🐍 You’re Not Stuck… You’re Just Living From an Old Identity

What if you’re not actually stuck…
but simply operating from an outdated version of yourself?

In this powerful solo episode, I’m diving deep into identity work—the real reason your life, your results, and your reality haven’t shifted (yet)… even when you know you’re meant for more.

Because here’s the truth most people miss:

👉 You don’t change your life by doing more
👉 You change your life by becoming a different version of yourself

I share a deeply personal moment where I caught myself slipping back into scarcity, fear, and old patterns—and how one conscious decision shifted everything.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
✨ Why you’re not stuck (even if it feels that way)
✨ How your identity is shaping your reality—every single day
✨ The simple daily question that can start changing your life immediately
✨ Why the external world is a mirror of your internal state
✨ How to release the old version of you that’s holding you back
✨ What it really means to “step into your next-level self”

This isn’t about becoming someone new…
It’s about becoming more of who you truly are.

And when that shift happens?
Everything changes.

💫 If you’re ready to rise into your next-level self, stay tuned for my upcoming 8-week live experience: RISE—where we go deep into clearing, activating, and embodying the identity you’re meant to live from.

Transcript

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You're not stuck, you're just operating from an old identity. And until that shifts, nothing else will. In this episode, I'm going to show you how to shift that and rise into your next level self. Welcome to heal with Nicole Mixdorf. Let the journey begin. Welcome back, beautiful soul. I'm Nicole Mixdorf, your host. I am an Akashic light healer and intuitive guide. And we're diving deep into identity work today and what it really means to rise into a new version of yourself. You have probably had multiple versions of your own identity throughout your life. The easy ones for us to connect to is the identity we had as a child, as an adolescent, as a teenager, our young adult self in our 20s. We were a certain way. And we start to shift a little bit later in our lives, in our 40s. And although I'm 47 right now, I'm sure I will go through multiple more identities as I continue to age and blossom into who I am in my life. And the truth is we shift identities from time to time because of the beliefs that we hold, because of the energy that we choose to embody at any certain time on our path, and because of who we decide that we actually want to be in any given moment, how we want to interact with others, how we want to really show up in the world. All of that impacts who we are and who we choose to be. And oftentimes I find that people get a little bit stuck around this concept of identity. They think that they're just the same always. And that's not true. We are constantly evolving. We're growing. Well, hopefully we're growing on our path. I definitely embrace the concept of always growing and making myself better and learning and expanding. Although sometimes we feel a little stuck. And that's okay too. We might go through different periods in our life where we feel a little more held back and sort of stuck in patterns that are repeating themselves. And in other times in our life, we might go through a growth phase. And it's the same thing that happened when we were kids, right? We had little growth phases in our lives where we grew a lot and then we were stable for a while, and then we grow a lot, and then we're stable and then we're grow, et cetera. And it stays the same as we're adults. We're just not really aware of it because our bodies aren't shifting in the same way. It's really on a subtler, deeper level that we get into the details of identity, who we're choosing to be, how we're showing up in the world. And a big part of that is within our own power. We don't realize how much power we actually hold over our own lived experience because it's really easy to get caught up in the day-to-day of life where you work, work, work, work, work all day. You have a little bit of downtime in your evenings, and you go to sleep, you wake up and you rinse and repeat over and over again. And one day kind of turns into the next, and that turns into a week, into a month, into a year, and then you bat your eyes, and suddenly it's been 10 years and you're still doing the same thing you were doing before, going, What happened to my life? And if you've ever been in that position before, I'm gonna challenge you a little bit to really think about whether or not you're happy with the path that you're on right now. Because I genuinely believe that it's our birthright to be happy, that we have it within our own ability to shift our circumstances. And of course, there are circumstances that are easier to shift, and there's ones that are a lot harder. There are some things that are in our control and some things that are not in our control. And I think a lot of people sometimes can get wrapped up in the notion that they have no control over their life. When in reality, it's the exact opposite. We have complete control over our lives. We make decisions all day long, every single day, every moment of every day. We just don't realize the power and the control that we're actually wielding over our own life. We can decide that we're going to change ourselves. We're going to change our life. One of the easiest practices for that is asking yourself in the morning, who do I want to be today? What version of myself do I want to show up as today? Whatever way you're feeling internally is going to follow you throughout your day. It's going to influence how you show up, the things that you do, the things that you say, the things that you think, and the way that you feel. So you can take control of that by asking yourself every morning, how do I want to feel today? I'll tell you from my own experience that when you are intentional about what it is that you're wanting for yourself, how you want to show up today, what experience you want to have, how you want to be, what version of yourself you're going to embody in any given moment, it changes the results that you have in the day. And I'll give you a little story. So there was a period where everything just felt constricted for me. I went through some challenges in my health. There were some financial struggles that were happening where everything just was really tight in a way that was not normal for us. It was not something that I was accustomed to and it was very uncomfortable. And things, it felt like things were stacking up, bills were stacking up, where's the money going to come from? And that takes you into this energy of scarcity. And I don't enjoy the energy of scarcity. I don't think anybody really does. And I've done a lot of work over the years on how to release those energetic connections I had to scarcity, those stories that were ingrained in me from childhood, from past lifetimes, things that I inherited through my family lineage, different money blocks, different wounds. I've worked through them all. And yet the scarcity was coming in. The fear was coming in, like, ooh, I don't think I could pay for that. Ooh, I don't know that I should do this. Ooh, where's this going to come from? And it kind of sets you into this spiral. And I had a moment where I was feeling overwhelmed by that and feeling really stressed. And so I went outside and I sat with this big beautiful tree. And I just felt into everything that needed to be felt. I felt into the worry. I felt the fear. I felt the doubt. I felt the lack. I felt the scarcity. I felt all of that. And I cried and I just cried it out because it needed to come out of me. And then I sat there and I started thinking, okay, what am I going to do about this? And nothing was coming to my mind. And whenever that happens, it's a signal for me to surrender. It's time for me to let it go and give it up to God, goddess, universe, whatever you want to use, that I need them to solve this for me. I give this to you. Bless me with creative solutions. Bless me with the right path forward. Please help elevate my vibration. Please help elevate how I'm feeling. Please help me rise into the version of me that I know I am, not this version of me that I've done so much work around healing and clearing and releasing. And in that moment, something shifted. And I realized and remembered that I get to choose who I'm embodying in any given time, that I get to decide how I am going to interact with the world, what my vibration gets to be, what I am an energetic match for. And so I decided that I was going to let that go. That I wasn't going to revert back into that small version of myself where I hide. I'm not going to revert back into that version of myself that feels lack, that's doubting herself, that's blaming herself, that's feeling like a failure, that is holding shame. I'm not going to go back and be that woman again. That's not who I am. You see, I chose in that moment to rise into who I truly am, which is an infinite source of abundance. I am the abundance. Because when we play in these higher realms that I get to play in all the time as an Akashic Healer, I have the beautiful ability to tap into the real oneness of all that is. And when I get those little glimpses, those little moments of connection, it's like, of course, I live in the field of infinite possibilities. Of course, I can just choose something because I choose it. It gets to be mine because I decided. The moment I embody the energy, the moment that I rise into that version of reality, that version of me, the external world will start to reflect it back. Because everything starts on the inside. And the world that we see on the outside is merely a mirror. It is a reflection of how we are feeling and who we are embodying on the inside. If on the outside you are experiencing frustration, difficulties, challenges in your health, relationship conflicts. That is all a reflection of what's happening in your inner world. It's just information. And when you change your inner world, you change your outer world. That's the way it works. And we just don't realize it because we say, okay, I want to do this thing, but oh, I need the money to be able to do the thing. So I'm going to wait until the world shows me the money and I'm holding it in my hand before I say yes, that I can do the thing. You'll wait forever because it's not going to show up. It will show up the moment you make the decision that you want to do the thing. The moment the decision is made, that is when the universe rearranges itself to support you. So in that moment, sitting at the tree, crying my eyes out, feeling sorry for myself, and then finally deciding that I don't want to be that version of me anymore. That I've done a lot of healing work to release those belief systems, those old programs, those old stories. Why is this test coming up? And it made me realize it was a test. It's testing me to see, like, I've chosen a new identity. I've chosen a new version of me. I've chosen to elevate myself in a new way. So life is going to now present me an opportunity to double down and decide am I really rising into this new version? Or am I going to fall back into the old version of me? And the moment that I realized it, everything changed. I decided, no, I am not going to be the small version of me anymore. I'm not going to be the version of me that hides. I'm not going to be the version of me that feels sorry for herself and all of that. No, that's not who I am anymore. And I'm going to burn through all of that, all those energetic connections. And I'm grateful that I have the ability to do energy clearing. And so I was like, nope, I'm clearing that energy out and I'm rising into who I know I am, which is of infinite abundance, because we live in an abundant universe that there's infinite available to us always. We just have to claim it. We just have to get out of our own way to receive it. That's really it. We just block ourselves from the greatest things that can happen to us. Because if we just were free of all of the old programming, the old beliefs, the old wounds, those heavy burdens, all of the old traumas, all the things that we carry that hold us down, that energetically drain us and make us believe things that are not even true, then we actually get to be who we are. So when you step into a new identity, it's not that you're becoming a new version of yourself. It's that you're releasing what's gotten in the way of you actually being who you are. Because you are infinite. You can have whatever you desire. You just simply have to get all the little pieces out of the way that are blocking you from being that true expression of who you are. So when I talk about doing identity work, it's really not about becoming a new version of you. It's about becoming more you than you've been. It's about becoming the true you that you actually are. And you can choose it at any time. So I chose in that moment to rise into my truth, to know who I am, to know that I'm a badass, to know that I am successful, to know that I have so much experience, that I get to have and do and be whatever it is that I want to be, that the light shines through me so brightly that I know my value, that I know my worth, that I know that everything I put out into this world is of high service. And it's valuable and it's worth money. Everything that I do has a value attached to it, just like everything you do has a value attached to it. And the moment that you own it, that you own your magic that lives inside of you, and you know that what you are sharing is a gift for the people that are ready to receive it and they're grateful for it, and it fills you up to give it like that, that there, that's pure magic. That's rising into a higher version of you, a version of you that is more you, and you can do that anytime. It's just a matter of getting clearer about what you are done with, what you are done being held back by, what you are ready to let go of. What are the patterns and the blocks and the belief systems and the emotional imprints that are holding you down and keeping you playing small and keeping you from really embodying all that you can be, all that you really are. Because the moment you decide who you're gonna be, how you're gonna show up, what version of you is coming to dinner tonight, that's when everyone else will feel that energetic shift within you. And people will start to respond to you in new ways, everything will start to change. It's a subtle shift, but it's a powerful one. And you are in charge of what identity you are going to have. So if there's anything, anything at all in your life that you're desiring for yourself, you want bigger financial goals, you've got certain things that you want to accomplish, a project that you want to launch, a thing you want to do, something you want to have, a certain experience, whatever it is. If there's something on your heart that you desire, you simply have to embody the version of you that's capable of holding it. Because the truth is, if you were capable of holding it, you would already have it. So you need to ask yourself, how am I blocking myself from this right now? What part of me is not aligned with this thing that I'm desiring for myself? In what ways do I not feel worthy of it? What are the beliefs that are telling me that I can't have it? Because those are the things that are in your way, but those are also the keys to your liberation. That is what is going to set you free, my friend. As soon as you can do the inner reflection to identify, to uncover what is there sitting in your way, what's the block? Now you know what you can do. Now you have the ability to be able to work through it and integrate what needs to integrate and heal what needs to heal and release what needs to be released and activate what needs to activate so that you can actually rise and become it. There's always something from where you are to where you want to be. There's like a block. What's blocking me? It's often fear, it's often belief systems, but those fear and belief systems are connected into experiences that your soul had along the journey. Those might be from your childhood, they might be from last year, they might be from another lifetime, they might be something that you inherited through your family lineage, and it's a generational wound that's impacting a lot of people in your family line. There's so many potential places where the origin of it is, but you have the ability within yourself to really pinpoint where did this start? What is the actual source of this? And I'll tell you that when you heal something at its energetic source, at the actual root where something began, it all of a sudden no longer exists in your life. It's gone. That old programming, that old way of being, those old stories, they're just don't exist anymore. And that sets you free to rise up and be who you came here to be, to have the life that you actually want to have, to have the freedom that you've been longing for, to have the confidence to go for your dreams. It's about becoming the version of you that's capable of holding it. And you are more than capable of all of that. You are capable of having everything that your heart desires. All you have to do is get your head on straight about what it is that you believe is possible for you. If you believe it's possible for you, you are halfway there. So we have to look at our mindset. We have to look at those belief systems. What is it that is getting in the way and what is that connected to? What are the emotional wounds and imprints that we're holding in our body that's like dead weight that we're carrying around? What is the energy that needs to shift? And at that deepest level, on a spiritual level, where did something begin? Who can I become? What is my purpose? What am I here to do? Because when you connect into that, anything becomes possible. And it's a miracle, truly. I love being able to do this type of identity work with people where they get to become more of who they are. Where I literally get to see from one akoshic journey to the next that they are a different version of themselves. Because those old things and that old programming and that old way of being, we healed it. We released it. We integrated, it's gone. And you got to activate what was missing so that you could become more you, that you get to step into your own wholeness, that you get to just be all of you, and you get to show up in the world in a new way. And an enlightened, uplifted, new way of being. And that is power. That's how you change your life. You change your life by becoming a new version of yourself, a more aligned version of yourself. That's all it really takes. You have to have the desire to want to shift something. And if you have any desires on your heart of something that you want, yeah, that's great. Go for it. But what are you willing to let go of in order to get it? Because you have to let go of the old identity. You have to allow it to fall away and die so that you can really emerge and become who you're meant to be. Over the course of this last year, I leaned deep into the energy of the snake. I shed those layers of my identity. I shed those layers of who I was because I was ready to rise publicly as a healer instead of healing people in secret, which I had been doing for years out of fear of judgment, out of fear of being seen. But I needed to go through that. I needed to uncover those blocks in my life. I needed to heal those wounded pieces within myself. Because without doing that, I couldn't rise. There was no way for me to show up. And so I decided that I was done with that. That it was time for me to rise, that it was time for me to be who I came here to be, to do the work that I decided before I was born that I was going to come into this life and do. And that involved me having to allow the old version of Nicole to fall away. And it's not glamorous work. It can be, you know, a little bit intense sometimes, but it is the most rewarding thing I've ever done, ever. And the freedom that comes when you get to be all of you, when you are no longer afraid to show up as your whole self, that's everything. That's everything. And all I want to do is help everyone else rise too. So watch out for my new program that's coming out. It's called Rise, where I guide you through eight weeks of beautiful healing and clearing experiences where we get to do activations and you get to become who you came here to be. You get to release the blocks that have been holding you back, the things that have been weighing you down, so that you can invite greater ease, greater flow, greater joy, more love into your life. Step into your power, step into your truth, step into your voice to feel safe in the process of doing that, to tap into your purpose, to know what you came here to do, so that you can truly rise into your next level self. It's a beautiful gift when you get to choose on purpose how you're going to show up in life. And that dictates the experience that you get to have every single day. And no matter what's happening in your life right now, you have the power, you have the ability to shift it in any way that you want to. You have to believe it, but you have the power. It's yours. It resides inside of you. And I'm so grateful for the opportunity to guide you on your path forward to rise into your 2.0. Thank you so much for joining me on Healed with Nicole Mixdorf. If today's episode inspired you, please take a moment to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who's on a healing journey too. And be sure to follow me on Instagram at Nicole Mixdorf for more inspiration, healing tools, and to find out about my program. Remember, you have the power within you to create a life of balance, vitality, and joy. Until next time, stay grounded, stay open, and stay chilled.