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Welcome to Cue the Real, the podcast to get unstuck and manifest the life that's calling you. I’m your host, Lindsay Brand, a military veteran who built success in the private sector until the Universe guided me to something deeper, helping people move from stuck to fully aligned through manifestation. I blend neuroscience, personal stories, and the most practical tools to shine a light on what’s holding you back so you can manifest the life you truly want.
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Hey friends, you can build a life that looks completely normal and still feel off.
Nothing is obviously wrong and that’s what makes the situation harder to trust.
Because everything checks out. It all makes sense. You’re doing what you’re supposed to be doing.
So when something inside of you doesn’t match that, it’s easy to dismiss it, push through it and keep going anyway.
That way of living works for a while, until it doesn’t.
Because there’s a point where you stop reacting to your life and start noticing it unfolding around you.
And you realize a lot of what you’ve been calling normal is just familiar.
Timelines, relationship structures, the rules people live by.
Things you didn’t really decide on, you just inherited from society.
These are limiting beliefs, living in the background of how decisions get made without you realizing it.
And once you see that, you can’t unsee it, because you start questioning whether the way you’ve been doing things is actually your way.
That’s what I want to get into today, where those rules come from, and what happens when you stop assuming they’re just the way things are.
Let’s cue the real.
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I don’t know if I’ve told this story before but I heard this story once about this woman who was making a ham for a holiday dinner and she cut a chunk of the end off before she put it in the pan to cook. Her husband asked her why she was doing that, and she said “this is what my mom always does”. So her parents come to dinner and her mom looks at the ham and asked why she did that, and she told her it was because she always saw her do it. Her mom just stares at her and says, I only did that because they never fit in my pan. So, I always cut a piece off and cook it separately later.
This is an example of just doing without questioning. We do this way more than we realize. Many of our societal norms are set, so-to-say, and we follow them without questioning.
This could be what a marriage should look like, what your career path should be, if you should go to college or not, what you should be doing with your free time.
Many of these things feel like they are written in stone in societies. I’ll speak mainly about the U.S. in this episode. There is an expectation that we will go to school, then college, then get a job, then get married, then buy a house, then have kids, work till retire or die and that’s it.
The people who shake up these norms, are often seen as black sheep and ostracized. The couple who decides to have an ethically non-monogonous relationship. The woman who decides she doesn’t need to go to college to be successful in what she wants to do. The person moves to another country for a year to figure out their life, someone who perpetually rents instead of buys a house.
These instances, and choices, often carry this negative charge when brought up to other people who are living in the norm, who aren’t comfortable shaking things up and questioning whether that’s how they want to live or not.
These norms are set because so many people do a thing, it becomes the normal thing to do. You’ll see that as you travel even just from one city to another. Enough people are doing a thing so more do it.
I want you to ask yourself, am I limiting my life, based on societal norms? Do I want my relationships to be different? Do I want a different working situation? If my life was exactly how I wanted it, what would it look like?
I’m willing to bet some of your ideals butt up against what is considered “normal”.
Once you realize that you want something different, it can feel scary because of how humans are wired. We want to fit in and do what other people are doing because that’s what we did to survive for so long.
Your brain is always scanning for safety, and for most of human history, safety meant belonging to the group. Being accepted meant survival and being cast out meant danger and possibly death.
So when you even start thinking about doing something differently, your nervous system reacts to that and flags it. It tries to pull you back to what feels known and accepted.
That reaction means you’re stepping outside of what’s familiar.
Going off the path feels nerve-wracking. I know, I've done it in many times in different aspects of my life. Being gay, joining the military instead of going to college first, my relationship dynamics, having a podcast instead of a traditional job. Each time I was faced with going off the path of what is normal to society, I was afraid.
But being afraid only gets you two places, where you are or where you’re going. You have to choose. Is it worth it to you to sacrifice what you really want in life, to be normal? Or do you have the ability at this time in your life to jump. To go after what you want and live that life.
It might feel crazy in the beginning, but guess what? It becomes your normal, and you’ll quickly realize when you’re in that space, just how many others are in it with you.
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What changing your life really comes down to, is asking yourself why. Why am I doing this? No matter what it is, why do I do it this way?
If something isn’t the way you want it to be, you have the power to change it through manifestation which you are doing every single moment.
I don’t know about you, but it’s refreshing to me to have the realization over and over again that I have the power to change my life with just one decision.
You decide what you want and how you want your life to be. Do not let human created societal constructs restrict your desires.
Tear down the limiting beliefs by questioning them and live the life you truly want.
Remember: Just because something feels normal doesn’t mean that it’s for you.
Until next time,
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