Just One More Minute

A wedding video. A conversation with a friend. A memory of sleeping on Grandma's balcony listening to stories.

Sometimes the moments we miss are the ones that matter most.

In this episode of The King's Court, King Roberto explores the "Just One More Minute" theory... the idea that every version of ourselves and the people we love is temporary. The kids grow up. Parents get older. Friends move on. Life changes whether we're paying attention or not.

From weddings and grandchildren to family traditions and the demands of work, this episode is a reminder to slow down, be present, and appreciate the moments that are happening right now before they become memories.

Because someday, the future version of you may wish for just one more minute.

Royal Decree:
Don't rush past the good part. Stay a little longer. Ask one more question. Take the extra ride. Sit for one more minute.

You may never get that exact moment again.

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Transcript

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Thanks for joining me here, your host King Roberto on the King's Court Podcast. You know, a couple days ago, I was talking to a friend of mine. His son was getting married. And his son is somebody that I had played softball with a few years ago. We were doing the softball thing with a company-sponsored team, and he was on the team, and he's a young man, good kid. Apparently, he had announced that he was getting married a few months ago, but King Roberto here has been living under a rock lately. So the queen, um, Nikki, informed me that Spencer was getting married, and he had announced it a while ago. But it was on his one of his social medias or story or something. So I reached out to Spence and told him, hey, congratulations. You guys have been dating for a while, so she definitely knows the man that she's going to be married. And it was a good conversation, good chat we had. And then a friend of mine, his dad, uh, was in town, and we got to talking in our group chat with the football boys about it, and you know, it kind of evolved a little bit, I would say. And you know, there's pros and cons to being the the guy that everybody wants to spend their time with, right? And I could tell that that's what everybody wanted was a little piece of his attention, and all he wanted to be was in town for a son's wedding. And so I told him to decide, you know, in a in a message off to the side, you know, enjoy it, man. Soak it all in because it's one of those days that you won't want to end. After that, a couple days later, the wedding happened, and I came across a post that he posted on Instagram. And his post is this it's not about squeezing one more minute out of a party, a dinner, a trip, or a night you didn't want to end. It's about realizing that every version of the people you love and every version of you is temporary. The you that exists right now, the one healing, growing, grieving, expanding, hoping, unraveling, and writing your story in real time, you will never exist in this exact form again. Your kids' voices, their little mannerisms, the way their hands fit in yours. This version of them has an expiration date. Your partners laughed. The softness in their eyes when they tell you a story you've heard a hundred times, even that will shift with time. Your parents, your friends, the people who anchor you, they're changing too. Quietly, constantly, right in front of you. That's the heart of the just one more minute theory. If you were given one more minute with this exact version of someone you love, how would you treat it? You'd slow down without having to remind yourself. You'd listen without preparing your response. You'd look at them like you were trying to memorize something you already knew you would miss. You'd let the moment be small and sacred instead of rushed and forgettable. This theory isn't about panic, it's about reverence. It's the quiet awareness that the present moment will never look exactly like this again, and you rarely know which ordinary minute will become the one you'd give anything to return to. So much of life is lived half present, assuming there will always be another chance, another conversation, another laugh, another dinner, another hug at the door. But what if this is the minute you'll ache for someday? What if the future version of you looks back and whispers God, I wish I had paid more attention. Now is always the time. Stay a little longer. Look a little closer, listen a little deeper, smile a little more because someday just one more minute may be the only thing you'd ask for. You can read that on B Hub thirty on Instagram. I've got it saved. I read that after the wedding, and he posted that after the wedding, and it's a video of his son and his wife dancing. And I could immediately relate to that just one more minute. Just one more minute in that instance with those people at that time. And I'm a sucker for weddings, I'll tell you. Weddings and babies, right? Weddings and babies. Those those are the moments. Those are the minutes that you'll never be that same person again. You'll never get to experience that again. Those people in that time are gone. They're in the past. All you have is your future to look forward to. But yeah, the the weddings and the babies, those are the moments that will always stand out for me. You know, they're different for everybody. You might not have a wedding or a baby moment, but you've got your moments. Could be when your kids growing up, you know, taking the dirt bikes out with friends and riding wherever you're riding. Mine, my top ones are when the kids were born, all three of them, finding out that I was having a son with number three, being so surprised with number one, that um we didn't know with her what she was going to be until she came. And and one of the memories of, you know, number two is going off to work and her being on that front porch just crying, wanting me to stay one more minute with her. And it, you know, sometimes it chokes me up just sitting here talking about it, I gotta tell you. Just one more minute, though, right? That's the that's the whole crux of the of the theory. It's that extra conversation. You know, the weddings, the weddings for me, it's it's the moment at the weddings. And there's I've got three of them so far. Four if you count the first one, but you know, that happened, and I don't regret that. And that one had that moment, but not like the other moments, not like the other three times that I had it. The first one was when I got married the second time. Standing at the um the head of the pews with my back towards the door and watching Nikki walk in and seeing her for the first time in her wedding dress, absolutely lost my breath, took my breath away. Every every guy, I'm sure, who has been married or is still married with their wife is gonna say the same story. But and it's true, it's true. When you're with that right person in that moment, it takes your breath away. And I had that with both the girls at different times at their weddings, but it was that first reveal, that first time you see them in the in the wedding dress, and all of the flashbacks of those moments and that time that you had while they were with the were the little girls before all come flooding in. And it's like, oh, I'm gonna miss all of that. But in that particular moment, it was like, good lord, look at how gorgeous these girls are. Look at what amazing young women they are, and and that moment of that first look of your daughter in a wedding dress is something that it's a gut punch. Both times it was, both times it was. Um, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. And those are days that when I look back at those wedding nights, the receptions, you know, the people who are there, if I had just five more minutes with them, you don't want those nights to end, you don't want those days to end with friends and family listening to the stories of what they have to tell, and just give you that one more minute because you know, we all know that our time here is finite. You know, we have an expiration date. We all do, whether we like it or not. Uh it's it's real and it's coming eventually. You know, I'm 51 years old now, and I don't feel old, but if you ask my six-year-old, I'm old. I told her the other day we were on the phone, and I said, you know, she said, Papa, how old how many are you? How many are you? That's the question. Not how old are you? How many are you? She wants to know, how many are you, Papa? I said, 104. 104? And you hear in the background, mommy, is papa gonna die? And I couldn't help but kind of chuckle. No, but that was something my grandma told me when I was a kid, said, Grandma, how many are you? 104. It's always 104. In those moments, you know, I have them with her too. We were kids and we would be can't uh sleeping over at grandma and grandpa's house on the balcony. We'd sleep out on the balcony, and they lived in in the middle of town on five or six acres, and they had the balcony around the second floor, and we'd sleep out on the balcony, and grandma would tell us the stories about the skunk and the chicken down in the barn, the skunk and the chicken. And she had these little stories, and I remember those stories, you know, to this day, falling asleep to the stories that grandma would tell us laying out on that balcony and hearing about the skunk and the chicken stories. And the balcony, I'll tell you, was not the safest balcony looking back at now. I'm not so sure I would let my kids have slept on that balcony, but you know, mom and dad let us do it, and grandma and grandpa would let us do it, and nobody fell up through those railings, and we were not ADA compliant railings back then, they were 12-inch, 12-8, 12 or 18 inches apart, you know, horizontal two by fours, and um, you know, it was kind of scary up there, and it's scary looking back at it now that that we had it, but you know what I wouldn't give to go back to that time when I was a little boy and have just one more story, just one more story with grandma. And and it's easy to look back at it now. You know, how many just one more minute would you ask for? How many here's the real question though, and this is the one that gets me thinking. How many just one more minutes would I ask for but I could have had, and I just missed the opportunity. Mm-hmm. Let that wrinkle around in your brain for a little while. How many just one more minutes could you have had that you missed, that you let go? You know, it's been a busy time around here the last gosh, six months now or so? It's been crazy. It's been go, go, go, go, go. Um, there's always a project that needs to be done. There's always work that needs to be done. And this needs your attention, that needs your attention. How many times during that time have I missed that just one more minute? How many times have I missed those moments that could have been just a little bit longer? And when I when am I gonna feel it, right? When am I gonna say, God dang it, I missed that one? Or or man, I wish I really had that one back to do over. And, you know, if I could just pause certain parts of life and relive them on replay over and over and over, you know, like groundhog day. Do a groundhog day for a couple of days. It it'd be much better if you can mix it up and kind of slide the days in and out as you see fit or the moments that come and go, uh, so that they're kind of tailored to what you want to feel at that moment, but but I never miss the busyness. You know, I don't think I've ever said to myself, and I've made a focus in the last probably six or seven years. This has been a concerted effort because I was the guy who was always living up to the expectations, trying to meet those expectations of what uh what it would be, what you should be if you're in a family business, you know, busting your butt all the time, working on the long days, sunup to sundown, and trying to meet those expect expectations. You know, I fell short plenty of times, but I was always trying, and it, you know, sometimes I think it cost me, but the last you know decade or so, I've really made a focus to turn that off and to try to be present when I'm at home. Work has its place, and it might not be a popular opinion. I don't know that the generation before me would agree. They might now, because I think time has changed perception a little bit, but at the time, you know, it was all about work, work, work, work, work, work, and that's how I was raised. I mean, we had chores, we were working every weekend, it was all about doing that, and and I've really made a chance a conceded effort to turn that off in the last couple years, and it happened. You know, there was a weekend a while ago, and the work emails were flowing in, and it was a Saturday night, and I was sitting on the couch and I was emailing for work from my phone. I said, This is stupid. And I that night I deleted the email app off my phone. Because I'm not gonna do this to my family anymore. I want to be present in these moments because I didn't want to have this just one more minute feeling. I didn't want to have that just one more minute feeling rush over me. I would I I didn't want to miss something that was going on in my family life because I was so busy dealing with work. Because the fact of the matter is work's gonna be there. Monday morning or whenever your your work week starts, it'll be there. It's not going anywhere. You know, you're gonna still have to do the same amount of work. It's just a matter of are you going to catch that extra sunset with your wife in the backyard? Are you going to take that extra lap around the lake with the kids and do another round of wakeboarding or wake surfing? You don't get to do that again. Work will always be there. And that is a realization that I had to come to that work will always be there. There's always going to be something to do, there's always going to be a project to do. My time with with the people I love is limited. I could die tomorrow and work would carry on. I could die tomorrow and sure as hell wish I had just one more minute with the people that I loved. And so as I've got older, you know, I don't know if I'm like the fine wine that I age, you know, gracefully. I try, I do the best I can, and and I try to carry a good message and do good with what I do. But if there's a way to get an extra laugh with the kids, if there's a way to intentionally put the phone down and be present, I'm really trying hard to do that because I want those minutes to last. I want those moments to last. It's something that I would hope everybody wants. So this week don't rush past the good part. When the conversation is still going, stay a little longer. When the kids are laughing, put the phone down. When the sunset is hitting just right, don't be in such a hurry to go inside. When your people are around you, give them the part of you that is actually present. Like I said, the work will be there. The list will be there, the honeydews will be there, the projects will be there. But some moments don't come back around. So take that extra ride. Ask one more question. Sit for one more minute. Royal decree for this week is stay just one more minute. Embrace that version of you that you are right then. Love the people who are around you in that moment. Because it's never going to come back again. You will never be the same person that you are right now. You see that? You just changed. You're different. If you want one more minute with King Roberto here, send me an email. Figure out a way to get reach out to me. Come join the show. Come sit down with me. Let's have a conversation about the minutes that we've missed with each other. Or the minutes that we're gonna make for one another. Because I'd love to spend one more minute with you. Until we meet again and this amazing podcast goes on. This is King Roberto saying goodbye from the King's lair. See you later.