Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises
Welcome, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies & DNA Surprises podcast, where we will discuss our relationships with our mothers including how they were growing up, leading up to our discovery, during our discovery and since learning our truths.
We will have unfiltered conversations about our struggles with our mothers and dive into how we’ve uncovered who we are after her lies!
Thank you for being here, you are not alone!
I am an NPE, actually a double NPE, which means Not Parent Expected or Non Paternity Event. I found out that the man listed on my birth certificate isn’t my biological father, twice. For many of us we learn through at home DNA tests, others hear rumors of family secrets and confirm through a DNA test.
Within the community of DNA Surprises there are thousands of NPEs, Late Discovery Adoptees (LDAs) and Donor Conceived People (DCPs) learning their truths. The ongoing thing I hear is how many of us had struggles with our mothers most of our lives, while others had struggles since discovery. For a number of people learning our truths answered so many questions and for others it opened up so many wounds, unanswered questions or left them feeling so alone. After finding the large community of others who have gone through this the common struggle I hear from so many is the relationship with our mothers.
I wanted to create a space where we can share the struggles we have with our mothers, helping others to know they are not alone and supporting each other.
For some this is the first time they are sharing their stories and for others we’ve shared our stories but now are ready to discuss the relationships with our mothers more in depth.
Thank you for joining us and for supporting this community!
Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises
Bobbi's Story
Welcome,
Today I am sharing Bobbi’s story and our conversation! I loved my conversation with Bobbi for a number of reasons, one of those reasons is being able to hear her story and perspective from three different angles…yes, 3. Bobbi is able to openly and honestly talk about not only her story but to also speak about her past mistakes and the decisions that were made during hard times which isn’t easy. She wanted to share so many others are able to see multiple points of views and to possibly help other mothers who have made similar decisions to come forward and share their stories as well. Bobbi’s hope is that any of us with NPE surprises can offer grace, love and support to others and ideally to other mothers who may be looking for help in deciding when or how to tell the truth will hear her story .
One of my takeaways from our conversation is that not every story is the same (as we know) but sometimes there are generational behaviors that lead to some of our discoveries and traumas but hearing Bobbi’s story shows us that breaking generational behaviors benefits so many!
Thank you Bobbi for being very vulnerable and sharing your story with us!
Below are links to Bobbi's book, previous podcast interview and her contact email:
"Descendant Deception" Bobbi's book she wrote that is fiction based on her truth-Amazon book link:
Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bobbis-dna-surprise/id1598395367?i=1000678304934
Email:
redangelgirl@gmail.com
Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay
