Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises
Welcome, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies & DNA Surprises podcast, where we will discuss our relationships with our mothers including how they were growing up, leading up to our discovery, during our discovery and since learning our truths.
We will have unfiltered conversations about our struggles with our mothers and dive into how we’ve uncovered who we are after her lies!
Thank you for being here, you are not alone!
I am an NPE, actually a double NPE, which means Not Parent Expected or Non Paternity Event. I found out that the man listed on my birth certificate isn’t my biological father, twice. For many of us we learn through at home DNA tests, others hear rumors of family secrets and confirm through a DNA test.
Within the community of DNA Surprises there are thousands of NPEs, Late Discovery Adoptees (LDAs) and Donor Conceived People (DCPs) learning their truths. The ongoing thing I hear is how many of us had struggles with our mothers most of our lives, while others had struggles since discovery. For a number of people learning our truths answered so many questions and for others it opened up so many wounds, unanswered questions or left them feeling so alone. After finding the large community of others who have gone through this the common struggle I hear from so many is the relationship with our mothers.
I wanted to create a space where we can share the struggles we have with our mothers, helping others to know they are not alone and supporting each other.
For some this is the first time they are sharing their stories and for others we’ve shared our stories but now are ready to discuss the relationships with our mothers more in depth.
Thank you for joining us and for supporting this community!
Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises
Jenny's Story
Hello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.
Today I am sharing my conversation with Jenny regarding her story! First I want to share a few trigger warnings with Jenny’s conversation, part of her story includes childhood sexual abuse and mental health struggles. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis there is free, confidential help available 24/7 by calling or texting 988 or chatting on line at 988lifeline.org. There is also 24/7 support available through the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-HOPE or text Hope to 64673.
Jenny had a feeling of being different as a child, rough childhood and as I can relate to she always daydreamed about a better life. As a teenager she actually confronted her mother about her father. She was really close with her mother during this time, trusting that her mother would never lie about her paternity. Once she married and moved away from her childhood environment and started her family she realized the toxicity within her raised family.
As you will hear in her story when she went no contact, broke that no contact to try and get answers and then back to no contact for her mental health. Jenny is very honest about her mental health struggles during her NPE discovery and the work she’s done. She will tell us about where she is with her new paternal family.
Thank you Jenny for being very vulnerable, honest and for sharing your story with us!
Jenny Lynn links:
Email:
thejenbuehler@gmail.com
Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay
