#14 That's Not Refinement, It's Interrupting

You think you’re refining.

But what if you’re actually interrupting?

In this episode, I’m breaking down a pattern I see everywhere especially in women who are deeply committed, highly self-aware, and still wondering why things aren’t landing.

You start something.
It gets uncomfortable.
You question it.
You change it.

The strategy.
The plan.
The approach.

And you call that refinement.

But often?

It’s interruption.

And interruption keeps you starting over before momentum has a chance to build.

We look at how this shows up not just in business, but in the way you approach food, fitness, habits, decisions and why constantly overhauling things leaves you with no data, no trust, and no real calibration.

Because changing the logo on the dumbbell doesn’t change the weight.

And changing strategies doesn’t change the pattern running them.

If you’ve been mistaking discomfort for “this isn’t working,” this episode will show you another way to see it.

And once you it you can finally do something different with it 

🎧 Listen in.

Mentions in show Calibration Session & The Calibration Room 

Transcript

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You've started something recently and it felt uncomfortable. So you changed it. Maybe you overhauled your whole offer. Maybe you scrapped a launch. Maybe you just quietly stopped showing up and you told yourself that what you were doing wasn't working. So it's okay. But here's what I want you to consider. What if it was working, but you just didn't stay long enough to find out? Here's what I have noticed: this pattern. The one where you start something, feel uncomfortable, and overhaul everything before it has a chance to even work. It doesn't just live in your business, it literally shows up everywhere. I'm sure you've heard the saying before: how you show up in one area of your life is how you show up in all areas. So let's unpack this. You start a meal plan on Monday, you're committed, you're organized, you've prepared your containers, everything is ready to go. And by Wednesday, you're already tweaking. You're swapping meals, you're second-guessing portions, you're adding things in, you're removing things, maybe you're downloading a new app to make sure that the macros are right, or trying to figure out what else you can tweak and refine so that you're getting the best results. You haven't even given your body a chance to respond yet. And you're already trying to optimize something. You're already rewriting your meal plan. Or you go to the gym, you find a new workout. Fuck yes, you are excited, you are showing up. Maybe you go buy a new workout outfit, like you are just feeling it. And two weeks in, it gets a little bit repetitive, and you're thinking, maybe this isn't the right program for me. Maybe I should try yoga instead, or maybe I should run a half marathon, or maybe I just need a whole new program to keep things interesting. And so you go and you find something different. You start a new program. And then you start a new one because you're chasing that newness. It's like if you go to the gym and you pick up five-pound dumbbells and you're doing a few reps with them, and you're like, you know what? I don't think there's something wrong with these dumbbells. So you put the dumbbells down and you walk across the gym and you see a set of five-pound dumbbells, and you're like, oh, that's them. There's a different logo on them. They're prettier. Maybe they're like the rubbery ones instead of like the metal ones, and you're like, oh, those are the dumbbells that I have been looking for. So you pick them up, the same basically five-pound dumbbells with a different logo, and you're expecting different results from the same weight. They just have a different sticker. And then you wonder why you're not really progressing in your workouts. You do the exact same thing in your business with your strategy. You look for the new program, the new coach, the new offer, the new message, the new energy. It's all the same pattern underneath it all that you're running. Just showing up with a different logo. That's not refinement. That's you interrupting yourself. And you cannot collect data from something you keep interrupting. Discomfort is data, not a stop sign. Refinement looks like small adjustments based on actual information that you have collected. Interruption looks like you burn it all down because it feels hard. You haven't collected any information, but you just think that it's not going to work. Or you think you need to tweak something. These are not the same thing. And you need to be able to differentiate them. I want you to just pause for a moment, take a deep breath in, let it out, and honestly answer this question. Where are you interrupting yourself and calling it refinement right now? In life, in business, in relationships, with your workouts, with your meal plan, whatever it might be, however it's showing up for you. Answer that question honestly. If this landed for you and you can feel this pattern, but you can't quite see where it starts, what the root of this pattern is, that's exactly what a calibration session is for. It's one session, one pattern, one shift. The link to book is in the show notes. So go ahead, answer that question, and be sure to join my Facebook community, the calibration room, where we are going to be diving even deeper into this conversation in a few weeks. So I will put the link to join the Facebook community down in the show notes as well, and I'll see you inside the calibration room.