We Celebrate 23 Years By Protecting Peace At Home

Twenty-three years married sounds like a finish line, but for us it’s more like proof that you can keep learning each other if you stay curious. We start with the real stuff: back to school exhaustion, work trainings, getting knocked out by a quick 24-hour bug, and the kind of weeks where you realize you’ve been “pushing through” a little too hard. Then we get into one of our favorite parts of this season, building a PE space where kids can move, laugh, and still do an emotional check-in that actually helps the room settle.

From there, it turns into family and transition. We talk about celebrating our son before he leaves for a new teaching job in New Jersey, how community shows up in the sweetest ways, and the small moments that hit big when you’re watching your child step into adulthood. We also share our anniversary questions with each other, the ones that reveal what’s changed, what we’re protecting now, and why boundaries are sometimes the most loving decision you can make for your household.

You’ll also hear our take on a wild headline: a flight canceled because a toddler wouldn’t buckle a seatbelt, plus what that brings up about parenting, accountability, and public spaces. We wrap with mental health tips you can use today, including “Validation is for parking,” “Don’t expect yourself out of others,” and the reminder that you take home with you, for better or worse. If any of this hits home, subscribe, share the show with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find us.

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Transcript

Welcome Back And Season Two

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.

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Quiet on the Creek.

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And one. Action Jackson. Welcome back to the Refreshingly Normal podcast, everyone. I am Kifla.

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I am Lucrezia.

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Mm-hmm. Lucrezia. There she was last time. So, my what's her song?

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Lucrezia. That's not how it goes. That is how it goes. It's more soulful.

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That sounds like.

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Oh my god.

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Lucracia.

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Oh my god. Anyway. It was more soulful. I'm gonna play it for y'all sometime. I'm gonna put it on that. I'm gonna clip it.

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Okay.

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So you can hear it.

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All right.

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Alright, so this is episode 49.

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49. Oh, that's all I am right now.

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That's your age. That's right. My wife don't mind me telling her age because she's like, that's another day around the sun and another day above ground.

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Okay.

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Come on.

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Say it.

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Say it, we will. So um, thank you for rocking with us. We're in season two. Can y'all believe it's season two? Season two. Yeah, a year ago since we started all this good, refreshingly normal stuff. And here we are on the brink of a beautiful anniversary that we'll talk about. Because yesterday was our anniversary.

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Yes.

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It was our Michael Jordan anniversary. You know what they call it? Michael Jordan. 23. I didn't know you were like Jordan. You could, you know.

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I know a lot of facts. I'm well rounded.

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Okay. We'll we'll we let's rule. All

Work Week And Feeling Run Down

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right. So let's talk about the week.

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All right.

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What went down?

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Let's see. The week was the week. Busy at work, just um no trainings. Had to attend trainings. So some full day trainings. And then also um putting together lots and lots of things for schools for suicide prevention and awareness and suicide prevention campaigns. Okay. We packed up for a lot of middle and high schools, delivered those things. Um today or last week was um no client. I think I only had one client cancel. Then I had to end up canceling because on Thursday evening I did not feel well. And I thought I was gonna be able to push through, but I was like, I can't do it.

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Yeah, she was gone, y'all.

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Yeah, I felt terrible, but it was like almost just like, but I do I I've said it hit me like 24 hours. However, when I think back, I think the day before, I started to not feel well because I remember just feeling tired, but I just kept pushing.

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Well, I hope remember yesterday I said I kept falling asleep. Like all day yesterday, I just anytime I sat down, I was I was just falling asleep.

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I'm like, that's how I felt. Like that's how I felt. And I remember even when I was driving to deliver that stuff on that day, like at the like driving and going, like trying, you know, so I did that too. Yeah, I was very tired. And so, anyways, I feel much better now. It didn't last long, thank goodness. Wasn't a call for anything with it, but I did have a nauseous stomach and just that welcome back, cooties.

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Back in the building, cooties when you go to the school, you went to that school, the elementary school.

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Yeah, and I just was nauseous and just fatigued. But, anyways, that I'll take, I mean, I don't want anything, but that was yeah, 24 hours. Yeah, that was doable. And so then um that was out for work. Um, and then um Saturday we had a family um dinner for Kimani um because he and I are leaving on Wednesday to make that drive to uh New Jersey. So we're going, but so we had everybody come over and cook dinner and celebrated him, and um we didn't know that Calvin and Linda Hale were coming. Had no clue. So that was a nice surprise. It was in actuality, we didn't really know nobody was coming to the day of, except for my sister-in-law, why Nita.

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She was the only one that replied the first day.

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She was the only one. It only one. Nobody else said a word.

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So next time we just gonna invite Nita and Kurt.

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But see, but I knew to know better because I said we'll be like, oh, just cursing Nita coming, so we'll buy four steaks. Yeah, and then here come everybody. Yeah, so anyways, everybody did come, and I'm not, I'm y'all know I'm just saying it.

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Well, we had Grand and Papa, and you know they've been kicking it with Jesus for a minute. So they probably would have been able to, like Jesus did the fish.

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Oh, make that steak into beat 5,000. Be 5,000 with that steak. But, anyways, uh I'm so beyond appreciative. Um, they always show up for the boys when they have things.

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So that's true.

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Um, yeah, so very excited um that everybody came. It was a good time. I was TI'er because I think I was still kind of recovering from being sick too. Plus, I had clients that day, plus, we was in we were in the streets getting all the stuff, and so I was very tired. Yeah, I was too. Um, but we we pushed through and got it done.

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Yeah, I was so tired because I cut grass that you know that morning. And like I said, I've just been feeling tired, you know. And even today, man, I said this morning, was it this morning I was in the shower? Last night I said my body feels tired. Like it feels kind of weak. Um, just but I don't feel sick.

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Well, take those vitamin C's and your tea.

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I and I I've been taking the tea and I also had some Ziachem.

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Yeah.

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Um the other day. Because you know, my throat's been, that's why my voice is a little deeper in the barrel tone. Because I've been screaming all week. Well, not screaming at the kids, but screaming in the gym. Because you got kids that's just you tell them, all right, you're gonna play musical squares, let's dance. As soon as you turn the music on, ah, that's all they do. Scream. It's like every move they make, they gotta, all right, go line up. Everybody just screamed and run. So, I mean, I love it because it's harmonious in the PE world. And everybody's been talking about how much fun the kids are having. And um, I said, Well, you know, I don't know if they just saying that because they are having fun, or they saying that because they are really having fun.

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Yeah.

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But Admin came by today and she said, Oh, I just came by to see everybody's talking about it. I said, about what? She said, P.E., parents, everybody. They're saying the kids are loving it. I said, Oh, well, thank you.

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Uh-huh.

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I appreciate it, you know. So And I've heard a few times like today and like throughout the end of the week when they people starting to really because some kids didn't have it yet, but now since everybody's had it, like it's really starting to, you hearing people saying, even parents were on carpool, you know, oh, we're really enjoying it. You have the PG? Yes, I'm the new PG. Oh, they're having so much fun. So I appreciate it. And it's just getting started, so it's gonna get better.

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I love it.

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I'm sorry if I cut you. I'm sorry, my bad.

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You were still talking, it was your week. I

PE Joy And Emotional Check-Ins

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was done.

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Oh, okay. Okay. All right. Um, well, my week was with that. Um PE man, it's been good, you know. Uh first, first, yeah, because it's the first time we talked since school has started.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, it's been great. Uh, I've been really using what the PTA bought, that Lou Interactive. What's it called again? Lou.

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Lou.

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It's Lou Interactive Play time, something like that. Lou Interactive. Lou Interactive Play. L-U.

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Okay.

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And it has like two little dots over it, because it I think it's from France.

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Okay.

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So even like when you like call the uh hotline, the first thing is, what's this? That's it those sites. What's it? Yeah, and there's like American or you know, press one, English press. No, American English press will be like, oh shoot. And even some of the directions. And um, but it's been a hit. We we've been doing our emotional check-in. Um some kids like, oh, it's gonna take up too much time. I'm like, look, yeah, it does take up time, but it also calms you down to kind of get you pumped up. And I figured out a way now to so that, you know, to monitor, because they want to just get up there and pat, pap, pat, pap, pat it 50 times.

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Yeah.

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Um, but if they pat it 50 times, still healthy, you know, calm, because that's the first thing they run to, cool. I say just don't run to from one to the other, you know, like that. Doing multiple feelings. Um But anyway, still, if long as the majority is happiness, calm, or whatever the other one is. It's like two of them, happiness, calm, or neutral, that's fine. Um as they're not scared, sadness, and anger. You know, if they are, they are, but yeah, okay.

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If they are, they are.

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Right. That's what I told him. I said, and then if you are, you come tell us. You know, we might we don't mind. And one kid said, I want to touch anger because I'm angry. And he was angry.

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Mm-hmm.

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What was he angry about?

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He was angry because he wasn't the line leader.

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Oh.

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And so then, you know, he was like, I was supposed to be linear as you let so you know, one of them bad things. You oh, you might put the bad kids in front, you know, the that kind of stuff. And I said, Oh, okay.

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Mm-hmm.

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And then one girl said she was sad. She said, I push sad because I miss my dad. And I was like, I don't want to say your dad dead or whatever. I said, Oh, okay, well, just like it.

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Yeah.

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And then so, next thing you know, uh I'm sorry, like within two seconds later, um, she saw one of the balls roll.

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She said, Oh, we're gonna play those boxes.

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Oh, she good.

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Yeah. She might still miss them. Maybe it'll be like her, maybe it's her weekend with the dad or something like that.

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So she's like, I said I was gonna talk to her a little bit more about it, but I was like, okay.

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Uh-huh.

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Because then once the one thing about that grade, it was she was first grade. Soon it because they can hold conversations.

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Yeah.

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So as soon as some kids say you hold a conversation, then they're gonna hold on another conversation, then another conversation, and another my birthday, then my birthday, and then my birthday.

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Uh-huh.

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And so I was just trying to keep flowing it. And um, they had a good time, though. But Lou Interactive Play, I want to say it is, it is so cool. It's a big uh like projector screen. And some of you remember seeing, like, when you would go into the mall, back when people used to go to the mall, they would have a like a projector or whatever, and it would have like fish in the middle of like the courtyard of the mall, or it would have uh like soccer balls. Yep, you stomp on them, you can kick the soccer balls, but we have that and it's on the wall. So my kids do they'll come in and they'll touch their emotions, and you know, it'll just, you know, give them a um like a one score for emotions, and then it shows a pie chart of how the class is feeling. Um it has like smiling faces. Then today we played this game where it's like these germs, and so they have these soft dodgeballs, they throw at the wall and they, you know, kill the germs. And then the germs make a big germ and then they all just start throwing it and they're just screaming and throwing it, and then they look at the score and they, oh my, you would think that they actually kill all the germs. And so while they were doing that, we had my apparel was working with the kids doing like relay balancing games, holding the um tennis ball on top of the little like a torch um thing, like a snow cone, bike cone thing. And then the other, they had to hold a flat paddle with the ball on it. And so then we rotate and we did it like um one, two, two rounds each. And that's the time was up. You know, we do our little walking of the laps and stuff like that, and go over our rules and uh flat tire, and the kids go, shh. They sit down. And then when we're hype and we're getting ready to start, I say, give me two claps, and they go, woo, all the kids.

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What y'all gonna do? Quiet on the creek.

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No, they ain't doing Quiet out of the creek. They ain't doing no quiet on the creek. But um, we're having a good time. It's so fast. I don't have time to pee. I barely have time to eat lunch. And then now I got I got the headset working, so I look like somebody working on a fast food thing. Yeah. Or uh, and they be like looking like, cause they hear it, they be hearing my voice through the whole, so it goes through the whole gym. And uh I said, look, I'm I'm gonna use all this PTA money so that they'd be like, what else you want? You know what I'm saying? So I'm doing my thing. All right, so on your face. Other than that, um, getting ready to get rid of my baby, my Jeep. Um, we got her out the shop, and they was like, Yeah, yeah, because I said, so you know, I'm thinking about getting something different because I know it's getting expensive. Because every time we've been putting in the shop, it's like a thousand a pop. And she's been three times this year. And they said, Yeah. I said, Oh, shoot. Normally I'll say, nah, she's good. You got, no, she's good. Just keep getting the oil chain. And then this time they say, Yeah, 150 something thousand miles. Most Jeefs don't make it like that, but you taking good care of her. I said, What?

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Yeah, they said just more of like a, you know, not too many miles, around the city.

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Yeah, because it's been city miles, but he's doing some miles. Yeah, I'm getting ready to do some miles, and they say, Yeah, you don't want to push it like that. But for a commuter vehicle, they say, Oh, it's gonna, it's gonna give you several more years as a commuter vehicle. Yeah. So I'm, you know, that's what I'm selling it as a commuter vehicle. And we got people already talking about they want it for a great price. So if you're out there, you want a 2009 yellow Jeep Wrangler. Soup top, lift it, lift it off the ground, got nice little uh towing bumpers and oh um customized seats. Customized seats, yep. And this uh the I got a quick top, so the top comes off real quick. You can change it in the in the in the traffic and flip it back down. Hey, hit your boy up.

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Nice radio.

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Apparently, cold air.

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Yeah.

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Yep. Hey, I give you gas. Yep, good gas. I give you a good deal on it, baby. She clean now. She's clean.

Family Dinner And Smoked Ribs

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Yep. So that's been my week. Um, but yeah, I did have a good time yesterday too. I mean, what uh Saturday.

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Saturday.

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Saturday, I smoked some ribs and I smoked some uh jerk wings. And those ribs look like they were so good, but I can't eat beef and pork, so they were very good. Yeah, and then we finished them off with a little Japanese barbecue sauce, and they were pineapple kind of like sweet ribs. When I tell y'all, they look and smelled good. Uh-mm-mm. And my jerk chicken was good.

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That was good, too.

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Yeah. And baked beans, like we always throw down on the show. But the loser of the dish.

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The coleslaw. I was trying to think of another dish, but because everything's going on with the lettuce, it was we didn't know what to get. I didn't get the lettuce out, but I always feel like you need something green.

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You do, yes. Because I was, I couldn't think of anything.

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No, and I didn't want to get back lettuce because I'm a little nervous about it, and we were trying to figure out what to get.

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I thought about I thought about asking Chick-fil-A, like how much would they give us for a thing of coleslaw? But it was after the fact when I saw it, I said, Oh, we already got it. I said, Well, maybe we could have got some Chick-fil-A because Chick-fil-A's coleslaw is pretty good. Isn't it Chick-fil-A? No, I'm thinking of Popeye. Because it's right down the street. And those people, oh sorry, not Chick-fil-A, it's Popeye. And they're they're always great. Everything they have is free.

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Anything that maybe could have been from Popeye's. Maybe even they little uh Cajun rice, K June rice. K June.

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What your uncle is that your uncle or something?

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No, the lady I work with.

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Oh, she said KG. K June.

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K June. But um, I tell you what, that coleslaw from Crow gross.

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Yeah, it was.

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Don't buy nasty. Yeah, it was. Just wasted my little dollars, baby. Just waste it on.

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I don't know what it was like. Oh, I ain't even tried. I had it before. That's the thing. Like with a little meal. Oh, yeah. I had it before.

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I tried to make it better. And honey, it was nothing you could have done to that little mess. But, anyways, I only think I maybe I said maybe we should have got, but we got just enough mac and cheese, but I'm sure people would have ate more had it been more. So I said, I mac and I should have got another, I should have done the mac and another, a bigger thing on the mac and cheese.

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But what we said, I said, yeah, look at you said, look, I ain't trying to make everybody fool. They just need to get a little something. Yeah, but then But we thought that coleslaw was gonna be a little something. Something. It wasn't a little nothing. Little nothing. So we should have got some mac and cheese. That mac and cheese. And it looked good. Okay, when it came out the other, I said, ooh.

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I did good on it.

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Put a little, yeah, little green flakes in there. You say what? It was good. And it had a pool.

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Yeah. Yeah. It's a little garnished.

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It was amazing. So anywho. Yeah, I enjoy. I enjoyed everything about it. But we always have good get-togethers.

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Yeah, you too.

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We always have good get-togethers at the crib. That's why people like coming over here.

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And then um Kimani has a ton of art. So Key was showing everybody there uh Kimani's art. So there's this one art piece that Kimani made.

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Oh.

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And oh Calvin and Linda Hare Hunt. They was looking, they were just really like looking at the like.

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My dad, he saw it just like that.

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We um what we should have made, which would have been cool because Kimani has enough art to make. We could have made an art gallery around here. But um, so then um they were looking at it and just trying to see what are the titles of these pieces that are. What does it mean? What does it mean? What does it mean? You gotta add it. So then uh one of them, they looked at it, you see that face in there? And there was a key. They were taking pictures. Yeah, like you see that.

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You know how old for they hold a phone, like then they go.

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So Kid kept saying, Mama thing, it's a mama and daddy think it's a face in that painting, and it's because Kim Money has some abstract art.

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Yeah.

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So we sit up there, here she comes with the paint. Kimani. What is the face in this picture? He said, Grinnett, ain't no face in that picture. Don't you see the face? Now here is the artist telling you. There's no face in this page. There's no face.

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No intentional face, no intention. Yeah. Yeah. He didn't do it intentionally.

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Intentionally. And she's like, Yes, you see this face. He like, and then my daddy's gonna see.

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Well, look, right here.

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Let me show you.

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And I already did this. Like I said, Ofo, next time y'all watch Ofo do their phone, like they're going. And they tell, then he's gonna show everybody. Look, see, right, see, right, look right there. Look right there. Look at that. That's how my dad talked about it. Look at right there. Look, that's it right there. Look at right there. You see that right? The two eyes, right there, the nose and the face looking off to the north. They always got to the north right there.

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It was those faces that paint. But anywho, they did that and then he made a sale. Yeah, he made a sale. And then uh Kahari was his reader of his poems, which Kahari did a great job of reading the poem, Kimani's poems.

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Okay. I heard I thought I said, is he reading the poems?

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And then Kimani talked through what it meant. Yeah, and we talked about what it meant. But yeah, so it was a good weekend. And um, that can kind of go into our next thing with our anniversary was

23rd Anniversary And Getting Ready

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Sunday.

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It was Sunday, year 23 up in that thing.

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Right. Um, we didn't really do anything because we have been so busy.

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Well, we said last, we ripping running.

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Rippin' and ripping. Dilly Dallin. Dilly Dallin, running and ripping. To and fro. To and fro. And so we didn't do anything. We got up, did break bay breakfast.

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Yep. I went, you know, did my final. I always do it, you know, because of Sunday's breakfast. I don't never have to like put stuff out early in the morning. On a birthday, Mother's Day, anniversary. Cause this little one right here, oh, she's gonna get that sleep. So I can get up in the morning, go to Kroger, get the, you know, the final things that I did. Because we're together so much that sometimes you can't get the cars.

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That's what I try to tell Keemani because when we were out, I was like, I gotta get a car. Kimani's like, Ma, you didn't get a card. You don't know when this anniversary's gonna be. I was like, Keemani, because we're always together.

SPEAKER_09 20:16

So like when we through the week, you like you said, you didn't even have time to hear stuff for your clients. So it was like you just go to work, don't even have time to stop.

SPEAKER_06 20:24

Go to work, go to work, come home.

SPEAKER_09 20:25

Yeah, go to work, go to work, come home. Yeah.

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So we didn't have time. So, anyways, we did that, came down, has flowers, and the best cards. Although the cards are always good, but the written part on this one was pretty, pretty good.

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I was feeling some, I was feeling a little something, you know.

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Yeah, yeah.

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Feeling a little something, you know. It was a it was a something.

SPEAKER_06 20:48

I might need to go back and see if it matched the lyrics to Lucrasia.

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It don't.

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Oh.

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But if it does, I wrote hey, everything I wrote.

SPEAKER_06 20:55

Oh, you wrote Lucracia.

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Yeah, well, not all of it. I I gave it, I was an inspiration. You know, tell them like, so this is what you gotta do. Say this, this is what happened, this, this is this, and then boom. And it was like, all right, I got it from now.

SPEAKER_06 21:07

So anyway, and um got me a cute, I have a tail far that's a bigger black circle, but now I have a smaller brown one. So um did that, and then myself and my mother-in-law, Miss Linda Hare and Kimani went to get him set for schoolware, for teaching schoolware, so that he can go and they be like, Man, that teacher's shop. Um, so we did that and got all the things he needed before we get to Jersey. Because what we realized were the prices at the DXL here is cheaper than in New Jersey.

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It's a lot of big people in Detroit. I don't know. I bet it's not as cheap as Detroit here, because you know, Detroit like them big cats. What? Big cats in Detroit like that. They but they have all them other stores too.

SPEAKER_06 21:56

So I told him whenever he's there and he shops, then we'll compare. And if it's cheaper for me to do here. If it's cheap for me, cheaper for me here, then we can just buy their chips.

SPEAKER_09 22:07

Or do a buy and pick up at the store. Yeah. I wonder if you can do that.

SPEAKER_06 22:10

Well, yeah. Like you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_09 22:12

Sometimes you can buy online and say, but I want to pick up here. Yeah. Or buy at the store and say, Well, okay, so, you know, how can we do it if we want to pick up? Yeah, I'm gonna buy this for my son as a gift.

SPEAKER_06 22:23

So I said we could um do that, but that was that. And then the other lie, oh, for Hold on one second.

SPEAKER_09 22:30

Maybe it's more expensive because they don't do state taxes, is that right?

unknown 22:32

I don't know.

SPEAKER_09 22:33

I think money said they don't they don't do state taxes on something. I think they said that. Okay.

SPEAKER_06 22:37

Maybe um and so then the other thing I want when um I made my post about Keemani's um new adventure going off and how we're so proud of him. And then um the sweetest messages from people that said that some old students that we had, did you read some of those?

SPEAKER_09 22:57

No, but I the the only one you told me about was Miss Museo.

SPEAKER_06 23:01

No, Miss Tank Hill.

SPEAKER_09 23:02

Miss Tank Hill. That was hilarious.

SPEAKER_06 23:04

So one of Kivani's teachers, his kindergarten teachers, said, Oh, I guess he decided not that he didn't want to grow up and be a vampire bat. Because when he's in kindergarten, that's what he said. And so um the fact that she and he Kivani's like, she remembered that? Um so that was there. But some of the other messages from some of our students that we had, um would say um, they were saying messages like that you two are such amazing people, we're amazing teachers, that we it the students that your son gets are gonna be so lucky because he has been raised by parents that, you know. Anyways, it was just such sweet messages of how they felt like those students are gonna be so lucky to have him. Um because he's come come from you know educators and parents who uh love on kids and everything like that. So I was like, oh, that was really sweet. So I loved all those messages.

SPEAKER_09 24:05

I haven't read anything. Like, even like you said, with the anniversary post.

SPEAKER_06 24:11

You didn't even write me an anniversary post.

SPEAKER_09 24:14

I know I thought about that.

SPEAKER_06 24:15

I said everybody's gonna say, hmm, I can't. But I wasn't worried about looking. I guess she loved his dirty drawers, but he don't love hers.

SPEAKER_09 24:22

But you got that card. It wasn't for everybody.

SPEAKER_05 24:26

That's true.

SPEAKER_09 24:27

Exactly.

SPEAKER_05 24:28

I should have writed to read to y'all.

SPEAKER_09 24:30

You should have, but it wasn't for, you know what I'm saying? I'm just saying, hey. I want, you know, and I was like, oh, I didn't do it. But I was like, well, I just I just like You said want to confess your love. No, I ain't confess my love, child. I was tired. And that was that's more energy for real. Social media has been. Yeah. And I guess because so much going on.

SPEAKER_01 24:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 24:52

And it's just it's kind of draining. So if it's when I it when I professed it to you in the car and throughout the day, I was I was smitten. So there was nothing else I needed to do.

SPEAKER_06 25:05

Oh, smitten.

SPEAKER_09 25:06

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 25:07

All right, well, in honor of our 23rd.

SPEAKER_09 25:12

23rd, baby.

SPEAKER_06 25:14

Anniversary. We're gonna do it.

SPEAKER_09 25:15

This is 23.1 because we have another anniversary that we always celebrate, which is in November.

SPEAKER_06 25:21

So we are going to do um an happy anniversary. Anniversary,

Anniversary Questions And Relationship Growth

SPEAKER_06 25:30

not really trivia, but just a few questions. Little questions. Little questions. All right, the first question is what's your favorite memory from this past year together?

SPEAKER_09 25:43

This past year together. Um going back to Cali.

SPEAKER_04 25:53

Going back to Cali.

SPEAKER_09 25:54

Yeah, um, because that wasn't this year, wasn't it? Like yeah. Well, the year.

SPEAKER_06 26:00

Okay, kinda.

SPEAKER_09 26:01

Are you saying the year or you saying 2020? It is the year. It is the year to the yeah. Yeah, that's it within the year, right?

SPEAKER_06 26:05

But it wasn't within the 20 years. Okay, okay, you're right, you're right, you're right.

SPEAKER_09 26:08

No, I'll go, I'll go a little bit.

SPEAKER_06 26:10

Okay.

SPEAKER_09 26:10

Um, let's see. Um I guess to be it's it's small. When you it's I understand what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_06 26:21

Okay. I'm gonna try.

SPEAKER_09 26:23

When you went to Kansas, yeah. All right, even though we were separated, we still talked. And to hear your mom say, Do y'all talk that much when y'all in person? Mm-hmm. And to know it's like, that's Keefle again, you know, stuff like that, like hearing us say how we communicate. We still talk, and y'all don't like each other that much. That's what your mom would say, you know, because we would be still talking.

SPEAKER_06 26:48

Oh no, and they didn't think I the first time they said they didn't think I heard her, they were saying, They talk that much when they girl, probably not.

SPEAKER_09 26:56

And we laughing, still laughing with each other on the phone. And that just not validated, but it just showed the, to me, like a strength within our relationship. Um, a and it was cool, it was almost kind of like dating again. You know, where you couldn't see the person, but you called and talked to them on the phone. Um and to me, it was like those were cool moments. Cause we would be on the phone sometimes hour, not even talking about a lot of substance, but just be on there, oh, and then such and such, oh, look at this. You watching that? No, I ain't see that. Oh, I'm watching that, or you laughing. So, what you watching? Oh, I'm watching this, such and such. Oh, I'm watching something else. It was like dating, like high school dating. So I thought that was like super cool to be so far in and to still find that first little piece that a lot of people do who may not even get to the marriage part, may not even get to the serious commitment part. And um that just had me thinking about that when we were um apart. And it it also made me look forward to the point of finding the moment to call you again, because it was just kind of cool.

SPEAKER_06 28:10

So my favorite memory was uh Savannah when you went on my work trip. And when um um you were recruiting people for our session, but the whole trip was really nice, and you just like I was like, see, gonna feel like I'm tired of being around these ladies or whatever, but it was still I felt like it was a good time. But then um saying, I'm sending people your way. I told people my wife presented, yeah. But um I think even for that, because sometimes I think people do think um how you are as a couple, like, is that how you show up in and I think for the people that you know, my co-order like, nope, that's yeah, yeah. So I um yeah, I thought we always have a good time anyways, but that I just like the fact that um you were excited for me to be presenting at the at the conference and to ensure other people knew and all that. And so, yeah, I enjoyed that um you coming on the Savannah trip.

SPEAKER_09 29:14

I was hustling, boy. I was I was a street team that would need to hand out flyers and stuff. Well, if I would have had some little flyers and pamphlets, I'd have put them all over the place.

SPEAKER_06 29:22

Oh, so that was good.

SPEAKER_09 29:23

Check them out. All right.

SPEAKER_06 29:25

All right. How have we grown as a comp as a couple since last anniversary? Do you think there's any growth that we've had?

SPEAKER_09 29:35

We've we've we've gotten stronger into not expecting us from everybody else.

SPEAKER_01 29:41

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_09 29:42

Um, and really being content with if you like it, I love it. I don't care what they say. You know what I'm saying? Um, we've gotten um I think we've gotten even more on the same page with uh our boys, as far as you and I communicating wise of what we should say, do, what when we should pull back, all that kind of stuff. I think we've we've gotten on the same page with that within the past year. Um but definitely I feel like we have protected our individual peace, but our peace as a household on people like drastically this year. Like really, like you know what? You know, I ain't and I'm talking about from people that's close to us for little things. Yeah, you know?

SPEAKER_06 30:41

I think that we um somet I think in the past, not that we're people pleasers, but sometimes we would compromise our own comfort. And so, yeah, the fact that we're like, nah, nah, we're not doing that. Yeah, yeah, and not to be worried about what anybody may think about it or if they agree with it or not, because it's our decision.

SPEAKER_01 31:11

Right.

SPEAKER_06 31:11

And it's our life. And if we know our intention, and our intention is not to hurt anybody, um, then yeah, we roll with it and the it is what it is.

SPEAKER_01 31:22

Right.

SPEAKER_06 31:22

And I feel like that has brought um uh an enormous amount of peace to me.

SPEAKER_09 31:30

No, no, no, in both ways, you know. Um, I mean, you kind of know I'm I'm quick to do it. Because you'll tell me, come on now.

SPEAKER_06 31:38

Yeah, sometimes I'll say, are you sure?

SPEAKER_09 31:40

And I'll be like, Look. And I'll say, okay. Hey, I got look, if they anybody say anything, I got it.

SPEAKER_06 31:50

So, but yeah, every decision that we make is not one of it's we've decided together.

SPEAKER_09 31:55

Yep. This is good. Ginger beer with a little like splash of wine just for color. That's all we did. And you got we don't want to say it's a uh rhymes with might. I'm just saying it ain't sponsors yet. Unless they want to sponsor us.

SPEAKER_06 32:12

Oh my gosh. Okay.

SPEAKER_09 32:13

Well we can say it, Jeff. I'm gonna give y'all one free commercial. It's Sprite with a little splash of red wine for color.

SPEAKER_06 32:21

Okay. Um let's do what's one thing you want to do differently next year?

SPEAKER_09 32:33

Um I want to personally I'm gonna work on our budget so that we can have the ability to do some on a whim moments. Let's just bounce here for a second. Let's let's let's take a uh carry-on backpack, dip here, hotel, come at.

SPEAKER_06 33:01

You know, I thought about that. I think we could do that more often.

SPEAKER_09 33:04

I just think if we just kinda um we can kind of get be a little bougie and I Oh we are, but I wanna still be where we are, you know what I mean, in that regard. Okay because you and I both know now there's some hotels we're not staying in.

SPEAKER_05 33:21

That's true.

SPEAKER_09 33:22

You know what I mean? There's like even though I don't mind a a food truck, I don't mind a street side uh, you know, tent, taco.

SPEAKER_06 33:31

But where I gotta lay my boot in my head.

SPEAKER_09 33:35

But even still, I'm just gonna say with some restaurants, if it smells a certain way, or whatever, we're not going. You can call it what you want. You can call it bougie, you can call it too good for that. Hey. So, but I wanna be able to, you know, budget a little better so that we are able to have more space to do the things, you know, like that.

SPEAKER_04 33:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 33:59

So um I kind of agree with that too. Just it don't have to, you know, just a couple days away and come back, that sort of thing. I think we also have to make the time. I feel like this year is gonna time is gonna be tight.

SPEAKER_09 34:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 34:17

Um very tight. Yeah. Time's gonna be tight. Um, I'm still I'm adjusting. I kind of got some parts of my schedule worked out for my um therapy when I'm therapizing job. So trying to work that out to where it I have a little some more gap.

SPEAKER_09 34:35

Yeah, because it's not a requirement for you anymore.

SPEAKER_06 34:38

It's yeah, it's not a requirement for me. And so just making sure to take care of me because uh to be honest, it's the amount that I did from January until July is not sustainable.

SPEAKER_09 34:53

Yeah. Well, do you think it's not sustainable or mentally?

SPEAKER_06 34:59

Because I think um I think for for how I want to live my life, both. Okay. Um, because it doesn't allow me to work out the way that I would want to work out. Um and I don't want to just come come home, eat, and go to bed. Like, that's not, I like to come home and kind of settle down and that sort of thing. Like I I like the evenings like that. So I don't have to have every evening like that. Right. I need to have more than just one. Yeah. And so for me, then that that's what the spring was. My only during the work week was just the one day, and that's not enough for me. Um, so, anyways, I'm making adjustments so that I can make sure that I can do that. And even like like just I don't want to feel tired all the time. Um you know, so adjusting that. So that's something that I also want to do so that we can um be able to do that. But I know we we're not, I mean, yeah.

SPEAKER_09 36:13

You're not what? Spring chickens?

SPEAKER_06 36:15

Yeah, we're not spring chickens.

SPEAKER_09 36:17

We are spring chickens. People don't think we're how old we're our age.

SPEAKER_06 36:21

Yes, but any. Yes, but if I keep working like uh a Hebrew slave, then I'm gonna start looking. You know, when you're just doing too much, you just start to just wears on you. And I don't want that to be a thing. Because I was looking last week, y'all. I was tired. I look tired almost like my little eye, one look lower than the other.

SPEAKER_09 36:43

Almost like her husband told her she was tired. Uh because she was this how y'all I could tell. She would say, and I said, Your blinks are getting long. Anytime she's tired, she'd be like, and I think that, you know. Um I was tired. So I'll be trying to give them screenshots so that we can put on the YouTube, because YouTube, when you put stuff on YouTube, it says ask for a thumbnail. So I'm trying to find thumbnails, and there'll be moments where it was something funny, and I'm laughing, and she's like this. Or she laughing like this. We both laugh with our eyes closed, but it was too many in between. I was like, oh man, I couldn't even find a good thumbnail. So, but she told me she wasn't tired. Y'all heard her. Yeah, good job.

SPEAKER_06 37:26

Okay. So, um one last question.

SPEAKER_09 37:30

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 37:30

If you could relive one moment from our relationship, which one would you relive?

SPEAKER_09 37:40

Ma'am, to be honest, it would be the wedding day.

SPEAKER_01 37:44

Okay.

SPEAKER_09 37:44

Because we didn't finish it how we should have. We were thinking of other people. Well, I was I'll put it on me. I'll say I was thinking of other people trying to be because even the whole day I was trying to make sure everybody was fine during the wedding. Um, you know, even when my vows, I was making sure everybody was doing what they needed to do and stuff like that, but I didn't think about the other part. You know what I'm saying? So um I would definitely relive that day. Besides that day, it would probably be um Costa Rica. Cause uh um I felt like that was because we we kind of made that our honeymoon trip.

SPEAKER_04 38:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 38:30

And it just felt it felt nice. It felt lovely. And that was how many years ago? Maybe seven years ago? Because was that twenty nineteen?

SPEAKER_06 38:40

Oh, that was fifteen. Is that twenty fifteen? No, I was trying to think of our wedding of the anniversary. So it was a teen year?

SPEAKER_09 38:47

No, it wasn't a teenager, but yeah, it had to be. Maybe it was 15. Yeah. Had to be 15.

SPEAKER_06 38:52

Okay.

SPEAKER_09 38:53

Yeah, because I well, something like that.

SPEAKER_06 38:55

So So 2018?

SPEAKER_09 38:57

Yeah, so it was 11 years ago. Wow, okay. And so um, with that being said, we have grown so much more, so I wonder you know, we're we're like you said, like really being into each other even more so now, comfortable, even more so comfortable in in things, you know, with each other now than we were just 10 years ago. You know what I'm saying? Um, I think we would have we would enjoy it so much more.

SPEAKER_04 39:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 39:28

You know, um, almost to the point where we wouldn't even like, yes, we did excursions, but it's like now, with the good food and just the spot.

SPEAKER_06 39:38

I don't know. I really love the horseback riding.

SPEAKER_09 39:40

No, the horseback riding was amazing. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 39:42

The other thing I didn't the mystic trail. I mean, that was cool.

SPEAKER_09 39:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 39:47

Well, all was cool. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 39:48

I could have stayed there longer than that. We did when we did the uh the suspension bridge. Yeah. And you over there talking about, oh, let's walk. And the thing wobbling like this, I'm like, yo, this thing is wobbling. She's just like, let's go. And it's just wobbling like she was so excited that she was like not really thinking about what could happen.

SPEAKER_06 40:07

Well, I could do I could literally probably spend my entire summer in Costa Rica. I'll be honest.

SPEAKER_09 40:13

No, and see, that's what I would, that's what I'm saying. I would like to like rent a car and go places. Like we didn't go to the beach side and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_06 40:21

We should see. You know, it would be a wouldn't that be cool if like we just spent a month there?

SPEAKER_09 40:26

It would. It would definitely would. If we found a place to rent for the month, I would spend a month anywhere out of the country as a trip. I think it'd be insane.

SPEAKER_04 40:34

We should totally see about that.

SPEAKER_09 40:36

Yeah, but when are we gonna be at the end?

SPEAKER_04 40:38

That'd be awesome.

SPEAKER_09 40:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 40:40

Maybe maybe we can think about it. Well, yeah.

SPEAKER_09 40:43

Well, for your 50th child, we can't we we we may who know? It may have some money. We spend a whole month out there.

SPEAKER_06 40:50

Yeah. Because I don't I think if you rented a home, that's not gonna nearly because we stayed at La uh Nayara, which is pricey.

SPEAKER_09 40:59

Yeah, La Fortuna.

SPEAKER_06 41:00

Yeah, in La Fortuna, which is.

SPEAKER_09 41:01

And we was at one of the top five romantic resorts in the world. In the entire world.

SPEAKER_06 41:08

So that also plays so if we just rented a property.

SPEAKER_09 41:12

Yeah. And the car, that's what people do.

SPEAKER_06 41:14

They rent, you know, property in the car and that kind of stuff, then that would be complete. That probably won't be as much. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 41:20

I'm just so scared with Airbnb now. I think Costa Rica would be different though. It'd be oh people just.

SPEAKER_06 41:26

No, we I I think we'll be able to find one because you can now you get so much research and stuff.

SPEAKER_09 41:30

I hope child.

SPEAKER_06 41:31

Well, and if it's bad, then you get you something else.

SPEAKER_09 41:35

Yeah, that's true, child. That's true.

SPEAKER_06 41:37

So I don't know.

SPEAKER_09 41:38

And then I'd be scared of people putting cameras everywhere because you know when I go somewhere on trips. Oh my gosh. Hey.

SPEAKER_06 41:47

I mean And then the tickets, the airline tickets not gonna cost you a pretty penny to go to Costa Rica either.

SPEAKER_09 41:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 41:52

Like Africa you can go, but you're gonna spend a pretty penny to get to Africa.

SPEAKER_09 41:57

Africa, you gotta stay a month just about because once you get there, there's so many places you want to go. Because you're like, oh, we're in Africa. But it's like, oh, but there's Kenya, there's South Africa, there's Durban, there's Nairobi, there's Johannesburg.

SPEAKER_02 42:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 42:11

And you can travel back and forth between them, but it's like you feel like if you only go to one spot, you kind of miss something else. Because they're all different. Yeah. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 42:19

So I can't wait for retirement.

SPEAKER_09 42:21

I know, man.

SPEAKER_06 42:22

Um, I think if we had, if I had to relive a moment, it would be the wedding day too. And the same as you said, the changes there. Also telling somebody, can y'all please have somebody come clean up the room? Because we were all the ladies were in there, yeah.

SPEAKER_09 42:37

Yeah, I would have done everything.

SPEAKER_06 42:38

All the ladies were in there getting together. And then um, I think even though we were moving to California, I think um sort of couple days somewhere, you know.

SPEAKER_09 42:54

Yeah, I think we could have bounced somewhere.

SPEAKER_06 42:56

Yeah, uh if it was Austin or San Antonio, but something just to say, oh, we're just going for a couple days, just to enjoy being, but you know, um, something like that. But that's what I think I would have changed about it.

SPEAKER_09 43:12

Um even when we got to Cali, we should have left from there to go somewhere.

SPEAKER_06 43:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 43:17

You know, well, I didn't drink at the time, so Napa wouldn't have been that fun.

SPEAKER_06 43:21

No, we wouldn't have. Can I be honest? I didn't even know what a Napa was then. I did.

SPEAKER_09 43:27

I did, because they bailed in them.

SPEAKER_06 43:29

You still uh I would, I did not even know. And I wasn't, I don't even think I drank a lot of wine then.

SPEAKER_09 43:35

No, you was yeah, you would not have known, but it didn't say the boons foam. She was like, ooh, my god. Let's go there. It's a boons, a real boons foam. Let's do it.

SPEAKER_06 43:51

So, anyways, but yeah, I think that's what I would have changed. All right.

SPEAKER_09 43:56

Yeah, all right.

SPEAKER_06 43:58

Believe it, sister.

Flight Canceled Over A Seatbelt

SPEAKER_09 44:00

I do believe it, sister.

SPEAKER_06 44:01

All right. I'm gonna give it to you.

SPEAKER_09 44:03

Oh my jeez. Oh my jeez.

SPEAKER_06 44:07

There you go.

SPEAKER_09 44:08

All right, ladies and gentlemen. I saw this. I said, I know you lying. Like you see, you know, for I know you lying. All right, so this is the headline. It says, flight canceled after after toddler refused to buckle seatbelt, stranding passengers overnight. So this was in, I don't know where this was, but it's called Porter Airlines. Child, what kind of look? I need the big funnel here. So an evening flight, oh, in from British Columbia to Toronto. So they was in Canada.

SPEAKER_01 44:39

Okay.

SPEAKER_09 44:39

So an evening flight from British Columbia to Toronto this week had to be canceled because a toddler refused to buckle their seatbelt. The airline confirmed the Fox News Digital. Porter Airlines flight 444, Jay-Z, was expected to leave from Victoria International Airport at 1030 p.m. and had begun taxing when a flight attendant noticed the child. A young child was standing in their seat and would not secure their seatbelt. The airline shared with Fox News Digital in a statement, adding that neither the adult with the child nor the crew were able to get the child buckled. The aircraft could not take off in this unsafe condition, so the crew elected to return to the terminal and have the passengers disembark, the airline added. The airline added, because the airport has a takeoff curfew of 12 30 a.m. and it took time to get the passengers in question and their luggage off the plane and do the necessary paperwork, the flight had to be canceled. The other passengers had to stay the night. The other passengers were rebooked on a Friday flight, which was the next day. We apologize for the effect this had on other passengers, Porter Airlines added. And a child safety seat or restraint device is required for children under two flying on the airline. It is unclear how old the child was. Now I read some comments and people was like, How big was the child?

SPEAKER_06 46:10

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_09 46:11

Like, you know, this Joe, you can't even see the case. Right.

SPEAKER_06 46:15

So I would assume that the child must have look like three or four.

SPEAKER_09 46:18

He must have looked like? Oh, I thought you were about to say something else, or what the child must have looked like.

SPEAKER_06 46:23

Let me tell you.

SPEAKER_09 46:24

Um I don't understand.

SPEAKER_06 46:28

First of all, I'm gonna ask the parent.

SPEAKER_09 46:32

What the child look like? Oh.

SPEAKER_06 46:33

No. I'm gonna ask the parent to have the child sit down. If the parent cannot get the child to sit down, I'm not getting ready to make all of these people miss a flight. So go ahead and back this plane on us.

SPEAKER_09 46:47

Get them off quick.

SPEAKER_06 46:48

And they got to go. So we can keep this flight moving. Um I that's what I would have done. I don't, if the thing they waited too long. They waited too long, they gave too many chances. I shouldn't be quiet about who the child was. Come on. I bet you. I bet you. Come on. I bet you if that child's name was Tyrone, they would have backed it on up. But um, that's just my take. But I should be quiet because I do not know who the child was. We don't know.

SPEAKER_09 47:18

But but that's just the fact that I bet that child was was was being that that child was practicing having their voice. You know, when they say we're teaching our child to have their own voice, have a voice.

SPEAKER_06 47:32

And I feel like in that moment, it needed to be a great learning lesson for that parent and for that child.

SPEAKER_09 47:43

Oh, it was. They should have had a couple cusses on now. Oh because a couple cusses?

SPEAKER_06 47:49

What a settle.

SPEAKER_09 47:50

I even if it didn't change now.

SPEAKER_06 47:52

It's got to be a video of that.

SPEAKER_09 47:53

You gotta be getting some cuss. Yeah, somebody got one.

SPEAKER_06 47:55

I'm certainly.

SPEAKER_09 47:56

All these people, somebody got a video of it.

SPEAKER_06 47:58

Somebody's got a video of that.

SPEAKER_09 47:59

We need to find out. We need to find out. We need to look it up. Video children.

SPEAKER_06 48:02

Can you imagine?

SPEAKER_09 48:03

Yeah, he must have been a flight. He had to be a beach. Your flight counts because of an unruly child.

SPEAKER_06 48:10

Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_09 48:11

Not an adult. I'm talking about an unruly child.

SPEAKER_06 48:15

And I just don't understand why they just didn't put him off the plane. And tell me how come the uh flight attendant did not notice the child standing up in a seat.

SPEAKER_09 48:26

They said they know all of a sudden they're getting ready to tax, though. He must have been sitting down, then they said he knows everything. Oh, then he got up.

SPEAKER_06 48:32

Oh, because I'm like you could be sitting there and they notice everything.

SPEAKER_09 48:37

Look, I was on the bus today, since I ride the bus with um with you know one little group, and I'm looking, I'm looking at the back, like the flat team sitting facing you. You know, we can also I'm turned around this way to make sure, because I'm in the front, I'm seeing them. Soon they get up, sit down. They sit down. Yeah. Uh uh, what you doing? Stand up, sit down. And they be like, dang. So the bus driver said, Thank you. Thank you. Because they be wanting to jump up all the time. Just like that. They should have did that.

SPEAKER_06 49:04

Yeah, so that's what I'm trying to say. Like, who did not see it?

SPEAKER_09 49:08

Come on.

SPEAKER_06 49:09

Who did it?

SPEAKER_09 49:10

Well, who he's sitting with?

SPEAKER_06 49:12

His mama. But I'll tell you something.

SPEAKER_09 49:15

They must have been drunk.

SPEAKER_06 49:17

No, let me tell you.

SPEAKER_09 49:18

It must have been high.

SPEAKER_06 49:19

There had to maybe there was something wrong because when I was at the office, there was a little baby. Little, I mean, not a baby.

SPEAKER_09 49:29

Something wrong with the baby?

SPEAKER_06 49:31

It's not a baby. It's a child. And this child's supposed to be having their session.

SPEAKER_09 49:38

But just running amok. Running amok. And mom didn't nobody say nothing.

SPEAKER_06 49:42

Mama is there. Therapist is there. And the child is tearing the place up.

SPEAKER_09 49:53

You didn't you didn't eye on them?

SPEAKER_06 49:56

I had a client.

SPEAKER_09 49:57

You still, you should have eye yellowned them.

SPEAKER_06 49:59

But what I said. Not on my watch. Well, this is what I still say. I said, because they came into mine.

SPEAKER_09 50:06

Oh, you oh, what do you think?

SPEAKER_06 50:10

And I said, uh uh, sweetheart. And so he was still trying to, so I just kind of stayed by the door. And then somebody came and said, We're so sorry. But so I just imagine that even in that, if that was, I would imagine the child that was on that plane probably has similar characteristics to this child who mama was there and just sitting in the chair looking like she doesn't know what to do.

SPEAKER_09 50:36

And nobody wanted the Shannon Sharp. What's that mean, Shannon Sharp?

SPEAKER_06 50:39

I don't know.

SPEAKER_09 50:43

They went, shit. Remember I used to do that in the kids at the store? They'd be running around. Uh-huh. So put them sit down and stop running. They'd be like.

SPEAKER_06 50:50

Or you just mouth it.

SPEAKER_09 50:52

Yeah, them little, yeah, they used to be running around the stores, like the targets, you know, and I would tell them, hey, stop all that running. They would look, then they'd be like, they would walk to their mama. I used to do it all the time. Bad self. And I used to tell them straight up, stop all that running.

SPEAKER_04 51:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 51:10

So I wonder on that plane. I guess nobody helped her. But um, because I've seen people help parents on the plane sometimes when they're not a few. Oh, they'll probably parents.

SPEAKER_09 51:18

Well, they didn't say even the parents were unruly, but because I don't know, but they should have you come on now.

SPEAKER_06 51:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 51:26

Now the little kid on no fly zone. No fly list.

SPEAKER_06 51:29

No, he ain't on the no-fly.

SPEAKER_09 51:30

He better be.

SPEAKER_06 51:31

We didn't fly that day. Because that was a lot of money that plane with that airline law.

SPEAKER_09 51:36

Because they gotta, you know, with all them laws and stuff. If Canada's like, well, Canada probably way better than us with that of getting people basically. Yeah, and you gotta get a meal voucher.

SPEAKER_06 51:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 51:48

Cause I know one of the flights we were trying to get on, they said, uh, if we're if we can't leave in the next whatever, you know, we're gonna give everybody meal vouchers, you know, and hotels and all that stuff. I said, I bet.

unknown 52:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 52:00

That was good. So they had to spend all that. So they might be on the no-fly list after that. I don't know, but I don't know if that's a thing you can do. Maybe the child has special needs.

SPEAKER_09 52:11

Yeah, you need to sit his special behind down. Oh, God. Especially. That's what he got. He got his specially needs. They need to put his little tail off of that plane. And them parents, especially. I would've I would have lost my mind. Just you can't control that little child.

SPEAKER_06 52:32

I think I would have stepped in to help.

SPEAKER_09 52:35

I probably would have too. I'd say, look, I'll sit here. I'll sit here.

SPEAKER_06 52:40

But I just wonder, like, oh, but they gotta be a certain age to sit on your lap. And after that, they have to sit in their seats.

SPEAKER_09 52:46

That's what I'm saying. So look. So I'll sit here with Ryan. They said they couldn't put the seatbelt on. Why not?

SPEAKER_02 52:52

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_09 52:53

How he driving. You know what I would do? What I do when you don't put that seatbelt on to the kids in the car. I'd have done that on the plane.

SPEAKER_06 53:00

They should have told him.

SPEAKER_09 53:01

I'd have said, all right, we get ready to take off a little bit and then he would've hit that little uh folding tray thing. He'd have sat down then.

SPEAKER_06 53:09

He would have sat down then, but yeah. Yeah, sir.

SPEAKER_09 53:14

Or if he was standing on the aisle part, I'd have hit that little luggage thing at the top. Bam. He'd have sat down then. Oh my God. Because obviously he was big, too big for them to do anything about. That's true. Oh, he'd have said it plenty thing he would have sat down.

SPEAKER_06 53:26

That is true.

SPEAKER_09 53:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 53:27

But they should have just, they should have, they should, they wasted too much time. They should have taxed back and put him off the plane.

SPEAKER_09 53:34

I would have reached through the little seat, like that's a big deal. Unfortunately. I would have reached through the seat, grabbed his little arm, pinched him.

SPEAKER_06 53:39

He was like, yeah. Like, what's that?

SPEAKER_04 53:41

What?

SPEAKER_06 53:41

Oh my God. That's true. You pinched me. I'm like, what? What was pinching him gonna do but get the baby bo upset?

SPEAKER_09 53:50

No, then he'd be like, oh, they ain't playing. Oh, oh. Somebody ain't playing.

SPEAKER_06 53:54

So he you he needed a grandma to come.

SPEAKER_09 53:56

Yeah. Somebody ain't playing. You know how many Ushers got them little bad, bad kids together in church? Because all the bad kids sat in the back of the church. Cause they came with somebody.

SPEAKER_01 54:08

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_09 54:08

And so they didn't want them to sit up there to mess up their shout.

SPEAKER_01 54:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 54:12

So they would, when they would come, like they would put them in the van, come to the little rock, them little bad kids sit right there. Because we would be like a few. Mama wouldn't let us sit in the back. Yeah. She would do like, come up, come up. So we would have to sit up a few. And the bad kids be in the back. And Miss Ann and all them other ones, you hear them, ow!

SPEAKER_08 54:30

Ow, why you pinch me?

SPEAKER_09 54:32

In church. And they'll get them. Next thing you know, they they quiet.

SPEAKER_06 54:37

Oh my goodness.

SPEAKER_09 54:38

They know how to act right.

SPEAKER_06 54:39

Oh my goodness. I don't know about that because I was a good child.

SPEAKER_09 54:44

I would have pinched them.

SPEAKER_06 54:45

I didn't get pinched.

SPEAKER_09 54:46

That's a shame. But so this little toddler caused them not to catch their flight.

SPEAKER_06 54:52

And I bet they were like, I can't believe this. But guess what?

SPEAKER_09 54:55

Believe it. Believe it, sister. Yeah, sister. Because if it was sister on the plane, they would have took off.

SPEAKER_06 55:02

They would have took off. You better believe that.

SPEAKER_09 55:05

Mm-hmm. Because she would have just looked at him. And he would have said that. She would say, I know you ain't. I ain't finna miss my flight. Little Timothy, if you don't sit down, put on that seatbelt.

SPEAKER_06 55:18

I'ma give you five seconds.

SPEAKER_09 55:20

And she probably pulled that seatbelt on. Shh. I put his out of bookman, put his hand like this. He couldn't do nothing. But sit still.

SPEAKER_06 55:30

And we would have been on time.

SPEAKER_09 55:31

On time.

SPEAKER_06 55:32

For that flight.

SPEAKER_09 55:33

Like Miss Like Dr. Harrison say, on time.

SPEAKER_06 55:37

On task and on a mission. One more time. On time. On task and on a mission.

SPEAKER_09 55:47

And then we get started.

Fall Break Trip Ideas And Planning

SPEAKER_09 55:51

All right. Fall break. So fall break is in September.

SPEAKER_06 55:55

We're trying to do a little something, something.

SPEAKER_09 55:57

Trying to do something, go somewhere.

SPEAKER_06 55:59

Yeah. So we had um Malachi.

SPEAKER_09 56:04

Yep.

SPEAKER_06 56:04

Was talking about going to Martha's Vineyard, and we looked it up. And guess what? Our fall break is the perfect time to go.

SPEAKER_09 56:09

Perfect timing to go to Martha's Vineyard.

SPEAKER_06 56:11

He didn't say anything back though, yeah.

SPEAKER_09 56:12

It might not be too far. Maybe that was too soon. Yeah, it might be too soon. Maybe we just tell him where we're gonna go and test it out for this.

SPEAKER_06 56:19

That's what I was gonna say.

SPEAKER_09 56:20

We're gonna go to the house.

SPEAKER_06 56:21

We're gonna go test out a couple days.

SPEAKER_09 56:27

Yeah, if you've been to Martha's venue, you know, tell her what you like about it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 56:32

We're thinking about doing that for fall break. I think it'll be nice that that time.

SPEAKER_09 56:36

Yeah, they said, of course, like during that time, it's gonna be the hours will be limited, all that kind of stuff. But that's cool. We're gonna be old anyway.

SPEAKER_06 56:42

Well, no, we like, yeah, but we can kind of catch it on a, I don't know, like a week, like a, I don't know.

SPEAKER_09 56:48

It's cheaper. We'll be able to catch everything in the morning. That's true. Afternoon. We'll be able to still eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

SPEAKER_05 56:54

That's true.

SPEAKER_09 56:54

You know what I'm saying? If we spend the nights probably outside chilling, parlaying, watching something, you know, checking out the sun because rising the east sets in the west. So we may not see much of the sunset. You can see sunrise. I'll see the sunrise. You won't see it. You'll be asleep.

SPEAKER_06 57:07

No, I will be.

SPEAKER_09 57:08

But um thinking about something cool.

SPEAKER_06 57:10

That would be cool. So we're gonna check it out, look more into that.

SPEAKER_09 57:14

Yep. Um if not Martha's Vineyard, where else would you like to go?

SPEAKER_06 57:19

I thought about um, since you were saying the companion thing you have. I also thought about Arizona and kind of doing some sort of couple days at a wellness place um to relax there. I thought about that. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 57:33

All right.

SPEAKER_06 57:34

Um and then what was the other place we talked about going with the uh lighthouses?

SPEAKER_09 57:40

Um, Nantucket.

SPEAKER_06 57:41

Or Nantucket.

SPEAKER_09 57:42

Yeah, Nantucket.

SPEAKER_06 57:42

Because I feel like that would be um also so travel time too in Nantucket.

SPEAKER_09 57:49

I thought about Chicago if we could get tickets to go to the uh there's no tickets. If we could get tickets to go to the library.

SPEAKER_06 57:57

Oh, the what library?

SPEAKER_09 57:59

To the yeah, to the Obama's presidential library. How are you gonna do that?

SPEAKER_06 58:03

Would you look at it? That'd be cool.

SPEAKER_09 58:07

I would really enjoy that.

SPEAKER_06 58:08

I would really enjoy that.

SPEAKER_09 58:10

Mm-hmm. Because we would have a great time. That will, of course, would be the pinnacle of our of our time there. Yeah. And then the other stuff we would do, you know, seeing different places here. Uh I want to do the the night little boat ride. Boat ride, yeah. I want to do that. But um, you know, just trying to see what's out there.

SPEAKER_06 58:30

Well, that'd be nice if you so yeah, that would be folks. Yeah, that would be cool too to be able to do that. So the one thing I did notice about Chicago, though, I know it is Chicago, but um their hotels are quite pricey.

SPEAKER_09 58:44

Yeah, yeah. Especially in, I mean, like it's in that area.

SPEAKER_06 58:47

But maybe it'll be cheaper. I mean, we were looking before it was summer. I don't know, will they be cheaper now in the fall? I mean, like during that time. I don't know. Um I don't know. But anyway.

SPEAKER_09 59:00

But um, you know, if we could get that, that'll be good. Um, I was trying to think if there's anywhere else like very scenic that we could go and then just like have a relaxed, beautiful time.

SPEAKER_06 59:13

Scenic, relaxed, beautiful. If you the well, I'm thinking of scenic to me was like trees and things.

SPEAKER_09 59:19

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 59:20

So like uh Virginia, something like that.

SPEAKER_09 59:23

I was even thinking like uh Pennsylvania. Yeah, um Seattle.

SPEAKER_06 59:28

What else? Seattle. Oh, Seattle.

SPEAKER_09 59:30

Well, Washington State. I've never been there. I've been to Seattle, but Washington State.

SPEAKER_04 59:35

Um what is it? Tacoma? Is it in Washington? I heard that was beautiful.

SPEAKER_09 59:41

Yep. Um, you know, somewhere in mountainous. Oh, Canada. I thought about Canada too.

SPEAKER_04 59:47

That'd be true.

SPEAKER_09 59:48

Because we went to Montreal.

SPEAKER_06 59:50

We Vancouver or Vancouver. Or what's the one? Uh uh, but that's more city-like that. What is it?

SPEAKER_09 59:57

Uh where Drake is from, Toronto. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:00

Vancouver is more scenic.

SPEAKER_09 1:00:02

Yeah, they say Vancouver kind of looks like the Swiss Alps slash uh a blend of New York and Cali. Like interesting. Yeah, and but that's why they use it for film.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:18

Movies and everything.

SPEAKER_09 1:00:19

Because you can get all those different places in. All that one city.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:22

So maybe Vancouver.

SPEAKER_09 1:00:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:25

So we better figure it out by today.

SPEAKER_09 1:00:27

Yeah, we'll figure it out.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:28

So tomorrow.

SPEAKER_09 1:00:29

Because if we use a campaign, you gotta do that ahead of time so we can make sure it you know it goes through. Okay. Um, but that'll be good. So if y'all Mexico.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:38

Oh, yes, somebody's going to Mexico this weekend.

SPEAKER_09 1:00:41

Yeah, I gotta get fitted for the Bow Wizzle costume, the helmet part and stuff. So that's cool. Well, the whole thing, but that's one of the parts they're making.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:50

So I'll be here by myself.

SPEAKER_09 1:00:51

Give me some good, authentic Mexican food. I ain't drinking no drinks though. Because you know, sometimes child. Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_05 1:00:59

Home too.

SPEAKER_09 1:01:00

I'm gonna eat some good Mexican food though.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:02

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_09 1:01:03

Probably blow that plain bathroom up that Sunday morning. Or Sunday afternoon.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:08

I said I'm gonna have a pajama party by myself. I thought you'd come back. Mm-mm. I come back Thursday. I mean, I come back Friday morning. Why are you switching it? Because we're we're going earlier now.

SPEAKER_09 1:01:20

Oh, you're going earlier now. Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:22

I come Friday morning, going right from there to work.

SPEAKER_09 1:01:24

I've been waiting at the airport to pick you up. You already at home.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:27

Oh, yeah, baby. Oh, yeah, baby. I'm trying to figure out how I'm gonna get home. I don't how I oh, we gotta figure that out.

SPEAKER_09 1:01:37

Because that little better that little one out there to come and get you. But I gotta go to work and then uh take your keys. And then I'll leave the you know, we'll be fine. Take your keys.

SPEAKER_04 1:01:52

We might acquire my job. Where are you gonna leave?

SPEAKER_09 1:01:55

Um Take your keys.

SPEAKER_04 1:01:58

Wait, why are we worried about that?

SPEAKER_09 1:01:59

Right, you you're you're listening you're riding with money. You just need to come home.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:05

I know it, but what I'm saying is When I drop around, y'all, we talk about this off there, waste

Mental Health Tips On Self Validation

SPEAKER_06 1:02:10

time.

SPEAKER_09 1:02:11

My bad. All right, so anyway, mental health tip for the week.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:15

Okay. I kept trying to think, did I talk about validation?

SPEAKER_09 1:02:21

Well, you said it before. You said, like Pearson says, honey.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:25

I've said it on this, honey.

SPEAKER_09 1:02:27

Yes. Validation is for what?

SPEAKER_06 1:02:29

Parking.

SPEAKER_09 1:02:30

Yeah, we definitely said it on the first episode of season two.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:34

Oh.

SPEAKER_09 1:02:35

Yeah, but go into, I mean, tell them.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:38

Well, anywho, that is one of my mottos, along with um, don't expect yourself out of others. Those are my two mottos for the year. Don't expect yourself out of others because guess what? You will be left disappointed.

SPEAKER_08 1:02:54

Disappointed.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:55

And it doesn't mean you still won't be like, man, I wish they would have. But it just gives you an understanding of let it go. Um, and then um pat yourself on the back because you can say, I would have, girl, I can't believe that, but I would have done it this way. Yeah, and pat yourself on the back for whatever care you would have given that somebody else did not. Then the other is validation is for parking. We so often are waiting for people to validate our greatness or celebrate us or all of the things, and validate yourself. Yes, so celebrate your own successes, celebrate the things that you feel like you're doing good at big or small, but validate yourself um because you will sit around and feel um um low or resentful or less than, because you're sitting around waiting for other people to give you some likes.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:08

Because that's what we that's the culture that we're in now. We're waiting for likes, but that's what not just on social media, but also in person.

SPEAKER_09 1:04:17

But that's why they created likes because they know that's what people have always um wanted. You know what I mean? Yeah, like they didn't just all of a sudden come up with this and say, oh, this is something. Let's try this. And now people say, Oh, I want to be liked just because of like no. We've always wanted someone to like or, like you said, validate.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:38

Yeah. So don't just, yeah, don't wait on other people. Validate yourself.

SPEAKER_09 1:04:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:42

But you already know what you're doing. And sometimes you don't do things for validation, even for from yourself or other people. You just do it because you just want to be a good human. And so the idea of knowing that you did the right thing or you did a good thing for somebody else, the fe the good feeling you get from doing that thing, hold on to it.

SPEAKER_09 1:05:06

Hold on.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:07

So that's what is my thing. Those are my two modes. You can take them to validation is for parking. Don't expect yourself out of other people.

SPEAKER_09 1:05:20

Oh, others. That's right.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:21

And you will have a lot of peace. If you peace, baby. Carry those two things with you.

SPEAKER_09 1:05:29

Yeah. I like when you said validate, because I validate myself all the time. In the gym, I'd be like, Oh, good job, Kefla. You don't get it. Come on, you got it. My students used to laugh, especially my flag football player, because they used to always be around me, even in the classroom. I do something and I say, Oh, Kefla, you did that. They'd be like, Coach, how are you talking to yourself? Said, Well, it was something that was difficult, and I did it. So I'm like, yo, good job, Kefla. You know, that was great. And I mean, they they laugh at it, but they understood where I was coming from. I said, because did y'all tell me good job? No. And I said, probably y'all didn't even know what I was doing. You know, and I said, so I'm not gonna say, hey, look what I can do. Like, look, here's look what I can do. Wanna see something? Watch this dance. You know? I'm like, look, I'm gonna do my own thing. And once I do it, I'm gonna say, man, great job.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:18

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:18

That's all I need because I spend more time with me than anybody else.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:22

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:22

So why not, you know, like you said, validate yourself. But my mental health tip for the week is um is I don't did we did I mention what uh Oprah and um what's my friend? Um Maya Angeles.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:41

You said that Kimani's dinner.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:43

Yes, she said, Oprah, you know when you're going somewhere and you go off from home, remember that you take home with you. You know, home is how you behave. Home is how you were raised, and so you might go away from home, but you never really leave home, Oprah. You know, you take it with you. Your personality, the lessons, the voices that people might have told you. You know, don't go doing that. Put that down. You remember those things and they make you who you are today. So that's my mental health tip is to remember that you take home with you. Um, very important because I know when I got in trouble in college doing stuff I wasn't supposed to do, the very first thing when I knew, knew I was in trouble in the process of running from the law, I said, damn, boy, that ain't even you. But it was too late. And I said, damn, that ain't even you, because I started thinking about when I get caught, because I knew I was eventually gonna get caught, that uh there was my parents I was letting down. There was the image of me doing, you know, because we were the pillar of the communities and stuff, because we always try to do the right thing, help people. They was like, whoa, he did that? I would have thought this would have came from somebody else, but not him. You know, and so I was thinking of home, away from home, that it happened. Um and then there were times when things, when I thought of home, those same thoughts that made me not get into particular trouble. Um, you know, it's it's little stuff like that that you always take home with you. And I and I speak that with my sons, and I'm saying mental health because it's it's ingrained in you. And so home with you also could mean you're wondering why things are happening in your life the way they are. Well, it could be trauma that you are bringing with you. Okay. And not even just yourself. My wife and I tell people all the time, you better look at that lineage you're dating. Because they might be bringing home with them into your spot, into your space. You know, so a lot of times we have to really understand what what is it that make us, what is it that make others and are they bringing home with them? And hopefully that home is a safe space, and that if you know home is a safe space and you bring it home with you, it'll give you that courage to do so much more because you know that man, I'm I'm destined to be successful because that's all I've been taught when I was growing up. That's they've always poured into me. They they've always told me I can do everything. So take that piece out into the world and make that the new um, I guess you can say, fuel for your motivation, fuel for success. So that's my mental health tip of the week is understand that home comes with you, good or bad. It comes with you. All right, so what are you oh say, go ahead?

SPEAKER_06 1:09:59

I'm the same with the thing. The other thing from my Angelou go ahead was when she said, When people try to take you down.

SPEAKER_09 1:10:06

So what did she say?

SPEAKER_06 1:10:07

When people try to take you down. I can't sound like a sound I'm not even gonna do it, okay? You won't get me on here looking like a fool. But she said, when people try to take you down, it goes with her saying, believe people. Um when they show you who they are. When they show you, when people show you who they are, believe them.

SPEAKER_08 1:10:26

Believe them.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:27

And so when they and she said, so when they try to take you down when people say things that make you look at yourself in a negative light or think that you aren't good enough, or they say, Ooh, look, you done put on some weight.

SPEAKER_01 1:10:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:40

And then she said, You she's what she does is she tells them, stop it. And she walks away and they look like, stop it. But in that moment, she's and then she says, and guess what? I'm done with them.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:53

Because you will not take me down. And so I think about that, that how many people run around here with low self-esteem and low their confidence and all the things because there are people that are around here, and I sometimes I don't know if they're intentionally trying to take you down.

SPEAKER_09 1:11:12

Where did she say it comes from mostly? From your family. That's right. People that are closest to us from your family.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:17

And so it's like, and I don't know if they intentionally know that, but in actuality, you are taking them down. Um, their self-esteem down, their confidence down, all those things. And so I love the idea of saying stop it. And guess what? I am going to use it. So I'm just waiting. I might say a stop it for somebody else. If I hear you say something to somebody else, of course, is that I'm gonna say stop it.

SPEAKER_08 1:11:42

That's right.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:42

And because I believe that, and our minds are such powerful tools that can be go for bad or good, but it's focuses on that negative piece. So when somebody says something about your weight or they say something about what you have on, and although somebody else, 10, 10, 20, 30, 40 people said you look good, that one person that said that it stays with you. And that is the one that you need to say, stop it.

SPEAKER_01 1:12:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:11

So I love that my Angelou said that.

SPEAKER_01 1:12:13

So that's right.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:15

I I love that one. So that's also something you start start telling people to stop it.

SPEAKER_09 1:12:21

It's it was on Oprah's uh podcast uh the week, the first week of August. So just look up the first week of August or something like that with Oprah's podcast when she was. It was really good. It was about was that the one about belief?

SPEAKER_06 1:12:35

No, belief was before that. It's after belief. But it's just a it's just a compilation of her interviews with Maya Angelou.

SPEAKER_09 1:12:42

Yeah, and it's um it was great. It was grateful. Trust me, trust me. Because she mentions belief in that same interview, you know, about it, and it's just oh my god, it's superb. Yeah, it is. It is

Gratitude, Money Moves, And New Beginnings

SPEAKER_09 1:12:55

great. Oh, that was your Maya Angelou.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:58

I know.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:00

All right, so what are we um grateful for? What are we grateful for?

SPEAKER_06 1:13:05

Um, I'm grateful that I get the opportunity to go with Kimani to New Jersey. Um, although y'all check on me on my ride. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:13

It's gonna be the plane ride, child.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:15

The plane ride.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:16

Because when you oh my god, he gotta drop you off and just pull off.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:20

Yeah, he's just gonna have to. Yeah, he's just gonna have to. So, but I'm grateful that I get to go.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:27

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm grateful you do too, because you would have been a mess, even just being here. Yeah. You know.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:31

So I think, and then I thought about it, I was like, well, it's probably great that I'm not gonna have clients that had originally uh cancel the Friday and Saturday because it gave me a chance to get my life together.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:41

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Get yourself right.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:43

Yeah, so I'm grateful for the opportunity to be able to go.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:48

I'm grateful that um there's a means, like you say, we you know, you need to get a a car. And I'm grateful that, you know, I was able to get the pre-approval. You know what I'm saying? Just little stuff like that because there are people that can't.

SPEAKER_01 1:14:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:14:08

You know what I mean? And it's just like stuff like that that I'm like, man, God thank you. He's like, yeah, you got a note to pay, but dude, I I'm able to with a good interest rate. Right. That's what I'm saying. You know what I mean? Yeah. I can tell you.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:23

Yeah. And you don't we and we don't have to sit there and why uh go to the dealership and be like the what's it called?

SPEAKER_09 1:14:29

Haggle.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:30

Haggle and listen. Listen, we got here.

SPEAKER_09 1:14:33

Listen to this. Here's the trick. What? When I was in Dallas and got my car, this the 100 six, but I I got a truck first.

SPEAKER_04 1:14:41

Yeah, I remember you saying that.

SPEAKER_09 1:14:42

Yeah, and the truck wouldn't drive right. So I took it back. I drove it all the way to work, teaching, and the next day I said, bro, because I had two days. I said, This dunny know what they tried to fix it. I said, no. No, give me something else. And so they gave me another car. But guess what my um my percentage was?

SPEAKER_06 1:15:00

Oh, your car? Um, I'm gonna say 15%.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:08

No.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:09

21.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:10

19%.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:11

Whoa, that's a credit card.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:13

19%. Yes. My it was 19% what they was charging me.

SPEAKER_04 1:15:17

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:19

I mean, uh uh, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 1:15:21

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:22

Yeah, 19%. And you know what I mean? And so now we sitting in them singles, like low singles. Low, low single digits. And so that's what I was like just thinking like today. I'll say, thank you, Lord. Because I I couldn't make it if it was like what it what it started out as being.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:38

And so uh that's one thing I'm grateful for. Because there is, you know, of course, the car I want, and then I'm saying, okay. Even if I, you know, I'm saying, I'm grateful because I can still look at what I want. Because some people say, I gotta get this one, and that's it.

SPEAKER_01 1:15:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:55

You see what I'm saying? So I'm grateful. So what are you looking forward to? I guess the same kind of goes with you're grateful. You're kind of not looking forward, but you kind of look at it.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:05

It's like uh, what's it called?

SPEAKER_09 1:16:06

Bittersweet.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:07

Yeah, yeah, bittersweet. Um, in actuality, I'm looking forward to fall break. Because I didn't really, you know, I I usually think that March is the longest time, but for me, this is the longest time. Yeah, because I started mid-July, yeah, and I gotta get through July, August, and September. Not half three weeks of September before you get before I get a break. And so um, yeah, I'm really, really looking forward to fall break, and I really, really want to be able to do something. So um to to I just need to feel like all this work is gonna get me something.

SPEAKER_09 1:16:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:54

Because I like a vacay.

SPEAKER_09 1:16:56

There you go. I like one for you too, man.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:58

So that's what I am looking forward to.

SPEAKER_09 1:17:01

Did you see that text I sent?

SPEAKER_06 1:17:03

Also looking forward to shopping for key mining's classroom.

SPEAKER_09 1:17:05

That's what I was about to say. That text that the guy said, uh, this is my classroom before. It was like male classroom, male educators. And then he said, This is my classroom afterwards. And all he did, you didn't see that text? No. Is I sent it to I look at the text. It's the Facebook post though. It was hilarious. I would it was either Facebook or Instagram, but I was dying laugh. I said, Yep, that's uh, that's you know, some men. Uh-huh you know, like that time. Remember, I fixed my classroom up when I first did the help class, and then the basketball team tore it up. Yeah, so you stopped. So I stopped, I said, forget it, screw it.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:17:35

I'm not, and nobody said they were gonna help me out and do nothing. I said, man, screw this.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:38

Well, I'm excited that I won't be there to help him put it together, yeah, but we will be there to plan and shop and get it started. We're gonna also do an Amazon wish list. We're gonna post that wish list so y'all can add to um Keemani's first classroom.

SPEAKER_09 1:17:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:56

But um, yeah, I'm excited to kind of help him get started. So with that.

SPEAKER_09 1:18:01

All right. I'm looking forward, definitely looking forward to doing something for the uh fall break. Um and that's really it. You know, other than that, I because I got, you know, I start my internship back uh and I'm a grinding again, you know. So I'm just looking forward to the fall break. Um and see what because the other part was looking forward to starting the school year.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:18:24

And it's already going amazing.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:26

Yay!

SPEAKER_09 1:18:27

And so it's like times just fly so fast.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:31

I feel like we ought to get those meals again. Yeah, they'll probably yeah, because I think we're gonna be going and then the weekend will just be we'll have something eat out.

SPEAKER_09 1:18:40

Yeah, let's see it.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:41

It's it's and maybe just do the meals again because we're gonna be so busy, it'd probably be easier just to pop in something and go, but they're healthy.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:48

So and they were, I mean, you know, uh until we get like, okay, tired of it. But I think as far as cooking time, I don't think neither of us are gonna have time to do that. No, cool so maybe we can go back to that since it's just us two.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:00

I'm cool with it.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:01

So little man, he eat whatever.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:04

Yeah. Yeah, he don't eat healthy.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:08

Yeah. So that's it, you know.

Wrap Up, Travel Updates, And FERPA

SPEAKER_09 1:19:10

Okay. Well, I enjoyed this episode. Did you enjoy this episode at people out there?

SPEAKER_05 1:19:14

I hope you did.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:16

Okay. So next time you see us, we'll have information about um well not information, but we'll talk about how it was in Jersey. Oh, yeah. How it was in Mexico.

SPEAKER_05 1:19:28

Mexico.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:29

Mexico. I'm going to Mexico City. Hopefully they uh um give me my upgrade because I I put in for a first class.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:37

If you get an upgrade, I'm gonna be really upset because every time I try, I can't do it. But I also buying your tickets.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:45

No, but I have the Delta Reserve card too. And with the Delta Reserve card, you're already kind of at a medallion status.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:53

Well, how I can use your card.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:55

How can you use my card? Because I mean, you have to, but you have to But you didn't buy your ticket. No, but I am a Delta Reserve member, so anytime it's already on your team like that? Anytime I fly, like somebody does even buy me a ticket. Well, I'm gold, I get to use my Delta benefits.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:12

I'm gold.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:13

You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_06 1:20:14

So what do I get for gold? Nothing.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:16

You probably get some. But this Delta Reserve is gonna be gonna be gonna be gonna be.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:19

Okay, well, we don't need that.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:21

Yeah, it's expensive.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:22

I don't get nothing. Well, I that's a lie.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:24

Get that bag.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:25

I do get my free bags.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:26

Yeah, I get free bags.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:28

And I kink bored a little earlier.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:29

Yeah, board and I get the the uh party thing. What's it called?

SPEAKER_06 1:20:33

I don't get that either.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:34

You get it when you fly with your boy.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:35

Ooh, wait till we go for fall break, baby. We're gonna be in class.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:41

That's right. We get you get your you get the uh what's the thing called? Yes, what? The where you go in and eat beforehand.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:48

Skyland. Skyland. I can't wait to do that.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:52

So make sure we go at a time where I can go in and enjoy it. I'm awake. I'm on the like, you know.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:57

You better wake up.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:58

Okay.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:59

So, but that's it, ladies and gentlemen. We uh we'll give y'all the update. If she's dehydrated from crying, we'll give her some other dick with IV. Nah, be who you be. If you're gonna cry, cry. It's first.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:11

I just don't want to be in the airport looking a mess.

SPEAKER_09 1:21:14

Well, that's true, too. Because then you might be on the meme. Yeah, that's it.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:18

Look at that lady crying.

SPEAKER_09 1:21:19

How to know somebody's um been left by their boyfriend.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:23

Yeah, that'd be like wonder who were her. Yeah, see, I'm not.

SPEAKER_09 1:21:27

Wonder who left her.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:28

So I'll be strong. I'm gonna wear my sunglasses.

SPEAKER_09 1:21:31

Yeah, so uh that's it. So we're getting ready to get up out of here because Kree got to figure out what we're gonna eat. All right, so uh thank y'all so much for tuning in to the Refreshly Normal Podcast.

SPEAKER_05 1:21:45

Podcast.

SPEAKER_09 1:21:46

I am Keith. Oh, hold on. I'm wearing my Alabama State shirt because the kids have gone back to college. So uh I'll say it. What's yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Um, but anyway, um good luck out there in college parents. You know, good luck and blessings. Stay on your kids, man. Check their grades, even in college. Make them sign, was that FERPA?

SPEAKER_05 1:22:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:13

Make them sign the FERPA waiver because you don't have access to it. But if you sign FERPA, if they take your kids sign the FERPA, FERPA, you can still get access to what they're doing in school, like campus, the grades and stuff like that. Don't slack off of that just because they're in college. Oh, they're grown. They're not grown if you're still paying for everything.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:33

That's right.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:33

You know what I'm saying? They're not grown if when the summertime hits or the break hits, they come to your crib because with with all their stuff.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:40

Yeah, eating all your food. Right. Using up all your electricity.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:44

Yes, that's right.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:45

All your games.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:46

Come on. Telling you. Did y'all pay the tuition yet? They're not grown.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:52

Not at all.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:52

Yes. So make sure they sign that FERPA waiver so you have access to their educational information. All right. Well, here it is Refreshingly Normal Podcast, Kefla and Creed. Peace.

SPEAKER_07 1:23:13

The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.