PRESSURES ONCE RELEASED FROM PRISON : TALES FROM THE JAILS LIVE!!!

The host breakdown the pressure of life that affect the mental stability of inmates once they are released from prison. The host breakdown the importance of have a positive support group for inmates after returning home long prison stints.

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SPEAKER_00 1:22

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SPEAKER_05 1:55

I want to thank everybody who's been tuning in to Tell us from the Jails. Everyone knows that jail is a serious matter. Us here at Tell us from the Jails, we are offering something special to anyone who is currently in prison, on their way to prison, and actually those who are returning from prison. We are offering consultation to anyone who's threatened with prison, in prison, and like I said, and who are coming home from prison. We have Zoom consultations to help you with your prison bid. For those who are going to prison, don't know about prison, don't know what to expect, don't know if it's going to be, you know, you know, all these horror stories you hear, all these things. We tell you what exactly to expect. We give you consultation on how to deal with these difficulties of prison. It can be through Zoom, it can be in person where we talk to you in person. We do intense prison preparation. We also offer business management for those who are incarcerated. We also do post-prison consultations. So if you're ever looking for consultation, you want to know what's going on, you want to want to be prepared to go in, like you want to want to be prepared to come home. Contact Tails from the Jail. That's tails from the jail dot com. Tales from the jail dot com. You see it right here. Tales from the jail dot com. Reach out to us today. Prison is oppression. But nothing's worse than going to prison and not knowing what to expect. Or coming home at the band, incarcerated for years and not knowing what to expect. We help you here at Tells from the Jails. We offer consultation for those who are going to prison, also those who are coming home from prison. And also we have different features and options for those who are in prison. If you're looking for consultation to assist you in these matters, contact us.com. That's tells from the jail. Yeah, we live. My man, it ain't you ain't do no countdown or nothing. We we just we just coming into the you know what I mean? The the the the the uh the studio with the what's up everybody, man. Y'all know what it is. It's tells from the jails. We're here live in partnership. TNS meeting group is the team and the family. You know, uh, but not how we do here. I want to thank everybody who's been tuning in. I got my counterpart, Mr. Brahim Jackson. You know, we get today. We we come we come into the studio and we got uh you know the young guys who's doing the production behind us or whatever, and we sitting here waiting to know when we uh when we live. He tells me, Yeah, y'all live, y'all live. You know. I mean, shout out to John Michael, shout out to uh Quan NJ 1972. Got the cool guy Zio, or Z0, however you want to say it, you know, and everybody else is that's to come in and be a part of the podcast. We already know what we always say about Friday, right? It's Friday. You go to jail tonight, won't see you till Monday, Tuesday. You won't be catching that next flight. Yeah, it's a it's it's gonna be a rapid dat for you, uh, you know, as far as going to jail. What's up with you, man?

SPEAKER_06 6:22

How you how you feeling, man? Oh man, it's Friday night, man. I ain't got nothing planned. I ain't, you know, money on your mind. That's yeah, but you know, um, yeah, man, I want y'all to stay out of, you know, unnecessary things, man. Things that, you know, you can't control. If you can't control it, man, you know, physically, like leave it alone, man. Like leave it alone, man. Things that come up and it's like a mental issue, like you got to leave that alone, man. Because a lot of choices may be the wrong choice. And that wrong choice don't just stop at all boom, you might can't have a car today, or you might can't go out, you might be in jail or dead behind a certain wrong choice, man. So, you know, take some time to think about things, man, and things that you can't control physically, leave it alone, man. Let that don't let it stress you out, man. And me, I take this advice that I'm giving y'all, I take it first hands because you know, you know, we all go through stuff, man. Everybody goes through stuff every day. That's what makes the choices come upon us, whether right or wrong to do, because of a situation. Everybody get tested, man. Everybody, man. So, you know, with that being known and said, man, and us having the knowledge, and that's the tool to fight, you mean what we know. Just leave it alone, man.

SPEAKER_05 7:35

Shout to Diesel 18. What's up? What's going on with you? You know, um, frustration. Like we we always talk about uh, you know, the podcast is about prison, spreading awareness. Uh I once wanna make this clear. This this this uh public announcement, we do not glorify prison, we do not uh put prison uh uh on a pedestal as if it's like you know the best place to be. Uh we spread the awareness about prison to uh help deter individuals from going to prison, you know, from two to a hundred, however old you are, our goal is to help you uh, you know, uh refrain from going to prison by any means necessary. Now, Tumar 24, what's up? Now, I want to speak about something because we a lot of times, you know, a lot of guys come home from prison from spinning the long stents. Yeah, all right, man. Anything cool over there? Yeah. I'm on YouTube. Okay. I mean, you a lot of people come home come home from a long stents, right? And a person may come home from a long stint in prison and ultimately they may have a woman, right? And this woman may be expecting him to come home and be, you know, a man that's a provider. Um, but things may not click right away for him, may take some time, may show some promise here and there, some certain things may be able to, you know, come through every now and then. Um, but when things get crunchy on a woman's end, you know, she may not be comfortable or whatever is going on. She ultimately may start feeling some type of way. So now her frustration and her problems are now your problems and your frustration on top of the already having frustration, which ultimately can lead someone to, you know, going back to jail. How important is it to, you know, to really understand that these obstacles may present themselves when you get out?

SPEAKER_06 9:27

Man, um, it ain't no may about it. They are going to present themselves. May is like a guessing game, like it might and it might not happen. No, with the situation that you're talking about, the scenario that you're talking about, it will happen. It's inevitable. And today, today, today, I have a new thinking on that. Today, my advice for men coming home from long stints in prison, man, you gotta get your life back in order, man. You can't do that with a woman, it's impossible. My opinion. And I could be wrong, but this is just my analogy on it. You can't do that with a woman. Oh, you need you need three to four or five years, man, of all self-work, man, and discipline when you come home in a relationship is not self-discipline, and you know, that that just ain't gonna work, man. It ain't gonna work. My opinion, my opinion. If you if you one of the brothers, man, is watching this and you did extensive time in jail, if you wasn't already with that woman and she knows the struggle and the patience that comes with being with an incarcerated man for numerous years in the penal system. Uh yeah, man, it's a no-go. Take it from me, man. A man that's been in there 21 years, straight, man, prior years, after prior years before the 21. Take it from me, man. I am a walking documentary of prison lifestyle. Um, and I don't say that with no proud, I say it, you know, humbly and sadly, but truthfully. Yeah, man, you gotta let it go, man. You gotta let you gotta give yourself that four to five years, man, of working on yourself is not gonna work when you meet a woman and you try, you know, because as a man, you want to be a provider, a maintainer, and you can't provide for your goddamn self, let alone for another human being or any other your kids or none of that. You can't do it, man. It's no way it's going to work unless you have one that already knew you and that's patient with you and know that it's going to take time just like you know it. That's the only way it's gonna work. And nine times out of ten, it ain't too many of them out here like that. That's gonna sit there. Just think about it. Who's gonna be patient? Think about it. Life if we're dealing with real life, real life things. What woman do you expect that got a crib, a car, or probably a kid or two, maybe even no kids, but Bill's got a grown-ass man she just met, she might have seen you, and you know, she don't know your predicament. She sees you, and all she sees is the outer uh glamorous. Oh, you look good, you probably stay working out all the time. You know, we look good coming home from the Pinot system. And she's intrigued by that. She gives you a chance. What's up? Now y'all go out. You might got a little couple dollars to tick outright here, this and that. But when once y'all start blending more and more and more, she starts seeing who you really are outside of the physical presence and the you know, cuteness or whatever, whatever she may look at you at. You uh did somebody they call you cute before. No, I ain't I'm I'm not really easy on the odds, I just know how to talk real quick. That was good. You know what I'm saying? So um, with that being said, man, my advice, man, you know, and I and I just and I and I'm just coming up with this today. I didn't been have this, you know, uh uh uh answer or whatever you may want to call it uh for this question right now because I've been thinking another way. I thought it could work, and I see now today that it can't. You cannot come home, man, after doing extensive time in jail. And then a lot of us come home, man, especially, you know, be under the guise of a false uh the guise of a false pretense, man. You know, you might have a situation or you might have friends in place that's doing good, or you know, whatever the case may be. That's them. They work for that. You got to come in, come home and put in the same work that they did, just to get a little piece of what they ever they might have. You know, you can't come home and think that don't nothing happen overnight, man. Don't nobody unless you go into that goddamn liquor store or whatever store you is and do a scratch off. And what's the possibility of you getting a hundred million on a goddamn ticket that you done scratched off? So for all y'all that didn't get that 100 million for that scratch off, you got to get your feet, you gotta put them boots on and put them in the sand. Ain't coming no other way else. I don't care how much your girl loves you, man. That shit gonna turn bad, man. Because you can't be their support, man. And then what do you expect? Is she wrong? I don't think so. A lot of people might beg the difference. Hold up, I don't think so. You ain't bringing nothing to the table.

SPEAKER_05 13:45

Hold on. I'm sorry, I gotta say something. How a woman gonna get mad at you because you broke and she broke too. Well, what you mean she broke too? Like, if she got her own shit, like and she like we we we grinding together because a person is mad at you because you broke and you together, or not not don't want to be with you because she's saying that you're broke and you can't bring that, you you're not providing for her. She's broke too. We both broke together, so we might as well stay together. What you gonna go do? She thinks you're gonna go find lightning in the bottle and find a a rich a rich guy to come take on you after you didn't got sometimes they they got no disrespect, but I'm just saying sometimes they got three, four baby dads, even two baby dads who don't even take care of the kids. The kids may be in the house with house with house with her. She she like I'm coming into your situation, or you come into my situation, you bring your kids. If we broke together, we both broke, we gotta look in the mirror. I'm broke and you're you're broke. We're trying to make it out together. How are you gonna get mad at me because I'm just I'm I'm not able to give you everything you want right now? This is just my opinion. Because think about it. What is a woman actually giving you? What am I getting? You gotta look at that too. What am I getting? What am I just getting? Sex. So sex is enough for me to be able to pay your bills and buy your car, put food in your refrigerator, all because we're having sex? You oh because you because we having sex together. What else are you bringing to the table? You know what I'm saying? Like for real. You gotta look, you gotta really, you gotta really look at everything from top to bottom. We both are broke, or just check that out. We're both financially struggling. And you know, I'm trying to make it, you trying to make it. What is your good qualities? Are you guarding your tongue when you talk to me? You know, am I guarding my tongue when I talk to you? Because normally, men, we don't really, a lot of times, some I'm not sometimes men do do this a lot, but men, we normally don't really know our first intention when we get frustrated with our with our woman is not to cuss her out. But sometimes women get adapted, adoptive mentality whereas though they get frustrated and they want to talk to you crazy. So you want to talk to me crazy. I got I just came from prison. I'm trying to figure it out, I got all this pressure trying to find a job, so many things going on. And then you show who you really are. Whatever comes out of a woman's mouth is who she really are. That's what's in her heart. From my experiences, if a woman talking to you crazy, that's what's in her heart. So you judge her off of that. When the time like you might say it was my in jail, right? And it's in it get crunchy, and he tell. That's who you're gonna judge him off for the rest of his life, who he is when it got hard. So that's the same thing with a woman. When it get times get difficult and and they get frustrated for you and her, because normally nine times out of ten, a woman not frustrated without the man being frustrated as well. So we're both frustrated together, and then you want to come up here and disrespect me. And knowing I got all this stuff quite just came from jail. I'm trying to figure it out. Things ain't really working out for me the way I want them to work out, but you want to talk to me crazy? Be careful. Everybody, this is my opinion, and women may agree too. Whatever's in the woman's heart is gonna come out of her mouth whenever times get hard. And then you gotta really be willing to accept that, whether you're gonna deal with that or you're gonna move on from that. You know, otherwise, because when you because when you when you when you get some money, when you get some money, the money only gonna pacify that for a moment. Because once the once the money ain't the issue no more, is now it's other things you gotta deal with. Maybe maybe the woman mad about this, so then she won't get mad and will just disrespect you. I don't care, you got no money, nigga. You shouldn't, I know you, I know the I know you by your name, I know you tall feak, you like that's how they can get. So sometimes, you know, you gotta recognize who it is, and then you gotta be willing to move on. We all had to do it sometime. But I'm just saying, man, I just don't think that a man who's coming home from prison who's trying to figure it out should subdue himself to a situation where as though it's toxic because it's once you get if you get money, it's not going to change anything other than the fact that y'all not broke no more. Still a long list of things on the list that need to be addressed.

SPEAKER_06 17:39

See, but the thing is, right? You got you know, with that, you're absolutely correct. I believe that. I haven't been through that, but I I like to believe that what you're saying is correct because it makes sense. But then you have that person that may still go through that, right? And start to get the money, whatever, finally, and it becomes uh it becomes like a err now, a get back. It's two sides to a coin. Feek is like a err, like a uh like a like you could turn a man sour. You could turn a man sour now. A man would like to see you on your knees and come crawling and begging for some shit, and be like, and I'm not going front. I kind of got that in my heart. I kind of got that in my heart, bro. I'm a human being because it's like, damn, we was struggling together, we right there, but when shit go real wrong on your side and I'm still willing to stand there with you, and you're ridiculing me and kicking me while my damn, while I'm down or whatever, I'm a human being. So now it's like I get back, like damn. If I ever do step into power, yeah, I'm gonna sniff on you. It ain't gonna be no comeback, like, all right, baby, is it I got it now? Here you go. Then that's when it comes in when you're talking about all right. Now you got the money, bills paid, it's gonna be other shit that be no, but then you got the that that that that percent of people that's like now's like nail now's like an error, like bitch. Like, yeah, you gotta fix the problem. Like you're like, no, no, no. The problem can't be fixed, fee. All right, but sometimes once it gets there, and then like I'm really starting to see that, and then the problem, like we're going. If it's going on for over a year, two years, uh, please don't think that problem could get fixed. Yeah, because please, because that it's too far going, man.

SPEAKER_05 19:14

It's sometimes over with sometimes. We gotta understand that it ain't really from us that the problem that it's not it, it was whatever happened before us. Sometimes we get there. If you get there and the woman is and she nice and she, and then as soon as hard times hit, this is who she really is. She can't hide it. You never really know who a person really is until you live with them. Once you live with a person, you start to know who they really is. You're gonna know whether they're clean, whether they're dirty, you know, how they what you know I'm saying. Do they do they pray? What you're gonna know all you're gonna know can they cook? You're gonna know everything about a person, vice versa. When we're gonna know everything about a man, is this man really who he says is? Is he, you know, is he clean? Is he, you know, does he work out? Whatever. Does he have a job for real? All these things is gonna come into play because now y'all living together. Ultimately, when you're living together with somebody, now you're gonna have to give and take some things, in my opinion. You know, it just makes it real difficult for a man who's coming home, coming into a situation where as though he's struggling and he's trying to figure it out, but he can't really main maintain a household the way that he wants to maintain a household, and then the woman is constantly bludgering him about not being able to provide. You knew who you were dealing with before when you signed on. You knew you were dealing with somebody that's come up on jail.

SPEAKER_06 20:24

I ain't gonna oh, oh, oh, oh, you're talking about oh, oh, or you talk about it.

SPEAKER_05 20:27

She knew a woman knows who she's dealing with.

SPEAKER_06 20:29

No, but sometimes they get misconfused. Hold on, let me say something, say something too. It's a lot of times, bro.

SPEAKER_05 20:34

I'm gonna tell you what it is though. Oh, before you say that, I'm just gonna say I'm gonna say what it is. It's consistently this. They're looking at the the the the bull on Instagram with the you know what I mean, with the muscles and the Lambo and the and her girl, and the girl said she got her man and they got going on. And sometimes this thing's be true, but that's not everybody's reality. Sometimes they're looking at what other people got instead of looking at what people that people behind them don't have.

SPEAKER_06 20:58

They've been looking at that forever, feet, in my opinion. They've been looking at the bull with the jewelry, the muscles, the Gucci, and the cars and all that. No, it ain't that. That's his. That ain't that. I would say it's partial there. But then if you have, don't don't get it confused because it could be this too. You know, a lot of dudes be in this situation. You gotta do. I'm not the only one that came home to a lot of you know, a couple good men that's my men, as far as yourself and that's working good and having business good and stuff like that, that's not in the streets and and is all right, and you get judged off your company. A lot of times you get judged off your company. And now it's one thing if you go and betray and like, yeah, my, you know, because you know, you know, you got some dudes that come home and come into it and got a good group of, but he ain't up there with them, but he'll still be playing the role like he wanted them, because these are actually his men, and that can hurt you. That will definitely hurt you in a woman's face, like damn. You sitting there fake, or you might not be playing the role, but these is your guys. All she knows is for the last eight, nine, ten years, or whatever you've been going, and even if she don't know you are herded like. Dang, he that be his friend. Oh yeah, girl. And now an expectation be there. A heavy, like you'll be judged. Get like you could be a bunch of broke niggas. They ain't got to have no money. You'll be judged like Danny His friend. Oh yeah, that nigga, he one of them. Vice versa, bro. So it's a it's bad, bro. Boy, just like a woman hanging around a bunch of um a bunch of women who are horse, yeah, sliders, whatever you want to call them. You know what I'm saying? And and yes, yeah, the same thing. Vice versa. Yeah, you got to find, you gotta weed them out.

SPEAKER_05 22:29

Yeah, so you'll be like, oh, you're gonna think she's a slider too. Yeah. Or whatever. But at the end of the day, I'm just speaking from a standpoint of, you know, because we we talk about jail, and we always speak about men who go to jail and come home. And when they come home, they have two POs, one woman that they live with, and then one that's monitoring them by the federal uh or or the or the state. Um, but ultimately you gotta pick and choose your battles. Now, there are some women who understand that want to rock with you and roll with you and be patient with you. She's willing to fill out an application for you, willing to willing to do all these things, willing to be patient, willing to do all these things. No, don't worry about the bills, don't worry about it. I got it. Boom, boom, boom. You know what I'm saying? You know, I it's just crazy. Like, certain people say certain things. My significant other, like I went, I just recently went out of a car. And when I got her a car, she said to me, she said, because I was trying to get her something, I was gonna get her something, you know, I was gonna get her something a little crazy. When I ready to take calls, yeah, I was gonna get her something a little crazy. She said to me, she said, babe, you should get this car because um just in case something happened where it's though you can't pay for it anymore, and I'll be able to make sure that it's cool. And I wanted to get her something, I'm like, but that maybe made me appreciate her for who she was because she said that. She said, just in case you can't pay for it. And I ain't saying you can't, but you know, you never know what can happen in case you can't pay for I just want to get something that that I'll be able to afford if something happened to you. I'm like, dang. But these is the women there are some good women out there. Not saying every woman is bad, but sometimes women are damaged goods from other relationships. It ain't have nothing to do with with you, me, or whoever else is coming home and being woman is coming from past, or it's just where as though they may have been done wrong, or they may have been, you know, or felt like some, you know, man may have been taking care of them or abusing them, whatever it may have been, but somehow they let they come to you, and then you look at them and they have luggage and baggage that you have to accept as well. And people don't people have a hard time of looking in the mirror, too. Men and women. Women gotta look in the mirror like, listen, hold up. I got all this this baggage. I done had all these worthless relationships, and now I'm bitter because I had all this stuff going on, and I want now I got this man coming home from prison or wherever, and I'm trying to put all this baggage that I had on him. Then men too, be I'm coming home from jail. I just did all this time, you know. How can I expect her to be to be real, real patient with me? That's why yeah, when when I'm when I'm still trying to figure out some people, like you say, some guys come home, they can't even fill out a job application. They and I do a lot of different things trying to figure it out. How patient can you expect her to be? And then the thing is not because hold on, I'm not done. The thing with with with the men aspect is men gotta look in the mirror, and we gotta look when you come home from jail. You gotta be every day consistent on trying to better yourself every day. Because if you're slacking on that, she's gonna see that. And now she's gonna see the fact not only that there's no money in coming in, you slacking on everything else. You sitting around in the house with her, walking around, just sweeping the little floor and trash. They they're gonna get tired of that, man. Get tired of you just trying to clean up and they don't want women, women may sit not say this, but they want a man out there hustling, trying to figure it out every day. They don't want to buy in there, you got the broom and the mop, you gotta clean the kitchen and clean the bathrooms. And I want a woman wants you to be out there hustling, and then if you can do that when you come home, they would they will they will they would like for you to do that, but they don't really care if you ain't doing that when you come home. A woman who complained about you cleaning, like especially when you come in back and put a food on the table, she's just looking for a reason to to to bark. Because if I'm out there trying to make something happen for us, and then I come in here and I gotta and I gotta cook and clean and all that. Like, no, now you now you now you you asking for too much.

SPEAKER_06 26:13

But go ahead, what you just gonna say? No, I've I just forgot. That's why I was trying to always be that's why I cut you off a lot because I don't want to forget because I started listening, because you you was right, everything you were saying. I just say, but yeah, man, it's my thing is, man, a man need five years, man, to himself, man. Especially a person like you just mentioned to come home that don't even know about an application, how to fill it. Like, bro, that's not no, you can't do it with no woman, bro. It's just I don't want to say that because listen, I mean, I am saying that.

SPEAKER_05 26:44

I seen dudes come home, come home and have what he knew her already.

SPEAKER_06 26:47

She been new about the structure. She, that's the only way, bro. I know I done you come home, meet one new fresh woman, unless you got some money already, unless you establish a little bit and you can weather the storm until you get all the way right. My man, if you coming home on your face to a woman, bro, that's not gonna work.

SPEAKER_05 27:03

I seen some dudes, I know that some some girls. I keep asking you. I can't say their names, but I seen some dudes that came home and they came home and then they wasn't, they they came home and tried to and got it together. They got they they got they got it together. They had they had a woman who, you know what I'm saying, accepted them from their situation when they came home and they got it together. Not saying their relationship is perfect, it's nothing, nothing is perfect no matter what it is, but they have made it work. And these dudes, I believe, they all are still with they're still with the woman, so uh each woman. So it can work. I'm not saying that it doesn't work, but sometimes it's a little it's far in between because sometimes it's just a lot that it just uh it's like you taking a uh a bunch of stuff and try and try to cram it into a jar, and now you try and go there and throw out what you don't what you don't want, if that makes any sense to get to the to get the get the proper ingredients in the jar that's gonna work. You everybody had to give a little and take a little give non-duty. Everybody has to have to give something, you know what I'm saying, in order for it to work. You know my situation. I accepted you, you you you you done been with 30 niggas. So I accepted you. Sometimes this is the reality. Some dudes, my my wife and women that may have been 30, she got a bunch of bodies. But I'm coming on from jail. I'm trying, I'm accepting you for who you are, what you got going on. You got four kids in there, the four by four different men, or have you got whatever you got going on? I'm coming, I'm accepting that. You accepting me. We gotta accept that, understand our situation. This is what I got going on, this is what you got going on. I'm accepting you, you accepting me. You know what I'm saying? Let's try to make this work. But when things get bad and I start pointing the finger and making like you better than me when you got problems, nah, man, it's gonna be a disaster. We can't move like that. So I suggest, like you said, maybe you might be right. You come home from jail, you gotta be very careful because you see a lot of the frustration you can get to these boys, and what happened? They end up putting hands on a woman, they end up uh uh running out the door trying to try to sell drugs again. They ended up or doing so or just quitting on life, using drugs, going back for your dirty urines, all these different things, setting themselves back because they didn't make the proper choice with the proper woman. You gotta really ask a woman, you come home from Jay, you gotta really ask her, are you really willing to deal with this? I can't do this, I gotta learn how to do this, I don't have a job, I have nothing. You know what I'm saying? I'm coming home to you with nothing. I'm willing to accept you for what you got, are you willing to accept me for what I got? And then we'll go from there. I mean because if y'all just hiding and shielding a little stuff, she's not exposing the fact that she got this going on, and you ain't it's gonna be bad. You know what I mean? This is my opinion. That's my opinion. Hey, listen, y'all want I want to say something too. You know, uh, if y'all want to uh you know book Braheen, man, he's doing specials now for people who help promote businesses. So hit him up on uh on IG, man. That's what you were saying. He gotta reach out to you on IG. Yeah, he's starting to step out there and trying to you know help promote businesses. And you know, he he does events, you know, he'll come to an event for you, you know what I mean. We just talked about it today. He comes to events and you know, whether it's food gatherings, whatever, you know what I mean? Celebrity boxing matches, whatever. You're trying to do all that, right?

SPEAKER_06 30:16

Yeah, everything. Everything. See what I told you earlier about them, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 30:22

Yeah, yeah, but it's yeah, so you know what I mean, everything.

SPEAKER_06 30:28

Man, true, man.

SPEAKER_05 30:29

Yeah, but no, y'all can y'all can hit uh hit them hit us up on uh on uh Instagram. You don't know anybody who's trying to do any events, uh whatever may be we willing to help participate in stuff like that. We're trying to get just getting into the community a little more. So whatever y'all got going on, y'all want to come through, man. I don't care if it's a cookout, whatever, man. We come through chill, man. Uh we if you invite us, we there. Um so now coming home from prison, right? Another thing, another factor of coming home from prison, being um integrated into your child's your child's life because or your I'll say I'll say I'll say your children because your children are gonna need you the most. And sometimes what I see from men is when they come home from jail, you're more focused on the woman that you're trying to get, opposed to being focused on what's important, like yourself, your child. You know what I'm saying? Your children, you know, you gotta put yourself in front of your child too, man, coming home, man.

SPEAKER_06 31:32

You got to, because you can't take care of your child, you don't take care of yourself. You gotta put yourself in front of your child until you get. I'm not saying, yo, F the child forever. No, I'm not saying that. But at the time, you have to, it's good, it's you got you got bad stingy and you got good stingy. And and this is the good stingy I'm talking about. The stingy to make sure that you are adequate and okay to take the next step. Because you can't, you can't do it for nobody else if you can't do it for yourself. Trust me, I know take it from me firsthand. I'm trying it now and then can't. I I spreads myself thin. I could have $20. And if my old lady is hungry, I'm gonna go buy that shit for her and I'm gonna grind it out that night. But it don't make no sense because now I'm gonna be, hold up, now I'm gonna be now nourish, malnourished and hungry as shit the next day as I have been. And I'm like, well, damn, and she wakes up with a little fatness of her stomach because she was cool, but I'm fucked up. I'm over this joint. You you thought my stomach was biting last night. How you think it feels this morning? So I'm depleting myself more, even though it's good that I did because I love her, but you're gonna kill yourself in the long run doing that. Or I'm gonna kill myself doing that, so I can't keep extending myself if I don't have you can't do it. It's never gonna work, bro. Trust me, believe me when I say I'm not telling you about a scenario I heard from other people. I have done it. I have had 15 to 20 dollars on me and extended that to my partner to see them eat and be dead hungry. I ain't no selfish dude, especially if I'm rocking with you. It ain't gonna work, bro. Like, and then the crazy part about it is when you get when you do that right and you don't get no appreciation for it, it can turn you to a stingy dude, bro. Not to say that I'm stingy now, but I gotta, it's like a it's it's like a cut to me, like that that I don't like. I don't know if I'm making y'all understand this, but it's like a err. And it'll turn you to a selfish motherfucker, man. It'll turn you like, damn, I went above and beyond, and I and you still don't get the, you know, and I don't even look for gratitude because I did it out of love. So I'm not looking for gratitude, but when you get stomped on after that, and you like, well, dang, the gratitude I wanted was to not get stomped on, and I get stopped like because that ain't enough niggas. So what? Because you fed me last night and you ain't eat. I'm ready to die this morning, and that was cool, that wasn't cool enough. So it can turn you heartless too, man. That's why I say, man, period, man. If you're coming home at the long stretches, bro, worry about yourself, man. I'm telling you that that's my truth, that's my fact, man. You can't, you know, and then who wanna come home and be shit? Your your imprisonment is over regardless of what you did, five, ten, fifteen years. Well, I gotta wait another five years to bust a nut. No, you got to, bro. Keep on beating that dick, man, until you get your money right, man. And that's just it, man. Yeah, yo.

SPEAKER_05 34:24

So hold on, that's it. My God, so sometimes sometimes people have uh champagne tastes with bare money. Yeah. Like, because really, like, like, think about it. A woman, this is this is a woman. This is me speaking speaking of a woman. A woman really only wants a man in jail. If he's in jail, she wants him because she can kind of control him. Like, she knows where he's at. He messing with no other women. He just he working out. She goes see him, he she goes see him, he knows he. You know what I mean? She ain't worried about him, like you know, and no women, ain't nobody up there. He ain't he ain't out all night chasing no chicks so she can feel like she got some type of control. Then when he gets out, you know what I'm saying? The control it weakens. It weakens because it just gets weak because she can't really control him. Now he's moving around doing what he gotta do. And you may have been coming to see him in the prison, and you may be, he may have thought she was beautiful, whatever kissing, but then he got out here and he see that as other things out here that may they may be attracted to. Um for me, I feel like a man, if you're in jail and a woman can support you in prison, that you should come home no matter what you see out here, is out here, you always gotta remember that that's the one who was with you when you was at your lowest situation. You can't come home and just start looking out for other women and trying to figure it out you shouldn't, because now it's gonna affect your relationship with her. And now she's looking at you a certain way. And men do do that. Yes, and they and they abandoned. So the problems that you that you arise come from you um coming home and and and being and not being appreciative, just like women can't be appreciative of money. Now, another thing I want to say is sometimes women they cannot find a good man out here while uh so they gotta resort to somebody in jail because if somebody out here really wanted them like that, they would have probably chosen somebody who wasn't incarcerated. You know what I'm saying? But if they just trying to figure it out, they're trying to find something, you know. So we all, like I said, no matter what the case may be, everybody's trying to figure it out. So everybody got just gotta be patient with one another in order for it to work. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 36:32

Yeah, ain't nobody got no patience for you. I know they should, they definitely should, but it's what you could do for me now, man. Not later on, not next week, not next year. You know, I see you got potential, man, potential. Oh, I see all that. But what you got right now? That's the day. And as time goes on, it's only gonna get crazier, bro. It's not getting better because it wasn't like this 10 years ago or 10 years before that, or 10 years before it's getting crazier, crazier.

SPEAKER_05 36:57

What? As far as like these relationships, how that relationships go with men and women, it's been like that for years. Let me ask you something though. Like, you know, you spoke the other day, you said that you know, for some money, a couple of M's or whatever, you'll give up the give up your foot, right? You goddamn right. Hold on, hold on, hold on, though, hold on, slow down, slow down, slow down. Now, you got one foot, yeah, and you got money, then your wife's gonna feel she she's gonna be happy. I don't give a fuck what she feels.

SPEAKER_06 37:20

Go. I got this baggyana over here. I don't care no more. I don't need you. Let welfare feed you. Go. I bet you she don't go nowhere. I can get both of these up and she's gonna be right there. Let me rub them joints. Yeah, I guarantee you.

SPEAKER_05 37:36

You don't you don't think that that's gonna affect the way she looks at you?

SPEAKER_06 37:38

Because she's gonna love me even more. Thank you, daddy. That's right. We'll say it again. Thank you, dad. Say it louder. Yes, yes, yes, absolutely, and that is a fact, yeah. Yeah, you sitting over there looking crazy, nigga. You goddamn right. She's gonna sit right there and rub that nub. Hey, baby, how I feel today. You need some aspirin. Nope. I got that bank account looking sweet, yeah. That's it. But you don't think that's gonna affect your relationship, though? You don't think that's gonna cause like what? What's gonna affect me cutting her ass off if she gets crazy? You can't walk. You could buy some things and replace it. I got the money, prosthetic feet. We out here, we out here, strollers and anything. Um black woman, give me that yeah, Maybach right there, gray. Everybody right there, yeah. Black, oh my god. Yeah, you already know what's a facade. How are you gonna drive with a nub? You can't even no, you can. Yes, you can. That joint is sturdy, it's firm. I'm hitting it. Break gas, break gas, nubbiano. Call me the boy nubs, yeah. With the bag, I don't know, man. I don't know, I don't know, yo. I don't know. I'm not too sure about that. Like you gotta you gotta drive a car, that might be difficult. That's not difficult, bro. That nub is sturdy, that joint is a ball, that joint like a baseball. That joint is gonna mash down on the pedal and the gas, and I'm gonna be smiling about their ass. Yes, I am. No, no feet with that meat, and got a whole bunch of cash.

SPEAKER_05 39:12

Yo, this guy's crazy. Bob just said, like, you know, you know, some women might not care much money you got.

SPEAKER_06 39:18

You got you ain't got no feet. They ain't care about that. Ain't no woman caring about that. And then some might sit back and be like, well, yeah, I'm gonna I care about shit. Let me slide up on her. Let me slide up. It's a price, man. People got a price for anything, bro. It's a price, and I and I used to didn't think that, but people got it's a price for everything, man. Everything is a price on, bro. Regardless, you and you'll never know that a price is really there until that time really show pop his head up, man. Price is there, man. Price is there for whatever, man. Price, man, that that money is the most powerful thing on this planet, man. Can't do nothing without it, man. And I and again, let me correct myself, or not myself, but correct things that people may think. Granted, money ain't everything. It ain't everything, but it's the best thing. But it ain't everything. Everything, uh what I think everything is love and communication and commitment to a cause. That's everything. You know what I'm saying? But that money, man, that money, man, that money changed a whole lot of standings, man. You will be respected. A motherfucker that disrespected you and looked at looked down on you, you pop back up five years later and got that thing and you really spent, yeah. All that disrespect goes out the door. Now, if you go back broke, you're gonna be back, look that crazy again, keep it, maintain it. But yeah, you gotta you cracking jokes, and that shit nowhere near funny. You think you goddamn Eddie Murphy in there? No, you not Eddie Murphy. You just got the bag. That's just it. That's just it, bro.

SPEAKER_05 40:55

So the people laugh at you when you're rich, huh? What do you mean laugh with you?

SPEAKER_06 40:59

I don't know what's right. I mean, I'm sorry, laugh with you. Yeah. And when you're broke, they be like, get your ass out of here with them dumbass giggles. Yeah. Yeah, you goddamn right.

SPEAKER_05 41:10

You think so, though? Yeah, but you know, just be careful y'all coming home, man, and and uh and uh going through these things. And it's it's it's a real interesting thing, man. Let us know what y'all think in the chat, man, because you know, it just unfortunate, man. People come home and then be right back in jail because they chose the wrong partner.

SPEAKER_06 41:32

Yeah. It could put that that that that that that that type of pressure, man, can push you to go back. Man, that's why a lot of dudes break law too, bro. I'm telling you, that type of pressure, especially, especially the good men. It it'll more so push a good man to do something than a fucked up nigga. Because a good man, like, damn, I because she really is right. Especially if you have you struggling to make ends meet, and you ain't, you know, she been out here holding this rent down for all the years you've been in jail. But you know, she finally found hard fall on hard times, so happen when you come home. Now she's looking at you like, well, damn, is you gonna help me? It's just so happened you might have stepped up in the situation that just happened. And a good nigga that really like me, I'm a good nigga. It's just that I'm so petrified of jail now that I don't think I'm gonna make that mistake with doing something that cost me my freedom no more. But 10 years ago, I couldn't be talking like this to you five years ago, shit, three years ago. You know what I'm saying? So it can make a it'll it'll more so make a good man go out there and commit a crime that ain't supposed to do all the all in the the sense of holding his family down, bro. Because that's pride, it's a prideful thing. See a bum ass nigga sit back like, oh, she just running her mouth, man. We we figure it out. He a nut. That nigga, whether you going out there to do wrong or right, that's still the pride and heart or you wanting to take care of your family. Now, I'm not saying it's right for you to go out there and sell dope or rob that, but whatever you did to take care of that, that's that's a character. That's a character. What you get act was wrong, but your character, your heart was in the right place. But you just went about it the wrong way. You wasn't supposed to do it that way, that wasn't cool. But your character still was in place. Like, I don't give a fuck. I'm getting up here going, go do it. I gotta make sure this is cool. And you went and probably did the wrong thing to make sure that's cool, but your character's still there. All right, you did a wrong thing again. You did a wrong thing, but your care why you did that wrong thing because it was the easier route in your character. You got some niggas that'll sit back and won't even do the wrong thing to make something right. Them niggas is content with being fucked up, and that ain't cool, bro. That ain't cool under no circumstances. Your ass some money, man.

SPEAKER_05 43:36

And then also that pressure can lead a man to like you said, don't to do the wrong thing for the money. Ultimately, the money can end up paying back in prison, and then a woman is actually gone. Because you just came home from doing a stretch, like a person may come from doing like a dub, right? Yeah, get out, pressure arguing with the girl, go back to jail, look at it, a dime. She's gone.

SPEAKER_06 43:58

Yeah, yeah. So now you would have risked your freedom to please her. Yeah, you you already, yeah, you know, you did the wrong thing. I'm not I'm not debating that. That comes with doing the wrong thing. How heartbroken are you now?

SPEAKER_05 44:08

You would have said she's like, oh no, I you know, I can't do it.

SPEAKER_06 44:10

Oh, well, yeah, well, yeah, but we know all that comes with it. We I like I said, it was the wrong thing to do, but I'm talking about a character. Your character was in the right place, but your intentions weren't.

SPEAKER_05 44:21

But but not your intentions, but your actions. Is that is that a strong mental man? Is that a man who's mentally strong to make that?

SPEAKER_06 44:27

Yes, yes, he's mentally strong, but he just made the wrong choice. But that's he had other choices. He just chose his his his his bravado about going to get him, going to get it is in place. He knows he had to go get it. He just took the wrong route to go get it. Yeah, but his character, because you got niggas that sit there and won't go get it, good or bad. How many niggas you walk around all day long, ask you for money, man, and ain't tried nothing. And me being one of them, or trying things and getting turned away. That ain't cool. You got niggas that sit around and think that he owes something. Well, damn, Bob, you doing this, or damn they doing that. Well, I can't nigga get up and go work. But whether you did it wrong or bad, the character was still good. It's just the action was wrong. You took the wrong road. It was a fork rule. You got three directions. You took the fucked up jump that linked you back in there for another dime, and she really rolled out this time.

SPEAKER_05 45:20

You know what I'm saying? What kind of what kind of programs do they got in jail? Like, what's it what's it like a program that's designed to help inmates or people that's in prison to come home and be, you know, successful as far as have some type of you know foundation to stand on to deal with or cope with these uh adversities that they'll face when they come home. Is it anything like you could think of? What you mean? What type of programs? Yeah, programs, you know.

SPEAKER_06 45:44

No, they don't have no program facing financial. They got money management skills. They teach you that, like some classes for that, like money management, like when you finally do get some money, how to manage your money and not squander it away, be spending spending it on frivolous stuff that you know, you know, classes like that, but they ain't gotten, you know, they got little, you know, you you could take classes as far as like getting certified and certain things. Like I'm just I'm certified by the Department of Labor, cleaning warehouses and shit like that. You get that and all that, but but with your ass, and it ain't no classes for that. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 46:16

To deal with you know the uh the adversities of coming home.

SPEAKER_06 46:18

Yes, it's it's no classes, it's not not that I know of, unless they just came out with some to deal with that.

SPEAKER_05 46:24

Yeah, because there are like there are some good some good partners. Shout out to uh Dark Skin Beauty and you know everybody else in the chat, Dutch Man, you know, because there are some people that's some some good women that's out there that that will hold you down. But for the women that's go to the women's side, how how many how how long does she got to allow you to figure it out? And what are the stipulations for her to you know stay?

SPEAKER_06 46:47

That's why again, if a woman got that, if she got that on her mind, how long she shouldn't be in it at all. No, I'm just saying she Because you don't never know how long it may be in.

SPEAKER_05 46:57

She may not she initially she may not have set a time frame. Like, I'm gonna get this, I'm gonna get this nigga five years to try to figure out she might not do it, she might have just set, she might just be run along for the ride. And then she just wake up one day, pitfall, pitfall, not doing nothing, laziness, whatever she gotta see. You know what I'm saying? But if somebody trying, trying, trying, and then they not did not get it. I know somebody tried, try, try, and get a job consistently. But if you try and try and try and try and try and try and try, and ain't nothing happening. Then you move because you move somewhere, you know, you move it to something else, and it don't happen. The the the woman, how much time does she have? Now, I think she'll stick around more. She's that you're consistently trying, opposed to, like I said, you decree with her, watching Mari, Povich, or whatever you're watching on TV, sweeping the floor, drinking all the orange juice, stuff like that. And the bills ain't being paid, she gotta pay the big, she gotta go out and go to work and pay the bills. Of course, the woman going, she only write. You know what I'm saying? So she wanna, you know, have to, you know, understand what's going on, or she wanna she'll have to make a decision for herself. And I'm not knocking her for that. But yeah, you know, uh jail, uh jail and prison in is is a serious situation because like I said, while somebody's in jail, the the the time the the clock is still turning, things are changing. Social, yeah, uh the internet is like some people like some guys going to jail when they was putting when they was filling out paper applications, writing it down. Now you may apply for a job, they say, you know, go online. You know how detrimental is that, how confusing is that to a man coming home. He ain't seen, he's been these, I just did 20 years. Now you're telling me I gotta come home and fill out a paper application.

SPEAKER_06 48:38

Dutch man's uh SWP, he he he had a great question right here. Well, not even a question, just a statement. He says five years, like if you're putting a time limit on it. He say to put a time frame on it is unrealistic because you you you you can't you you gotta just not do it like for a woman. Like you can't, then then that's the pressure. That's the pressure right there. The time, the the the time done. That's the pressure because she might not tell you she got four years on waiting on you, but it's gonna start, it's gonna start showing her actions. Like, damn, he's coming up on that foot, boy, you ain't did that yet, or you, that's the pressure. Like he said, it's unrealistic. Either you in for a penny or you in for a pound, man. That's it. If this is not what you're looking for and you know my situation, please exit the door that way. Don't get me, don't get my heart caught up. Now I'm caught up emotionally, you know, and now I'm all in, and now you you you you you was never there from the beginning because you had a time limit that the meet, and it wasn't met, and now it was easy for you to break off and go your route.

SPEAKER_05 49:44

Yeah. Yeah, man. Then but like I said, everybody gotta accept something. You gotta you gonna find out some things, you gonna find out some things, she gonna find out some things, and it's like what is what it is. Nice question. If you come home, right? You know, what's the limit? This is this is a question that's been posed. What's the limit of how many baby dads a woman can have before you decide to deal with her? What's the limit for you?

SPEAKER_06 50:11

Man, now, now, none. What? Now none. I'm I'm cool on women with kids, man. Why? I mean, hey, we because uh you ain't just looking out for her, you looking out for the kids too, and you might not be, man, because you know, when when you eat, when when she eats, the kids gotta eat. Yeah. Like every it's a package deal. So it ain't just you like with you, it's just a one-person deal. See if she decided to take me to dinner or bring food over one night, it's just for me and her. Yeah. If I decide to take food over there, I'm feeding her and the whole bride. No, no, no, no, no, no. Now I'm like, I like as time goes on and I'm being out here more, I'm starting to have a whole different aspect or outlook on things. And I'm not saying I'm correcting what's that's just my truth. So please don't judge me on my truth.

SPEAKER_05 50:59

Well, for me, I mean I think I think I kind of feel the same way. I don't really want to deal with no no no no no kids' fathers. You know, honestly, but it depends on a woman. If she's a good woman, and she may have just had a bad relationship or something like that, because you know, sometimes men mess up. A lot of times we mess up. I'm gonna keep it clear, keep it a B. A lot of times men we mess up the relationships a lot of times. So if a woman has children and I'm coming into a relationship, she has kids, and I like her, I don't believe. I don't know, I probably can't do like five or six kids a lot. I might I might do like one, maybe two. I can't do no five. She got five kids. And then and then they got she got like like big daughters, teenage daughters. That makes sense. Yeah, boys. See, see with girls from my opinion, girls and moms, they get to a point where they start clashing. Yeah, it may not be just maybe a little argument, little smart remarks. The girls and the boys, the mom and the son, I'm sorry, the mom and the sons, I'm sorry, those relationships get get crazy because the son may, if the woman disrespect you, the son will disrespect you. Yeah, all the kids, if a woman's not respecting you and the kids see that it's over. You might as well pack your stuff and walk out the door. Yeah. Because it's never gonna be right. Because now you got the kids on behind them, baby. Who you talking to? Yeah, so so she opened that. She opened that can that can of worms, whereas the kids are never gonna respect you. This is why it's very important for women to respect their significant others in front of their children. Because that's gonna help the relationship grow. But if a woman is just like disrespect you in front of the kids, listen, if you it's over. Even if it's your wife and those are your kids, and she disrespects you in front of your kids, you gotta you gotta you gotta let her know what's what, and she gotta stop and fix it in front of the kids. She gotta address it in front of the kids, but it only can happen once. She can't do it again, and then you're cool. Because if she does it in front of the kids, it's gonna get the kids gonna start talking to you loud, disrespecting you, you know what I'm saying? Then you're gonna be ready to get ready to choke one of the children because they disrespecting you. So ultimately, man, if the woman disrespecting you, the kids will disrespect you in an uphill battle. And it's terrible. You know what I'm saying? So be careful. Be careful what you come home to, be careful what you put your what position you put yourself in. That's why you said the PO's asked you, like, yo, you gonna get you you wanna go there? You sure you want to go there? Because if she act she tells us that you hit her, we're gonna lock you up. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 53:41

A woman to say anything nowadays say that you try to rape them, all types of stuff, whatever it is to win. Everything to win, man. And and and man, I'm I'm just on something else different, man. I'm starting to see, man. And it's cool. I'm not, you know, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not mad at it. I'm not mad at the situation, not mad at none of that stuff, man. All that stuff is cool, it's just that you have to adapt and you have to follow protocol. And once you learn it and see it for what it is, man, like you all like I like the the saying you always say, once a person show you who they are, believe them. Yeah. And that's that probably is the real estate, man. You done told me a thousand real things. What come out of their mouth is how they really feel.

SPEAKER_05 54:19

I ain't trying to hear I was mad. Whatever you say out of your mouth is how you really feel. Ain't no if, ends, buts, or I made a mistake. Whatever comes out of your mouth is how you really feel. That's you you've been waiting to say this to me. That that that that it's been at the back of your throat now on duty. You be waiting to unload that whatever that conversation or or that or that that slur, that whatever you want to do, whatever you want to call it. You were waiting to unload that. Just ain't had the right time to do it. And it's no better time to do it than an argument. You ever had a woman say a woman say something to you where you where you wanted to break her neck? Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 55:01

Yeah. But you gotta walk away. Yeah, not too long ago. A couple hours ago, to be exact. Yeah. To tickle your little heart, huh, man? That's just the highlight of your life, huh? A couple hours ago. Yeah, not even a couple hours ago, about an hour ago. Yeah. Yep. How'd you take it? You just walked out good. Are you still here? What with you in your handcuffs, so yeah. Oh, yeah, I ain't gonna get to, yeah, I mean, yeah, man.

SPEAKER_05 55:26

I guess it was, you know, yeah, but you know. But in other times too, men, we uh a man can give can can start becoming used to it. We keep sweeping under the rug every time. She and now it's over now because she won't keep doing that. You know what I'm saying? So you gotta check it. You know what I mean? You gotta check it. Make sure y'all check it and check it. And woman, make sure y'all check yourself and men too, because sometimes men could be crazy too, man. We we we be crazy. We get mad and we mad at our at a at our woman, and might say something like that. Might have you with your with your gut, or whatever you might want to say to her. She might have had your kids, bro. They those she she got a stomach like that because of your kids. And you want to get mad at her and say something about her, the way she looks. Her body, the way it looked, she didn't give you five, six kids. And then her far something like bald up homework. You know what I'm saying? She just she just had your kids. So you better cherish that woman with that stomach like that, or whatever weight she put on. You out of pocket, bro. That's out of pocket. It's out of pocket, man. You ain't do nothing like that, get mad at your woman and say something about her having a stomach because she done had your kids. That's wrong. No, no, yeah, that's wrong. That's out of pocket, bro.

SPEAKER_06 56:33

That's that's all the way out of pocket.

SPEAKER_05 56:34

Out of pocket, man. That's childish. You need to lose some weight. Yo, hold up, man. She just had them kids. Look, look over there in the living room and in the bedroom. Those beautiful babies you got in there. Those come from that's why our stomach looks like that. Better be patient with that woman. You know what I'm saying? So it goes, it goes a long way, man, with men and uh and women, man. Mm-hmm. But you know, we have to understand that prison is a serious thing in that when you go to prison, it affects you, and it can affect people when you come home, and it affects people while you're in there, your kids, and everybody's affected. You know, another thing too, the uh a man can go to jail, right? And then while he's in jail, he can be like making all these promises. Like, get out telling you to be with y'all tell us. You lined her up. I did to the kids and the wife.

SPEAKER_06 57:24

Tell me, you're okay. Well, not in that nature. Like, I'm I made promises as far as I'm gonna be doing this, I'm gonna be doing this, I'm gonna be doing that. And I I I was having a false, uh I had a false sense of reality because things weren't, you know, not that things weren't in place, but it don't happen like that. Like, it don't happen like that. A lot of dudes see stuff from prison and break it down to the way they want to break it down to, and then they'll pass that information on to the next person with their way of thinking, and it's not even that. I did that, and then none of the shit I said came to forviction. So that's why sometimes, like, when we talk about the situation, I'm like, well, damn, she really got a point. Like, I really came into the relationship with it wasn't lies to me, but it was something that I thought that was gonna be done, and and you know, you can't do that. You can't, you can't, you got that that saying, man, that I'm a firm believer in now. Don't count your eggs before they hatch, man. Keep your business to yourself, man. If you got something good that's ready to happen for you and that's coming, man, don't tell a motherfucking soul, bro. Don't don't I believe that wholeheartedly. You can't, you can't, and you might be sharing and you might you might not be telling a person just for them, you might be sharing it because you're happy you and you you excited about something that you think is going to happen. And and you might be telling the truth, like, yo, I got this in place, I got this in place, but this going on next Friday, and that shit don't happen. Now, what you expect the other person to say? If we being real honest, yeah. They like, well, shit, you said you ain't told me no maybe or nothing. You said Friday at nine o'clock, you was gonna do this. Now you're in there with the no, um, I ain't see this happening, or such and such. No, you can't say a motherfucking thing, man. Yeah, if you got any type of good that's coming up, I'm talking about job aspect. Uh uh or you might be getting a car next week that you're looking to go get, you think you're gonna have the money to go get it, or some money laying in there. You can't say nothing until it happens. Because now you know it's a go. You got your hands on it. It ain't nothing that you're hoping and thinking, man. All that shit, man, that shit, like I had to learn the hard way. And again, if you're telling a person all this stuff, they got expectations now. Just as well as you do, because you're waiting on it too. But whatever it is, and it don't happen, that's your fault. It was my fault solely. And I know you like to say, but what do they got? No, fuck all that. Me going in there, yeah, I got this going on, I got this going on, I'm gonna move down here and I'm gonna open up this. That's your fault all by yourself. It's not that girl's fault. She leaned on what you said. She leaned on what you said, and it didn't come true. You got to go back and regroup and keep your motherfucking mouth shut. Me, I'm talking to my goddamn self right now. You know what I'm saying? And again, she's not wrong. You built her, you puffed her up all we. And now a goddamn balloon popped.

SPEAKER_05 1:00:22

Another thing, too, man, uh, which is very important too. You can't try to portray a lifestyle and say you want a certain kind of household, you want a woman that's that's uh cordial and she want you want her to do certain things and be a certain way. But when you in the house, you know what I'm saying, you on your phone all day.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:42

You ain't and I just got checked about that the other day.

SPEAKER_05 1:00:44

You ain't you ain't you you on your phone all day. You ain't you're not in the house doing things like, you know, for us, like we Muslims, so you you you you gotta be Muslim in your house. You gotta be, you gotta be praying, you gotta be doing things, you gotta be doing stuff. Even no matter what it is, if that's what everybody gotta be praying in the house. You know, you gotta be you gotta you gotta be praying. You gotta be, you know, you know, teaching you teaching your kids something, helping out with with the homework, being productive in the house. You gotta put that phone down, man.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:12

You got to. My chick just told me that the other day. She's like, damn. You don't, even though it was, you know, people calling, you know, to get on the podcast and stuff like that, and you know, I take them calls. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:22

But while I'm while you at work, bro, and then uh say, well, work, man, a lot of times when if if it's work and it's something, you gotta probably gotta cut it off at a certain time.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:31

Yeah, you got to. You got to, bro. You got to, especially if you got a family, bro. You're right, because you gotta, it's gotta be available. Like what uh all day long, like I'm I'm at the podcast, man. I'm home. I'm brought the podcast home. Yeah, I'm walking around. Yeah, we gonna do that, nigga. I'm telling her, turn that joint on, tell me how you like that. All she knows is the podcast. So it's like nigga, and then if it ain't no money and you ain't got no money, I ain't trying to hear that shit all day long, and you ain't taking me nowhere. That shit really, you gotta take a look. Like a lot of people like to shift the blame. It's easy to shit the blame off because of this, because it's her or him, him, him, him. Nah, man, when you point one finger at a motherfucker, four three pointing back at you, man. You got a ball up your hand to point that finger three pointing back at your ass. So take accountability, and I'm taking accountability, man. I go in the house and I might get on the phone with you like last night, me, you and Jabril talking about the podcast in the backyard for like an hour. You see how I hung up the phone and I got right off the line because she came to join like, dang. And you know I go to work at 11 o'clock. We ain't seen each other all day. You you at the studio, you leave the studio and you still talking to the same niggas that you did just did a podcast. She right. She's right. You gotta have some time for your family if you say this is your family. Now, if this a slider, a dick sucking ass chick to you, or a dick pussy sucking ass nigga to you, carry it like that. Cool, because you ain't got no commitment and ain't no ties. But other than that, man, if this your folks and this your home, this is what you call your home. And I and I'm learning not by watching it, I'm learning by actually touching the pot and burning the shit out of my hand.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:00

But I think too though, I uh communication is key because if it's about some money and it's an important phone call, just go to your wife or whoever and be like, yo, hold on, I gotta say, this is your point phone call real quick. It's not like you you being a sucker. Oh, yeah, yeah, with that. But you go to them and be like, yo, look, I'll take this real quick, this phone call real fast. I'm not gonna be long, you know what I'm saying? You you gotta be able to set the communication be there, not just walking out and she's looking for you around the house and you out you out in the backyard talking to the guys. You go set you set the communication. Yo, look, I gotta take this phone call real fast. I'll be right in. Anything you need me to help you with before I go, this is what I do. You need me doing anything real fast? I'm about to go take this phone call real fast. Before I do it, I want to talk to you. I mean, you need what you need. And they'll be like, all right, cool. Because it is not like it's not like not like you answering to your woman. You just provide a comfortability and allowing telling her what you what you're about to do. You know what I'm saying? So that it it uh just soften the blow. So then she ain't looking for you in the house and she finds you in the closet on the phone. You know what I mean? So that's that's just my advice. You know, that's that's just how I I roll. But still, even with that, you might we even if the phone call is a little long and you you already set the precedence of what you're doing, it's up to the woman to understand that you gotta try to do what you gotta do for you. And taking care of me is gonna take care of you. But you know, this turned this turn into a whole uh relationship advice podcast. But you're coming home because you know these things have to be set in place because there's no manual on how to come home and be a and be a uh a man in within a household because you just was in a you just was in a jail.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:32

You're literally a person told me this the other day. Shelly Ann on, shout out to Shelly Ann on, man. Stand up, man. We had him up here before, man. Shout out to Ann. He told me this last night, man. By default, I am a grown man with a little boy living inside me. And a lot of people that come home from the penal system and it hurt me to say that because I feel like like shy, embarrassed. But in order to correct the problem, you gotta identify the problem first. Can't correct the problem if you don't think it's no problem. You're gonna keep on doing it, like drink, motherfucker that drink all the time. He's a drunk, but he don't think he's a drunk, so he's never gonna go get the proper treatment to correct that problem. And that's in every aspect of a problem. Every, then not just drinking anything. You've been gone for so long that you still and I read somebody wrote a tech message about that, about me somewhere in YouTube, whoever it was, shout out to you. That means you know me a lot. And I gotta grow up. This is not no pity party, this is not no blame on nobody, but I have to grow up. I had like I told you the other day, me and you was just talking, man, about something. We was right, you was like, Yeah, man, we're gonna go out. I said, No, bro, I ain't trying to go out with you with you buying stuff and like I'm your son. No, I want let me pay the tab. I want I want to have money in my pocket. I don't, I know you would take me out and we go on trip. I'm 50, ready to be 50 years old, bro. The ties gotta get cut. Like how they cut the umbilical cord. And you start to eat and function on your own, men, that's what men have to do. You have to cut that ability cord, bro. You know what I'm saying? So, you know, it you know, it is what it is, man. You know, hopefully that made sense to y'all. But the man told me on the phone, man, he said, man, you a man with a young mentality. You didn't grow up the natural way. You grew up incarcerated. So your aging kept going, but your mentality aging started. And that's real shit for dudes going in there doing 20, 25, 30 years. You can you'll grow up and know right from wrong, but you know, you you see a lot of dudes come home, they're energetic and all that. They got the playfulness with them. And you know what I mean? Like a lot a lot of dudes, like out of 10 out of eight dudes that come home that did a lot of time, seven of them is, you know, they still think they, you know, man, they might got the youth and athletics because they've been working on all that, but they still gotta they mind ain't grow. When you go in in your mind, because what how can your mind grow in a controlled environment over things they really like, you're like you can't grow. Like you say, dudes come home, don't even know how to, you can't grow. You go in 19, come home uh uh uh 50. But you're still 19. Your mind, you you're a 19-year-old, you're a 15-year-old 19 man. 19-year-old man. If I say that correct, I'm talking too fast. You're a 50-year-old man with a 19-year-old aspect, man. I'm a uh uh mentality, man. And that's just real rap, man. It's a fact, it's a fact, man. These dudes is coming home, man, after all this time, they all, you know, they got it together and know right from wrong now, and they know they're not gonna do that because they ain't you've been punished to not want to come here no more. We showed you why you shouldn't come here no more. Not because of, oh yeah, that's the real. No, I'm scared to go there because I know that if I do this act, I don't want to go there. Not because of I don't want to just go there. No, you put a fear factor in me. But in turn, my my my my my youth, my my me growing into an older man mentally has been robbed. You know what I'm saying? And that's just a real fact, man.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:11

You know, I was talking to um to bro. He called me, and he called me, you know, every day. So I'm talking to him, he like, um you know what man, I was here thinking, man. Um everything that I was doing over the last uh five, six years in the streets was ash was was was terrible, and I didn't really look at it like that now that I'm in here. Like, he like I know I'm in here and I and I'm talking about it because I'm in here. But he like, yo, you've been trying to tell me to do things different. He said, Man, I wish I would have got a job and worked a job, man. He said, This joint is hard. This this this jail stint is hard. He said, I'm I'm I'm 42 years old. I gotta do a two-year- I gotta do two years in jail. My kids are getting old, I just had a baby, I I never even got a chance to hold yet. He's like, man, I wish that I would have listened, man. He said, I'm glad that I got this little bit of time. But he like, man, it could have been worse. He said, because we are programmed to do the wrong thing. Uh-huh. Thinking that we gon' we that we're gonna uh be successful in doing the wrong thing when ultimately it catches up to you when you least expect it. When you least expect it, because he didn't expect to go to jail for what he went to jail for. Nobody did. I mean, I got to call him like damn, what? Even you when you got locked up a second time. They called him like damn. I'm thinking that yo, they like you just raid this rate this rate the bar they just rated the bar the uh barbershop, you know, younger in there. But I'm thinking like, oh, them I didn't think that you was gonna be because we we walk in there, Steve say we something to everybody. I didn't think that you was gonna catch a case behind it. Bro called me, like, yo, they didn't these uh they ran with a barbershop. Younger was in there. He like, yeah, he said, um, I think he had the um the crowbar on him. I said, really? I'm like, dang. I'm thinking that, you know, I didn't I didn't expect that. I just talked to you not not so long before that. Like, you just never know. We may be doing the wrong thing and then get locked up for something else totally different. Like, like bro, was doing he wasn't we what he went to jail for is not what he was actually doing. He would have jailed for something totally different than what he was doing. Same thing with you, you would have jailed with something totally different than what you was doing at the time. We may think we ducking from this and how and and doing this the right way, but you could be slipping over here. You know what I'm saying? So that's that's just how it goes. So I just think I'm gonna say this to everybody that's in jail or be people that's coming home. Listen, man, hold on and be patient. Don't let this woman, uh, the fact that you ain't got no money, you can't do what you can't do right now. Uh, you know, you may not look the party, you may, you may not be as handsome as you, whatever it may be, man. Don't let that deter you to do the wrong thing because ultimately your situation is a lot better because you on the street, you got an opportunity to make something happen. Once you go behind that wall, now you in there with the roaches and the rats. And the would've, shoulda, could've, and all the people who are who are not people not coming home from jail, people are gonna be stuck in there for the rest of their life. And you in there with these people and you gotta you gotta go back in there and deal with that. So make sure y'all stay free. Why to take some calls, y'all? Y'all can call in uh 215-316-4492. That's 215-316-4492. The young lady on her way here, I didn't know. Who? Um, what's called? Who? From North Carolina, from North Carolina. Yeah, she on her way out. I think she said tomorrow, but she on here now. Who? Um the young lady. Who? What was the interview? Well, we'll talk about it. The one what? When we supposed to interview, you gotta go bathroom something? Yeah. All right, we'll take a quick break. You gotta go to the bathroom, y'all. I don't, you know. First of all, I want to thank everybody who's been tuning in to Tell us from the Jails. Listen, we need everybody to do something for us. If you really like what you see on Tell us from the Jails, you're really interested in what you see on Tells from the Jails, we need you to go to YouTube at Tells from the Gels and become a member. Subscribe as well, but also become a member. That way you can get you know updated on all the new content as we continue to bring you these uh amazing episodes. So we want everyone to go to Tells or go to YouTube at Tells from the Gels and become a member.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:32

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SPEAKER_05 1:13:09

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SPEAKER_03 1:15:46

I'm good, y'all. I'm C dollar bills in the chat, but listen, I want you to speak on the topic at hand, right? So part of the unrealistic expectation piece is like stay excited and just hopeful and hanging on to everything you say you're gonna do when you get out of jail, right? Right. And then from from the guy that's incarcerated, he he's desperate to get out, he's excited, so on and so forth, right? But the unrealistic expectation is neither one of y'all know what y'all gonna do when pressure arrives.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:24

Exactly.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:25

Right? It's it's it's it's it's like when you go to amusement park. You you don't get on every ride at the amusement park. But you might you might be saying, oh man, I'm gonna get on this road, of course, I'm gonna get on this joint, I'm gonna get on that joint. But realistically, you can't. You know what I mean? It's too many people, too many lines, unforeseen circumstances that's gonna happen, right?

SPEAKER_04 1:16:46

Exactly.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:47

So, so for the guys, I would recommend you guys sit it out until you get you right. Right? Because one let down, two letdown, three letdowns, it's like, man, this nigga he ain't trying to be right. He was just running game on me. You know what I mean? And then as a man, that messes with your confidence and your self-esteem. Because you have no proof of concept of what you can or can't accomplish out this drawing because you ain't been out here in a while. So you really just shooting from the hip.

SPEAKER_05 1:17:20

Exactly.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:20

You are absolutely right. You got good intentions, but you dealing with things out here that you have no control over, right? Let alone you might already be a felon. You know what I mean? So that's all, you know, that's a couple strikes already against you, and then depending on what your crime was that got you labeled as a felon. You know what I mean? The severity of the crime. So, like, for the men, you gotta you gotta lay off of that until you get you right. That's what I just said. And then you got all the other pressures that black was speaking about as far as where you go hang out with the men. I ain't trying to get keep, you know, you keep treating me. That messes with your self-esteem.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:05

Bad, bro.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:05

Bad, bro. That's right. Even though it's with good intentions, even though these your guys, even though these your men, but we talking about you, the person that's trying to report.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:16

I'm looking at him like he my dad. I'm like, got my girl with him. He buying all us dinner. People saying shit, like, damn, so if he keeps paying this whole time, like what the fuck? I'm over there, like, no, no, no, I owe him. I owe him. I I got I gave him the money to go with. Nah, we grown ass men, man. We grown ass men, man. I don't want to have to keep doing no faking, man.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:34

But black, these are things that isn't talked about, and this is why the Jews crash out and they fall short when they come home. It's not, it's not just the women. You have to take time for yourself to know what you can handle, what will break you and what lip and what will make you. You know what I mean? You just can't come and die right in and be in the mix as soon as you get back out here.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:59

Yep. I know that now.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:01

You know what I mean? Because the world's spinning, the world's been moving since you've been away. Things change every day. Even the people that's out here every day, like, it's it's mind-blowing things that's going on that you're like, yo, I gotta fit this one out. I need to time out, yo, I gotta take a 20. Man, what happened? It's just it's just a lot going on, right? So, with that being said, that's what they need to implement in the jails. The peer pressure. Yeah. That is, you know, as far as like having dudes like you, black, even you too, feet, having people come up and give both sides of the story, like black, you being a boy that did the time and know what it's like, and feet you the one that's been out here pulling it down and letting dudes know, yo, it is a couple people out here that got your backstory through. But when it comes to the women, you can't fault them for changing their mind. Because that's their right. They got the right to change, right? They got the right to change their mind and say, I had enough, I waited. Even if y'all did come up with a two, three, four, five-year plane. You know what I mean? That's her rights. And she top, go ahead. No, no, you go ahead, go ahead. Like she's tired of looking at her girlfriends and what with them and their fiancés is doing, but which you can't do. That message, that message with her. She's like, damn, man, man, was all sliding my DMs. I've been telling him to fall back and kill I got some. Now here it is, he's home, and you know, he ain't carrying it the right way. You know what I mean? So it's like if you just want to do good for yourself, because see, it's okay to be selfish. You don't want to be self-centered. Self-centered is when you make everything all about you. Selfish is when you just taking care of you for the greater good of everything going on around you.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:52

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_03 1:20:52

So when so when you were seeing a good Susie and a bad fizzy, that's what I got from it. Yeah, I can be selfish, right? But when I be self-centered, oh yeah, it's all about me. I'm I'm top shit. I'm big dog out this door. Exactly. That's gonna become a problem. So it's like God's gotta learn, like, listen, I gotta get away from everything I thought was okay prior to me coming to jail because my best thinking got me doing a dime more dumb. So that's not my best thinking. So then I gotta revise all that. Right? So you gotta start all over from zero again. You know what I'm saying? So it's like that'd be the downfall of the relationship aspect from it, right? And then when guys go back to jail for whatever the case may be, the chick do whatever she does. It's like, damn, I shouldn't even have been going around her. I should have just left Shorty alone. I get it, you horny, she horny, everybody horny. You know, niggas want to do they left out the porn shop. But at the same time, that's not the long-term goal for you as a person coming home to be successful. You know what I mean? It's like you almost setting yourself up for like a relapse. You know what I mean? You know, for a lack of better term. You know what I mean? So it's like this is this is a real good topic, y'all, because it's not always about the what the young boy doing and the experiencing jail. Everybody who don't got life is gonna get a release date, right? So everybody's gonna get out. But what's the remedy to stay out?

SPEAKER_01 1:22:32

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_03 1:22:34

That's what, you know what I'm saying? What's the remedy to stay out? Everybody say they're gonna go to the mass there, right? Everybody say they wanna come home and get married. But damn, when you went in, all the chicks that was 18, 19, they 30, 31, 32, and they carrying it. So you know what I mean? You like sheesh. You know? Yeah, man. So, you know, it's a process, y'all. That's all I'm saying. Time takes time, y'all.

SPEAKER_05 1:22:59

Yeah, we appreciate you, man, and your call, man. That was that was that was this was that was heavy. That was heavy now on duty. What you just said, man. That was that was that was a major, major situation, man. Thanks, man. Appreciate you.

SPEAKER_03 1:23:08

Yeah, appreciate y'all, man. Enjoy your night. Yo, stay free, man. Stay free.

SPEAKER_05 1:23:12

It's Friday, Saturday, Sunday, man. Stay free.

SPEAKER_03 1:23:14

Oh, oh, oh, I'm going to work tomorrow, y'all. That's what's up.

SPEAKER_05 1:23:20

Yeah, man. You know, he hit uh he hit uh a lot of you know key points. He was hitting on all cylinders, not on duty. He was, he was, he was uh made a lot of a lot of great points. Um, but we just have to have some, I don't know, maybe we can speak to the jails, you know, because they they are calling for us to come up there and talk to them a lot of times. Maybe we can have something where we uh put together a curriculum for peer pressure or or or just dealing with adversities when coming home. Because a lot of times people don't really have somebody giving them these type of talks really before they come out here. And they just coming out here, hitting the ground, running. And everything is the same but different, if it makes any sense. You know what I mean? Mm-hmm. So don't forget to call y'all. Don't forget to hit that like button. Um, don't forget to call 215-316-4492, 215-316-4492. Um these topics uh or just these situations are the key or the main ingredient for why people end up end up going back to jail. Because this this this right here, these um adversities in the household lead to spilling out into the street. And this leads the man to go out of the street and he's now he's he can go up, he can go many different ways. He can become he can become an addict, a person who uses drugs and and go that route, or a person can be a person who goes out to sell drugs, or a person can go out and start robbing, stealing, whatever it may be. But ultimately, all those things lead you to be back in prison. And people can't always deal with the pressure because another thing, too, you in jail and you used to getting three hots in the cot. No matter what, you get food. But if you get out here, you can't get no food, or you can't really provide food for your family. So it's like, but you you've been in jail for 10 years and you was getting food every day. It may not have been commissary, but it was getting a meal every day.

SPEAKER_06 1:25:08

What's that song his stomachs be singing? You already know. The the back door song, the back door, like the ass part is coming out. Yeah, nigga be hungry as hell in that job.

SPEAKER_05 1:25:19

But yeah, so at the end of the day, it's like, you know, you come out here and a lot of guys is only responsible for walking to the chow hall and protecting what's his that that's it, what's in his cell. They get out here, you gotta pay bills, pay rent, phone bill, 200, you know, light bill, electric bill, gas bill, water bill, uh, rent, uh, car note, all these things is being thrown at you, like your woman is saying she needs this, this, this, this, this, kids school, kids need school clothes. Man, pressure get to you. Like, you know, you won't go out here and sell drugs or try to find a, you know, take a shortcut to get to, but it's just too much pressure. You know, and you gotta be able to say no, man. And only be able to do what you can do. I ran I ran into that situation uh early on with myself, like not not being so not not being um okay with saying no. They say, Yeah, all right, it's cool. But you gotta say no, man, sometimes, man. You know what I mean? So, yeah, man, y'all can call in, man, 215-316-4492 before we get out of here. Want to hear from y'all, man. Want to talk to y'all about this, this, uh, this great topic today. Um, you know, about peer pressure, uh, peer pressure before freedom, man. Um, I'm sorry, peer peer pressure.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:35

I ain't even calling it peer pressure. It's pressure. Or pressure, yeah. Just pressure. Yeah. It's not even peer pressure, it's like when your friends is you know antagonize you to do something. Oh, we're gonna do this. That's peer pressure. Or pressure upon release. Yeah, you you out here and you seeing the way the world is rolling, and you're not a part of that. And you have to make yourself a part of that. This is you have to get a part of that to survive. Yeah, pressure, bust pipe. And this is the most pressure pressure you're gonna ever encounter in your life. When you're down on your face and and you're on cups, like y'all like to say, man, and and you got to you got to pay bills. Got to do that. They ain't saying take two, three months off. You got to pay bills. You got to pay that phone bill. You don't pay that phone bill on the day you do you owe it on the eighth, by the 11th, that bitch will be turned off if you ain't putting nothing to it. You got to do it. So this is mandatory pressure. Mandatory pressure. Like how they be like, yeah, mandatory rep. Nigga, that means get your ass to that rec yard. Mandatory pressure. You got to stand up to it, whether you do selling dope or have got a job. And I'm not, that's just the choices you got. Take care of this pressure. I would prefer you go for a job or your own business and not the dope, but that's the reality, that's a fact. Because you can definitely get some money from the dope, but it's a price to pay if you go that, if you go that route. But that pressure is mandatory and you have to meet it. You have to. Ain't no ducking that pressure. Some pressures you can duck in life and make out just fine. But you ain't ducking the bills of life. That's a pressure that's out of this world in every grown person. If you ain't crippled or laid up in a hospital, have to attend to that motherfucking call out.

SPEAKER_05 1:28:15

Listen, y'all man, call in, man. 215-316-4492. That's 215-316-4492. The lines open the back of your hat ain't snapped, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:28:24

Yeah, no, I just opened it.

SPEAKER_05 1:28:26

No, I'm gonna do it. Yeah, man. So yeah, man, it's just it's just all these things, all these uh scenarios, all these different uh aspects of uh, you know, all these different I'll say I want to say aspects, but all these different um issues that arise and everybody's gonna be tested. You'll be you're gonna when you come home, you're gonna be tested with unless you come home to somebody that's that's rich and then money. Put in money and now but now money, money is not that now money is off the table, but it's still problems. You know, it's still problems that's gonna arise because money gets just uh just one uh issues that you can write down on a piece of paper that says you gotta deal with. That doesn't negate you having to deal with uh the the your children going what they going through, your you know, your wife going what she going through, because you can have money and then your kids can still be suffering from depression because of whatever you and mommy is going through. It affects your kids. You know, you may not have you may have money or you may have all the things in the world, but it's going to be something. You want to be tested with something you just gotta try try to be ready for and then recognize that it, oh, this is a test. Because if you can recognize that it's a test the chances of actually you know passing that test is is uh is greater. But if you if you're not looking at it as a test, you're looking at it as just like why me, why this for me, this gotta be for me. No, it's a test. Tighten up what you can tighten up upon, which you believe. Whatever you believe, tighten up upon that. Fix that and fix you and then go from there. Fix the relationship with you with the Lost Pan or the other, fix that relationship and then it'll make things easier. Like we all been tested. I just tested weeks ago. I'm I'm still being tested with a lot of things. And I only got through it through through but through prayer and and and just like you know what I'm gonna I'm gonna start here and then from there you go to your companions, people around you that care about you, and so forth and so on. You know, but you gotta start you know with a lost one of the olive with your with your relationship, man, with with your with your Lord, you know. You know, shout out to Dutch man. So I'm gonna read this from you. You said I started, I'm sorry, I knew three women that moved to the three bedroom house for 6k. Every nigga tell that too, but shook, and they've been free. So it's always someone trying to tighten up. Yeah, yeah, I agree. Shout out to uh Andre Guerrera 7753, man. Thanks for uh uh catching the show, you know NTWY man27, you know, shout out to Ski B7U, everything you got, okay. Yeah, everything you go through that makes you the person you are for sure. For sure. But don't get in the job, why me, man? Damn, why is always bad for me? It's always messed up for me. You know, people outside go going through way worse than what you're going through. Everybody test is different. Your test might just be like it's heavy for you, but don't get in this and start feeling that's like feeling sorry for yourself. Man, why me? Why it is for me? This ain't this ain't no. It's a test. Accept it. You might be beat down. Like I was going so I ain't sleep, I ain't really gonna go sleep in like a month, month and a half. Because I was going through what I was going through, and it was beating me down, but I just was like still trying to stay busy, still trying to make it to the office, still trying to make things happen. I ain't go ball up in the corner and go and go cry and start saying, why me, why me, why me? I asked questions, but it wasn't about no why me or nah. Take it on the chin like a man and then man up, you gonna get through it. And women, women as well. You know, you like you know, women, y'all gotta cling, you know, get get closer to your to your Lord, man, and uh and then go from there. For real. You know, get around people that care about you that love you. If somebody cares about you and they love you, they're gonna embrace you when you're having a hard time. You know what I'm saying? Stay away from those who want to see you have a hard time. Say what stay from those who want to see you fall. Because there's some who want to see you fall and want to see you hurt you. That's just that's just my advice, man. If y'all got time to call anybody, get up out of here. Uh 215-316-4492. We probably stick around for another five minutes or so. If you ain't shy, uh pick up the phone, give us a call. We're here. Answer some questions, yo. For real, man. Chin up, chess out with everything you you go through. Yeah, man. Because I ride past, I'm gonna tell you what I do, it helped me get through stuff, right? When I go through things, I just ride and look at um people, like not with I'm not not saying I do it intentionally, but I might ride because our studio is in a place where people strung out on drugs and so forth and so on, but we can see as soon as you come outside, you can see why you should be grateful. You can see somebody laying on the ground why you should be grateful. And you being tested with light stuff, like small things. Like what I ain't on the ground really like him. You know what I'm saying? I ain't tell us from the jails we speaking with. Tell us from the jails.

SPEAKER_02 1:33:51

This is Dollar Bill from Delaware.

SPEAKER_05 1:33:53

What's up, Dollar Bill from Delaware? What's up with you, man? You doing? I can know how can we help you tonight, man?

SPEAKER_02 1:33:57

I just want I just want to stick on a conversation. Um, I just want to talk about uh just coming home from jail and getting and getting yourself back on your feet. You know, a lot of times y'all talk about it. Uh I hear black talk about it a lot, with it with what it is, and then feet you talking about how you hold people down. It's a lot of time when you come back out here on the street, um, you give a lot of promises. And with the promises that you give, it's basically is what you want people to believe in you in. And you know the struggle is, you know, you was a man before you went in. You took a lot of people before you went in. You gave a lot of honor to people before you went in. And when you got back out on these streets, you know, people still look at you the same way. And a lot of times is, you know, your support system 10 years ago might not be the same support system now. I did a little small bid back in, I would say, about 2012. And like for like, I'd say for like the last 15 years, I dealt with a lot of things that I think I had to get up from the month. I was working underneath the table, trying to build myself up because of that magnitude. I was still maintaining myself as a street, as a street, street person. You know what I mean? Still want to care for people, but when it all came back to it, it was just like I never was worried about myself, and it almost feels it made me feel like I still was in prison a lot of times because it's like I'm I'm um I'm still staying loyal to things that wasn't loyal to me. So what I'm saying is coming around almost 15 years later, and when I said where I started getting a support system and and believing in people and not understanding, they were telling me what to do, but I was telling them like this feel my way first. Because you know, as a man, sometimes when you go to prison and you put yourself in that predicament, you mind and your body tell you that you gotta be so masculine that you're not open to taking accountability and understanding exactly where you're coming from. So the lay in the plane where I'm coming from is 15 years later, I put in the application and went through all these trials and tribulations, and everything just started working. And it's all about that at the end of this day, you y'all were talking about like coming back home. Yeah, I made some promises to people, but did I re did I did I stand on it? I stood on the best ways possible. And and one of the things I think it's like believing in yourself. I got a I got a man that's doing almost two life things, it's the murder prison in Delaware. He was part of the ride and everything like that. And we speak a lot. And I and one of my biggest things was I told him I want to get if I get to ever get a chance to talk to y'all and get some information to get him on the podcast to talk to y'all so y'all can move back and forth. And he says, I got a lot of good work with the youth and people that's coming into prison, it'd be a good, it'll be good, a good scenario. But he always told me, and it was in he told me about a money go when I'm going through my struggles. He said, like you, you're a certain age and you ain't got your license. So I just I just went through a went through a step and step and step and and got them today. And it was a crazy thing. And I watch your show a lot, and it's just like I went through this as a child with my father in prison. I went through my stepdad in prison, and it's a lot of things that people don't understand that never give up and always stay focused on what's going on now instead of not paying attention to the dialogue that y'all put in. That dialogue that y'all putting out right now, a lot of people, and me, but me including myself, will sit there and I'll be like, y'all see me talking that shit. Or if I see them, I understand where they're coming from, and it just makes me feel like y'all's platform is a very, very, very genuine thing in the in the story before it's all said and done. As long as y'all keep going, somebody watching. Y'all might not touch everybody, but y'all touch certain people. And I'll say over the last month or so, I put a message out to myself, and and I just kept watching y'all's show, and y'all gave me that inspiration. I kept moving. And now I just look at myself like I can reach another person, and and I might give them all the information by this table. But watch the story. But watch speech, or watch black. They're gonna tell you exactly what you're headed to. I only can give them 10 minutes, y'all give them hours and hours and hours of down calls of what's gonna happen. Like, like one of the funniest stories they always say, the knocking the stocks. I couldn't picture me getting healed, getting healed with locking the socks. If somebody said that to me, I would like to go crazy. But if already in a place where they mentally tell you gotta go crazy. That's not gonna work for me. What's gonna work for me is that dialogue that y'all put out on the stage right now. And one of the best things I said is when y'all had that season with Muslim females up there that day. Some of those stories I listed as a child, I listed in the in in and people just gotta just gotta understand and comprehend and listen. Instead of listen to respond, not talk. And a lot of things y'all say, I just I just want to give you all a blessing. I called in, man. As a man, I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm just great to say it took me a lot to call in. I watch y'all show, but I said one day I'm gonna call in because I'm gonna have a great day today, and I just want to give y'all blessings and thank you.

SPEAKER_05 1:39:41

That's all we did. Thank you, man. Enjoy your night, man. Appreciate you, man. Appreciate you. Yeah, man. Um, that was a hell of a uh message, man. That call really appreciate that, man. Um, but we thank y'all for all the support. Everybody's been who's been supporting us. Once again, we can't do this without y'all. And a lot of these uh situations or these things we speak about are real live situations. These are real live, you know, uh the things that happen and happen to people, and and these situations lead people to go back to jail or to lose their life. So we want to uh continue to help everybody, man. We're gonna get up out of here. Once again, this episode of Tells My Jail is sponsored by TNS Media Group. Also, don't forget, if you're if you're able to go uh open your uh your iPhone or your Android and go to your app store and download Fuse Tube. Go ahead and download FuseTube. It's uh uh you know a hell of an app. It has a lot of features for you and the family to watch. Go down and um and be a part of Fuse Tube. Um, I want to thank everybody for tuning in with my counterpart, uh Mr. Brahe Jackson, everybody here behind the scenes, uh nephew, both of nephews, Topekin, uh Kasim, and uh everybody here uh at Telsman Gels. We want to thank y'all for the support. We can't do it without y'all. We are about to ask you want to say before we go.

SPEAKER_06 1:40:56

It's Friday. It's Friday. You know what I'm right saying. Enjoy yourself. Do not have too much fun and wake up in that jail cell or never wake up again. Do not have too much fun, man. We gotta get ready for Monday, man. You know, for those who drink, you know, I don't promote that any type of way, but if you're doing it, man, do it in modest, man. Thankfully, man. Don't get behind no will, man. And for those that don't drink and indulge in that, man, it's okay to be alright, man, and have a little, let your hair down a little bit. Ain't nothing wrong with that, man. I'll be the first one to tell you I sticks the tail feather. You know what I mean? But in moderation, man, with conscious thinking, man. And let's get back here Monday, man, and get back to the topics because we're gonna have some topics to talk about. Don't let it be you.

SPEAKER_05 1:41:44

And don't forget, we got still got episodes coming up. Don't forget to check out the uh the King Earner interview. King Earner interview is available right now, along with a long list of other interviews. We got more uh great guests coming. Um, thanks to y'all. Everybody's been paying attention to the to the platform, calling from you know your name in New York, California, all Atlanta. People are calling to get on the show. These are uh notable names, notable people that want to be a part of what we got going on. So we thank y'all for all the support. Well, no matter where you are, no matter what city you are, no matter what state you are located in, we are uh thankful and appreciative. Y'all enjoy y'all night, enjoy y'all weekend. Don't forget Crazy Clips this weekend as well. Um, watch, it'll be available. All the members and subscribers will be getting a uh notification for Crazy Clips. Uh, shout out to Empath. Empath is a home care agency in Philadelphia and New Jersey. Empath is uh my guy, uh my guy Mark is a great agency if you have in New Jersey. You're looking for a home care agency for your family. Check that out. Um so uh you know, we want to thank everybody. Also, if you're in Las Vegas, you're in Las Vegas, you're looking for home care services in Las Vegas. Uh, Google Mountain Care. That's Mountain Care LLC in Las Vegas. They are a wonderful home care um agency. They'll get you set up, get everything going. Um, you know, we thank everybody who's been supporting us from day one, it's tail to the jails. We are about ahead.