Feeling emotions to end the cycle

feeling emotions is a sign of liberation of that unpleasant emotions 

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Hello, hello, hello, and welcome back to Wild Already, where we are on the path to discovering our wildest self, and I'm here to help you discover your highest potential. I hope you enjoy today's episode. Getting your feelings hurt is never a fun experience. But we have to remember that we are here on this earth in this human experience to experience these emotions. Because emotions can only be felt here. And that's the extremely cool part about Earth, about being here in this realm, that we can have emotions and we are so much closer to embodying source because the way source manifests and creates is so much closer to how we humans are able to create once we master all of these spiritual laws and our emotions and our creative field. Once we have mastered all those things combined, we are so much closer to embodying source, and that's kind of the soul's goal to get there, to get closer and closer to being source again. Because we are kind of like mini sources in the making. And once we get up there with our consciousness, we are closer and closer to being source. So in the beginning of our consciousness, it starts like we have to love ourselves, we have to master self-love, then we get to um mastering manifestation, and then we get to be like kind of teachers, kind of leaders in the spiritual field. That's kind of the step-by-step plan. But that's like over hundreds and thousands of lifetimes, so don't stress about that. But getting our feelings hurt is such a human experience. I don't know anyone who hasn't had their feelings hurt. Like I got my feelings hurt this week, and I was like crying because of something that happened in my life. And it's completely normal, and we have to stop ourselves from being like, Oh, I don't want to feel my emotions. No, that's a bad emotion. I don't want to feel that. I don't want to be sad, I don't want to be angry, I don't want to be da-da-da-da-da. I only want to be happy, grateful, this, this, this, and that. But you experiencing emotions is already something that's supposed to happen. Because how do you master things? You don't master things by never looking at them, by never experiencing them, by never uh coming in contact with something. If I want to ice skate, and I'm a very bad skater on the ice, like I fall all the time, I need like a railing next to me. Um, if I want to master it, it won't help that I just think, oh yeah, maybe I'll do that, and I will only be grateful and graceful and amazing on the ice and only think that, and never really going on the ice and falling on my ass, and getting back up and learning from that. I'm like, okay, I don't I'm not allowed to lean that far back because it will whoop get me over the edge and I will sit on my ass again. That's how we learn. And I'm not saying you should learn and never have bad emotions again. I'm saying you should learn every emotion that you have and appreciate every emotion that you have and be able to see that this emotion is either helping you experience something in a joyful way that you would want, or helping you seeing something that where you don't see the bigger picture. And by seeing the bigger picture I mean seeing everything as neutral. And neutral I also often say perfect. Because for me, my new definition of perfect, the old one was everything is only good and only positive. Yeah, that's a lot of people have that definition of perfect. But my new definition of perfect is that it is equal parts both. It is equal parts positive and negative. Because the funny thing is, everything is always all. What do I mean by that? As far as my understanding goes right now, and I'm always trying to expand and I'm always trying to learn new things, but I want to give it to you like fresh, what I can give you right now. Everything is always all. So if I look at let's say a computer, I should be able to find how it is all things, it is everything, and that way the first step is kind of like it is positive, it is negative, but you could also go a step further and say, Okay, this thing is everything, this thing is teaching me, this thing is taking my money, this thing is this, this, this, this, this. So, in every direction you could go, and I find that so interesting because um, at first you're like, okay, how is it even negative that I have a cool phone? And then you could go, how is it this, how is it that? And that's just like a mind exercise that I want to give you today. Because once you take a step back and look at it as it is positive, it is negative, and as it is all, how is it all, and you think about that, you're automatically taking like a step back and looking at it from a different perspective. And that's kind of all you can really hope for if you're really emotional, and if you mastered that, you're already so far ahead, like that is so advanced to be able to have your emotions and like take a step back and be like, How is it all? And I'm not saying this is the first step, yeah. Um if I'm super emotional and crying and screaming, I'm not gonna be able to be like, I take a step back, I take a deep breath, and how is it all? I I'm not able to do that. If you're able to do that, amazing, please teach me. But it's very, very difficult in these high emotional stages to be like, how is it all? But what you can start to do is look back on the last time that you've been very emotional about something and try to go, how is it positive and negative in equal parts, and how is it all? And that way you could train your brain in an emotion that you were very high in. How is it all? How is it helping me with this? How is it hurting me this? How is it achieving me this? How is it this, this, this, this, this? Okay, and however we see things, however we focus on them, that's the way we get to experience them. And if we train ourselves more to be like, this is everything, this is good, this is bad, the more we will be able to get there faster in the moment. Because what do we really want? What do I really want? I would really want to be in every situation, even if it's a highly triggering one, and not automatically act on my emotions. Because sometimes you don't want to act on your emotion. Because if I'm really really pissed and I want to hurt someone and I want to slap someone in the face, I would be really happy if I don't do that. Because it's most likely not gonna get a great outcome. Because what do I want? I want the outcome that I desire to have. And if I'm fighting with someone and I want this person to do something for me and I'm gonna hit them, it most likely is not gonna lead to the outcome that they are going to help me the way I want them to. Because if I were to get hit, I'm not gonna help you anymore. I would be like, honestly, you're out of my life, I don't want to do anything with you. And the same would probably apply to this person. So, what we wanna do is in a highly triggering situation, we want to be able to get our emotions down and be able to see it from different perspectives, from the positive, from the negative, from how it is it all. And to get there, first of all, we need to understand that every emotion that we feel is great the way it is. Because I have been a victim of this a long long time, that I would blame it on everything but me, like victim mentality, and that's like the the last place you want to be it. Like, woe is me, I'm such a little tainty, oh it's me, blah blah blah blah blah. It's always like, oh, it's not my fault, I was in this emotion because that person, because that person. But if we can change it and see, like, if I'm angry, that's great, if I'm happy, that's great, if I'm this, that, and the other emotion, that's great, and we can really feel it out. I don't I don't mean like feel it out in the sense like slap the person. No, don't do that. I do not recommend it. Um I want you to feel that emotion out, like scream in your car, punch a pillow, whatever you need to do to get that emotion out. But how we create things that we don't desire is a lot of times by not completing the cycle. And how do we not complete a cycle? I'm angry at someone, I push it down. I'm angry at someone, I push it down. And that's why it gets broadcast in my creative field because if we push an emotion down and don't address it and don't complete the cycle on it, completing the cycle by releasing it, releasing it not by being like, oh, I'm not angry anymore, and pushing it down further. Releasing it by letting that emotion out, not directed at a person. I wouldn't recommend that. I would try to do it like solo, not with someone else. Or you could go to a person that you're really close with and be like, hey, I have this emotion, I'm really angry. Could I just let it out in front of you? Because a lot of times it's very powerful to let another person see it. What I like to do, I think I've shared this before, but I don't know, um, is if version A, I'm in my car, I blast music, and I scream, I cry, I get it all out. Because I kind of feel really safe in my car to do those things because I'm like going down to the highway in a speed, and if someone sees me like screaming, they're gonna think, whatever, I don't really care about that. So that would be an option. You could do it at home, but I most of the time don't want to do it at home because I forget about it. And if you're in the car, you already have time, but don't do it like closing your eyes or something, don't do anything dangerous, but like screaming at the top of your lungs in your car, it's kind of a fun thing for me. Or, second option is if you have something that you want to rant about, that you want to talk someone's ear off, and you don't want to talk someone's ear off because how does this innocent person that didn't do you any wrong get to be your um buddy about this, and you talk to them like two hours and you get all of your emotions out and you kind of trauma dump on them? I would also not recommend that. So, what I would do instead is at least the first time I really want to talk about it, like it just happened, I really want to get it out. I go to my voice memos and I talk to the voice memo like I'm talking to someone like you could pretend it's your therapist, you could pretend it's your future you, you could pretend it's your you from an hour ago that happened to, and you can both like bitch about it. I love that because first of all, I can be as honest as I want to be because no one else is gonna hear it, only I'm hearing it. So you rant about it to your phone, to your recording, you could go like super retro and get like these little um things with the cassettes in it and go there, however, you want to do it, and then you talk your ear off, then you stop, then you listen to the recording, and it's already gonna be so much better in you. Maybe you're like, oh yeah, I totally agree with that, and then you can like the next point, you're like, oh, actually it's kind of not that deep. And the more you do it, and I don't want you to think that you do this once and it's over and done with, you do it as often as you feel it. You do it as much as it is necessary. Because I'm not gonna say I have deep-rooted anger issues and talk to my phone for 10 minutes once and be like, this solved it all. No, you want to get it out, and if it wants to come up again, you need to get it out again. And that's the important part. So many people are like, Yeah, but I already wrote about it. I already did the letters, and I'm like, yeah, but did it come up again? And they were like, Yes, and then I'm gonna be like, then you need to write it out again. You can also write a letter if you want, but I am such a fast talker that I just want to talk about it and not write about it because my arm starts to hurt once I do it. But writing is also very powerful. I just prefer talking about it, to be honest. So those are so many tools, so many things I wanted to tell you today. But I know you got this, and this is one of the first steps, and I know you can do it about emotional mastery, and it's a big thing, and I'm still learning about it, and I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you enjoyed today's episode, and if there's anything more I can do for you, reach out to me. Everything you need is in the description box, and I hope you have an amazing rest of your day.