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Hello, hello, hello, and welcome back to Wild Already, where we are on the path to discovering our wildest self, and I'm here to help you discover your highest potential. I hope you enjoy today's episode. Triggers, what are they and how do we overcome them? Today I want to talk about triggers. They are seemingly everywhere, and we all get them, so it's completely normal to be triggered to get into a situation and feel any sort of emotion. But the thing about triggers is first of all, we are completely we believe we are completely neutral, we believe we are completely fine, and something happens and our emotions go to like a thousand. Okay, they go up the roof, they go totally crazy because of something that happens outside, we believe. But actually, we get triggered inside. The outside might be the thing that started it, but really the change is happening inside of us. And how we know that is true is because maybe there's another person sitting right next to us, the same thing is happening to them, and they're completely fine. So we know it's not a hundred percent only the outside situation that is triggering us, but it is inside the changes of us. So we get triggered from the inside out, just as everything happens from the inside out. The interesting thing is that we can change our internal state and no longer get triggered by something. We've already talked about that a lot in reflections, but I want to talk today about what we could do when we get so triggered that our emotions are at like a thousand. So the first thing we need to remember is that we don't get triggered from the outside situation. We maybe believe that we get triggered because this person did that and blah blah blah, but we actually get triggered because we have an internal change. Because you know another person wouldn't get as triggered or more triggered, it would change depending on the person, and that's how you know it's not an always story. But what is an always story is that you get triggered from the inside. Because if a rabbit is being chased by a fox, but the rabbit gets scared, is it the fox that makes the rabbit scared, or is the rabbit getting scared so it can run faster and get away quicker? Because the fox would rather have the rabbit stay still and just chill so it could get it, but the rabbit gets scared and can get away faster. So in case of the rabbit, it's good that it gets triggered by the fox. We want to get triggered because we can only grow in such situations, because if we never did any work and would never get triggered, life would be pretty boring, I would assume. So we want to get triggered because that way we get shown our imbalances. So when we get triggered, we believe it is because this person said that, and that's why we are pissed now. In actuality, we get triggered because some deep deep inside ourselves won't get opened again. I call it the law of soul imbalance. Because we have the law of balance, that is, everything is at all times both positive and negative at the same amount. That is law of balance, but law of soul balance is that we get triggered when we are like, I don't know, five and something happens to us, we um get laughed at in front of a class, we get, I don't know, a lunch tray thrown at us, whatever it may be. That was instigated by our higher self to learn a lesson. Most of the time, at least I didn't have those tools that I have now and that I'm still acquiring right now as a five-year-old. So I didn't have any tools. I didn't know that it was happening for a reason, I just thought they were mean, whatever. So, soul imbalances. We always get the same feelings again. Maybe you've realized this by now, and if you did, kudos to you. That is a really impressive thing to realize about your life. That you always have the same feelings. Maybe the feeling is feeling not special, maybe it is not good enough, maybe it is not being chosen, maybe it is you don't feel um like you can achieve things on your own merit. Whatever it may be, those cycles get created again and again and again. Because there was the first drop into the pond that was the experience that started it all for us. It was instigated by our higher self to get a lesson, so our higher self was trying to help us, and I know a lot of times we are like, why would it even do that? That's not helping me, it was just shitty. But it is helping us because we have the first droplet in the water, and if we catch it there, it doesn't have to go further. Okay, that would be ideal. But who who is this kind of master? I'm not that kind of master, I'm still working on it. But if you are, congratulations, please teach me your ways. So we have the first thing that happened to us. It might be a big thing, it might be a small thing, but don't forget, no trauma is big or small. We only think to ourselves, oh, it's so big, it's so small, because it is both coin, uh both sides of a coin. Every trauma is the level 10 that you experience, and it is your level 10. It might happen to another person and they might have it as a level 5, but you have their trauma and it might be a level 5 for you, okay? So don't compare traumas and what happened to you to other people because this was your level 10. Your higher self knew what would get you to a level 10, so you would have this big emotion, and so it would be able to teach you the quickest. Okay, but don't think if your trauma is perceivably small, like you would say, Yo, it's small, it isn't small, it is your level 10. It is don't compare it to anything else, then you are in the victim mentality. Oh, if it's so small, why haven't I overcome it? It's such a teeny tiny thing, I have to overcome it because other people have it worse. Okay, victim mentality version number one, victim mentality version number two, is you have a big trauma, you believe it is a big trauma. Again, nothing is big or small, it is always a level 10 if it's the big, big trauma of your life. Okay, we can also have smaller ones, but for the sake of this explanation, it's also a level 10. And if you perceive it as like a big trauma, and please believe me, I've my empathy goes out to everyone, but we are here to take radical responsibility of our life and take the power back, and we can only do it by taking the power back even from such big situ perceivably big situations. So, because if you think, oh, it's such a big trauma, you're gonna be in the victim mentality of I can't heal it because it's so big, other people have it so much easier. Woe is me, I'm such a pitiful person, and this big trauma happened to me, I can't overcome it because it's so big. Okay, so in both scenarios, you have like an excuse why you can't heal it. Because it's so small, I shouldn't be a problem, because it's so big, it's too big of a problem, others have it easier. And I don't want you to have those because you have to overcome the problem itself already. Why make it harder for yourself? Being like, woe is me, in both directions. Okay, I don't want you to make it harder on yourself. So let us try to drop that. And by dropping it is realizing that everyone has their own level 10. Your higher self created your specific level 10 trauma. And if you don't heal the first droplet in the water, then it's gonna make ripples, like when you drop a drop of water in a pound, then it starts to make ripples. And we didn't heal the drop, we didn't heal the first ripple where we felt that way again and again and again and again and again. That's how the law of soul balance works. Okay, so what we want the next time we have those ripples, the next time we are triggered, and we're like, oh, this might come from this situation. We are gonna be like, this is not the situation that is happening right now that is triggering me. It comes from way back when I was a little girl and a little boy, and this and this happened to me. So we want to distance ourselves from the situation that is happening right now by seeing the bigger picture of how it was created years ago. This was years in the making, and that's itself is really impressive. Like kudos to your creative field, it's really strong, it's really powerful. It's just not creating what you want to create. We because we want to create cool things for ourselves, and a lot of times, if we don't control it right, if we haven't healed the things from the past, if we are still running the same programs, it is creating things that we actually don't really want to have. But that is something that I want you to keep in mind the next time you get triggered. Maybe I know it's gonna be hard in the moment of getting triggered because your emotions are so high, so our intuition is out the window, our mastery is most of the time out of the window. But maybe after you've calmed down a little, try to go, okay, where have I experienced this before? And follow the vein of where it was the first time. You don't even need to use your if you have intuition, great, use it. It's gonna help a lot. But if you haven't developed your intuition yet and everyone has it, it's just a skill that you have to learn, then try to follow it and see where it started and try to heal it on your own a little bit, because a lot of times, um, if you just look at something and it looks scary, then you're like, Oh, it's so scary, I don't want to even look at it. But if you follow it a little bit, then you're gonna be like, Oh, it wasn't as scary as I thought it would be. Just like um when you see shadows on the wall, and there's there's this image that I have right now. I'm sure this is something that a lot of people know. There's this image on that there's some stick figures and there's a fire, and they make a big shadow, and it's super scary. Probably have that from some of the cartoons I've been watching, most likely, like something some kids' cartoon I've been I've watched, and there was a scene like that. So, um big fire, stick figures, and on the wall behind it, the stick figures make huge creatures. And if you look at it from afar, you're like, oh, those are huge creatures, that's so scary. But if you come closer, closer, closer, you're gonna see the truth of it all, and most of the time the truth of it all is relatively not as big and scary as the big pictures that you saw in the beginning. So, and I'm not gonna leave you hanging here. Next time you get triggered, try to breathe in and out for like five times. It's gonna be so hard. It's gonna be so hard because then when you get triggered, when your emotions are dead high, you just wanna punch somebody. At least I do. You want to punch, you want to scream, you wanna run away, you wanna do something. And I'm challenging you to just breathe for a second. Because then if you breathe for five times, just in and out, try to go as deep and as slow as you can. If you know box breathing, I would try that. It's like uh in for four, hold for four, out for four, info four, so in hold, out, hold, in, hold, out, hold. Yeah, that's the way. And you can do it for four four four, four, six, two, whatever, whatever you want. Just try to also count in your head that would also help really much, really much a lot. And it's gonna be super hard because what we want to do is what we've been trained to do our fight or flight is fight or flight. Yeah, we want to run, we want to scream, we want to punch, whatever. But if we give our brain, our nervous system a chance to calm down a little, our brain is gonna be back at way higher percentages than if we are super triggered, and then we can come up with even better responses, and they're gonna be like, wow, I didn't see that coming. And we're gonna have a better chance of making the situation that we're in right now better again. So I hope you try it out. I challenge you, and I know you can do it. I hope you enjoyed today's episode, and if there's anything more I can do for you, reach out to me. Everything you need is in the description box, and I hope you have an amazing rest of your day.