Trough of Slop

FOR EPISODE 10, our friend returns.

Join Holly, Nick, & Melissa as they catch up after Holly's Mother-God adjacent vacation. Melissa has an exciting announcement for her life and the pod. Why is everything so expensive? Are you a meal prepper? What does it mean to live and die well? Questions will be answered, and yet so many remain. Keep smilin', keep shinin'.

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digress & confess was created by us - holly, nick , & melissa. the show's music was mixed by nick, with credit to kevin macleod. the show is edited by nick (& sometimes melissa). thank you to brian for your editing guidance. thank you to jess for taking our show photo.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Wow, welcome back to Digress and Confess, where we hate Apple.

SPEAKER_03 0:03

We hate Apple. I actually would say that I hate every tech company. I'm just gonna blanket statement.

SPEAKER_02 0:10

You're an equal opportunity hater.

SPEAKER_05 0:11

That's right. That's right.

SPEAKER_03 0:13

If it if you if you're struggling to recognize my voice, um, since it's been so long since I've potted, I'm Holly.

SPEAKER_00 0:22

I'm Nick.

SPEAKER_03 0:23

I'm Melissa. Welcome back. We have Holly back with us in the flesh. In the flesh. Back on um on the mainland.

SPEAKER_00 0:33

Tell us, so tell us about it. Where'd you go? Uh what was it?

SPEAKER_03 0:37

I went to Kilua Kona, a beautiful seaside town on the big island of Hawaii, and it changed my life. Not to be that like white woman, but I guess I am that white woman.

SPEAKER_00 0:49

But what was it? What was it that changed?

SPEAKER_03 0:52

I literally, well, okay. It was not my first time seeing the ocean, but it was my first time like entering the ocean. Yeah. So I was in the ocean in the Pacific, letting that beautiful, bright blue aqua water wash over me. Yes. And I turned to Raylan. I said, This is the type of shit that makes people believe in God. In all seriousness, in true earnesty. Like, yeah, I've never been anywhere more beautiful ever. It is the most beautiful place on earth, period. I feel comfortable saying that.

SPEAKER_02 1:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:30

Yeah. And I've been a lot of places in the world.

SPEAKER_02 1:33

It's gorgeous.

SPEAKER_03 1:34

Full of full of beauty. But Hawaii, yeah. I don't think anywhere on earth is more beautiful, genuinely. I had the best time. Um, Nick, I don't know if you noticed my tan. Right.

SPEAKER_00 1:47

I did, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:48

Yeah. Iron tan. Yeah, pretty, pretty deep bronze you're seeing here.

SPEAKER_00 1:52

That's right.

SPEAKER_03 1:53

Whoa. Well, you can always tell I have a tan when you can see my cafe au lay birthmark on my hand. It only shows up when I have a little bit of a tan.

SPEAKER_00 2:01

Yeah. Oh.

SPEAKER_03 2:02

Yeah, so I had the best time in Hawaii. Um, it's the most beautiful place ever. Um, yeah, just something about being on the beach at eight in the morning as the sun warms God's beautiful earth and planet. The island is waking up. I'm having a coffee with my new favorite thing ever, macadamia nut milk. Macadamia nut milk, you guys, I'm not, it's better than oat. It's better than any alternative I've ever tried. It doesn't have a strong like nut flavor either. It's perfect. Perfectly creamy, delicious.

SPEAKER_02 2:39

Did you come home and get some?

SPEAKER_03 2:40

Not yet, because I'm um I'm using up what I have, okay, which is oat milk, but I will be buying some, yes. Yeah. Yeah. Um, so yeah, having just like an iced coffee with macnut milk. I can't, I'm like, um, you know, I'm I'm familiar with it now, so I can shorten it to macros.

SPEAKER_02 3:01

Yeah, you're you're from there.

SPEAKER_03 3:02

I'm from there, yeah. So I can shorten it. Just some macnut milk, uh latte, an asay bowl on the beach. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 3:11

I did hear somebody yesterday for the first time in a long time say a Kai bowl. Oh, which was really vintage. Vintage. Really vintage.

SPEAKER_03 3:18

Yeah, it's like maybe like 2014. I was like, okay, girl. Yeah, when the ase berry was kind of just debuting and people didn't really know what she was all about. True.

SPEAKER_00 3:27

What was that like Starbucks or something? They had a drink, like an asae berry.

SPEAKER_02 3:31

I think they have like a refresher or something like that. Yeah, I think that's what it was. Yeah. But yeah, that this, and she looked like our she was probably our age, and I was like, okay, queen, you went this long.

SPEAKER_03 3:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 3:41

Good for her. Good for her. And she said it with confidence. That's right.

SPEAKER_03 3:45

As you should when you pronounce things wrong. Okay. That's right. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 3:49

So you were having an Akai bowl. Wow.

SPEAKER_03 3:51

Yeah, I was having just a big eye. Well, there were two different ones that I could choose from. There was a big island bowl that had pineapple, banana, coconut. Um, you know, it was more like kind of that vibe. And then there was another one, I don't remember what it was called, but it was like strawberries, blueberries, whatever. And I preferred the big island bowl because I don't like it when I'm eating something cold and like froyo or ice cream and the fruit like freezes in it. I don't like that. I don't like chewing into a frozen, biting into a frozen blueberry. No. It's not really my vibe. I don't like it.

SPEAKER_02 4:29

No. So unless I'm a big smoothie girl though. Like I'm all smoothie all the time.

SPEAKER_03 4:34

Right. Well, I I like it if it's like blended, but I don't want to bite frozen blueberry. Unless I'm like intentionally eating frozen blueberries, which in the summer, if you're like gonna go to the beach or something, frozen blueberries.

SPEAKER_00 4:48

And frozen grapes.

SPEAKER_03 4:49

Yeah. Yep. Real good.

SPEAKER_00 4:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 4:52

So yeah, um, Hawaii was amazing, most beautiful place ever. Yeah, we kind of we we kind of fell in love with this beach nearby. And you know, we would just go there. But okay, but seriously, we did sort of fall in love with this beach nearby. Um it was called Magic Sands Beach. And on the photos we saw, it was like your classic white sandy beach. But we get there and the beach is full of rocks, like lava rocks. And we were kind of like, okay, this is like rockier than we thought, whatever. Because in Hawaii, especially on Big Island, where there are five volcanoes in total, I think, there is um, there are lava rocks everywhere all over the island. Um but we, I don't know, we made it work and we ended up going there a lot. And then we heard the lifeguard speaking in Hawaiian pigeon explain to a very confused um guest who showed up and asked, like, hey, is there like a more sandy beach nearby? We listened to her explain that the reason the beach was called Magic Sands is because um the tide will push sand over all the lava rocks um a couple times a year. And so that's why it's called Magic Sands. Yeah, because it's like the sand is there and then it disappears and then it's there and it disappears.

SPEAKER_05 6:11

Oh that's really interesting.

SPEAKER_03 6:12

Yeah, so at some point throughout the year, well, which is really interesting too, because it's like the beach is up here and then it kind of like levels down into the ocean, and like on the level down is where all the rocks and stuff are. So it's it was pretty rocky getting into the ocean. You have to wear shoes and be careful, whatever. Um, but yeah, to think that the sand covers all the rocks would mean like wow, it rises like probably 10 feet the sand. Jeez. Yeah, to cover all the rocks, which is really interesting to think about. But yeah, so yeah, um, Magic Sands Beach we loved. We did like a full day tour of the big island, which is enormous, enormous. I didn't know until going there. Um, that's kind of why they call it famously the Big Islands. Yeah, right. It's pretty big, it's pretty big, yeah. Yep. Um, and it has 10 of the 14 climate zones, like the world climate zones just on that island. Whoa. Isn't that amazing? Interesting. Yeah. So we would be like um on the tour and we'd be in the desert essentially, and within just a few miles, you're in like a rainforest climate. I've never seen anything like it. It's so cool you can even like see it changing as you're driving. It's amazing.

SPEAKER_05 7:17

Whoa.

SPEAKER_03 7:18

Literally the most amazing place ever. Um, so yeah, I saw a volcano that has just kind of been actively erupting since 2022, I think.

SPEAKER_04 7:28

Whoa.

SPEAKER_03 7:29

Um not Mount Aloa, I can't remember the name of it. Sorry. But yeah, it was amazing. So we went to this volcano national park. I didn't get to see any lava come out, but it was like steaming and it was a volcano, nonetheless. It was a spit. It was spitten, yeah. Yeah, and then I saw lava tubes, which lava tubes were once very big tubes of lava, and they like the interior sometimes hollows out and you can like walk through them. Yeah, it's like a cave. Yeah, but lava. So that was really cool. Saw some waterfalls. Um went whale watching, and our boat got what I was telling you guys earlier, it's called a mugging when a curious whale approaches a boat and circles it, and a mugging can be anywhere from like 20 minutes to like an hour. Crazy. So yeah, we were like, because in okay, in Hawaii, when you're whale watching, you have to be, it's like federal law to be a hundred yards away from the whale. So um, if a whale comes near you, you have to shut your engine off and stay put until the whale is a hundred yards away just to you know protect protect the wildlife in the ocean. We saw some like little whale tails and flips and whatever from a hundred yards away, which was really cool. But then, yeah, we were um approaching a whale and they turned the engine off, and then the very curious humpback whale mugged our boat and it was swimming, it was like swimming circles around our boat, it was swimming underneath it, it would go to the right side, it would go to the left side. They also do this thing called um spy hopping, which I think is an amazing term where they're like vertically shoot up from the water, like vertically pop their little heads up like a prairie dog to look at your boat. Yeah, so the whale spy hopped us, so we got to see its little mouth. It just like like shot up from the water to take a little look at us. Cute! Yeah, and then it swam under and was on the other side. Um, and then yeah, we did it, it like um sprayed like water out of its spout. Is it called a spout on a whale?

SPEAKER_00 9:38

What's a little hole in the top? Like a blowhole, a blowhole.

SPEAKER_03 9:40

Yeah, like a blowhole. Like it shot water out of the blowhole a couple times, and then it didn't do a full like flip out of the water, but it did like, you know, I have I can show you guys. I'll I'll post the video on our Instagram that I haven't updated in months. Um, but I plan to. I plan to, don't worry, guys. Um yeah, I did find out on this whale tour that I have philosophia, which is a fear of deep water.

SPEAKER_00 10:07

Yeah. Oh, that must have been uh terrifying to realize for the first time.

SPEAKER_03 10:12

Yeah, as soon as the boat started really cruising and we were kind of just like in the middle of the ocean, I thought, I don't like this. I don't like this at all.

SPEAKER_02 10:22

This really harkens back to our first episode because for me, that's like my dream.

SPEAKER_00 10:27

Being I love that cast out to sea.

SPEAKER_02 10:29

Yeah. When I was in Hawaii, we were out in the middle of the ocean on the boat. I was like, can I jump off? And they were like, no. And I was like, please.

SPEAKER_03 10:36

Yeah, not for me. Not for me. Um, also found out that I do experience seasickness. I'm not a motion sickness person, like I don't really get car sick. I don't, I guess my only experience boating was like a pontoon on Prior Lake, which is like a lot different than the Pacific Ocean.

SPEAKER_04 10:54

Very different.

SPEAKER_03 10:55

Yeah. So um unfortunately, when the whale was mugging us, that was like the peak of my nausea, and I was kind of just sitting in the seat holding onto the bars in front of me, like, don't look up, don't look up.

SPEAKER_04 11:07

Oh no.

SPEAKER_03 11:08

Yeah, when the boat was like cruising, I didn't feel very sick. I mostly just felt scared. Um, but when we were stopped and it was like really like rocking back and forth, yeah. Not good, not good. I was feeling real sick, and I thought to myself, like, wow, is this how people feel in cars and like just people who get motion sick? Like, is this what it's like? Because this really fucking sucks. It is.

SPEAKER_00 11:30

I wonder if it is, yeah. Because I've had both.

SPEAKER_03 11:33

Yeah. Can confirm. Yeah, horrible, horrible. Um, so yeah, again, my my experience at sea is mostly um on a lake in Minnesota.

SPEAKER_05 11:42

Right.

SPEAKER_03 11:43

Cruising around on a pontoon, not going fast as fuck in like a big ass boat in the ocean. So learn some things about myself. And the thing too about that is like you don't really know until you know. There is no way for me to know that I w get seasick until going out to sea.

SPEAKER_02 12:01

That's why I'm always afraid for people when they're like going on a cruise or going on some sort of a yacht or something and they've never really been out on water. I'm like, mmm, you're really fucked if you find out.

SPEAKER_03 12:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:12

I mean, that's a I remember the first cruise that I was on and realizing that I was like, oh yeah, I'm like, I can get sick. Like, oh boy. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 12:20

Yeah. So I don't know, a lake is fine, but again, lake waves very different than the than the ocean. Right. Lots of stuff. There's man many things that happen that we can discuss. It was amazing. Great. I loved it, and I had the best time. I love it. And it has changed me. I'm being so serious. You've been changed for good. I have literally have been changed for good. I'm being so serious.

SPEAKER_04 12:44

Like, I believe it.

SPEAKER_03 12:45

Our first day out, we just went to like the little town area where they have all the shopping and whatever, and walked to the ocean, and we were just sitting there staring at the ocean. And I had this feeling come over me of like, why have I ever been insecure? Why have I I'm being so serious? Like, yeah, when I say I found God on the island, I'm not joking. Like I am in the sense of like, you know, I don't believe in a Christian God, but it like there is really something about being immersed in nature or being like somewhere where nature is like so protected and feeling so just like why do I care what my arms look like in a tank top when like this is like the planet I'm blessed to walk on? I'm being so serious, like nothing I care about or stress out about to a point matters. Nothing really matters that much. And I also had the feeling of like, I can't believe I like have ever um not taken care of myself when again this is like the planet that we live. I'm being so serious, like I believe you. I know it sounds stupid, but there's something about just like really feeling grounded, feet planted in the sand, like looking around, like, oh, this is like the point of life.

SPEAKER_05 14:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 14:00

Literally being outside, being in nature, um, truly uh, I don't know, being present, living in the moment, eating a delicious fruit that the earth created and presented to you like a little gift. Right. Yes. You know? Yes. And I think and I can't leave my apartment because I think my arms look fat in a tank top. Are you serious, bitch? Like what?

SPEAKER_05 14:24

Do you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_03 14:25

Like it's just yeah, everything, the things that I think are such huge problems, like I don't know, everything kind of melted away in a sense.

SPEAKER_00 14:34

You got some perspective, nature perspective.

SPEAKER_03 14:36

I did feel very grounded in reality there.

SPEAKER_00 14:38

God, I really love that for you.

SPEAKER_03 14:40

Yeah. Have you been to Hawaii? I have, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:43

I went in, I went in high school for like a choir trip. So it was a little bit different because we were like corralled everywhere. It was like a large group. Yeah, we were in Honolulu.

SPEAKER_02 14:50

It's very different. It's a very different city. Extremely different city.

SPEAKER_00 14:53

Because it was, and it was very city, and I did enjoy myself. It was nice. It still is gorgeous, beautiful.

SPEAKER_02 14:58

You had been there on vacation. Yeah, haven't we?

SPEAKER_00 15:00

Exactly, yeah. Because we were still also like doing stuff, you know. We'd go to go to certain landmarks as a whole group, and it just was like a lot that's like.

SPEAKER_03 15:08

I'm not joking, you guys. All I can think about is when I can go back. Am I being dead serious? Like, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:17

Genuinely, I love this for you because I like my place for like what you're describing, like the way that you feel, is the same way that I feel about Kill PCR V, which I think I did talk about on pod before, a little research station trip, because it was exactly that where like the nature was exactly what was perfect for me. It felt I've never felt more myself, more grounded in my entire life. And honestly, that feeling I wish upon every person because it was like one of the most beautiful experiences, and it sounds like that this trip was that for you.

SPEAKER_03 15:47

Well, I've been talking for 45 minutes. What's up with you guys?

SPEAKER_00 15:50

I love it. Oh my god. Well, I wanted to ask Melissa if you've ever been to a place that you felt that way. Yeah, but nature. Was it the same for you?

SPEAKER_02 15:56

Yeah, I went to, and now I'm embarrassed because I can't remember if it's pronounced Lenae or Lanai. Um because it's been 15 years since I've been there. I think it's Lanai. I was like Lanai.

SPEAKER_00 16:07

Yeah, sounds right.

SPEAKER_02 16:08

Um, but I because we went to Maui. Well, I went to Honolulu, which I know is not an island, but like, you know, I went to Honolulu when we were in like when I was in like fifth or sixth grade, and then we went when I was in 11th or 12th grade, I went to Maui and we took a boat out. My parents, God bless them, they let me go and they sat through a timeshare to get like essentially the like free trip to the island because it's so expensive to go to Lanai. Um and so we took a whale boat out there and we got to see whales, we got to see baby whale, which was amazing. And the same thing, the baby whale was trying to get around our boat and stuff, and they were like, We can't get near that, like we are trying to get away from them, we don't want them near us. And then at one point, the mama came through and like jumped over the baby whale, and then they were gone. The mom said, We're done.

SPEAKER_03 16:57

Yeah, we're done. Well, that's how they teach them during whale season, like they migrate, and that's I mean, that's how they learn how to be around boats. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 17:05

So we did that, we went to Lanai, and it's just like this beautiful island. I know a bunch of bazillionaires go there. It's a very small island, and there are there's like one hotel on it, I think. We were just there for the day. We didn't stay there. Uh, I think it's a bazillion dollars. Um, and I got to go snorkeling and see so many cool things, and it was just like the most beautiful place I've ever been. I could not believe it was real. I think about it actually all the time. I think about it all the time. It is so, so beautiful. The water is so blue, just like every place in Hawaii. I'm just like, that was the most beautiful place. And also, I love fruit. So being in Hawaii is great because big, big for fruit lovers. Big for fruit. I also have a ring that I wear all the time that is from Hawaii from like a flea market. And then whenever people ask me where it's from, I'm like, well, it's 15 years old. Got it on the island, got it on an island, off the mainland. I think about Hawaii once a week minimum, and it's been 15 years since I've been there. I feel similar, like I would say I feel like a parallel in New York. Like every time I go to New York, I'm so happy, but it is not the same. It's like a it's like I want to live here and I feel comfortable here. But Hawaii, I felt like grateful to be alive. No, literally.

SPEAKER_03 18:24

I think it's like grateful to be alive.

SPEAKER_02 18:26

And like I will say too, like the when I went to Hawaii, I was uh probably my most, it was at like I was my most mentally ill. I was trying to kill myself 24-7. And so I think for me, I was so happy in Hawaii that it was like very surprising. It was really, really surprising. And my parents, I think, uh were kind of like, should we go home? Like, should we just keep her here?

SPEAKER_00 18:51

Can we stay?

SPEAKER_02 18:52

Like it really, it really was uh an amazing experience. So yeah, I think Hawaii, honestly, and I've been quite a few places.

SPEAKER_04 18:59

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:00

I haven't been as international as Miss Holly, but I've been to quite a lot of places in the US. Um, I also really loved San Francisco when we went last year, which I think San Francisco kind of has a similar vibe to me because there are so many climates there. Like you are in the ocean, and then you're at like but you're like on a pier, and then we were at like a sandy beach with dunes, and then it was like big redwoods. Like it, like there's so many climates there, and it's so beautiful there. Understand why everybody wants to live there. Yeah. In you know, Oakland and San Francisco and Hawaii, like because they're gorgeous, and the nature is beautiful. Yeah, yeah. It's crazy to just be in sunshine and like see the ocean, see a mountain, see like nature, which, yeah, there's nature here in Minnesota, but like not like that. A little bit the same. Sometimes when you get up to the North Shore, like it is really stunningly beautiful, but you also have to get to the North Shore. You have to get to the North Shore, and there's not much else up there. And it's cold as fuck all the time.

SPEAKER_03 20:03

Being in Hawaii, where the weather is literally perfect every day.

unknown 20:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 20:08

Changed something.

SPEAKER_03 20:09

It changed something, yeah. And I'm like, damn, maybe I gotta live by the water.

SPEAKER_00 20:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:13

Well, there's a lot of water here, but good transition announcement. Uh for our tenth episode. I'm moving to North Carolina this summer to go to graduate school. Whoa. Wow. Wow. Um, which is crazy. When we did the wow together, the person at the elevator kindly did look over at us, and I get it. Um but I'm moving to North Carolina and I'll be near-ish to the ocean. Like it'll be warm all the time. And I was there a couple weeks ago, and it was like 70 degrees. Wow. Um, and I had a delayed flight there because it was snowing six inches here. So I'm like, okay, I'm gonna be am I gonna be changed? Am I gonna be so buff from me being outside all the time?

SPEAKER_00 21:00

Like, you need to get fit. Who knows?

SPEAKER_02 21:02

Yeah, I'll have a pool. Like kind of crazy. Crazy. Wow. Exactly. Um, we will we did receive a question from a listener. Shout out Lindsay, uh, if we were going to continue the pod when I moved to North Carolina. Oh, yes. And we will be. Of course we will be. We will have to figure out how to do that, but we'll figure it out. We'll figure it out. We will figure it out. I don't think it's that hard.

SPEAKER_00 21:26

I don't think it is.

SPEAKER_02 21:27

Um, but yeah, so I'm moving to North Carolina this summer. My husband is coming with me, which has been a question that's been asked by many, which has been a little surprising. What? What's many have asked, is Jared coming with me?

SPEAKER_00 21:38

That's so interesting.

SPEAKER_02 21:40

And I yes, he is. And I understand that some people do like live apart if for like grad school and stuff, but like I guess if you meet me and Jared, like I think that would be really surprising to ask me that.

SPEAKER_00 21:53

True, that yeah.

SPEAKER_02 21:54

Also, like in just in general.

SPEAKER_03 21:55

You're married, this isn't like you are you know. 23 in undergrad going to grad school.

SPEAKER_02 22:03

No, like that's my husband for real.

SPEAKER_03 22:05

Yeah, that's you've you're married, been together for like. The concept of doing a long distance marriage at this point, right? Is bizarre.

SPEAKER_02 22:14

I know. It's also like uh how am I paying for rent then? Yes, why would we pay for rent in two places? In two places, right?

SPEAKER_00 22:22

That's so interesting because I was just chatting with I hung out with my friends from college last night, and they were talking about another college friend who is married, and his wife is actually like living in a different state for the last like two years, and she's gonna move home soon because for grad school. And so I'm wondering if that is like more normal than we think.

SPEAKER_02 22:42

I think it does happen, but I to me's like really surprising. I I because I don't think I would be able to do grad school if Jared wasn't with me. Yeah, like I mean, obviously, if I was single, like I would be able to do it, but like having a a partner, like that's my guy. Yeah, you know, like I married him for a reason. Uh so I feel like it'd be I would be devastated and not happy if I moved without my husband. Also, we would have to have like joint custody of our dog.

SPEAKER_00 23:10

Yeah, what's that about?

SPEAKER_02 23:11

What would we do?

SPEAKER_03 23:12

Yeah, I think maybe it depends on like the length of the program and like current jobs or something.

SPEAKER_02 23:18

I'll be there for like four or five years. Yeah, so like Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:24

So like no, Jared's coming with.

SPEAKER_02 23:25

Jar Jared will be with me. Potting from the beach.

SPEAKER_00 23:28

Potting from the beach. Potting from the beach. Can't wait.

SPEAKER_02 23:31

Yeah. So yeah, that's my announcement. Pretty big one. Yeah. Created. It is a pretty big one. Also, I did text a friend of the pod Rachel, and I was like, what the hell are these big ass birds in the sky in North Carolina? Because she did used to live there. And um I still can't figure out what they were because I couldn't see them that well. And they looked like mocking jays from the Hunger Games to me. And District 12 is canonically in North Carolina. So I'm just gonna assume they're mocking Jays. And I'm just gonna leave it at that. And I don't need to investigate further. I'm gonna assume they are the fictional creatures mocking Jays. That's right.

SPEAKER_00 24:05

No, we'll be taking any questions.

SPEAKER_02 24:07

Yeah, so if you want to see mocking Jays, you can go to Port North Carolina and I can confirm they're real, and they're there.

SPEAKER_00 24:12

Thank you.

SPEAKER_02 24:13

That's my conspiracy theory for the year. Yeah. Susan Collins was writing from life. Yeah. She was right.

SPEAKER_00 24:21

She was right.

SPEAKER_02 24:22

Well, and she was in many ways. And she was in many ways. In many ways. Nick, do you have any any news, any info we don't know? Any travel? Are you traveling anywhere?

SPEAKER_00 24:35

Um, my friend Freya and I, well, Freya.

SPEAKER_02 24:38

Yeah, is Freya coming to the United States?

SPEAKER_00 24:40

Oh my gosh, I didn't tell you this. So we got chatting, yeah, and I was like, hey babe, you're not from America, and it's really not a safe time for people that aren't from America. Um and I just asked her, I was like people that are from America. I mean, that's true. No, actually, America's just a bad place for everyone right now. Yeah. And so I just asked her and her partner kindly to be like, just look into like some of the news, like the American news, like tap in like more closely. Um, and so she did.

SPEAKER_02 25:08

Make an informed decision about it. Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 25:10

I just told her, I was like, hey, I I want to go to Boston, I want to go to the salt dunes, but I don't think right now is the right time. Um, and so then she did some research. We chatted, and she was like, No, you're right. This isn't like, no, this isn't right. So we decided on going like meeting somewhere else. And so we we were thinking uh beaches, and so the first two beaches that came to mind were uh Thailand.

SPEAKER_02 25:36

Oh, that's pretty far.

SPEAKER_00 25:38

That's pretty far and then Albania. Okay, which is Gualipa, yeah, and so we've decided on Albania. We haven't really decided like timing and stuff, but we're thinking maybe in August and uh fun. There's this small really town, small this cute small town called Kasamiel, which is really close to Greece, and it has like beautiful beaches, and apparently some Finnish influencers have been like like um promoting that town, and so Freya was like, let's go.

SPEAKER_05 26:07

Well, yeah, she's been influenced.

SPEAKER_00 26:09

She has been influenced in so have I. Um one of my friends was looking up flights to go to Atlanta just like a week or two ago. Yeah. At the same time that I was looking up flights to go to Albania, and flights to Albania were cheaper than flights from Minneapolis to Atlanta.

SPEAKER_02 26:25

All flights from Minneapolis are the most expensive places on Earth. Which Minneapolis to Atlanta is really expensive because they're the two big Delta hubs.

SPEAKER_00 26:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 26:34

Which you would think that would make it less expensive. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:36

I know.

SPEAKER_03 26:37

Because there are so many flights to and from.

SPEAKER_00 26:40

So make it make sense.

SPEAKER_02 26:41

I think Minneapolis is the second or third most expensive airport in the country to fly out of, which is just awesome.

SPEAKER_00 26:48

It's wild.

SPEAKER_02 26:49

But it was like it's a great airport. It is a great airport.

SPEAKER_00 26:52

Yeah. But it was $650 to go from Minneapolis to Atlanta. It was crazy as hell. Yep.

SPEAKER_03 26:57

And then you can fly internationally for that much. Yep.

SPEAKER_00 27:00

It was $580 from Minneapolis to Albania.

SPEAKER_03 27:04

That makes absolutely no sense. Zero sense. Zero sense. That is really crazy. I thought it was gonna be like, you know, maybe in the 400 range.

SPEAKER_02 27:14

No, tell me why I'm going to Baltimore next week and I'm flying out. I'm if I wanted to come home from Baltimore, yes, in the United States, uh, during like midday that Sunday, it would have been $800 should I plane ticket.

SPEAKER_00 27:29

My lord.

SPEAKER_02 27:31

So why? Just a question. I remember when flights to Chicago used to actually be cheap, but now they're also I mean, they're still cheaper than flying, you know, whatever to Atlanta. To Atlanta. But it was like $85.

SPEAKER_00 27:44

It was like $85, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 27:46

You could you could keep an eye out, Spirit would have like a $40 to Chicago deal. Crazy. Crazy. I mean, you get there shaken.

SPEAKER_03 27:53

You would have to like, you know, put a parachute on and kind of jump, and like the when the plane's just gonna open the doors and eject you.

SPEAKER_02 27:59

But when you're like 20, you're built like that. That's right. Yeah. You can get to Chicago. I do I have been thinking a lot lately, and maybe it's just that I'm getting old, but like I've been thinking so much lately about how cheap everything used to be in comparison, even just like pre-pandemic, like rent prices, everything was so much cheaper.

unknown 28:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:21

Pre-2016, but also pre-pandemic, like things were so much cheaper. I cannot believe how expensive, like pop, which if you're not in Minnesota, I mean soda.

SPEAKER_00 28:33

Um no, you mean pop.

SPEAKER_02 28:35

I mean pop. Like buying cans of soda at the grocery store are so expensive now, and I don't understand why. Yeah, like just everything is so expensive, and that's been like um I've been raging on that pretty hard lately.

SPEAKER_04 28:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:48

And just rent in general, and just everything. And people are like, you can find cheap rent. And I'm like, you can find cheap rent, but even cheap rent now is more expensive than it should be. Absolutely. Like, it why are you telling me I have to pay over a thousand dollars for a one bedroom that doesn't have air or laundry or any updates?

SPEAKER_03 29:07

Has it been updated since it was built in 1990?

SPEAKER_02 29:10

And the ovens of fire hazard. Like, why would that be true? Yeah, that makes zero sense.

SPEAKER_00 29:17

I don't like that. I don't want it.

SPEAKER_02 29:18

So, anyway, that's what I'm angry about today.

SPEAKER_00 29:20

I mean, that's fair.

SPEAKER_02 29:21

I mean, I'm angry about a lot of things.

SPEAKER_00 29:23

I mean, yeah, I'm angry about a lot. But that I've also been thinking about that because I'm so Petticoat Junction update. Um I've still been waiting. I'm almost done watching Petticoat Junction, but you guys, there's a few things. So um in the in the show itself, so it's in the 60s, but it's in a rural part of America, like a nondescript rural part. And so they talk about things being very cheap. I mean, it's you know, pennies, quarters, you know, that kind of stuff. Anything that's like more than a dollar is like wild. Yeah. So I have been thinking a lot about inflation because I'm like, the 60s like really weren't that long ago in perspective. So I'm like, why in the hell? Why how did we get here?

SPEAKER_02 29:59

Um, I remember when I did ask my mom's best friend asked me how much my rent was here. And um for context, I live in like a one plus den in a very expensive part of Minneapolis. And she was like, Oh, I know you live in a really nice area and it's a really nice building. And I was like, Yeah. And she said at least 700 a month. And I was like, Oh okay, so 700 might be I get a bedroom in Minneapolis somehow.

SPEAKER_03 30:23

I don't even think you can find a studio for 700.

SPEAKER_02 30:27

Yeah, she was like seven, she said $700 because she knows that I live in like a nice building. I was like, wow.

SPEAKER_00 30:33

Wow, wow, that is crazy.

SPEAKER_03 30:35

But even like if you compare Minneapolis to like Chicago, uh-huh, cheap.

unknown 30:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:40

I mean, true, right?

SPEAKER_03 30:41

Which is psycho.

SPEAKER_00 30:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 30:43

Because things are getting crazy here.

SPEAKER_00 30:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 30:45

Well, my um, I just updated or signed a new lease, and my rent is going up to 1500, which is like which is cheap for which is cheap for what I have. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:57

Yes, okay. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 30:58

But still, I'm like, I don't want to be paying that much for rent. That's crazy. That is a crazy amount. And the fact that I'm like, well, it's cheap for what I have is like a it's sickness. Also, it is a sickness, sick and twisted that I think about.

SPEAKER_00 31:12

Sick and twisted, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 31:13

Yeah. Damn it. I was ordering takeout last night, as one does. Yes. It's the weekend. And I was going to have Chipotle delivered to my house, I'm not gonna lie. My bowl, which it was isn't even anything crazy, $19. Almost almost $20. And that was just the cost. No, not just the cost of delight. That was just the cost of the bowl.

SPEAKER_05 31:37

Whoa.

SPEAKER_03 31:38

I remember when I could go to Chipotle on a Sunday, hung over as hell, walk to the uptown Chipotle with Jill. And we could get just the most loaded, yummy, delicious, thick. And this was peak Chipotle too, like 2015, 2016. Um, and it was like $11 for like the bowl with the chips and a drink. Now it's $19 just for the bowl. I got World Street Kitchen, and I got a Korean barbecue beef bowl. I love like um a bowl meal, you know. Like I always see uh tweets and memes and whatever that are like we're literally like piggies eating slop, like being served, like you know, stuff in our trough. Wink wink literally a trough meal. A bowl style meal is like being like animal feed. Yeah, yeah. Trough, literally. And I love it. I love a trough meal, a trough meal of slop. Trough? Uh my trough of slop.

SPEAKER_00 32:38

A trough of slop.

SPEAKER_03 32:41

Can I have a trough of slop, please? Yeah. One trough of slop, please. Yeah, I I love my trough of slop. I did, you know, I did make my um weekly meal prep quite similar to what you're describing. I made crock pot, chicken teriyaki. Oh yeah, and yeah, of course, my big dense bean salad that I eat weekly, but this one I did um kind of like Asian style. So it's green cabbage, red cabbage, carrots, soybeans, chickpeas, a little red onion in there, peppers. Amazing. Yummy delicious.

SPEAKER_02 33:19

I need to get back into meal prepping. Yummy too. Because I like I used to do a lot of meal prepping when I worked in the office full time. But then now that I work from home like most of the week, I don't because I usually will come home at lunch. Um but when I worked in the office full time, I would do usually like a teriyaki chicken meal prepping bowl. And it was so good. But now I'm going to grad school, I will probably have to make a meal again. You'll need it again. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 33:44

I am a meal prepper, but I also am like, I don't know, I'm single and live alone. And like what I hear from people that like my sister, I'm always like, you need to figure your diet out and start meal prepping. And she's like, Well, I don't want to eat the same thing every day.

SPEAKER_02 33:58

And I that doesn't bother me at all.

SPEAKER_03 33:59

I know, and I and I always have to remember, oh yeah, people don't like that because like I maybe this is some sort of neurodivergence, I don't know, but I get really fixated on meals and I will eat it every single day for months. I mean, there was one summer, I think like two summers ago, I started making like um like a homemade burrito bowl, and I ate it every single day for six months. Every day for six months, the same exact meal, and I I never got sick of it.

SPEAKER_00 34:28

Yeah, you were thrilled.

SPEAKER_03 34:29

Yeah, I still eat it. This is how I am with my miso etamame dense bean salad. I eat it constantly with my teriyaki chicken. Yeah, I just love it, and I am someone who can eat the same thing every single day and never get sick of it. So meal prepping to me.

SPEAKER_00 34:45

I feel like I can, but I don't know. Like, meal prepping has always been hard for me as well because I'm like, if I'm gonna make a full crock pot of it, I don't know if I want like white chicken chili for a full week. Like, but I'm also realizing that uh there are some times where I'm like, well, I could I do want this meal consistently, yeah, and it usually is like Christmas food. So like green bean casserole.

SPEAKER_05 35:09

Yeah, very Midwestern of you.

SPEAKER_00 35:11

I'm always down for green bean casserole, it doesn't matter what time of year. Like, and found out recently that so was my dad. So literally, like once every like two or three weeks for the last like six months, we're making like green bean casserole.

SPEAKER_03 35:23

Love that. Yummy, very Midwestern.

SPEAKER_00 35:25

It's great. It is very Midwestern, and yeah, we also do this like corn, cream corn thing. Yummy. Also, like once every very Midwestern. Three or four weeks. It's a lot, but um, we're happy. You guys, what's on my mind right now still is Petico Junction.

SPEAKER_03 35:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:40

And I have to tell you guys, there is this moment so getting emotional. Getting emotional because so Petico Junction, one of the reasons it was so successful, um, is because the main character, Kate Bradley, she's like this middle-aged woman that's like running the whole show, and the actress for it, B. Benadarett, was honestly superb. She was the pillar of Petico Junction, and she got sick at season season five and season six. Uh, she had cancer, I don't lung cancer, breast cancer, I don't, I don't remember. Um, but she got really sick, and so her character like kind of like kept disappearing, like would all of a sudden just like not show up, and then the the writers would just write her off being like, oh, Kate's over doing something in Pixley, and so she won't come back for a while, and then she's gone for several episodes. And one of the reasons that this is like so like why am I so emotional about it? Because her last episode was um a body double. There was someone else standing in for her, but she recorded her last lines literally on her deathbed.

SPEAKER_04 36:59

Wow.

SPEAKER_00 37:00

Wow, like she still was like so dedicated to the show, and the the episode where her her last appearance was was actually the day that her character's daughter gave birth. And so it is this like very like bittersweet moment. Yeah. Um and there's like this whole frame because that episode also aired like two or three days after she had died. Wow. And so, like, it was this like posthumous, like well-wishing because the speech that she gave was basically like, I'm so proud of you, I'm so so happy to welcome this new person into our into our family, into our home. It was this really, really sweet, like final last line, not only for Kate Bradley as a character, but also for B. Benedarrett, like wishing this show of hers, like she didn't create it, but she like played a very important part in its success, um, which is also part of the reason why it ended the next season because I just couldn't pick up the pieces once she was gone. And she was honestly a fantastic actress. She was also the only one that was like honestly the most proficient on the show. Like, everyone acting-wise was just like very subpar, like again, very like Disney channel sitcom kind of acting for everyone else, but hers was like superb, and yeah, I still like mourn mourn the loss of her. I'm still so I'm finishing the last like season, and the other thing I'm very like sad about is that they don't talk about it at all, they don't address the fact that she's gone in show at all. Yeah, and I'm like, if and I know this was a 60s, it was a different time in television, but this was a miss. And I think there's a lot of shows today that should still learn that lesson that, like, if like if somebody dies, address it, talk about it, like have that moment because not only are the characters in that show and the actors in the show grieving, but like also the viewers are. And I feel like Petticoe Junction was a really good example of like missing the mark on that because the reason you watch Pettico Junction is to watch Kate Bradley, and so now she's not there. And now why isn't she there? Yeah, now now we don't want to watch.

SPEAKER_02 39:11

Yeah. Did you did you guys see the um Eric Dane Famous Last Words? Yes. Yeah, did you see Eric Dane just died? Um, who was uh mixteamy on Grey's Anatomy, and he hasn't been on Grey's Anatomy for a while, but at the like the most recent episode, they had like an in-memorium type thing at the end, which did make me cry.

SPEAKER_03 39:32

Oh, of Grey's Anatomy.

SPEAKER_02 39:33

Yeah, of Grey's Anatomy.

SPEAKER_03 39:34

I thought you were talking about Famous Last Words, that Netflix show. But yeah, he did.

SPEAKER_02 39:38

I haven't watched that yet because I don't think I'm strong enough. No, I'm not sure. But he he filmed he filmed essentially a documentary too of himself like saying his last word. I think he was only diagnosed like I want to say 11 months ago. Yeah, it was within a year.

SPEAKER_03 39:50

It's been less than a year.

SPEAKER_02 39:51

Yeah, and I I believe the status of most people's ALS die within two to three years of diagnosis. Um but yeah, I was like, wow, that is really he's quite young. Yeah, and I was surprised. I I I guess I don't know if I was surprised, but it kind of like touched me to see that like in memoriam for him, even though he's not a part of the show anymore, it's like he was on for so long and he was like such an important character. And um I was just like wow, thingy of him and his and his kiddos.

SPEAKER_00 40:20

Yeah, because that was the only part of the like one of his last words with like that message to his kids. Oh wow, I saw a portion of it and said 15 seconds is enough. Yeah, that was cute. That was and I'm crying, so bye.

SPEAKER_03 40:32

Well, what you were saying was reminding me of that famous last words program on Netflix. And I was gonna ask what you what are you what are both of your thoughts on that? Like doing something like that, because I think it's kind of cool, but I also think it's like a little bit dystopian and weird at the same time to have this sort of famous last words, this last message to the world available exclusively on Netflix with this subscription per month. You know what I mean? Like it's a little there's something a little weird about it at the same time, even though I think conceptually it's very like beautiful.

SPEAKER_02 41:07

Yeah, I think it's kind of like a both and where like I think it's something really beautiful. I think especially for something like ALS, where like ALS very much goes in waves of people caring about it and giving money to it. Yeah. Um, like there was the ice bucket challenge, and they received so many dominations, and then it was just like dry.

SPEAKER_05 41:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 41:26

And then with Eric Dane getting diagnosed, there was like a little bit more interest. Um, and I think like it it serves a good purpose. And I also think like Nick and I and you were all kind of interested in death in different ways. Um, and I think it's like nice to actually see somebody talking and like saying their last words and addressing that they're gonna die and not pretending it's not gonna happen. And I think like it does benefit culture to have something like that, especially from somebody who is so famous and is known for their body and their voice. Yeah, like it's kind of I don't know if empowering's the right word, but I can't quite say what it is. Um like even just thinking about like Miss J in the America Snocks Tap Model documentary, like he was talking about how he had a stroke and he is somebody who taught people how to walk and he couldn't walk. He can't really walk. Yeah, yeah. Um he can walk now, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 42:16

Since the documentary was made, I love walking. I love that.

SPEAKER_02 42:20

But like, you know, I think there is something kind of empowering about that. And at the same time, I wish it was, you know, available to all and not just behind a paywall. Yeah. And then there's like the other reality, like uh James Vanderbeek just recently died as well from um, I want to say prostate cancer.

SPEAKER_03 42:37

Uh colon cancer.

SPEAKER_02 42:38

Or colon cancer, yeah. And he died, and he there was a GoFundMe setup for his family.

SPEAKER_03 42:44

Second question.

SPEAKER_02 42:45

There was a gofundme setup, and people are getting really angry. And I I do understand the outrage because there are there's so many things you can give your money to right now. Um and maybe that's not the most important on the totem pole, but like the reality of dying in the United States is that it's going to bankrupt you. Yes. And like, even if you were famous, if you have some money, it can still bankrupt you. Um, and I think for Eric Dane too, I would imagine that he probably got paid a lot of money for that, and that probably goes towards his kids. Absolutely. And so I think there's something that is still very dystopian about that because it's like, hey, if somebody dies, um they shouldn't be looking for great ways to cash in so that their family's all right. Yeah. Like that's so that I think that's the dystopian part of it, right? Is that that's even a consideration.

SPEAKER_00 43:31

It's fucked up.

SPEAKER_02 43:32

Yeah, and I um it's crazy.

SPEAKER_00 43:34

It is crazy, and I agree. I agree with you that like this idea that it's like behind, and I agree with you too.

SPEAKER_03 43:38

This idea that it's like behind a paywall, that there's like it's behind a paywall and it's also reserved for like celebrities, yeah, famous people. Yeah, you know.

SPEAKER_00 43:47

I think because Jane didn't Jane Goodall do one. Yes.

SPEAKER_03 43:49

That's I think what kind of started it. Or that was the first one on Netflix. I think it's just Jane Goodall and Eric Dane who've done it on Netflix.

SPEAKER_00 43:56

Is that it? Okay.

SPEAKER_03 43:57

I think so. Yeah, I don't have Netflix either. It seems like it's gonna be. Like a thing that I continues on.

SPEAKER_00 44:02

Because I do think it is interesting. Again, all the points you're saying, that like it does raise in very interesting like social awareness to death and dying because that is very famously what we like to avoid. But yeah, I like, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 44:16

I think there's I think there's also too, it's interesting to contrast that with the people who are online. Um I've I am interested in ALS professionally. Um, I don't have a personal connection to it besides like I don't giving a shit about people, I guess, but like I do care about people with ALS, not just because I'm interested in it professionally. But there's people who are documenting their journeys with ALS online. There's an influencer who I I don't follow, I I don't know what his name is, but he used to make videos um, or he was already making videos when he got diagnosed with ALS. So he's been posting progression videos of like his voice, this is this many days or whatever. Um, and then Brooke, who goes by limp Brooks Brooks Kit on Brooks Kit on on Instagram and TikTok and stuff, and she's been posting, she's 35, I think, 36, and she is on hospice now. She's probably going to die soon. And she's been posting for the last couple of years her journey of being diagnosed with ALS and the dying process and like all the stuff that people don't talk about. And I think there is like an interesting for all of the shit that is social media and being inundated with information. I also think it is nice that there is an opportunity for people who aren't just celebrities to share what it's like, especially when they're young. Um, although I think older individuals need this too because they are also not allowed to talk about dying. Um, but there's like an interesting opportunity to hear voices of people who are dying or who who do want to have last words, or you know, there are people who have had like scheduled posts go out because they know that they're dying. Some instances in in very you know, sad upsetting ways, but in other instances, you know, just the end of a a disease, like a disease progression. And it always really touches me to see that.

SPEAKER_03 46:01

Have either of you watched Come See Me in the Good Light yet or heard anything about it? What is it? Um well it's about it's a documentary that was made by well, one of the people who made it Tignitaro, famous lesbian comedian. Yes, I do know what you're talking about. And it's a documentary about um I can't think of their last name, Andrea, a famous queer poet.

SPEAKER_02 46:24

Andrea I I know who you're talking about.

SPEAKER_00 46:29

Yeah, we'll we'll get to it.

SPEAKER_03 46:39

Um it's about Andrea Gibson, a famous queer poet who um died recently, and the documentary, yeah, is just uh documenting their death, really. And um Andrea was one of Tig's like best, closest friends, and it just got nominated for an Oscar. I'm like, this should be our group project to watch Come See Me in the Good Light. It's on Apple TV. And now that we're on Melissa's Family Plan, it should be our homework to watch Come See Me in the Good Light because yeah, it's like documenting um the the whole, to my understanding, premise of the documentary is like how do you continue to live life when you know your life is about to end? Yeah, so it's a very, I don't know, it's like a very harrowing documentary about uh the end of life and when you know that your life is going to end, like what do you do with it? How do you die with dignity? How do you like, you know? So I don't know, it seems very relevant to the conversation we're having now. And I've been meaning to watch it because I'm trying to watch all the Oscar noms.

SPEAKER_02 47:41

Wow. All the Oscar noms in just Best Picture or in certain categories.

SPEAKER_03 47:46

As m just as many as I can as many as you can. Wow.

SPEAKER_02 47:48

As many as I can, yeah. Ambitious. Yep. I don't know if I've seen any of the Oscar noms for best. Well, actually, yeah, I've seen I think is Sinners is this year, right?

SPEAKER_03 47:56

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 47:56

Okay, well, I've seen Sinners, but I think that's probably it.

SPEAKER_03 47:59

Um the award. I I want to watch all the like big ones. There's of course like the niche category. I probably won't be watching those.

SPEAKER_02 48:07

Can you can you name some? Name them. Name them, name them.

SPEAKER_03 48:11

Sinners, a sentimental value. Um, I can't think of the name of it, but it has um what's her face from Bridesmaids in it?

SPEAKER_02 48:21

Roseburn.

SPEAKER_03 48:22

Yes. Roseburn. I was gonna say Helen, but that's her character. That is her name. Okay, I also would like to add this as you know a digression. We're playing a game in Hawaii. We're playing some like blockbuster game where it's like you pick three movie cards.

SPEAKER_02 48:36

Oh, I would not want to do that with Raylan and her family, my god.

SPEAKER_03 48:40

Correct. And you have to um you pick three cards and then you have to slot them into three categories. One where you can say one word to describe it. Oh, I think I've got it. One where you act it out, and then another one where you quote it.

SPEAKER_05 48:51

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 48:52

And I picked bridesmaids, and for act it out, I literally acted the scene. Keep smiling, keep shining, knowing you can always count on me.

SPEAKER_01 49:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 49:05

For sure. No one got it. What?

SPEAKER_01 49:08

No one family, nobody got it. In that family family. You're joking.

SPEAKER_03 49:12

They were like, what? I was like, in that SNL family, nobody got it.

SPEAKER_01 49:16

Wow.

SPEAKER_03 49:17

They were like, oh yeah, oh yeah, I guess. I couldn't believe it. I was like, excuse me.

SPEAKER_02 49:23

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_03 49:24

I know. So I have um.

SPEAKER_02 49:26

I'll be texting Raylan like a death threat.

SPEAKER_03 49:29

So I have that to hold over Raylan's head as well as having seen Silence of the Lambs before her. That's huge. Yeah. That's huge. She had never seen Silent. I said, You are like the most movie-pilled person I've ever met, and you've never seen Silence of the Lambs. That's so crazy. You know that clip from um Selling Sunset where it's like quiet, and the one lady's like, De Silent O de Lam.

SPEAKER_02 49:50

No.

SPEAKER_03 49:50

And everyone's like, What? And she's like, De Silent O'De Lam. And everyone's like, oh because it's like they're in a quiet room.

SPEAKER_00 50:03

Yeah. I love that. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_03 50:04

I mean silent o de lam.

SPEAKER_02 50:07

Was that Hilaria Baldwin was saying it?

SPEAKER_03 50:09

No, the lady's like, uh, I think she's like Russian. Amazing. Yeah. Amazing. What?

SPEAKER_00 50:16

What? Like, what are you saying?

SPEAKER_03 50:17

De Silent Ode Lam.

SPEAKER_00 50:21

So talking about former SNL cast members doing something, I recently been watching Chloe Trost's uh YouTube series called Spilling Your Seed. And it has been it's just chaos. So it's bit do you guys know anything about it? No. So it's basically she's making fun of the um ancestry shows where they're like turn the page. Um and it is just madness in a very like Chloe Trost kind of way. Um when Chloe Trost came on to for her first season, she was like the one person where I was like, I want to watch, I want to watch SNL now because she's here. Yeah. Um, but then she left. They didn't welcome her back for the next season. So like I was just like, I remember this happening. Yeah. It was the one the one skit she did where she was singing to the moon, and the moon was Timothy Chalamet. Like that was that was the moment where I was like, I mean, I'm locked in. Um, but yeah, so she's doing the show and she's bringing on just like other random comedians, some that I've haven't seen before or heard of, so it's been kind of fun to explore that, but it's just it's kooky as hell.

SPEAKER_03 51:26

So I'll have to look it up. I have to check it out.

SPEAKER_00 51:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 51:28

You know, I'm always looking for content to consume. That's right. You know, and I went to some comedy shows this week.

SPEAKER_02 51:34

You did.

SPEAKER_00 51:35

I heard about it.

SPEAKER_02 51:37

We went to Mary Beth Perone Galaxy Brain Tour. Um and this Wednesday night in Minneapolis, which was amazing. And the opener was also really good. His name is Victor Carlesi. Carlisi. Um, he was great too. Uh, and yeah, it was amazing. And when her special comes out, watch it. And then very funny. Yeah. And then the next night we went to, which I talked about on pod, um, we went to like a variety show that she had with other comedians. And it was also amazing. Yeah. The audience was a little bit foul with that one, but the performances were incredible. Yeah. I was I was giggling, laughing.

SPEAKER_03 52:17

Yeah. The audience was weird. Um, where a lot weird in the sense of like, I don't think it was all just baronies in there.

SPEAKER_02 52:24

Yeah. Um which baronies are the is the fandom name for people who listen to Ride, and I guess maybe maybe people who just like Mary Beth Barone, but right.

SPEAKER_03 52:34

But most closely associated with Ride the Pod.

SPEAKER_02 52:37

Or close family.

SPEAKER_03 52:38

Yeah. Yeah. The crowd on the balcony was a little rude. There were people. I did have to have like a diva moment and like shush people. Good. Yeah. Yeah. The and uh and let me just add, it was a black woman on the stage performing a set, a local woman, a local black lesbian comedian. People were just talking through her set. I said, Shh, thank God.

SPEAKER_00 53:02

Keep you quiet down.

SPEAKER_03 53:03

Shut up.

SPEAKER_00 53:03

Thank you.

SPEAKER_03 53:04

Because why are you having a conversation right now? Yeah. And why was this the comedian of all the ones that you decided to talk through?

SPEAKER_02 53:14

I can't remember her last name. I followed her on Instagram. But she's very funny.

SPEAKER_03 53:18

Very funny. Yeah, very funny. When there's a lesbian speaking, let her speak.

SPEAKER_00 53:24

Time to speak. Let her speak. Let her speak.

SPEAKER_03 53:26

Let her speak. When a lesbian is speaking, I'm gonna quote Hilaria Baldwin. When I'm speaking, you're not speaking.

SPEAKER_04 53:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 53:34

Exactly. When I'm talking, you're not talking. Exactly. When a lesbian is talking, you're not talking. Exactly.

SPEAKER_04 53:41

So shut up.

SPEAKER_03 53:42

And I'm not afraid to shush people. If I'm at um a comedy show, if I'm at a movie, if I'm somewhere where there is like a person on stage who we need to pay attention to, or like something in front of us that we need to pay attention to, I will shush people. I'm not scared. Because why are you talking right now?

SPEAKER_02 54:00

I was near standing up and shushing people, and I am scared of shushing people, which is how bad it was.

SPEAKER_00 54:05

Wow.

SPEAKER_02 54:06

Yeah. That I would have done it. Yeah. Yeah. It was crazy as fuck. Yeah. But just the show itself was amazing. Almost $20,000 raised for Minneapolis Rent release, which is amazing. Yep. Um, it was just a great night. We got to see Pinky Barone, uh, which is Mary Beth Barone's dog. Yep. Cute. Brought on on stage. Celebrity sighting. Yeah. It was incredible. The whole crowd was like screaming, crying through. We were thrilled.

SPEAKER_03 54:31

It was amazing. It was a perfect night. Everyone who went on stage was so funny. So funny. So funny. It was an amazing night. Everyone was very funny. Um, and despite the crowd being a little rude at times, it was still a great night. And again, all proceeds um are going to rent relief in Minneapolis. Amazing. And can I just say, like, I know people love to talk about, you know, people speaking out and performative and da da da da da. We are living in times where like even the smallest actions feel meaningful. And when as a as a celebrity and pop culture obsessed person, I love it when a famous person I admire gives a shit. Uh-huh. I love it. And it does mean something. Even if it just means something to one person, it still means something. So yeah.

SPEAKER_02 55:19

It means a whole fucking lot. It does. I think even like uh I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_03 55:24

No, I was gonna say, and even if like one kind of like alt comedian, I guess, um can raise that much money, imagine how much money Taylor Swift could raise, Beyonce could raise, Rihanna could raise, billionaire celebrities, and I don't discriminate just against Taylor Swift. All fuck all of them. They could all be doing something.

SPEAKER_02 55:42

They'll be doing so much more with their billions and they're not.

SPEAKER_03 55:46

Um so yeah, if just one kind of like alt comedian can raise almost $20,000 from just one 90-minute show, like think of how much more people could be doing and they're choosing not to. It sucks. Right. Should we get into some confessions?

SPEAKER_00 56:00

Yeah, that's what I was just gonna say.

SPEAKER_03 56:01

Wow, sorry, beat you to the punch. Wow.

SPEAKER_00 56:06

Confess. Confess.

SPEAKER_03 56:08

My confession, I mean, I I kind of said this earlier, but my confession, my revelation, if you will, is that I think I need to live near the ocean.

SPEAKER_00 56:18

Gotta move to North Carolina.

SPEAKER_03 56:20

Which is crazy because like me, famously a summer hater, famously like uh, I don't really like the beach and swimming and all the ocean's different. Let me tell you, something I've learned the ocean and lakes couldn't be more different.

SPEAKER_00 56:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 56:37

Not a fan of lakes, big fan of the ocean. Everything was just better, and my skin was better. As soon as I touched down on on mainland soil, um, I became heinously ugly. I got a pimple on all four corners of my mouth, cystic acne.

unknown 56:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 56:56

I'm laughing, but it's not funny.

SPEAKER_03 56:57

But when I was like, you know, hit with the sea breeze every day, skin glowing hair, gorgeous, beautiful curls.

SPEAKER_02 57:03

The humidity.

SPEAKER_03 57:04

The humidity was doing things for my hair, for my skin. Yeah, it was so I don't know. I think even though I did just sign, you know, a lease, um break that shit and move through a high.

SPEAKER_02 57:14

I don't think I gotta consider.

SPEAKER_03 57:15

I know, I think I gotta move to a coast.

SPEAKER_02 57:17

Yeah. I was thinking this week I had a doctor's appointment, the same doctor's appointment I have every month because I get shots so that I don't get hives all the time. Um, and I went there and I had the same thought that I have almost every time. And I texted Holly actually this month a couple months ago. And my confession is the shit I fucking hate. It makes me irrationally angry. I actually was like simmering in my car after this, is when there's like a wide door that has there's like a wide, like picture you're going into like a large clinic, right? And there are doors that slide open, automatic doors, and there are big ones, they're wide, right? Let's say you could fit, I don't know, six average size people in the door, and I'm about to walk through, and somebody stops and lets me walk through the door and refuses to walk through the door at the same time as me. Hey, there's enough fucking space for both of us. Why the fuck? Wow, or people shooting me dirty looks. So anytime anybody pretends that more than one person can't go through a doorway, that you obviously can, and let's not being stupid, right? I'm not talking about small door, I'm not talking about when people need my space, like literally go through the fucking door if there's space. It makes me so fucking angry, and it almost always happens at clinics because that's where you're there's usually the most space.

SPEAKER_03 58:36

Because you need to fit things like stretchers and um wheelchairs and yeah, beds.

SPEAKER_02 58:43

Yeah. If I could fit two stretchers horizontally in the doorway, then me a person and you a person, we can walk through at the same time. I promise you this. I promise you fucking this. I was literally in my car like raging out this week, and I do this almost every month, I would say. So that's my confession.

SPEAKER_03 59:02

I love it. It's so funny and it's so niche too.

SPEAKER_00 59:04

I know it is, I know it's very specific. I have a confession on my list here. Uh, it says, I hate it when people shuffle their feet.

SPEAKER_03 59:13

Yeah, I don't like I don't like that. I mean my clouds right now.

SPEAKER_00 59:17

I think it's different though. I remember I think I put this on the list because I was thinking thinking about my old job, and there was this one woman that walked past my desk every day. So the in this old job, they had a they had a phone, but they didn't have like a directory system to like like people didn't have phones at their desk. They had like a house phone that there'd be one person that would answer the phone, and then in order to direct the call, you'd put that phone on hold and walk it to the person that was in the office.

SPEAKER_02 59:51

Great system.

SPEAKER_00 59:51

No, it was great. Yeah. So yeah, so somebody would answer the phone. You'd uh they'd say, Oh, I'm calling for so-and-so. You put it on hold and you walk by, and this one woman that would always walk by, shuffle her feet. Every day. I'm like, Jesus, uh, pick up your feet.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:07

Was she old or young?

SPEAKER_00 1:00:08

No, she was young.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:09

Because I was gonna say, I feel like shuffling your feet's a young person's game.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:12

It is like a young thing, but she also was she was older at older than me at the time, but she was only like 30.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:18

Okay, she's too old for shuffling, right?

SPEAKER_03 1:00:21

And I was like not everyone grew up with a parent that said, pick up your feet when you walk. I mean, that's true. And I learned that and I and I did grow up with a parent who did that.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:29

Yeah, yeah. And I was like, and the thing is is like it would happen at like the moments where I'd be really frustrated at like something I'm proofreading. She was ready, she was ready with her clogs, and I was like, oh boy. Every day she's shuffling, every day she's shuffling and disturbing everyone else. Yeah, that would drive me nuts. Yeah, it was quite a lot. And I'm still still upset about it. So yeah, and I guess it's now turned into a pet peeve where if I hear someone shuffle their feet, I like have no patience for it. Walk with pride, walk with pride, pick up your feet, and that's why it was on my like 2026 list. I was like, pick up your feet when you walk. Yeah, I love that.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:08

I like that Holly's confession was like, I should live near an ocean. And we're like, fuck everyone.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:13

Fuck everyone.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:14

Yeah, I mean, I'm not usually like, you know, filled with love and and positivity.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:18

You know what I like to say? Love looks good on you, babe.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:20

Love looks good on you. Love looks good on you.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:23

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:25

Do you want to do a send-off, Holly?

SPEAKER_02 1:01:27

Yeah, what are you thinking, Miss Love and Light?

SPEAKER_03 1:01:30

I'm thinking Send us off with a prayer.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:33

Mahalo.

unknown 1:01:35

Hi!

SPEAKER_02 1:01:37

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