The Mental Load Chronicles
One couple’s real-time journey to rebalance work, home, and everything in between.
We’ve been married for 20 years. We’ve got three kids, multiple dogs, demanding careers—and more mental tabs open than our browsers can handle.
We’re not experts. We’re just two longtime partners trying to unpack the invisible labor that’s been building between us for years—and we’re doing it out loud, on purpose, in real time.
Each week, we sit down (sometimes tired, often interrupted) to talk through what the mental load really looks like in our home, what’s working, what’s not, and how we’re learning to share the weight more equitably.
With honesty, humor, and zero perfection, we’re inviting you along as we figure it out—one messy, meaningful conversation at a time.
Expect:
- Real talk about modern relationships
- Behind-the-scenes of our wins and fails
- Tools, conversations, and messy progress
- And plenty of “Oof, same” moments
Whether you’re a parent, a partner, or just tired of doing it all, you’ll find solidarity—and maybe some solutions—right here.
The Mental Load Chronicles
ADHD & The Mental Load (Part 1): Squirrel, Diagnosis, and the Breaking Point
Use Left/Right to seek, Home/End to jump to start or end. Hold shift to jump forward or backward.
ADHD doesn’t just affect the person who has it. It lives in the marriage.
In this episode, we dig into how his ADHD shows up in our relationship — from the infamous “squirrel” moments to dropped balls, emotional misfires, and the invisible mental load that builds over time.
We talk about:
- What ADHD actually looks like in daily life
- How diagnosis changed everything (and he says saved our marriage)
- The difference between “it’s not personal” but “it still hurts”
- The mental load of adapting to your partner’s brain
- Why understanding yourself is the most important work you can do
This one is honest. It’s vulnerable. It’s a little explicit. And it’s the real stuff behind long-term partnership.
Part 2 continues next week.