Your Grief Is Beautiful

When grief gets judged, that pressure can make you feel even more alone. 

In this episode, I’m here to say the quiet part out loud: you matter, and you don’t have to prove your pain to anyone. 

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re grieving “wrong” because you didn’t cry at the funeral, or because you’re crying at random moments weeks, months, or even years later, this one is for you.

We talk about grief as a reflection of love, not a flaw to fix. 

Whether you’re facing bereavement after a death, mourning a pet, processing a breakup, or grieving a job, a dream, or a former version of yourself or your life, the core truth stays the same: your relationship or situation was yours, and your grief is yours. 

I walk through why comparison is so harmful, why emotional swings are normal, and how shame can pull you deeper into pain and loneliness.

You matter. Your grief and your love and passion for your loved one or situation is real. It matters. You matter.

You’ll leave with a gentler way to look at the grieving process, clearer boundaries for anyone trying to rush you, and permission to listen to what your body and heart are asking for right now. 

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I’m holding space for you,

Frances, The Caring Death Doula

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Hello, and thank you for joining me today. It really does matter. I really do appreciate every listener that I have on this podcast. Today, in this episode, I want to talk about how special you are, how important, how beautiful, and how loved you are. You are important in this world, in your place. You do matter. You do have value. And it all comes around to the way you're grieving.

Welcome And Why You Matter

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You don't have to compare yourself to anyone else, to anything you've heard or read or been told about grief

You Are Loved And Valuable

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and grieving, about loving. You know, whether you're grieving a person or a life or your job or your pet, it doesn't matter what you're grieving, what you're loving. Your grief is a reflection of the love that you had for a person, for a pet, for a dream, for a life, for a job. It was your love, it was your passion, it was your life. And now it's gone. And you are so beautiful. And the love that you carried, the passion

Grief Shows The Love You Had

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you carried, the drive that you carried for this relationship or this association, this situation, it's part of you. And so you are free to grieve the way you need to. In the time you need to. Maybe you're too quiet in your grief. Maybe they they need to

Permission To Grieve Your Way

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see more. Maybe you didn't cry at the funeral, but now you can cry at the drop of the hat. Maybe one day you're laughing at something ridiculous, and another day you're crying, or you're just sitting there and you want to be left alone. All of that's okay. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I want you to know you are so valuable. You, your life, the way you love, the way you grieve, the

When Grief Looks Quiet Or Loud

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way you live. And I truly hope you are living, not just existing, not just trying to make it through, but that you really understand how beautiful you are, how loved you are. You follow the way your heart and soul knows to grieve. Nobody was in that relationship with you. Nobody can tell you to move on, to tell you anything about your grief. It's yours. That relationship, that love, that situation, that life, that person you were before this came about. Only you know that. So nobody else can tell you that your grief ought to be one way or another because they don't, they weren't you, they weren't in that life, they weren't in that love,

Stop Letting Others Police Grief

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they weren't in that situation or that relationship. So they have no uh right, no authority, no permission to tell you what to do or how to do it. So please hear me. You are grieving the way you need to grieve. And yes, I come on here and I try to encourage you to do this or to do that, but it's not in a demanding sense or trying to fix you or move you on. It's just I want you to care about yourself and I want you to be aware of what your body is telling you, what your soul, what your heart is telling you, because you do know best. I just don't want you to be sucked down into all that pain and all that loneliness, thinking that you're walking this grief journey alone because you're not. I'm here for you. And I want you to know you are so special. The way, the unique way that you are grieving is beautiful. Don't let anyone take that from you.

Listen To Your Body And Heart

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I am the caring death, doula, and I am here for you.