Why being liked has a downside

Why being liked is equally good and bad 

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Hello, hello, hello, and welcome back to Wild Already, where we are on the path to discovering our wildest self, and I'm here to help you discover your highest potential. I hope you enjoy today's episode. You cannot be everybody's darling, and I know a lot of people want that. A lot of people want to be liked by everyone, want to be everybody's favorite, but it is scientifically, physically impossible, and let me tell you why. Okay? So if you want to be everybody's darling, if you want 100% of the world to love you, why is that not possible? Because of the law of balance. Everything has to be equal parts both. So if everyone were to love you, it wouldn't be in balance. The most you could ever get, and that's like the highest, highest form you could get of people to love you, is half of the world love you. But here's the kicker: it's not that the other half doesn't know you exist, it's that the other half would have to not like you. Okay? I'm not talking about the biggest form of hate, but like not love you, okay. So do you even want that? And I want you to understand that that if you get your want for something down, it's way more likely that you will get it. Because if you want something so desperately, then you're like squeezing a hose and the water can come out. And if you're like more chill about it, the water could come and flow out. But do you even want that? Because you have to remember if half of the world likes you, half of the world doesn't like you. It doesn't mean that uh you would notice the other half not liking you, but um if you were to get a reflection, then you would most likely get some hate in some form because of a reflection, not because um you have to see that the others aren't liking you. But we are all human and we all get reflections, so most likely you will somehow notice that the other half wouldn't like you. But that's the most you can get, and that's such a fascinating thing for me. And if you understand it and truly understand that you can apply it to everything, to a room full of people, if you want this whole room to fucking love you, then you're gonna be like, okay, but what if this room half of the people love me and half of them don't love me? And it would just put the want for everyone loving you down because I don't want anyone to hate me, but but and it's a big butt, um I would rather have people who totally love me than a whole room who are indifferent to me. Okay? So the people loving you and the people hating you, it's just something that comes together, okay? And if you're not a match to know about it, um by not having reflections about it, you don't even realize uh a lot of time that the half of the other people are not loving you. But it is impossible for a hundred percent of people in this world to love you, and it just takes it so much further down, this people-pleasing thing, because you can't make it right for everyone. Even if you give all your money away, some people will have a problem with that, even if you volunteer all your work, some people will have a problem with that. Because how many people do you know they're like, yeah, but she volunteers and she's just doing it to look good? Yeah, great. Now you did all this work and some people still don't like you. It's just I'm not saying it's out of your hand, yeah. If you want one specific person, I would never recommend that you try your best to appeal to one specific person, but you could do it. But what you want to do is be your authentic self, try to be your best authentic self, and the people who will resonate with that will show up more naturally, okay? So you don't want to try to make it right for everybody, you want to try to make it right for you and for the people you care about. I'm not saying never do anything out of your own, never help anybody. That's not the right way to do it. But I am saying that you should realize you can't make it right for everyone at at all. Okay, it's just not possible because the most you can get is the half of the world loving you and half of the world not loving you. And I mean that's like huge. Just imagine like we are like around 8 billion people, 4 billion people like loving you, like raving about you. That's crazy. That's amazing. Just imagine if you tell eight if eight billion people something and 4 million 4 billion say no and 4 billion say yes, and let's say you say something like be kinder to yourself and 4 billion people would listen to you. That's amazing. That's such a huge change, okay? But you have to accept that the other 4,000 wouldn't. But the funny thing is, you can um implement it for the whole world because on in these 4 billion, there might be people that the other 4 billion that don't like you resonate with, and so you can change the whole world with this principle. It it even works on a smaller, smaller scale because I'm let's say I'm talking to you right now, and you're gonna be taking this information and implementing it in your life, and that helps the people in your life, and those people help the people in their life, and it's just such a huge scale that can be kicked off even if it's just one person who listens to you, okay, or one person you can help, or one person you can make their day better, and that's totally in your power. It's totally in your power to go out today and be kind or not be kind. And the funny thing is, the people you're kind to, they were a match to. They created that. Because if they weren't a match to it, if you thought someone else's outfit is so cool, but you never say anything and you just walk by and think it to yourself, they weren't a match to receive that message from you. But if you go out of your way and tell that to someone, then they were a match to that. This person still needed to get their ass up and do it and do the kind thing for others, but the person receiving it still had to be a match for it. And you can apply that to your own life. If you go out and don't get any compliments, then you might be too hard on yourself, so you're not a match to receiving a compliment. Okay? But I don't want you to be stressing about everybody liking you, you should be liked by everyone because you physically can't be liked by everyone on this world. Okay? And if it feels like you're liked by a lot of people, amazing, great. And less reflection is there for you. But if it feels like nobody likes you, then that's also a reflection because if you feel nobody likes you, that's also bullshit because equal parts of people who don't like you also like you a lot. Like I have a story. Um recently, I kind of made uh accidentally not really great friends with someone that lives in my neighborhood. Okay, so this person doesn't like me anymore, okay? Because um she thought I was um rude by not apologizing about something that she thought I did wrong. Uh actually I did apologize, but that's besides the point. Maybe she didn't hear me. Then I apologized again, and now she doesn't like me. Okay, understandable. Some people you just don't like, you don't get along with, it's fine, we have different principles. But I was afterwards stressing about this person not liking me because they are new to the neighborhood, and I'm like, oh god, they don't like me. Um I don't want to be not liked by someone, especially someone who's like around me. I don't I don't spend any time with these people, but they're like around me. I don't want to be not liked by people. And then I remembered, yeah, but if she really really hates me, like there's a new person that's gonna really really like me. Amazing, and I would rather, I would way, way rather. She's the neighbor, it's a woman, I can tell you that. It's not like you know where I live. Um she doesn't like me, and personally I'm not like the biggest fan of her either, because why would I be? I don't know her. But if she doesn't like me, per preferably with a passion, someone else has gotta come into my life that loves me with a passion. Amazing, or I'm gonna realize someone already in my life loves me with a passion, and we could get along way, way better. So it works this way around too. If you make and I'm not saying go out there and make an enemy, I don't I don't condone that. But if you have someone that's like not the nicest person to you and you just don't get along, there are people like that. You can be like, okay, great, but that means there's someone out there that I have at least the equal part that don't get along with that person that I'm gonna get along with, okay? So that's like the silver lining of all of that. Um, if you have someone you don't like and that doesn't like you, there are equal parts of people who are going to like you. So it's once again a thing of perspective because you could either be like in the beginning of my little story where it was like, oh no, I don't want people to not like me. Woo is me, woe is me. And now you could be like, okay, great, I can get even more people who are like gonna like me thanks to her because she doesn't like me. Amazing. I hope you enjoyed today's episode. And if there's anything more I can do for you, reach out to me. Everything you need is in the description box, and I hope you have an amazing rest of your day.