Overcoming Self-Doubt and Doing Hard Things

Welcome to the Unmother Me Podcast — a women empowerment podcast designed for high-achievers, visionaries, and truth-seekers who are ready to reclaim themselves. In this episode, I share my own self discovery journey of overcoming self doubt, doing hard things, and finding the courage to embrace vulnerability as strength.

We’ll talk about what it means to stop self sacrifice, end burnout for women, and step into your own identity transformation. Inspired by ideas like Brené Brown’s FFTs (First Time Experiences), I’ll explore how new beginnings, even when messy, can be the very moments that unlock growth, joy, and freedom.

This episode is part story, part reflection — an authentic storytelling podcast moment — and an invitation to you: to practice self kindness, nurture your body, mind, and spirit, and integrate self care for entrepreneurs into your daily rhythm. Whether that looks like journaling for growth, mindfulness practices, or even Pilates for stress relief, you’ll find tools to support your resilience and becoming.

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Transcript

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Okay, I have decided that the very first podcast of Unmother Me will be me unmothering me about doing this very podcast. So let's begin with what are the lies that I am telling myself? And they may even sound like encouragement. I can do this and I'm gonna be okay. And here's the truth of the matter. When I started really thinking about I can do this, the truth is I actually can record a podcast, but there's a lot about recording a podcast I can't do. There's a lot of things that I haven't learned. Um, knew nothing about lighting, camera angles, mics, podcast software, producing a podcast, um, what causes video lag? There have been so many learning curves, even understanding um content and the way to put it together when you're creating something like a podcast. So there's a big learning curve. And the truth of the matter is is that I am doing this, but when I started, I really couldn't do this, and I'm still not good at it, and I'm still figuring it out. And maybe you'll be on this journey with me to figuring it out, but it's perfectly okay to do something you can't do, and frankly, it's my favorite thing about me. The my favorite thing about me is that I do really hard things even when I don't want to do them, because I desire the experience and it supports my becoming. And I like exploring what lies we tell ourselves and the truths that lie behind them that actually set us free and empower us to become the women that we were meant to be. And so that's the journey of Unmother Me. And I am in the middle of having it. Let's look at lie number two. And I'm gonna be okay. The truth of the matter is, I might not be okay. You know, am I gonna survive it? Am I gonna, you know, get to the other side of this experience? I sure am. But whether or not it's okay remains to be seen, and I don't really have control of it. I don't know if I'm gonna like doing it, if it will be more than four episodes or eight or twelve. I have no idea what the engagement will be, and this may just be a short-lived run of something that I experiment with. So what if it's not okay? What if there's backlash and what if there's haters and what if um it's a big fat waste of time? Well, the truth of the matter is that to do these types of things, start companies, lead programs, initiate podcasts. I've learned that taking care of yourself, getting good sleep, being well hydrated, eating foods that nourish your body, taking my walks, doing Pilates, taking the time to work that out of my body and not let that stress sit in my body helps me not create experiences that are going to burn me out. And so even though this podcast venture may not be okay at all, I am going to be very okay in the journey because I will continue to develop and layer in habits that not only support my mind, body, and spirit through the process, but also support this process. If you're doing something that challenges you, gives you a new skill set, helps you learn, grow, um, and become more of who you want to be in the world, meaning you're expanding into someone that you really like. You're enjoying your own becoming. And while you're doing that, you're taking really good care of your body and you're connected to the needs of your body. How in the world could any of this be bad? And that's the message that I needed to hear today on my own podcast. I needed to be unmothered by me to get to the heart of the matter. And now what will I do with this information? Well, I'll journal about it. Maybe a good journal prompt would be something like what do you intend to give in your podcast? And what do you intend to get from your podcast? And maybe this brings me to the whole point of Unmother Me, which is moving forward, there will be nothing but patience, love, and kindness for my creative process and a gentleness and a softness and a deep understanding and connection to the fact that doing new things for the first time is really hard. And we as women and men, frankly, need to soften and learn to support others, but more importantly, ourselves through these journeys. We need to be soft places for ourselves to land. And so, as I'm creating this safe space for myself, I now invite you to join me in this safe space and start to treat yourself with the same kindness as you may be in the middle of doing something brand new or doing something for the first time. And frankly, I hope you are because you know, those firsts, um, those FFTs, you know, that you know, Bernie Brown talks about, uh they're where life happens. They're where all the fun is, all the memories are, all the great stories lie. Um thank God for first time. Do we all embrace them and jump out and you know are eager to live them? No, they're the things we get nauseous and get headaches over and make us want to vomit. But they're also the things that are most satisfying and oftentimes introduce us to opportunities and people and networks and expansions of ourselves that we really need to have. And so I want to thank you for joining me in my very first podcast that felt awkward and uncomfortable and deeply satisfying and nurturing. And I'm inviting you to join me next week for an episode that talks about really the lie that I built a big, beautiful life on. And so you'll learn what that is. Um, and I'm eager to share it with you. And if there's anyone in your life, any overachieving, overworking, burnt-out, self-sacrificing, self-abandoning woman in your life, please feel free to share this episode and this podcast with her. And I look forward to serving all of you. 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