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I was in Bible college at the time that I met my husband. Never in a million years would have imagined he would be my husband. You look back at it and you think and it's like, oh my gosh, that's crazy. I was like, okay, God, like, I'm I'm focused. I'm like hyper focused. Like I'm laser focused. I'm all in. Like, I don't want, don't even show me no man. Like, don't even like. And there he was being shown. Hi guys. I'm a little screechy this morning. Um, okay. Tasting two. Hey y'all. Sorry, forgive me. Hey y'all. Welcome back to another episode of The Homemade Woman. If it looks like I'm crying, I'm not. I'm just a little dreary-eyed this morning. No, all jokes aside, I am looking a little rough this morning. So if you are watching this on YouTube, I beckon you to just come to Apple Podcasts and watch this episode because I don't know. You know, just some mornings, maybe it's because it's raining outside, and all the mothers of the faith, you are not gonna come for me. I am aware that my hair is somewhat wet. Not all of us have time to just blow dry our hair on a random Thursday where we have a thousand other things to do. So um I was uh just to give you guys a little backstory on what I was doing with my life yesterday, all the way up until last night, about 12 a.m., where I should have found myself in the bed, but I was not. My kids have convinced us finally after maybe three or four years of earnestly praying and petitioning before the Lord, before us, before everyone in the neighborhood to get them a pool. We have finally bowed down. We have finally bought them a pool. My husband laid the foundation, and this is in the words of my daughter. Daddy, you laid the foundation, and mama built the structure. You're absolutely right. Mommy built the structure, daddy laid the foundation. So daddy laid the sand, did all the things, laid the tarp, got it all nice, and you know, gave it a nice little bed to sit on. But anyway, so we have been spending the last few days getting a pool ready for my kiddos. And it has been taking up a lot of time. No, I'm just kidding. It actually did not take that long for me to put it together, but we've been feeling it and figuring out all the things. Like, why does it take so much to put a pool together? Like, that's the question that I'm asking myself. Like, what we should have just built a little small pond in our yard or something. Like, I know my yard's not big enough for that yet. But um, it just seems like it would have been a lot more simpler than a pool. You gotta shock it, you gotta make sure the pitch levels are balanced, and God forbid it rains like it is right now. And then my father had the nerve to say, Y'all need me to hold back the rain. Like, please. So we were putting putting the pool together yesterday. And then my daughter had, my youngest daughter had a softball game. And when we got there, like a whole dust storm happened, and we're just unfolding the lawn chairs like this is the life of a mom. We're unfolding the lawn chairs, and we're sitting our little tail down, waiting on the last team to leave, and we're just looking up at the sky. I'm gonna show you guys a video. I'll show you guys a video, but we're just looking up at the sky, like, oh my god, this is so I don't even know the word for it. This is so majestic. This is majestic, isn't the word, because I know that this causes wrecks and all the things, but this is so I don't know. I I just could not think of a word for it. And then like seconds later, I can like hardly see. I'm looking for my six-year-old knob. Anyway, it's a whole dust storm on the way back to the van with all of our chairs and all the things, and so we head back home, no game. If you're a mom, you know there's no time in the day for anything but doing everything, right? And so we're on the way home, and my husband's like, babe, like I've been looking a little straggly for a little while. I really need you to cut my hair. I know I have no barber's license, I do not. You are absolutely correct. Thanks for humbling me. But nonetheless, I was cutting my husband's hair last night because that's what I've been doing for the past year or so, I think. Yeah, and I'm learning it, I'm perfecting it. But all jokes aside, I do feel like anything I need to do, I can figure it out. Like I'll I'll figure it out. I just will. Like when I was younger, like jury would break and I would be like, oh, it's fine, I'm gonna fix it. And I would just figure out how to fix it. Then I became a mom and you become a thousand other things. I told my husband last night I was gonna do the trend. Okay, stop. Carry on. Let me get that video ready for you guys. Just so you guys are. If it's just the early in the morning, if it's like 6 a.m. My husband says something. If everybody just has trouble saying the word publicly and be honest, saying it public but publicly back to him. I am not about to cry, you guys, before you start asswing publicly back to him, that I enjoy doing life with my husband and my kids.

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He makes life so interesting. He makes it fun, he makes it productive, he makes it unpredictable, he makes it advanced.

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I'm gonna use that to segue into our episode for today because I will be having a special guest on next week's episode. I'm sorry, the episode that we'll do in two weeks. Because if you don't know the current algorithm, it's bi-weekly episodes, but you should have an episode coming to you soon, which will be part two of the last episode. I can't say last week's episode, but you should be receiving a part two soon of the last episode that I done, the enemy is playing for keeps, but so is God. Part two. Because the part one was so chunky, so heavy, so so prophetic, honestly, that the latter portion of the episode was more of had more of a teaching mechanism tied to it. So I separated them. So it should be coming soon as a little treat, I guess. But nonetheless, getting into today's episode, I was like, God, what what is it that you want me to say? What is it that you want me to say? And I'm reminded of Paul, who would often talk to the people. I'm reminded of what he said one time. He said, I say this not because the Lord has inspired me to say this, but I say this because the wisdom of the Lord gives me the ability to say it. The wisdom that the Lord has placed on me is giving me ability to say this. And so today I wrestled with what to come to you guys with. All I could think about was the fact that next episode, my husband will be coming on. So this will be a precursor for next for the next episode. I always want to say next week's episode. So I'm just gonna talk to you guys a little bit about my journey with my husband and coming to know my husband. Not saying that he's an open book, but I know he wouldn't mind me sharing, you know, just how we met and just all the things. But um let's jump right in, shall we? Because we're talking about 12 years, right? But I'm not gonna talk about 12 years. I'm just gonna talk about when I first met my husband. So just to give you a little backstory, I was in Bible college at the time that I met my husband. Never in a million years would have imagined he would be my husband. Like you you look back at it and you think, and it's like, oh my gosh, that's crazy. I was home for spring break, and he waltzes in to my grandmother's house. Now, my grandmother, my grandfather past fifth grade raised me, so this was home, and I'll never forget it. It was like it was yesterday, but all I remember is like this mere moment. I don't remember anything after it because life, my past is like a bunch of flashes, it's just moments. Am I the only one? Like, nothing's truly vivid. I can just see, like, you know, just moments in time. He walks in, and my grandmother is sitting on the left end of the chair, and I'm sitting on the right end. Probably like I am right now because I always sit comfortably and or with my legs up, and he just walks in and he probably said something like, What's up, Tootsie? How you doing? That's my that was my grandmother's uh nickname, God rest her soul. And he was just like, Hey, how are you? I'm pretty sure. Because that's just what he does when he doesn't know somebody, and he's like, Hey, how are you? and and I was like, Hey, how are you? And the rest was history, I'm just kidding. Um, no, so just to give a little more backstory, my husband grew up with my family because, and do not judge me, okay? This is borderline, but my husband's cousin, which is who is so much older than him and was like a father figure in his life, uh, slash uncle, is his actual biological cousin. His cousin is married to my aunt. So yeah, we're this close to committing incest. This close, but anyway, so his biological cousin is my biological aunt's husband. They're married. So my husband, my now husband, my man's husband, it's like ringing in my head this morning. Husband, husband, husband, husband. So my husband had just gotten home, and I guess it's because like normally when I'm talking to somebody, I'm just saying D. My husband's nickname is D. That's what I've called him for 12 years. It's not gonna change unless I'm serious and I'm like, Demetrius. So my husband, just to give a little more backstory. My husband just had just gotten home from prison. He had just gotten home. I know, I know. You're like, girl, oh my god. Feels so bad. Nah. It's not as bad as you guys think. So my husband had just gotten home. I said it like he had just gotten home for the grocery store. So yeah, he was fresh, baby. I'm talking about fresh out of prison. I'm pretty sure he would laugh if he was sitting next to me. He grew up with my family, and he moves in with my aunt and my uncle, who live right next door to me, to my grandparents. So he just walks in one day and I see him. He says he remembers me from the time I was a young girl, walking around barefooted, dark as I'll get out, bushy hair, like all the things back when I couldn't manage curls, and it probably looks like I can't do that now. But I promise I can. It's just not a good hair day, okay? He re he says he remembers me from that time, but ironically, I remember his brother. I do not remember my husband from when I was a child. I just don't. Like he said, he was like, Because I weren't messing with y'all like that, man. Like I and he'll be here to his own side. My aunt didn't always live next to my my grandparents. I remember his brother so vividly. Like, we would step to 1-2 a.m. everybody around the dinner table at my grandmother's house, and we would play Monopoly phase 10. If you don't know anything about face 10, we cannot be friends. Just saying. Like, I say that on behalf of my grandmother, okay? Like, it would be Saturday night. We have church the next morning. She's like, Wanna play some face 10? I'm like, girl, we need to go to bed. That's why we can't be on time now. Love her to pieces. She played a big, big role in my life. And I thank God for her. But nonetheless, so I'm on spring break from Bible College, and I'm home a week. I don't remember how many times I saw him that week. He says around that time, I liked walking around in Sophie shorts. Ladies, do any of you guys know the brand Sophie? Back in the day, you have the shorts and you roll them up one time because I mean it's just how they're made. A lot of cheerleaders wore them with their white teeny shoes and their socks, all the things. But, you know, I just wore them around the house like summer. And he said I liked walking around in my soap, but that's a lie. We're not gonna, we don't believe that. You guys don't believe that. And I don't believe it because I don't recall it. Like if I had them on, I had them on for my own comfortability. I had nothing to do with you, honey. Okay. But um, I was not pursuing a man at the time. And if I were, that is not the godly way to do it. That's just something he likes to add on. So going back home after spring break, I remember him messaging me, and I'm pretty sure he would agree, although he would probably try to say it was me. He reaches out to me. It it was like bait. I can remember us talking about my grandmother. We were saying something about my grandmother, you know, I might have asked what she was cooking, or he said your grandma cooked such and such, because he always liked to come over and eat. And he can still eat to this day, if you know my husband. So he reaches out to me and and we just kind of go from there. We're just talking and texting, and um, obviously, I have to come home for the summer. So I don't even remember if we were talking consistently, but I just do remember us talking at that time, and I'm gonna tell y'all, like, at that time I was a mess. Okay, like I was the Lord was working on me. I actually should have been home. I wonder. The Lord actually told me not to go back to Bible college that semester. We ain't gonna talk about it right now, but um, so I would have literally been home when he got home and I would have been home that whole semester. I've never even thought about that. Anyway, nothing to think about now because here we are. And when I came home for the summer, we pretty much just really got to know each other. My grandmother has this huge, I think it's an oak tree. It's like a huge oak tree. I mean, like its trunk seems like it's um it's like the width of my building, and it has this big canopy, and it's been there since they've been living there for as long as I can remember, past 40 some years. We would sit up under this tree and we would just talk and get to know each other. You know, in the beginning, we just kind of kept it very casual, and then we just began to talk about all kinds of stuff. And back then I was like into reading magazines. We're not gonna talk about who does that, but no, I would get magazines in the mail, and I was on like I was living a a healthy lifestyle eventually, but like by the summer, yeah. So much changed from March to the summer, baby, in my life. And so I was on this new health kick, like, not even kick, like it was a lifestyle. I was working out, like I was I was in my health bag, is that what I would say? I wasn't playing with nobody. My husband was actually in shape too, because mind you, he had just gotten home from prison, and so he was like the the leanest I've ever known him to be. I mean, you know, they say marriage, you get happy, you eat, and you just love each other, right? And it was one of those things where I was already distracted, and then when I'd come home, I had you know realigned myself, like I'd gotten back on a good path um with the Lord, and he was just like this beautiful distraction. And I kept saying, and I'll share more of this on the next episode, but I kept saying, Oh, I'm just being a lie, like, and I was, I truly was, like I wasn't trying to pursue this man because I had vowed unto the Lord, God, it's just me and you, like it's just me and you, and I'll share my testimony another day, but I was like, God, okay, like this is my vow to you, like it's just me and you. And I don't know who had other plans, but all I know is the Lord consecrated my marriage, and um somehow just getting a little distracted also ended up leading me back to the Lord, and he just he just put his hand on our marriage and he just he blessed it in spite of the fact that I was like, okay, God, like I'm I'm focused. I'm like hyper focused, like I'm laser focused, I'm all in. Like, I don't want don't even show me no man. Like, don't even like and there he was being shown with his fine self. He's gonna be a special guest on our next episode. I know y'all are like, tell me more. Like, wait, you're just saying so many things. This man went to prison, and wait, you were just at Bible college, and then you come home, and then you like were on this health thing, and you don't look like you're on a nah. But it's just a lot, it's just so chunky. I just wanted to kind of introduce what the next episode would be about and just share with you guys that my husband will be the special guest on my 10th episode. I've been saying this ever since I started the podcast that my husband would be premiering as a special guest on the 10th episode. I said, I want to introduce you, I want to kind of like make myself known to the people, do a few episodes, and then I want to bring you on. Like, this is my this is the lover of my soul. This is the man that God has blessed me with to do life with. This is the man who has all my babies, or who I had all my babies with, rather. He's my instrument of encouragement, he's the thing that aggravates me the most, but also the thing that upholds me the most. He is a true lifter of one's head. We've grown so much over the past twelve years. He's a leader, he's hardworking, he's he's just all the things. And I ain't gonna share everything because y'all might try to get my man, and you can't have him because he's already got and well kept and he ain't going nowhere. So with that being said, he's just he's hardworking, he's loving, he's caring, he is so selfless, he is sacrificial. From the time I've met him up until now, he's always been the most hardworking person I know, and I'm pretty sure my grandfather would be proud. And I also wonder what my grandfather would be saying if he knew my husband and I were landscapers, and I grew up cutting and weed eating and doing all the things in the yard, the thing that I tried to dodge every week. But I wonder what he would say. I know he's probably laughing in his grave. God rest his soul as well. Uh my grandparents were such a pivotal piece of my life, and I'll share with you guys on the next episode what my grandfather said to me. I don't know if you guys can hear that rain, but I can hear it, and I've been longing for rain. Longing for rain for so long, like for it to just rain to the point where I wake up at 3 a.m. I can hear it. I go back to sleep, I wake up again, I can hear it. I'm in my leave room wrapped up in covers. I can hear like I don't know. I've just been wanting to hear rain. And it's like it comes in spurts. The Lord ain't the Lord ain't blessed me yet. He's not answered my cry yet. But anyway, I'll share with you guys on the next episode what my grandfather said to me at the clothesline one day when he was inquiring to me um about my husband. I'll never forget it. He was such a father in that moment. And speaking of fathers, my heavenly father has kept us, he's been so good to us, he's been so good to me, to my marriage. Marriage has been a journey, it has not always been easy. There have been times where you had to push some plates to the side. You had to push some pride to the side. You had to you gotta push a lot of things to the side. So if you seek in marriage, go watch my episode about marriage or singleness. There's a part one and two of that too. It's amazing. I just wanted to kind of give an introduction for what next the next episode will be and just tell you guys a little bit about how I met my husband. And we'll go into more detail uh next time. I just didn't want to spoil it all. You know, my husband may have a lot of things to say, and he can be comical, so you guys be patient with him. You have to rule him back in sometimes, and I'm like, get it together. But no, uh, that's where he just that's where life becomes less serious when I'm with him. That's my man. That's my man, and I'm a seat beside him. Y'all remember that reel? Is that so this is this is who you want. That's him. But no, love my husband, honor my husband as headship of our house and lover of my soul, of all my days, forever and ever and ever, forever. We're gonna end this episode here. I'm gonna pray over you guys, and then we're gonna continue with our day. I pray you guys have a blessed day. Let's pray. Father, I come to you today, God, and I just want to pray over every listener right now. God, a very simple and quaint prayer, God. I just want to pray, God, that you would cover them today, God. I pray, God, that you'd shower them, God, just as the rain is showering the earth today, God, that you would shower them with your love, that you would shower them with rest, God, in some form. God, that you would shower them with peace, God, that the that the their future, that the days that are to come of their life, God, are in your hands. That you know the plans that you have for them, and there are plans to prosper them, to give them a hope and a future, an expected end, not to harm them, God. And I can see that all over my life. I can see that even in all the seasons of unexpectation, God, that you have just come in, God, and you have made it, God, to be a beautiful thing. And goodness and mercy has surely followed me all the days of my life. And I pray and I declare that over every listener, God, that goodness and mercy would follow them, God, all the days of their life, God. God, that they would seek to know you, that they would seek to know you deeper, God, that if they don't know you, God, that they would taste and see, as we discussed in episode one, that you truly are good, that you are a good, good father. I've seen it, I know it. I can attest, God, that you are a good, good father. You are faithful. You are faithful. There has never been a day, never been a moment where you have left me, where you have refused or failed to keep me, God. I don't know how they do it without you, God. And so I pray, God, that you would keep them today, God, and that they would experience your love today. In Jesus' mighty name. Amen and amen. All right, guys, I will see y'all in the next episode.