When Grief Hits I’m Here

In this episode, I talk honestly about the days when I’m grieving in more than one way, when words are nonexistent, and when grief whispers, “stay in bed”. 

If you’re coping with loss right now, I want you to feel seen and supported. 

A simple moment, like sorting a pile in a room and finding a photo of my dad, can open the floodgates. I reflect on how complicated relationships still carry love, how it hurts to accept you won’t see someone again on this earth, and how grief includes the future that won’t happen, like time with grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Mourning doesn’t require a perfect story to be real. It just requires honesty.

We also get practical about grief support. I share why holding space matters, why presence can be more comforting than anything else we can do, and how grief comes in waves with sudden triggers from words, memories, and everyday reminders. 

As  the Caring Death Doula, I believe no one should have to walk the grief path completely alone, even though part of it is deeply personal.

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And when you need to, when you are ready, reach out to me. I am here for you. I am holding space for grief- yours and mine. 

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Transcript

A Photo Of Dad And Tears

SPEAKER_01 0:41

Thank you for joining me today. I really appreciate you taking this time and listening in. It was really hard for me to do this episode, and it's not because I was so busy and I couldn't make the time. It's because I just don't know what to say. I'm grieving in a couple different ways, different things, different loved ones, different situations. And I just honestly don't feel like doing anything. I'm really having a hard time. As much as I want to focus, I want to put out episodes so that you can know that you're seen, that I'm holding space for you. But man, sometimes in grief, don't you just don't you just want to stay in bed? I mean, I it doesn't matter to me what kind of grief you're you're dealing with right now. It doesn't matter if it's old, if it's recent. It's all hard. It's all hard. And as we've talked about before, life just keeps going. People are unaware of what you're going through. I was sorting a pile that had been sitting in my room for a while. So it needed to be sorted and decided on and put away. And as I was doing it, I came across a picture of my dad, which brought tears. And it doesn't even matter that my dad and I weren't as close as maybe other people are with their daughters or with their dads. It doesn't matter how close we were. He was still a human being. He was still a part of my life. He loved me in his way, and I loved him. And I miss him. It's hard. I'm never going to see him again on this earth. I'm grieving that he's not in my life anymore. Not ever. He won't ever do anything with his grandchildren or great grandchildren. There's there's nothing. And that really hurts. And like I said, I'm I'm grieving a few different things.

Holding Space Without Words

SPEAKER_00 3:45

And it's just hard. It's just hard. I'm holding space for you.

SPEAKER_01 3:55

I see you if you are grieving today.

SPEAKER_00 4:01

And I want you to know that sometimes we don't have the words. But it's the presence that matters.

Why Presence Matters Most

Pride In Showing Up Anyway

SPEAKER_01 4:19

Knowing that there are grieving people out in the world, listening to podcasts, needing to feel seen and understood, needing someone to hold space for them. That's what brings me to this. Presence is so important. So if you know someone who's grieving, or even if you don't know, in all our relationships, be there for people, be present, be in the moment. And if you got up this morning and you did what needed to be done, and if you went where you needed to go, I'm proud of you. I see you. And I'm holding space for you. Because I know that when those days come and you your grief is saying, stay in bed. Stay in bed. And you get up and you go where you have to go and you do what you have to do.

SPEAKER_00 5:37

I get that.

Share Help And Reach Out

You Don’t Have To Do This Alone

SPEAKER_01 5:44

So don't let anyone tell you that you shouldn't be grieving who you are grieving, or as long as you're grieving, because grief comes in waves. We've talked about this before that it comes and it goes. Some days are easier than others, and some days are really hard. Some days somebody activates you, triggers you by something they say, they do, they share with you. And it reminds you of your loved one. It reminds you of your lost dreams. Or maybe they've shared something with you, and this podcast comes to mind. You're like, oh, there was an episode. Please do take the time to find the episode and share it with them. And I want you to know that I'm here for you. In the episode notes, there are places that you can reach out to me to send me an email, send me a message. And I encourage you to do that. Reach out, follow me on Facebook, message me on Facebook. When you're ready, when you need someone to talk to, when you need to talk with me and find out if what I offer would be compatible with what you're needing. Because there is no reason for any of us to walk this grief path alone. Not completely alone. Moments alone, yes. Because no one can carry the grief, because no one carries the love or the desire, the dream, the memories, the love that we carry. So, yes, there's a part of grief that we do have to carry alone. But there is a part of grief that we don't need to. I am the caring death, doula, and I am here for you.