Narcissistic Abuse and Money Why You Feel Financially Drained

Still feeling drained, stuck, or struggling financially—even after going no contact with narcissistic parents?
This could be the hidden link between narcissistic abuse, soul ties, and financial blocks.

In this episode of Red Hot Truth, we uncover how narcissistic parents, toxic relationships, and trauma bonds can create deep soul ties that drain your energy, peace, and even your finances.

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If you are the scapegoat, black sheep, or cycle breaker, and you’ve experienced childhood emotional neglect, emotional abuse, or narcissistic family dynamics, this teaching will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.

You may have already:

•  gone no contact with narcissistic parents
•  cut off toxic partners, friends, or bosses 
•  started your healing journey and inner child work

…but still feel:

•  financially stuck or constantly struggling with money 
•  emotionally exhausted and burned out 
•  spiritually attacked or overwhelmed 
•  trapped in repeating toxic relationship patterns 

In this episode, we break down:

•  The connection between narcissistic abuse and financial struggles
•  How trauma bonds and soul ties with narcissists keep you drained 
•  Why toxic parents and enmeshment block your growth and provision 
•  The impact of childhood trauma on money, identity, and self-worth
•  How you may keep attracting narcissistic partners, friendships, and work environments
•  The role of boundaries, healing, and forgiveness in breaking these cycles 
•  Practical steps to break soul ties, cut energetic cords, and reclaim your power

This episode is for those who are ready to:

•  heal from narcissistic abuse and toxic family systems
•  break free from trauma cycles and emotional bondage
•  step into their purpose, calling, and freedom

You are not imagining it.
 You are not too sensitive.
 You are responding to years of conditioning—and now you’re breaking free.

Stay until the end for a guided prayer to break soul ties, release emotional and spiritual ties to narcissists, and restore your peace, identity, and provision.

Transcript

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Hi beautiful souls. Welcome back to Red Hot Truth, a home for the broken where healing begins. If you're new here, I'm Michelle and I help people heal their soul wounds through the love and power of Jesus Christ. We're currently doing a series called The Scapegoat's Awakening. So you can go and look at the other episodes. I also have lots of prophetic healings. I have a whole playlist with all these healings that are Holy Spirit-led. And these are detailed. These are not just prayer. These are actually very deep meditative healings that go very deep into the soul, that heal your soul wounds from the root, that start renouncing word crisis, healing trauma, releasing anger, practicing forgiveness, all of the things that you need to do in order to close any open doors in your lives. This is going to really help you with that. And it's done in such a gentle way so that you can start to really work through your trauma and you can get free. And I've had a lot of positive feedback actually. Somebody left a comment last week saying that a couple of these healings have helped her more than three years of therapy. So these are powerful. This is the Holy Spirit at work. And he is the healer of the broken. So we can put our faith in him. Obviously, I'm not against therapy. I've had therapy myself, and it really helped me. But sometimes it doesn't go deep enough to those roots and those spiritual layers that keep us stuck and keep us chained to our past. And this is really about breaking those chains and walking through sanctification and deliverance. Not just putting down sin, but putting it down in such a way that you don't even want it or need it anymore. Like the cravings are going to go away, the patterns are going to break, the chains are going to fall because you have healed the root and you no longer need the addiction. You know no longer need to go back to your old ways because the Lord is actually healing you from the inside out and plucking those roots. And I've experienced so much transformation in my life. So this is a beautiful way to heal. Those playlists are there, they're ready for you. There's numerous healings, so you can get started on your healing journey today completely for free. So I mentioned that we're currently doing this series called The Scapegoat's Awakening. Something that I would recommend alongside this is my book, The Six Pins of Narcissistic Abuse. So, particularly if you have a narcissistic parent, you will be battling many different strongholds, things like shame, fear, confusion, rejection, abandonment, and unworthiness. And this book really goes into detail talking about what is narcissistic abuse, what's it like to have a narcissistic mother or father, then lots of different deliverance prayers, and it just walks you through the different layers and the different things that we have to do in order to get free. So I will leave that link in the description for you guys. And lastly, before we begin, don't forget to hit that like button, leave a comment. I would love to hear your engagement on YouTube and subscribe. Subscribing really helps our channel grow, and that growth actually will help bring in some much needed funds, hopefully, to the ministry, so that I can continue to bring this work to you. Currently, I don't have an income, and this is my work, so I do need to create some sort of income. As we have been a one-income family and we are currently kind of struggling, but our cars broke down this week, and it has been extremely stressful. Those of you who are working in ministry or especially early ministry will know that it's not easy, and the enemy does attack our finances and our resources because he really wants us to quit. And of course, I'm not gonna quit, but just hitting that subscribe button can really help me and my family. And hopefully, I'll be able to create that members' program because it's literally the members' program is going to be the equivalent of a small donation a month, which is going to just help me and my family continue to show up and do this work. So just simply hitting that subscribe button can help me get to 1,000 subscribers, and I can create that program, and then hopefully things can start to move in my life. But that brings me to today's episode, which we're talking all about breaking soul ties that drain your resources. So if you have a narcissistic parent, a spouse, even friends, people you've worked with, people in ministry that you've worked with, because narcissists have witchcraft spirits and Jezebel type spirits attached to them, and they operate through energy drainage, they're energy vampires, they can actually deplete your finances, they can deplete your resources, and you can end up really depleted. So if you've been in narcissistic controlling or enmeshed relationships, especially with your parents, then this episode is for you. In 1 Kings 19, we see in the story of story of Elijah, after Elijah encountered Jezebel, he became completely drained. And he runs into the wilderness and he says, I have had enough, Laura, take my life. So this encounter with Jezebel literally made him so tired, so traumatized, so upset that he literally ran and hid under a tree and he actually wanted to die. And I've had those thoughts, you know, when I've been betrayed, when I've been abandoned, when people have hurt me, when people have used me up and took everything that they wanted from me and then just discarded me and threw me away. I had a friendship with somebody who I now believe is a false prophet. I remember when I was working with this person, I was like chronically broke, chronically struggling financially. There was no let up, there was no break. It was really exhausting because I had walked away from my family, I had gone completely no contact, and I had kicked all the narcissists out of my life. When I was constantly breaking soul ties and calling my my power back to me, I would literally heal my trauma, forgive everyone, break the soul ties, cast out the vampire spirits. And I I used to see these vampire spirits a lot. So they used to attack me, and they will attack you, especially if you're in a void. So say if you have a narcissistic mother and that's left a deep void in you, and now you have these parts of you that are kind of trapped in this void. So when those parts of you are calling out to you, you might then encounter a vampire spirit, and suddenly you have no energy, you're so drained, you're so tired, you're literally crying out to God, saying, God help me, you're having those really negative, dangerous thoughts, and your finances are drying up and everything in your life. A lot of people, especially scapegoats of the family, have gone through this time and time again where they don't understand these financial attacks and everything is is being taken from you. And it is because when you have these voids, you have these big grief wounds, you have a lot of shame, you have a lot of fear, you have things that the enemy can use as open doors in your life. These spirits can attach these soul ties to you because you still have that emotion when it's a parent in particular. Even though you've walked away, you've cut the cards, you've said, I'm done, I don't want to do this anymore, you've broken soul ties, but the soul ties come back because you still have grief, you still have pain, you're still angry, you're still upset. So those soul ties are going to come back and you have to break them again and you have to forgive again. And that's why in the book of Matthew, the Lord says, forgive 77 times. You know, the seven is the number of completion. And in the book, is it hab habit? I could be saying that completely wrong, but again, go wash yourself in the river seven times to heal this leprosy. Seven is a number of completion in the Bible, because the Lord created the world in seven days, and on the seventh day he rested, which means that we have to do this until. So even though you've broken the sa the soul ties, you've forgiven them, you've said, okay, I put this down, I don't want to do this anymore, I hand back the guilt and the fear and the shame and all that, I'm done. But you could have an old part of you from when you were a child that is still looking for a mom, is still sad, is still grieving, is still hurting. And we have to heal those parts of us, we have to heal those wounds. The Lord binds up these wounds, he heals our soul. And when he's doing that, he's healing these holes in our heart, he's breaking the soul ties, he's helping you forgive, he's helping you release your anger, and then he's bringing back what the enemy has stolen from you because I will bless you abundantly. Was it Job got seven times more than what he lost? And that number seven is there. I will bring this story to completion, I will turn it around. But we have to work with him and we have to let him walk us through that journey. Now, Jezebel doesn't always attack you physically. She'll attack your strength, your mind, and your assignment. And God's re and God's response to Elijah was really powerful. Get up and eat, for the journey is too much for you. We see that in 1 Kings 19:7. So God restores him in stages where there's rest, there's nourishment, there's God's presence. And this shows us that spiritual depletion does require spiritual restoration. And I know when I feel that depleted and under that much attack, I feel this urgency to fast. And I'm like, I must fast, I must fast, I must fast. But we see in the book of Kings here that Elijah didn't fast because he was already so drained, he was already so depleted, he was already sick and tired. So fasting would have been like punishment in that instance. And the Lord didn't get him to fast, he actually fed him. So sometimes we kind of dish out this self-punishment and this self-blame, and we think this is our fault, and we created this and we caused this, and that self-hatred can actually act as an open door. So that's one of the areas that I actually really struggled because it was a blind spot for me. I didn't realize that I had forgiven everybody else. But I still blamed myself for some of this. I still had that sense of responsibility. I was still carrying my family on my back, my my birth family. I still felt like it was my job to fix everything, to fix my parents, to fix my sister. Well, not that she needed fixing, but I felt like she was my responsibility. I had a maternal responsibility to her. It was really hard. I had to put that responsibility and that weight down and say, this isn't actually my responsibility. These were my parents and they hurt me. And then they turned people against me. And I was the one left in the wilderness with nothing. And I was still blaming myself, and this wasn't my fault. If you are a scapegoat or a black sheep or you've been traumatized, you've been hurt by these people, you can't carry that guilt. You have to put it down because that's self-unforgiveness, bitterness towards self is also an open door for Jezebel. And we do not want to give her an inch because Jezebel really wants to put out your light. She wants to stop your anointing. She wants to stop God's calling on your life, and she will use any door. So her assignment, literally in our lives, is to stop us from doing the Lord's work. Our assignment is to stay obedient to God, to heal everything, to close the doors, to forgive everyone, and to move into the season of our blessings, the season that the Lord has called us to. There's a reason why Moses spent like 40 years in the desert, because we see that he struggled a lot with anger and maybe bitterness, you know. He had a lot of unresolved trauma because he was literally raised within Pharaoh's kingdom. He he wasn't raised by his mother, his birth mother. So of course that's going to be traumatic for a child because he had this bond with her from being nursed as a baby for a couple of years. There's complex trauma there, you know, in his past because he's seeing his people, like his birth family, who are being mistreated and abused, and he's growing up in a privileged society where he's told that he's better than these people, but he knows, like in here, he knows that that's not true. And he feels this strong sense of responsibility to stop the injustice and to help those people. But he couldn't put down the anger. He couldn't let go. You have an assignment to do when you're in the wilderness, when you're in this in-between. You're not just twiddling your thumbs, waiting on God. God is waiting on you. So that's why we have to move. We have to heal, we have to forgive, we have to put down the anger. We cannot be bitter because bitterness is it's like eating poison. It's it's Jezebel feeding you poison and it's making you sick. It's not making those other people sick. Those people are still benefiting from all your good energy, that life force that the Lord is pouring into you for your ministry, your gifts, your talents. That's going through that soul tie. It's going to the narcissists. They're taking it. They're depleting you, they're bleeding you dry. This is like an energy exchange that is happening, and it's happening through witchcraft. This is obviously not God's will. This is not God's design. This is not meant to happen, but this is how witchcraft works. Witchcraft takes what doesn't belong. That's what Jezebel is doing. She is using these people to take your resources, take your finances, bleed you dry, make you depleted, make you drained and exhausted, and literally questioning your even existence on this earth. Because when everything keeps going wrong in your life, how how are you meant to take your power back from that? The answer is to heal. Heal and forgive and let go and let God. And He can break the soul ties off of you and set you free. Because when we grow up with narcissistic parents, we are being controlled, we're being manipulated. There's emotional inconsistency, there's confusion, there's a lot of unconditional love as well. So you're not just experiencing pain, but you're becoming really spiritually entangled up with these people, and there's a lot of enmeshment as well, because narcissists don't see you as separate. When I talk about my children, I will call them by their name. I will say, oh yeah, Kean loves ice cream or Kean has asthma or whatever. When you talk to a narcissistic mother, they don't say that. They they will say, Oh, we. They'll like talk about the child as we. We don't eat that, we don't like that, we don't ever get that sick. That is a red flag. We. Because your child is not an extension of you. They are not enmeshed with you, they are not part of you, they are not there just to admire you and to lap you up and to make you feel good. That's what some parents want. They literally use their child as a buffer, you know. Go out and make me look good. Go win that game. I will buy you ice cream if you win, but if you lose, then no traits for a week, cracking the whip. It's all to do with their image because they want to look good or they want everyone to say, what a perfect mother, you know, perfect father. I remember when the Lord was doing healings on me, he would show me my school picture. And in the picture, I was literally so polished. I mean, not a hair out of place, my button right up to here, prim and proper. And when you look at the child in that picture, it's like such a contrast to the life that I lived, you know, where there was literally rotten milk in the fridge in the mornings, nobody was getting up to make me breakfast because they were too hungover. The contrast of the life that I lived was so different to the child in that picture. And that's the thing. It causes so much cognitive dissonance. And nobody's gonna believe you. If you try to speak up and say, I was neglected, I was abused. People, again, will look at things like your pictures and how you went to school and how you always had all your books and you you always had enough toys, and you were allowed to bring friends over. Nobody sees that if you asked your parent for a drink of water, they would get angry at you because they were too busy. Constantly feeling like a burden, constantly feeling like you're in the way, constantly feeling that lack of connection, that void, because this person has not connected with you, has not bonded with you in the way that a mother should. And that's an empty space in your heart and in your life. And we have to heal those empty spaces because this is how we become depleted. These soul to these these voids in our life leave room for the energy to drain. And with these parents, there's no healthy boundaries. Your identity gets fused with theirs, your emotions are tied to theirs, your work is shaped by their approval. I know somebody who literally mimics his mother. He's like a puppet on a string. He doesn't have his own mind. He he doesn't know who he is or what he likes. And when when he's around his mother, he's literally like a different person. He just molds into what she wants him to be. Like it's just so strange to watch. It's because you're literally programmed to act a certain way. And he's he's the golden child in his family. He's not the scapegoat. So completely different experience, completely different dynamic, and he's the only person who can't see that he's being manipulated. These people, they can have so much power over you because of the witchcraft that's involved. So our prayers need to sound like remove the veil over my mind, take off the blindfold, break the soul tie, detangle me, Lord, so that I can stand on my own two feet, so I can be my own person, so I can have my own mind, so that my thoughts are mine, my emotions are mine. And if there's any spirit of PTSD around me that is mimicking their voice, cast it to the abyss. You have to really stand in authority and start to take your thoughts captive because a lot of this is the enemy weaponizing your trauma. And the Bible says, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. This is in Genesis 2.24. And the the issue with narcissistic parents in particular is they don't allow for this to happen because there's so much enmeshment and there's so much control, and they want to continue to deplete you and drain you through those soul ties. So they don't want you to properly untie further from them. They want to keep you in the bondage because they're benefiting from it. They're literally benefiting from you still being enmeshed to them. So of course they're gonna resist it, but you have to be the one to decide that I'm leaving these controlling dynamics, that I'm taking my power back, and I'm not gonna allow the people from my past to take from my life any longer or from my future, especially if you're like a new, newlywed couple or having a narcissistic parent looming over you and still controlling you like a puppet, that is going to bleed you dry. You are going to struggle to get ahead. Your finances are going to be a constant source of attack, a constant source of stress. And this can literally lead to divorce because it just feels impossible. Being together, living together, trying to build a life together with a narcissistic parent looming in the background, everything in your life is difficult. And there's a lot of spiritual things at work that are happening, spirits of division, spirits of control, spirits of witchcraft. And you will notice that your narcissistic parent is actually very comfortable. You know, their life is smooth, everything is fine, they're very comfortable financially while you're literally struggling to survive and you feel like you're drowning. That's a red flag. So, what is a soul tie? A soul tie is a deep spiritual or emotional connection. You can have a soul tie with anyone. You can have a soul tie with your child, your mother, your partner, your friend, people that you have an emotional attachment or connection with, you're gonna have soul ties. And these soul ties can be healthy or negative. You can also have sexual soul ties through lust. So if you are sleeping around and with people that you don't care about or they don't care about you, then that can cause a lot of negative soul ties, and they actually attach in different places as well. So sometimes the soul tie will attach to your womb area where where the sexual organs are connected to at that energy center in the body, that is where more those lustful kind of soul ties are going to attach, and that can drain your creativity, it can drain your life voice, it can make you very tired, it can feed resources back to those people as well. So those soul ties just have to be cut, and they're a little bit easier to cut, I think, because there's not so much emotion and enmeshment and entanglement, but they can actually make you feel unwell. So this is why you have to treat your body like a sacred temple and not just be with anybody, be with somebody that you care about that you actually. Love. Don't use people. Don't hurt people. When these soul ties are rooted in control, fear, obligation, or trauma, it does become a channel of draining. And with narcissistic or controlling parents, these ties are often stronger, deeper, and much harder to break because there's just so much emotion there. They were formed in childhood over many years, and these are true dependency and survival. But also where there's trauma, the enemy can literally hook into you, into those wounds, into those voids. And that's why we have to heal and take our power back. So sometimes we will keep attracting the same type of people. Like I mentioned, I've had friends that were narcissists. I've had even people that I worked with in the church or ministry that were narcissistic. And these soul ties or these dynamics, these patterns kind of kept repeating. It's because your nervous system is constantly trying to close the cycle or control the loop. You're thinking, if I can heal this person, if I can fix this person, if I can help this person, if they love me, maybe that proves I'm enough. Your inner child is always trying to close the loop. That's why you have to heal it. You have to heal the loop and close it completely so that you're not constantly attracting these types of vampire people. Because sometimes you just leave one draining relationship and then you attract another. And sometimes you are literally programmed to allow controlling people in your life and to allow them to drain you. You tend to overgive or overfunction while takers and underfunctionaries really benefit from that. And you may ignore red flags. Sometimes we accept breadcrumbs from people or the bare minimum because we got even less from our parents, you know, so we think, oh, this person must love me because blah blah blah. But the truth is if somebody really loves you, then they're going to pour into you. They're going to show up for you. They're going to be there when you need them. And they're not going to be watering somebody else's grass while yours is rotting. It's really important to understand that because we can attract people that neglect us and take from us and take more than they give. And sometimes we tolerate that because we never learned that actually relationships are meant to be equal. There's meant to be give and take. You're meant to attract people that value you just as much as you value them. My neighbor took my kids to school the last couple of days because my car is broken down. And instantly I wanted to do something to help her. And I was like, Do you want me to cook your kids dinner today and I can have it ready when they all come home? And she was like, No, no, not at all. It's fine. But that's just how I think. I'm like, she's helping me out, so how can I help her? Whereas takers don't think that way. Takers are like, I helped you, so now you have to help me. Like it's just a very different mindset. And you have to be aware of that. Be aware of the takers in your life. And then 1 Corinthians 15, 33, we see, do not be misled. Bad company corrupts good character. This is true because when you're constantly around these types of people, you're going to build walls around yourself. You're going to cut off your heart. You're going to say no. I don't want to keep being hurt like this. I don't want people to damage me or attack me. When you have these betrayal wounds, these grief wounds, sometimes it all just gets too much. So you literally build a cage. And then you're keeping people out. You're keeping everyone at arm's length. You don't feel safe. You don't trust. And this isolates you further and further from people and from anybody who may be able to help you. And this is exactly what the enemy wants. And I've fallen victim to this. I have become so isolated in my life at times that it feels like, am I even alive? Do I even exist? Because that's how little communication I have with other people outside of my home. That's what the enemy wants. The enemy wants you so isolated and so alone because you don't trust anyone. And the Lord has to work on these walls and heal that brokenness within us so that we can actually start to build healthy community and healthy friendships and not repeat the pattern with more people like this, but actually heal the wound to the point that we're no longer attracting people like that. And then the Lord can bring us people who are healthy. So scripture tells us clearly that rebellion is the sin of witchcraft. 1 Samuel 15, 23. I've talked about this before, but witchcraft is not just rituals and spells, it's control, manipulation, and domination. You can see this in the church, you know, there's a lot of churches that teach things like women must be submissive, submissive. You must submit to men. Men are the lead. And they really like drill that point home over and over and over again to the point that the women are literally dissociated and pale and controlled, and they have no life outside their home and their homeschooling. And it takes so much power from the person because they're being programmed and conditioned to believe a lie. And it's all rooted in control. That person wants control, they want to be the head. In most relationships, there will be a leader because some people naturally are good at leading. Some people are naturally really good at planning and organizing and taking care of certain duties and tasks. And other people are better at working with their hands or working outside. Some people are really good at cooking, some people can't cook to save their life. And we often, when we fall into a relationship and you start living with somebody, you will naturally fall into a role within that dynamic. And in some homes, the husband cooks. In some homes, the wife works and the husband stays home. It's about utilizing people's gifts and talents and letting people have room to grow and expand and be flexible. But the problem with these dynamics is everything is reduced to a role. So people are sometimes forced into unnatural roles that don't actually suit them or their personality. And then they become so suppressed to the point that they're just screaming on the inside and they're getting sick, they're getting tired, they're drained. And when people try to place you in a box like that, and they're like, you're a woman, so you're this, this, and this, and that's it, that's all you are. That is abuse. This is a form of narcissism, it's a form of witchcraft, and it's so common in the church because abusive men, they literally see that that's an environment where I can have a lot of power. So they're not there because they're true born-again Christian, faithful leaders that love and respect their duty as a husband and they protect their wives and they take care of them. The mindset is distorted from the beginning. And we have to be so careful of this. If you're a Christian woman, be careful. You should not be submitting to a controlling man, you should not be submitting to a man who wants to dictate and control every aspect of your life. You should still have freedom, you should still have choice. Jesus does not control women, and he does not expect women to bow down to their husbands. God is the only one that we are meant to worship. There's a lot of Christian women that are worshiping and idolizing their husbands, and that is not biblical. Many times when people are being oppressed like this, they will have sudden financial pressure, their resources are drying up, they have extreme exhaustion, they have chronic pain, they feel attacked spiritually, they might have a lot of nightmares, they feel a loss of creativity, where their gifts and talents are just going to waste, and they may feel a lot of mental confusion. I have seen this in in lots of different people where they're just in a dissociated state all the time because they can't actually cope with the relationship that they're in or the environment that that they've been brought up in. When you're still around people who have these witchcraft spirits as well, it can really put a veil over your mind, it can cause confusion, it can cause spiritual blindness. It can also cause illness in your body, infirmity, because that's what witchcraft does. The enemy works through these soul ties to restrict your life flow. Jesus said that the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. And I have come that you may have life and have it abundantly. That's in John 10:10. If something is constantly draining your life, then it is not from God. A lot of Christians as well are are like martyrs where they fall into this kind of martyr mindset and they say things like, Oh, we're suffering for Christ. It's true that we do go through wilderness seasons and we do struggle, we do suffer. I've gone through a lot of suffering in my life, and that suffering has actually softened me and it's made me tender and empathetic. When you go through suffering, it can do either. It can soften you or it can harden you. But for me, I believe that there has been purpose to my suffering, and I don't teach prosperity or anything like that. But at the same time, I don't believe it's God's will for us to just endlessly suffer or to be in endless poverty. I don't think it's God's will for neither of our cars to be working right now and for me to be stressed. It's also rare. Who wakes up in the morning and neither car will start? That's just so strange. But and I even dreamt about it. I dreamt that all four of us were in the car and it was driven off a cliff and we ended up under the water and the car was crashed, and I got up that morning, tried to start my car and it wouldn't start. So I know this was an attack from the enemy. Like a few a few months ago, my air-to-water system stopped working. We had no heating or hot water for two weeks. A few months before that, our cooker broke. We actually spent like four months without a cooker at one point, a few years ago. And there was someone in my life at the time who had a lot of financial resources, literally was quite wealthy and brags about her wealth all the time, and literally didn't even offer to help me. I had no oven for four months. That's what I'm saying about takers, people who just take, they drain you, they deplete you, but then they literally will just stand back and watch while you suffer. And it's like you could have at least offered. If that was me, like my again, the mindset is different. If I had 50 grand in savings and I knew my friend didn't even have a cooker, I I would have gone and replaced her cooker because my mindset is different to hers. I would have just seen it as tiding. I'm I'm just gonna give to this person because they need help. That's the difference. A taker won't. I we always kind of struggled because I had a disability, I wasn't working, and we had a lot of narcissists around us. So there was always struggle, but it had never been that bad. And that year when this person was in my life was literally the worst financial year that we had ever had. We had nothing. I mean, we could barely afford our groceries by Wednesday every week. I would literally be crying and so stressed because we had no money, our electricity had gone out a few times, and she was the common denominator in my life at the time. As soon as this friendship ended, and I walked away and I took my power back, I cut the soul ties, then things started to improve because I was no longer giving my power to this person. They were no longer controlling my mind, they were no longer in a position to take and drain and deplete me. At the time we were working on a project together, but I was literally doing percent of the work. Again, that's just another example. You're you're giving, you're overfunctioning, you're helping them, and they're taking, and then all your finances are drying up and things are going wrong in your life, and you're wondering why. It's because these people literally have witchcraft spirits and they seem to be thriving, like literally going on luxury holidays. Because how many how many other people are they draining like that? How many other people are they taking from? So let's talk about breaking soul ties. Breaking a soul tie with a parent is one of the hardest things to do because it feels like betrayal, it feels like disloyalty, it feels like guilt. And Jesus said, anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me. Matthew 10, 37. It's not really about dishonor, it's more about spiritual alignment. You can honor them without being bound. Some people have beautiful relationships with their parents, they have parents that truly care about them, parents who are there for them, that support them. People can have flawed parents that are not perfect, that have made mistakes, but who truly love their children and who are truly there for them. When you have a narcissistic parent, it's a completely different dynamic. These people don't care about you, and they use you either for their image or for supply, or maybe you're the person that they take everything out on. When you are being used in this way by a parent, you need to take your power back. And in order to break the soul tie, we have to repent for any agreements that we have made with control or being controlled, with fear-based obedience to these people and with losing yourself in order to keep the peace. So we walk through repentance. In the book of Acts 3.19, they say repent, that time of refreshing may come from the Lord. So repentance is actually the first ministry of Jesus. If you go to the book of Matthew, it was the first thing that Jesus spoke about, the first thing that he did. I think it's in Matthew 4, it talks about repentance. Repentance is one of the first things that we have to do as Christians, and our lives should involve daily repentance. We should be coming before the Lord every day, saying, Search my heart, search, search my heart, Lord, and then repenting for our sins of that day and giving them to God. And not because he's angry at us, not because he's holding that over us, not because he's going to use it against us, but because the Lord loves humility. And I ask you to forgive me and to heal me. He's there comforting you. He's holding your hand. He loves you. He's not angry or upset with you because sometimes that is taught in churches that if you are doing this, this, or this, then the Lord is angry and you're being disobedient and you're you're at risk of your salvation being taken away and all this stuff. That's a lot of fear-based teachings that are happening in the church. That's not what it's about. It's about just being humble and living a humble life before the Lord every single day. Because we all have moments where we don't handle situations very well. Literally the stress yesterday figuring out that my cars won't start, and then not really having a support network. I don't have anyone that I can call. And not having much money for the mechanic, that is literal panic. And we don't handle it well in the moment sometimes. Because I was just, I remember being angry at Chris because I was like, what the heck? But it wasn't his fault either. So when we have these moments of stress, fear, anger, again, we just bring it to God. We say, I'm sorry, Lord. Help me to help me to be better, even when I'm stressed, you know? And that's just part of your walk with the Lord every single day. And forgiveness is also part of your walk with the Lord every single day. Forgive and you will be forgiven. Luke 6, 37. Forgiveness is a spiritual command. We see in the in the New Age and in therapy circles, and we see it all over the internet where people are like, you don't owe them forgiveness. You don't have to forgive you. People get really angry about this topic. But the truth is, for unforgiveness is the biggest open door for Satan. It is the number one way that he can target you, he can target your resources, he can drain you, he can launch attacks on you, which he does. If you have an anointing, if you are chosen for the Lord's purpose, for his glory, literally you are a target. And unforgiveness gives them permission, legal permission to do witchcraft on you. So you have to forgive. The Bible says we have to forgive. It is not a choice, it is about putting down the bitterness, removing the chains, saying, Lord, take this from me. And I've often taught forgiveness is a process. And I feel like the Lord kind of wants me to shift from that a little bit because yes, it has been a process for me to forgive. It has taken time because my soul was so fragmented. And there were parts of me that didn't forgive, even when I did. But we can't delay it. You know, if you if you're able to forgive sooner, faster, then just do it. Don't hold on to it. Don't hold on to the bitterness. Don't hold on to the anger. Put it down. Let yourself put it down because it keeps you in chains. And it's literally like eating poison and expecting someone else to get sick. It's making you sick. So you have to ask the Lord to search my heart and show me any areas where I still haven't forgiven. And then release it, give it to him, lay it at his feet, and say, Lord, I put this person in your hands. I honestly think maybe there's still some unforgiveness in me, like especially towards that friend that I mentioned, because I feel like this attack that I'm currently going through is in connection to her and her witchcraft spirits. And I've had to forgive her over and over and over again for the last year. And it hasn't been easy. I have had times where I feel complete peace and freedom. And then I have times where I feel those chains reattaching and I feel the spider web and I feel her demons circling around me. And the Lord will show me like you're still angry, you're still hurt, you're still triggered at that. And I have to sit and intentionally heal that and give it to God and forgive her again. So sometimes forgiveness, it's a process and it's a journey, but it also has to be intentional. And you can't just hold on to it. Like when the Lord reveals a hook or a root or something in you, don't try to wrestle with it. Don't be like, no, I want to keep my anger. If he shows you that you're angry, then be ready to surrender it because you can delay the process forever. With my partner Chris, he he frustrates the life out of me sometimes because he wrestles with everything. The Lord will reveal something to him and he will want to defend it or he will want to go back and forth about it. And I'm like tired and drained and not not having the energy to just keep going back and forth about this. I'm like, just put it down. Like, we don't have to keep going back and forth. Like literally, just put it down. Stop wrestling with it. Stop allowing the thoughts to control you and stop defending the thoughts as well, especially when they're negative. Just put them down. And for me, it's easy because I'm doing it every single day. For him, he's intentionally doing his healing like once a week or once a month sometimes. So then when it comes to it, he's still wrestling. And I'm like, stop wrestling and just do it. If you're doing this every day, you're showing up every day and you're doing your little bit of healing every day, even if it's just 10 or 15 minutes journaling, it becomes so much easier to let go and put the defenses down and stop being afraid of criticism, stop being triggered by it, because the purpose of it is for your growth and your healing and your freedom. It's not because the Lord is putting you down or he's angry or upset or like he understands why you are the way you are. So we don't have to keep explaining it to him. We don't have to keep wrestling. We don't have to keep justifying. Sometimes you just say, Okay, I understand. I am doing this thing, and this is pride, and the Lord wants me to put it down. And it's just that simple. You know, instead of being afraid of it, afraid of admitting that you're wrong sometimes, don't wrestle so much. Because I think that's common with early in healing as well. When you're like early on in your journey, we are much more defensive and we want to explain everything more and we want to understand everything more. And honestly, that can waste a lot of time. Because if you're trying to heal and you're we want to just put these things down and close the doors and take your power back, sometimes we can just spend way too much time going round in circles and talking and talking and talking, or thinking and thinking and thinking or defending. And that's pride. Sometimes we just have to put it down and say, thank you, Lord, for revealing this route to me. I'm now going to heal it and release it and let go and move on with my day. And everything moves a lot faster when when you when you shift your mindset and you recognize that this is for your good, this is for your purpose, this is going to shift you into the next season of your life where hopefully you're going to be living in your calling and you're not going to have to struggle and suffer like this anymore. The more you wrestle with it and and the more defensive you are, and the more you avoid it, the longer it takes. So, how much time are you going to let the enemy take from you? Instead, just just deal with it, deal with the roots and put them to bed. And we have to renounce the soul tie now. So dead and life are in the power of the tongue in Proverbs 18 21. You must speak it. You have to renounce it. And then we have to break the pattern. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the remote renewing of your mind. Romans 12, 2. This includes setting boundaries with people, saying no, choosing different relationships, recognizing when you're being manipulated. And again, it's that whole protocol, the narcissist protocol, where you don't engage, you don't explain, you don't give them lots of emotion, you don't tell them your life story, you don't go deep, you don't need anything from them, you don't take anything from them, and you don't allow them to have hooks in your life, you know, or chains. If you have to have people like this in your life, then bare minimum, breadcrumbs, gray rock, because that's what they're giving you. And you're getting all worked up and emotional about it, which is just giving them more power. So you have to heal the wound that they're triggering, close the void, break the soul tie, and then set those boundaries and stick to them. Don't allow that cognitive dissonance to creep back in. Oh, maybe they're not a narcissist, or maybe they are, oh, I don't know. And then they trigger you, and you're like, That person is evil. I used to do this or that. You just go round in circles again. No, set the boundary and say, We're done. We're done with this connection, we're done with with explaining ourselves, we're not giving them all our emotion, we're not giving them all our energy, we're taking our power back, and then receive your healing and your deliverance. So he heals the brokenhearted, he binds up their wounds. Psalms 147 tree. God doesn't just cut the soul tie, he will heal that place, that wounded place in your heart. Sometimes that's a journey, you know. This friend that I mentioned hurt me a lot. And I saw them as a sister. I had so much love for this person, I would have gone to war for this person, and they betrayed me and they hurt me and they used me. So sometimes it comes back up, you know, even when I think I've put it down and I'm done and I'm I'm healed and I forgive and I'm fine, and then it comes back up again like a month later, and I'm like, oh crap, because now the Jezebel, her demons are attacking me again because there's some unresolved bitterness or worry or anxiety or fear. There's something there that just needs healing. And instead of resisting it, fighting it, I just sit with it and I let the Lord heal me. On Friday this week, I'm going to release a full healing on breaking soul ties. And we're gonna go really deep into the emotions, into the voids. We're going to heal the enmeshment, we're gonna cast out the vampire spirits, and it's gonna be like a full detailed healing that is fully prophetically guided by the Holy Spirit. But to close this out today, I'm gonna do a prayer to break soul ties and enmeshment. But just make sure you come back Friday to receive that full healing because it is going to be quite powerful. And I think this is one of the best things we can do for ourselves to take our power back from the enemy, to cut those soul ties, to cut off people that drain us, to ask the Lord to replenish us, you know, to bring us seven times what the enemy has taken from us through these ungodly soul ties and these people who are just takers and vampires in our lives. Father, in the name of Jesus, I repent for every ungodly soul tie formed through fear, trauma, and enmeshment. I forgive my parents and every person who has drained me, controlled me, or hurt me. I release them to you. Right now in the name of Jesus, I renounce and break every ungodly soul tie. I break every tie formed through manipulation, control, and emotional bondage. I declare I am no longer bound. I command every spirit draining my energy, peace, and resources to leave now in Jesus' name. I take my identity back, I take my peace back, I take my provision back. Holy Spirit, heal every place in me that was formed through trauma and enmeshment. Restore my mind, restore my heart, restore my life. From this day forward, I walk in freedom, boundaries, and truth. In Jesus' name, amen. So thank you guys for listening today. I don't normally ask people to sow into this ministry because again, I'm working on a plan that is more sustainable and just more life-giving. Because I want to give as much as I possibly can to people for free, like the Bible says, freely give, and that matters to me, but at the same time, I need an income and a way to continue to work in ministry. So I guess if you feel called to sew this week, I would really be grateful. There is a link in the description below. There's no obligation, I don't want to take anything from anyone who is struggling. It's just if you feel led, if you feel called, then I would really appreciate that. And again, subscribe because I do want to get that membership up and running because I think that's gonna be something that can really help my family. My goal is to release two extra healings a month and have them for members only, and then have a very small fee, like 20 euro a month or something like that. It's literally just an income source. That's all it is. And I I appreciate everyone for being here. My goal is to help as many people get free from captivity as possible, and I know the Lord provides, so I'm just gonna continue to show up in faith and let the Lord bless me and hopefully bless you as well. And I love you lots. I will see you in the next one. Take care. Bye. Remember to stay close to Jesus because freedom is yours.