Stress Smarts with Colonel Deb
Mentally Tough Women aren’t born—they’re built. Together, let's Rise Stronger, Shine Bright, and Lead with Heart— in the moments that matter most!
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Welcome to Stress Smarts with Colonel Deb, where mental toughness meets heart. Each week we’ll explore powerful tools, fresh perspectives, and quick resets to help you rise stronger, shine brighter, and lead with heart—especially in the moments that matter most.
These episodes are adapted from my live Facebook series, Let’s Talk About…, where I share real tools for bouncing back stronger. You can also find the video versions on my Stress Intelligence YouTube channel (YouTube.com/@StressIntelligence).
As a West Point graduate, combat commander, and founder of Mentally Tough Women, I’ve spent decades leading through the toughest situations life can throw at us. But what makes this podcast different isn’t just my experience—it’s the depth, care, and realness that others have felt from me for years. Soldiers I once led still tell me they remember my tears of relief after welcoming them back from a mission where their safety was at risk, and the way I never asked them to do what I wouldn’t do myself.
That’s why people tune in. Because here, you won’t just get strategies—you’ll get them from someone who’s lived them, led with heart under fire, and knows how to help you turn stress into your strongest ally.
Stress Smarts with Colonel Deb
Let’s Talk About BACKBITERS – How to Stay C.A.L.M. When People Talk Behind Your Back
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Have you ever been caught off guard by someone talking behind your back? It’s one of those moments that can steal your energy—if you let it.
In this episode of Stress Smarts with Colonel Deb, we talk about backbiters: the people who judge, criticize, or tear others down from the shadows. From grade school to the military, nonprofits to personal relationships, I’ve seen how painful and distracting backbiting can be. And here’s the truth: healthy, grounded people don’t backbite. It’s never really about you—it’s about their insecurity.
But what you do next? That’s where your power lives.
In this episode, I’ll teach you my C.A.L.M. method—a simple, heart-centered framework to help you protect your peace, your energy, and your purpose:
💡 Key Takeaways
- C – Create Space
Pause. Breathe. Stop reacting from survival mode. - A – Align With Your Values
Act from your integrity, not their insecurity. - L – Let It Bounce Off You
Their harsh words belong to them—not to your heart. - M – Move Forward With Grace and Your Best
You don’t need to convince anyone of your worth. The people who matter already see it.
Backbiters will always exist. But your power isn’t in fighting them—it’s in staying calm, grounded, and aligned with your best self.
These episodes are adapted from my live Facebook series, Let’s Talk About…, where I share real tools for rising stronger. You can also watch the video versions on my Stress Intelligence YouTube channel (YouTube.com/@StressIntelligence).
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