entitlement, money, and what it looks like to protect your home without losing your heart. If you like real talk, laughter, and practical takeaways, hit play, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review. What boundary are you working on right now?

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Transcript

Cold Open And Banter

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.

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When you get off your cleanse, we'll better put out. You sure you the that first day gave you a day to spell.

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One day.

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That first day you pooped like nine times. It gave you a day to spell. You probably had that cholesterol disease or whatever it was. Cauliflower. Alright, here we go. And three, two, and one that you say.

Season Two Welcome Back

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Ready?

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And hey guys, we're back.

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Where have you been?

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Where have we been?

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All summer long. All summer long. Where? We're back. Yeah, we didn't go anywhere. Like we used to. Ooh, do ooh, ooh, ooh. Well, we did.

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Well, we didn't take a trip trip.

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Yeah. Anywho, we were busy. And anyways, we'll kick it to you with Welcome back to Refreshing Normal, you guys.

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I am Kefla.

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I'm Cree.

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Welcome to season two.

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Two.

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Yes.

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Can you believe it's been a year? I can't believe it. Amazing.

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Amazing.

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Yeah. Um, but we had a little hiatus, ladies and gentlemen.

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Um can I tell them what the hiatus?

The Hiatus And Studio Glow-Up

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Go ahead. You could you could do whatever you want to do, baby.

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Well, as you can see, things have changed.

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Things have changed.

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Do you see all of our new little updating?

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Yeah.

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And lighting and colors. Right. And walls and the um the uh ambiance has changed.

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Yes, it has.

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And somebody has just been in his perfectionist bag.

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Yeah, been in it.

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Doing all of the things. And so we had to wait on this, and we had to wait on that, and we had to wait on this, and we had to wait on that, and we had to wait out of that.

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Come on, it ain't my fault. It's Cree's fault. So blame it on Cree. If she wasn't the perfect wife, I wouldn't want everything else in my life to be perfect.

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That's your story. So you ain't want to be perfect. Um, your perfect sticking to it. Perfect stuff started in 2003.

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No, see, sometimes when stuff is so good, that imposter syndrome set in, I was like, I don't deserve all this, everything to be so perfect with my wife. And I said, Yes, I do. Even with a perfect wife, everything else can be perfect as well. And I had clarity, guys.

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I guess the new season started with what's your song? Lice, lies, lies.

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So now we start. I just told a lie. Yes.

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I told a lie. I told a lie.

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Anywho.

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Like it.

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We back.

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We up in this thing.

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Yeah. So what's up?

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Oh, somebody fell down the stairs.

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Thankful. That's Kahar.

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Oh, he jumped. Do you miss it? Did you miss it? I'm sorry.

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Well, first of all, let me just tell you, I thought we wasn't coming back.

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Okay. First of all, can you not answer the question?

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So yeah, of course.

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All right. I missed it too.

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Uh-huh. What did you miss?

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I just missed, I missed the uh, because it was routine. Like it was truly routine. It was routine. We were, we were consistent, you know, for almost an entire year.

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Yeah.

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But I also see why people um film leave a lot in the tank, because when they do take a hiatus like this, they still push out the episodes.

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Yeah.

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You know what I mean? Because we were ripping, running, running, ripping, things happening. It could have been done.

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Yes.

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Of course it could have been. But um now we kind of know how to plan, how to shift, how to maneuver, stuff like that. So it's like, okay, so you know, to prepare for the summer, because what if, let's say, like you said, what if you mess around, you take a trip and you know, hey, we're somewhere, we're doing things.

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I knew all this already. You got stuff in the tank. I knew all this already.

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I did too. I knew it too. I knew we should have had stuff in the tank. I and then remember that one day we tried to film it. It was like that week. We tried, it just stuff wasn't working right. Um remember we tried to do the zoom, we couldn't do the zoom.

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I know, but I I what I'm saying is probably probably prior to me even going to Kansas that the tank should have been filled a lot.

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Of course, we've always said that.

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But anyhow, yeah.

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And then we when the tank wasn't filled, we still try to gas up on the way.

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Yeah.

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But anyhow, here we are.

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Here we are.

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Here we is.

Summer Catch-Up And Better Planning

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Yeah. So I mean, talk to me about your summer. What what what did you do? You know, I I was I was uh a single parent. Nicole, I was a single, I know how single moms feel.

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Know it. He know it. Child, please. Anywho, y'all already know I had to go to Kansas to take care of all of the people. And so that was three.

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But what y'all don't know is what y'all don't know.

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What y'all don't know. And my mama told me, you better not go on that podcast telling all the stuff.

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Plenty.

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I got plenty of stuff. I ought to blackmail up. LMA. I better have $2,000 in the bank if you don't want me to tell your biz.

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I better get some more uh what y'all bought me?

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Seasonings.

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The thing. Oh, yeah, some more seasonings. And what's the thing out there in the patio? The blackstone, some more blackstone accessories, or else we're telling you.

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We're telling all the details.

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Everything.

Three Weeks Of Caregiving In Kansas

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Anyways, went to Kansas for three weeks to take care of all the people. Like I said, three weeks. Yeah.

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I was strong as hell them three weeks in the gym.

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Were you?

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Yep.

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It was three weeks. And I'ma tell y'all something. This is what I, you know, we always feel like, what do you learn from something? All you know, this and that. So I knew I was gonna have to go and do some things.

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She knew it.

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Um, because my mom is a caretaker for my dad and my uncle. And um, so now not only me being there, it was she was out down and out for her knee, getting a whole full knee replacement, but which means I had to take care of her plus who she cares for. So I had three people. So I I really felt like I was running um a nursing home because I had all the things going, taking care of all the people. And, you know, I don't believe in half-ass and things. Like I'm gonna take good care of people, and that's what I was there to do, especially your loved ones. Yes, and that's what I was there to do. And so, you know, making sure I did all those things.

The Hard Question About Aging Parents

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But the one thing I learned from it is for everybody to kind of think about your parents as they get older.

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What's the plan?

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Um, what is the plan for them? So when they get to a space where they can't do the things they normally could do for themselves, and um like what is the plan for how you will be able to help them? Um one lady we saw when I took my mom to PT, it was a lady that was coming out of PT, and my mama had to tell everybody that I was here taking care of every time we went. She got to tell everybody out of it. It's my daughter. It's my daughter. She came from George, just take care of me. And so she had to tell everybody that. And so this lady says, Oh, that she says, you know what? You're gonna be blessed later. She says, because for my parents, um, I think some two accidents happened with their parents. So somebody had to be there to help both of her parents, the the lady said. And um, she said, um, so um her, she and her siblings um each took a month.

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Okay.

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So she had a month, and I think she had two uh two other siblings. So they the other one took a month, and the other one took a month, and um, to be able to take care of their parents. And so sometimes I said, Well, what a blessing that she had. All three of them were able to do that and were willing um to do that. Sometimes that's not the case. No, um, and so um I just thought about that. Like, as my parents get older and I'm the one who's gonna do what is that gonna look like? And yeah, and I don't live near them.

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And that's the hard part.

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Yeah, and then you have your parents and you don't, I mean, it's just like where how's that gonna look? So really been trying to think about like how will that look? How can we help them? And you know, when you're still working your job, still trying to take care of yourself and your family, and you can't just go and spend a month. I mean, lucky for me, I have a whole summer off. So we did that on purpose for her knee because I have six weeks off in the summer, and so but other than that, you gotta work. So then what do you do?

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So you gotta transfer to Kansas, teach in Kansas.

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Listen.

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I mean, I would if we had, you know, if one of us had to.

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Yeah.

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You know what I'm saying? I would. Yeah.

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I don't know. But even with that, it's still like you gotta find something. You still working.

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Yeah, of course.

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So through the day and through the stuff. I mean, like you still got to do it.

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But you still you got more help than you can.

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Yeah, you got more help than none. But yeah, that's just something to kind of think about. Like as your parents get older and money-wise, trying to have a a caretaker there that's you know, every day, all day, that's expensive. And so do they have the money for that? And did they plan for that?

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And yeah, it that to me was like something like to tell people like really and if you got the money, do the people have the heart to take care of your parents the way you want them taken care of? Yeah, you know, in a facility and all that stuff.

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In a facility or in a yeah, yeah. So as they as your parents get older, it's like, goodness gracious, like that really made me think about all of that. And as they get older, child, let me tell you. They sure know how to work a nerve.

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But you gotta think about it. You gotta now, okay. I didn't want to say that then because you know, you was you was going through. Yes. You know what I mean? I was and you know, I was always trying to be very positive every time you call. But like, you know how sometimes you'll say, like, I would I was, you know, you'll be like, when I'm when we go to my parents, and you'll be like, you know, you look at me or say, or, you know, grab my hand, because I'd be short and I'd be whatever, because you know, they still think, and I understand that because we're never, our age gap is never changing.

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Right.

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And so I'm still that little kid, even though I'm you know grown. Right. And so a lot of times you are the ones, I'm not gonna say pull me off the ledge, but you are the ones keeping me from going adult versus adult with my parents. And so when when I would call you, sometimes that same stuff you was holding me back from, was no hoes barred. I'm talking no hoes bar when I would hear you. I'd be like, all right, babe, I'm gonna let you, I'm gonna let you get off. I'm gonna let you go ahead and if you didn't already hang up on me because they done made you mad and you was like, all right, I gotta go back. Oh Lord, all right. So yes, but they'll work it.

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Yes, and so it is um, yeah, and I still was, but you know, I'm also um say what I need to say, but I didn't say it, I try not to say it mean.

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Yeah, you didn't, but you was you was hey, but I was saying, listen, so feel back in town.

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This house gonna be.

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You was going there.

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So I was just trying to get them all the way together. And since my daddy ain't gonna watch um any of this uh

Holding The Line With Family

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I'm gonna tell on him. And maybe this will make him stop. Let me tell y'all what he did. He is downstairs in his little room space. Now mind you, I have I'm doing breakfast, lunch, dinner, all day. I'm sitting up there. And all of a sudden, I hear somebody say, I'm hungry. I'm hungry.

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Did this just happen just one time?

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This was yes, this was the first time.

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But I'm saying it didn't happen just one time.

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It happened twice.

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Because you said, I know. Because I was if you tell on the phone, I said, I know what time it is. I know you're hungry.

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No, that was the medicine. But he would do that. And I said, so I went down there and I told him, I said, listen here, you had you are not gonna be down here yelling, you hungry. That's rude. Just know that while I'm here, you're gonna eat. I said, so you ain't got to worry about it. You're gonna have all your meals, boo-boo. I said, so please don't do that. And he took my face and went, I said, I'm gonna shush you. About to knock you out, Curtis Scott. You better get it together, brother. Down here yelling at. So then another time he did it, I said, that's probably what you heard when I said, Did I tell you don't be down there yelling that you're hungry? And I had to get my mama once. Sometimes my mama can get in a little mood. How to get her together. Then maybe almost it was time for me to leave, and I heard my uncle Harry tell my mama that girl, because my uncle Harry has, um, I'm not laughing, it's not fun. I'm laughing at him. He has it's it's um earl, it's like, I don't know, is Alzheimer's or dementia?

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I think he got both.

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Okay, so he he, you know, he's having trouble remembering people's names and all things. So I'm that girl. And so he said, That girl, she's so nice. She's so nice and always so fruit, friendly. She's so nice. And I heard my mama say, I don't think she thought I could hear him telling her that. And she said, hmm, she's been nice to you, she already got me and Curtis.

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They needed to get God.

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They did.

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Preacher.

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Yeah.

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They need to take their medicines.

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Listen, and everybody got medicine. I know what time it is. I got a loan for everybody. Everybody can have medicine. So my daddy takes his eight in the morning, eight at night. My Uncle Harry take his 10 in the morning, 10 at night. I know this. I put an alarm in my phone so I will not forget because all their medicines are very important. And y'all, when eight o'clock comes, I got four people. Medicine time, medicine, time, medicine, time, medicine. I said, please stop. Can y'all stop? I have an alarm set. I don't need y'all to remind me, I'm gonna get all the things done. And so I had to, I just had to kind of get um let people understand who was in charge. Okay.

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Charles in charge. Listen.

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So once we got everybody kind of squared and understanding, you were straight. We were fine.

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I had to get them.

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But I did. I had to get them, y'all. So that three weeks, honey I had to get them together.

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Three weeks, honey.

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And um, yeah, yeah. So anywho, I did that. Um, I will say, you know, I think that's the longest I have been in Wichita since I have left Wichita. Three weeks.

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Three weeks, yeah, of course.

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That's the longest that I've been there.

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Um, but you know before one of the long time when you when your dad was sick.

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Yeah, that was about a week.

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Yeah, that's it. It was like a week. That was like a week and a week and a half, something like that.

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That was like a week and a half when daddy was sick. But um, yeah, that was the longest I've been there. And you know, I just, you know, it it also is a privilege to be able to go and be able to do and all the things. And I'm glad I was there for my mama to have somebody that she could really depend upon to do all the things that needed to get done. So all the things in the house, everybody had doctor's appointments. I I'd admit to every doctor. But the one thing that I did do while I was there, I was like, so what can I do to kind of be something for me?

Coffee Shops Running And Balance

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Um, so the one thing I did do was when I took my mom to PT, um, Wichita has a lot of coffee shops.

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And I found that out by you telling me to get them mapped out.

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I didn't even get to all of them.

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But um And you probably could have gone to more had you lowered your standards. Maybe because you was always like, oh no, the reviews are bad. Oh no, but it's right across the street, but the reviews are horrible. I was like, child, just go get you a little point. It's subjective. Do you get you a quick little coffee and get on?

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So, anyways, while she was in PT, I would go visit a coffee shop. Um, and so through that, if you live in Wichita, Fairmount, Fairmount Coffee.

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Is that your number one?

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Number one. So good. It's across from Wichita State on 17th Street. So good. Um, they I even one day I got egg bites and they make their egg bites from scratch. So it's like not, you know, like pre-packages open up. But the coffee, excellent. Best coffee in Wichita of the ones that I tried. Maybe somebody else out there. So I did that, and then also my other way to kind of cope and and kind of um escape running and going on walks. So I ran and walked every day. Sometimes I run in the morning and do a walk in the evening, and so I did all that. I said when I came back, somebody's gonna say, Are you sure she went to Kansas, took care of her mom and them? Because I had a super duper tan, look like I went to the Bahamas or somewhere. But no, that was just my running and kind of just trying to take care of myself as I care for other people. So creating that balance. So that's what I did when I came back. I just came back. We didn't do much because summer was filled with that and stuff. You'll talk about your stuff, but that I still saw my clients. So I saw them virtually while I was in Wichita. I didn't see all of them because some of them didn't want to do virtual, and so they just said they'd wait till I got back, but some of them still wanted to see me, so I saw them virtually. So it wasn't my full load, but it was still a pretty good group of them that um wanted to do virtual while I was away. So because I offered that to them because I felt like I should have.

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You did, you did the right thing.

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So anyhow.

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You did right by them.

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Yes. So, anyways, any who's what

Internship Season And Home Projects

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about you? Where you what you've been doing for uh how many weeks we've been gone off of here? About eight.

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Eight weeks. About eight weeks. Yeah. Um I've been exercising. I've been training for um my internship in practicum for the facility that I'm interning with. Um finally seeing clients on my own, you know, telehealth and in person. Um, but most of mine are far away, so I have to drive um, you know, a couple miles.

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Um you gotta go far away, but then I just got to drive a couple miles.

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I mean like 20 miles. It ain't like you.

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But I'm saying just gotta drive a couple miles up the street button.

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Last week was hard because this past week, because I was in Atlanta during the camp and then having to drive all the way past the crib back, going to the thing, and I was like in traffic for two hours on the way back every time. You know, two hours. And so it was I had to get up earlier just to get through the traffic in Atlanta. You know what I'm saying? So it was, it was it was rough, but it was only three days I really had to do that. Um, but my summer has been it's been a good summer, you know. It was lonely at the front, front end. Uh grass cutting, stormy weather. You know, I want to ride the motorcycle, but it rained almost every single day. And when you thought the weather was perfect and the phone says nothing, rain comes out of nowhere.

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Yeah, like Costa Rica.

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Yeah, like Cinnabon, she probably was like, I got so much anxiety medicine in my system, but you know, the storm was doing its thing.

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She needed it.

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Yeah, of course.

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She probably said thank you.

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The storm was doing its thing. And so uh, you know, one thing getting the studio right. Um, trying to get the garage right. I was upset because that one thing that I had for it.

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Oh I think he cried, y'all. I think when he got the phone with me because one time I didn't cry, but I was like,

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Call you back. I said, Oh, he's gonna cry when he hangs up.

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It got difficult. It got difficult. And then I realized it wasn't me. I was like, I know I'm not stupid. I know I know how to do this. I know I don't know how to measure. So maybe I'm tired. Maybe I'm you know hallucinating. I don't know. I said, What's going on? And come to find out it was just the way the house is structured, the beams that we have are not equipped to do overhead hanging. So I was like, they say it's a cheaper way, but it's supposed to be a strong way to do it. I was like, busters. Busters. We paying for it. Why y'all going cheap? I bet you charged is the same as if they would have used regular.

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Say what?

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Talking about the people when they built the house? Ah. The different kind of I it's uh it's called an I-beam.

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Yeah. But she said, I bet you Charles would do it.

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So I said, I bet they charged us the same.

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Oh no, Charles. I was like, what Charles got to do with this? Charles, your your lunch is ready.

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You seen that video where she was saying all those words wrong. I love that. That's my favorite one of my favorite videos.

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Po miss Ned. But she said she quit school in the sixth grade.

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Yeah, I believe it. So I believe it. But that's it from that's all really. Um like really that's that's it. Um it's been hot, hot. And um, yeah, that's it.

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That's it. We're trying to, well, next year, y'all know I turn 50. So next year we'll be taking a trip. The uh Kimani said, Ma, we gonna um uh I forgot the word he used. But turn up for your birthday. I think that's what he said.

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Yeah, when they when we either before we leave for our trip or we'll be back. So we turn up.

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So I was like, oh, are they going on a trip?

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They ain't going, they're not going on a trip with us. Okay. Turn up a pre-turn up or a post-turn up, but they are not going with us.

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So they're gonna turn up for my birthday. Ain't nobody got no money but us.

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Well, no, ain't like I said, ain't nobody got no money.

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Anywho, we gotta get a um and fam, y'all hear me.

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So we're gonna take us a good little trip.

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Yeah, but we I really want to do some kind of small getaway because we didn't get to do anything for the summer. So maybe like um fall. I mean fall break. Nothing expensive, you know. From you and I? Little sign, yeah.

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Oh, okay.

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Because we didn't get to do anything.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 24:30

Um, I thought about for because what's coming up is our anniversary, which is the I know I'm talking about the year 23.

SPEAKER_07 24:40

Oh, yeah. Yeah. Always a year older than the boys.

SPEAKER_02 24:43

Our 23rd anniversary is coming up, so it's on a Sunday. So I thought about like something, but I don't know.

SPEAKER_07 24:51

Because I leave that next weekend.

SPEAKER_02 24:53

It's gonna be so busy. I mean, we're so busy. So I don't know. Uh anywho, we might just have to wait and do something.

SPEAKER_07 24:59

Oh, we plan something, make see we got some time off for uh, what's it, Labor Day, Memorial Day?

SPEAKER_02 25:04

Yeah, but that's the same thing. I know the price is gonna be yeah. But so we can, I mean, always it don't matter. We can wait till September or I don't know, but we'll we'll figure um that part out. And they uh the the governor gave teachers uh now we have five personal days you can use. So hey, I better save them for my birth. I don't know what we're gonna do.

SPEAKER_07 25:26

Anywho, yeah, do that. Save them for the yeah, that'll be perfect.

SPEAKER_02 25:32

So anywho, that's that's been the go-ins.

SPEAKER_07 25:36

Well, no, that ain't gonna matter. Because I'd rather go where we got you ain't gonna rush. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:42

So anywho, that's a two-week window.

SPEAKER_07 25:44

We need two weeks.

SPEAKER_02 25:44

That's been the going zones.

SPEAKER_07 25:46

Yeah, that's been the going zone, ladies and gentlemen. Yeah. So I know y'all missed us.

SPEAKER_02 25:50

Y'all did.

SPEAKER_07 25:50

I know y'all missed us, but but but I ain't seen nobody say where y'all at.

SPEAKER_02 25:54

They don't care. Nobody did say where y'all at.

SPEAKER_07 25:58

Where y'all at? Nobody said that. Y'all don't care about us.

SPEAKER_02 26:01

No, one day they gonna care.

SPEAKER_07 26:04

One day. Saying I'm I'm about to I'm about done with y'all.

SPEAKER_02 26:08

Oh, don't be dumb.

SPEAKER_07 26:10

I'm gonna get some new peoples.

SPEAKER_02 26:11

Don't be done.

SPEAKER_07 26:12

We need some new peoples. Oh, I'm gonna go this way. Child. Do I need to put this over here so you still have an eye line with the camera? Because I was doing something, I'm looking at this.

SPEAKER_02 26:22

I know, it's very, yeah, it is true.

SPEAKER_07 26:25

We don't even need to worry about this. Normally the producer has that flipped around that way. Okay. And they'll be sitting over there saying, okay, uh, island, you know, but you know, we ain't got no producer right now, nobody we can pay.

SPEAKER_02 26:35

All right, moving on, brother.

SPEAKER_07 26:36

You moving on. Go.

SPEAKER_02 26:39

All right.

A Lock On The Door Boundary Story

SPEAKER_02 26:40

So um we've caught up all the things. So now you heard both of them.

SPEAKER_07 26:45

I did.

SPEAKER_02 26:46

I'm gonna share the one. All right, so there's a story of um uh it's a husband and wife. Um, the wife's brother um lost his home and he needed a place to go. So he she allowed her brother to come live with them. Now, with the in her home is not just the wife and husband, she they also have a daughter. So the brother comes to live with them, and then soon after he has twin daughters who are 18 who also come to live there as well. And their daughter is 16.

SPEAKER_07 27:26

So I didn't know they had they were twins.

SPEAKER_02 27:30

And so with that, the girls living together, there were some issues with uh really boundaries and just really respect. However, people saw it differently. So that the t the cousins were going in and borrowing the daughter's things, their the 16-year-old's things. Like they'll take borrow clothes, borrow things from her room, and um and wouldn't ask. Um, and so the daughter would get upset and um they would talk to the uncle about it, and or the, you know, and he would just say, Oh, that's just normal things. That's just what girls do. When girls live together, they borrow each other's things. That's just regular girl teenage behavior. Um, but the daughter was like, Oh, I really no, those are my things. Like, they shouldn't be coming back.

SPEAKER_05 28:26

She saved up her money.

SPEAKER_02 28:27

Yeah, she's and so she ended up the one thing I think that kind of what is it called, broke the camel's back.

SPEAKER_07 28:33

The straw that broke the camel's back.

SPEAKER_02 28:34

The straw that broke the camel's back was she had saved up money for a month to buy this eyeshadow palette from Mac that was $60. And so when she was gone, either to school, because I'm assuming that maybe the 18-year-olds weren't in school. So when she was gone to school, they went in a room and used her um Mac eyeshadow. And then to me, because I know how makeup works, okay.

SPEAKER_07 29:05

So me too.

SPEAKER_02 29:07

So when she came back, they had put it back, but then all the colors were all mixed up. Um, and so that was on purpose.

SPEAKER_07 29:19

Yeah, I thought I thought about that too.

SPEAKER_02 29:22

That was on purpose. Because nobody does that.

SPEAKER_07 29:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 29:24

I mean, you would have to really on purpose. Unless. Because you would really, unless they unless they unless you are a blender.

SPEAKER_07 29:36

You know, we know some people when they be having that light, they be looking like they got fish scales and aqua or uh mermaid, mermaid skin on their eyes. I don't know, but anywho, when you got mermaid skin on your eye, that's like that's a lot of colors.

SPEAKER_02 29:49

Anyways, it made me feel like they did it on purpose. They probably did. But anyways, I don't know, but they came back and that $60 she spent on that, on those eyeshadows was gone. Was gone. Yeah, it was gone. It was a waste. When they told the uncle about it, he was like, that's not, I mean, you again, that's what girls do, that's what teenage girls do. Um, and first of all, why are y'all letting her buy makeup like that? She's just 16. Yeah, she should be buying. Yeah, she should be buying 15, $15 Walgreens, Walmart makeup. Why y'all letting her do this and this and that? She can go buy some more from there because that's what she should be buying, anyways. Well, the mom really wasn't standing up for her daughter. She's taking the brother's side and she was kind of taking the brother's side, or or maybe she just doesn't know how to set boundaries with the brother. But the dad was upset. And what did he do? So what he did was he put a lock on his daughter's door so that when she went to school or wherever she went, nobody could get inside of her room. Yep. And he put the lock visible because he wanted them to know the lock is on here.

SPEAKER_07 31:00

Things gonna change around here.

SPEAKER_02 31:02

Yes, and so they got upset because they were like, is he trying to make it like we're stealing from her? This and that. Technically you are, and this and that, and so um the wife got upset because she said that he's you know created this conflict and the girls are upset and it's created this stuff, and the dad, um, her brother was upset about it, and um, so the dad was like, I don't care, all y'all can be upset, but the lock is not coming off the door until your brother and his girls move out of this house. Get out of here. It felt like he was coddling the daughter and and um this entitlement he they were offering her and all of the things. And so the question I guess he was trying to see, was he the asshole for going as far as to put a lock on his door to door's room door? Personally, to me, no, because if I'd have talked to my my spouse and said, Hey, yeah, we need to.

SPEAKER_07 32:01

What can we do to keep him out? We can't keep him out. No, all right, we just locked up.

SPEAKER_02 32:05

This is not anytime for anything. You asked to borrow things from people. So I would tell my wife, so it's okay for them to come up in your room, take all your clothes, use all your makeup, and do all the stuff. That's all right to do. We're gonna let them come do your stuff like that.

SPEAKER_07 32:19

Or I just let them drive her car.

SPEAKER_02 32:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 32:21

That's what girls do. You just said that's what girls do.

SPEAKER_02 32:23

Yeah, they can't borrow your keys. We love them driving. That's family. That's what family.

SPEAKER_07 32:26

Family always borrow people's cars. That's what family do.

SPEAKER_02 32:29

Yeah, so I personally feel like the dad did what he needed to do to make his point.

SPEAKER_07 32:33

Yeah. So if you And protect his daughter stuff. Yeah. And you know, make a point. Yep, no, I'm we're gonna protect my daughter's stuff then. Because point doesn't need to be made. Um now we're beyond points being made. We're action, and the action means protect my protect my daughter's stuff.

SPEAKER_02 32:47

Yes. And obviously, obviously, um, they had said something to them. Because that to me is like, okay, we done said all we had to say. Y'all still coming and taking her things. So here's what we're doing. And not only was the mom upset, I believe the whole side of the family was upset with the husband and what he did. And then that was my question was well, y'all come let him live with y'all.

SPEAKER_07 33:12

Exactly. Always, always. You have no room to be upset if I took him in. And they, I'm sure you I wasn't the first, you know, person. And even still, you could be like, well, you know, he got kids, dah, yeah, da-da-da. How you can come stay with us. Mm-hmm. Nope.

SPEAKER_02 33:29

And why and how why now do you remember why he lost his house?

SPEAKER_07 33:32

Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_02 33:33

I'm just saying, sometimes people who I don't know if he's lost homes often or if he's one that always ha finds himself in a.

SPEAKER_07 33:41

I don't know, but even he didn't seem grateful.

SPEAKER_02 33:44

He wasn't seem grateful. But sometimes people like that tend to want to go live with the person who doesn't have boundaries because then they can they can still do what they always do. People like that love who cannot doesn't they don't know how to set boundaries and they can kind of run over them and do the things that they want to do. That's why they, you know, they choose to go live there. They don't want to live with somebody, they got rules, expectations gonna make you follow them, or you need to get on out. That's not comfortable for them.

SPEAKER_08 34:13

Ain't signed up for this.

SPEAKER_02 34:15

So I think that all of that was no. I think the dad did exactly what he needed to do. And if the wife is upset, then guess what? Hey, I don't know. Hopefully it doesn't impact their marriage, and hopefully it doesn't impact the relationship with the daughter and the mom, because she will she say, Well, my mama let somebody treat me this way.

SPEAKER_07 34:34

Yeah, I don't know. So you think it's good for everybody to take my stuff? All right, bet.

SPEAKER_02 34:39

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_07 34:40

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 34:40

Because even with that, I mean, because I don't know what else she could have said.

SPEAKER_07 34:44

It definitely is gonna affect the relationship between uh the mother and daughter.

SPEAKER_02 34:47

Because you can't she can't lock up everything. I mean, like, I was trying to think of could she have done that on her own, but that's impossible, lock up your whole room. And the only thing to do is to put a locker on the door where they can't get in.

SPEAKER_07 34:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 34:57

That's the only thing you could do.

SPEAKER_07 34:58

Yeah. Cause you put a basic lock on there, you got those little keys you can get in on. You know what I'm saying? So you gotta put a lock lock on there. Yeah. I would have put a lock on there with like a keypad and all kind of things.

SPEAKER_02 35:11

All of the things. So no, he did exactly what he needed to do.

SPEAKER_07 35:15

So, sir, you are not the a-ho.

The 90-Day Marriage Break Debate

SPEAKER_07 35:20

Brother. I it was another one that I for I sent to you too, where that guy was talking about his wife, she needed a break for 90 days. That story is crazy too. Yeah. So we'll talk about that another time. But it is, it's a good story. And then the other one that I sent to you, you see what I said when I sent the story to you? I sent like I said in a message. The one you, the other one you listened to.

SPEAKER_01 35:42

The one with the moving in with somebody else. So it was another thing when somebody moving in with it.

SPEAKER_07 35:46

I said, Oh, you probably ain't gonna want to read. That's that's too much like uh you know, because it sounds just like something that we know.

SPEAKER_00 35:54

Does it really?

SPEAKER_07 35:56

Yes. I gotta. But I'm saying, like, your side. And my side. Yes. I said, ooh, this is I gotta listen to it.

SPEAKER_02 36:03

I didn't get to listen to that one all the way by this. This is yeah.

SPEAKER_07 36:06

So but the and then and then the guy with the wife. That that one's crazy.

SPEAKER_02 36:10

Yeah. She needed a 90-day break from her family?

SPEAKER_07 36:13

She needed 90 days.

SPEAKER_02 36:14

I think I've heard that before.

SPEAKER_07 36:15

Yeah, he was like, She's talking about she needn't, she wanted 90 days.

SPEAKER_02 36:18

I think I've I think I've heard that story.

SPEAKER_07 36:20

So he shut, he said, okay, bet. You want 90 days?

SPEAKER_02 36:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 36:24

And so he he um changed his check, his direct deposit of his check into another account.

SPEAKER_08 36:29

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_07 36:29

And so she had already, um she told, he said, I don't want us to do 90 days. She said, Well, uh, um, you you figure out what you need to do.

SPEAKER_00 36:38

Who said that?

SPEAKER_07 36:39

That's the mic said that to him. Oh, yeah. And she left.

SPEAKER_02 36:41

Oh, she left.

SPEAKER_07 36:42

She said, You figure out what you need to do, because I'm taking these 90 days.

SPEAKER_02 36:45

So did she work?

SPEAKER_07 36:47

No.

SPEAKER_02 36:47

Oh, what did she do then?

SPEAKER_07 36:49

She moved in when she took her bag with her sister. She took her bag and moved to with her sister. Because the day he was supposed to make the decision, um, she said, You thought of it, she said, look, I know you you don't had enough time. He said, No, I don't want to, I don't want to do this. And so she said, Well, and he so he said, I saw she had a bag. So she had already made up her mind. She's gone anyway. And so he said, She went with her sister, and um, I think for like the weekend. And so Monday, he got on the phone with HR early in the morning, you know, did his check. And he said, later, I think, because he was getting paid, and so she all of a sudden, like a day or so later, she called him just fussing, like, uh, something's wrong with the credit card, or something wrong with the card.

SPEAKER_00 37:32

The debit card.

SPEAKER_07 37:33

Yes, it's decline. And he was like, Oh, well, call and see what's wrong with it. She said, It's it's not where he said, Well, use another card. I don't have another card. Oh, okay, well, um, all right, I'll talk to you later. Boom. He hung up. And she called him back, her sister called him back. She said, Oh, that is wrong. You're so wrong. She said, Look, you know, y'all figure it out. I'm not funding your 90-day thing. Because she had a budget for him, too. She said, This is how much it's gonna cost. I want an apartment.

SPEAKER_01 38:00

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 38:00

Yeah, so she had already got an apartment.

SPEAKER_01 38:02

For him to fund.

SPEAKER_07 38:03

For him to fund her 90-day sabbatical or whatever you want to call it. He was like, I'm not funding that.

SPEAKER_00 38:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 38:09

Yeah. And so then um, so she got real pissed about him not, you know, funding because her she was taking her and her sister out to get the nails done and probably the parties say, I'm not doing that. I'm not funding that. And she said, What? That is so low down. That is so low down. I said, Look, he said, I'm gonna take care of the bills, I'm gonna take care of everything. I need to take care of this house. He said, but I'm not funding your 90-day, you know, thing that I didn't agree with. You're the you want this, not me. And so he said, uh, uh, like a few days later, whatever, she came around and he she came back. And so he let her back. He said, but it's been it's not been the same since. She's been back for like they've been married for 20 years, I think he said.

SPEAKER_02 38:55

So did she she wanted a break because was she trying to figure out if she still wanted to be married or it's obvious she didn't know she yeah, she didn't she didn't she said she wanted to be a break from the marriage.

SPEAKER_07 39:06

So she said, I need a break from the marriage. And that's um so when she left, yeah, you know.

SPEAKER_02 39:11

So she just kind of wanted to see if she so maybe it was her trying to figure out if she left, if she if she what if she was gone, was she trying to make the decision of she was already gone if she wanted to be married.

SPEAKER_07 39:27

She was already she already didn't want to be married, but she wanted the the spoils of everything. But he's done everything for her.

SPEAKER_02 39:34

I know, I don't understand what you're saying, but I'm saying if she if she was she thinking, I'm gonna take these 90s days just to see what it's like not to be married, to see you know, maybe she felt like she was missing a spark or her joy or her something. Did she think that with the 90 days gone, it would help her to figure out if she truly wanted to be married?

SPEAKER_01 39:59

How you know? You know the lady.

SPEAKER_07 40:00

Yep. I know people like her.

SPEAKER_01 40:03

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_07 40:04

And when she left, she left with the intent that 90 days will make us grow apart more so. It's easier to say, you know what, after all this coverage. Well, that's exactly what I'm saying. No, she's already out. Mentally, she's already gone.

SPEAKER_02 40:21

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 40:22

She's already gone. She's ready to bounce.

SPEAKER_02 40:24

So you think she wanted the 90 days to kind of have time to kind of get a job, get herself settled, do all of that.

SPEAKER_07 40:30

She was gonna live off, she thought he was gonna live.

SPEAKER_01 40:32

Forever? Listen, she thought that was gonna be the plan?

SPEAKER_07 40:37

Until until the the the the dingling she was I because I guarantee she was on some other dingling. Until the dingling she was messing with, or another dingling, was gonna fund her, fund her new life that she wanted.

SPEAKER_02 40:48

That's your assumption.

SPEAKER_07 40:50

That's that's yep. Because she came back when the money dried up. She ain't come back because the love dried up. She didn't come back for no other reason. So for night, you want to be gone for 90 days, but now so, oh, well, you know what? Well, that maybe No, no, no, no, that ain't no, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_01 41:05

I don't know.

SPEAKER_07 41:05

Well, maybe you need to hear it and you'll hear because maybe I'm leaving out some words and something.

SPEAKER_02 41:08

Maybe so, because I'm just thinking she had to come back because she didn't have any money.

SPEAKER_07 41:14

She could stay with her sister. She was staying with her sister.

SPEAKER_02 41:17

I understand that. But she could stay with her sister and have a place to live. But her sister in regards to eating, she didn't need no bills.

SPEAKER_07 41:26

But I'm saying she had no cars that she had to pay for.

SPEAKER_02 41:30

I understand that. But what I'm saying to you in regards to just having money to day-to-day live, to eat. If you were to go out and do something, I mean, like, she didn't have. That's what I'm saying to you, is this so the purpose? So that's what I'm saying to you, is so she had to, because she didn't have any money. Now, what she could have done, I mean, she could have So she had to come back home. No, she didn't have to. That's what I'm saying. She could have gone and found a job when she realized, oh, he's not gonna give me any money, let me go find a job.

SPEAKER_07 42:06

So why did she come back home?

SPEAKER_02 42:08

Because she didn't because she all of a sudden the love was back. No, it ain't a love back. Because um what she thought was gonna be wasn't what she thought it was gonna be. What she thought was she would have an opportunity to go and live with her sister and she won't live with her sister, member the apartment.

SPEAKER_07 42:29

But she was she went to her sister um immediately because she was like Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_02 42:37

Okay, okay. So what you're saying is what she was gonna plan to do is she went to her sisters, but the plan was she gonna go put down a deposit on an apartment. She gave him the budget.

SPEAKER_07 42:47

Oh, she gave him the budget of what she needed to fund her 90 days.

SPEAKER_02 42:50

Okay, so she had to come back because the sister was gonna be like, now you didn't say you're gonna come live with me for one. And so it the whole plane changed when that money whole plan changed when she couldn't get no money out the bank. Her financial backing was not what she thought about.

SPEAKER_07 43:06

She couldn't get no money out of the bank.

SPEAKER_00 43:08

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 43:09

And now she back.

SPEAKER_00 43:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 43:12

And he said, Look, I'm controlling all the finances now. Because before he was giving her anything, like she she could get in, she could get whatever she wanted because you know she had her own debit called Connect. He said, We had the account was joint accounts, everything. Yeah, but when I took my piece out, yeah, he said, I still give her what she needs and some things of what she wants.

SPEAKER_02 43:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 43:34

But it's not what she can go and get it free.

SPEAKER_02 43:36

And stack money, whatever. Yeah. So so in actuality, I don't know what her plan was in regards to what she was gonna do for the 90 days, or if that was her kind of on out the door thing. Because at some point, she had to have known that he was gonna be like after 90 days, if he wasn't gonna pay for her.

SPEAKER_07 43:55

She was hoping that it would it would fizzle like just fade to black.

SPEAKER_02 43:59

She didn't even plan. Appropriately, if that's what you were trying to do, uh, she really thought he was a sucker MC as well.

SPEAKER_07 44:05

That's what she thought he was. Um, because he still was, yeah. She came back.

SPEAKER_02 44:09

Yeah. She that's what she thought. So she she didn't plan appropriately. Because if that's what I'm doing, then what people try to say is like you kind of put if you know you aren't the sole provider, then you just take little bits and put it to the side. Yeah. So when you're 90 that's a good one. When it's time to bounce, you there. You you said you don't even need any of the things that you're doing. I would have told her look. But she didn't she didn't prepare, but that's because she thought he wasn't sucking MC.

SPEAKER_07 44:34

I would say I need 90 days now for her to prove to me that she's coming back for the right reasons. So you give me 90 days to before you come back up here.

SPEAKER_02 44:43

Well, I think I would have said, if it were me, and my spouse or person said they need 90 days away, then I would just say, Well, if you leave, don't come back.

SPEAKER_07 44:54

Yeah. I'm gonna give you more than 90. I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna give you more than 90.

SPEAKER_02 44:59

Because I uh 90 days is a long time.

SPEAKER_07 45:01

You can work it out in here.

SPEAKER_02 45:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 45:03

I give you your side of the room, you know, I'm I plan myself to move away from you know, whatever.

SPEAKER_02 45:07

You know, but uh And if she wanted to like kind of be done with like whatever, I don't know if she had kids or or what the duties were of like not knowing of like what the wife then then if you want to like say, hey, can't we just kinda live separate little things to kind of see where we at, where my head is at, that but as soon as you left out the door, then I just be like, Well, if you leave, just know you gone.

SPEAKER_07 45:33

Mm-hmm. And that's that. That's what I was, yeah. 90 days, you got to go. And then you try to come back, because I know I'm heartbroken, because it wasn't my decision.

SPEAKER_00 45:42

Right.

SPEAKER_07 45:43

But then all of a sudden, after I see that, oh now you wanna come back because I cut them funds off. You know what I mean? So I'm like, look.

SPEAKER_02 45:51

You should have got him a new lock.

SPEAKER_07 45:52

I need 90 days for you to um before you can come back.

SPEAKER_02 45:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 45:59

Because I need to see if this is really what you wanted.

SPEAKER_02 46:02

And and obviously they should have taken it at this point, they definitely need to do some couples therapy. And yeah, that can can kind of help them decide whether to stay or to go. Because couples therapy don't mean you're gonna stay together.

SPEAKER_07 46:17

It don't. At all.

SPEAKER_02 46:19

Therapy can mean that y'all do, and it can mean that you don't.

SPEAKER_07 46:22

You're done. You're done.

SPEAKER_02 46:24

So, um Dum dumb dumb. I mean, that if he was gonna let it back in, that would have been one of my things. Cause I need to understand why you need nine to dance.

SPEAKER_08 46:32

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 46:32

Help me understand that.

SPEAKER_08 46:34

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 46:35

So unless he knew that he, I mean, we only really heard that side. We didn't hear the other side.

SPEAKER_07 46:44

You don't need to hear no other side. A lot of times we don't hear no other side. We hear one side and we make our decision on that. That's all we need to hear. That's it. Yep. I guess that's my believer sister.

SPEAKER_02 46:55

That is, believe it, sister, and she brought her a little side. She came back.

SPEAKER_07 46:59

She came back. She came back. Believe it, sister.

SPEAKER_02 47:02

Believe it. Believe it, sister. And she let her back. Believe that.

SPEAKER_07 47:07

He did.

SPEAKER_00 47:08

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_07 47:09

She tricked him.

SPEAKER_00 47:12

No, she tricked him.

SPEAKER_07 47:13

She pulled, she pulled Orlando on him.

SPEAKER_01 47:17

Who Orlando?

SPEAKER_07 47:18

I just, you know, sometimes they say when people uh trick somebody into something and then they leave them.

unknown 47:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 47:24

You know, they call it Orlando, because some people people do that sometime in Florida.

SPEAKER_02 47:29

I ain't never heard of such a thing. Did you just make that up?

SPEAKER_07 47:31

You never heard of that. Does people people be together with their loved one or whatever in Florida and they leave them in Orlando?

SPEAKER_02 47:40

Oh You never heard that. I ain't never heard of that, but it sounds like Foley.

SPEAKER_07 47:44

It probably hey, yeah. That's full time for sure.

SPEAKER_02 47:49

For sure.

SPEAKER_07 47:49

Cause you know, folk, we love to go to Orlando. Disney. You know, that's the best place to be for some folk. Going to Disney.

SPEAKER_02 47:57

Everybody went to Orlando this summer. Even my some of my little clients went.

SPEAKER_07 48:01

I got two of mine going. Well, one one came back, one going now for two weeks.

SPEAKER_02 48:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 48:07

So.

SPEAKER_02 48:07

Hopefully they come back.

unknown 48:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 48:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 48:10

Alright, got a

The Surprise Custom Song Gift

SPEAKER_07 48:11

surprise. Ooh. Ready for the surprise?

SPEAKER_02 48:13

It's a gift?

SPEAKER_07 48:14

Yep, it's a gift. Here we go.

SPEAKER_02 48:16

What is a surprise?

SPEAKER_07 48:19

A little surprise for y'all. Watch this.

SPEAKER_02 48:23

What is it?

SPEAKER_07 48:24

It's pretty dope.

SPEAKER_02 48:25

Oh, I think I know what it is. You know what it is. What it is. Because I think I saw it on a bank account.

SPEAKER_06 48:30

You might have on a bank account.

SPEAKER_02 48:32

Yeah. You always do stuff that ain't gonna turn out to be no surprise because I can see it on the bank account. I'll be sitting at work and then all of a sudden I go check the bank account. I go, What? Flowers are us.

SPEAKER_00 48:46

Oh, child, flowers coming to me today.

SPEAKER_07 48:48

I need to give me a new account on the idea.

SPEAKER_02 48:50

Told you, just do it away, little credit cards, then pay credit card payment with the at the check account. I won't know if it just says Amex $70. That's true. I always know when flowers come because he I said this for years. And he ain't got his life together.

SPEAKER_05 49:06

I had it, but it went away.

SPEAKER_02 49:09

Surprise. Surprise. Surprise, surprise. You don't know where it is. How long have we been going thus far on this season two? You wanna try again um episode two? Because you should have had that pulled up and ready. Sit on down, Tyrone. You don't got it together. Yep, just sit down. Oh my god. You ought to be ashamed of yourself.

SPEAKER_07 49:37

Well, we'll we'll edit in post. Hold on.

SPEAKER_02 49:40

It's live.

SPEAKER_07 49:42

Okay. Don't worry about it.

SPEAKER_02 49:45

Um, sit on down, Tyrone. You wasted it. You're wasting air time. Lord have mercy.

SPEAKER_00 49:52

You ready?

SPEAKER_02 49:52

Ready.

SPEAKER_07 49:59

Now the pronunciation will be different.

unknown 50:01

It's gonna be the right way.

SPEAKER_02 50:03

The pronunciation. You said pronunciation. Pronunciation?

SPEAKER_09 50:10

Back in the tourist one. That's where I first started to look crazy. And my whole work started to fall.

SPEAKER_07 50:27

Look crazy.

SPEAKER_09 50:35

Why do I drink my gift felt? Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_07 51:05

That's my romantic way to say it.

SPEAKER_09 52:57

I still can be bad.

SPEAKER_02 53:26

Thank you. I ain't gonna beat no sucker. I ain't crazy.

SPEAKER_07 53:31

Well, that was my jam, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 53:33

So that was so I was like, I'm not gonna wait until anniversary for it.

SPEAKER_07 53:40

I'm not gonna wait till anniversary. I gotta. I wanted to play it way before, but um I said the best thing to do is play it now.

SPEAKER_08 53:48

That was nice.

SPEAKER_07 53:50

Thank you. I've listened to that song so many times. It's so good. It's so good. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 53:56

Oh.

SPEAKER_07 53:58

Because you gotta type up everything about it, you know, what it does and how you feel.

SPEAKER_08 54:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 54:03

And then, you know, AI does its thing and love it.

SPEAKER_01 54:08

I feel so special.

SPEAKER_07 54:10

You should. You should. Oh, they're trying to be tough. Anything else? Now, if it was Netflix, you would have cried. But but for me and the people that love you, you only want to cry. Netflix, you'll be over there.

SPEAKER_00 54:23

That's not true.

SPEAKER_07 54:25

Be over there crying. But it's all good.

unknown 54:28

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_07 54:28

No, I'm happy. I'm glad you like it.

SPEAKER_00 54:30

I do.

SPEAKER_07 54:31

And we'll share it with your mom and stuff. Now we can share it with people. And then because I I I had it on Apple. Remember the place when we was in the car? Remember that song when we went to eat? Oh, yeah. And I said, Oh no, no, you can't play that yet. Can't play that yet. That was the song.

SPEAKER_03 54:45

Because you said, what's this? It's right here. Oh.

SPEAKER_07 54:48

Yeah, that was it. Because it had your name in the title. It was like Kree's song or Krisha's song or something like that.

SPEAKER_02 54:53

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 54:53

Yeah, and you was getting ready to play it. I said, Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_02 54:56

You know what I thought it was?

SPEAKER_07 54:58

What?

SPEAKER_02 54:58

I thought it was one of your uh love making playlists. Oh no. And you were saving it for something else. So that's what I thought it was. I was like, what he saving his playlist for? Maybe do it and go play. And all the time be like, play it tonight.

SPEAKER_07 55:11

I thought, dang, I hope she ain't played it. I did. But then I had to think about okay, because I think our apples is different. Yeah. So I don't never use Apple.

SPEAKER_02 55:19

So you don't have to worry about that. I never use Alpha.

SPEAKER_07 55:22

I'm glad. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

SPEAKER_02 55:25

That's really good. Good. I'ma listen to it again.

SPEAKER_07 55:29

Yes, I'll share it with you.

SPEAKER_02 55:30

I just didn't want to be no sucker.

SPEAKER_07 55:32

Oh my God. Thanks. Because the people want to see it. The people that make it. They'd be like, when you keep a video so that we can share the video on our site.

SPEAKER_01 55:41

I still smile the whole time.

SPEAKER_07 55:42

But if you would have, if you would have teared up, they'd have been like, oh that you would have went viral. Now you done, you know, you know, unviraled yourself.

SPEAKER_02 55:51

I was being myself.

SPEAKER_07 55:52

You know, unviral yourself.

SPEAKER_02 55:54

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_07 55:55

Well, that's my surprise.

SPEAKER_02 55:56

That's so nice. I have a surprise for you for your anniversary, but it's not here yet.

SPEAKER_07 55:59

Okay, no problem.

SPEAKER_02 56:00

But I have to good.

SPEAKER_07 56:03

I think I did good with that one.

SPEAKER_02 56:04

You did too good. All right. I would have never expected you to do that.

SPEAKER_07 56:08

Yeah. Good. It's because I was gonna change it. I said, oh, they pronounced her name right. I said, but no, that's the actual way of how it's pronounced.

SPEAKER_02 56:16

Lucrezia.

SPEAKER_07 56:17

Right. You remember saying? And that's when you said that. I said, or RB is known for taking things and you know, Frenching it up like, you know, voulez voulet.

SPEAKER_02 56:28

So moving forward, everybody called me. Lucracia.

SPEAKER_07 56:34

Right if somebody says, you watch the podcast?

SPEAKER_03 56:40

That's me. That's me.

SPEAKER_07 56:43

So yeah. But um those things can be they can be expensive because you gotta you pay for the song, then you gotta pay for the rights. So we pay for the I pay for the rights to download and use it on podcasts or whatever. And then, but then there's another way you can pay for it to have a QR code, and just you can frame your QR code in your room or somewhere, and then people, you know, it'll be like, what is this? And they click it and then they'll hit a song. Oh, oh, that's pretty cool. So if you make a special one for like more than one person, yeah, like the family or something like that, you know what I mean? And you just have that QR code on there. So um Yeah, I think I might make one for the Refreshly Normal Podcast.

SPEAKER_08 57:24

That would be a good thing. And then have a QR code.

SPEAKER_07 57:27

And then that way when people, you know, put it on a sweater or something or shirt, they can be like Refreshly Normal Podcast. And then it hooks them. You know.

SPEAKER_00 57:38

Maybe.

SPEAKER_07 57:39

Maybe we'll see it, but it's definitely for the theme, the opening of the theme song in the play. Alright, so moving right along. So, gentlemen, if you want to surprise, like that stuff works. You see, you see, y'all see her eyes over there looking like she was a crackpiper.

SPEAKER_02 57:53

How was that doing?

SPEAKER_07 57:54

The eye, they were glassy. They would you wouldn't cry. You know, when you see people that be like on that stuff real heavy, them eyes look real glassy. Oh. And your eye was like real glassy.

SPEAKER_00 58:04

Oh my god. I ain't gonna cry.

SPEAKER_07 58:07

Karata man crying inside. Y'all know that from Eddie Murphy saying that.

Gratitude And A Wellness Speaking Invite

SPEAKER_07 58:12

All right, so what are you grateful for?

SPEAKER_02 58:13

I'm grateful for my song.

SPEAKER_07 58:15

Good.

SPEAKER_02 58:16

Um, I'm also grateful for uh one of my colleagues who is also a Delta Sarah. Sarah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 58:25

Hey, Sarah, depending on where you're from.

SPEAKER_02 58:29

Anyways, um, there her chapter is having a retreat, and she asked if I would come talk about wellness. Um, and so um I'm grateful that she actually thought about me to come.

SPEAKER_07 58:44

Where is it gonna be?

SPEAKER_02 58:45

Morehouse. It's gonna be at Morehouse. Um, so I'm excited about being able to go and share about wellness, and you know, so um I already know what I'm gonna do and um for their presentation, but just be able to go do that. I think I do it twice on that day. So, anyways, I'm gonna go and speak to um ladies that look like me about the importance of taking care of themselves.

SPEAKER_07 59:13

And you can speak on behalf of you and not of um where I work binding. Things that you're right, things that that that you're binded by.

SPEAKER_02 59:26

So, like, yeah, so this will be kind of like yeah, this will be my first outside of work. You know what I mean? Speaking engagement.

SPEAKER_07 59:36

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 59:37

So this will be my first outside of work, like speaking engagement.

SPEAKER_07 59:40

Let me know if you need any, you know, pointers, because you know, your boy used to travel around the world to do that.

SPEAKER_02 59:45

He already knows.

SPEAKER_07 59:46

He's traveling around the world.

SPEAKER_02 59:50

I got this.

SPEAKER_07 59:51

You do. I'm excited.

SPEAKER_02 59:52

Yeah. So, anyways, I'm really excited. I'm really grateful for that opportunity and they're grateful that somebody thought about me in a room when I wasn't there. And when they were thinking about who could come do this, she thought about me. So I don't know. That made me feel pretty good there.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:07

You gotta set it up, right? You gotta put your nice when you do your PowerPoint, because you gotta talk a little bit about yourself.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:13

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:14

You know.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:15

Yep. So yeah, I'm really excited about it. Um not last minute, like it's it's something that's not till the end of August.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:26

So she gave me, she told me about it a couple a few weeks ago.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:29

Two and a half weeks ago?

SPEAKER_02 1:00:30

Yeah, a couple weeks ago, she told me about it. So plenty of time for me not to feel rushed and to get the things done that I would want to get done for it. And so I'm just grateful that um, yeah, that she thought about me when they were trying to figure out how who they were gonna have and what they were gonna do. And so yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:48

So you need to now work on what is available for the presentation.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:54

What do you mean?

SPEAKER_07 1:00:55

Like what you know, the uh is it a um what do you call it? Is it an overhead projector?

SPEAKER_02 1:01:02

Oh, she told me to tell her what I needed.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:04

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:05

So, um, yeah. So I'm gonna put together clicker. I got my own clicker.

SPEAKER_08 1:01:10

Okay, good.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:11

Um so, anyways, I I really just need a projector. Um, is pretty much it. Um yeah, that's all I need projector for that, but I already know what I'm gonna do.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:20

So I'm excited for you. Is this what you want to do?

SPEAKER_02 1:01:25

Yeah, so I'm grateful for um somebody thinking about me or feeling like and what does she do? Um school counselor.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:34

Okay. And the retreat is for women or is for kids?

SPEAKER_02 1:01:39

No, it's for w it's for the their chapter chapter of retreat.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:42

See, that's what I was trying to say. Like, this is it for kids, it's different, but if it's for adults, then somebody be like, well, let's get that one lady that spoke. You know, even if you they want you to speak at the church thing, sometimes women have the the health things, and you know, now you now you start developing your contracts.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:59

Yeah. So, anyways, I'm really excited about it. And um, you know, I've all I think for the I think for I've been heavily for the last year or so just praying for all of us opportunity. So for different opportunities to be able to do the things that we do well and to also to um fulfill the purpose and the will that God has on our life.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:31

And so I don't know, I feel like you know, what's in your yeah, that definitely has been in your wish list, your prayer list, your, you know, would be cool to do lists.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:41

And I didn't say exactly what they are because I feel like sometimes what what we may want for an opportunity different than what God wants. It's different than what God wants, but I don't we don't also think sometimes as big as he may our potential.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:55

Yeah, sometimes we don't get it because we didn't ask for it.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:57

He's like, dude, then I just say you know what I'm capable of. You know the needs and you know all the things. So hey, set me up. Set me up right. Mm-hmm. So, anyways, yeah. So, anyways, um that's I'm grateful for that. What are you doing?

SPEAKER_07 1:03:15

You gotta get your fit together. We gotta start now.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:18

Oh, it's not you're gonna you're trying to put anxiousness on me. I'm I'm gonna be calm, cool, collected. I'm not gonna buy anything. It's gonna be I'm listen.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:27

But we gotta put it together.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:28

Yeah, we could put it together. But I'm not putting a level of gotta wear your pearls.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:32

I gave you.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:33

Yep.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:34

Well, can y'all wear pearls in events? Because you know, 20 pearls, you know, the aka is always talking about pretty girl with 20 pearls, all that stuff.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:42

Anyways, I'm not gonna allow you to put all that on me, right, on anxiousness. I'm gonna be very calm, cool, collective. That's make you anxious. Yeah, because you're you immediately went to, did you get this? And you got to wear this. I'm so excited. And you got to do that, and you got to do that.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:56

I'm trying to find a way to sneak up in that thing. I'm trying to be Let me let me pull the wagon.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:01

Yeah, so yeah, you immediately went into all these things, and I'm like, this is big.

SPEAKER_07 1:04:07

This is your this is your big deal. I I want to I mean, not I'm not saying big deal to be nervous, but I'm like, this is so freaking cool.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:15

Yeah, so I'm just like treating it like this is what I do, Nestle.

SPEAKER_07 1:04:20

Like, I was excited when you was doing the um presentation.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:23

What presentation, honey?

SPEAKER_07 1:04:25

In Savannah. Oh man, I kept saying, oh yeah, my wife's presenting. Every time I in the elevator.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:30

He talked everybody.

SPEAKER_07 1:04:31

You from the district? Uh I mean so what district are you from? Where we're from, Bartow. I said, Oh, my wife's presented.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:36

Oh, she is. Then when we were sitting there before we got ready to present at the conference, he'd text me, talking about, hey, what bring me all in? I got people out here looking for a place to go. I'm trying to send them your house away. See them.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:47

Hey, I was hey, I was the wingman. I was looking I was the promoter. I was the party promoter.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:53

Yeah. I'm I'm not like, you know, I really want to be on my own speaking in front of people. Um, I've gotten so much better, but before I used to always wear black because I'd sweat my office. Um I feel like I've gotten better at that. Sometimes I do um maybe like the first uh 30 minutes in. 30 minutes. No, no, no. Because I sometimes present multiple times. So it just depends on what it is and what it's. But usually about 15 minutes and 30 minutes in, there's a I just where I'm getting my You zoning.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:27

You're in the zone. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:29

Yeah. So uh Yeah. So but no, but yeah, this one, this guy immediately just went to da da da da da da da.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:37

Ready.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:37

Uh uh. I'm ready. I don't want all that on me.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:41

Cause you know what I could do.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:42

Don't put it on me.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:43

When you're getting ready to you sitting in the back, you sitting in the back, right? Before you can come out, I'll play that song. So, ladies and gentlemen, get ready for Lucrecia.

SPEAKER_09 1:05:52

No, please don't have a DJ. She had a DJ in this thing, y'all.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:58

She was jammy. Anyways, what are you grateful for?

New Job Nerves And Health Updates

SPEAKER_07 1:06:04

Um, grateful for my new gig. Nervous about it a little bit. Um, you know, I haven't done you know, everything else was like second nature.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:13

Even when I did sped, even, you know, it was second nature because of the fact that I knew the kids, the grade levels, things have changed over those years when I've taught elementary again. That's uh what, twenty two years ago? Twenty-three years ago since I've taught elementary school. You know what I mean? So things have changed. You know, there's a lot of new drugs out there that in these kids' system now that I gotta deal with on an early age.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:42

And new parenting.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:43

New parenting. That's what I'm saying, you know. And so uh, but nah, I'm um I'm not I'm I'm a little nervous just because you know me, I like to be.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:53

Is this a grateful part? Because you're talking about.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:55

Yeah, I'm grateful. I'm nervous, but I'm I'm grateful, but I'm a little nervous. Okay but I'm grateful that what I've wanted, which was elementary PE, came back around. And it came back around at a perfect time because the internship. Remember? Because things look like, I'm in middle school, middle school hours are later. I ain't gonna get my hours. And he boom, he said, I got you. Don't worry about it. I got you. And so, you know, I'm grateful that that he does have me, that God does have me. I'm grateful that I'm able to recognize and see when he has me. Um I went to the gym, you know, that when I, you know, before, and I saw the gym, I was like, oh, this thing's nice.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:46

It was nice.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:47

They got all the stuff I need. I'm I'm I'm upset I didn't go play with the the thing, that the big screen thing.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:53

You got all week.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:54

I know, but I wanted to, you know. You got all week. Yeah, but I'm grateful we got that. Um I'm just I'm just I'm happy that man, it's you know, it's in a nice area. Um and it's like I'm grateful that it's in the area because I can go get different things to eat. You know, it's just so cool. Like, you know, when we have like our planning days or whatever. Yeah. Like, where y'all going to lunch? It's like, oh, I'm gonna try that, try this. It's so many different places. Yeah. And then like you can be like, hey, I'm gonna meet you here. Yeah, we'll be over here. Right. Let's meet this place, let's meet this place, let's meet whatever, you know. It's just so many. And then you remember like before, like, if we wanted to go somewhere after work, you know what I mean? Do they have a shower? I think they did say they there's a shower there. So I'd be like, hey, let's go meet over here, drive over and just boom, you know. It's just it just seems like it's it's popping off to finish my career how I wanted it to. You know, exciting and different. Um, I'm also grateful for my health. You know, I had my colonoscopy turn out to be amazing. Now it's seven years as opposed to five years apart. Um my blood pressure is great, they said. All my levels, my A1C, all that stuff, you know, for like with prostate, you know, because we're at that age now where things start you being alert, and everything was good. My consistency in the gym has been amazing. My injuries have been down. Um, just things are just doing what they're supposed to do. The power bill is low, and the house is cold.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:30

Cold.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:31

Y'all.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:32

Mooy frill.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:34

I'm talking about like where Kimani is running around here with a uh thick cardigan on, and he is hot natured. I said, Child, why do you have that cardigan on? I'm thinking, is he trying to get in his teacher mode? He said, I'm cold.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:49

And then he's like, Yes, I had a sweatshirt on inside. Sweatshirt and sweats.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:52

And it will be on 71, 72, and we are live.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:55

It's cold in here for a reason.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:57

So yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:58

Yeah, it's amazing.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:58

So I don't think we ever, ever with our other air conditioner felt that.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:04

No.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:05

Which kind of tells us we it was wrong from the jump.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:07

From the jump.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:08

From the jump.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:09

Yeah, paying that high electric bill.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:11

I mean, it was cold.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:11

Yeah, it was it was comfortable.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:13

It was comfortable.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:13

But it's like here, we still ain't like we be playing with the thing, like, shoot, it's 72. And we still look chilly. You know, and then you get it right. It's like, okay, because it it holds the temperature in the house so well. Amazingly well.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:26

Oh man.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:27

Yes. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:28

And at this time of year, our power bill would be like $354.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:32

$350, $400.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:33

Now $150. Come on now, y'all.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:36

We had sitting at one point. Listen, listen. And everybody's home. You know what I'm saying? So everybody's home to burn the air. It's yeah. So. But I'm grateful for it, just seems like, you know, it's a lot going on in the world, but God got us, man. And I'm so thank you, Lord. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. All right, what do you do looking forward to?

Licensure Goals And Fitness Reality

SPEAKER_00 1:10:57

Well, let's see.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:02

What am I looking forward to? I don't know. I'm back into the seasons, work seasons, and I'm still doing all the things. Oh, oh, wait. I got it. I got it. So I was getting ready to say, I'm trying to figure out what am I looking forward to because I'm so busy. My day starts at 5 a.m. with exercising because now I got exercise in the morning. And then um most days I'm I'm not done till 8 p.m.

SPEAKER_00 1:11:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:27

To 8 p.m. and then home. But I will say, what I'm looking forward to is I turned in my application um to take that A out of my LAPC to just be an LPC. So I got all my documents together. Yes, yes. Turned that in. So I guess I'm looking forward to um oftentimes you don't have all things you need. Um, you'll get they call it a deficiency letter. I don't know why they call it that. That just sounds so when I got my first one when I was doing my LAPC, I said, well, I I was like really freaking out because I didn't really know what that meant. Um, but it's not a big deal. It's just really them saying, here's what you need. Checklist, you know, something else you need to do or whatever. Um they need to figure out a different word.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:12

That's just such a harsh that's the therapeutic word, you know, health-wise, you know. Deficiency. Um just call it lacking letter.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:20

No, this is what you're lacking. You're missing something. Missing, missing something. I don't know. Yeah, yeah. But, anyways, I'm hoping there's nothing missing and that within, I think they'll let you know something within 10 to 20 business days. You're gonna be sure. Um, yeah. So hopefully everything is what it needs to be. I probably put more in there than I needed to because some people telling me you needed this, and somebody said you didn't need that, but you somebody so whatever somebody said I needed, honey. I uploaded all that. So it's all that's what I could just throw it away if you don't need it. But you got it.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:54

Over shit.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:56

I'm over, I put whatever, all of it.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:59

So um, what you ain't gonna do is say you ain't did nothing. Okay. She did a lot. She did a lot, a lot more than she needed to. She needed to.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:06

Give that child her license.

SPEAKER_07 1:13:08

Right. Matter of fact, give her her two.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:10

Give her two. She didn't work for two people. So, anyways, I did all that. So um, I'm looking forward to saying approved.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:20

There you go.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:21

And I will um not have to work under supervision. I can just work all on my loan. So anyway, that's what I'm looking forward to. What do you look forward to?

SPEAKER_07 1:13:30

I'm looking forward to one of the semesters about to be over this next week. Um so it's gonna be busy. Like tomorrow, I got a lot of work to do. Um, I got, you know, some my hours and stuff like just make sure they're tabulated right. Uh, a few little assignments. I gotta send some um audio uh things to my advisor to research, not research, but uh dictate on, kind of, you know, to let me know where I should, you know, do some different things. And that's really it. But on still, on top of that, we starting school and um still got clients. And I gotta find my workout time.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:13

Yeah, you got it.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:14

That's gonna be the hardest part.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:15

I mean, like for me, I'm not a morning person, but um, it's better to do something than nothing.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:20

So typically, like this one Can't say you're not a morning person when you have been successfully doing your morning.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:26

Yeah, but I think it's an adjustment. I mean, like while I say something's better than nothing.

SPEAKER_07 1:14:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:30

Um, I would like to get up and do like like a normal after work when I didn't have clients, it'd be my cardio, some sort of weights, or whatever. But for now, I'm just like, something is better than nothing. And so um I just try to switch it up a run. But it's working. Um, and I do the bike because the bike actually the resistance is that's pressure leg stuff. And um then I try to incorporate the one where they got the uh now. I'm doing like the bike with the with the weights.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:02

With the weights, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:03

So arms. So whatever, because something is better than you not doing anything. So if I if all I can get in is 30 minutes or 20-minute interval training or whatever on the bike or or treadmill, it's better than me doing going that whole day not doing anything. So that's just kind of what I set my mind to is that, and then when our breaks come, then that's the opportunity for me to do my longer ones when I that I can do workouts, yeah. But just doing something. So yeah, so I I get up and do it before work and um yeah, and I'm just I just getting up and doing it, baby. Because that was that's what I also learned with my mom and daddy them is that I want to at their age, I want to be up still traveling, moving and doing. Yes, I don't want to be confined, movement confined, home confined. I just don't want to have that. Um I I'd like to be moving to my last day. Um, but just that that part. And so making sure you stay active and and healthy. And we still enjoy scrumptious goodies. I mean, everything in moderation, but just taking care of your body and your health the best way that you can so that you can be that 80-year-old that's hiking up um somewhere.

SPEAKER_07 1:16:22

Yeah, or them like you know, you see those stories like she's 65 years old, and look at her, you know, but like she's still wearing the leggings, yeah, or tights and working out, yeah, you know, still exceeding limitations, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 1:16:36

So that's my goal for myself, you know. And so, you know, people say, you know, you never know when's your last day, but you don't, but still.

SPEAKER_07 1:16:44

But you do the right things. If everything works accordingly, you can have some say-so in how long and how well your days are.

SPEAKER_02 1:16:51

Yeah. And at least you can say that you're doing all the things. Yeah, you know, so, anyways, that's also what I that I took from that. I was like, no, I want to make sure. And so this to me is like um, like Kirsten says, I I love to run, I get to run.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:08

Kirsten said get to. Uh-huh. Who said it first?

unknown 1:17:11

I didn't say that.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:12

I know you said it first.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:14

He makes us change all things. When I say, Oh Lord, I oh, I gotta go to work. And he says, No, you get to go to work. You get to do this, and you get to do this. So, anyway, so that's true. So you get to. Um, even like I had to switch that with my mom, taking care of them. Like, I get to. It's plenty of people that wish their mamas were still here to get to take care of them. Yeah, to get to take care of them. So, anyways, so yeah, just changing your your mind frame.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:40

So I'm gonna figure it out. Like, even if I do have to get up early.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:45

I feel like you will be able to get up at 4, 4:30, yeah, and be able to get your workout in. It ain't gonna be your normal at the gym stuff, but it'll be an adjustment as you are just doing what you have to do right now. Because this is temporary.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:02

Yeah. So I even thought about changing like a gym that allows me to go to the gym early, early. You know, I said, but man, I love I love the sauna at at uh crunch. So I'm gonna figure it out. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:15

Because even when I go back to it. I think you can I think really you try uh he's gonna do what he won't do because he's gonna be trying to be somewhere too much and doing too much, and then you're gonna be like, oh Lord, I was doing so well now. My body breaking down because you're doing too damn much.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:28

I'm doing what I've been doing for a year and I've been great.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:32

But your schedule is getting ready to be different. I know, but in regards to rest and and recharging and all of the things, your schedule is getting ready to be different.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:45

Hey.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:47

We're gonna make it work. Okay, you do you. But when you okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:51

We're gonna make it work.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:52

We'll see.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:54

We'll see. We'll see. And we didn't even get a

Next Week Tease And Closing

SPEAKER_07 1:18:58

chance to talk. So next, next week we're gonna talk about our favorite movie of the summer, our favorite show of the summer. Polygamus.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:05

Oh, yeah, we'll talk about that movie. That movie's great. That's movie crazy.

SPEAKER_07 1:19:08

All right, ladies and gentlemen, we're about to bounce up out of here.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:11

Hopefully, Keemani got our charcuterie boy ready.

SPEAKER_07 1:19:15

So it's been an honor being with you guys uh for season two.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:20

Two. Two's our fate, one of our favorite numbers. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:19:25

Two. Everything about two. Two, everybody was born on Tuesday.

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Tuesday.

SPEAKER_07 1:19:30

That's right. So it's just us.

SPEAKER_01 1:19:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:19:33

So thank you again. This has been the Refreshingly Normal Podcast. I am Kefla.

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I am Lucrecia. Lucracia.

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So we'll see you when we see it.

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.