The Parenting Wisdom
The Parenting Wisdom Podcast is a place where we explore parenting from a truly holistic perspective. I believe that a wise parent is one who asks questions, keeps an open mind, and also trusts their deep inner knowing.
Here, we integrate insights from psychology, sociology, holistic medicine, child development science, philosophy, and ancient wisdom. Because there is no single “right” way to parent — each of us is unique, and every child is a unique soul.
The guiding principle of The Parenting Wisdom Podcast is that parents are their children’s leaders. And as leaders, we must be both humble and courageous as we raise children who will grow into independent, resilient, and fulfilled human beings — ready to share their unique gifts and live lives of meaning and purpose.
We believe that our children are strong and capable, and that challenges are part of their growth. Our role is to let them face those challenges while remaining their safe haven — the steady presence they can always count on, no matter what.
The Parenting Wisdom
The Transformative Power of Attachment Parenting: How to Become the Calm, Confident Leader Your Kids Need
The Transformative Power of Attachment Parenting: How to Become the Calm, Confident Leader Your Kids Need
In this episode of The Parenting Wisdom Podcast, Efrat Amira sits down with parenting coach and therapist Todd Sarner, founder of Transformative Parenting, to explore what it truly means to parent with both connection and leadership.
Drawing on the wisdom of attachment science and the teachings of Dr. Gordon Neufeld (Hold On to Your Kids), Todd shares how modern parents can reclaim their natural authority—not through control or punishment, but through calm, confident guidance that meets children’s deepest need: secure attachment.
Together, we unpack the myths around gentle parenting, discuss why boundaries are an act of love, and explore the essential shift from reactive “whack-a-mole” parenting to creating a strong family culture built on belonging, responsibility, and trust.
💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
- What attachment parenting really means (and what it’s not)
- Why leadership—not control—is what children are wired to follow
- How to set clear, loving boundaries without shame or fear
- The three realms of parenting: connection, environment, and discipline
- Why kids need responsibility and contribution to feel they belong
- How to build systems and family rituals that support harmony and growth
- What happens when parents don’t lead—and where kids turn instead
🧭 Key Quotes:
“Attachment is an instinct. When you understand that, it radically changes your approach to parenting.” – Todd Sarner“Boundaries aren’t punishment—they’re leadership.”“If you don’t lead, your child will look for leadership elsewhere.”
🪴 Takeaway:
Parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence, connection, and the willingness to grow alongside your child. When you lead with both heart and structure, you become the calm, trusted guide your children naturally want to follow.
🔗 Resources Mentioned:
- Transformative Parenting
- Transformative Parenting Youtube Channel
- Hold On to Your Kids — Dr. Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté
- Simplicity Parenting — Kim John Payne
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