✨ What Your Emotions Are Trying to Tell You (Ep.39)

What if your emotions aren't problems to fix... but messages to understand?

In this powerful episode of HEALED, Nicole shares a profound divine download she received during meditation about the deeper meaning behind emotions and what they may be trying to teach us.

Rather than viewing emotions as something to suppress, avoid, or "get rid of," Nicole explores how emotions can serve as signposts—guiding us back toward healing, truth, alignment, and self-awareness.

In this episode, you'll discover the spiritual meaning behind:

• Sadness
• Grief
• Anger
• Revenge & Vengeance
• Guilt
• Anxiety
• Depression

You'll learn why emotions arise, how trauma can become trapped in the body, why emotional suppression creates suffering, and how to work with your emotions instead of against them.

Nicole also shares simple practices to help emotions move through the body, including breathwork, shaking, movement, and nervous system regulation techniques.

If you've ever struggled with overwhelming emotions, anxiety, grief, or feeling disconnected from yourself, this episode offers a new perspective that may completely change the way you relate to your emotional world.

Your emotions are not your enemy.

They may be your soul's way of guiding you home.

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Transcript

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Welcome to heal with Nicole Mixdorf. Let the journey begin. Welcome back, beautiful soul. I'm your host, Nicole Mixdorf. I am an Akashic Light Healer and a transformational guide. And today we are going to talk about the meaning of emotions. Now, emotions arise throughout our day. We are constantly feeling different emotions. And oftentimes we find ourselves running away from our emotions, trying not to feel our emotions, because we can sometimes feel overwhelmed by them. And society teaches us a lot about emotions. And so do our caregivers, our parents, all the people that we were raised around. So as we grow up in our lives, we really learn our own level and degree of emotional intelligence based off of what we were modeled as children, whether we were safe to feel our emotions or not. And as a corporate wellness executive that has worked with leaders and high-performing professionals for 14 years and taught a lot about emotions and how to process emotions, I will tell you that most people that I encounter do not know how to effectively process their emotions. And I think that's one of the biggest challenges that we are facing in society today is that nobody actually teaches us how to process our emotions, how to deal with our emotions, how to move them out of our bodies rather than suppressing them. Because emotions are energy in motion. They're meant to be felt and released. They're meant to flow through us, not get stuck inside of us. But when we don't allow ourselves to fully feel our emotions, that's when they get stuck. That's when we bury them inside of us. But an emotion is a frequency. It's alive. And just because we're not feeling it now, just because we're pushing it away, shoving it down, distracting ourselves from it, doesn't mean it goes away. It stays inside of our body. It settles into our tissues where it emits a frequency and it can create dis-ease over time. So it's really important to give ourselves permission to feel everything that needs to be felt. Often a big part of healing is truly just allowing ourselves to actually feel what we haven't given ourselves permission to feel. Because when something happens to us, especially if it was something difficult or painful, a trauma of some kind, we don't give ourselves full permission to process it. Either because we were a child and we didn't have the brain development to fully understand it. Maybe it was just so traumatic that we couldn't feel it out of protection, out of survival, out of self-preservation, we disconnected from it. We hid ourselves. We created walls around our heart space so that we don't feel because feeling is too much. Feeling isn't safe. And those are the belief systems that get created from those kinds of situations. I can't tell you how often when I'm working with clients in their Akashic Records, that I feel and sense a barrier around their heart space, almost like armor that's built up around it, that is preventing them from fully feeling because it wasn't safe for them to feel. Somewhere along the line, they got hurt so deeply that they put a wall up around their heart because they didn't want to continue getting hurt. And that's when we're not able to fully access everything that it is to be alive. Because to be alive is to feel. We choose to come into this life to know what it's like to be human, to know what it's like to be alive and have this amazing range of emotions that we get to feel inside of us. Remember, we are not a body with a soul. We are a soul choosing to have a human experience in a body so that we can experience ourselves. Because that's the purpose of life. We are consciousness, and life is the opportunity for consciousness to experience itself in a visceral way, which is beautiful. So when it really comes down to it, your emotions are the way that your body and your intuition, your soul speaks to you. You connect through the body, you connect to your own soul through the physical form. And the biggest way that our soul speaks to us is through our emotions. We can't control all the thoughts happening all day long. We have 60,000 thoughts a day. That's way too much to monitor. But we can monitor how we're feeling throughout the day, what emotions are arising. And our emotions are not something for us to try to get rid of or try to fix. Our emotions are information, powerful insights about what's happening in our life, if we're facing the right direction, or if we're going against what we're actually here to do. So instead of running from your emotions, instead of feeling that anxiety is the worst thing and I need it to go away, or depression is the worst thing and I need it to just go away, that it's a problem, it's time to really understand what it's actually trying to tell you, because it all has powerful information that can guide you back to your true nature, to your true essence, which is love. We are love. The frequency of unconditional love is what you're made of. We come from that divine union that creates. You have masculine and feminine energy that come together and create divine union. And that's where life gets to come into this world. It is the frequency of unconditional love. That is the light. That is your soul, that is your divinity that lives inside of you. That's what it is. Your actual nature is to be love because that's who you are. So all of these other experiences of emotions are often just showing us where we've actually disconnected from love, where we're not in alignment with the truth of who we are, which is so powerful. So when we really look at it, sadness, for example, is when we're disconnected from that sense of self, when we're disconnected from what we love. Sadness is showing up because it's showing us what we most want, what we most need, what we most care about. That's what sadness is showing us. When you're sad, when you see something horrible happen, it's because you care about those people, right? When something happens in your own life that it just makes you sad, it's because you care. So sadness is really showing you the depth of how much you care. It's showing you the depth of your own love. So, for example, when you love another person, you are in divine union with that person. You are connecting to their soul, to the light within their soul. Your light, your love is connecting to their light, their love, and you are becoming one in that moment of love. So when you feel love for someone you care about in your life, or a dog, or a tree, or a place, or yourself, it doesn't matter what it is, it could be a hobby, a thing that you just love to do, a passion in your life, you are in divine union with it. That is pure connection. And you're in union with the essence of it. So when we are in a state of loss, it's because we feel that that connection has been severed, that we, that we're disconnected from that love. So when we lose a loved one, for example, and we're in the depth of grief, the grief is actually showing us how deeply we actually love. And the way that you get through it is by coming back to the love. You see, I always thought that grief was something you just have to navigate yourself through. I've lost a lot of close people to me. I lost three babies, I lost my sweet daddy, I lost my grandparents, I lost a lot of loss in a really short window of time. And it was overwhelming for me because it I just felt like sad that they weren't there with me when I wanted them there. But what I understand now, when I had this amazing divine download, this insight that came through in a meditation, is that grief is just trying to show us that we've disconnected to love and it's trying to bring us back to the love. So, yes, the grief is also bringing up the sadness because there's something that we need to feel. Don't run from it. Allow yourself to feel it. Allow yourself to have it flow through, but then allow yourself to go back to the love. Remind yourself how much you love that person. Connect into their essence, their soul. Because you didn't love their body, you loved their soul. And their soul, their spirit is still available to you. The love that you have is still alive. It's not gone, even though their body is gone, even though there's a breakup, or even though you lost something important to you. It's not really gone. The essence of it is still alive. So connect into the love of how much you love them afterwards. You will feel better. Because we're not meant to have everything stay stable throughout our whole life. Everything is constantly in motion. Things are constantly changing all the time. People are not meant to stick around with us from the start all the way to the end. We lose people somewhere along the journey. And that's okay, but the love can remain the entire time if you choose to come back to it. So if you find yourself in the depth of grief right now, first of all, I honor you. And I honor how much you allowed yourself to experience love. Because if you have been in grief, it's because you loved. So I invite you to just come back to that love. You'll feel so much better afterwards. Now, anger arises when we weren't feeling seen, when we weren't feeling heard, when we weren't feeling understood, when we weren't feeling respected, or when our boundaries were crossed. So when any of those experiences happen, that's when anger rises within us. So when you notice yourself feeling angry, or you find yourself feeling angry a lot, that's an opportunity. That anger rising, that's a trigger, that's an information for you to ask yourself, how am I not being seen or heard or understood or respected? Where were my boundaries crossed? And it might be in that moment that one of those things happened. Or it could be reminding you about an earlier experience around a similar theme or topic that it's reminding you of when you weren't seen, heard, understood, respected, or your boundaries were crossed in the past. And that's information so that you can understand what the anger is actually trying to tell you, it's trying to show you that. And so that's your opportunity to dive within and say, okay, so if I wasn't seen, if I wasn't heard, how can I meet that need, that unmet need that I have? How can I start meeting that for myself? Or how can I start interacting in a little bit of a different way so that I can feel more seen, more heard, more understood? How can I share more powerfully what my boundaries are? And maybe there was someone that violated that. And that's a situation that you may have a deep trauma around. You may have created energy cords with that person. You may have belief systems that were created as a result of that, but that energy is holding strong. So that's an opportunity to go in and do that healing work, to release those energetic connections, to forgive and let it go so that you don't have to harbor it, so that you don't have to hold it within you. Forgiveness sets you free. When you have revenge come up, or vengeance, that's when your boundaries were crossed with ill intent, on purpose, not an accident. So when someone intentionally crossed your boundaries, didn't respect you. That shows up when you have a deep wound in the heart space that we can't let go of. The wound was so deep in there. And vengeance, ugh, it's a very low vibration. That's like when darkness comes up because of the ill intent that it was that that the harm was created with. That's when I see that low vibrational, dark, kind of sledgy energy that shows up in three different ways for me. Either that dark energy looks like, to me, like tar, where like your feet are just stuck. It's keeping you stuck, it's keeping you from moving forward in your life where you feel totally held back. Sometimes that darkness shows up like a cloud over your head space, which just doesn't allow you to see clearly. It doesn't allow you to think clearly. It's like distorting reality a little bit. It's making things feel sort of confused for you. And then sometimes that dark energy feels like a wet blanket that's thrown over you, that drains your light. I see that a lot with people that are dealing with depression. But that dark energy can be transmuted. We can release that. You can forgive those experiences in those situations and let go. Forgiveness is truly how you let that go. Because vengeance and revenge, that's like holding a bomb inside your body. I've heard it described as taking poison and expecting the other person to die when that's ridiculous. So when we hold on to those grudges, it's really just choosing to hold on to that pain, hold on to all of that frustration that's inside of us. The forgiveness is really how you let that go. So as you notice that these ideas of revenge, of getting even, of something like that happening, it's yeah, because there was an injustice, something, something that happened that wasn't right. And it was a deep wound. So just recognize it because that's your opportunity to go in and heal that wound within yourself and choose to let it go so that you can free yourself of that experience and move on in your life and set yourself free. Because that is like the greatest gift that you can ever, ever give to yourself. Depression occurs when we are disconnected from our own light, from our own truth, from our own purpose. When we are experiencing depression, it's because we've completely disconnected from our own sense of self, from that light that lives inside of us. That's when people feel so lost in their life that they're not feeling anything at all. Often people describe depression as sadness, but it's not really sadness. Depression is often a lack of feeling at all, sort of an apathy type of feeling. And it's because we're totally disconnected from our light, from our truth, from our purpose. So when depression is happening in your life, it's a sign that you are out of alignment with who you are. You're not living the life that you came here to live. And that is a powerful opportunity to do that inner reflection and to ask yourself: what area of my life is where I feel this disconnection most? Where am I not living my truth? What part of my life is feeling like it's not what I want it to be? And maybe it's multiple parts of your life all at once. But depression is an opportunity for you to bring your life back into alignment, to make some changes for yourself that are going to restore you onto your path, to bring you back into your spark, your light, your connection to yourself. So whenever depression comes up, that's an opportunity for you to start new and to allow yourself to imagine something different because whatever you were doing before wasn't working. It's created complete separation. So, how can you connect back into something that made you feel good? Start with a passion, start with a hobby, start with something that you used to enjoy. Even if you can't bring yourself to feel enjoyment in the moment, do it anyway. Muscle memory is a real thing. And if you come back to it again and again, you may find that your spark will start to ignite once more. But it's also a sign to show you there's something deep to release and heal within yourself, where that disconnection was made in the first place. So, all the ways that you weren't showing up in your life, the way that your soul planned for you, we need to let that go so that you can set yourself free from that to move into something that is better and more aligned for you. And sometimes when we clear that dark energy, that sludge that's holding us back, or that wet blanket that's draining our light and disconnecting us from our own light, or the cloud that is making us not see clearly and causing us to feel confused and lost and doubt. When we clear that, sometimes the depression just lifts and it allows us to feel again. It allows us to connect back into our light, into our truth, into our feelings, into our emotions so that we can then move forward in our life. Now, guilt shows up when we have gone against our own values. Guilt arises to show us that we've strayed from our path. When we've done something that goes against what we were supposed to do, when we've gone against one of our soul contracts, that's when guilt shows up. Guilt is that reminds. That's like, hey, hey, stop. You're not being true to yourself. You're not making choices that are aligned with your highest path. So whenever guilt arises in your life, pay attention because you are creating a karmic wound anytime guilt shows up. And when a karmic wound is basically when you go against a soul contract, and now life is going to keep presenting this situation to you over and over again until you learn the lesson and choose differently. So anytime you have a situation in your life that repeats, could be anything. For me, it was chronic illness. For other people, it could just be a pattern of behavior. I mean, it could be literally anything. It's connected to a karmic wound where you, at some point along your soul's journey, went against your own soul contract. And guilt is the first sign that shows up that says, hey, this isn't what you're supposed to be doing. Course correct, so that you don't set up this karmic wound for yourself and get stuck in the looping pattern. So notice that whenever guilt shows up for you, because that's not something that we need to carry. Now, anxiety is really showing us where we've disconnected from pieces of who we are. When we go through traumatic experiences, something that's deeply painful, sometimes if the trauma is deep enough, we lose a little piece of ourself in that experience that gets stuck in that experience and we don't feel whole. We don't feel complete. It's that feeling of anxiousness, like I can't fully relax. I can't fully just be content, be whole. Because there's little pieces of you that are missing. So whenever you have a lot of anxiety coming up, it's that opportunity to look within and say, what part of me needs the most attention right now? What part of me is missing? What is it that I am not connected to right now? What is this experience reminding me of? And when was the first time that I remember feeling this way? Because if you can get back to that origin point of what the situation was that connected the anxiety from what you're feeling, that's when we have the opportunity to reclaim those pieces of ourself. That's when we can reclaim those soul lost soul fragments. And we can bring them back into alignment. We can reprogram, recode that back so that we can return to our original soul blueprint of who we are and finally feel peace. I've noticed for a lot of people that I've worked with with anxiety that they've lost a lot of little pieces of themselves. So anxiety is literally just telling you that you have a lot of trauma, a lot of unhealed trauma. That's basically what anxiety is. And if you deal with a lot of panic attacks and deep, deep anxiety, it's showing you that you have a lot of unresolved traumatic experiences within you. And this is an opportunity to turn within and uncover what those are and do the healing work so that you can retrieve those lost pieces of yourself and also let go of the heaviness of the burden of the pain of those experiences that you went through. Because you were never meant to hold it. You were never meant to carry that. We can't change the experiences of our past. But we can choose whether or not we want to carry them forward forever. Or if at some point we're courageous enough to put them down and set ourselves free so that we can learn from them, but no longer need to live them anymore in our present and in our future of our life. And that's really what the healing work is all about. You don't need to be afraid of your shadow. You don't need to be scared of your own darkness. We spend so much time running away from our darkness, from our shadows. We distract ourselves from it. We we have a challenge in our life. It's too painful, it's too scary, it's overwhelming. And so I'm just going to repress it. I'm going to be in denial. I'm going to pretend it's not happening. I'm going to distract myself from it. All you are doing is kicking the can down the road. You're just prolonging the suffering because eventually you'll have to deal with it. Whether you do it now or you do it in 10 years or you do it in 10 lifetimes, eventually you will deal with it. So it's much better when a big challenge, a difficult thing shows up in your life. Don't run from it, don't deny it. Don't be in resistance of it. Don't reject it. Go straight into it. Because every experience has wisdom for you. Every experience has a lesson. Every experience has information, a message, some way that you can learn, grow, evolve on your path. Nothing in life is random, my friend. Nothing. There's a reason why this is showing up for you. It's because there is something you are meant to learn from it. And if you can go into that difficulty, that challenge with the curiosity to uncover what it is. To say, okay, I see you, challenge. I don't like you, but I see you. I'm not going to resist you. I'm not going to reject you. I'm going to accept you that this is what's in front of me and that this is what is being placed on my path because I am meant to overcome it. I am meant to get through it. There's something for me to learn. So what am I meant to learn from this? How can I make myself better for having gone through it? What can I do differently next time? When you look at your challenges this way, you can find the gift. You can extract the wisdom, the lesson, the medicine from it. And it becomes the greatest gift of your life. Because when you do that, you change, you grow on your own path. And who you become on the other side of it is the gift. Now you are a more embodied, true version of you. And that is what your soul signed up for. Your soul wanted to embody that. And the hardest lessons are the ones that give us the most. We just avoid them because it's too much. Sometimes we're just told not to feel at all. So often in society, we tell people, oh, stop crying, manna. And we have so many people, especially men, that are completely disconnected from their feelings, completely disconnected from their own truth, from their own intuition, because our intuition speaks to us through our emotions. The harder emotions, and I'm not going to call them negative because they're not bad. They're just information. They're just pointing you, they're just telling you that whatever the theme is, it's moving you away from love. It's moving you away from the direction where you want to be in your life. Anything that are elevating higher vibration emotions, happiness, joy, excitement, that's pointing you in the direction of what you want, of where you want to be. So you can look at your emotions like signposts. Is this moving me toward my goals and where I'm going in my life and pushing me on my purpose? Or is it moving me away from it? That's really what your emotions are telling you. They're information. So don't run from them. Understand, get curious. What is the message behind this? What is it trying to tell me? Because there's something valuable waiting for you there. And allow yourself to feel everything because you're meant to feel everything. We are meant to feel that. We are emotional beings. So don't repress, don't suppress, don't run away. Just allow. If you're feeling sad and the tears are coming up, don't swallow them down. Allow them to come up and flow out of you. As we shed the tears, we're literally shedding the layers of the trauma. And recent research, scientific research on the molecules of tears have shown that our tears contain a cocktail of neurotransmitters and chemicals that are actually healing. That it has like dopamine in it, that it has all of these amazing chemicals that stop and suppress pain that are inside of our tears. So our tears are not a sign of weakness. Our tears are literally healing our bodies. And when you suppress your tears, you're not allowing yourself to heal. You're moving into greater dis-ease, disharmony with your body, disconnection. Anything that's dis is separation from source, separation from truth, separation from your light, separation from your love. So this is the opportunity to let it out. When the anger comes, let it arise. Find a healthy outlet for the anger. But when the moment is passed, when the tears are done, when the emotional outburst has released, now you have to move the energy out of your body because it's still living inside of you. And we don't need it to be in us. We just want to let it out and let it go. So here's a process that can help you to better understand your emotions and allow them to flow through you so that you can complete the loop and not have something unresolved inside of you that you're going to need to heal from later. As an emotion arises, allow it. If that means removing yourself from a situation so you can have a moment of privacy, then allow yourself for that. But also remember that tears elicit emotions in others as well. It elicits their empathy. It elicits their compassion. And if you see someone crying, you naturally feel for that person. You're going to want to go and offer them support, offer them care, offer them love. Sometimes being vulnerable enough to cry in front of someone else in community is the greatest healing medicine there is. Because it allows us to come together. And that's powerful. So whether you do it there or you do it in private, just allow it to flow. When the tears are done, when the anger is over, this is your opportunity now to physically move it out. I like to do it by shaking. I physically shake my body. I get up and I shake my arms, I shake my legs, I shake my torso, I just shake, shake, shake. I imagine I can just dust it off, brush it off my body, get all that yuck out of me. I like taking a couple of clearing breaths afterwards where I deep breath in and then forceful audible exhale out of the mouth. Ha! Deep breath in and let it go. You feel so much better after you shake that out. And if shaking isn't your thing, you can go running. You can jump up and down on trampoline, you can dance, you can do yoga. It doesn't matter what you do, just move. One of the things I do for my kids is I bought one of these uh vibration plates, is what it's called. We call it the shaky board because you stand on it and it just shakes like your whole entire body. And it's great for building core muscle and activating your lymph drainage and detox. But what it's also great for is releasing emotion. So when my son gets angry or anyone gets angry, I put them on the shaky board for a few minutes. And I just say, okay, let it out. And they might be on the shaky board, like screaming a little bit at first. Within two minutes, it's out, it's gone. It's out of their body. And now it's completely gone. It's resolved. It doesn't live inside of them, festering like a volcano that needs to erupt. We don't need to be volcanoes. So if you find yourself prone to anger, that is a powerful practice to physically move your body. Another way to let out anger that I really like is by doing a lion's breath where you breathe in through your mouth and you exhale out of your mouth really forcefully with your tongue out. Breathe in and tongue out. You can imagine making a roaring face. You can make little roaring fingers like you're trying to be a lion. But that act of sticking your tongue out as you breathe out forcefully actually calms your vagus nerve, which is connected to your parasympathetic nervous system that takes you out of that fight or flight stress response. So as you do that, as you stick your tongue out, and ideally, if you can leave it out for at least 10 or more seconds, you will start to notice that it actually starts to calm your nervous system down, calm your body down. You will start to feel so much better. Don't run from your emotions. Don't think that they're bad. Just recognize that your emotions have information, that they're trying to tell you something. And the more that you can connect and allow your emotions to flow, the more you start paying attention to what the emotions are telling you, the more deeply you start getting connected into your own intuition. And you can truly allow yourself to be guided by your own inner highest self by recognizing that when you're feeling low, when you have any of these lower frequency emotions that we talked about, that that's simply a sign that you're shifting away from what it is that you want. You're moving away from love, you're disconnecting from source. And when you are feeling those higher vibrations of emotions, it's because you're connected into what you're supposed to be doing. You're moving in the right direction of your purpose, of your passion, of what lights you up inside, of what's important to you, of what your needs are, of what your values are. And that's powerful information. So allow yourself to be guided and recognize just how amazing it is to be alive. Thank you so much for joining me on Healed with Nicole Mixdorf. If today's episode inspired you, please take a moment to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who's on a healing journey too. And be sure to follow me on Instagram at Nicole Mixdorf for more inspiration, healing tools, and to find out about my programs. Remember, you have the power within you to create a life of balance, vitality, and joy. Until next time, stay grounded, stay open, and stay healed.