Who Let Us Adult?

Parenting: No Manual, Just Vibes

• Ian & Jasmine Summers • Season 1 • Episode 8

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If you’ve ever Googled “parenting manual” only to realize… yeah, there isn’t one — welcome. 😂

In this episode, we dive into the beautiful chaos of raising kids without a rulebook. From the moments we’re nailing it to the ones we hope no one saw, we’re talking real-time parenting. The wins, the fails, the “did you seriously just say that?” moments — and how we’re learning to trust God, trust each other, and trust that we’re doing better than we think.

It’s imperfect, unfiltered, and totally us — trying to raise tiny humans with patience, grace, and a whole lot of prayer.

🎙️ No perfect manual. Just vibes, love, and figuring it out as we go.


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Speaker 8:

Bubu,

Speaker 6:

did you do that last time too? Yep.

Speaker 8:

And I'm doing it again. Mm-hmm. Bu fully selling bubu and

Speaker 6:

leaning into the johnna.

Speaker 8:

Something. Something. My time is now something. Something.

Speaker 6:

You can't see me. My time is now.

Speaker 8:

What comes X?

Speaker 6:

You can't see me. My time is now. What comes X? Rapping?

Speaker 8:

Rapping. I knew there was a something, something in there. Jeez. Yeah. That's funny. WWE for the win. Anyway,

Speaker 6:

you. I had a mini episode last week. Tell

Speaker 8:

us about that. Well, first off, welcome back to Who Let Us Adult. We forgot to do our intro. Hey, I mean that was our intro. The dog. I know, but we gotta say like, welcome back to Let us Adult Welcome. This is the Who Let Us Adult Pod. Welcome back. We're learning. We're learning forever. Learning. Anyway, lock in. Okay. Last week I had a mini episode and it was a lot of fun. I was tired.

Speaker 6:

I was like, did you listen to it? You do it. Yeah.

Speaker 9:

Yes. While I was editing it.

Speaker 8:

Yeah, because

Speaker 6:

you played it 9,000 times as I heard you that Yeah.'cause that's

Speaker 8:

what editing is.

Speaker 6:

Yes. A thousand percent. Would you like to edit? No. Okay. Yes. I listened to your episode.

Speaker 8:

No lip from you. It's on my, my guy. It's what?

Speaker 6:

It's on my phone.

Speaker 8:

Do you, did you actually watch it? Yeah. I mean, look, look cute. What? Your biggest takeaway,

Speaker 6:

how cute you are.

Speaker 8:

What was your biggest takeaway? What was the nugget?

Speaker 6:

God put you in my life for a reason.

Speaker 8:

Okay, give me a nugget.

Speaker 6:

The nugget was, I don't like to edit and I have you being the nice person in our relationship. Can I put you there as my a's point? You

Speaker 8:

don't know anything I said. What'd I talk about? What's my topic? You

Speaker 6:

talked about all the craziness that was going on.'cause you know, Zuri had her birthday. I was out on a bunch of different work. That was the first

Speaker 8:

three seconds

Speaker 6:

I had shows. You came to that Saturday. Let's talk about that for a minute. Hold on. Saturday was a wild day because. I had a really, really big show here locally, here in Columbus. Mm-hmm. And Zuri had her kind

Speaker 8:

of birthday party, but not really birthday party. Yeah. We just got together with some friends. Yeah. And their kiddos. Yeah. And

Speaker 6:

I, for some, like, I don't do this often, but I left stuff here. Like I left the mic to record content at home. I left the price gun at home. I left some other stuff at home that I need, I needed, and I just had to text you like, Hey honey, can you. Yeah. Yeah, I got you. And then when you got there, I don't think you expected it to be as busy as it was.

Speaker 8:

No, it was very busy

Speaker 6:

and I kind of moderately expected. I mean, there were like 3000 tickets sold pre-sold to the, to the show. And I was like, yeah, it's gonna be big. But it was kind of crazy'cause so much was happening. I mean, for four and a half straight hours. I didn't really, you brought me chicken nuggets that I, I at, at 12 o'clock that I ate at five.

Speaker 7:

Yeah,

Speaker 6:

which is disgusting. But also, thank you. I really appreciate the fact that you were like, you need to eat. You're welcome.

Speaker 8:

But yeah, anyway, just crazy weeks because you would've gone all day without eating crazy. Your mini episode would,

Speaker 6:

your mini episode was awesome. If you have not heard Jasmine's mini episode, please go back and, and listen to it and or watch it wherever you listen to your podcast. It was fantastic. So, yes, honey, I did listen to it. I just still dunno what I said. I, it's, I have a hard memory. It's fine. It's happy hours. Sweet. It's

Speaker 8:

okay. I know you love me, but that still hurts my feelings. Go back and watch it. Ian. Take your own advice

Speaker 6:

anyway, honey, what are we talking about today?

Speaker 8:

We're talking about parenting. Parenting in real time and going with the

Speaker 6:

flow.

Speaker 8:

Yeah.

Speaker 6:

And the punches and rocking with it. Yeah. So, and how

Speaker 8:

navigating that has been.

Speaker 6:

We have these moments where, um, you know, where maybe down a kid or two. If it, if they're staying, you know, with my brother or my mom or, or anything along those lines, we're like your parents and we are just left with, with the one, and we look at each other and go, man, why did we ever think having one kid was hard?

Speaker 8:

Man. I mean, because I get why, but I, I say it with you too because I'm like, man, one kid like this is, this is cake is

Speaker 10:

cake. Heck compared to three,

Speaker 8:

right? Two compared to the three. Definitely cake. Um, three has been a challenge for sure. Uh,

Speaker 6:

but much easier than two was in my opinion. And that's coming saying a lot for me, but like, I think it's only gonna get easier. With three.

Speaker 8:

Okay. I was like, until they hit a not, we're gonna have four. So no. Yeah. No more. Yeah. No, no, no, no.

Speaker 6:

You know what's really funny? I, I meant to tell you this. When, when you came, wait, wait, what? So, um, you know, I picked the kids up from the gym today. Mm-hmm. And we came home and in the car, um, you know, the goal was let's make sure that NA stays awake.'cause it was close to her bedtime and I didn't want her falling asleep in the car and then just being awake all night. Um,

Speaker 8:

na is our. Eight month old baby. Yes.

Speaker 6:

So we're, we're blaring music, having a blast, singing out loud, and she's just wide awake, not crying, just watching all of us in the car. Um, so we get home, I back into the, the, uh, driveway and as I'm getting outta the car, I hear a, a statement come out of our eight year old's mouth. And I'm like, there's no way he said that. And I was like, wait, what? So I go to, to get, you know, RA Carsi, and I said, Kyle, what did you say? She, he goes, yeah, we should have a fourth kid. And I said, what

Speaker 8:

I begged your finest part in?

Speaker 6:

I said, what? Why? He goes, we need another boy in here. He goes, he goes, it'd be cool if we just had two boys and two girls. And I said, boy, if you don't get outta the car,

Speaker 8:

go to bed.

Speaker 6:

Go to go to bed. Go to bed.

Speaker 8:

Hey, first off, not possible.

Speaker 6:

No more kids from us. You wanna say like, you want a little brother? Yes. I said, no.

Speaker 8:

He probably wants to adopt because we did talk about adopting at one point. Yeah. I don't know that it's 100% off the table,

Speaker 6:

but four kids is a lot. Four kids.

Speaker 8:

It's a lot. Yes. But he was like, so what? You just like look in a magazine and pick out a kid? Basically,

Speaker 6:

that's what you guys said. That is kind of true. I guess that's also kind of messed up now he's say it out loud. It's like

Speaker 8:

a catalog. I think he said a catalog. Like a catalog of kids. I was like, I don't know how to answer this. And that's been, man, that's parenting. Yeah. In a nutshell, it's like your kids say something or they ask a question and I'm like, I think this is why we created who let us adult. Because that makes me be like, who let me have children? Because what? What? Because what do you mean? Why am I laughing this? Like you look at catalog and you pick out children.

Speaker 6:

And why am I laughing really hard at it? Like I, I'm not supposed to be serious. This is a serious moment and I'm crying

Speaker 8:

if I have to like Google the answer. Like

Speaker 6:

it's a seriously unserious.

Speaker 8:

Oh seriously, unserious for sure. Yeah.

Speaker 6:

Um, yeah. So, you know, we've been parents now for almost nine years. Oh yeah. Eight years. I've been parents for eight years. Tell me what you've learned the most. Shocking thing you learned. I've learned

Speaker 8:

nothing. John Snow. John, you know nothing. Yeah. That's what it says. But I've learned nothing. Um, I've learned that if you pray for patience, God will give you toddlers.

Speaker 6:

Very true. I actually heard an interesting phrase about patience. Yeah. Um,'cause we hear this a lot amongst friends, and we've even said this, and it's a, it's a running joke on social media, but, um. You hear about how your grandparents, the kids are grandparents. So your parents watch the kids and they're so patient with them. Mm-hmm. They're so, you know, they give them candy. They, they, uh, they just kinda love bomb them in a way that makes you almost feel like slighted. Like, come on, you're supposed to show'em how crazy you're, come on,

Speaker 7:

come on grandma. Show them mom. Right. Show them who mom is.

Speaker 6:

I saw a post. Today that said, you know, why, why aren't you as strict with them as you were with me? And the post was like, I'm showing it says because, you know, in my older age, I'm able to give them the the grace and patience that I wish I would've been able to give you.

Speaker 10:

Hmm.

Speaker 6:

I was like, stop it. I can't cry at two o'clock in the afternoon. I need to chill.

Speaker 8:

I'm not gonna cry. It's gonna make me mad. I just kidding. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. I am gonna cry because that's really sweet. I am, yeah. Like that's a hundred percent a joke. Like, but also

Speaker 7:

like, you mean show me No

Speaker 8:

patience, but

Speaker 6:

it kinda like hit me. I was like, man, do I need to show more patients? Like Yes. Do I need to sit like Yeah. I mean, I know. Yes, I know I do. That's my learning. You mean. Yeah, but like how, how, thinking of different ways that I could show patience and grace. Like, I mean, earlier this week, you know, Kai had, was not himself and I didn't necessarily know how to appropriately handle it to. You did a phenomenal job, phenomenal job coming in and, and you know, it's just, once again, the roles of a mother, like being gentle and having that, that, that soft touch with him and in a time where I, at the time only knew really to be hard with him and, and that situation required a soft touch. Right? And so that's one of the things that I'm learning is there are times where. You know, a soft touch is needed. Mm-hmm. And a hard, and, you know, a harder to touch and or tone is needed.

Speaker 8:

Yeah. Yeah. And from both of us, like I, I have learned over the years that I want them all to know that they can always come to me and it's like, I'm mom, like I'm a safe place for them. But also, it's not gentle parenting. Like it's the, it is this di like there is discipline, there is authority, there is like, no, you submit to our authority as your parents, like when we tell you to do something. You're going to listen, and even if it doesn't make sense to you, not every time can we sit down and have a conversation and explain what's going on and how we've navigated that. I don't know if you remember this, but how we've navigated that has been, um, telling him in those moments, like this is a conversation that as you get older, we will go deeper. We will talk to you about the why, but right now it's just no.

Speaker 6:

Right?

Speaker 8:

Like you're not watching this movie. Why not? It's just No, it's

Speaker 6:

just No, you don't, we don't need to explain ourselves to you at that. Yeah. You know, and at some point you will know. And, and maybe the, the answer to that question is it's just not appropriate for you right now. Another time.

Speaker 8:

Yeah. There, it's a, like, having a very simple answer. Mm-hmm. But it's, it may not, it may not be sufficient because as a, as at their age, at his age, especially, like, he's still wondering why. So it may not be sufficient enough per se, but that's why we include the, like as you get older, we're going, we're going to tell you, not. You're gonna just understand. Yeah. Like we're gonna have that conversation with you.'cause there's gonna be more opportunities. You're gonna see something, you're gonna watch something, something's gonna come out and we're gonna veto it. But we're gonna, because you're older now, we can have a real conversation and tell you why. Because you're ready for it. So,

Speaker 6:

and one of the things you know about that, I mean, we've seen the rise of like gentle parenting, in my opinion, raised a bunch of just soft kids or entitled kids, or kids don't know how to handle the word no.

Speaker 10:

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 6:

Um, but it, it, it, it's interesting. I saw a video, another video today where someone said, sometimes the answer is to your, to my kids' question is. Because I said so, and that is an okay answer. Mm-hmm. And that's something that I know some parents struggle with is, is we heard that a lot growing up of, oh, because I said so. Well, I wanted a sufficient answer, not just a, because I said so. Mm-hmm.

Speaker 8:

And

Speaker 6:

then you become a parent, you realize, no, sometimes that is the, there are

Speaker 8:

sometimes. Yeah. Mm-hmm.

Speaker 6:

Where that's the answer. No, it's because I said, so you're you. You know, this is a godly household here. You are here to abide by what? The rules that us as the parents mm-hmm. Set for you. Mm-hmm. So, um,

Speaker 8:

but I think there's that balance. Yeah. Because I hear what you're saying and from a parenting, from our parenting perspective together, we have had a lot of conversations around that. And yeah, we both heard that a lot growing up. I think most millennials. Are if your parents, both parents in general, if your parents didn't say, because I said so, you know, I dunno what to tell you, but they lying. I think people went so far on the other side, the extreme on the other side to be like, well, I'm never gonna tell my kids because I said so and I'm always gonna give them an answer for every single thing. And that's when we ran into gentle parenting. Yep. Where I prefer. Like a respectful parenting. Mm-hmm. And a, I see my child as an individual, as a human, as an image bearer, as uniquely and wonderfully made that who did not have a choice to come into this world. We brought them into this world. Yeah. And it is my responsibility. To guide them, to help them process their emotions, to help them understand things, to help them, um, think and use the, their, the, you know, their logic.

Speaker 10:

Right.

Speaker 8:

In situations.'cause that stuff is not formed. Yeah. That is forming. And like you said, not everything requires

Speaker 6:

an elaborate answer, justification

Speaker 8:

and elaborate answer. But that goes back to what I was saying, like, I do agree with that. Not like sometimes it is like, no. And we'll talk about it as you get older because they're not ready to hear all of that. But whenever we just say like, just that, just because I said so, it's because I said so. Sometimes that comes because like what I was saying about Googling everything, it's like sometimes,'cause we don't know, who won't know the answer, the words to, to say, to

Speaker 6:

formulate.

Speaker 8:

So then that's more of an us Yeah. Problem than it is our children.

Speaker 6:

And one of the things too is, is, I mean we've talked about this when we first started dating of like, Hey listen, we love our parents and the way that. Their parenting styles were. Mm-hmm. But there were some things that we mess maybe necessarily not, didn't wanna replicate in how we

Speaker 10:

mm-hmm. Parent

Speaker 6:

our kids. Mm-hmm. Um, now, and one of the things that's funny is as we continue to get, um, as our kids continue to get older, we start to understand or emulate some of the things that maybe we thought that weren't, oh, we probably should. Don't wanna go about this, this direction. Then we were like, oh, now we understand why our parents went this direction. Mm-hmm. Absolutely. We ended up breeding off kids that are knuckleheads like us. So, um, that's Speak

Speaker 8:

for yourself, not a knucklehead.

Speaker 6:

Speak for yourself. It's funny, when we talk about our kids, of the three kids, the, I mean, the two, we are glaring, like, you know, Kai looks like me and it's Jasmine

Speaker 7:

to a

Speaker 6:

t to a t.

Speaker 8:

But, but, but, but he's emotionally me and he's humorously you.

Speaker 6:

Yeah.'cause I'm funny. I'm funny. Okay,

Speaker 8:

let's talk about our daughter because she's humorously like me and she's hilarious. So

Speaker 6:

she is,

Speaker 8:

no, I'm just kidding. You are actually very, very funny. Very

Speaker 6:

funny. She kind of looks like you. She's

Speaker 8:

your mom.

Speaker 6:

She's me.

Speaker 8:

She's like a mixture of like your mom and I think my sister, my biological sister,

Speaker 6:

and then she acts like me.

Speaker 8:

She's so stubborn.

Speaker 6:

That's me. She's so stubborn. It's my mom too.

Speaker 8:

So opinionated, so stubborn. So just I'm like, sleeps in. Just does not Goodnight

Speaker 6:

Al like me. Yeah.

Speaker 8:

Does not like she knows what she wants. Mm-hmm. She will not give in when it comes to eating. When it comes to that girl will starve watching. This girl's obsessed with Disney princesses. She will not sit through, not one of those movies. No. I think she just watched Frozen at my parents' house and she kind of watched the hair and it was probably because she had to, because she's not allowed to watch YouTube anymore. Mm-hmm. So it's like your options are limited and they're not gonna sit there and watch Diana,

Speaker 10:

Diana

Speaker 8:

on Disney, you know, over and over again. So they're like, let's put on a movie.

Speaker 6:

Watch something. Forced you to

Speaker 8:

watch Frozen, watched it,

Speaker 6:

loves it. Kind of. She hasn't

Speaker 8:

watched it with me.

Speaker 6:

She's watched it like before bed.

Speaker 8:

Okay. But that's because she doesn't wanna go to bed.

Speaker 6:

That's fair, fair point. So there's that. Yeah, there's that.

Speaker 8:

And then there's our baby who we

Speaker 6:

have no idea yet. We will see. I now, I

Speaker 8:

think she's just like her sister. She is, uh, she

Speaker 6:

reminds me a lot. She, yeah. I'm seeing Kai. A lot of Kai. So I think she's gonna be like Kai. Make sure both. Oh man.

Speaker 8:

She'd be getting mad, bro.

Speaker 6:

So you did. That's fair. She'd be getting mad. So of the, you know, eight years we've been parents, what has surprised you about just our parenting style? Some of the things that we talked about in the past about, hey, this is how we want to parent versus how we actually parent? Um, I mean, I, I go first on this one. We, I forever thought we would be the no screen time parent. Yeah, we failed that one.

Speaker 8:

I, that was a you thing. I, I tried it. I never, I never said that. I'll tell you what I, I'll tell you mine.'cause I'm not gonna sit here and say that I didn't have one of those moments. It just wasn't with screen dying.

Speaker 6:

Mm. You tell me.

Speaker 8:

Well, mine, I think I was talking with your sister about this. It's cell phones. It's cell phones? Yeah.

Speaker 6:

No, having your cell phone.

Speaker 8:

No cell phone. Like no cell phone. Like you're not gonna have a cell phone until you're like 18. Ah, okay. You don't

Speaker 6:

need a cell phone. Knowing that we, well, I guess. I had one at like 13,

Speaker 8:

right? And I'm like, absolutely not. Like you're not getting a cell phone at 10, you're not getting a cell phone at two. And it's just like the older he gets and the more I'm like, man, I wish you had a phone. You know, like I'm like, it'd be so convenient for you to have a phone. But I'm like, no. Yeah, get him. He's eight years old. Get him

Speaker 9:

a jitter bud. He's eight.

Speaker 8:

Maybe something I don't know. But. Yeah, I just wait. I need, I was vehemently against like no cell phones. He doesn't need one. He's never, like, if he asks like he's not getting one, he doesn't, and like now that he's eight years old, which is crazy

Speaker 10:

that

Speaker 8:

he's eight, like we're not far from double digits and then we're not far from teenage years and he's gonna want what his friends have. He already does. You know, he's starting to do that and. Yeah, so that's my, that was my, I caved real fast.

Speaker 6:

13 is my number, by the way. Oh,

Speaker 8:

I, I don't know. I don't know.

Speaker 6:

And that's like me giving you an old school flip phone that you can't get on the internet or it has

Speaker 8:

no, you have no access to anything. Like, you can just call us,

Speaker 6:

call, maybe text

Speaker 8:

us us.

Speaker 6:

No, no, no. I would, honestly, I'd be okay with calling text with no, with no camera on it.

Speaker 8:

We know YT nine, we know y. Boy, these little kids

Speaker 6:

crazy, bro. I mean, that's also how we kind of work. That's what I'm saying. You know why

Speaker 8:

you wanna call, take no camera on that, bro.

Speaker 6:

So talk to me a little bit about moments where, um, so talk to me about moments that showed that you're, you know, doing better than you think you are or moment. Yeah. Moments of victory. I mean, for me personally, it, it goes back to. Um, when he was playing soccer, this was years ago, this is when I kind of like settled in. We didn't even have Zoe at the time. It was just Kai and we put him in soccer for the first time and we, I remember us looking at each other going, we have zero idea of how this is going to go. I. I thought he was gonna be one of those kids that was gonna like, you know, play with dandelions and chase bugs around on the field and have no interest in soccer.

Speaker 10:

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 6:

Um, and he turned out to be a rock star.

Speaker 8:

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 6:

Like, just absolute. He's

Speaker 8:

a natural,

Speaker 6:

natural. I mean, we were, we both being the athletes that we were, why are we surprised that our kid came out athletic?

Speaker 10:

Right.

Speaker 6:

You know, so, um. That was probably one of those like size of relief of like, you're doing fine. Like, because I didn't see here's, and now rock with me for a minute here.

Speaker 8:

Okay. Okay. Okay.

Speaker 6:

I grew up in a very sports, heavily heavy related family.

Speaker 8:

Okay.

Speaker 6:

And I could put on name, you know, insert whatever sport you want. On TV and our son is going to have zero interest in watching that sport with me on tv.

Speaker 8:

Okay. He's eight. I understand.

Speaker 6:

But I had those interest as a kid at

Speaker 8:

eight. Yeah. I was interested in sports until I was, I, I'd love to watch probably 11, 12,

Speaker 6:

some kind of sports. No, I

Speaker 8:

had no interest in sports and watching sports on TV until I was older, middle school,

Speaker 6:

and so. I kind, you know, after those, those soccer moments, it made me realize it's okay to like, let him kind of go at his own pace and like eventually he will, will have the interest. Okay. You brought that back. Okay. Yeah, because I was

Speaker 8:

like, he might, you thought you, I was like, you thought because he could kick a ball. You were like, I'm doing good as a parent. Listen, I

Speaker 6:

got, I got friends that their kids. Their kids watch all kinds of sports with them.

Speaker 8:

Okay. Okay. I, I would

Speaker 6:

love to like turn the Ohio State and one and Kai get lit, like I'm lit on watching the game, but that's not the case right now. It will happen. I'm hoping you're hurt. I am. I'm not gonna lie you. Okay. Just be afraid. You need a hug? Yeah.

Speaker 8:

The moment that I realized like everything is fine. Mm-hmm. We are talking to completely different, I guess, paths or scenarios. Yeah. Because. It really, it was recently and it was the situation at school. Mm. Probably going to a new school and there was a lot of prayer and uncertainty about that decision. Yeah. And there was an incident that happened at the school. It was a bullying incident. Like, you know, there's this kid that's just a bully and he ended up physically putting his hands on Kai and keeping the story short because you know, that's a whole lot to unpack. But when that situation happened, and I, I mean, he immediately got in the car and told me. What happened, and I'm trying to figure out, you know, I'm asking a bunch of questions, trying to figure out what's going on, like what happened, you know, just detective mom hat came out and I wanna know who's this kid, like,

Speaker 6:

who's this kid? What's his name? What's his mama's name? What's his address?

Speaker 8:

His mama's name. What's his mama's mama's name? What's like go all the way down the line? And everybody get these hands. I'm a lover unless you put your hands on my kid. Um, I'm, I am, I'm, I'm growing. Jesus is still working on me, so, and that's when I knew like, we've got this, like, we're good because of his response.

Speaker 6:

Yeah, and it also gave us a lot of, I mean, even it gave me a lot of faith that we are doing the right thing because his first thing is, lemme turn to God.

Speaker 8:

I mean, he said like, that's what I was saying is his response. Yeah. His response to that scenario. It was like, are you mad? Are you angry? Like,'cause I would've been, I mean, I was, I was hot and it didn't even happen to me, but if it had physically happened to me, I was like, I'm never talking to that kid again. Like, he's done, he's out. He's not in my circle. He's not my friend. Anymore. Not saying that that's right, but I just know that that's how I would've reacted. And Kai was like, no, I'm not mad. I'm just sad. I'm like, okay, you're sad. Are

Speaker 10:

you sure you're not angry? No. You allowed to be angry.

Speaker 8:

I was like, egging it on. I was like, yeah, you can be bad at it for sure. No. He was like, no, I'm sad. I'm sad. He is like, um. I said, okay, well do you still like wanna be friends with him? Is he still

Speaker 6:

your best friend? Yeah. I think

Speaker 8:

I said, is he still your best friend or something? And he was like, yeah. He was like, I forgive him. And I was just like.

Speaker 6:

I don't forgive him, but um, come on. Jesus,

Speaker 8:

man. I was like, okay, so, so we got a little disciple sitting back here, like just walking with Jesus. Forgiven kid, put his hands around him

Speaker 6:

and that, I mean, that's right there. That was God showing, Hey, listen, I gave this kid grace. It's time for you to have grace.

Speaker 8:

Yeah, absolutely. It was like their reflection, they can be, kids, can really be a mirror into areas in our own life that we need to work on. And I was just like, whew. Like if he can forgive a friend that he's known for five minutes, literally

Speaker 6:

five minutes,

Speaker 8:

who. Put his hands around his neck if he can forgive that kid. Okay. Who can I forgive? What?

Speaker 6:

I can forgive that. Kid, maybe.

Speaker 8:

Yeah. I mean, I'm gonna get on the side eye you, yeah. Every time he comes home and talks about somebody acting up, I'm like, who was it this kid? Was it so and so this? No, he's still your best friend. Right, right, exactly. You still sitting next to him like, no, but that it was a learning experience for. All of us really. And

Speaker 6:

I love the next thing that happened after that. Like he told us that, and you know, the situation and whatnot. And our next response was, Hey listen, let's have a talk about who we consider our best friend. Mm-hmm.

Speaker 10:

And that's

Speaker 6:

a title. That's a really good title. And, you know, and honor, we should probably pick people who you know are doing their best to, to emulate. The fruits of the spirit. Yep.

Speaker 8:

That's what we talked about. We talked about the fruits of the spirit and being like, does this person reflect the fruits of the spirit? Right. And is this person the things that they're saying that their actions are all of those lining up and are all of those reflective of the fruits of the spirit? So it was a really good opportunity to have that conversation with him. And he, you know, I think he received it really well. Yes, he did. And. He really thought about it too. Yeah. Um, but you know, his heart is just he for people. Giant, enormous. It's so big. He's so sweet. Bigger than both of us. Huh?

Speaker 6:

Bigger than both of us. But listen, that was heavy and that was a huge learning experience for, for both of us. Mm-hmm. So, rapid fire. Quick question. How many snacks is too many Snacks?

Speaker 8:

How many snacks is too many? Snacks?

Speaker 6:

How many snacks is too many snacks? My answer one. You one snack. At, well, what time is it that's, sorry, let me ask that question. What time is it? Because if it's 1230, why do

Speaker 8:

kids always want snacks at bedtime? Because

Speaker 6:

it's snacks. They, we make a full meal. Like tonight I made a full meal. You made it. I wait. I put it in the oven. I put a full meal of yours in the oven and z just, no, I don't like it.

Speaker 8:

Why would you use tonight as an example?

Speaker 6:

Because it's a funny example, because

Speaker 8:

you, I, I slayed over the oven. I did kind that. I prepped for you, you prepped and all you had to do was turn the oven on and put it into the oven

Speaker 6:

and pay attention to timers. It was hard.

Speaker 8:

Be so for real. Okay. Okay. That was the example that you used. She had so many other times that she has done that.

Speaker 9:

You had tofe her, bro, like, I gotta

Speaker 8:

clock you sometimes, bro.

Speaker 9:

You had to force feed her. That was just a whole thing.

Speaker 8:

And then that little girl will not, she'll start gagging. No. Like a legit, I know. I don't. It must be like a texture thing. Yucky. I don't know if anybody else's kid is like that

Speaker 6:

texture. I don't understand it.

Speaker 8:

She be like, I don't like that.

Speaker 6:

I You not like chicken bro. It is chicken. She is a

Speaker 8:

chicken Ick. And then you're like, no, you're gonna eat it. I'm like, she's literally gonna throw up

Speaker 6:

protein, get protein in. She is

Speaker 8:

going to vomit. And I'm like, that's. She's faking it, then you clean it up. Okay.

Speaker 6:

I think kids ask for a ton of snacks at bedtime because they don't want to go to bed. It also goes into, yeah, into the same line of like, why do kids ask so much of questions at bedtime? It's'cause what way can I prolong going to sleep? I am tired, so.

Speaker 8:

I agree and disagree with that. Oh,

Speaker 6:

mm-hmm. Okay. We gotta fight. Let's go.

Speaker 8:

Because I think the best times like yes they are. They are prolonging going to sleep. Yes. However, I do believe that bedtime and what's another time, but I've just noticed this nap

Speaker 10:

time.

Speaker 8:

I mean, anytime they have to go to sleep yeah, they leave in the park. Those are the best conversations, the best conversations that I've had with Kai. Have been in the car ride and, but right before bed.

Speaker 6:

And what, what capacity? Like

Speaker 8:

when they're, when you're not talking at them, when they're coming to you and asking questions and they're like in it, it has been in the car or right before bed

Speaker 6:

and they want to get Kyrie

Speaker 8:

and I have had a lot of good conversations. They right before he is gone to bed. I think like, maybe like the, like that's just when, I don't know, they feel the most connected and they're just like

Speaker 6:

brain functions that I, yeah.

Speaker 8:

Yeah. They, the questions are just going,

Speaker 6:

yeah,

Speaker 8:

because he asks so many questions, or he'll tell me like, when he gets in the car from school, he'll be, I'll be like, how was your day? And he'll be like, it was great. I, it's like I have to like, ask all these questions to like get, pull these answers out of him, but at bedtime. He is just like the word vomit. Just talking, talking, talking, talking. He wants to tell me everything. And most of the time, and I know that you don't particularly love this, but most of the time, like I sit there and I'm like

Speaker 6:

just listening.

Speaker 8:

Yeah. And I like encourage it. I don't love it because you come upstairs and you'll be like, go to bed. Go to bed.

Speaker 6:

Because it's like nine o'clock, go to bed. You have to get up at six o'clock in the morning and need to go to bed. I

Speaker 8:

understand. I understand. We

Speaker 6:

can talk tomorrow, go to bed.

Speaker 8:

But then what? He won't talk tomorrow. I'm like, when he's willing and ready to talk, I'm like, let's talk because I don't want him to become a teenager. And then he's like, well, when will you talk to us? He's like a moody teenager or something. I don't know. I'm like, go ahead, talk. Is that

Speaker 6:

inevitable? It's

Speaker 8:

not. We're not speaking that over our life. No.

Speaker 6:

Fair.

Speaker 8:

No. We're gonna have great teenagers.

Speaker 6:

So what are your takeaways from tonight's episode when we talk about parenting?

Speaker 8:

My takeaways as a parent in general? Yeah. That three kids. It's chaotic.

Speaker 6:

It's fun though. Three

Speaker 8:

kids is chaotic for sure, and especially the eight, four and eight month old like that, the young children. Wow. I do, I feel like I'm in the thick of it for sure, but the patients that I have learned with them. And just truly surrendering and enjoying the hard that comes with it is so fun. Because I think you said it recently, you were like, Z's turned a corner.

Speaker 10:

Yeah.

Speaker 8:

Just with her speech and with um, like her interactions with us conversation, she was a lot. Yeah. And like. She still has some emotional things that we're working through, but she is like a completely different kid, right, who is funny and silly. She says, uh, her personality

Speaker 10:

is,

Speaker 8:

what's the word that she says? The new phrase that we have. Oh, snippets. Oh, snippets. When you say, oh, snippets. It's just so cute.

Speaker 6:

I love when I come into the door for like a meeting and you should be like, daddy, go get this. Okay. You got this? Yeah. Okay.

Speaker 8:

Okay, okay. We used to have Zoeisms, Missouri is, yeah, man. Oh, I can't even think of all the Zums now. I think I have a running list. I just like saying

Speaker 6:

Hub.

Speaker 8:

She used to say, gimme a hub. Yeah.

Speaker 6:

She used to say her name is Zu. We, I was so sad. Oh, that's

Speaker 8:

who there is. I'm Zu Zu. We, my name

Speaker 6:

is Zu. We, my

Speaker 8:

name is Zu. We, and then she would say, um, is NIAA asleep? Yes or no? Yes or no? Is she, no. No. Is she awake? Is she awake? Is she awake? Awake? Yes. Or is she asleep? Is she awake or is she asleep? And then she would go, are you going to, are you gonna do that? Yes or no? Yes or no? Yes or no? Yes.

Speaker 6:

My takeaway is and is, um. Think kids are the, are the greatest joy. I, I can never, I, I guess I won't ever understand someone who says that kids aren't, aren't a blessing, uh, because they are absolutely awesome. Um, I love you each and every one of'em that we have. I, I can't imagine life without either, either of them. Um, watching them, their personalities kind of grow each day and. How they interact with each other. I mean, they, they love each other so much and mm-hmm.

Speaker 8:

And they get on each other's nerves so much. Just so much.

Speaker 6:

But I wouldn't have it any other way. Um, but really quick honey. Fake sponsor of the week or you want me to hit it?

Speaker 8:

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Speaker 8:

We are not sponsored diapers, man. We are not. Why are diapers

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Speaker 6:

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Speaker 8:

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Speaker 8:

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Speaker 6:

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Speaker 8:

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Speaker 6:

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Speaker 8:

All right. So

Speaker 6:

anyway,

Speaker 8:

that is wrapping up.

Speaker 6:

Wrapping up episode. Who let Us Adult? Is that nine

Speaker 8:

episode? Eight?

Speaker 6:

Eight. Eight in,

Speaker 8:

yeah, episode eight. And I've loved doing this with you. This is fun. Let's keep it rolling. Let's go a few more episodes until we wrap up season one and then we're gonna take a little break.

Speaker 6:

Thanksgiving it's coming up, so I'm looking forward to eat some Turkey. Have a great

Speaker 8:

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