The Caring Death Doula
In a world that rushes past death and ignores grief, The Caring Death Doula stops to listen with tenderness, truth, and time. Whether you are grieving right now or here to learn how to help those grieving, join your host, Frances, a certified grief educator on the journey of finding connection, conversations, and comfort. Let's make grief and death a natural part of our conversations.
The Caring Death Doula
Grief can’t be scheduled or planned
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In this episode I ask whether grief feels heavier during the week or on the weekend, then unpack why sorrow refuses schedules. A planned Monday–Thursday structure gives way to presence, flexibility, and care after life delivers unexpected news.
• why rigid episode themes can miss real needs
• the myth of timelines and stages in grief
• support for the newly grieving and long-term grievers
• guidance for friends and caregivers who want to help
• a commitment to meet listeners where they are
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Hello. Thank you for joining me today. This is Francis the Caring Death Doula. And I'm coming to you today with a thought. Something I want us to discuss. Is grief harder? And I wonder if it would vary between person and person, but is grief harder during the week or on the weekend? Is it easier when you're busy with work or school taking care of people? And then on the weekend when maybe you're not working or things are a little bit lighter in the home of caring for people. Is there a time in our weeks? In each week, is there a time that's easier? Maybe it's is it harder when you come home to that empty house? I mean, I guess it would depend on who you're grieving. Who are you learning to continue to live a life without that person in your life? Whether it's someone that you talk to on the phone every night, every week, or whether it's someone in your home that you would see every night. Grief is so complicated, isn't it? And the reason I'm I'm pondering all this is because I release two episodes a week. And I kind of wanted to get a rhythm to it. Like, is Monday the day to release the message from my heart? Where I let you know that I see you, that I'm holding space for you, and we talk about how there's no rules and grief, no timeline, no right way, no wrong way. And then on the episodes that are released on Thursday, I could start having guests in talking about how do you declutter, go through your loved ones' possessions or their home. I could make Thursday be more instructional, a supportive in an educational, instructive, practical way. And Monday is the more from the heart, connecting, knowing that you are seen, that you're not alone. And so as I was trying to plan this out, I was like, would that be depressing to have the emotional one on Monday when you're going back into the flow of your of your week? Because the majority of us, our weeks, you know, are Monday through Friday and we have the weekend. And I know there are many people that lived on off shifts. And maybe their their day days off or their weekend is Tuesday, Wednesday. And some of you work second or third shift. So perhaps I'm overthinking here. Perhaps there is no way to have a pattern or to find it to fit perfectly for all of us. Just like in our grief, somebody can be grieving a two-year-old grief, grief that's two years old. And it's almost the same as someone who is at six months or five years. And then other people, you're at two years, and you're going through the same thing as someone who is ten years. But yet you're different than the one that was six months. Since there are no rules and no patterns and no linear way to travel through with our grief, I'm not sure if anything matters. And I think that's the beauty of my podcast, is that I'm just on here. I'm on here for you. Wherever you're at, whether you are grieving, newly, fresh, in that numb season of is this real? Or whether you've gotten beyond that and you're at two years, five years, ten years? Or maybe you're here to support somebody, to learn how to be there, how to change your community, your society, to be a help, a support. So my podcast is going to cover all of this. And I don't know if I can have any kind of rhyme, pattern, rhythm, flow, set, rigid, boxed-in schedule. That this happens on the Monday episodes, and this happens on the Thursday episodes. Because I had a plan for January, or I was gonna brainstorm a plan for January. And then I woke up this morning, and someone who is has a special place in my heart. I'm not close to this person, I don't see this person on a weekly basis. We did for a time, but then the years moved on and things changed as life does. But this person has always had a special spot in my heart and always will. And that just changes everything. That changes my attempt to have a schedule or to have rigid topics. Because that's not the world of grief. That is absolutely not the world of grief. So my podcast may be different. It may feel scattered, it may feel just like there's nothing holding it together except that I'm here for you. I am here to encourage and support you in learning how to support those around you. And I am here for you if you are grieving. Whether your grief is two weeks old, two years old, or twenty years old. I am the caring death doula, and I am here for you.