Seleana And Timbre Part 4 discussion on Women's History Month

 Seleana and Timbre discussion on Women's History Month Part 4.  We discuss women who have influenced us, especially in our youth, shaping who we are, and acknowledging our mothers of shaped us as well. 

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

This is Disco Podcast. Look at Women's History Month part four. Hello, everybody, and welcome to Disco, diverse and inclusive stream of conscious observations. This is our final recording of Women's History Month. Thank you so much for joining the others. You know, our last one was quite long because we had so much to cover. So I think we're going to try make this one a little bit more brief and make it, like I said, we're trying to make these more digestible.

SPEAKER_01 0:34

Yeah, and this one we're actually trying to do a little bit uh with woman and a little personal.

SPEAKER_02 0:39

So right, yeah. This is this is this is gonna get a little personal. So I am Timber, your host, and with me as always, my fellow host.

SPEAKER_00 0:50

Selena, sorry, I just kind of cut in on you. But yes, hi, hello everybody.

SPEAKER_02 0:56

That's quite a that's quite a right, Selena. You know, so I want to do a big shout out for women all over the world, you know, how important they are in our the entire culture and society, and how much recognition we need to give them, especially not only in present tense, but also historically, because there's so many that have shaped who we are today as people and our culture as well.

SPEAKER_01 1:33

Yes, and our society.

SPEAKER_02 1:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:36

As a whole, you know. Yeah. Definitely. Women's women have done a lot.

SPEAKER_02 1:42

Yeah, and they have suffered through a lot too.

SPEAKER_01 1:45

This is true. Yes. We've overcome a lot, but you know, shown the strength, and we're appreciative, and I'm very happy that we did this this month to be able to recognize everybody.

SPEAKER_02 1:55

And I I am too. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 2:00

So I have a few people I'm planning on talking about today. Um you know, I know I I talked every everything in the previous episodes were historical figures. Um, I want to talk about uh women uh that were influential in my life. Um, especially growing growing up, since I was these are child, childhood memories of of women, and they and they both help shape me who I am was as a child, but who I am as a man today. And without them, I don't think I would be who I am today.

SPEAKER_01 2:45

Yes, so they definitely deserve the recognition for Emil. Who are these lucky women?

SPEAKER_02 2:52

All right. Uh they're my my uh elementary school teachers. Um, I was I you know I I was trying to figure it out with my family, um trying to call up all my other resources and like okay, because this is a long time ago now, um, you know, making sure that my mind, my memory was right, but I believe I had uh this woman, her name is Karen Kooster. I was very lucky and very fortunate to have her no, my memory serves me right, for uh preschool, um kindergarten, and second grade.

SPEAKER_01 3:38

That is awesome. That is great when you can have them through more than one year, but yes.

SPEAKER_02 3:45

Right. Now I come from a very, very small town. So these these this woman was also a family friend. You know, um I had maybe a dozen kids in my uh uh in grade school in my class. Um we have you know the the school district was very broad in land area, um, but it was a very, very tight-knit community. So um all all the teachers that I grew up with um were all very instrumental in raising me, even outside the classroom. But uh Karen Cooster especially was uh very very important to me uh as a young boy, um as a mentor and educator, and also as a family friend, and I'm very, very appreciative that I had her.

SPEAKER_01 4:49

Awesome. What exactly made her so special?

SPEAKER_02 4:54

Uh she's loving and compassionate, and had a lot of empathy, and and that um uh I think uh I've talked about in the other podcasts, that empathic awareness that says hump they're full of humility, and she's very, very, very humble. And and and she loved every one of us and made sure each one of us uh got the attention we needed. Uh um, especially in class, even when we're we're we're crazy kids, we're misbehaving and things like that, but um she made uh made sure that each one of us knew we were valued.

SPEAKER_01 5:40

Awesome. That is great. That is key.

SPEAKER_02 5:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 5:45

For a teacher. And it stuck with you. I mean, she obviously did uh you know a significant job of showing that empathy and helping you out because it stuck with you.

SPEAKER_02 5:56

It does. And I I really uh uh encourage you know um those to uh uh value their teachers as well. You know, uh teach your kids uh to value your teachers and for those listening who are adults, call call up your teachers and say thank you so much for being in you when I was growing up.

SPEAKER_01 6:28

Yes. Yeah, I they would definitely appreciate it if you have some teachers that made that type of an impact or find them on nowadays. You don't necessarily even have to call them, you can find them on social media and send them a message if they're out there, if they're because you know, not all people are on there, especially as we age and get older. We don't have as many.

SPEAKER_02 6:49

When I was growing up, most of the educators were women.

SPEAKER_01 6:54

I think that still is pretty much true. Like most of the teachers are women. I mean, there's a lot more men, don't get me wrong, there definitely is a lot more men. But um, I think that that's still pretty much the case, kind of like the nursing field maybe women, but there's a lot more men. There is a lot more male male nurses out there, so right.

SPEAKER_02 7:13

When I when I work in the uh volunteer in the shelter clinic, um there's only one other male in there. The rest are um eight women.

SPEAKER_01 7:33

I think our industries, speaking of this, this is kind of off of it, but I think the industries that have been uh like traditionally uh one sex for another versus like you know, the more women is seems to be more of the caring type of um of uh careers that they have, such as teaching, such as nursing, such as, you know, um and moving forward with that, and then men tend to still have like the engineering and the the you know the construction and more things like that. I don't know, and I still I mean I know that they're getting more combined, of course, but it's still more dominant, sex dominant for those different things.

SPEAKER_02 8:14

It absolutely is, yeah. Now who did you want to talk about, and then I'll get into my second person.

SPEAKER_01 8:25

All right, excuse me. I'm starting to get a tickle, I apologize. Um so my first one is actually not as personal, but it's just somebody who I've always admired. Um, and watching and listening to, and I'm sure a lot of people do know her. It's Jane um Jane Elliott. And she was known for the blue eye-brown eye experiment that she did in the 1960s, and her first time actually doing it was right after um Martin Luther King's assassination. And it was just uh uh basically a uh activity. I know that's not how the right word, but that's around there that they did in class where she separated kids per their eye colors. There's a blue eye, brown eye, and then she would treat them um sh I I think most of the time it was like the blue eyed were less treated as less than the brown eyes kids were initially, just to see so that they got to experience like was it fair that you were treated this way or another way? She has you know to to expose racism, to expose the biases, to expose what is wrong with it, why there is a problem and how it's not fair and it's not right, because as she states many different ways, there's only one race, and that's the human race. There's not other races, and she has advocated strongly. And I love listening to all of her talks and chats and podcasts, and she's done a lot of different podcast guesting. I know she was on with like TI recently, like she she does broadband um talk with it. And I let also Joy, she talks about our um our national anthem. The home um how she says, you know, the land of the free and the home of the brave. She says the land of the free is for the white people and the home of the brave are for the people of color that are uh here digging it out, being brave enough to keep moving, keep going, and keep living in this injustice. And I was like, wow, that's pretty touchy. I didn't think about the national anthem in that way. Yeah, it is a very good point. Very true. It is, sadly. It's very true. I mean, and then we I think about how many times um people of color, especially black people, because I can, you know, definitely I am, so I understand how much fear like we have with being pulled over in different situations and walking into different rooms and especially, you know, other corporations and things. It's a lot of different areas that people who are not of color, they just they they they have no idea. It's it's a privilege that they are unaware of. Um, and it's one that is mind-blowing to me. I can't imagine living, not having those fears in a graduate, which is crazy. I should be able to. We all should be able to, but I really love that she kept pushing for it. She got a lot of backlash too from it.

SPEAKER_02 11:12

Um during When did she do the do the study?

SPEAKER_01 11:16

Um, so her first time initially doing it was right after Martin Luther King was assassinated.

SPEAKER_02 11:20

In the 60s, okay.

SPEAKER_01 11:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:22

Because I was thinking that in the 40s, that's when uh the Nazis were we were fighting the Nazis, and they were all about the blonde hair, blue eyes.

SPEAKER_04 11:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:34

And about being pure and and white and of a certain complexion, and where people of color were synonymous with darker skin and brown eyes, right? So there's a huge here, there's a huge difference. So I was wondering if that had anything to do with it, but still, but but white people are still associated with with blue eyes, but did she just did she separate the children or the students into blue eyes and brown eyes, or were were they given like a uh lapel or something like that?

unknown 12:10

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 12:10

They were separated in blue eyes, brown eyes. So the kids in her class that had the blue eyes were separated from the kids in the class with the brown eyes. The kids in the class with the brown eyes were superior to the kids in the class with the blue eyes during this experiment that she, you know, performed with the kids to see how they feel. And she's like, I watched like the most empathetic, sweet kid turn into the most mean kid towards another one. And she's like, and I watched the most outgoing, um, outgoing, bright, outspoken kid shy down and back down and not say anything due to the treatment that they get that you get. And she's like, This was all one day. Now, if you do this over someone's lifetime, imagine what you're gonna do to them. And that's that's facts, that's true, and that's what's happened so much. And I think a lot of the pullback is because um a lot of our cultures have said, no, you're not doing that to me anymore. Like, I know I'm a human, I know I deserve more. And I really appreciate her continuing to be out there to fight and talk about it. Sally, her, she was talking about her kids. Her kids got she her kids got harassed, they got abused physically, mentally, verbally. Um, she's like they got spit on, they got beat up, they got so many things because their mom was the in lover, you know, um during those times and getting a lot of backlash. She said her teachers, her fellow teachers that she was with, they wouldn't speak to her. She said she'd walk down the hall and be like silenced. Like nobody would even want to come and talk to her. Um there's of course she got the parents that gave the backlash from the experiment. She said years later she ran into a parent um that was like, I'm so sorry. I we've been meaning to tell you, we should have stuck up with you for you. Um, because we appreciated that experiment. And she told her, she's like, No, you lived in that community with those people. You had to face them every single day. I had to go home to another city and go fine. Um, she's like, So I can understand you not wanting to step up during that backlash as it was. I mean, people were evil and violent, and they still are some today's, but they were very much so now, yeah. Yeah. They are now. They're it's becoming it's coming back, which is scary and horrific and horrible. But you know, look, I mean, if you think about like cross burning and throwing bricks and cocktails through people's houses, and you know, setting like it it was a normal thing for people to set people on fire to to bust into their house and drag them out and do horrific things to them, hang them and burn them and and just all kinds of things. So, you know, sadly she got to experiment some of that. Luckily, it wasn't to the extent of a lot of other people where she is still because she's still alive, she's still alive to this day, living in Iowa. Which is yeah, she is um still alive and going. I think she's 93 years old now. Um, and she's still talking. I I just watched one of her podcasts that she did last was in September. So it wasn't that long ago uh that she was talking with them. So I just I love that she continues to push for humanity, which is one thing that we talk about a lot here is you know, be kind to each other and we're all humans. It's all about humanity. Our fight right now is a fight for humanity because they're trying to fight against it for us. They're trying to uh, you know, take it away and divide us again because we were becoming too united, and we cannot let that happen. But I admire her strength. I admire the way that she went about it. She's a teacher. I love that she touched base with kids because I promise you there's some kids in there that she changed, hence, just like your teacher helped with you and changing your perspective on things and um the way you see the world as a whole. Um, and yeah, I just really appreciate and admire her. So I did want to touch base and just talk about her for a second in her life and appreciation.

SPEAKER_02 15:50

Well, did she in her studies did she reverse it? Did she let uh the brown-eyed children be the more dominant and aggressive so the kids with blue eyes would know what it's like to be?

SPEAKER_01 16:05

Yeah, this was it was an experiment that was more than one time thing. And other educators actually throughout the years have duplicated this experiment throughout. Um, as you were stating, I know that I've heard of some educators that like gave like you know something on them. Like you, if you have the sticker, then you're this, and if you don't, you're you know, you're on that side. Um, they've divided them that way versus their physical actual looks. They've just gave them different, you know, duties and signs. Um, but yes, she flipped them and to be able to see it. It's it's it's I I think it's different when you're the second round of being uh down, or you're the second round. So you you're first were put down, like most people of color, and now you have this in you know the superiority um over the others, and you flip it. But I think that empathy, especially for kids, still somewhat kicks in some and they remember how they felt. Some of them they want to make kids feel that way, they want to make them feel just as bad as they made them feel. But some of them is like, I don't want to make you feel as bad as you just made me. That wasn't nice.

SPEAKER_02 17:11

That reminds me of a college experiment called Prisoners and Guards.

SPEAKER_01 17:15

Yes, yes.

SPEAKER_02 17:17

Where they were where the they and when when they when the script got flipped, it was vicious.

SPEAKER_01 17:23

Yeah. And and like you said, some of them wanted to take it really out on them because of the things that they did, and we're and we're treating them, and then you have some of the reverse. It's like I'm not gonna do the same that you did to me. I'm not lowering myself to your level, you know. Um so yeah, it's interesting. I remember yeah, I remember reading about that experiment in school as well. There's there's been quite a few, you know. It's just I think I don't know if hers was the first that they really started to hear about it or became so public or national, or if it was just her timing. I think it was probably more the timing of it.

SPEAKER_02 17:55

Probably timing, but it's great that people took a page from her.

SPEAKER_01 18:00

Um and passed it.

SPEAKER_02 18:02

Because it's it's necessary for these kids to learn this because and that empathy. Um, and one of the one of the things that was important about my teacher, Karen, um they she knew about my disorder. Um the and and about my uh learning disorders and physical disorders growing up, and how understanding she was about it. But skip forward uh five years. Um now throughout that time I was being bullied. I mean, it's it's typical for kids to bully, and I'm not you know condoning that behavior, but um it ha it still happens today. But I was it was really suffering from it. Um and because uh this person's a male, and I didn't want I don't want to put too much emphasis on it, um, but he was he was my pediatrician. And he um he came in in our in my seventh grade to my whole class, and I think some of the other students in the whole school came in to sit in on this, and he did a presentation very, very similar to this, and he tiered it in a way where um, you know, what would you do if you saw somebody with this? No, this is a long time ago. This is distance memory now. Um, but what would you do with something like somebody who had this or looked a certain way? And more, and he progressed and progressed and progressed and progressed till he got to me and my ailments and my yeah and my appearance and my physic and my genetic disorder and how it affected me. And he find close it with like there's somebody in this room with that. Excuse me, I'm just shook up a bit. It was really, it was really really impactful, and everybody was like, What the hell? Really? They had no idea. That's why it's so that's why I really wanted to talk about Karen, especially, and my next person. These women, educators, and your educator are so important for our society. And they teach us because you know, you're um we were talking about Greta Thurdenberg, um, how how her perspective on things they teach us so much.

SPEAKER_01 20:40

They do.

SPEAKER_02 20:42

And it's so important that we that we respect them.

SPEAKER_01 20:46

Yes, definitely. Yeah, they do, and you know, it's it's sad, but it's so true that like, especially for her, I think her kids were second graders when she did her first experiment.

SPEAKER_02 20:56

Um that's an important age, though. I mean, that's that's a very it it warped them a bit. They were people were complaining. I read a bit about her. Definitely that they worried that how much it impacted them, but that's in a very impressive age.

SPEAKER_01 21:10

It is, but also like that's around those time frames where honestly, let's think about it, because we all know when we're born and we're kids, we love everybody. You're a kid, you're a kid. It doesn't you we don't see the differences. We see a person, you know. When a kid goes like a two, three-year-old to go play with kids, they just see a person, they see a kid that's their age to go play with. Um, it's the rest of the world that shapes and gives these biases um to kids and in development. So it's great that we do especially have these type of things and conversations at these ages because sadly it is, and it's the home life that they're experiencing it and they're hearing, and it's changing them.

SPEAKER_02 21:52

But between between second and third grade, I remember that. That was a jump. All of a sudden, things change.

SPEAKER_01 22:00

Too bad for me. Yeah, it wasn't for me. For me, it was more um well for me it was definitely like fourth and fifth grade. Um, it changed a lot, and then um it changed again, of course. Junior high was miserable. You're sorry my seventh, eighth grade, because we just did seven, eight for our junior highs, and now they have the middle school, you know.

SPEAKER_02 22:24

Um it was an important time, and she probably knew it then, especially because that's they're so impressionable, especially with what's going to happen with my MLK.

SPEAKER_01 22:33

What just had happened. I mean, in in the society in the world that they were living in, it was imperial, it was very important to be able to do that because that's how everybody acts. That's how everything was. You know, I believe, you know, I don't know if the 60s still had colored and white um areas or not, but it wasn't far off if they didn't, you know. Yeah. I think they didn't. Certain areas. Yeah, yeah, exactly I do too. I think they did as well. So, you know, it it was important to you to make sure that they understand and people understand, especially as an educator, make sure they understand that um brought people and be kind, be nice, and there's don't treat people differently because of uh, you know, other things. I mean, now granted, you can be more sensitive to somebody because of, you know, they might need like they might need a little bit more time. They might not be as fast due to it, could be possibly due to a disability or something. Um, so you need to give more patience and things like that, but you don't negatively treat them in a a manner uh due to a difference, due to a whatever it is.

SPEAKER_02 23:36

Even if it's uh the the small superficial thing. Yeah, especially or gender as well, because women were still fighting for their rights then. Yes, as well. They still are. I mean, there there's a huge movement now against women and then the violent ugly words and attitudes towards women. It's just and it's giving even decent men like me a bad name. And I'm horrified for it. I mean, I don't I w that's partially why I'm wanting to do this podcast too, especially for Women's History Month. But just in general, it's like to help teach people and show people it's like there are good people out there. And and we can and we can still ch make change for the better.

SPEAKER_01 24:22

Yes, we definitely can. And yes, they are. And I like that we're you know, it's it's the month of highlighting, of course, the women. And there don't get us wrong, we know there's a lot of great men out there too that are doing the work and doing great work too. Um just recognize them because of it's an international women's month, and women really don't get recognized much, and actually we have been getting downed a lot. I mean, I just was talking about this with um some of my other with one of my friends about because we talked about how like, you know, the 600,000 women that were just laid off within like the last year, um, especially specifically for me, we were talking about the black women, but we talked about women in general because that's they started as black women and then they just went to women because it's it's a strategic plan, an attack to try to suppress us again so that they can make themselves superior more often. Because why women are a pretty big threat? Because we're pretty strong, and you have to, you know what I mean? And listen, if you can silence us from it, so you start with a black woman, then you move on with the other women, and then you move to the other, and then it's the men of color for that's like the strategic ultimate plan to get back to the white superiority that they're um Project 25 is trying to do. You know, and it's sad, it's sad, and they're they're doubting us, and he's actually putting women in positions that are very public, and they're making themselves look like a fool. Yeah, you know, which is which is that's just what it is. But let's talk about the great ones. You know, I'm glad like for her that she's done these great things. You had a great teacher as well. Educators are awesome and amazing, and you know, well I have a second one, very go for it.

SPEAKER_02 25:58

Yeah, yeah. So this is the uh this person was awesome, and she she really helped me get out of my shell because this is I was 10 years old when we did this. Um, so which would be put me a fourth grade? Something like about that.

SPEAKER_03 26:17

Yep, yep.

SPEAKER_02 26:18

Um and uh her name is Rosie Reynolds, and she's a director and and producer for theater. Um, and she uh spent a lot of time in my hometown, and uh family friends of mine uh just because we're in such a tight community, uh they heard about her and said they heard about that she was in the area uh because she was this is early uh early on in her career, but how the positive things that she did is like, would you do something in our community? And she jumped to it, and so she started in our area the children's theater. Now, in Minneapolis, there's a children's theater at the Minneapolis Institute of Art. But we started, or she started one in my community, and there's a bunch of dozen of us kids who all got together in 1987 to do a production of Pinocchio. Oh, cool. Yeah, uh and I am shy as hell. And uh she put me in the role of Patroni or Patroni. Um that's that that that that was my role, that was my role name. Um it it his character name, I think, in Disney was Stromboli. He was a puppet, the evil puppet master. Okay, but even at 10 years old, um I had a beat bellowing voice. And um I had uh I had so much stage stage front in order to fit the part, they they took a bit of scotch tape and somebody's red hair, wrapped it up and put it on my lip. Now, granted, people who's listening into this they can't see what I'm doing, but I had to I try to try to keep the costume together the whole time with my finger over my upper lip, trying to get the the much that much that's because we didn't have spirit gum back. We just I mean this is completely really very low budget productions. I mean handmade costumes and things like that, but we all had so much fun doing it.

SPEAKER_00 28:40

But I'm just introduction to theater.

SPEAKER_02 28:44

Yeah, that was my first introduction to theater. Uh and I'm going up to people in audience because I'm looking for Pinocchio. Pinocchio's wreck got away from me. And I'm like, where is he? And just grabbing people in the audience, just like one wild-eyed at this bright, wild costume, and I'm in my y and I can yell even at that because you know I'm uh I'm I'm lowering my voice here, but you know, I can talk like this, and I'm going up to people and like, where is he?

SPEAKER_03 29:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 29:13

Uh and like just be like, wow, okay. Uh but she is, and I've and I've done other stuff with her too. Then uh um we we did another production the next year, and I I did three different children's productions um of historic tales, and it really got me into really getting my creative juices going, but also my my confidence too, because I'm still shy, it's still I still have stage fright. But if it wasn't for Rosie, um I mean I think about it all the time. It was such an important time of my life to do that, and I had so much fun with it, even no matter how scared I was, how much I valued her and what she did for me. And I know all the other kids and the students did too. So I wanted to do a big shout out to Rosie and thank you to her for doing what she did for us. Yes, and and she's recognized uh as a very pivotal woman and and and mentor in my life.

SPEAKER_01 30:28

That's awesome, that's great. Yeah, and theater and art and all of that, it's it's amazing. And she's still doing it today. Is she? That's great.

SPEAKER_02 30:37

Yeah, she's still directing today.

SPEAKER_01 30:39

Nice. It's still at that stadium children's theater.

SPEAKER_02 30:43

Uh that, and I think at uh uh in another location as well, but she's still she's still involved in theater.

SPEAKER_01 30:51

That's cool in directing. That's great. She found it just like you fo she helped you find, you know, art and and your confidence in it, and then she found something that she has a passion for and obviously is pretty good at. Definitely. Um I think we're just on an educator role here because my the last person that I have, or for me, um she's an educator now is actually um my mother that I would like to talk about. Right. So um just a little bit with her. She you know, growing up my my mom did shelter care for the county, and so we had several different kids in and out of our um house with different issues and concerns and you know, coming from rough households, of course, and all different times, which really really showed and helped me develop the empathy as we talked about earlier. Um because you know, it's not these kids' fault. It's not their fault apart from what the things that they were going through. And that's one thing that you know my mom really pushed for us. It's not their fault. And so our job here is to at least provide the most safest place for them right now, um, and show them joy. But she did that, and then um she did quit later on, but went on, did some average work things, production and so forth. Um kept pushing, kept moving, and then she became an educator. Um she actually worked for hostess before they closed, and then they closed down and they helped her um part of the severance package is they would pay for two years of the school year if they if their employees wanted to go back to school for something and she took advantage of that and um she did go back to school and at this time my mom was in her sixties actually. So you know, a little that's a little thing that she really showed me that it's never too late, you're never too old, you can keep doing it, you can still do it. Um keep pushing in your your passions and dreams. Um she got in working with uh kids again, and she's obviously obvious was great with them. She started with some, you know how you stated your teacher had you had your teacher in preschool, second grade, or kindergarten and second grade.

SPEAKER_02 33:05

Yeah, as far as far as I remember, yeah. We um uh You did well, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 33:11

She did a loop. She started something new, um, where she which was awesome. So with her kids, she started with these kids in kindergarten and then she stayed with them all the way till fifth grade when they went off to middle school. That had such an impact on the kids and for her as well, and the parents, um, knowing, you know, she knew the kids, she knew them, she and they knew that she knew them. So, you know, when you start going through that change, second grade, fourth grade, fifth grade, you know, she could say, This isn't who you are. I know this. You're not mean like this. Why are you being like and they knew that she knew it, you know, and could also say those things to the parents and could tell when something was off. And I just think it was so valuable for her to be able to do that. And just she's still to this day now, 75 years old, she's still um teaching, uh, which is great. And she still has that passion and drive, and she still has the greatest empathy and push and still helps everybody. And she just she really, like I said, she showed me, you know, uh gave me the empathy, the compassion, the strength to keep pushing, and no matter what, to know it's never too late, you're never fully down, you can always get back up, even if you get up and do something else, you can still be successful. It doesn't so like that's why I really wanted to push and recognize her because she's been a lot of my drive because I have done a shift later on in life and career uh to to switch. And anytime I thought that I couldn't, I just remember what she did and that yeah, I can, and it's it it it'll be fine, it'll be great. Uh so that's why I wanted to share and talk about the impression and the greatness that she has done. And I will tell you, there's the kids that we touched growing up in shelter care. I would say probably up to maybe like six, seven years ago, every now and again, some parents will come back and see her and say thank you. And sometimes the kids we've had a couple kids who actually have become adults and said the same thing and said how much of an impact that she made in creating a more positive um for them and seeing that the world could be a good safe place. So that's why I want to recognize my mom, because she's awesome.

SPEAKER_02 35:30

That's wonderful because that that's who I'm gonna also shouting out to is my mom as we as we complete our our cast today. Um my mom is wonderful, you know. I I love her to death, and she too um shaped who I am today. And she worked hard. She was um for around that same time um that I was talking about with my other mentors, she was uh a single mother raising three children. And she she worked really, really hard. And there there were times, I mean, when I was I was pretty oblivious to to it when I was that young. Um but and now that I think back to it today, it's like how hard she had to have worked. Yeah just keep keep food on our tables, you know, keep us clothed. And I mean I remember getting third uh third hand-me-downs, and then my younger brother getting four. We had two older brothers from my dear uh from my father's previous marriage. But I mean, we didn't always have it great, but we always we always had food on our tables. We always had clothes on our backs, and the lights on it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 36:55

Right there, because you didn't know it. As much as she struggled with going through it. That is something that all of us parents we don't want our kids to absorb and to see it. We want to do our best to make sure that they have good days, happy, and that theirs feels secure and safe. And you know, it's awesome. Good job to your mom.

SPEAKER_02 37:11

Clap she got my pediatrician to come over to teach the kids to teach the kids about me and to teach the kids humility too. So I'm very, very thankful for my mom.

SPEAKER_04 37:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 37:27

For what she did. No, and my whole community the whole community too. She ran a good community too. She um the things that she had to do and and the effort and the time that she put in too that it it really transformed my hometown as well. So there's she's she's impacted so many people around her positively, and so many of us are very, very thankful for her.

SPEAKER_01 37:58

Yes, yes, yay, moms. Very much so.

SPEAKER_02 38:02

So please be sure not only find that one or more. There's more than one in our lives. Go thank uh that one woman that changed and influenced your life positively, and go thank if you can. Um thank your mother as well. Make sure that you you recognize her and and what she did did for you. Because we'll we'll do we'll do our Mother's Day uh center for uh uh uh for that for that week in May. Um, but be sure to please everybody that you go thank the women in your life, and even if they're past, you know, reflect on that. You know, send out send out the prayer or that mental emotional no.

SPEAKER_01 38:52

Right. Yeah, whoever is the most influential woman in your life, go tell her thank you.

SPEAKER_02 38:58

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 39:00

No, just go let her know. Thank you, appreciate you. Because we all can hear, we all need, you know, it's all good to hear compliments. Compliments are always welcome.

SPEAKER_02 39:08

Right. Because there there is more than one. I mean, uh uh uh the but th those are my top three for this. But yeah, there are there are great and wonderful women in this world. They are, yes, yes, yes, and they deserve our respect and our thanks and our gratitude.

SPEAKER_01 39:31

Yes. So I'd like to thank for one, all of those that we have talked about throughout the entire month. Um whether they are with us currently or not, and all of the ones that we are talking about currently now, and for sure our personal and our mothers and our educators, all of our educators out there, you guys do so much, and you are valued, and I appreciate it and thank you. And I know a lot of parents, sadly, they don't always uh show that, but you're making a world of a difference, and we thank you.

SPEAKER_02 40:02

Yes, they are, they are definitely making a difference.

SPEAKER_01 40:05

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 40:07

Well, thank you, Selena.

SPEAKER_04 40:09

Yeah, thanks, Timmy.

SPEAKER_02 40:10

Thank you for being a good mentor to me and a good woman, uh, positive uh female influence in my life. Wow, thank you for being my co-host.

SPEAKER_01 40:20

Yes, yes, definitely. Uh thank you too. Yeah, you're very welcome. I didn't I didn't consider myself a mentor for you, I just thought of a friend. So thanks. That that kind of threw me off, but I appreciate that.

SPEAKER_02 40:31

You're welcome. Well, thank you. Yes, and thank you, everybody, for joining us for uh Women's History Month. It's been a great effort and great time delving into it all month long.

SPEAKER_01 40:46

Yes, it has been, and thank you, yes, for being here. And we'll see what April brings us. Come on back and check us out.

SPEAKER_02 40:52

Oh, yeah. I'm really looking forward to uh next week. So take care, everybody. Listen in, like, share, and comment, and give us some ideas to talk about uh for this coming month.

SPEAKER_01 41:06

Yep, we're open. All right, see you then.

SPEAKER_02 41:08

Take care, everybody. Bye now.