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Names, Rules, and Respect: Real Talk with Lady A & Eric

• Amanda and Jaye • Season 1 • Episode 4

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On this episode of The His and Her Perspective Podcast, Lady A is joined by Eric from The Feed Watchers for an honest and entertaining conversation. They dive into hot topics like Ciara’s decision to add Wilson to her son’s name, the strict new hands-free driving law, cell phone bans in schools, and the realities of screen time for kids. The two also unpack the messy truth about cheating, respect in relationships, and even throw in some lighthearted fun with relationship “finish line” debates. Tune in for laughs, lessons, and perspectives you won’t want to miss.


SPEAKER_00:

Hey, hey, welcome back to the His and Her Perspective podcast. I'm your host, Lady A. I have a special guest with me today.

SPEAKER_02:

What's up? What's up? How you doing?

SPEAKER_00:

I'm wonderful. How are you?

SPEAKER_02:

I'm good.

SPEAKER_00:

You gonna tell the people who you are?

SPEAKER_02:

I'm Eric. I'm here from the Feed Watchers show today. Just filling in, sitting in with my girl, Lady A, today. Help her out a little bit.

SPEAKER_00:

I appreciate it. I appreciate it. So before we dive into today's topics, I Got a few nuggets for you. All right. Texting or calling?

SPEAKER_02:

Calling. I'm old school. I hate texting. Can't stand texting.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, things can be misconstrued through text. Fast food or fine dining?

SPEAKER_02:

Fast food.

SPEAKER_00:

Okay. Me too. Early bird or night owl?

SPEAKER_02:

Night

SPEAKER_00:

owl.

UNKNOWN:

Okay.

SPEAKER_00:

So I'm a texter. I like fast food. I'm definitely an early bird. Beach or somewhere adventurous?

SPEAKER_02:

Beach. I love the beach. That's my favorite. That's my second home. That's always going to be.

SPEAKER_00:

I love the beach

SPEAKER_02:

as well.

SPEAKER_00:

So we're going to keep it light and fun for y'all today. All right, Eric, what do you think about Sierra adding Wilson to her and future son's name?

SPEAKER_02:

It's a little bit disrespectful in my mind. That's that child's father. I get that you're in a new relationship. You married to this man and he's been, you know, a great stepfather and all of these things. But at the end of the day, that don't make him that man, that child's daddy. Future, to my knowledge, I've never heard anything about him not stepping up and being a father to his child, trying to be in his child's life in any way in any shape or form so I don't feel like it's respectful at all to disregard his last name as you know being on his child's name that's just a little bit of disrespectful to me

SPEAKER_00:

I see it both ways but the question well how it happened is the little boy said he didn't want to feel left out everybody has the last name Wilson in the house except for him so he wanted to feel I guess extra special so in that case what do you do to make sure your son or your daughter feels extra special if everybody else is carrying the same last name and he or she doesn't

SPEAKER_02:

I've been in a relationship where that has been presented to me in a way because we were men we were tying you know she had previous kids I had you know my kids so when we were talking about you know the possibility of getting married you know we talked about the navigation of that you know how do we not make the kids feel left out you know because my kids are going to have my last name her kids are going to have you know their father's last name so you know how do we combine and you know especially with her transitioning over to my last name if we were going to get married then you know her kids might feel a kind of way about you know her changing her last name and them still having to carry on their father's last name and my thoughts on that back then were always you know, they're not my children. I'm going to still treat them as if, you know, no differently than I would treat my children. But at the end of the day, that's their father's name. I can't take that identity from them. So I would have felt very weird saying, well, if your kids want to take on my last name, they have every right to take on my last name. I would have felt a way about that a little bit. It was, it was, we went back and forth on a lot and And then she even threw out the discussion of, well, would you be interested in taking my last name? And I was like, yeah, you're crazy. I'm going to take your husband's last name and make it mine? It wouldn't be her maiden name? No, she wasn't talking about her maiden name. She wanted me to take on her husband's last name.

SPEAKER_00:

They sound a little different. And I was like, yeah, you crazy. Because I'm not doing that. That ain't

SPEAKER_02:

happening. There's no space of reality where I'm taking another man's last name. That ain't

SPEAKER_00:

happening. I don't know if I would have presented that differently. I don't feel like it's disrespectful. I do feel, you know, compelled because it is a kid and kids go through so much and you don't want him to feel like he's not, you know, a part of the family because everybody has that last name when they're calling out Wilson and then they got to, you know, call out his name. So it's different, especially if they're all in some type of setting. Well, he's technically

SPEAKER_02:

not a Wilson. I mean, I get that he's in that household with this man and he probably looks at him as a father figure I get that I know people get more attached to you know the person that's in the household even with my dad he grew up with his stepfather he didn't grow up with his birth father so he was more attached to his stepfather than he was his actual birth father he didn't care nothing about his birth father didn't you know know that man that you know that man didn't exist to him but his stepfather was his father but he still carried his father's last name he never said well I'm going to switch over and because I identify with this man as my father that's who I'm going to take his last name and I'm going to carry his last name and his legacy no I'm still a Smith that's my last name so that's the name that I'm going to carry but out of respect and love for the man that raised me I'm still going to honor him in every way possible that I can I got you I

SPEAKER_00:

got you alright Nick Next question. What do you think about the new hands, hand free law?

SPEAKER_02:

Uh, sucks. I read the actual, like I heard about the law coming into place and I was like, okay, just another little stupid law that they want to put in place. But then I actually read like all of the, um, the, the actual law, things that are part of it like the things you really cannot do like it's so broken down as to you can't have your phone in your hand at all while you're operating the vehicle period so that means even if you're stopped at a red light you can't stop and pick up your phone and look at a message or something like that and respond to a message stop at a red light at no time while you're in the car and the car is on running can't you have your phone in your hand at all.

SPEAKER_00:

Lord I might have should have read that because I ain't read it. Yeah you gotta read a fire print on that thing. I feel like at any day they're going to make an example out of me because I just hadn't learned that. I don't think

SPEAKER_02:

people understand.

SPEAKER_00:

I hadn't learned that lesson because I thought you could be at the stop

SPEAKER_02:

sign. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. See, you got to read the fire print on that thing. They got a lot of things in place with that

SPEAKER_00:

law.

SPEAKER_02:

I

SPEAKER_00:

wondered that what was going on yesterday when the man ran his truck into the new apartment. It probably was texting the driver.

SPEAKER_02:

See, but that's things like that is what caused them to put rules like this in place because people stay texting and driving, not paying attention to their phone. Oh, that's that new song just came out. Let me jump on Apple Music real quick and look for it. Why are you driving, really? That ain't smart.

SPEAKER_00:

I mean, you don't got to jump on Apple Music, but yeah, that might not be smart.

SPEAKER_02:

YouTube Music, Apple Music, Spotify, any of them. You don't need to be on none of them while you're driving. Like, drive. Like, don't pay attention to the road. I say this about driving. I drive cautiously, not for me I know I've been driving for over 20 years. So I know how to drive. I drive for the other people that are on the road that I don't know. You know, this crazy people out here doing all kinds of crazy things on the road when they drive.

SPEAKER_00:

I've always been told you're going, you always know what you're going to do when you're in a car, but you never know what the next person is going to, going to be doing or going to do. So you need to be careful when you're driving. So I'll just be careful. Put the phones down, pay attention to the road, Put your seatbelt on. If the kids need you, tell them. If it's important to call you, don't text you. Just so you can get it out. I know me, my little ones, and my big ones, they'll text, and the word ma comes, and I'm freaking out trying to respond because I never know what ma means. Usually it means they need money, so I just need to probably. And that's instinct. That's instinct. You're going to do that instinct.

SPEAKER_02:

I mean, come

SPEAKER_00:

on. Especially if the baby texts me. Of course. No older kids, I'm kind of like, okay. But with, you know.

SPEAKER_01:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00:

But they still all text Ma. Usually when Ma comes, they begging. So I can ignore that part for a little bit anyway.

SPEAKER_02:

Right. But I mean, like I said, you got one for sure. Like I said, when laws like this come out, people just hear about the laws and they don't take the time to go actually and read up about them. You got to actually

SPEAKER_00:

read up on our people. You're right. Our people. I definitely didn't read it because I thought for sure, okay, I can have it in my hand. when I'm at the stoplight because I'm stopped I'm not operating it at that time I'm sitting there I'm chilling and waiting on the light to turn green you cannot have it in your

SPEAKER_02:

you cannot have the phone in your hands at any point in time while you are in the car with the car running

SPEAKER_00:

so let me find me a little stand or something to put my phone on for those folks for those nice folks oh you

SPEAKER_02:

can't be touching the phone at all

SPEAKER_00:

you can't touch it at all

SPEAKER_02:

no you can't touch the phone at all while the car is in operation you cannot touch the phone at all

SPEAKER_00:

well I'm Might need to leave my phone at the house. You can use

SPEAKER_02:

hands-free, you know, type communications. If you can talk to your phone, you know, they got the assistance and stuff like that. Whatever you are, Android or Apple, you got your different assistance. You can use those. But as far as, like, actually touching the phone, physically touching the phone, you cannot do that while you are driving.

SPEAKER_00:

Hey, y'all better take, you know, and me too, take a hear to this. Go read your stuff. I definitely didn't know, you know, that reading is fundamental. Read your stuff. And if you know me, you know me. The one thing I hate to do is read. I do. I can read, though. I just don't always like to do it. How do you feel about the no cell phone policy at school?

SPEAKER_02:

It's needed. These kids don't need to be running around school. They're not paying attention in class already as it is. Half the time coming to school, half to sleep because they just stayed up all night playing Fortnite or whatever Call of Duty whatever video game roblox they own at the time and they come to sleep come to school half sleep and then you want to add to that letting them bring in a device that they can sit there and play on and further not pay attention to the teacher and what the teacher is actually trying to teach them it's it just makes all the sense in the world to get the devices now I get from the one side of it where parents say I need to be able to communicate with my kids um because of the things that are happening in the schools we just had a recent school shooting where you know a person luckily wasn't able to get into the school but you know had they gotten into the school more people would have died and thankfully you know law enforcement was able to prevent that but there are school shootings that happen all the time so parents want to just they so freaked out about all these school shootings they want their child to have a device so they could communicate with their child but at the same time your child It's sitting there. Not all of us as parents know if we text our child at 12 o'clock in the afternoon and say, hey, by the way, I'll be there to pick you up today. Make sure you're outside waiting when I get there. What is that child going to

SPEAKER_00:

do? Text right back. Exactly. Text right. It's definitely a distraction. They record so much. They do the most. That too. They want to record every fight. Oh, every fight. Now I'm telling you that. ain't they gonna record it and they record themselves sometimes doing the most inappropriate stuff and posting it and you know they be in the bathrooms at school tearing the bathrooms up just doing stuff they ain't got no business I definitely agree and I disagree I agree because it's definitely a distraction for these kids I think if they sitting in the classrooms they definitely don't need their cell phones teachers got calculators parents y'all can email these kids and tell them or call the school to let them know that the transportation have changed. If the parents supported it more the kids would do right. A lot of times it's the adults. They don't like the change. Kids usually adapt to change pretty good. I have a senior in high school and I know she want to talk on her phone all day long and text all day long but she has definitely adhered to this new cell phone policy. I didn't think she was going to do as good as she's doing I'm super proud of her because I just knew she you know it was just like me and this cell phone I just knew they was going to make the hand free I knew they was going to make an example out of her I thought yeah I was waiting I was like waiting on the phone call that she just wasn't going to follow the rule but she's following it and I think if parents pushed it more the kids would definitely follow the rules but because parents don't want to follow the rules the kids don't want to follow the rules so but then I get what you're saying too when it comes to the shooting and the disturbance in the schools parents want to be able to have quick access to their children to know that their children are okay and sometimes the schools don't get things out as fast as parents would like I don't think you know if you've never worked in a school setting you don't know everything that we have well no longer we but that you know they have to do to keep those kids safe and to try to get information out to you as quick as possible by email text just just hold on wait a minute it's coming and I know that you know you say that and it's hard to accept it if you haven't been in that situation you know and when you're in that situation can you just sit and wait for someone to call you and tell you yeah well there was a shooting and you know 10 kids lost their lives and you're thinking it's my kid one of the 10 because you don't have access to them so I get it I definitely get it I see it on I see see it on both sides when it comes to it but we got to follow the rules again yeah you

SPEAKER_02:

got to because like I said it gets real sad when it gets to the point where these kids are just falling behind in so many different places you know reading and math and writing you know these kids can't do the basic things that they're going to need that's going to actually carry them through life and it's because they're 2 plus did on electronics a lot of times so if we you know we can control how we just you know control the electronics in the household but once they get to school if we sitting there saying well they're allowed to have their cell phone then you know they gonna be sitting there finding ways they gonna sneak and do those things so it's they need that the same time we give them the unplug and say hey when you first get home from school for the first you know 30 minutes 40 minutes whatever hour or so whatever you can sit there and watch your videos you know eat you a little snack or whatever then I'm gonna need you to give me about an hour or two of homework and then you can go back to that for another hour or two before bedtime

SPEAKER_00:

absolutely too much screen time for these younger kids is a bit much so I have a seven year old and I'm older so when I introduced him to a tablet probably I don't know three four years ago I let it raise him I did honestly I gave it to him, and I was like, hey, listen, you know, he's out of my way. He's quiet. He's on it. He's playing his games. And, you know, it just didn't matter. You know, I just let it happen. Well, when school started, I saw where it started becoming an issue because he acts off of what he sees, whether it's on YouTube or Roblox or whoever those little crazy kids is on YouTube. He will do what they do in the classroom, what he was doing what they doing so I had to minimize that screen time and so when he goes with his dad on the weekend he doesn't even take his iPad anymore you know grandma started following a banana started giving him a very strict schedule when she had him over the summer with that iPad when he woke up in the morning he couldn't have it until after breakfast and then after breakfast they went outside for a couple hours and then he came back in and he could have it for an hour So from the hours of 12 to 1 is when he had his iPad in the summer. And after that, he had lunch, took a nap, and then he had it again for an hour before bed. So I started this school year making sure he doesn't take it in the car on the ride to school in the morning times. So that definitely helped. And it's helping because I think we're on, what, week four with him and no discipline issues, and he's acing all his tests. So too much screen time, I think. is definitely a lot for these kids, especially the younger ones. If you're old like me You have a baby, do something different. Go outside, take him outside, get him a bicycle, go old school. He asked for a scooter the other day. We bought him a new football. So instead of just sitting in the house playing that iPad because I feel like I'm older with him. Not older. Yeah,

SPEAKER_01:

yeah,

SPEAKER_00:

you know. I had him at 38. He's 7. So, yeah, definitely. So we spending some time outside. He's asked for, like I said, a scooter. scooter and a bike. We bought him a new football. He's enjoying that. We go to Defy a lot in the afternoon, sometimes after school if he's had a good day. That's the reward. Instead of sitting on that iPad all that screen time, listen to all of the craziness and seeing all of the craziness in the world. We just got to do better as parents. Kids can't have the cell phones. Don't incur them to take it and be crazy with it and then you got to go up there and show off because you upset because the teacher took it teacher just doing their job right let these teachers do their job please let them do their job they work hard they work hard they underpaid

SPEAKER_02:

very

SPEAKER_00:

underpaid and appreciated yes yes I promise you and when I have good teachers I definitely when my kids have good teachers I definitely try to reward them and make sure I let them know that they are appreciated so Shout out to the teachers. Shout out to them. Big shout out to the teachers. All right. Jumping to the next one here.

SPEAKER_01:

All right.

SPEAKER_00:

Do you think if they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you? Why or

SPEAKER_02:

why not? The old saying goes the same way you get them is the same way you lose them. That saying is very true. I don't care what nobody say. You cannot expect no person that came into no situation. doing dirt, whatever you want to call it, doing wrong, to all of a sudden switch up and start doing right. It's not going to happen. There was another old saying back in the day, you couldn't turn a hole into a housewife. Well, I mean, you know. Oh, my. What's in them is going to be in them. For sure, for sure. You can't, you know. I just feel like... It's a tough one because some people really want to believe that they can change people. And I'm not going to say people can't evolve. People can't become better versions of themselves. But if something is truly in a person, that's just who they are. That's just what makes them up as a person. And you see those characteristics in them and you know that that's them as a person. You're not going to be able to change that. Ain't no amount of nothing going to be able to change that in them. So you cannot believe that a person that is a cheater is just going all of a sudden up and wake up one day and just be like, you know what? I'm going to stop cheating on people. I'm cured. I'm cured. I'm delivered.

SPEAKER_00:

I definitely agree. I definitely agree on that. I think when you insert yourself in a situation within a husband or a wife, and to me, people say, well, boyfriend, girlfriend don't mean nothing. It does. That's still a sacred situation because you're growing. So if you decide that you're going to cheat And you think that, okay, well, I'm going to give him time. He's going to leave her or she's going to leave him. And, you know, we're going to live this happily ever after life. You're setting yourself up for failure, complete failure. I thought so. It doesn't happen like that. And I ain't going to say it never happened like that. But it's very rare that when a man leaves his wife to be with the other woman that he's just so faithful and he's in love. No, because nine and a half times out of ten, That wife is probably still lingering around. He's probably still sleeping with her, especially if they have children. He's going back and forth, and he's sorry. And some wives are going to prove a point. Okay, well, yeah, you think you got them. I'm going to let you know. And then it just becomes a whole lot more messier. I've seen a lot of stuff play out on Facebook. Yeah, so do I. You think you're doing something, so you're seeing pictures. to the other woman letting her know and then she or he posts that video letting you know that you've done nothing so you just got to be careful not just don't even intertwine yourself in an entanglement with somebody else's spouse leave it alone it's not going to end well for either party I

SPEAKER_02:

would say it like this too karma is real karma is real what you put out into the world you will get back into you know you will get back into yourself so I feel like you know karma is one part of karma is for sure if you feel the need like you said to jump into somebody else's relationship don't be mad when somebody feels the need to jump into yours

SPEAKER_00:

because you

SPEAKER_02:

thought it was perfectly fine when you was doing it to somebody else and when them

SPEAKER_00:

tables get turned and karma used to take a long time to hit folks and now I promise you it's instant now sometimes it don't come in a fashion of even bothering you. It can come back through your children. In my... new way of living and my experience and just everything that I've been through the way I handle myself now is just definitely not the 20 year old me well the 20 year old me was married so but still just dibbling and dabbling in somebody else's relationship and in somebody else's life it's wrong on all levels you're definitely going to get it back and you don't want to see your kids being punished because of the mistakes or the things that you've made So, you know, be wise and, you know, don't think that because, you know, this woman's driving a nice car and she's got this nice house and, you know, you want it so you're going to entice her husband or, you know, vice versa. You're going to sleep with them and everything's going to be on the up and up and it's going to be good and you're going to convince that man or that woman to leave their spouse and that y'all are going to live a happily ever after life. It just doesn't work like that. It doesn't. Not in all cases. It doesn't. I will say, you know, Sometimes, you know, hey, maybe, you know, that wife wasn't what he wanted or the husband wasn't what she wanted. So, you know, it took the affair to get them away. But somebody else's husband or wife is not your soulmate.

SPEAKER_02:

That is the problem I have with people that cheat, though. Well, with people who get into situations where they're dealing with a cheater. The reason, the thinking that they have behind it, this person cheated on me because I wasn't enough or I wasn't doing enough or I wasn't. No, no, no, no. Let's break this all the way down. If a person is cheating on you, that means that they have something that they want outside of you. There's nothing that you can do or say or change or act or do any way differently that is going to make that person, if they have an outlook on I see something, I want something, I'm going to go get something, that's going to be their outlook no matter what you do it has nothing you can make them as happy as you could possibly make them they're still going to want something and I put it in the perspective of like if you see a nice car and you want that car and you saving up all this money to go get that car you want that car you've been looking at this car I want it I'm going to go get that car it don't matter how many setbacks you fall by bills done popped up All kinds of things. The health issues now popped up. I still want that car. I'm still in my mind thinking I'm going to figure out a way to get that car. Think about that the same way in a relationship. If a person is happy every day, you get up with that person, they're smiling, you're making them breakfast, they're, you know, good morning, I love you, have a good day. In the evenings, dinner's cooked, coming home, laughing, talking, talking about each other's days, have nothing, absolutely nothing wrong, have the perfect relationship, and your person cheats on you, and you're sitting there in your mind thinking, what did I do? Why is that all always to go to what did you do it has nothing to do with you clearly because you were there doing everything you were supposed to be doing and you were expected to be doing it is that person in themselves feeling like they were lacking something and they felt like they needed to go get it from somewhere else so people stop taking responsibility for somebody else doing wrong to you because that's not fair to you to take on the responsibility of somebody else's wrong right

SPEAKER_00:

you know their shortcomings are not becoming of you so don't let somebody else the mistakes that and I say mistakes because sometimes you know the intentions to do your wrong yes exactly don't let you know other people's intentions of doing you wrong make you feel bad I definitely used to think I was the because I am the common denominator that I always you know did something wrong and I've learned I've I've learned through counseling and through my healing journey that that's not the case. Folks are going to do what they want to do when they want to do it, regardless of how good you are to them. I mean, you can be everything you need to be in the kitchen, in the bedroom, to your children, finance, everything. And they'll still find a way to go out there and mess it all up and then turn around and want to spin the block.

SPEAKER_02:

That's the dumb part. You had it all, but you needed to have that one thing for that two minutes and

SPEAKER_00:

all of a sudden. Two minutes. Wait a minute. Let's back up. Two minutes.

SPEAKER_02:

You wanted that two minutes of fun and now all of a sudden you want to spend back to get back all the stuff that you threw away for that two minutes of fun. I

SPEAKER_00:

ain't wasting my damn time for two minutes now.

SPEAKER_02:

That's a lot of people that wasted it for a lot less.

SPEAKER_00:

I'm just saying. My goodness. I'm not going to be one of them people. I'm not wasting my damn time for two minutes. I'm going to be pissed. I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_02:

Hey, it happens.

SPEAKER_00:

A lot of people that go out there and

SPEAKER_02:

cheat get real upset and come right back home like, man, I should have just stayed where I was.

SPEAKER_00:

Listen, listen. The vibrator might have done a little bit of justice or some Vaseline. Exactly. But you out here running around for two minutes. For two minutes. Man, that vibrator, never mind. That's a conversation for another day. I'm telling you. Wow. Oh, my goodness. All

SPEAKER_02:

right. But don't be out here doing that. Do it all that, messing around and doing all that for no reason, just to know for a fact that you are going to end up, like you said, wanting to spend that block. Think about things before you do things. Think before you

SPEAKER_00:

act. Absolutely, because those people are not going to be sitting around waiting for you to come back. You know, when your time is up, when you've done somebody wrong, and you're sitting there and you think, wow, you know, they're going to be there, they're going to always be there. No, you know, people grow. They grow, and they move on. Right. Just think about it. When you're out here cheating and doing people wrong, definitely don't think they will just be there sitting and waiting on you. It doesn't happen like that no more. Definitely not. The options are becoming better and fierce out here in this world.

SPEAKER_02:

All right. Well, look. Let me try something real quick, right? Okay. So I'm on your show. I'm guesting with you today. Okay. And we're going to throw in a little feet watches on the His or Her Perspective podcast

SPEAKER_00:

today. All right. I'm ready. so I

SPEAKER_02:

got one for you that I seen on the timeline this morning and I want to throw this one at you so this one says ladies which man is worse a man who can't eat it a man who can't stay up a man with no rhythm or a man that's too damn fast

SPEAKER_00:

a man that's too damn fast don't ever beat me to the finish line that is definitely a surefire way to send me on about my way don't beat me to the finish line don't beat me to the finish line now do not beat me to the I repeat do not beat Lady A to the finish line oh wow don't

SPEAKER_02:

hey some guys say it's a race not a marathon

SPEAKER_00:

listen listen well you know I get it but you know the one thing I don't want

SPEAKER_02:

is

SPEAKER_00:

won't ever is a selfish lover okay Um,

SPEAKER_02:

but you think some guys can't control that though.

SPEAKER_00:

Um, and I've seen, seen things where they says, you know, and you got a waterfall, what the hell you expect? I mean, listen, take your time. You know what I'm saying? Even more bang for the buck. I don't know, but you make sure I'm okay. If you beat me to the finish line, I'm definitely going to be, um, I'm one and done. Really? Yeah. You beat me to the finish line. Wow. No, no. Um, Because you can teach them how to eat it. Can you? Yeah, you can teach them that. I've heard that's not, I don't know. Yeah, you can teach them that. And you can get you some medicine to keep it hard.

SPEAKER_02:

Nah, that don't, hey, hold up now. Don't be going popping them pills, man, thinking, no, because that shit don't always work. And you be done blew your damn chest out talking about some damn, blew your heart out your chest talking about you taking all these pills.

SPEAKER_00:

Don't be doing that. I mean, they pop them anyway. So, I mean, that's probably the reason why they don't sell. They always, you know. Stop putting all that stuff in your body. Yeah. And your weeder will work. Your weeder will work. What the hell is

SPEAKER_02:

a weeder?

SPEAKER_00:

Your weeder. Your dick. Your dick will work if you do what you're supposed to. Take care of you. Yeah. And if it ain't working, then, you know, go to the doctor and let's see why it ain't working. Oh, my God. Okay. But the man who beats me to the finish line is the worst man for me. You know, in my opinion. Oh, my God. In my opinion. I

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got one more for you. Get out of here. This one says 91% of men say feeling respected is more important than being told I love you. How do you feel about

SPEAKER_00:

that? Definitely. No matter what, always show the person that you're dealing with respect. Respect goes a long way. Definitely. Respect me. Respect my feelings. I always hate when somebody says well you know I said something oh that shouldn't hurt your feelings and don't tell me how to feel because where it might not affect you It definitely affected me. So respect that. I believe

SPEAKER_02:

respect is very important in a relationship. On both sides though because I don't feel like a lot of women look at respect. They feel like respect is earned and not given. And I feel like if they don't feel like they're being respected in certain ways that they're not going to give respect at all. And so I say that like in the sense of they feel like if you're not getting up and going to work every single day or if you're not, you know, doing the little chores around the house or if you're not doing certain things to help up with the kids and things of that nature, I'm not going to have a lot of respect for you. I start to lose respect for

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you. Well, therein lies a problem because you shouldn't have nobody laying up in your house that don't go to work every day unless they work from home. Circumstances. Well, yeah, unless they disabled and they get a check and and they can stay at the house. But other than that, they need to be candid ass to work. All right, this is it. We've got one more for you before we get out of here. Who is your favorite football team? The Green Bay Packers. I'm a Dallas Cowboy. Sorry for you. Who do you think is going to win the Super Bowl? I know it's early, but let's put our predictions out there. The

SPEAKER_02:

Green Bay Packers.

SPEAKER_00:

Dallas Cowboys, so we'll see. Y'all

SPEAKER_02:

just gave us us y'all best player and you still think y'all gonna win the Super

SPEAKER_00:

Bowl? Did you not see where they was giving that dude injections to get him? Who? Michael Parsons giving him injections. Oh yeah they'll say that now. Just so he can get. Oh

SPEAKER_02:

let's discredit him because we gave our best player away.

SPEAKER_00:

I mean he was just getting injections so that he can be able to play today. So I mean I don't think we gave you anybody so we'll see. We'll see. We'll see.

SPEAKER_02:

They try to throw the name after they throw him away. Y'all make the mistake and now y'all want to come back and Try to dirt the band name. That's all right. It's okay. It's

SPEAKER_00:

okay. I'm just saying. I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_02:

It's okay. Y'all got to get rid of y'all owner. That's y'all problem.

SPEAKER_00:

I definitely agree with that. But I think we're going to see Dallas in the Super Bowl. Y'all stay tuned. We're going to get out of here. Thank y'all for listening to the His and Hers Perspective Podcast.