032 Cry Baby!!

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SPEAKER_00 0:52

Welcome back, Unhinged Essentials, to another Wednesday episode. It's Wednesday, March 18th. Thank you for joining us. If this is your first time, welcome, virgins. Welcome, welcome. If it is not your first time, welcome back, sluts. Love you. Wednesday, March 18th. So I'm I'm kind of excited and uh scared that we're already at like through March end of this year. Because it feels like we just did New Year's.

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Yeah, I really don't know what's going on. It's like And a lot. A lot has happened. Yes. Oh my god. In stereo. Anyway.

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Alright, so for our days today, national S B D C Day. Okay. What's a S B D C Day? Uh during the third Wednesday in March, National Small Business Development Centers Day. Oh, wow. Okay.

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Cool, cool.

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I feel like we may be a small business.

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It's all we're trying. We're trying to be. Yeah.

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Give us your monies.

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We need some monies.

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It's National Biodiesel Day. Biodiesel Day. Why in the hell do they have a day? National Sloppy Joe Day. Oh, I like me some sloppy joes. Do you do you like the sloppy Joes or do you like the SNL skit of Sloppy Joes? Or both. Oh, what's that? You didn't see the S the one Adam Sandler and uh not Will Farrell, God bless. Uh Adam Sandler. During the 90s, they did the Sloppy Joe skit on SNL. If you don't know this, look it up. Press pause, look it up, and and have a blast because his song, the whole skit, lunch of Lady Land, everything is the best day ever.

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Okay, I'll have to look it up. Okay, so I'm a loser. Like half of the stuff he talks about, I have no clue. Anyway, yeah.

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But I also like just make so we called them manwitches.

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Yeah, that's what we called them.

SPEAKER_00 3:09

It was manwitch. Yeah, so you had the canned manwitch mix and like ground beef. Yeah. Throw it on a bunch. If you didn't have buns, you put it on sandwich bread. Yes. Yeah. Oh, yeah.

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Cheese.

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Even better. Yeah, straight up pork.

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Even better.

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I never felt better than like a man witch day. I was like, oh, I don't have to eat some random health food meal.

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I mean, I still I still love man witches. I will too. I I love them. I will get down. I will still eat spam. Sorry. Not a spam person. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Man. You get that hunk of meat and it's all the goop that comes out. No.

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No, no. The jelly that's around it. Oh, God. It's been in the can since World War II.

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You're like, how is this still good? It's like, it's like, I'm not in Hawaii. Yeah. I am still in the States. Sorry, Hawaii people. Love you guys, but. Hey, Hawaii, hit me up. I like you spam. I'm like, I just, I don't think I could do the spam. It's also National Lacey Oatmeal Cookie Day. I have no clue. Alright, we're gonna click it. No clue.

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National Lacey Oatmeal Day. Some people may refer to this day as National Oatmeal Cookie Day, which is celebrated on April 30th. It's not April 30th. Not quite. The difference between the two is that Lacey Oatmeal cookies are wafer thin and typically accompany a scoop of ice cream or sorbet. I mean, I can get on board. It sounds delicious.

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I'm like, I can get on board with it.

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Why not? Yeah. Fat kid food. It's also, awkwardly enough, National Awkward Moments Day. I'm good at those. Yep. Yes, very good at those. And National Supreme Sacrifice Day.

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That's a very weird combination of things this week.

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So what is Supreme Sacrifice Day? So Supreme Sacrifice Day honors those who have made tremendous sacrifices for the sake of and or the good of others as well as those who sacrifice their lives every day for us. Well that's kind of sad. I yeah, no joke. Alright, now that we're all crying. Right. Okay, on this day in history, Pat Nixon, Flava Flav, and Isabel Huppert. Huppert. H-U-P-P-E-R-D. Like, listen, if you know who that girl is, I'm sorry. They were born today. Happy birthday. Happy birthday. Happy birthday. In 1751, James Madison, father of the Constitution, is born. The Scarlet Letter is published in 1850. Okay. 1881, 18-year-old woman murders her lover. Oh gosh. Oh wow. Okay. God, why are people so angry? I'm like, uh, how do I answer that? Yeah. Here's another one. 1894. Gunslinger. John Wesley Harden is pardoned. That's it. Yeah, there you go. All the rhymes. Judge Roy Bean dies in 1903. The first liquid-fueled rocket takes flight in 1926. Okay, pretty cool. Pretty cool. In 1955, NHL star Maurice Richards suspended. And a riot ensues. Okay, well, why was he suspended? He was suspended for regular season playoffs after he attacks an opponent. So for a fight. Oh, nice. Okay. Alright, okay. Good reason. Good reason. Vietnamese villagers killed by U.S. soldiers in My Lay Massacre in 1968. Wow. Motown soul singer Tammy Terrell dies in 1970. And James Brown performs at Rikers in 1972. Man, there's a lot of stuff. Holy cows just keep today is like a popular day for things. Wow. Okay. Everybody was spunky. In 1985, American journalist Terry Anderson is kidnapped. President Reagan orders troops into Honduras in 1988. In 2003, 23-year-old peace activist Rachel Corey is crushed to death by Israeli bulldozer. Jesus Christ.

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Wow. Okay.

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Pop-ups. In 2005, actor Robert Blake acquitted of wife's murder. Everybody's angry. In 2008, Bear Stearns collapses sold to JB Morgan Chapes. That sounds like a money thing. Alright. Whatever. That is so dumb. Alright. Did I ever tell you about the time I went mushroom foraging?

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You did not. What happened when you went mushroom foraging? It's a story with a moral at the end.

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Oh wow.

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Love that. Alright. Today we are doing something that I don't want to do.

SPEAKER_02 9:05

No, I think it's the best time to do it. A lot of shit's happened, like in the last let's just say month. Yeah, like 57 hours. Okay, less than a month. Okay, so so just pre-warning, if Reed starts bawling like a little girl, I'll try to distract, but no promises. I'm probably gonna sit here and laugh at him for a minute, but it's fine. Anyway, it's okay.

SPEAKER_00 9:32

It's all good. So I I have littles, and my littles are not so little anymore. They don't be littling anymore. No. The our littles, we we've we've graduated one, we're graduating another, and we're very quickly graduating the last. Okay, so the last ones you said two years, right? Yeah, so we have uh two two three years. Two math is hard. What grade is two little line? Three three years the baby will graduate. So ninth grade. Yeah.

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This coming year or this year?

SPEAKER_00 10:10

So she's finishing freshman year. Oh, so we're gonna have 11th, 12th. Yeah, so three years she'll be done. Okay, and that's the baby of the baby. Then we are empty nested. Uh oh. But our only boy is graduating this year, and I am not doing well. He's not bubbling, it's not pretty. So we we kind of like our oldest um graduated early. Um didn't didn't kind of like follow the plant, graduated early. Uh she worked and did her stuff and found her path and is about to be on it. Well, is currently on it, but is graduating with her uh certifications and licenses to do what she wants to do. Okay, so what is she what's her plans? Uh so it is she's is she's going to run her own company. Okay. So is she going for a business degree or it's like beauty, aesthetician, it it's it's all the things like outside of doing hair and nails. Oh, okay. So she'll she'll do like the injections, the facials, the like that you're gonna go to get your glam up with her.

SPEAKER_02 11:38

So is she doing like an RN program or is she doing something outside of that even?

SPEAKER_00 11:44

Uh outside of that. I do she I I feel like she'll end up going that route. Okay. But right now it's running her business and and doing like the facial injections, all the all the things. Wow, okay. So then you have my son. Uh he's he's a big track guy, right? He is. Okay. So he he got a scholarship to go to a private college. Oh, wow, okay. And and run track. So now instead of being just a couple of hours away, he's gonna be like seven.

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Oh wow.

SPEAKER_00 12:25

Okay, so that is not okay. West Texas. West Texas. So he's gonna go out to Lubbock. Oh, wow. Lubbock, Texas. Wow, okay. Yeah, so back to our stomach grounds.

SPEAKER_02 12:38

Yeah, very close. Yeah.

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And he's going to do uh well, so like the 800 meter and then uh cross country. So is he still running all the time? Yes, yesterday. Like his little workout was three miles. Okay, so like I know the area that you live in, and it's hilly as hell.

SPEAKER_02 13:02

Oh yeah, he just takes off. Just disappears. I might make it down your driveway and then I'll be needing some.

SPEAKER_00 13:12

I died taking the trash out. This kid is like, I'm he's I'm gonna do a little workout, I'm gonna run to here and back. And I'm like, to there and back is like hills and it's like it's up and down. There's there's dangerous animals. Dude, I'm not even going to walk off my porch. Like, wow. So he does that. He's he's in super good shape. I'm uh like I'm so proud of him. So yesterday, oh yesterday yesterday.

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I made the mistake of uh texting with Reed last night. It was very awkward. Anyway, moving on. Oh, so this this will be so much fun.

SPEAKER_00 13:54

So like I had a full-on dad moment. Oh wow. I I was I was ugly crying. My family has never seen me ugly cry. Um like I'm I've gotten close, but I normally walk away. I hate you with my boy.

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I oh shit, I forgot the Kleenexes. Yeah.

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I I I ugly I ugly cried. It's so much so that like I think it was even awkward for him.

SPEAKER_02 14:29

Guys, I'm gonna be honest. If he starts balling, we're gonna have to pause for a moment. I'm gonna have to walk away. I'm gonna come back.

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He he is he's he's such a he's such a good kid. Like one, I don't think he knows right, like the financial responsibility that he's about to take on with going to the school. Like one, you know, granted, they're they're they're giving him some monies, but it's a it's a private school, it's it's gonna be expensive, and and he's I you know I guess he's willing to take it on. Uh so we've had the conversations about it. He's he's adamant that's that's where he's going. So what is his what is his goal? So he wants to get a communications degree. And with the communications degree, he he wants to be like a sports broadcaster. Oh wow, okay. So with you know, with that. Kind of following in dad's footsteps. Right, like I think I think he wants to like work for ESPN. I think that's like the big goals is like work for ESPN. We're gonna be the little losers on that. Right. But I I think he's he's just like, I wanna, you know, he he he just he wants to follow sports, he wants to talk about it. That's all he talks about. That's awesome. He he does all the statistics, uh, he knows all the math, everything. Like he's that's that's him. That's always been him. And Colin Reed are just sitting here be like, how do we do this?

SPEAKER_02 16:09

Yeah, like two plus two is one, two, three, four.

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Two plus two is four. Yeah. So, you know, with him being into sports, he's he's also he's just recently gotten into golf. Okay.

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And with our But you're really into the whole golf thing. Well, for sure. Yeah. Okay. I mean, because I know you and Sonny D be going out and playing some golf in this year.

SPEAKER_00 16:33

So yeah, we we we plays the golf in our family. My my father-in-law is a golf pro. Wow. Okay, and so with my son, you know, he he like caught the bug too. And so we oh got him some some things that like aren't actually on the market yet. Wow. Okay. And uh, you know, it he we were we were trying to figure out, you know, what do we get my son for graduation, you know, the typical graduation gifts, like you get him a computer, you know, you you pay for their college, you do whatever. And so he's he's working really hard and trying to get the scholarships. Like one, you know, like he's native, he tested well, you know, he's getting a sports deal, and so it's like some benefits. So we had we had some money stacked aside, and uh said, all right, well, let's get him something he can use and enjoy, you know, far beyond just college. Like you get a computer, right? It's it's out of date within six months. Yeah, it doesn't last long. And so we uh we got we got him some golf stuff, and so that that golf stuff, I you know, I give it to him yesterday because uh we're also getting ready to go on a big family vacation. We tried to go last year on a big family vacation, and we had a a pretty significant family medical deal. Uh one of the matriarch of our family ended up, you know, we diagnosed with cancer and passing away. And so that uh trip got postponed. So we're gonna take it again this year. So now my oldest daughter is graduating, my only son is graduating. Oh wow, and then we're retaking a trip to a place where the matriarch and patriarch of our family kind of love to go. We're going to the Caribbean. Jealous. Way jealous. They they used to have a boat down there. Oh wow, they went and did all the things and like sailboat, did all the stuff, and so he's coming with grandpa is coming with us. Uh uh well for my kids, great grandpa for us, grandpa, you know, it he's he's coming with us, and then from mother-in-law, father, father-in-law, mom and dad, all the kids, we're we're all going, and then friends of the kids, we're we're all going. Uh that's gonna be a big trip to do kind of a big celebratory celebration trip. Um so uh in doing that, you know, we decided yesterday, like, hey, we're we're gonna give my son like all of his graduation stuff. So it's it's all this golf stuff, like setting so hooking him up, setting him up. It's stuff that only pros have that's not for sale on the market, all these things. Uh so we give it to him yesterday, and I fucking lost it. My my kids have never seen me unstable, like you know, not able to talk, and so I'm sitting there telling my son how proud I am of him, how much I love him, uh, you know, that that he's he's done such a good job, and that you know, for for the rest of his life, you know, like even to the point where it's like, hey, the door's always open, the lights always on, it just show up, you don't have to call, you can come home. And I it took me like 30 minutes to say that.

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Oh wow. Because I'm like, my kid, but I love you so much, you know.

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Even my son's like, it's okay, dude. Let me go get you set clean excess. I just brought this kid home from the hospital. Yeah, I could see that. I I just brought him home from the hospital. Like, literally, I was in medic school when he was being born. Like I helped deliver him.

SPEAKER_02 21:09

Oh wow. I guess that would hit hard though. It's like, okay, you were just a baby like yesterday.

SPEAKER_00 21:15

Yeah. I pulled him out of his mother. Oh wow. And was the first person to get to hold him. I cut his umbilical cord. Oh. And literally, like, I when they say don't blink, like that that song is for real. Because like he I blinked.

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And now he's an adult and he's eighteen. You know.

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He's like, you know, gone through girlfriends and break ups and he's

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The whole thing. It really is.

SPEAKER_00 22:07

He's such a good kid. I d I don't know why he's a good kid. Like he's had to live through a divorce. Yeah. Like his parents splitting up. Um he's had to live through his biological mother getting like remarried and divorced and again and uh he was there for me when I got married to my wife, and we've we've been married ever since then. Good resilience. It man it's he's he's always just kind of like rolled with a tide. And the the thing that hurts is like I've always been able to tell him this is what you're doing.

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And now he's telling you what he's doing. Yeah, no, I can't. Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00 23:13

It's I you know somebody asked me recently, you know, what's what's been your favorite stage of parenting. And it's this one.

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Oh. With him growing up and making the decisions and doing the things.

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So I've moved from like parent, you know, demonstrative parent, to uh when I'm asked mentor.

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Okay.

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And I I love that the most. Like I I love being able to just go, hey, this is this is your choice. Let me let me tell you this is not what I would do, but here's here's things you should do. It's gotta be hard though.

SPEAKER_02 24:01

Like you look at it and they make the wrong decision, you're like, why did you do that?

SPEAKER_00 24:07

Yeah, but it you know, you know, like it's his choice. He's so he's the the the college that he's really interested in that he committed to. I'm like, hey, did did they tell you how much it cost to go there? He's like, yeah, no. And I'm like Shocker. Right, right. So they they want you to go there and give you money and they're trying to make you pay.

SPEAKER_02 24:32

Uh but you know, and so that there's a did he have an interest in other or was there other colleges interested or oh for sure like he's it I get this this school that he's looking at is is uh it's where I went.

SPEAKER_00 24:53

Okay, fair enough. Um and it's where like his uh maternal grandfather, grandmother went uh his only his maternal grandfather and I graduated from there. Okay. His grandmother and his birth mother did not graduate from there. They they ended up following their husbands to you know where their jobs were. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 25:24

Um is that because he wants to keep on that family thing, or is it so I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 25:30

Like he he goes to a camp there during the summer and he he has for the longest time. Um he maybe a lot of friends. I honestly don't know why he wants to go there. I think I think he's being pushed there by his mom. Oh, okay. Uh which, you know, okay. But fair enough, you know, for me, you know, as dad, I'm like, hey, uh you're you're about to make a several hundred thousand dollar decision as an 18-year-old.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:05

And I, you know, if you don't need to do it, don't. Yeah. You know, because the last thing I ever did hiring anybody was looking at where they went to school.

SPEAKER_02 26:18

Yeah, I mean, it doesn't matter if you're a C student or a A student. You still, if you're qualified, you're qualified.

SPEAKER_00 26:24

Yeah, and I didn't look at the name of your school. Yeah. You know, did you go to college? Yes. Did you graduate? Okay, yeah, let me prove that. I'm not looking at, oh, you went to Stanford. No one cares. You were the star student. Yeah, no one freaking cares. But um as an 18-year-old, that that matters, I remember that mattering to me.

SPEAKER_02 26:51

You know, it's like you really don't look at the financials until you hit our age. Yeah. And then it's like, what the hell was I thinking?

SPEAKER_00 27:01

Oh, when you're so that was a conversation he and I had just the other night. It was like, dude, um, you don't want to be 40 years old and still giving$800 a month to a school that you graduated from, especially when you're not using that degree. So he wants a communications degree. So what that says to me as a dad is I don't know what I want to do. I'm just gonna go get a degree.

SPEAKER_02 27:33

Well, I mean, like communications, if you can use it, yeah, and you can make some bank with it. Oh, huge. Do it. Yeah, absolutely. I mean, I support it. Yeah, I mean, you know, like I remember I went to school because my mom told me I was going to.

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Yeah.

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And I went for my LPN. She was like, this is what you're gonna do, this is how it's gonna work, and yeah, just deal with it. You wanted to do it when you were 16. Well, I'm not 16 anymore, but that's what you're gonna do anyway. Okay, let's do it. Regurts. Yeah, lots and lots of regrets.

SPEAKER_00 28:14

Well, that's even mine. Like, I I answered a questionnaire the other day that you know, do you are you on your same professional path that you exited high school with? And I was like, yeah, no. I 100% am though. Yeah, I left high school uh on a seminary deal.

SPEAKER_02 28:33

Yeah, no, you made like a 100% flip. Like left and left and left again. It's like I'm gonna be a good little boy to turn into.

SPEAKER_00 28:45

I'm just kidding. No, I it's so like I had a you know, that up that's an upcoming episode of why I went to college. You know, my my sister. I think that would be such a good episode. Oh, my sister was killed. Okay, yes. Yeah, yeah. Yes, I do know that. I went I I went to this specific school because my sister was killed, and I had a lot of theological questions and uh relied on my church. My church helped me get into this school uh to help answer those questions. And I remember like my exit thesis from the school, uh I told them that I had more questions than answers. Oh wow, which is okay. Yeah, it's it's totally okay. Actually, I think that helps generate the faith that you're supposed to have. And now my son is wanting to go to the same school, which I'm I'm totally okay with, you know, because one, I well if I if I was him, I wouldn't make this choice. Uh however, I'm not him. It's it's his choice, and I have no say in it. I can help him make an educated decision and he can choose that uh information or not. You learn from living. Right. And I think that's that's where he's at. I think he's 18 and he's like, I am making my choice and I'm taking my feet in. And I'm like, all right, you're I'll be here when you're mad about how much you have to pay back.

SPEAKER_02 30:27

Right. I know it's like when my when that money comes out of my account every month that I'm like, what the hell was I thinking? Yeah. Why did I do that? Yeah. I'm such an idiot.

SPEAKER_00 30:39

Yeah. Yeah. I'm like, dude, you can you can do right, like one, he's native, so he can come up to our state. Yeah, I mean where his native land is. And they will they will help him. And go to school for free. Yeah. For free. But he's he's wanting to go out to Texas. He's did he get offers from Oklahoma? There's family out there. Okay, so I don't think he really like looked. Oh, so he didn't really apply. So the part that makes me mad is like his mom is a guidance counselor at his school. Gotcha. And is pushing him to go to this school, even though she didn't even graduate from there. And he doesn't want to disappoint. He's he's not a rock the boat kid.

unknown 31:26

Ah.

SPEAKER_00 31:28

But, you know, the whole purpose of this episode was uh we we know that we have family members that are going through the whole graduation thing. It hurts.

SPEAKER_02 31:39

Yeah, we kind of got a little off track a little bit. But yeah, the main focus is is like poor Reed.

SPEAKER_00 31:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 31:46

He's struggling.

SPEAKER_00 31:49

I'm struggling. It hurts.

SPEAKER_02 31:50

It's I almost had to I almost had to tell him to pause so I could go get him some clean answers.

SPEAKER_00 31:55

He's been a little emotional. Yeah, I feel a little awkward here. Like I am I I am I am so proud of him because he he he he he dealt with a lot, you know, growing up and like watching our babies grow up is painful and and and and and hard and uh at the same time you're excited for them and I I hope the best for him. I like he he will be the kid that will like crush every expectation which is good.

SPEAKER_02 32:45

I mean it's always interesting to see how everybody ends up, right? You know, it's like I had a niece who excelled with music, like she got a scholarship to go, yes, I have no children other than my dogs. Anyway, so kids. Those are my chitlins. Yeah anyway, so it's really it's really interesting to see where they end up. You know, it's like she I don't even remember what she does now.

SPEAKER_00 33:11

She's like God, I don't remember. Well gosh, think about back to us. I'm old, I forget things. Sorry. Back to back to us, you know, it like I I would not have ever have thought. Actually, my my biological mother was a nurse. Oh wow. And fuck her, fuck off. I'm not doing that.

SPEAKER_02 33:38

There were no maternal instincts there.

SPEAKER_00 33:40

Here here I am, you know, like you you like the uh what is it the the the apple doesn't far fall far from the tree far from the tree fall far from tree? Yeah and that's that's exactly what I did. Like I I could have gone and been a delivery driver like my dad was, but which it like did it for 30 years and retired. Yeah, great career, never had a problem. Uh or you know, nurse practitioner like my mother.

SPEAKER_02 34:10

Yeah. I I think was the first actually the first nurse in my family. I don't think there's anybody else that went into nursing. Yeah. And it was actually from a friend, her mom was a nurse, and I was sitting listening to the stories when I was in my teens, and I was like, oh, that sounds cool, that sounds fun. I was wrong. Um, but honestly, my mom, I passed my GED. Yes, I dropped out of high school. I was a loser. Wasn't really a loser, just that's not a loser. Just not into high school. So I passed my GED. She woke me up from a night shift that I was working. She was like, Oh, we're gonna go get enrolled in college today. I was like, what are we doing? She was like, Oh, you're gonna go be a nurse, and I was like, no, I'm not. She was like, Yes, you are. I was like, oh, okay. Yeah, this is how this works. Yeah. She's like, let's go get in the shower, wash your ass, get dressed, look at least halfway presentable. Okay, fair enough. So I did. And uh my the most exciting thing I thought about it was I get to give shots until I start having to give in shots. And I was like, that's not so fun.

SPEAKER_00 35:30

Well, you know, it's like I remember I re I remember when I was 18 and you know, my parents were obviously concerned, like, what is this loser going to do? You know, so my dad was like, You're you're joining the military, and I'm like, I'm sick of people telling me what to do. Hello, mom and dad, I'm sick of you telling me what to do. No, I'm not gonna go get paid to be told what to do what to do. Uh you know, so he's like, Well, you're it's military college or you're out of the house. Oh wow. And I was like, All right, so military college. I don't want to go to the military, I'll go to college. And I I I honestly couldn't figure out what to do. And during the middle of that conversation is when my sister was killed. Oh God. And then it was like, all right, what now? You know, our our family just got upended.

SPEAKER_01 36:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 36:29

And, you know, thankfully for my youth pastor, you know, he he said, Hey, just give this a shot. Let's see what happens. And I am I am so thankful for my degree. I don't I don't I don't use it to make money, but I I utilize it every day.

SPEAKER_02 36:49

Well yeah, I mean it's kinda the basis of your faith too. So yeah.

SPEAKER_00 36:55

And I I I learned a lot which created more questions, and I almost went and and dove in even to the master's side of it. Like, I was I originally was gonna go and be a chaplain. Oh, wow. Okay, for hospitals or the military. Yeah. And uh was doing all that stuff. And then while I was doing that work, you know, I got reintroduced to the fire department, which, you know, like every boy, you know, you're four or five years old. As a child. You're like, I want to be a fireman. Let's do that. Yeah. I get to honk a horn, I get to drive a truck, I get to squirt water, and so that's what I did. I was like, all right, let's go. I'll do that. We're doing this today. Uh I got got hired and had a great career. Wow. Um, you know, and now I'm like the the old guy on the end, I'm like watching my son grow up and seeing like seeing all three of my kids, all three of them. I like like I'm I am I'm the emotions are so weird because I'm elated, I'm excited, and very emotional. I'm scared and I'm sad all at the same time.

SPEAKER_02 38:15

I just know that the text messages last night were just oh my god. I was like, I was like, I sent him a message and then he's like, he's I don't even remember what you messaged back, so I was like, no, that's not what I'm saying. I'm not calling you a dog.

SPEAKER_00 38:28

Oh no, it was it was a way to say it was so bad because it was right after we had like given him his presence, and I've like just ugly crying and I was I was still ugly crying and I was trying to compose myself and then I'm trying to talk to you, and I'm like, I don't know what I'm doing. This is so bad.

SPEAKER_02 38:45

It was like he was like, okay, I'm ugly crying right now. And I was like, I do that when I'm watching the SPCA. I couldn't remember the name of the commercial, and he was like, are you calling me a dog? And I'm like, oh my god, I feel like I'm talking to a woman.

SPEAKER_00 38:58

I did. I love man, I lost it. I lost it yesterday, but I like I really am. I am so proud of my kids. Kids. I I can't just say son. I'm so proud of all of them. They they actually listened to this show. Oh I found that out. Yay.

SPEAKER_02 39:18

Thank y'all for listening. Love you.

SPEAKER_00 39:20

Yeah, hey, hey baba. I love you. I can't like I hate I hate it. I and I watched like my my family members last year, my my cousins, they they kind of they you know, quote, got rid of they they graduated their last kid uh last year, and you know, uh made fun of them for crying and and not being able to handle it. And you know, uh here I am. I and what sucks is I have to do it again. I have to do it again in a couple years, especially for like the baby, and then become an empty nester and I can't.

SPEAKER_02 40:01

I'm gonna have to keep Reed from having a midlife crisis. This is gonna be ugly for me, guys. Why did you buy a motorcycle?

SPEAKER_00 40:09

Like, because I can't. But I am you know for for our listeners that are, you know, it's it's the graduation season uh for the ones that are going through it.

SPEAKER_02 40:23

And we are happy for your babies, man.

SPEAKER_00 40:25

We are. I feel you. I feel you. It hurts, it it sucks, and you're excited all at the same time. And like, what are they doing? Why are they doing this? And why won't they listen to me? And what can I do here? And I I have never argued with myself more out loud without anybody else.

SPEAKER_02 40:44

We could probably have a whole episode of him talking to himself. It'd be awesome.

SPEAKER_00 40:49

But you know, here he goes, and I hope he does well. I hope your babies do well, like for the you guys that are graduating your kids, whether it's the the first, the middle, the last, the second to last, the the whatever, whatever number you're on. Um man, I get like one, and enjoy it. Let let them go and be them. Right? I think that's what I wanted my that's the hardest thing I'm dealing with, is I wanted my parents to just let me be me and figure it out.

SPEAKER_02 41:22

But Reed is being his parent right now, so I and I am.

SPEAKER_00 41:26

I'm like looking at my kid going, bro, like if you do not open your eyes and see how much this, like, are you are you uh are you looking at this? Because he's looking at everything else. He's like, hot girls go to that school, and I'm like, yes, they do. Okay. But dumbass. It's four hundred and twenty dollars a semester hour. Wake up. Oh wow. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 41:58

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 41:59

You know, if they are not giving you money and you're native, go to where they're giving you money. Come to the Oklahomas. Yeah. Uh I'll love it to death. He whatever decision he makes, whatever he does, I he he will do well.

SPEAKER_02 42:15

He'll have regards later. I mean, we all do. I mean, that's that's how you do it. But you go out, you do the stupid things, and you're like, why in the fuck did I do that?

SPEAKER_00 42:24

Yeah, if that is his stupid thing, yeah. Versus mine, you know, I'd be like, bro, you did a great job. Hi five. You did so much better. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 42:37

Make the monies, okay?

SPEAKER_00 42:39

Also, help us with our show. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 42:41

I mean, we will take financial support, just saying. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 42:46

Speaking of, now that we're at the end of the show, wow, we have we got the news. My nipples are hard.

SPEAKER_02 42:52

All right, do it. Sorry. You okay, so guys. Do the news. Okay, so we have been telling you for probably two months now that we're gonna do some merch. Merch! Merch. So I have actually created merch. Merch. Um merch. So we hope you like it. It's we're starting out simple, guys. We it's an experiment. We are some poor fuckers, okay?

SPEAKER_00 43:27

Right. So this we poor. We are paying into this show. This show is not paying us yet. Yes. We want it to pay us, and here we are.

SPEAKER_02 43:36

So we created some merch. Merch. It's like it's like our key phrases. So did you die? But did you die? Stay feral. Stay feral. And go ahead. Do it. Do it, read. Loves, cuddles, and some kisses. Okay, so we created these. My goal. We're doing, I'm just gonna say my goal. is we're gonna have these posted before you listen to this podcast. I'm going to create something on TikTok to let everybody know that they're there. I'm gonna do the same thing on Facebook and Reed's gonna have to be responsible for Snapchat because I don't or not Snapchat. Chat by Snap. What is no what is the one that you Instagram. Instagram that's it sorry about that. So we're gonna I'm gonna create a little store. It's gonna be a little pop-up store with yep. I'm gonna give Prentify some credits because that's where we're going through. Yes. Um I hope that y'all like them. And if you do multiple colors multiple yes there is multiple colors so we're doing I'm not doing like a whole plethora of colors we're just gonna do a few. It's an experiment with to see what you guys will do. I will tell you if it's something that a lot of people order by not all orders are going to be filled because we poor fuckers.

SPEAKER_00 45:01

Yeah if if we end up with like a hundred thousand dollars you know thirteen thousand dollars if we poor guys and uh we're gonna be like hey yeah we're gonna have to pause y'all pay when they pay us back it's it the way the way this thing pays us is is different and weird.

SPEAKER_02 45:20

Yeah so with Prentify you have to pay up front so it's like if anybody's familiar with it you kind of get the concept anyway we won't go into the details so it's not worth it.

SPEAKER_00 45:34

But we have some cool designs we do we have three shirts that we're gonna start out with yes if you guys have any ideas on different kind of merch please like fucking show up and say something.

SPEAKER_02 45:46

Yeah I mean we're gonna we're gonna do more it's just we're gonna see how this goes if it's something that's like you know big old on us and we move on it's fine whatever. But I mean we're gonna try it we're gonna see how it goes tomorrow I'm gonna sit down after we'll get my hairs done hers hers beards and hers. Yeah um we're gonna I'm gonna sit down I'm gonna get the shop set up I'm gonna get I'm so excited I'm gonna let Reed know when I go live um y'all may end up talking to him a lot if things are bad. Yep um anyway so yeah so we're gonna start doing merch hopefully by tomorrow I'm gonna say tomorrow evening yes so we are recording early so this episode comes out on Wednesday coming out so I'm gonna actually try to have this set up Tuesday I'm gonna have this ready to go I'm gonna do some TikTok releases and so we'll we'll be we'll be live and hot at the release of this show before yeah before before before we're so excited I'm I gotta go pee it it looks so good the the things that Cole has done with the shirt so he he is taken off I have had my own issues going on with my release Cole is taken off yep and I we I've told him I don't want a divorce yet so we're still working on that no paperwork has been filed yeah we're gonna go to some counseling but everything I have the shirts like they're in there they're just not released I we are I'm looking at them I'm like looking at them right now and I'm so excited so I hope that you guys like them yeah I would love feedback if you hate them please let me know so that we can do different things. Yeah because this is for you yes like I had like we actually had a listener be like is that gonna come out when I posted some shirts yeah and just one of my random TikTok things and I was like we're working on it and that's been probably months ago. That's awesome. So I love it.

SPEAKER_00 48:07

These are the real deal I'm hoping that you like them um the goal is for us to be here and uh do this as our job and to be here every day uh tickling your earbuds.

SPEAKER_02 48:24

Yeah so like the ultimate goal is we only record a few times a month so we're trying to pump it up to where we can record more making an actual full time like this is what we're doing.

SPEAKER_00 48:39

This is our job. Yeah so TikToks I do to help us make this our job.

SPEAKER_02 48:44

Yes and TikToks I do every single day. I work on them when I get up at 4 30 in the morning and I work on them when I get off of work at well and we're between all of our between all of our socials we're like just under six figure people. Yeah like look I mean we really love this and you know like with these with the shirts and things new ones will pop up and we'll yeah we'll do different right now that's our catchphrases. Yes so this is just gonna be kind of like our beginning so we're we're gonna we're gonna we're gonna create more stuff and it won't be all just unhinged yeah it's gonna be it's gonna be fun.

SPEAKER_00 49:34

It's it's so good it's it's so neat to to see it grow and to to be a part of it.

SPEAKER_02 49:40

Thank you guys for helping us even get to this spot yeah it's exciting and help us grow more so also like follow share if you're a fan of this show like it follow it share it leave us a review yeah I mean guys seriously we're doing this for you guys it's not just for us obviously we've said that 652 million times but we'll continue to say it just but we're having fun we are we love this all right so hugs cuddles kisses kisses guys and gals guys yeah guys and gals yes kisses