Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises
Welcome, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies & DNA Surprises podcast, where we will discuss our relationships with our mothers including how they were growing up, leading up to our discovery, during our discovery and since learning our truths.
We will have unfiltered conversations about our struggles with our mothers and dive into how we’ve uncovered who we are after her lies!
Thank you for being here, you are not alone!
I am an NPE, actually a double NPE, which means Not Parent Expected or Non Paternity Event. I found out that the man listed on my birth certificate isn’t my biological father, twice. For many of us we learn through at home DNA tests, others hear rumors of family secrets and confirm through a DNA test.
Within the community of DNA Surprises there are thousands of NPEs, Late Discovery Adoptees (LDAs) and Donor Conceived People (DCPs) learning their truths. The ongoing thing I hear is how many of us had struggles with our mothers most of our lives, while others had struggles since discovery. For a number of people learning our truths answered so many questions and for others it opened up so many wounds, unanswered questions or left them feeling so alone. After finding the large community of others who have gone through this the common struggle I hear from so many is the relationship with our mothers.
I wanted to create a space where we can share the struggles we have with our mothers, helping others to know they are not alone and supporting each other.
For some this is the first time they are sharing their stories and for others we’ve shared our stories but now are ready to discuss the relationships with our mothers more in depth.
Thank you for joining us and for supporting this community!
Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises
Rebecca's Story Part 2
Hello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here. Today I am sharing part two of Rebecca’s story and the rest of our conversation!
As Rebecca’s story continues, she shares that first phone call with her raised father after he was told the truth about Rebecca’s paternity.
Rebecca talks about getting her control back after conforming her whole life for her mother. How she decided to do better than her mother at any cost, she wants to be a better human. The one thing I thought while I listened to Rebecca talk about her interaction with her raised mother and father is that it is like standing up to a bully really. They are manipulators that we’ve always had in our lives.
She will also share how therapy is invaluable. We talk about the grief of losing somebody that is still alive, which is very powerful to say that out loud.
Those of us with our Mothers still alive ask ourselves “how will I feel when I get the call that my mother died? Each of us have to answer this question for ourselves, Rebecca has a great perspective on this.
She wants others to know that you can come out the other side. That it’s ok to grieve the mother you never had.
As a bonus you will hear one of her pups interject during our interview.
Thank again Rebecca for sharing your story and for everyone who is here and knowing that we are not alone!
If you would like to connect with Rebecca you can find her on Facebook at Rebecca Neale or you can email me at mothersliesanddnasurprises@gmail.com.
Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay
