The Caring Death Doula
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The Caring Death Doula
Holding Space For Mother’s Day Grief
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Mother’s Day lands differently when your mom is gone or when motherhood has been shaped by loss.
This episode follows Morher’s Day weekend here in the U.S. and I wanted to honor the place a mother has in our lives. And, to let the women often overlooked by society who long to be mothers know they are seen.
We talk about grief as evidence of love, why it helps to speak plainly about death, and how we can support each other without comparison.
• Mother’s Day grief and the ache of absence
• Grief as tangible evidence of love we carry
• Getting more comfortable talking about death and living present
• Holding space for infertility, miscarriage, and stillbirth
• Validating motherhood after pregnancy loss
• Rejecting the urge to rank grief and loss
If you need to feel seen this week after making it through the weekend of missing your mother, this episode is for you. If you know others missing their mom or women who long to be a mom and hold their babies, then please pass this episode on.
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Why We Must Talk About Death
Holding Space For Pregnancy Loss
Why Grief Should Never Be Ranked
A Closing Message Of Care
SPEAKER_00Thank you for joining me today. Here in the United States, this weekend, this Sunday is Mother's Day. And I know for many of you, it's going to be a hard day. It's going to be a hard weekend. And I want you to know that I'm holding space for you. Whether your mother has been gone a year or two, or even 10 or 15, it doesn't matter. Grief never gets, I don't know, what word do we use? Easier? There's no way to rank. You know, I've recently heard that, you know, losing your mother is one of the hardest things to go through, the death of your mother and missing your mother and not having her around, because she's such a unique, which is true. She is such a unique influence and presence in your life. But sometimes she's only there for two months, or maybe five years, or maybe 40. We just never know. We just never know. And I think that's why we need to get comfortable talking about grief and death. Because grief is something we carry with us. We carry the love. You know, grief is the tangible evidence of love. It's something that we just carry, the love, the grief. We carry through life. And death is something that none of us can escape. And if we can get comfortable talking about it, then I think we would really understand and grasp and apply to our lives that we're all going to die. We are all going to die. We don't know how many tomorrows that we have, and we we really need to live in the moment, be present, and just make this life what we want it to be. And so I want you to know that if you're in the United States and you're heading into the weekend with Mother's Day and you're going to be struggling, I'm holding space for you. And if you're a mother, if you're a woman who longs to be a mother and it's not been the right timing, and maybe you've even gone through the experience of miscarriages and stillborns and difficulties, I want you to know that I'm holding space for you as well. That's heartbreaking. You know, a stillborn or a miscarriage. Whether you tell people or not, you're a mother. But it's not something that our society honors or acknowledges that you are a mother, whether you got to hold that little one or not. But I'm holding space for you. I'm here for you. I hope that this episode or any of my other episodes can be a soothing balm to your heart to know that you're not alone, that you're not grieving wrong. You know, like I said, they they say that losing your mother is one of the worst deaths to go through. And I think that's a complex topic to cover because I also believe that we can't put a number, we can't rank our deaths. We can't say losing a parent is harder than losing a child, or losing a spouse is the worst one, or holding a child and losing a child versus a miscarriage. I mean, we just can't, we can't put that on any death. We can't label and rank any grief. That would be like ranking love. We can't do those things. That it is this weekend, you truly are on my heart. You're in my thoughts, and I'm holding space for you. And I hope you can feel that. I hope that even though this is audio, that you can feel my presence and know that I truly am holding space for you. I care. I am the caring Death Jula, and I am here for you.