The Caring Death Doula
In a world that rushes past death and ignores grief, The Caring Death Doula stops to listen with tenderness, truth, and time. Whether you are grieving right now or here to learn how to help those grieving, join your host, Frances, a certified grief educator on the journey of finding connection, conversations, and comfort. Let's make grief and death a natural part of our conversations.
The Caring Death Doula
Gently Holding Space for Grief
Some days, the most honest thing you can do is be gentle with yourself, cry, rest, and then take another step.
We dedicate this episode to anyone living with grief—loss of a person, a pet, a home, a dream—and offer something rare in a quick-fix world: a gentle pause with no new demands.
We focus on permission, not pressure. Permission to feel what you feel, to rest without apology, to step outside for a minute of sun or crack a window when grief hits hard.
Your grief is not a problem to solve; it’s love that is learning a new shape.
We talk about navigating the clumsy comments of people who haven’t met loss yet and how to keep your energy by letting unhelpful words pass through. Grace doesn’t mean silencing yourself—it means you protect your heart while recognizing good intentions. We center practical comforts that actually help: journaling a few lines, warm tea or rich hot chocolate to steady you, pausing to breathe, face to the sun or the stars for a brief moment of calm.
If public tears arrive, you’re not failing; you’re telling the truth. If bed calls, allow it. Rest is care, not laziness.
There’s no timeline here, no rules, no badge for “moving on.” You know yourself best. Your body will tell you when to pause, your heart will speak of rest, and nature offers small, steady anchors when words fall short.
We’re here to hold space, remind you that you’re not alone, and honor the love beneath the ache.
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Thank you for joining me today. It really matters to me that you are here, that you have chosen to listen to this podcast. Your life matters. You are very precious. Whether you are grieving right now yourself or you're wanting to learn more how to be supportive of those who are grieving. Grief and death loss is such a heavy topic. It is so sacred that I just wanted to just pause today and not introduce anything new, not lay on any more information, but just to let you know that if you're grieving, I'm holding space for you. I see you, you are not alone. And it's okay to cry. Your grief comes from your love of the person or the situation, the relationship. And it's okay to cry. It's okay to pause, to reflect, to journal, and it's okay to rest as much as you need to. Don't let anyone tell you that you're grieving too much, too long, too hard. Don't let anyone tell you what your grief journey should look like. And just believe that people care about you. Believe that they are trying to be thoughtful or understanding. But let their words go. Because sometimes their words aren't helpful, are they? And they don't get that. And it's okay. Some people have not been hit by anything yet. They haven't had a loss, they haven't had a death, they haven't gone through any loss of a pet, a miscarriage. They don't understand. Maybe they haven't had their house be consumed by a fire or another kind of national, natural disaster. And so they don't, they don't understand. They really don't understand how grief can hang on. I'm not saying you need to be strong for them, but just give them a little grace. Just extend them a little, a little kindness, and just not let what they say bother you. You know yourself. You know what you need. Listen to your heart. Listen to your body. And rest when you need to. Cry when you need to, even if that means that you've gone into a store and something brings the grief down hard. Maybe a song over the intercom. Or it could be anything. And you need to go back in your car and you need to cry for a couple minutes. Then collect yourself and go back in and get your shopping done. That's okay. Just like it's okay to need to rest. It's okay not to get out of bed one day and just rest and take care of you. Watch maybe a movie. Go get some water, get your favorite drink, some kind of hot tea. Maybe a rich hot chocolate that'll just be so soothing. Perhaps your body's telling you just to step out and take a break outside. Lift your sun to the sky. Your sun, excuse me, your face to the sun, getting that warmth, lifting your face to the sky, even if it's cloudy, or even if it's full of stars. Just take a moment and soak in nature. Soak in the beauty, the peace, the joy of that moment. Maybe that's too much to step outside, then just crack your window open. It is okay to rest. It is okay to do this journey the way you need to do this journey. There are no rules, no timeline, no right or wrong way to grieve. This is your journey, and you're doing it the right way. This is the Caring Death Dula, and I am here for you.