Why Nervous System Healing Changes Motherhood with Amanda Houle

What if the emotional tone of your home begins with the way you regulate yourself?

In this episode of The Clean Mom Edit, MaKenzie sits down with Amanda Houle for a conversation about nervous system awareness, emotional safety, and what conscious motherhood looks like in everyday life.

Amanda shares how regulation is often misunderstood as another motherhood trend, when in reality it is the ongoing practice of noticing what is happening inside you before reacting outwardly. Together, they talk about fear-based parenting patterns, secure attachment, repair after hard moments, and why a mother’s inner work changes the emotional atmosphere of an entire home.

This conversation also explores why healing while raising children can feel both beautiful and confronting, and how simple daily practices can help mothers return to themselves without perfection.

In This Episode, We Cover

• What nervous system regulation actually looks like in real motherhood
• Why so many mothers react before they understand what they are feeling
• Fear-based parenting patterns and how they quietly show up
• Why secure attachment begins with emotional safety
• The importance of repair after difficult parenting moments
• Practical ways to regulate in the middle of overstimulation
• Why motherhood often surfaces unresolved inner child work
• How daily structure supports nervous system calm
• Why meditation can look different in motherhood
• The powerful connection between a mother’s energy and the home

Key Takeaways

• Regulation is not perfection — it is awareness and return
• Children often respond to the emotional environment around them
• Repair matters more than never making mistakes
• Small nervous system practices create long-term shifts
• A peaceful home starts with internal safety
• Healing while mothering is still healing

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:02

All right. Today's conversation is for the mom who deeply wants to respond differently, but sometimes still feels herself pulled into fear, reaction, or overwhelm. I'm joined by Amanda, an intuitive guide and mentor who works, helps mothers reconnect to their own inner wisdom while learning how to regulate their nervous system in everyday motherhood. So Amanda blends nervous system awareness, energetic healing, and embodied motherhood to help women build emotional safety. So not just for their children, but within themselves first and foremost. So because her belief is simple but powerful, a regulated mother changes the emotional atmosphere of an entire home. So Amanda, I am so glad you're here.

SPEAKER_01 0:56

I am happy to be here. Thank you for having me, Mackenzie.

SPEAKER_00 0:59

Of course. All right. Well, we have some juicy questions that I want to get to. Um, and I know my audience wants to hear from you as well. So my first question is a lot of moms hear the phrase regulated parenting right now. Like I feel like it's a buzzword going around, but what does that actually look like in a real life when you're tired, you're overstimulated, and your child is having a meltdown?

SPEAKER_01 1:26

Yeah, I mean, I hear you. It is such a buzzword right now, and a lot of people will, which I also want to preface like mindful parenting, right? So I feel like it also goes hand in hand with mindfulness and conscious parenting and just, you know, really being aware of kind of what's going on in the moment, right? And just kind of being present. Um, and then there's also with when you say nervous system, there's also this like regulation piece where we talk about being embodied, um like being embodied, like feeling it in your body, and then actually like putting it into practice. And see, the thing is, is I feel like I'm so freaking able to talk about this and so because I have been the mama, I have been just me and my son since day one. My son is almost five. Um, and he has never left me. He's left me for maybe 30 minutes of his entire life, and that was probably twice when I went to my local gym, like in my apartment complex where my sister-in-law watched him, and I went and like got a workout in. And um, yeah, so I so if anybody can embody nervous system regulation and just being in ownership of our own energy, I really feel like I'm the one to be able to talk about it. Um, and really, I mean, I just feel like being aware, yes, like that's an important piece, but like what are we doing to be aware? Which of course has its, you know, there's so much that's that goes into that, right?

SPEAKER_00 3:19

Yeah. What would you say is like um, you know, somebody who is just like getting introduced to this because I feel like that's a lot of where my audience is, is like we're like nervous system is like just an a new, like we said, like buzzword, like it's starting to like just awareness is starting to bring to the surface. So like just starting out in a journey, like how would you describe like finding that? Um let me know what you think.

SPEAKER_01 3:51

Yeah, I mean, I would just say, you know, kind of like take five minutes and like do an inventory of sort of like what you know, what areas or like what ways do you get frustrated? You know, like what makes you, you know, pop off? What makes you get, you know, want to feel like you want to scream? And I feel like a lot of times it's really, you know, as we know, motherhood is an initiation. Once we give birth, like all of the inner child work comes up, like we we're healing our inner child, you know, and a lot of us, you know, depending on just how you know I'm 44, so I do feel that I also have somewhat of a leverage because, you know, I knew that I was gonna be an older mother, like I did a lot of the inner healing work prior to becoming a mother. So I do feel like I had that, you know, that wisdom to be able to kind of show up and have those expectations of like, okay, well, yeah, it's a baby. Like he's not gonna, he's not gonna necessarily like he's gonna be waking up every so often to nurse. And, you know, like this is just a part of being a mama. And um, just really like settling into and accepting like this is what the journey is. Like, we're not here to control our children, we're not here to, you know, force what the journey hook, what the journey looks like, and it it looks different for each and every one of us, you know. And so I would say like just taking inventory, sitting down for like five minutes with yourself and just like looking to see like the things that kind of trigger you, like what makes you upset, and then really ask yourself, what steps are you taking to actually like improve that for yourself? Like, is it communication with your partner? Is it being more present like when you're with your children, you know, when they are having a meltdown? I mean, I don't last night we just went through it, and I'm not and I'm not I'm not perfect by any means. I have my moments, you know. I mean, we repair is is huge, you know. Um, we've been going through a phase kind of lately. My son is almost turning five, and you know, I've been kind of needing like my own downtime because like I've shared, like, you know, I haven't had like I haven't had a break. I, you know, I'm building business from home. Um, and it's not necessarily that I want to break from him, it's all of the other responsibilities that come with it, right? And just doing it all on your own. And I think I feel like it's also such a healing, like uh embodiment, like practice when we also just accept that like we are not like our society is not set up to support mothers and children. Like we are we are pushed away from just like we don't want our uh our kids to be attached, we don't want them to be healthy because what does that give back to society in what ways? Like what money is coming, you know, is being put back into capitalism. And as we know, that's a whole other discussion. But I think there's just a lot of like rage when it comes to just like, okay, this is what it is. Like, where is our village? Where is the support? And it can be really frustrating when you're like, shit, like what like what am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to show up in this moment? How am I supposed to handle this this huge meltdown? And yes, I understand that it's obviously easier said than done, uh, you know, nine times out of ten, of course, but our children need us, they need us present with them to be able to handle their big emotions. And when we have those big emotions in response to them having the big emotions, that's not supporting their regular their nervous system or our nervous system. So again, it really just comes back to like where are we wanting to create those changes and like being mindful of it. And it really, I really do feel like it is so simple, but we just have to actually practice it. And that's where I think a lot of mothers struggle with it. And for me, you know, I just feel that knowing how important secure attachment is and them feeling, you know, my son, of course, particularly feeling safe in his own body, like his knowing that I have such a huge part in how he remembers when he's older, because those first several years are so pertinent, and it's all subconscious, it's all in the body. So, like our body our body keeps score.

SPEAKER_00 9:00

So yeah. I am loving this, and that was just like the first question. Um Yeah, I know it's so it's so deep and it's so um invigorating. I feel like once I started to learn all of this is when like motherhood got really loving, lovely. Like I feel like honestly, I didn't enjoy motherhood. I'm gonna be frank. Um, before I realized all of this and healed myself. Um, and I am I I love that you healed yourself before you had your child because I feel like the balancing, I'm I kind of am still going through it, the balancing act of you know, healing myself but expanding, but co-re co-regulating. Um, but I I agree, I think the expectations of mothers is just unreal. And I actually worked for a a corporate organization and didn't even have a maternity leave. So I am like a big proponent and um uh of just supporting mothers, you know, who want to work, great. And if that's going to be the structure that we have, then we have to have a supportive structure. But also like I do truly believe that that hindered my son um and abandonment issues um whenever I dropped him off at the daycare. Um, and now I have recently quit my corporate job. Um, but being home with him, like and healing that wound has been just such a, you know, a journey, let's say. Like it's made me so much better as a mom and as, you know, as as a mentor to my clients. But also it's like I would have loved to not have to go through that. But that's obviously just not life. You have to, you know, trials and tribulations, right?

SPEAKER_01 10:57

To go through it all. Right. Well, congratulations on quitting the job because I know that that's yeah, that's that's a big that's a big that's a big piece of it. Yeah. It's it's it's really coming into like ourselves and recognizing like we're not here to perform. Like seriously.

SPEAKER_00 11:16

And we're here to we're put on this planet to be mothers. Like that's where I'm like, I had to take like a step back. And also like the sleep thing, like everybody's like, how's your baby sleeping? I'm like, oh, he's not sleeping. Like he's you know, 17 months old, and my husband and I are still going in his room at night, and like we're just accepted life how it is. But I realize now, like, you know, the wounds from that and like why he needs so much support and you know that at night. Um, so anyways, I could go on a tangent forever of that.

SPEAKER_01 11:48

No, I know it's true. Yes. Yes, but this all comes back to our our nervous system. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 11:56

So how do uh fear-based parenting patterns quietly show up in everyday motherhood, you know, for some of your clients or yourself of you know being so aware, and even when a mom, you know, deeply wants to do things differently, what does that look like?

SPEAKER_01 12:15

I mean, I would say, you know, we have to kind of work through the fear first. You know, we have to really find like what are we consuming, you know, who who around us is, you know, contributing to that fear. I mean, I I had to set some really strong boundaries with, you know, with family, with even friendships that, you know, just it is what it is, like ended, you know, when I became a mom because there just wasn't this, we weren't on the same page anymore. Like I was a different person and we just we didn't share the same values, and I just wasn't going to, you know, show up and like disown what what I felt to be true in my heart and how I wanted to raise my son, right? So I think a big one is yeah, we have to really limit and set those boundaries of like what we're consuming in our everyday lives. Because when we can really step into the motherhood journey and be present with it and like what it is in all areas, like the chaos, the beauty, the you know, the messiness, the joy, like the frustrations, we can see that like there really doesn't need to be any fear. Like, there just needs to be love and like being with our kids and raising our family how we choose to want to raise our families. And that's gonna look different for everybody. But I think it's important when you know how you want to raise your family, is really surrounding yourself with those that are that share the same sentiments, that share the same values and practices that you really want to, you know, be in your journey, just just like everyday life. So starting with the fear, you know, we we really have to be able to release that fear and that control of like, you know, feeling like we need to control our children's behaviors, like they're just everything, you know, because when we that's where we get the power struggles, and that's where we find those, you know, meltdowns happen. Um you know, creating that structure around like what works in your home, right? Like so those meltdowns don't, you know, they're gonna happen. It's part of childhood, of course. But you know, again, nervous system regulation is also very much tied into nutrition. It just it's such a deep it is. It's just there's so many levels.

SPEAKER_00 15:00

I love that you put uh you mentioned the input uh and like you know who you surround yourself with and having to set some boundaries because I've had to do the same thing in my healing journey. And I say that I just told my in-laws the other day, I'm like, I, you know, I'm not a very, I'm not a judgmental person. Like I really accept people like for who they are. Like I know everybody's, you know, had their own, you know, their own journey. So very open-minded um individual, but I will say I am a judgmental person whenever, like, you know, based on their kids. Like I do think that like you can tell a lot about the individuals on how their kids act. And I have set a pretty hard boundary that like my kids will not be associated with, you know, kids that I don't believe are, you know, going to bring out the best in my my child and why I have the control over it right now. Like I'm going to to do that. But, you know, I think like big picturesque, like people do need to take, you know, a like you said, like an inventory of like who's putting, you know, those those beliefs maybe in them, or if they're, you know, not parenting, you know, the way that they want to parent, then like you will probably have to, you know, walk away or limit, you know, play dates or, you know, whatever that is. I think that's such a crucial part of, you know, the healing journey. So I'm so glad that you you mentioned that. Um, what are some tools that are you like your favorite or um mechanisms that you love to regulate either like your nervous system or your son's nervous system too, that you found success in?

SPEAKER_01 16:36

Yeah, I mean, I would say, and I I admittedly don't do this as often as as I would like, because of course I go in phases too, right? But like getting down on their level and like being silly. So, like if my son's having a hard time, let's say he's like wants to throw something or he's you know just just getting frustrated, you know, I'll just start being silly. Like I'll, you know, I'll get goofy with him and I or I might start tickling him, or I might like just trying to like move my body and just like make funny faces, or you know, so that a lot of the times will, you know, but you have to kind of, you know, if they're already in full-blown meltdown mode, then that's obviously that approach is not necessarily gonna work. You kind of have to catch it in the beginning, of course, but um movement, like just again, like dancing, you know, put putting on a song sometimes. Um another one, which, you know, it may not feel, you know, safe for for others, but for me, like when I'm having a moment, like I'll say to my son, like, okay, mommy needs to scream for a second, and we'll just have like a scream fest, you know, like I'll just be like, you know, and just start. Um, because that's that's a way for me to kind of like let out the my frustration, but not taking my frustration out on him and communicating to him, like, I'm frustrated right now. Mommy needs to scream for a second, you know, like so I'm not doing it at him, you know, I'm not yelling at him and I'm not freaking out on him because he's, you know, doing something that's that's gonna frustrate me. Um, and those are just like in the moment, you know, of course, practices. Um, you know, one that just a huge mindfulness piece is the meditation, which, you know, it doesn't have to be like sitting in silence either. It can literally be um, you know, washing the dishes. It can be mopping the floor, like that can be your meditation and just like being with whatever, whatever it is that you're doing. And I will say something that I kind of just stumbled upon, not stumbled upon, but I think just, you know, being a mom almost five years in, you know, of course I have a little bit more experience, you know, in the sense that I've, you know, been doing it for a few years, right? So I've found like what works and what doesn't work. And something that I've found to be really helpful is which I did a lot in the beginning, I feel like in the first two years, is not concerning myself with like making sure the house is clean like all day, like setting that time like at the end of the day, especially because you know, I'm stay at home, like I'm home with him full time. So if I'm gonna constantly be picking up after him every you know 20 minutes, like that's that's gonna frazzle my nervous system. That's gonna because I'm constantly like I'm on the go. I'm not I'm not just being like I'm not so really just like finding a routine that works for you too, like a structure. So like maybe, you know, just getting to the dishes and cleaning up at the end of the day after your children have fallen asleep. Um, you know, just like setting aside, you know, a specific day to maybe do laundry, like, you know, and unless it's dire that there's, you know, an outfit that they have to wear that needs to be washed, you know, like you don't necessarily have to do it every day. So just like things like that, just getting a little bit more organized, which kind of helps your overall like mental, you know, your your mental and emotional health. Um but meditation is I mean, I meditated again, like before I became a mom. So I had a huge practice before and I knew the benefits of it. So carrying that over into my parenthood was it was kind of just like a no-brainer to me. It just looks different now. You know, when my son was little, I'd put headphones on and then meditate. Sometimes I'd have a guided meditation and he would hear it. So it just it just depended.

SPEAKER_00 20:45

I you know love that. And the fact that you said like meditation is not the headphones and like a guy, you know, like there's just so many versions of meditations, and um I I think that everybody needs to start somewhere. So like I started with just like a five-minute meditation, you know, that was guided, and you start to get more confident. So um I just think like you said, you know, dishes, and that's such a great way to look at it, you know, while you're, you know, doing dishes, like maybe just, you know, you know, think of things that you're just grateful for, like something along the lines of that as like meditation. And um, I feel like one thing that I've done that's really helped me is I've designated um like each day of the week has its own like uh embodiment. So like Monday is I call it like my badass mom day. So like that day, like I'm doing all things, like I'm just a badass mom. Like Tuesdays are my CEO days, and Wednesdays are my bad another badass mom days. Thursdays are my work from home mom days. So I'm like juggling both business and motherhood. And then Friday I call my goddess day. So that's like where I'm not doing any laundry, I'm just doing like everything out of enjoyment. And like that's something that has like. super regulated my nervous system um just to know that I'm not having to be a mom like every like I'm a mom every single day but you know what I mean by that. Right. Like it's I know what you mean. Yeah it's different. The mundane is you know not there.

SPEAKER_01 22:16

So exactly yes.

SPEAKER_00 22:19

I love that and getting your kids involved too with the meditations. I know we bought you know a tone one of those little Tony things that like they are kids' meditations. And I'm like my daughter loves it. So I'm like get them involved early of like what that is because it's going to benefit them. I feel like I've not met a successful person that hasn't done meditation.

SPEAKER_01 22:44

Yeah I mean I would I yeah I think it's pretty safe to say that all of those that are consciously in business because we also know that there's a lot of people in business that are yeah we won't go there.

SPEAKER_00 22:54

But um yes but um but yes though I don't know anyone that is not that's that does not have meditation as part of their practice that you know that doesn't practice a mindfulness lifestyle um and that doesn't and that incorporates their kids that teaches it to their children what whatever that looks like for them you know implementing it however they do and I I I love the tool human design um I have like a little like cheat sheet in my like I have like an ecosystem binder and it tells me like how everybody like their most desired way of being regulated and it's just been like really great for in the moment minutes because like to keep that in my head is you know not the best thing to do. So I have it on paper because I'm like oh you know this you know kid is you know likes to do this or whatnot.

SPEAKER_01 23:46

So um and you have three that you're right you're learning and they're all gonna have different ones. Right. And they're all they all have different yeah different ways of that that that's gonna feed their soul. So yes it it's it's a lot of navigating. So props to you mama.

SPEAKER_00 24:01

Yes and uh accepting that everybody regulates differently too and exactly right a one size fits fits all. So exactly um what is happening in a mother's nervous system when she knows like how to respond because I do think that a lot of moms out there like they know the how but they still react in ways that she later regrets what exactly is happening there and how do you get over those? Because you said you know I'm not perfect either like how do you get over those humps of maybe you know falling back into the shadows.

SPEAKER_01 24:40

Yeah I mean I think for me in my own practice what I've recognized is where am I not in alignment? Like where am I not showing up for myself? Um and just not having that grief. Um and I feel like I'm gonna get emotional because it's just it's this is part of this is part of being a mom. You know we have so much pressure on us and I'm a mom that has been doing it all. So again yeah and for those mamas that are listening and probably feel like you know that you want to cry too or you maybe you are crying listening to me cry because you you're feeling all the overwhelm and you don't you know you don't want to be a bad mom. You know it's you you have to just you have to just let what you know whatever the situation is whatever whatever the moment was where you should showed up dysregulated you repair you know you apologize you you know that's what I had to do with my son last night that's what I did this morning and um you know and and and also explaining of course you know their age is going to play a big role in terms of like what they're gonna understand. If they're a lot younger you know between like one and under one or up to two or three it's gonna look a lot different in how you're gonna manage. I will say it looked a lot different then because there weren't as much to deal with or to handle right where like when your children are a little bit younger. At least that's what I found um you know managing everything just seemed because once they start getting older they're their own little humans you know they they have a lot more to to do and say and show up in this world and um so you just you have to repair you just you have to you have to let go of the grief and and the guilt and just accept that you know that this is you know you want to do your best and find those ways to show up and do your best you know it and it you have to start small you're not gonna necessarily you know be able to start grand or you know if you're in a situation like mine for instance where you might not have all of those resources. So you start small you you figure it out maybe it's going outside nature taking taking a walk around the neighborhood getting them out on uh you know on their bike we're a huge nature family and lately for us it just hasn't been as much so I have to remember that like okay like we're not we're not living the lifestyle that we that we typically do.

SPEAKER_00 27:25

So it's natural that some of these other things are gonna come up you know so yeah just accepting and you know releasing that and forgiving yourself you know um and just finding that that way that's that's gonna help you to be able to show up I'm right here boo here comes the little man surprised he hasn't come this whole time I completely agree I think like once I started giving myself you know a little bit more grace of like you know yes you know we're in this you know 3D world and like there's so much coming at us you know constantly as mothers and so much in our heads that we have to keep you know organized like you said like you gotta give yourself a break and I feel like this journey of like you know healing and regulation like it doesn't get easier it just you get better at bouncing back. Do you agree with that?

SPEAKER_01 28:26

Yes it's it's not that and you just get you get more talented at it just like any practice makes perfect right so you just get to a point where like yeah you can an incident happens and you yeah mommy will be done in a few. I love you um but yeah I mean you're just able to kind of show up differently and yeah come back quicker and then you don't have that like that long periods of like feeling that guilt like you're able to forgive yourself quicker like and and then I feel like too then you're be able then you're able to handle those more extreme situations because life is life is gonna life you know and things are gonna happen especially in today's world we don't we don't we don't know what it's gonna look like and we're we're moving through very chaotic and stressful times and if we don't take a step back and really focus on what's most important our families and what we can do in our own inner worlds it I mean because we can't control what's going on and and especially for us mom bosses you know like what ways we can contribute to be able to give back to make the world a better place and then we don't have to focus on all of the ickiness um that's a big piece because I think there's a lot of worry for a lot of moms right now in the state of the world. So it's turn it off you know like focus on what you can control your four walls in your own home. And that for me I've always said like it starts at home. It it it happens at home it all like those are the only places that you can control quote unquote is is is what happens.

SPEAKER_00 30:16

This is in your own family I agree I I feel like once I like peeked behind the curtain and realized you had mentioned this earlier is like the accountability piece of like you are really setting the tone of the household as the mother like I I really truly believe that and um you know I used to you know I I I don't always favor like hearing like you know my kids acting this because of this and I'm like now I realize like my kid acts you know the way that they act is a reflection of me as an individual and I think like that is like where things start to shift too. And honestly I think that's a little it was a little scary for me at first and like I got you know super sappy and like super sad because you know I'm like oh my gosh like all of their problems are because of me but now I look at it as like such empowerment like I'm like yes I was just gonna say all their problems are because of me and you know what I have the empower the power to change them too though like so that's where I'm like I completely changed my mindset on that.

SPEAKER_01 31:22

Yes yeah mine and like the mindset is huge. You have I mean we are women are powerful we are the matriarchs like we are we have I mean we we dictate do you want do you want peace or chaos? I mean yeah sure you're gonna have chaos especially if you have little ones but do you want your home to be more peaceful or do you want your home to be more chaotic? I mean at the end of the day it's your choice and we all get to choose.

SPEAKER_00 31:47

I love that tremendously so um well I have loved every minute of this and I want you to share where my audience can can find you to follow along your journey if they want to if you have any offers or resources share that I will obviously link um what you sent me in the show notes but go away.

SPEAKER_01 32:11

Yeah of course yeah so you can find me on threads I am um Amanda Lee official um it's Amanda underscore L-E-I-G-H underscore official uh I'm most active on threads and TikTok I've kind of took a little hiatus hiatus but I'm getting back um my TikTok is Divine Mamahood um and I have a raising regulated humans um a guide a transmission um that really goes into more depth of everything that we talked about today it's on pre-sale right now um hopefully sooner than later it will be launching so uh I'm almost I'm almost done getting it getting it officially out to the world but um your pre-sale just you know really helps support um you know the the finishing touches and the last minute creations of this and supporting a mama getting it out there for all those families that could really use the support um and that's digital uh and then I also have um I opened a chamber uh connection portal I guess if you will for four moms um aligned mamas who really just want like a safe space to kind of be in a circle of other women and really just kind of get that more um one-to-one integration and just really kind of being able to show up as a woman that you really want to be connecting to your intuition and um yeah so that's just really kind of a more intimate space and I don't really offer those very much anymore because I've really been kind of taking different approaches and just so much going on right as as a mom and a business owner. So if this does speak to you um there is an application uh you can reach out to me directly and I can send that to you and um yeah I think that's basically it my my um you know my DMs are always open if you ever just want to ask me a question um yeah I'm here so I just want all moms to know that we are so powerful and we are the mothers that our babies chose for us and um we really are imperfectly perfect in their eyes and we really can do no wrong and we just but we have to do the inner work we have to show up and um if we really want our children to to live healthy lives as adults and to be in healthy relationships and have healthy relationships with us as adults like we we have to put in the work and foster that in the early years. And yes there's always room for repair but why not do it now you know why not just put in the effort and the work now because it's I like to say that you're investing in generations and generations like spending to me spending $20,000 to invest in supporting your family is a life it's a lifetime investment and it will reap benefits that you couldn't even imagine. It's so I just I I really would just love to see more more women and even men investing more into their families because it's huge.

SPEAKER_00 35:49

This it's everything I agree completely I feel like unfortunately this world has made us very selfish beings and has broke has taken away from our families um and our children are suffering tremendously right now and they need us more than ever and your work is just beautiful and I think being conscientious about what nervous system is is so important. And I I saw this Instagram like the other day and it was like you know the toddler baby phase is literally 2% of your life and I was like okay well I can suffer a little bit without sleep for 2% of my life you know what I mean I'm gonna I know that these everybody says you know these are the best days of your life you're gonna wish that you know these you know days are are back and I'm like now I I truly believe them. I used to be like yeah right I I'm not getting any sleep right now like yes this is the hardest thing I've ever done yes this you know I yes I'm losing sleep constantly but also it's the most like beautiful thing ever is like these humans are you know I'm getting to craft them like I just think that that's so cool.

SPEAKER_01 37:07

I I miss it so much and I I have the chills right now like it's just yeah to be able to just cherish it and and just be in it and yeah it's everything. Yeah for sure and for me that's yeah I mean I I could have chose to be bitter and angry and just and I chose I chose not to be I I wasn't gonna let you know what somebody else did I wasn't gonna let any of that dictate how I was going to show up in my motherhood. I was not gonna let that let myself or my son be robbed of that and I feel very blessed and grateful that I chose that path because I see a lot of mothers that choose other paths. And um I just yeah I just my hope is just for all moms to just recognize how beautiful this journey is and we just have to find our way along it you know and I believe that we all can it it we all have it's there. It's just a matter of bringing her out and it's possible for every single one of us.

SPEAKER_00 38:17

And well you are such a beautiful soul and thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. And I am sure that this will resonate with a lot of women in I know my audience. So I appreciate your time and I'm sure we will talk soon.

SPEAKER_01 38:37

Yes sounds great thank you