Tough Love and Tecates
Mother-Daughter Duo discussing, life, love, financials, and goals.
Tough Love and Tecates
Home Is Where We Create It: Building Sanctuaries Wherever Life Takes Us
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Have you ever noticed how the stories we tell ourselves shape our reality? Sometimes the biggest barrier to our happiness isn't external circumstances but the narratives we've created about what's possible.
In this heartfelt mother-daughter conversation, we dive deep into our August wins while exploring the transformative power of shifting perspectives. Trini shares how moving out of her mother's home created a necessary shift in responsibility—what was once optional became essential, forcing growth and maturity. The vulnerability in admitting "I wasn't at my best" opens a beautiful dialogue about forgiveness and forward momentum.
One of the most powerful moments comes when discussing the shift from viewing work as a burden to seeing it as an opportunity. "The lies you tell yourself are the ones that hurt the most," becomes a touchstone for understanding how our internal dialogue creates our external reality. This mindset transformation has allowed both women to stop making excuses and start embracing possibilities.
The conversation expands beyond personal achievements to explore what it means to create sanctuary wherever you go. From establishing a real estate community built on collaboration rather than competition to negotiating time in a beloved former home, there's wisdom in recognizing that home isn't just a physical space but an energy we cultivate. Perhaps most valuable is the discussion around becoming "savage" about protecting your peace—evaluating every interaction through the lens of whether it contributes to your wellbeing.
Ready to shift your perspective and find greater peace? Listen now and join us in celebrating wins both big and small while discovering how changing your mindset can transform your entire life experience.
welcome back. This is our month end episode. So we are here today on tough love and thick and we are celebrating our wins for the month. So, trini, you want to go first?
Speaker 1okay, um, so I say for me, for the wins that I've had so much for this month, I would have to say this podcast mom. I feel like this is something that we've been talking about for quite some time. I feel like maybe what?
Speaker 1since four years, three years probably, probably well like before we moved here yeah, that's what I'm saying. It's been three years since we Well, like before we moved here yeah, that's what I'm saying. It's been three years since we've been out here now, so about that, but either way, this is probably one of the biggest ones for us. I mean, even first coming in here, I was pretty nervous, Honestly. I mean this whole setup. I mean I was expecting like more of like I was just kind of sitting in a car or something.
Speaker 2You're like told we almost did it at the couch, on wheeling. Yes.
Speaker 1So I was a little bit more. I don't know. I wasn't expecting this whole setup and honestly it feels surreal. Like I said earlier, I mean I'm proud of both of us really. I mean this is a huge accomplishment for us. And just to even say like I am pretty proud of the fact that I mean I feel like lately I'm kind of getting used to not being under your household, that it's something that I'm kind of proud of myself with too, because obviously it's kind of it's going from your household under another like somebody else's, but obviously it's given me more like discipline in order for me to like, hey, like you have to pay the rent, like you have to do this, like you're helping out now, like you have to pay the rent, like you have to do this, like you're helping out now, like it's more like serious, because it's it's taking care of myself too, you know, and taking care of others in the way that, like you raised me to be well, I feel like it's just responsibility.
Trini's Growth and New Responsibilities
Speaker 2Yes, that's the word like. Like no offense, but like your responsibilities were optional. Yes, with me. Yeah, the kind of worse, like it was, kind of like oh, like I want you to do this, and it was like, okay, you, oh, like I want you to do this, and it was like okay, you know. And literally like Dad and I got to the point where we wanted to like throat punch you when you were like I don't feel like it, yeah, I don't feel like it.
Speaker 1I kind of got the gist of that. Yeah, it felt like a hostile environment Like this bitch.
Speaker 2I'm setting the tone of it.
Speaker 1So don't get me wrong, I definitely was not at my best, I was not doing enough around and I feel like I could have done.
Speaker 2More is what I mean.
Speaker 1Well, I mean forgive yourself, I forgive you.
Speaker 2Like there's nothing, like there's no, no harm, no foul.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2I honestly feel like it's just a child parents dynamic.
Speaker 1Yeah, I feel like I got too used to being like yeah.
Speaker 2Well, yeah, well, even like remember that quinceanera we were at and homie was like your daughter has so much respect and she saw this and she saw that that I literally was like and that's all we hope for.
Speaker 2Like you treat me however you want, but like, when you're out and not, I take that back, don't treat me however you want wait, let me be clear. But like it's, it's different. It's, yeah, it's different when you're under your parents household versus in somebody else's household, because I feel like I did raise you with respect yes, and you definitely have to be responsible and not to be, like you know just to be helpful wherever you're at and you know so I, I love that for you.
Speaker 2I love that being in someone else's household has made you feel responsible and step up yeah, to basically like like being your own woman yeah, yeah, and it not being optional.
Speaker 1Yeah, I feel like even then, if I wasn't the way that I was raised by you, there would have been no reason to why they even offered me to like hey, like, do you just want to move in?
Speaker 1Like you're here all the time, girl, Like you might as well they would have been like ugh yeah girl out of here, like that lazy, broad, like she don't like that's, like that's the complete opposite, like, honestly, like. Another thing, too, is like I'm proud of the relationship that I have with, like my in-laws. Like they, I've never felt more welcomed, mom, like I've never felt more loved in a household that wasn't like ours. Yeah, ever, ever, ever. So, like something like that, like I, I'm happy and it feels good.
Speaker 2It feels really good. I feel like just feeling genuinely happy is a win.
Speaker 1Yes, yes, and that's something I haven't felt in a while. I feel like that's something I've been chasing for a while. So now that I'm there, it's something I just want to keep going. Like that's it, like I just want to keep it going. I want to keep it pumping, like with work even.
Work Mindset Shift
Speaker 2I'm proud of the like, the fact that I've stayed at this job as long as I have, I mean. Well, I feel like I would make excuses.
Speaker 1I feel like you changed your mindset when it came to your job, because it used to be like I have to go to work.
Speaker 2Yeah, I have to go to work and now it's like and it it. I know it's been like stressful because the main lady's like not there, you know what I mean but I feel like her not being there is what made you step up, yeah it has, it really has.
Speaker 1Now that she is back, I'm like now everything's just kind of smooth sailing from now on and I'm just like I'm digging it. I don't resent work anymore, yeah, and I feel like that's something that I would make an excuse for any type of job that I used to have in the past. I would always like make an excuse to not want to go in, to just come out sick or whatever. You know, I always had an excuse to why I didn't want to go, and then, when it would come to actually like not working there anymore, I would just make excuses to why it was somebody else's yes it was never my own.
Speaker 1I'm perfect, no, but now it's like I'm. I reflected off of that and now I don't want to make it like a habit of making excuses for myself of why I couldn't do it when I'm now doing it, the lies you tell yourself are the ones that hurt the most.
Speaker 2Yes, ma'am, I mean I feel like that's reality, yeah, like because it's just once you stepped out of that and, like I said, I it, your, your perspective also shifted from I have to to I get to, yeah, and that changed so much because I mean nobody wants to do shit, they have to do yeah, what I'm saying, and when you look at it that way, it feels like a burden.
Speaker 2Yeah, it feels like it does, but I do like I I'll celebrate that one with you because there's like I feel like it's stability for you, like it's just you. You have that comfort level where it's not how do I say it? Like there's gratitude within it that you're not like, because previously it was like you're looking for the next thing. Yeah, you're looking for the next thing, like the next thing is going to make you happy, the next thing is going to bring you peace, the next thing is going to bring you peace. And I feel like you have, like you're living in it now.
Speaker 1Yeah, and it feels damn good. Let me just say yeah. How about you, though, mama? What would you say?
Mom's Real Estate and Warehouse Wins
Speaker 2Oh, I have a lot of wins this month. August has been like so good, like in the aspects of. I mean, our warehouse is assembled like this, feels like it would never come um, it's actually like I get to walk in it and there's walls and there's like I haven't seen it.
Speaker 1Oh, I can't wait, very exciting.
Speaker 2So that's a big win, that's a big win because I mean, if I'm being perfectly honest, there was a point in time where I felt like it was robbed from us, yeah, and you know, but it's. It's just like, how do you deal with things in the face of adversity? It's just like you pick up your big girl pants and keep it moving. And so I'm glad that I didn't quit, because dad and I had that conversation many times like, okay, well, what do we do? Do just pack up our shit and go back, and it was just like no, like yeah, I remember that.
Speaker 1I feel like that felt like that was like more of like my daddy didn't raise a quitter If I quit, like he will turn over in his grave and probably come haunt me.
Speaker 2and what? By asking my sleep like there's just no way. Yeah, and so there's. There's that I joined a real estate group that I am so proud to be a part of. Like I went to their event called Pack Ignite and it was in Colorado and it just. I've never felt that type of energy before going to a real estate seminar. I felt like it was just. You know, it wasn't about any one particular agent, it was about a collaboration of a bunch of agents and how they can help each other grow.
Speaker 1I love that. That's nice. That's different from the places that you've been with before.
Speaker 2Well, it was in the sense that, I mean, I never even considered, like how do I say it Like agent attraction, Like I never thought about bringing other agents because there was nothing ever presented to me that I was like I want to share this with other people.
Speaker 2Like the joys of homeownership. Like I've always been very passionate about sharing that with other people. Like I thought that was my thing, you know. And now, like through just not even just being so impressed and so engulfed in all the stuff and all the resources and all the tools and all the support and all the collaboration and all the tools and all the support and all the collaboration and everything that's available, like it got me excited to be like hey, like I want to bring PAC to El Paso. Like I want I want a bunch of PAC agents in El Paso. Like I want us all to like shoot our social media content together and freaking, like have events and, you know, do things for our clients and just celebrate together. Like I, you know, and that's something like. So that's a win for me because it's a new door that opened for me that previously was never there before and I feel like that's a huge one for me.
Speaker 2I mean I, real estate wise, I've been blessed with amazing clients. I feel like I've. For me it's. I get no better joy than helping people that thought they couldn't buy a home reach that goal, and especially when they never in a million years thought it was attainable. Yeah, so for me it's just and it's not. I had a client's brother mentioned the other day and he's like well, you know, I want my daughter to buy a house, maybe you can convince her. And my response to him was like I don't convince I am not a convincer.
Speaker 2That's not my job. He was educated. Yes, that's exactly what I said. I said I don't convince. I give education and resources where they decide this is what's best for them, where they decide this is what's best for them, and so I feel like that's a huge one. I mean, it's circling back to this Like there's so many.
Creating Home and Protecting Peace
Speaker 2I feel like August has just been a month where all these ideas that have always floated in the back of my head, like I've surrounded myself with the right people and the right dynamic where I'm checking them off. I'm checking off the boxes of. It's not like I say I'm going to do this. I say I'm going to do this. It's like it's happening. It's happening and I just I feel it like it's just so much peace, like I've become savage in the way I protect my peace. Like every email I open, every call I get, every engagement, it's like is this contributing to my peace? Like every email I open, every call I get, every engagement, it's like is this, is this contributing to my peace, or is this gonna, you know, open the door for more problems, or something like that? And it's like the way I've just created the ability to slam the door shut on, you know, because I have.
Speaker 2I have goals to reach. I don't have time for negativity. I don't have time for things that don't feel my soul, make me feel happy and make the people around me feel happy Like I. I only want I. I have love for everybody. You know that that's all my heart knows how to do is love, it's, it's all love, um. But I'm focusing on just not only feeling the love within, having the peace within and letting that flow outward to the people that want it. And you know, I wish everybody like I wish love and peace to everybody. Yeah, my prayer is that the people I love find this, yeah, find just this peace, because it's like life is so much better when you have it Like regardless, if you, you know if shit hasn't worked out, if you've made some mistakes, if you know like regardless, like everybody's, I feel like everybody deserves it. Yeah, they do A hundred percent, yeah.
Speaker 1And so I feel like those are.
Speaker 1I feel like that's one thing everybody is chasing all the time and they're not, like you said earlier, like how I was like that where I would just look for the next thing that's going to make me happy, like a lot of people are like that too, and live in the present really is like really what I'm trying to learn myself. I feel like that's something I'm pretty proud of myself, like just not worrying about what happened in the past, because you already know how I was too. I was living so much in the past where I wasn't even wanting to move on to the next thing in my life. So now that I'm moving forward, I mean the past is the past. Now there's nothing you could change about that exactly.
Speaker 2But now it's like I look forward to the future because of what I have going on right now, in this moment, and that's gotta say that's yeah well, I feel like the first, like the first two and a half years since we moved like a lot of it was I wanted things to go back to the way they were. Yes, so like, so much because it was good, like it was good, like. I love that my home in Arvada was like a place of love, peace and celebration for so many people yeah, not just me Like my home, so many people.
Speaker 2I love that our friends and family like they miss our home as much as we do. Yeah, and another win that I'll celebrate like and it's it might be a premature celebration, but it's okay because I'm speaking it into existence, like we are possibly going to get new tenants that we've like in the lease I've negotiated some time in our house. Oh nice, yes, that was like, you know, because we we have, you know, interested parties and they were like, well, what could we do to like solidify it?
Speaker 2and I'm like hey I need, like I need three, three nights yeah, two times a year in your off seasons like you know, and so I feel like that's I. I want to celebrate that because I feel like I didn't do that the last lease I signed. Yeah, just because I, at that point in time, I feel like I was just so overwhelmed and stressed with everything that was happening. Yeah, yeah, I was like get me away from that house.
Speaker 2I don't want to do anything but I, I do love our home. Yeah, like we spent so much time like and you made it like the difference that it was like from when we first moved in to now.
Speaker 1Like mom, that's something that you I really hope I know you probably are, but you and dad like should be huge, like really proud of yourselves with, even, like right now, the house that we're in, right now we're grandpas, mom, you guys made that into like a home already in such a short amount of time. Like that's a beautiful feeling to have, like being able to make any place that you go home like it doesn't have to be a building, it's within what you guys carry and like what you have done so far. I'm really proud of you guys, mom, like I really am that I appreciate?
Speaker 2that I know I have my, I know I like, I, I just I want anywhere where we are to feel good, amen. And I want like for me, like dad and I joke that I'm just like I want to make sure, like I want my, my Colorado people to come visit. Like where are you man, like three years, like not one fucking visitor. I'm a liar. Julie will be here. My friend Julie will be here, but like, where are you guys at? Like?
Speaker 1where you been. Nobody's came to visit us Nobody.
Speaker 2Well, you know what I mean, in all fairness, like we sold it as everybody would come down for the grand opening. So I'm going to hold you all to it, like straight up, but like I just want to create a space where, like it was in Colorado, where just everybody feels warm welcome. Yeah, like peaceful, you know, and just like, oh, like sweet Mario, like he would always tell us, like I love how your house feels when I walk in the door. You know what I mean.
Looking Forward and Final Thoughts
Speaker 1And's just like that's, that's what I want to create anywhere I go, like for me, I like Jesus, take the will, take me wherever you want to take me, as long as I can continue to provide those spaces to not only myself and my family, but to others, because that's, that's what fills my soul and the amount of people that have like held like a sanctuary in that home is like it's so beautiful, like to think about all the people that have been in and out of that house throughout the years. Like, and rest in peace. Albert, yeah, like that's one person I've been thinking about lately like really bad and it's weird. Actually, did I tell you?
Speaker 1I had a dream about him not too long ago and he was saying like I'm here, I'm still here. I've always told you, yeah, he's like, I'm like he, I'm like. He literally told me like I'm still here, bro, cause I asked him like I thought you passed, dude, and he's like I seen you. And he's like no, you didn't. You didn't see me Cause he called me out, cause I didn't go for the viewing, but he's like I'm still here, I'm always here with you.
Speaker 2He's like just know, downstairs somewhere, there's so much still down there in that basement someone will find it well. Um, I mean, I feel like I feel like that's it, for I mean, I mean I had a lot of wins, yeah, but I feel like that's, I feel like that's all I can think of for this month, but I'm I'm excited for what next month will bring me and I'm excited for you know, like just I'm open to receive an endless amount of blessings in any shape or form, Like I'm ready.
Speaker 2I'm ready and I welcome them to all the people that I love. But, most of all, like, my prayer is just peace and happiness for those that don't have it Like, because I feel like that's, once you have that like you, it's basically like different glasses that you get to see life through.
Speaker 1Yeah, that, just it. It just it changes things, yeah, and whatever god has in store for us in the future, we're ready for it. Yeah, but this has been a nice little month with you, mom. Thank you so much for having me and having this time with each other to make something to something even more, yeah, looking forward to more cheers to the future cheers to tough love and tequila.
Speaker 2We'll see you next time. Bye, looking forward to more Cheers to the future, cheers to more Cheers to tough love and tequila. We'll see you next time.
Speaker 1Bye.