The Late‑Night Self‑Care Debrief

It’s Friday…. or whatever day you’re tuning in and the vibes are high! It’s 10pm, I’m unwinding, and I’m recapping a full‑on self‑care day. We’re talking a 13‑minute ortho appointment, a three‑hour nap, four and a half hours at the nail salon, and two hours of shopping. A marathon of pouring into me.

WHAT. A. DAY.

Settle in and enjoy the vibes ✨

This Is Where I Landed with Shayla
I’m in my bold, soft, God‑led becoming era — and I hope this episode reminded you that you’re allowed to take up space too. Step into your power, step into your softness, and choose the version of you that feels aligned, peaceful, and undeniable.

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Remember, you are that guy, you are that girl, you are whomever you choose to be. Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

Transcript

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Hello, hello. This is where I landed with Shaylin. I'm so happy to have you here. If this is your first time landing with me, well, hello, hi, welcome. I hope that you come back again. And if you are a return lander, rocking with your girl for a hot little minute. Well, hello, babe. It's Friday. Or whenever you're listening to it, this it's that day. LOL, but it's Friday. Episodes drop Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and this is Friday's episode. So hello, hi, welcome to the weekend. The vibes are high, the energy is good, we're happy, we're healthy, we're hot, we're sexy, we're free, we're all of the things. We are alive, babe. We are alive. I told you guys um in Wednesday's episode, which actually let me just go ahead and apologize, okay, because Wednesday's episode did abruptly end, and you guys were really enjoying that episode about uh the Rare Finds episode, and I do apologize. I got some messages about the fact that it ended so abruptly. I also got messages about the fact that I did not uh you know do my little sign off, send off. Uh, and I thought that that was really sweet because it's like I have my intro, I have my outro, and I hope that you on the other side of the audio enjoys both of those, you know. Um, but to hear like that I didn't say it and that, you know, people actually say it with me is the cutest thing. Um, so I'm gonna start by just saying, hello, hello, hello. You are that guy, you are that girl, you are whomever you choose to be, and I love you. I'm so happy that you are here with me. I hope that your week has been absolutely amazing. What have you done? Good things. I hope that you've been out and about in the weather and the world. The weather has improved significantly, especially on the east. It's been good here. You already know. I've been telling y'all, the weather has been good here. And guys, next week it's going to be in the 90s. How do we get here already? That's the thing about living in the desert, is by like March, April, it starts to get warm, honey. And by literally April, I will be by the pool. Now I'm gonna be by the pool in March, but you know, in it, like you can actually get you can actually get in it in April. So I'm excited about that because yeah, pool season is starting soon, and I love that. Your girl again thrives off of the sunshine, honey. Okay, that is it. Oh god, excuse me, I just thrive off of the sunshine, and it just makes me so happy, and yeah, can't wait. I want to do bikinis and barbecue with my friends, so that'd be a good little time. Um, any reason again that I can get into a bathing suit and be by the pool and grill. Now, does your girl know how to grill? No. But I mean, hello, that's why we have the YouTube, right? I mean, yeah. So we can figure it out. Or option B, which is always our favorite, is we just buy food, eat it by said pool. So, yeah, I'm cool with either one. Also, I just decided to look it up for shits and gigs. So, when does pool season start in Vegas? Mid-March through late October. Wild. I know that's March, April, May, June, July, September, October. Six, seven months. Summer here is like literally, it's the best thing because yes, it's spring and happy spring, even though I know it's not spring yet, but it's on the way, and we just need to have all the spring vibes at this point, okay? Just usher it in early. But I am excited for the spring. I love the spring. Um, but yeah, so yeah, mid-March, it's ready. It's time to go. Virgin opens the 24th. Love that, and yeah, everybody basically starts to open around the same time. Local pools, like in your complex, I mean, depends. Some are year-round. My complex is year-round, but it's not heated. That's stupid, I know. But hey, you want to do a little coal plunge, you can. Um, but some complexes are heated. I need to find a complex that has a heated pool, ideally. Um, but anywho, on the strip and just like at the casinos, those start to open around that same time, mid-March. So that's always fun. So I can't wait for that. I'm definitely gonna be exploring and just having a little bit more pool time down on the strip and at some of the casinos because it's definitely such a vibe. Now, I want like a low-key vibe. I don't need like a full party, but I do need a little DJ moment, okay? Like nothing too crazy. Like last year, me and the girls for Juneteenth, we went to Sahara. That was a cute little vibe. We got uh, it's called a lily pad, so it's not a cabana, it's a lily pad, and it was like a circular bed, and it had an umbrella, and you know, we had our little service, and it was cute. Now, we need an upgrade to the cabana for sure, but the lily pad was cute, it was a nice little vibe. We had our own little area, we love that. I love a little exclusive moment. I give that. I feel like that's my energy, you know, like my my vibe is exclusivity. We just love we love that. I love an exclusive moment. I also like to be away from people, so that's also that's also really it. Um, because the energy just be too much, especially here, because you don't know who is traveling, which is a lot of people, and then being down on the strip, a lot of times people are drunk because it's literally like I explain it to people like an adult playground, so it's like Times Square, New York, if you've ever been, but on steroids, because you can literally walk and drink, and that's kind of crazy. But yeah, what happens if Vegas stays in Vegas? Question mark. I don't know. Um, but yeah, so I'm excited about that. Um, and yeah, I mean, hello, it's the weekend. What is there not to be excited about? Tomorrow it is going to be, I mean, it's literally gonna be 86 degrees tomorrow, 88 on Saturday, um, and then 80 on Sunday, which is, I mean, absolutely amazing. 94 on Wednesday, 96 on Thursday and Friday. I mean, God is good all the time and all the time and all the time, God is good. Your girl is thankful for it. Now, why did I just scroll over one little blurp in the weather app and the feels like in Mount Laurel, New Jersey, right now is 26. The high was 47. What happened? Y'all just had 70 degrees on the East Coast, literally in New York, feels like 24, the high was 43. It was literally 70 degrees, and people was outside merely rocking and drinking fucking four locos. I don't know, like what is happening? Wow, that's sad. Okay, well, enough about the weather for those of you that are on the East Coast. Sorry. Uh, yeah, I mean, I don't really know what else to say, and then I'm so sorry for you. But it will be Easter on the 20th, so you got about a week to go. I love that for you. Um, yeah, so where do we leave off last? Hmm. Oh yeah, my day off. So, um oh wait, I literally am mixing up episodes, I think. Because the last episode was not the episode that I think. No, Rare Finds was on Monday. Up, Shayla, get it together. No, oh my god, I'm so off. Rare Finds was last Friday's episode. LOL. Atmosphere of Faith was Monday's episode, and then a day in my soft life era was Wednesday. You know, your girls just out here pumping out these episodes all willy-nilly. I cannot keep track. But yes, Rare Finds, that's the one that had the abrupt ending again. So sorry. Love you guys. Um, and then Atmosphere of Faith was the recap. Yes, the Sunday service recap. And I'm so happy that you guys enjoyed that. It really makes me really happy when I get feedback about the pod episodes, specifically the ones where I do the sermon recaps, because you know, I love the Lord and the love, the Lord loves me. And I got a text basically saying, like, thank you for the prayer. Like the prayer really resonated with a lot of people. I got a few texts about that and messages, and I'm so happy and also just so thankful that it hit, you know, like I love to pray. Cause I mean, why not, right? Like, God is good, and if I can connect with him in that way, I'm gonna do it. And I just thought, like, it just came over me to do, and when I listened back to the audio, I could tell that I was tapping in because I like didn't you know, like I took a deep breath before because I really just wanted God to be able to speak to me in that moment, to be able to speak to you on the opposite side of the audio, and so I'm happy that we were able to connect in that way. So thank you for being here with me. Um, clearly, and being on this ride, you know, like we are on this ride together, and I'm continuously reminded that there is someone on the opposite side of this audio actually listening, and I appreciate you. You know, you could be listening to anything, you could be doing anything, and yet here you are rocking with your girl, and I appreciate you. I'm looking at the achievements, um, and we have quite a few downloads to go until the next achievement on the thing, which is so crazy, but um every episode is an achievement for me, honestly, and I don't necessarily care about the numbers or um anything like that. I do find it interesting because I just have an analytical mind, so I do enjoy the uh the stats, but yeah, we are in 29 countries, 171 cities, absolutely insane. I again appreciate each and every person that listens to this podcast, that has listened to this podcast, my daily listeners. I love you. You guys are the best. Make sure that you're connecting with me on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook. All at landed pod l-a-n-d-ed-p-o-d. That's where you can find me, that's where I will be. I've made it super easy for you. You can also email me at landedpod at gmail.com. Super simple. Again, uh, hello. I'm trying to make everything easy for you, babe. Okay, because life is hard enough. So, yeah. Also, this is very random, but don't let nobody's son or nobody's daughter stress you out. Period. That's all I have to say about that. I just feel like somebody on the opposite side of the audio needed to hear that because it came to me, and so I said it. And you're probably on the opposite side of the audio, like, dang, how does she know? I don't know. I just be knowing stuff and I'll be saying it. But anywho, um, yeah, so let's talk about a day in my soft life era. I had a beautiful day. So let me run down how it actually went, right? Because I was giving you guys a play-by-play of what it was supposed to be. Did it turn out that way? Dun dun dun dun. Okay, so woke up, worked for 20 minutes, okay, because I slept in, so I couldn't even do the 30 minutes, but hey, it was my day off anyway, right? Okay, 20 minutes, made a tea, never even drank the tea, because why? Shayla's running behind. Duh. Then get to my appointment. Why did I go to check in the lady gonna say, Oh, we don't have you on the schedule?

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You don't have me on the schedule, and she was like, Well, we can take you. Uh yeah, girl, you was gonna take me regardless. Like, when she said that, I said, Shayla, deep breaths, babe, deep breaths. Because one thing about me, okay, we're just honestly it's the best policy here today. I do not like to be inconvenienced in any way, shape, or form. That is my number one pet peeve. I don't like it. If I because I remember being there at the reception's desk after my last appointment and scheduling said appointment, and then putting set appointment in my phone, where did I get this appointment time and day from if we didn't set it together? So then she was like, Oh, well, yeah, we can get you in. So now I'm like looking at her, like, okay, well, you better have everything that you need. Again, I'm saying this in my head because you know, um, I am I'm in recovery, which I'm in recovery for saying things out loud that I should not say out loud. So I'm just trying to keep my thoughts to myself, okay, because when they get out, it's not always the best. Um, because I can go zero to a hundred really quick, and I've learned that about myself, and you know how I learned that those self-assessments that I keep hitting you guys over the head with, but they are really important because they teach you things about yourself that you don't necessarily recognize or you do recognize, but you're not necessarily taking action. Okay, and you know, do I need to go zero to a hundred on the receptionist? Even and it literally wasn't even the receptionist that scheduled with me the last time. So I said, you know, like there's no point, like, and they're gonna get me in, you know, like all's well. I had a nice morning, I'm off, you know. Like, that's what I was telling myself. I'm like, girl, even if you gotta wait a little bit, which I didn't, you know, like again, all's well that ends well. So anyway, get there, I get called back within a few minutes. Literally, they bring out my new trays, and she sends me on my merry way. I literally, y'all was at that appointment for 13 minutes, babe. From the time I walked in to the time I walked out, it was 13 minutes. I said, you know what? They could have mailed these to me. Um, but yeah, Invisalign is a fun little journey because yeah, I don't have to go to the dentist. I mean the dentist, I don't have to go to the orthodontist um until June. I go every three months and then yeah, get my new trace and then be up out of there. I love that. It's much more convenient than like doing braces because if you do braces like you have to go way more frequently, and who has time to be going there? No, I don't. So yeah. So that's a fun little you know, a little moment. Then I came home and I literally immediately got right back in the bed. I took like a three-hour nap. I woke up at 11:30. I had an alarm set for 11 because I was gonna wake up and eat. Um, yeah, literally snoozed, okay, until 11:30. My nail appointment was at 12. Got to my nail appointment late. Uh, what a surprise. Um, and then yeah, you wanna know how long I was at the freaking nail salon for? Yes. You're never gonna guess. Four and a half hours. I got my old set off, I got a new set on, and then I got a pedicure. Terrible, I know. Literally, literally, four and a half hours at the nail salon should be a crime. But I do love my nails though. My signature orange is back. I do orange around this time of the year, it's such a beautiful color. My brother loves orange, and then my dad kind of adopted orange, and then orange just became the color. I don't know, and so it just makes me really happy. Um, and plus, my nails were dark AF for like a month, over a month, because I had two sets back to back that were fairly dark. So now I have some sun, some brightness. We love the positive energy, and then I did French on my toes. I never do French, I'm always a funny bunny girl, literally rinse and repeat over and over and over and over and over again. Um, but I did French and it's cute, we like it, it's a different vibe. So, am I gonna be a French toe girly? I don't know. Um, but yeah, we're just out here trying shit, honestly. Um, and then after that, I did go shopping, I went to the mall, I went to fashion show, and uh by the way, if you live in the Vegas area, just a little friendly reminder that there is a Savage Fenty in there, and you know your girl loves Rihanna, so I just have to plug that because yeah, um, and I went shopping and I bought things that did I need them? Yes, the the answer is always going to be yes, because treat yourself, you know, and that's really what the vibe was is just like a nice self-care day for Shay, and I love that. I have not done that in a hot little minute, and also that nap set the tone for the whole day. The nap, shout out to the nap, the nap was so good. Then went shopping, walked around the mall, got really great steps in, obviously, because that mall is huge. Um, and then I went and picked up some Jamaican food, shout out to Jerkdat on Flamingo. If you live in Vegas and you are looking for some good Caribbean Jamaican food, shout out to them. You can go over there. And yeah, they do events every Friday. When I went there, the guy was telling me about they do like a comedy um and live music on Friday nights. So, hey, if you want a little vibe, they do it every Friday. You can go over there, have a nice little one-to moment, a little laugh, a little giggle. So, yeah, and then came home, relaxed, had uh some nice glasses of Pinot Grigio, finished 56 days. Have y'all watched that? Should we do a show review? Let me know if you guys what are y'all watching because 56 days is on Amazon Prime by the way, and I wasn't necessarily the biggest fan of how it ended because I just feel like they dragged it out, but it was good, but like very predictable. Definitely figured that out at the end, but it was good though, but still, I don't like predictable shows because am I the freaking writer? Like, how did I know that? But yeah, yeah, and then today slept in, worked, coming back after a day off is low-key, like, but at the same time, when you take off on a Wednesday, you come back Thursday. Next thing you know, tomorrow's Friday, so all is well, and then it's the weekend, so I love that. Um, and then I have plans this weekend. Me and Asia are gonna hang out tomorrow. We did have plans to hang out with one of our friends, but she had to cancel, so I hit Asia up. I'm like, do you wanna hang out tomorrow just us or what? Because Asia and I have not hung out one-on-one in a hot little minute. I know we've both been busy, like we hang out, but like we don't hang out just the two of us, which is also kind of crazy, right? I know. So we'll hang out tomorrow. What are we gonna do? I don't know, maybe a show. I don't know if we can find like a little show or something. We were like, no dinner, basically. Like, how many dinners can a girl eat? But we'll probably do something light, but the main event won't be dinner, you know? So yeah, and then Saturday hanging out with Tay by the pool, that'd be fun, and then Sunday going out to a little party. So that'd be great. It'll be a jam-pack weekend where I sleep in during the day, and then yeah, love that for me. Those are the best. This weekend is rest and fun. So I hope that you're having fun. I hope that you have something nice planned for yourself this weekend. Hanging out with yourself, hanging out with your friends. I also plan to read as well because I am reading um oh my god. What am I reading? It's called Of course it's not in here. Oh my gosh. I believe it's I can't let you go. Oh my gosh, why can I remember the name? It's literally a part of a series, so that's why I'm struggling over here. Because I'm like, am I thinking of the first book, the second book, or the third book? Um but it's really good. Oh my god, how can I not remember the name? I mean, it is late, but yeah. I will put the name in the description, but it is really good. So I definitely want to take some time to be able to read this weekend for sure. And just relax too. Because you can definitely find moments when you have plans. So definitely just sit your little booty down and relax and just have a moment for yourself. So I'll definitely have, you know, ample amount of room during the days and the evenings. And just to be able to really just, you know, tap in with myself, have some nice little moments. So I love that for me. And I hope that you on the opposite side of the audio are doing the same. I hope that y'all have been doing your damn homework, okay? Because I've been giving y'all things to do. Y'all better be doing it. That's all I gotta say. You better be doing it, honey. You better be doing it. Um, but yeah. Okay. That was the recap. And guess what? Like I said, it's Friday, or wherever you're listening to this, I hope that you're having a great day, great morning, great afternoon, great evening, great whatever it is for you. Okay, I am out of oh, nope, I'm not. Really quick, the WNBA has yet to come to an agreement, and that is really stressing your girl out because the WNBA season is going to be impacted because we are already late to the season. We literally have two expansion teams coming in this year, which means that there's two expansion drafts. There's literally a freaking draft, okay, because hello, people that graduate college are gonna go into the MBA, or excuse me, into the WMBA. Um, but will there be a WMBA for them to go into? At this point, we're unsure. Um, it's really just the league and the players' association going back and forth and trying to come to an agreement when it comes to the collective bargaining, and the players really just want to be paid what they deserve, and the league is being stingy and the players are not backing down. And truthfully, you know, as someone that is such a fan, as big as a fan as I am, I mean, I wholeheartedly I'm cool with it. Like, I think that the players should continue to fight for what they feel like they deserve. Um, and also understanding, right, like they're not just fighting for the current players, right? Like, they're fighting for the girls that are gonna come in from college uh this year. They're also fighting for the future. Like, I believe if I'm not mistaken, the CBAs are five years. So, you know, there's a lot that changes within five years. And so they need to ensure that they are well taken care of within that five years, and that as the league grows within that five years, right? Because it will, it's only continuing to get larger, that they are, you know, they're profiting. And I don't think that there's anything wrong with that. And freaking Stephen A. Smith, first of all, I cannot stand that man, okay, because he just always got a lot to say and he don't be saying nothing. But anywho, yeah, he was basically like the players in the league need to come together and make a deal and blah blah blah. No, the league needs to stop being freaking cheap, okay, and realize that literally there is no season without players. Period. Like, all of this that you guys did, and you, you know, like increased revenue and blah blah blah. None of that matters if the players are not there on the floor this season to produce in order to recoup, like, hello, but I'm gonna get off my soapbox. Also, I would be remiss if I did not state or share that Jason Tatum has returned back from a nine-month Achilles rupture or tear. Um, and balling. Like, my guy is I'm so proud. His first game back, I told you guys he had a double-double. And then his second game, 35 points. That guy. He is that guy for real, okay? What the hell? I'm really saying that to Jason Tatum, because what? I that just made me so happy, truthfully. I love that man. Um, but yeah, okay, that's actually it now. I've given you all the updates, all of the things, all of the positive vibes. We love it. We just love it, babe. We love it. Oh, and your girl got her hair done today. Okay, that's the last thing before I go. Because when I tell you, I was on the verge of shaving my head. And if you don't know, I literally had a buzz cut, one against a grain, the shortest you can go before you're bald, okay? Uh, for 10 years. Cut my hair in high school, okay? That's how you know I'm that girl because I was born in high school. Did not give one flying fig newton honey, okay? And um, yeah, I had a mohawk, and then I was tired of the mohawk wanted to grow it out. What better way to grow it out than to just shave it off and grow it all out, you know, at the same time? Well, never grew it out until 10 years later. Um, and yeah, I miss it every day because there's nothing like just waking up and going and not having to worry about your hair. And also, my hair, I have not gone to trim in hold the phone. I know you're gonna pass out, sit down actually, in two years. I've been growing my hair out for three years. October will make four years that I've been growing my hair out. I've not gotten a trim in like literally two years, and my hair was just not in a good shape because I don't really take care of it, honestly, because I don't really care about my hair, to be honest, like that's just what it is, and so yeah, I'm trying to do better because I do want to grow my hair out more like more because I know that I can grow my hair healthy because I've done it already within these three years, but then I just really stopped giving a shit about it. Obviously, understandably so, like when you go through things, like nobody cares about their hair, so yeah, my hair was least of my worries, and so yeah, I had a little breakage, um, also from the braids and stuff that I was doing when I went to New York. Um, and yeah, just really like not taking care of it. So I got a trim, which really is like a cut. She said she cut off like an inch. I know, wild, but it's okay, I don't really care. Now that it's healthy, that's all that really matters to me. So now we can grow it out, and I'll be going to her. Um, also, shout out to Vibes, uh, Barber and Beauty in Henderson. It's off of Lake Mead, it's by the Walmart. If you are in the Vegas Henderson area, I highly recommend. Shout out to Kells and his whole team over there. It is a black-owned business, and we love that. We love to support. Um, so yeah, yeah, got my hair done, and we just love a new little look. I needed a change anyway. I love to switch it up, and I can't switch it up myself because I only do them four to six braids. Or I'll do the bun or my hair out curly, but wearing my hair out curly is for the birds, and then also because my hair was needing to be trimmed, it just wasn't giving what it was supposed to give. So now I can't wait to wear my hair out curly once my hair is out from these braids. But I do like the braids, really cute, very vibey, something different, and hey, maybe you just need a little switch up, you know, like do something different. Typically, I do like knotless braids, I didn't do those. Um, and yeah, just cute, like little, um, I don't know what they're they're like stitch braids, kind of. Um, and then I have some like boho loose strands coming out of them, crocheted in, and then the hair is in these cute little like buns, and then there's like the boho hair coming out of the buns. It's really cute, really cute. So I'm excited to get all cute this weekend, and the pictures are gonna be fire. Ugh, so good. Can't wait. But yeah, okay. Remember, you are that girl. You oh my god, I'm tired. You are that guy, you are that girl, you are whomever you choose to be. I hope that you've had or you will have the most absolutely amazing, beautiful day whenever you are listening to this. If you're listening to this on Friday, I hope that this weekend does you well. I hope that you take moments for yourself. I hope that you tap in with yourself. I hope that you do a little journaling, maybe a nice little walk in the park, grounding your feet in the grass, reading, hanging out with friends, getting out into the open, finding community, all of those beautiful things that I've been trying to encourage you about. Go to church, I don't know, you know, uh, you have fun. But yeah, I hope that you on the opposite side of the audio are taking the best care of yourself. And I want you to know that weeping may endure for a night, babe, but joy comes in the morning. It does get better and it will get better. This is just temporary. Whatever you may be going through, just remember that it's just happening right now. But God can turn it around. All you have to do is ask. Ask and you shall receive. Knock and the door shall be open. It's really that simple. You just have to what? Believe. As always, be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. And I love you.