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Santa Claus, Side Pieces & Survival Tactics

• Amanda and Jaye • Season 1 • Episode 5

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Lady A is back with a special guest co-host for a wide-open, funny, and unfiltered sit-down. They kick off with Darlington High’s homecoming takeover, then speed through a “nuggets” lightning round (scary movies vs. comedy, brown vs. white liquor, grits vs. oatmeal, old school vs. rap). From there, it gets real: growing up on love vs. survival and how that shapes trust, dating, and boundaries; the “takers vs. givers” trap; safe-sex talks with teens; and the eternal double-standard debate—why two girlfriends is “cool” to some, but two boyfriends gets a hard no. There’s holiday nostalgia (Santa myths exposed), a playful Keith Sweat/Jodeci “beggin’ R&B” sidebar, and a quick NFL check-in (Cowboys/Giants, Panthers). Equal parts laughs and life lessons—this episode brings perspective with punch.


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Hey, hey, welcome back to the His and Her Perspective Podcast. I'm your host, Lady A. Sitting in with me today is...

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Boy, I'm back, back, back in the building.

SPEAKER_00:

Thank you for coming back. I appreciate it. Of

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course, anytime, anytime.

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How are things going for you? It's going

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good. It's going real good.

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That's good. That's good. Had a good week?

SPEAKER_01:

I did. Decent week. I said decent week. I ain't gonna say good. It was decent. You know, a little headache. here and there but you know get through it how about yourself

SPEAKER_00:

it was a good week a good week little things here and there but nothing I can't I can't tackle so it's it's all good Darlington's got their homecoming this week so you know them Falcons in the building Falcon Nation we taking over taking over the city it's a Falcon show all week Falcons on tour starting today starting today from Sunday to Sunday them Falcons is lit. Don't do that. Don't do that. If you want to be a part of the Falcons show, we'll let you come on. We're going to be at the track on Saturday. Too tough to tame.

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That should be amazing.

SPEAKER_00:

That definitely should be good. It's a little close to them people, but it still should be a good time. We're going to all drink responsibly and have BDs and stuff and We're going to do it. We're going to do what we're going to do. And it's just going to be a good time. It's a full seven days of nothing but fun. So y'all enjoy the Falcon Show. You know, the whirlwind's on tour, too, so I'm going to shout the whirlwinds out because I got a few whirlwind friends. So, you know, we're going to do it. If we're going to do it, we're going to do it for seven full days.

SPEAKER_01:

Shout out to all the schools that are getting their homecomings on out the way so they can make room for the real homecoming and not October um y'all go ahead and get all y'all festivities and everything out of the way right now um y'all enjoy yourselves y'all have a good time enjoy y'all parties y'all little celebrations um y'all little pop-ups and all those things y'all doing and everything for the next couple weeks and um you know the real you know October 1st you know get ready for real homecoming season that's all I'm gonna say

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all right but it's the love for me but we're gonna we're gonna we're gonna move on with with the nuggets for the day okay we'll start with the nuggets for the day scary movie or comedy

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I'm going to have to go with a comedy.

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Brown or white liquor?

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Definitely brown.

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Grits or oatmeal?

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Grits. I hate oatmeal.

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Old school or rap music?

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I'm going to have to go with old school.

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All right. Well, I'm comedy because I'm very scary, so I don't like scary moves at all. I'm a tequila drinker, a little Don. So, yeah, no brown for

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me. A little Don Julio, every now and then. Yeah, I'm just a brown.

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I want the oatmeal more than the grits.

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Wow, that stuff, that

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don't even look good. It moves you, cleans you out.

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Good for you. I'm good.

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You can add some apples and some brown sugar to it. That's disgusting. And I'm an old school. I don't want all that rap music, all that cussing and music. I can't understand what they be saying and all of that foolishness. Give me some old school

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music. You know what they say when you start talking like that, right? I'm old. You sound like one of them people. You sound like your parents and stuff. Your parents used to talk to you. What is all that noise you play? a racket. All that racket you play, you sound just

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like them now. Well, I sound like them because I went ahead of old school. Give me some Keith Sweat and some Marvin Gaye.

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Not Mr. Beggin' Ass Keith

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Sweat. Yeah, definitely Keith Sweat. That beggin' ass nigga there.

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What?

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You wasn't a Keith Sweat make it last forever kind of guy?

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Beggin' ass nigga. That's

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all I'm saying. No, not Keith. Not Keith. Don't do Keith like that.

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Every single one of his songs, just a beggin' and whinin'. Just

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beggin'. Don't do Keith. Keith might Kee, my dude. Kee, my dude. Kee, little Marvin Steeves, little Marvin Gaye.

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Marvin Gaye, I can rock

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with

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Marvin

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Gaye. Come on. Why Keef had to be begging? I love Jodeci.

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Jodeci used to be begging in their damn songs, too. I don't know if they took some hits from Keef, but they was begging and it's been an hour since you've been gone and that's too long, so come back home. Get the hell out of here. Go get your ass up and go somewhere.

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Come on, now. Don't do them like that, now. I'm Better than all that damn music you can't understand. I

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mean, hey, I'm with you. I'm not with the mumble rap either, but still, just come on, man. Y'all can do a little bit better than that, man. Most of these damn begging assholes.

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Come on. Favorite artist from back in the day. Who was it? My favorite artist from back

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in the day? That's tough. One of my favorite artists I would probably have to say R&B or rap.

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R&B.

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One of my favorite artists from back in the day are B. John B. First person to come to mind, John B.

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John B. John B.

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Yeah, that was a smooth-ass little white boy. Yeah, okay. A little white boy. I think I remember him a little bit.

SPEAKER_00:

I remember that a little bit. John B. is still out

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there now. Is he? Yeah, yeah. John B. is still out there performing now. That's a smooth-ass little white boy now.

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Okay, all right. Well, I'm going to definitely take a little key sweat. I'm going to take key sweat. My favorite artist, I'm back in it.

SPEAKER_01:

Really? Your favorite? My favorite artist out of everybody. I'm going to take key sweat.

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I'm going to

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take

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key sweat. I like the begging.

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You like what you like. See, that's right. that's the problem now that's why men don't get no damn respect now cause y'all was sitting there begging y'all asses off back in the damn

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now they cussing us out so hell that's why that's why they cussing us out cause the begging wasn't working so now it's just like you know what now it's just like fuck you fuck it damn I tell you I tell you but the time said damn replace us just like that

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ain't it you need to have me sitting on the couch for an hour waiting for you and it's been going too long so now I'ma just go to the next

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I tell you I feel like Steve just They started that bullshit, him and Jocelyn. He says, fuck it. Just fuck it. Don't even worry about it.

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Hey, Stevie J, low-key, is responsible for a lot of your favorite R&B hits. I'm

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definitely, yeah, I'm sure about that. I'm sure about that. But, you know, he came with the foolishness on that Love& Hip Hop Atlanta. Oh, for sure. Him and that gal did the most. I think they definitely changed the game of how people see things and their perspective with this rap music and all of that cussing. Mm-hmm. Ain't no more begging no more, so. It

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shouldn't be, as it shouldn't be. There don't need to be no begging no more. All

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right, all right. Well, let's move on. Let's move on. I'm going to start off with a question for you. I got one for you. What is the weirdest thing you believed as a child?

SPEAKER_01:

Christmas. now because as an adult I know damn well ain't no damn white man climbing down no chimney bringing no gifts to my house cause I am that white man so yeah that was the silliest shit I used to believe as a kid cause you couldn't tell me there wasn't no Santa Claus yeah I mean you know to me he was real till I woke up that middle of the night and saw my mama and my daddy and my uncle all in the doggone living room collectively wrapping up gifts one night It's like, oh.

SPEAKER_00:

They weren't supposed to let you catch them, I think. They

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was not supposed to let them, but also I wasn't supposed to be up, too.

SPEAKER_00:

Right, right. I should have had your ass in the bed asleep. You riding it down, being nosy, so that's how you find out there wasn't no Santa Claus. That was the magic. Killed it. Killed it. Well, we kind of on the same page, so. The weirdest thing I believed as a child was that if I was awake when Santa Claus came is that he would put salt and pepper in my eyes and I would go blind because And I wouldn't be able to see my guests at Christmas.

SPEAKER_01:

Wait,

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what?

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You

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would

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come and put salt and

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pepper in my eyes. My brother told me that. My brother told me that. My brother said if you're up when Santa Claus comes, he's going to put salt and pepper in your eyes, and you won't be able to see the next day. You won't be able to see your gifts if you wake up while Santa Claus is

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putting the gifts up. I'm struggling to understand that. Like, how? How?

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How? I don't know. I mean, I guess it's salt and pepper. was going to make me blind. I'll have to ask my brother why he didn't tell me that. But that's what he told me. And he told me that for years. Like, I was probably, I'm a little ashamed to say how old I was. How old were you when you stopped believing there was a Santa Claus?

SPEAKER_01:

I was probably like, I'll probably have to say maybe... Maybe like 10. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

Me and my little naive self, I was 13 years old. See, nah, I didn't make it that far. I was a teenager. So there was nobody to tell me until... Nobody told me. Like I said, I saw it for myself. Well, yeah. So, you know, one of the times when I woke up, I know I was 13 and I saw the bikes and the Barbie ice cream shops because I was still a teenage kid who played with doll babies and who did the Barbie ice cream shops and... Easy bakes at 13, you know. That's what I did. I didn't get wigs and lashes for Christmas. Right. And it's gravagant trips. I had a Christmas. I got a bicycle, and we carried our ass outside and rode them.

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Back in the day when kids used to love to go outside. Those

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days are gone. Totally gone. It's like nobody gets a bike for Christmas anymore.

SPEAKER_01:

They get them little scooter things now.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, but nobody's outside. I can remember when Christmas came, the neighbors and the you know, outside would be full up with everybody riding their bicycle. They got helmets on and knee pads and somebody outside with a football. Now, you know, you wake up Christmas morning and shit, it ain't nothing. People packing their cars to take a trip somewhere. Nobody's being, nobody's outside playing basketball. Nobody's throwing the football. Nobody's riding a bicycle. They don't get into the

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Christmas spirit no more.

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I have a seven-year-old, so we, I definitely try to keep it original for him. He has an But we are definitely listening to iPad and doing more outside activities. Going to get him involved in some sports. And he wants a scooter for Christmas. He's already said. So we're going to do a scooter and a bike. Okay. We're going to be outside on Christmas Day. Hopefully it's warm like it normally is. So we don't got to put on all of that. This weather is so

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unpredictable. It'll probably be 10 feet of snow out there on Christmas Day. You won't be able to bike nothing.

SPEAKER_00:

No, definitely not. Definitely. Definitely. All right. Let's see. I saw a post that said a person raised off love and a person raised off survival views the world differently. What do you think?

SPEAKER_01:

I think that's a true statement people raised to survive and people raised in households where you know so not everybody was raised in a household where you know common like loving things of like you know giving hugs giving kisses saying goodnight to each other and stuff like that simple things that most people think are just like normal simplistic things that people do on a daily basis not everybody was raised in a household like that so Thank you. In a relationship, especially, it's hard to mix two people from those two different worlds. If you grew up in, say, you grew up in a single-parent household versus your partner grew up in a household with both parents, that's going to be a complicated relationship because it's two totally different upbringings. And you're going to be trying to relate to each other in some ways, and it's going to be unrelatable because you just didn't see the world from the same set of lenses, basically.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. The views are definitely different. I never let my kids walk out of the house or go to sleep at night without telling them that I love them. And I always show in love, some ways, form or fashion, some kind of way. I mean, even with them being older, even if it's just a cash app for lunch. or just buying them something that I know they like from the grocery store, some kind of way I want them to know that I love them. So I'm very intentional when it comes to different things and showing people that I love, that I love them. So my kids definitely are not being raised off of survival. But I don't know, people who are raised, loving survival is definitely different because survival you're always looking for, I would say some people when they're trying to, When they're raised off of trying to just survive, they are not necessarily the nicest people. Oh, no. I don't know.

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Those are the people I consider to be the most heartless people.

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And they're dangerous. They're dangerous because they are always looking how to get over or how to make it work, how to survive, how to survive. And that's crazy. And they only

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care about self. And these are people who have children, have lives, have, you know, work. work fully day on day out and go and live what we perceive as normal lives but they don't care about nothing or nobody but self

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it's the me me me concept so when you're out there just trying to get over on somebody on an everyday basis that definitely just has to be insane but that's how they see it so you know they gotta survive so how I'm gonna basically shit on the next person to get what i need to get right you know i might need to need my light bill fixed so i'm gonna go and do this and you know i'm gonna take from this person because i gotta make my shit work so they just they just gonna do it and that's just how it's gonna be whoever i hurt um throughout the process well you know that's on them exactly you know fuck the next person as long as i get what i can get um then that's that's pretty much where you know what it is

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but i mean that like you said that's a dangerous person because because now you have ruined somebody else's perspective of people in general. Like I said, a person who came from a two-parent household who runs into a person who is like that and encounters a person who doesn't give a fuck about the world at all in general will mess around and jump into the perspective of like... dealing with a person like that and not knowing that you know they're just that's just them being the fuck the person that they are and not everybody is this way but now that's you know they've had to deal with that trauma from that they've had to deal with that you know that mentality being pumped into them now that now they're so affected by it they take that on to future relationships future in ways that they engage with people in life and now I was like... It's a trauma that's hard to recover from, and people end up becoming that version of the person that they met that they hated that about them. They end up becoming that person, in a sense. Maybe not to the extreme that they are dealt with, but in some levels, in some ways, they become like that person. And it becomes this whole trend of... Women like to say there's no good men left in the world. Well, that's not true. There's plenty of good men left in the world, but there have been so many good men that have been burnt by bad women that it's hard for them to open themselves up to the possibility of there being a good woman out there. And

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vice versa. It's definitely both ways. And

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when you're

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out there just trying to survive sometimes, you just say, fuck it. I got to get it how I live. But

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I tell people like that that's in survival mode. It's best that you don't date. It's best that you don't give. Because people like that also too like to give the perception of friendship. That's one of the things they love to do is give that perception of friendship. being around people and stuff like that and being like oh this is my friend and this is my friend so and so and building up these friendships that they know aren't going to be lasting friendships they don't care about anybody enough for it to be a lasting friendship so the second you know some of the opportunity comes along or next person comes along that person just becomes this no name person who just existed in their life for that time period so I just feel like it's kind of um irresponsible for them to be around people in a sense I guess like I feel I ain't trying to say like you know just take yourself away in a corner and just like die but at the same time like stick yourself in a corner somewhere and die because you're like the evil most worst person on the planet like so I mean like you deserve just as much as a person who kills and murders and rapes and steals and does all these things sometimes deserves the electric chair you sick twisted sons of bitches deserve deserve to die like for real like some of y'all really are that level of fucked up that you know I wouldn't be mad if somebody just ran over y'all with a car

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just my personal opinion don't run them over but definitely stay away from somebody if you know your intentions but those are the people who who come at the people the hardest they do the most the people who do not have good intentions they find somebody that they can leech off of because they're in survival mode so they got to figure out how they can get you know either the next meal the next come up you know shit shit them to get them a car or cosign for something just just anything how can I get this person to do what I want them to do because I'm trying to survive and I don't want to work necessarily you know I want somebody to take care of me so I got to figure out how I'm gonna make this I'm gonna make this happen yeah so they they do what they can

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they do they do I Unfortunately.

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and it's unfortunately sad because a lot of people a lot of good people get shitted on in the process so that's my main issue with it is turning

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good people perfectly good people who have done absolutely nothing no wrong everybody does a little bit wrong nobody's perfect but people who don't deserve it that get treated so bad by these fucked up individuals and they come out on the other side of it so much like worse it's just not even the same person no more and you just seeing all these good qualities about this person all these great things about this person and all of that's lost it's like the innocence of a child being lost you know and something happened in them traumatic it's that same way with adults sometimes too when they go through these situations with these type of people and it's hard to watch so yeah that's why I said there's a deep dark pit of hell for some of y'all people and I can't wait for y'all to receive that place that's waiting for y'all

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some crazy people out here you definitely You got to be careful when you're meeting people that's just trying to survive. Because they're going to do the most, the absolute most, the absolute most. So you got to be careful and always be aware of people like that. And sometimes it's hard because they come in so fake, like they got the best intentions of the world. Oh, yeah, they'll sell you a drink. They love to sell you a drink. You really got to pay attention. You got to pay attention. because the signs be there we as normal human beings who want to see the good in people look the other way turn the other cheek just to you know for the sake of saying well you know you want to see the good so you keep pushing and like okay I see the red flags they done asked me for$10 a day and they gonna pay me back Friday well now Friday coming they need another$20 so damn do I give them the$20 they struggling And the whole time, you know, they actually got it, but they just, they want to figure out a way to shit on the next person just to get over. And they may not have it, but they ain't going to work to get it either. So if I can just get somebody to give me something that's going to tide me over, hold me over until I might be able to shit the next person. But the worst type

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of person to me is the person that'll sit there and know you ain't got it, know you struggling, see you struggle, watch you struggle, and still sit there and take from you and just be like perfectly okay with it. You'll be all right. You didn't need it. You'll get it somehow.

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That's why they say give us got to know when to stop giving. Oh, for sure. Because takers don't know. They out there. They don't know when to stop taking. They'll take the last damn dollar you got. Of course. And me, fortunately, I will give the last dollar I got. That's the one thing. Yeah, I'll give it

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straight off my back. But at the end of the day, I do feel a way about it when I did all of these things for you and And I don't do anything for, you know... or for you to recognize me and say, oh, he's an awesome dude because he did this. I do it because I care and I'm just a naturally caring person. But at the end of the day, if I see you taking advantage of it, I'm going to feel a way about it now. I'm going to feel some type of way about it because you did that intentionally. Just because, like I said, you don't care. You don't have a heart to actually just be like, you know what, I shouldn't have did that. That was kind of messed up. I'm kind of messed up for doing that. that thought never crosses your mind and this is like you know when you get to really know a really truly sick individual like that he's sick in the head individuals like that it really it really gets like traumatizing how bad how messed up their mind works that they just really don't care like you could tell them anything in the world hey you a fucked up person you really really are a fucked up human being and they'll just be like yeah

SPEAKER_00:

yeah I mean shit it don't matter as long as I'm getting what I want it doesn't even matter so you can say whatever you want to say and it's not even gonna matter it's not even gonna resonate with them because you know if you ain't gonna give it to them they gonna go to the next they gonna get it from somebody else and that be the shit like Well, if you ain't going to give it to me because, you know, they don't want to hear, oh, I ain't got it or, you know, what you need it for. That's the last thing they want

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to hear. If you say you ain't got it, they immediately have no time for you. They have no energy for you. They have, you have lost everything when it comes to them as soon as you say, I ain't got it. Those words that you, those are words you can never speak to a person like that.

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I try to tell them I ain't got it so they can get the hell on because I'm trying to get away.

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But see, you know that you don't want those type of individuals in your life.

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You don't want, you don't want them A person

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who doesn't know that they don't want that person in their life or may have never experienced that type of person in their life, they're going to scrap everything they can together. They'll sell their mama to get what they need for that person just because they feel like they need

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that person. Yeah. Absolutely. Sell their souls to the devil. Exactly. Just to make sure somebody who can carry ass to work and can do it themselves will have and they and the grown folk is a big issue COVID over go back to work I saw

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a post on Facebook a couple weeks ago and it said you know it was a lady a female saying my throat is really sore right now but at least my kids got all her school got all their school clothes together for the year proud mom moment and I'm like you know that Sheesh. It would be funny if that shit wasn't somebody's actually thoughts right now, actually. Wow. That would actually be funny if it wasn't so sad to be true. There's some female that is currently probably in that predicament right this second, right now, sitting there thinking, I had to do some nasty, disgusting things.

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Some strange things for some change. I'm going to always go to work. I'm going to go to work. And if you know Lady A, Lady A going to keep a job, plenty of them. I'm going to work. Mm-mm. Speaking of throat, is your throat back moist?

SPEAKER_01:

Don't you start on my throat. Is it back moist? We talking about this young lady's throat in this post.

SPEAKER_00:

I know, but I'm just asking.

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How we get to my throat?

SPEAKER_00:

You brought up the throat, so I just want to make sure your

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throat. That was something totally separate, though. So we can't link the two? No, we cannot link the two. But, nah, like I was saying about– but, nah, it's really sad that women will go to those lengths and those levels to actually– Do a footage. children and try to get what they need for their children. And, you know, I get that you do anything for your child. I understand the logic in that, you know, the process in that. But it's just like it's sad that it has to go that deep, you know, like, you know, sell your body, sell your soul in a sense,

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you know. Some say you got to do what you got to do to make it happen instead of getting up, going to work, finding a job. Oh,

SPEAKER_01:

sorry but if my kids ain't got I ain't finna go tell no that you know for dudes think about it on this level like okay yeah if a female approach you and say I'll give you a couple dollars do something strange for some change for me you might you know some dudes with lesser integrity would say yeah I'll do that for sure but think about it if it was really the hard really really hard times and a dude approached you and said hey man I'm gonna you take care of me I'll take care of you you're gonna probably you're gonna turn that down you're ain't even thinking that right so you know think about the position that y'all putting these women in when y'all sit there and put these propositions at them because you know they

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don't care as long as they get the release yes it is what it is they you know they don't care they don't care I wish women weren't that way some women

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as far as thinking that that's okay

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that is okay and I wish the men wouldn't entice it.

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I blame the man. I hate to say it, but I blame the man.

SPEAKER_00:

Why do you blame the man?

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Because they can make themselves so okay with that shit. Like, hey, we both getting something. It's a fair exchange. You getting what you need, I'm getting what I need. And it's not so much what you need as a man, it's what you want. Because you can get that from anybody without having to go, you know, take advantage of somebody to get it. It's more so what you want. For the female, it's a need on her side. It's her kids trying to make sure her kids are taken care of and getting them straight. For the man, it's a want. He wants what he wants from you. That's his only way of being able to get it. If it was a possibility for him to be like, hey, let me take you out on a date. Let's go on a few dates. Let's see how this thing goes and we'll build up to that. Then you would take that role. But no, you want to take the shortcut and just say, here, let me give you this little$200.$200?

SPEAKER_00:

My friends say$40.

SPEAKER_01:

Damn.

SPEAKER_00:

My friend said it'd be$40. He offered to hold$40 and he can get some things done. Where does this friend live at? I don't know. I'm talking about my people. They be saying they can give them$40 and they can get some strange things done. They don't cost that much.

SPEAKER_01:

This friend be doing

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things for$40? I don't know if they be doing it, but I got a friend that'll just give$40. He said That all he got to give. He ain't got nothing else. Oh, the dude. The dude, yeah, the dude.

SPEAKER_01:

I thought you were saying you had a friend that said she received$40.

SPEAKER_00:

No, no, I got a dude at it.

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I was about to say, where is this

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friend at? Nah, nah, I got a, you know, I be, you know, on Facebook. You got her number? Hi, damn. Here we go at the bullshit. You got her number?

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I

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mean, you got to know what you're getting out of it. Women that going to take$40, you got to know, you going to walk away with something other than what you bargained. I might buy you a little Happy

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Meal. Yeah,

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you going to walk away with something more than your ass bargained for for$40. Hey,

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you got to know, you got to strap that all the way up, brother. All the way up. You might want to double strap that.

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If women out here taking$40, baby, you better know, your ass going to end up in the clinic. You going to spend more than$40.$40 to get that shit gone. You got to get rid of that. If you catch that, you're going to have that for life. Absolutely. You're going to spend the

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rest of your life with that.

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Ass be tore up, bugs, shit biting and pissing and burning.

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Yeah, you ain't getting

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rid of that. You got to be careful. Shout out to my friend who offered the women$40. Yeah, shout out, homie. Do your thing, bro. Yeah, do your thing. You know, shit. Walk away with it But when you're not getting how you live Your ass gonna walk away with More than what you bargained for You gotta be careful Definitely Safe

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sex is the best sex That's all I'm gonna say

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I definitely agree Definitely agree Scrap it up For everybody's safety It's just a lot going on in this world And everybody's sleeping with everybody So put that shit on It ain't worth it More than just a baby. You can get a lot worse than a baby. I tell my boys all the time. I got two grown boys. I tell them all the time, listen, put it on because you can walk away with more than just a baby. You don't want to be in the bathroom burning and you got to shave all your hair off because your ass done got something out there. Creeper crawlers. Listen, listen. It's different, though, with the boys. I have, you know, two grown boys and then a younger son and then my daughter. So it's a different kind of talk with her than I have with the boys. Yeah, because she can bring one in the house. She can bring one in the house. They can put one

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in the oven to

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leave it at another house. Yeah, yeah. She can bring one in the house. Yeah, and I remind her ass every day. Don't do it, sister. She'll be 18 at the end of the month. So, listen, we holding on strong. No

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babies

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from nobody. Fingers crossed. Listen, what prayers, because I'm tell them, I ain't rocking no damn children. Listen, my children, y'all listening, mama ain't rocking no babies. I got that seven-year-old, that's all I can do. That's it. That's it. Don't do it. Both of them dating, so listen, I can remember my middle boy probably killed me for this one, but I remember driving his car one day and I was real proud. I happened to put some groceries in the back seat. And I seen a little condom wrapper. I said, was this open? Lord, I seen the condom wrapper open and the towel on the back seat. I said, Lord, have mercy. This boy here done been fucking in his car. We just gave you this car. But hey, I was proud because the condom wrapper was back there. So I know he did what he was supposed to do. Wrap it up, son. It didn't go that way for me.

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First time my dad found a condom in my car, he flipped his shit. Not even going to lie to you. Really? Really? Wow. First time he found a condom wrapper. I'll never forget, actually. And it wasn't even mine. It was my brother. Me and my brother shared our first car together. And I actually was cleaning up the car at the car wash, I believe it was. And my dad saw the condom wrapper in there. And I swear to you, the level of a gasket he blew over that little condom wrapper. And I'm sitting there like, bro, this ain't even mine. Like, I don't know what you

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mad about right now. proud like damn you scrapped up

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you would think right

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but

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didn't go that

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way I was proud of my boy I was like shit he got this condom wrap in here and the towel listen he was good to go long as he had that condom I was definitely I was good I was proud I was like he did what he was supposed to do right right wasn't no nonsense I knew whatever happened that night there wasn't going to be no babies coming from it because that condom wrapper was in the car so Take it as a blessing. Listen, listen, I'm telling you, I was good with it. All right, so I saw this. It says, somebody posted, it says, I have a question. I have a friend that wants two boyfriends. She said that if men can do it, why can't she? My question is, how does she get them to agree and understand? I agree to understand what? So she can have two boyfriends.

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That's not

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possible. It's like a man who has a wife and a side chick. How

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many times does that work out?

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Well, I mean, I'm just saying. So if he can do it, she's trying to figure out how does she get them on the same page? What does she do to make them understand? Hey, listen, you know, I want both of y'all. You're both. The way she kind of explained it is they both bring something different to the table. So it's like having one, but it's two and You know what

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I'm saying? Niggas is not going for that. What?

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Hell no. Come on now. Hell no.

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Not at all.

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So you wouldn't let your girlfriend have two boyfriends?

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Hell no.

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You don't want two girlfriends?

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No. Honestly, I don't. Sorry enough pleasing one woman. I'm not trying to please two. No thank you.

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So you don't think that she can convince the man to let her have? Hell no.

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Not unless he's a very weak-minded man.

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I mean, there's some weak-minded. There are. some very

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weak-minded men, but that's the only way you're getting that over.

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But what do you think about her logic?

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It's stupid. Don't present that logic at all to anybody ever, ever, ever, ever in life. And you better know your dude, because if he one of them type dudes, that's going to turn into a situation. We're going to see him on the news.

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I'm not on the news.

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Five o'clock. I promise you that.

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Breaking news. She just want to figure out how to have There is no possible way she can make that. No possible way. No possible way. Like I said, what is it? Sister wives. Sister wives, yeah. Yeah, so sister wives, what do they have? That's the husband that have two wives, right?

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Yeah, but once

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again. All right, so listen. So if they can do it, all right? So I guess that's probably what she's referring to. She's got the, she see the sister husband or the sister wives or whatever it is. So she want to be the sister husband, all right? She want two boyfriends. Well, if the man got two women, Why can't she have too many and convince all of them to sleep in the same bed? It sounds good. Convince everybody to sleep in the same bed.

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It

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sounds good.

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Yeah, you crazy for real. Nah, that sounds good. That sounds real good. But at the end of the day, nah, that ain't happening. No. Ain't no logical man about to sleep in another bed with no damn man. Talking about he's sharing his woman with her.

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I don't know, Eric. I don't know now. I said logical. Remember I said

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logical? You can find some illogical, crazy motherfuckers that'll be like, hey, it's all good. We just partying. It's fun.

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It's a good time.

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Yeah, okay. And then when somebody gets possessive and they not getting what they feel is their equal share of the partnership, then what?

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I don't know. I guess you have to cross that bridge when you get there because if everybody's just having a good time at the moment it's two

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dudes it's gonna turn into a pissing competition we already know this come on logic states that at some point in time this is gonna turn into a pissing competition and these two dudes is gonna have to swing and see who got the bigger dick let's go let's be honest

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okay okay so so is that how she has to determine it by who is the bigger dick that's her choice

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if she could actually get these dumbasses to go along with this if she wants to go by hey this dude's bigger so he gets me off better hey you go out to make that choice at some point in time. This ain't gonna go on

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forever. Bigger don't always mean better.

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That's for her to choose but like I said just understand this is a temporary thing. This is not something that is actually going to go on for like months or years or you know this is gonna go for a very short period of time if it goes at all. You

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think

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so? I know so. I don't even have to. I know that's not gonna

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work. I mean they got a whole TV show about it now Eric so.

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Ain't no man in this world that I could think of that I'd be like, yeah, you know what? I could be cool with, you know, just my homeboy. Me and homie, we could date the same girl and just be, you know, chilling together. No, take

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no. I don't think it should be your homeboy. That might be a little strange. I think it should, you know, if it's going to happen, it definitely shouldn't be your homeboy. That's going to be a little weirded out, you know. And it's

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not going to be weirded out by me being around some strange ass man that I don't even damn know.

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I don't know because, you know, I've never had the desire to have two men in my bed that at the same time. Exactly,

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because you got what sense?

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And you like living. Definitely, because I mean, you know, that shit can get you bopped in the head. I don't know though.

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Did I just not say the news?

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Well, I don't know. I'm caught news, breaking news. Somebody gonna go for it. Somebody gonna go for it. You don't think so? Who? I don't

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know. You find me a story where that ever happened somewhere and we can come back and have this discussion at a later time, but I don't feel like nobody's ever

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gonna go for that. All right, so for those of you instead of listening I want you if you have ever you know come across a situation where you've had two boyfriends and they've agreed you won't

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you won't find

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this yes and they've agreed and men if you have come across two women who have agreed

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yeah you find two women that have done this women do it all the time you can find a man who gets it two women to be together

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so that's what she's saying if men can do it why can't women so basically you ever heard of a double standard

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that's a biggest double standard there is.

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So no two dicks in the bed but two pussies is okay. Hell no. That's definitely a double standard. So I mean why is it okay for him to do it and then she can't want it. Come on now. So if she gives him you know the pleasure of having him and her friend why can't she Why can't he give her the pleasure of two men?

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You've been in relationships before, right? Yeah, definitely. In numerous relationships before. And you've been in relationships where your partner has tried to introduce a threesome into the situation, right? Correct. Okay. How many times when you address the threesome situation, because women always do this when addressed, throw that threesome out there. Well, how would you feel if I said I want to bring another man in the bedroom? What is always the number one response when you say that?

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I ain't down for no bullshit. like that, but they be down for the bullshit of bringing another one.

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Thank you.

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That's all I need to say right there. I mean, you know, hey.

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And you think this could possibly work?

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I mean, I don't know. It could. I mean, it could. It just depends on the man. It depends on the man. It depends. It definitely depends on the man.

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How many of the men told you, I'll think about it. If you do it for me, then I'll think about doing it for you.

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Well, it was never thought to have a threesome in my bed, so yeah. Okay, fair enough. You ain't don't get another woman in my bed

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but that's usually how it goes it's like if you think about doing the threesome with me then I'll consider doing the threesome and they never consider it they just

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trying to get you to do the threesome of course if I was in that situation and that was something I was down for we gonna do it my way first so I can make sure then you don't get it then he wouldn't get the women he wouldn't get the women

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the same way you think you feel like if he feel to try to pull one over on you he gonna feel the exact same

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way I'm gonna have my men on standby see that's the

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part about it see that's the real

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messed up part of it when we talk

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about threesomes we just like hey we gonna find a random girl or we don't have nobody in mind necessarily sometimes but

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I mean y'all niggas have them in mind now y'all be game and ready for the bullshit sometimes we don't have one in mind but

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y'all y'all already had to do old Terry from down the block Yeah, I've been looking at Terry for about a week or two. Because Terry been asking for years. We've been walking around with his shirt off all week out there doing that yard work. Oh, I want me some Terry. So we get this threesome thing popping. I'm going to call Terry from down the block. We don't even know who it's going to be. We just be like, hey, we're going to find somebody together.

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Well, now wait a minute. You'd rather have somebody you know than just a random. Who? Well, I'm just saying if you're going to do it, if you're going to have a threesome, like if you going to introduce, you're going to be a sister husband.

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no see you no I'm talking about just like one time thing not a sister

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husband no she don't want a one time thing she want two boyfriends so she want a sister husband

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that's not going to happen

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I don't know I

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don't know none of them marriages that exist please find me one

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well there's some there's some that exist

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I don't know one just find me one because I don't know one of those that exist I know the women that marry you know multiple women marrying the one guy I know those marriages exist but I don't know of no marriage in existence where is one female and two men dealing with that one

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female. There's somebody out there. Okay, find her.

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Find that unicorn that's out there and bring that back here and we can talk about it then. I'll be like, hey, cheers to you woman because you pulled off the impossible. Yeah.

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Women usually pull off the impossible.

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I don't know about

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that one. That's usually how it works now.

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Not with that situation.

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I don't know. We're going to have to see and we're going to have to channel this one for a later day and get some more people on board and see exactly how to help this young lady out. You know, she want two boyfriends.

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Helper? You actually want to support this nonsense.

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Well, I'm just saying, I want to support it. I just want to see how it's going to happen. I want to see if it works. I mean, hell, if men can do it, damn it, women can too. I mean, at this point, I don't know. I'm not, but I'm just saying. I ain't going to knock the next person Two boyfriends, just like men have two girlfriends or a wife and a girlfriend. Shit just works. It flows. So you say. I'm just saying. So you say.

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Whatever floats your boat. I mean,

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you know what I'm saying? You got to give the people what the people want. And if the people want two boyfriends, then that's what the people want. That person wants two boyfriends. No logical

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person should want two boyfriends. It's just FYE.

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She said they both bring something different to the table. So she's trying, you know.

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Okay. That's what you want to go

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with? It's just like, you know, man, you know, he's got two women. You know, they both bring something different to the table.

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I guess in some cases, I don't know. you

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ain't going for it either way no two girlfriends and no sister I told you

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it's too difficult to please one damn woman

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what makes it difficult to please one woman come on now it can't be that hard as long as you learn your person and you know your person you're going to be alright

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y'all are a different person everyday that's the problem I

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definitely agree with that y'all are

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not the same person everyday so that's the main issue right there. Are you going to learn somebody that's a different person every day? Got three people living in one person. I don't know which day I'm talking to who. Tina today, you Trina tomorrow, you Tamara Friday. I don't know who the hell I'm talking to. Damn, damn, damn. I don't want to know all three y'all. Sometimes you all three people in the same

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thing. I can't keep up. You got to do better. You can make it happen. I got faith. I got faith in you. I got faith I'm glad you

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do.

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All right. Who you got winning today? Who you got winning today?

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My team already played. They already won, so I'm good on that. The Cowboys is playing. I want to see them beat the Giants. I would love to see them beat the Giants today.

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Well, they up 20-16 in the fourth, so

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we

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can pull it on through. They home today, so let's go Cowboys.

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I'm not a Cowboys fan, but I'm definitely not a Giants fan, so yeah, I ain't rooting for them. But, yeah, I'll go for the Cowboys today. And then Carolina's playing today as well.

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Who's Carolina playing today? I don't

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know. I don't even care. But I just felt like they should get an honorable mention. They're

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playing the Cardinals today at Forest. That means they're losing. Don't do them like that. Don't do them like that. You got to always root for the home team. Always root for the home team. Yeah, yeah. You might. I ain't. I'm going to always root for the Cowboys. They're going to pull it through and We're going to the Super Bowl, so we'll see y'all in February. Just be there. Put your cowboy jerseys on and put your hat on, and let's just make it happen. You know what I'm saying?

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They'll be sitting on the same couch y'all sitting on while y'all watching the game, watching somebody else in the Super Bowl as well, just so y'all know. Just putting that out there. Don't do us like that. Don't do us like that. Y'all still are the Cowboys.

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Eric, from the Fee Watchers, I appreciate you joining me again. this week on the His and Her Perspective podcast.

SPEAKER_01:

Thank you for having me. Thank you

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for having me. I appreciate it. We're going to get out of here. I hope everyone has a great week and we will see you next week. Alright.