🔥 Forgiveness: The Portal to Your Next-Level Self (Ep. 13)

Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood — and most transformational — spiritual practices on the planet. In this deeply healing episode, Akashic Soul Healer and intuitive guide Nicole Mixdorf breaks down what forgiveness really is, what it isn’t, and why it is the fastest way to reclaim your power, elevate your vibration, and shift the entire trajectory of your life.

You’ll learn:

✨ Why forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person
✨ How old hurts keep you energetically tethered to past experiences
✨ Why your soul chooses certain challenges for evolution and mastery
✨ The difference between resisting your past vs. allowing a new future
✨ How plugged-in energy cords drain your vitality
✨ The spiritual science behind forgiveness at the soul level
✨ Powerful forgiveness prayers and cord-clearing practices
✨ How releasing old wounds instantly elevates your timeline
✨ Why forgiveness frees you from repeating karmic patterns in future lifetimes

This is one of the most important episodes you will ever hear.
 If you are ready to rise, ready to release the weight you’ve been carrying, and ready to become the next version of yourself… forgiveness is the doorway.

Transcript

Welcome back, beautiful soul. This is Nicole Mixdorf, your host. I’m an Akashic Soul Healer, intuitive guide, and a pioneer in the corporate wellness industry.

Today, I want to share something that has had a profound impact on my life: forgiveness.

A lot of people have misconceptions about what forgiveness really is, and they don’t understand the absolute power it holds to completely shift the trajectory and energy of their lives.

I don’t think I was ever someone who clung to grudges just for the sake of it. But I have definitely gone through times in my life when I was wronged, hurt, or wounded, and I held onto those emotions and experiences like armor.

That’s pretty common, especially when people go through traumatic experiences. In my one-on-one Akashic Journey work with clients, I see that people who’ve experienced childhood trauma often find it very hard to forgive. Letting go is a huge piece of forgiveness.

There’s a reason why virtually every major religion and spiritual practice in the world includes forgiveness as a central pillar of self-realization. It’s because forgiveness gives us the opportunity to set ourselves free and completely shift the energy of our lives.

What Forgiveness Is Not

First, let’s talk about what forgiveness isn’t, because this is where many people get tripped up.

Forgiveness does not mean you’re letting someone off the hook for what they did. It doesn’t mean what happened was okay. It doesn’t mean the other person deserves forgiveness. It doesn’t mean you have to reconcile, reconnect, or invite them back into your life.

Forgiveness actually isn’t about the other person at all.

Forgiveness is simply your decision that you have suffered enough from an old wound. It’s your choice to put it down, let it go, and be done with it.

Forgiveness is a big part of the clearing work that I do in Akashic Healing Journeys. I’ve experienced forgiveness on so many levels — in my own life and in the lives of my clients. I’ve watched how it transforms people because it gives you a completely different way of seeing the world. It’s incredibly empowering.

In fact, forgiveness is one of the most powerful ways you get your power back.

That might sound counterintuitive. When someone harms you, it can feel like holding on to anger, frustration, and resentment is a way of “sticking it to them.” You might feel like, “I’m not going to let them get away with this,” and cling to the grudge as if it protects you.

But all that actually does is cause you pain.

Holding on to resentment keeps you energetically connected to the person who harmed you. And personally, the people who have harmed me are not people I want to stay connected to.

So forgiveness becomes the doorway to reclaim your power over your own life. It allows you to release the people, circumstances, and situations that are still draining you emotionally and energetically.

Energetic Cords and Old Wounds

When we go through a deep, painful experience with someone — especially trauma — we create an energetic cord with that person. You can imagine it like a little hook in you, connected by a cord to a little hook in them.

Your energy is still tied to each other.

You may also have a cord connecting you to the situation itself — the actual traumatic event. So not only are you connected to the person, you’re connected to the experience.

If those cords stay intact, your energy is continually draining into that situation. All of the unresolved emotions tangled up in it — sadness, pain, fear, disappointment, anger, rage, frustration — stay active within your field. You’re still connected to those frequencies, and the entire situation continues to live inside of you, affecting your well-being and how you feel about yourself.

From every experience, we create belief systems about ourselves, about other people, and about the world. These beliefs are shaped by what we decided to make those experiences mean.

Through healing work, we have a beautiful opportunity to explore what we are ready to be done with — what we are ready to release — and what we absolutely cannot carry forward into where we’re going next.

Anytime you are ready to level up in your life, you have to let something go. You cannot take all the baggage, heaviness, and pain with you. It has to stay in the past. And one of the fastest ways to do that is through forgiveness.

Forgiveness is choosing your peace over staying attached to the old story. It’s deciding that you deserve to move forward.

You Can’t Change the Past, But You Can Change Your Relationship to It

Something that happened decades ago — or even a few days ago — is still the past. It already happened. You can’t go back and change it, no matter how much you might want to.

What you can change is whether you keep reliving it.

You get to decide: do you want to keep holding onto that wound and replaying it over and over again, or are you done? Are you ready to put it down? Are you ready to say, “I’ve suffered enough. I don’t need to suffer anymore.”

That is the gift that forgiveness offers.

It’s the choice to have a different life, to leave the pain behind, to gather the wisdom your soul was meant to integrate from the situation, and then release the rest. That’s how you become a new, lighter version of yourself.

When we hold onto grievances and hurt, it blocks us from being who we truly want to be. It keeps us in a state of resistance.

At any given time, you are either in the energy of resistance or the energy of allowing. You cannot be in both.

If you’re resisting reality — saying, “I hate this, this shouldn’t have happened, this isn’t fair” — you’re fighting against what is. And when you hold onto old pain because you’re afraid to feel it, or because you feel righteous in your anger, or because you’ve wrapped your identity around being the one who was wronged, that is resistance.

And here’s the thing: when you’re in resistance in one area of your life, it spills over into every area of your life. That resistance blocks the flow.

When you let go, you shift into allowing. You surrender. You accept that something painful happened, you acknowledge that it was wrong or unfair, and you say:

“I’m not going to let this define my life anymore.”

You don’t have to feel good about what happened. You don’t have to approve of it. But you can choose to stop holding the supercharged emotional energy around it.

You can’t change what happened, but you can change how you choose to relate to it now.

The Soul Perspective: Why Nothing Is Random

In my Akashic work, I help clients uncover the root cause of the challenges they’re experiencing — whether it’s repeated conflict with a particular person, an abusive situation, a pattern that keeps replaying, or feeling unable to fully express their voice.

Nothing is random. And I know that can be hard to accept.

We are souls having a human experience. On a soul level, we want to experience the full spectrum of being alive. That includes love, joy, and bliss — but also pain, heartbreak, betrayal, and anger.

Why? Because each of these experiences offers a lesson, an opportunity for mastery, and a chance for our soul to evolve.

Before we are born, we create soul contracts with other souls. We agree to meet each other, to catalyze each other, to teach each other specific lessons, or to activate purpose within each other.

Sometimes that activation comes through someone being the “villain” in your story, doing harsh or painful things. That pain might be exactly what pushes you to finally stand up for yourself, find your voice, leave an unhealthy situation, or step into your power.

If we don’t learn the lesson in one lifetime, the pattern continues. We get more opportunities — sometimes with the same souls in different roles — until we finally get it.

A big part of breaking that cycle involves taking a new action… and the other big part is forgiveness.

Forgiveness at the Soul Level

When I work with clients and we uncover the root source of a challenge — perhaps past lives where they were silenced, or childhood experiences where their voice was dismissed — those experiences leave a wound.

At the end of a session, we do an energy clearing. We clear unresolved soul contracts, untether old energetic cords, dissolve limiting belief systems, and then we offer forgiveness at the soul level.

When you forgive at the level of the soul, you transcend the pattern. You don’t just understand it mentally; you resolve it.

And while you don’t have to work in the Akashic Records to practice forgiveness, doing this work at the soul level is incredibly powerful. It creates deep, lasting shifts.

But you can absolutely practice forgiveness in your daily life and see profound changes in how you feel, how you relate to others, and how you move through the world.

There are layers to forgiveness:

• Forgiving others for the harm they’ve caused you
• Forgiving yourself for harm you’ve caused others
• Forgiving yourself for the harm you’ve caused yourself
• Forgiving yourself for forgiving everyone else

And when you truly mean it — when you decide, “I am genuinely ready to be done with this” — everything changes.

The Weight You Didn’t Know You Were Carrying

When you forgive, it’s like putting down a massive boulder that’s been sitting on your chest. You may not even realize how heavy it has been because you’re so used to carrying it.

But once you finally put it down, the feeling is magic.

You feel lighter. Freer. Clearer.

And it does not matter whether the other person “deserves” it. They have their own karma to resolve. They have their own healing to do in this life or the next.

If they don’t figure it out in this lifetime, they’ll have to re-experience those lessons again in another one. But they do not have to do it with you.

If you don’t forgive, you’ll likely keep replaying similar dynamics with the same souls across multiple lifetimes. I see this over and over again in the Records — people having five or six lifetimes with the same person, repeating the same issue because they never resolved it.

When you choose to resolve it, you set yourself free. You no longer have to repeat that pattern or play that role again. That is how you reclaim your power.

Forgiveness Doesn’t Require Contact

Let’s say there’s someone in your life with whom you had a falling out. You haven’t spoken in many years. Maybe the situation was toxic. Maybe it was deeply painful.

Sometimes you absolutely need boundaries for your mental and emotional well-being. Distance can be necessary and healthy.

Choosing to forgive them does not mean you have to call them. It doesn’t mean you have to reopen the relationship, hash things out, or have a big conversation.

Forgiveness is an internal decision:
“I am done carrying this. I am letting this go.”

Forgiveness Prayers and Mantras

I practice forgiveness through prayers and mantras, and I want to share a few with you because they are so powerful.

One of the energy healers I’ve had the honor of working with is Howard Wills. I actually interviewed him on one of my podcast episodes, so if you haven’t listened to that yet, I highly recommend it. He works with the light and has channeled beautiful forgiveness prayers that have helped many people receive miracle healings.

You can download his prayers for free at his website, howardwills.com.

He says the words are so high vibrational that if you read them three to five times a day, they can heal your body on a cellular level. And I believe that wholeheartedly.

Here is one of his simplest prayers. You can replace the word “God” with whatever resonates with you — Source, Creator, Universe, Jesus, Angels, Higher Power:

“God, please help me forgive all people,
 and all people forgive me.
 Help us all forgive each other and forgive ourselves.
 Be at peace with each other, be at peace with ourselves.
 Love each other and love ourselves now and forever.
 Thank you, thank you, thank you. Amen.”

Simple. Beautiful. Profound.

There are more elaborate prayers on his website, but even this one, done daily with intention, is incredibly powerful.

Another forgiveness prayer I use with my clients is:

“I hereby forgive and release anyone or anything that has hurt me, consciously or unconsciously, from all timelines, dimensions, lifetimes, and realities.
 And I hereby forgive and release anyone or anything that I have hurt, consciously or unconsciously, from all timelines, dimensions, lifetimes, and realities.
 And I choose to forgive myself for forgiving those who have hurt me.
 And I choose to forgive myself for the choices I have made that have hurt me.
 And I choose to release anything, conscious or unconscious, from all timelines, dimensions, lifetimes, and realities.
 Thank you, thank you, thank you.
 By my will, so it is.”

When you say this and truly mean it, the energy shifts in an instant.

A Visualization Practice for Cutting Cords

Dolores Cannon, a pioneer in hypnotherapy who did amazing work around soul contracts and past lives, also talks a lot about forgiveness.

Here’s a simple visualization, inspired by that kind of work, that you can do to release energy cords with a person or situation.

1. Bring the person to mind.
   Imagine them standing in front of you.
2. See the cord between you.
   Visualize the energetic cord connecting you — like a plug going from your body into theirs, and another coming back to you.
3. Speak your intention.
   You might say something like:
   “I choose to be done with this pain. I no longer choose to carry this with me.
   I choose to release you. I choose to forgive you.
   I choose to tear up the contract that we had with each other because it is no longer working.
   I’m going to let you go your way, and I’m going to go my way, with love.
   I wish you the best, that you become the best version of yourself.
   And I am going to become the best version of myself.”
4. Unplug the cord.
   Imagine unplugging the cord from both of you. The plugs dissolve.
5. Seal the openings.
   I like to rub my hands together, call in light, and imagine sealing the openings with love and light — on both ends.
6. Release them.
   Say, “I release you now. I choose to be done with this now. I forgive you and I am done.”
7. Watch them fade away.
   Visualize them drifting further and further away until they become smaller and smaller and eventually disappear from your awareness.

This practice sets you free.

Energetic Hygiene: Unplugging Before Bed

Energetically, it’s powerful to unplug your cords before you go to sleep. Every time you speak with someone or interact with someone, you create energy cords.

When those cords remain plugged in, they can drain you.

So at night, you can imagine gathering up all the plugs — all the cords connecting you to people and situations — and unplugging them from yourself. Then, if you wish, you can imagine plugging them into Source or God, so that the energy is transmuted and returned to love.

Then, seal the openings in your own field with light and love, affirming:

“I am free. I am sovereign in my own energy field.”

This way, no one else’s energy is draining you while you sleep.

Making Forgiveness a Daily Practice

If you are on a forgiveness path, I highly recommend practicing forgiveness prayers daily.

They don’t have to be “spiritual” in any particular way. You can choose language that feels neutral to you. What matters most is your intention — that you truly mean it, that you genuinely want to be done carrying that pain.

If you say even a simple prayer every day like:

“Please help me forgive all people,
 and all people forgive me.
 Help us all forgive each other and forgive ourselves.
 Be at peace with each other and be at peace with ourselves.
 Love each other and love ourselves.
 Thank you, thank you, thank you.”

You will notice a difference.

You will start to feel lighter, less connected to heavy, dense energy. You’ll find more clarity, inspiration, creativity, and new opportunities showing up in your life.

The moment you release old wounds, you elevate yourself.

Every layer of healing releases you into a higher vibration. You become more connected to your intuition and your true sense of self. You create space for new blessings to arrive.

Questioning Old Beliefs and Choosing New Ones

Forgiveness also gives you a chance to examine the beliefs formed through painful experiences.

Ask yourself:

• What did this experience make me believe about myself?
• What did it make me believe about life or the world?
• Who would I be if I let go of this pain?

Common beliefs might sound like:
 “I’m not worthy.”
 “I’m not good enough.”
 “I’m unlovable.”

These are never the truth. They are just conclusions we drew in moments of pain.

Once you bring those beliefs into awareness, you can question them:

“Is this actually true?”
 “Can I absolutely know this is true?”

The answer is always no.

You can then open yourself up to seeing things in a different way. One of my favorite prayers from Amanda Frances is:

“God, please help me see this in a different way.”

You can use whatever word for the Divine resonates with you, but the essence is the same: you’re asking to be shown a new perspective.

When you receive a new way of seeing, you can then ask:

• What’s a more empowering belief?
• What belief would feel better to hold?
• What truth do I want to anchor into my mind and heart?

And then you begin to work with that new belief.

Mindset work and tools like EFT tapping are beautiful and powerful for reprogramming the brain. But when you work at the level of the soul — like in the Akashic Records — the reprogramming is instantaneous. It’s like your inner operating system is rewritten in that moment.

Becoming the Next Version of You

Every time I clear something from my own Akashic Records — when I release belief systems, unplug tethers and energy cords, dissolve soul contracts that are no longer serving me, and offer forgiveness — I feel like a different person afterward.

I call in a new way of being, a new pattern, a new vibration.

My life has transformed in the most beautiful, miraculous ways, even though I’ve gone through a lot of pain and challenges. I truly feel blessed. I am surrounded by people who love me, support me, and believe in me.

That didn’t happen by accident. I intentionally call in positive experiences and connections. The more I’ve let go of dense heaviness and old pain, the easier it has become to stay in a high vibration where high-vibration people and experiences can find me.

All of the things we hold on to — resentment, anger, hurt — are just weight. They lower our frequency and keep us stuck.

If you’re at a point in your journey where you’re ready to level up your life — whether you want more success, deeper love, better health, or more joy — ask yourself:

“What am I willing to let go of first?”
 “What old wound has been holding me back?”
 “What version of me do I need to release to become the next version of me?”

Because the version of you who has been carrying all of that pain… cannot come with you into your next chapter.

To become the 2.0 version of yourself, some things have to be left behind.

Forgiveness is how you put them down.

The Invitation

So, beautiful soul, I invite you to practice forgiveness in your daily life.

It doesn’t have to be complicated. You can:

• Use the prayers from Howard Wills at howardwills.com
• Use the forgiveness prayer I shared with you
• Visualize unplugging cords and sealing them with light
• Ask to see your experiences in a new way
• Gently release old beliefs that are no longer true

Make forgiveness intentional. Make it sacred.

And then just notice what begins to shift in your life — how your energy lightens, how you feel more like yourself, and how new possibilities begin to appear.

There is so much healing available through forgiveness.

You deserve that freedom.
 You deserve that peace.
 You deserve to feel light in your body and soul.

Thank you for being here with me today.