The Caring Death Doula
In a world that rushes past death and ignores grief, The Caring Death Doula stops to listen with tenderness, truth, and time. Whether you are grieving right now or here to learn how to help those grieving, join your host, Frances, a certified grief educator on the journey of finding connection, conversations, and comfort. Let's make grief and death a natural part of our conversations.
The Caring Death Doula
Take care of yourself when grieving
In this episode, we are talking to those of you grieving right now. You are encouraged to grieve without rules and to care for yourself on the hardest days. We remind you that your timeline is valid, your needs matter, and seeking support is a sign of wisdom, not weakness.
• grief has no rules or timelines
• permission to not be okay and rest
• one small act of care as an anchor
• low-pressure support options and outreach
• handling responsibilities on hard days
• ignoring outside judgments about your pace
• therapy, counseling, or a grief coach without shame
• affirmation that you matter and are not alone
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Thank you for joining me today. And if you're grieving, I want you to know that it's okay to not be okay. It is okay to stay in bed, to stay in the house if you need to today. Just take care of yourself. Listen to yourself. There are no rules in grief. There's no right way or wrong way. Your grief is your grief. It's your grief journey, and nobody can tell you how to do it. For how long? In what manner? In what style. No one. You make the decisions. All I ask is that you take care of yourself. Don't drown yourself in whatever form you could, because there's numerous ones. Just understand how valuable you are, how precious. And even if you're grieving, even when you're grieving, you still matter. And it's so important that even if you don't feel like doing anything, that you just do one thing. Whether it's to step outside for a minute or crack that window, or attend an online grief group with the video off. It's reaching out to somebody and just saying, I'm having a hard day. It's making that hot drink, hot tea, hot cocoa, even hot water with lemon and other good things in it. Take time for yourself. Run that bubble bath. Get a massage if you are able to leave the house today. If today's a hard day for you, please know that you are not alone. I'm holding space for you. You matter, you're important, you're precious, you are cared for. You really are. I know it's hard, but just do one thing for yourself today. Just one thing. And if you do have responsibilities, children, or a job that you have to get to, or you'll be fired. If you have to leave your house and you just don't want to, know that it's okay to not feel strong enough. It's okay to be tired. It's okay to pull over and cry. It's okay to do this your way. And if you're fine, and somebody looks at you and wonders, it's only been two weeks and you're fine, that's okay too. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or even says to you. Just know in the depth of your heart that you are okay. Just as you are, doing what you can do each day. And it's okay to not be okay. It's okay to be struggling. It's okay to need help. And don't be ashamed or guilt yourself if you do need to reach out to a counselor, a therapist, or find a grief coach. There is nothing wrong with that. This is the Caring Death Doula, and I am here for you.