Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises
Welcome, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies & DNA Surprises podcast, where we will discuss our relationships with our mothers including how they were growing up, leading up to our discovery, during our discovery and since learning our truths.
We will have unfiltered conversations about our struggles with our mothers and dive into how we’ve uncovered who we are after her lies!
Thank you for being here, you are not alone!
I am an NPE, actually a double NPE, which means Not Parent Expected or Non Paternity Event. I found out that the man listed on my birth certificate isn’t my biological father, twice. For many of us we learn through at home DNA tests, others hear rumors of family secrets and confirm through a DNA test.
Within the community of DNA Surprises there are thousands of NPEs, Late Discovery Adoptees (LDAs) and Donor Conceived People (DCPs) learning their truths. The ongoing thing I hear is how many of us had struggles with our mothers most of our lives, while others had struggles since discovery. For a number of people learning our truths answered so many questions and for others it opened up so many wounds, unanswered questions or left them feeling so alone. After finding the large community of others who have gone through this the common struggle I hear from so many is the relationship with our mothers.
I wanted to create a space where we can share the struggles we have with our mothers, helping others to know they are not alone and supporting each other.
For some this is the first time they are sharing their stories and for others we’ve shared our stories but now are ready to discuss the relationships with our mothers more in depth.
Thank you for joining us and for supporting this community!
Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises
Jamie & Frannie's Story
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Hello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.
On today’s episode you will hear Jamie, the oldest sister and Frannie, the youngest sister share their DNA surprise story, a perspective we don’t hear often.
They will share how their Mother always told them that their Grandma (otherwise known as Graham Cracker) was the “knower of all, teller of none” and now they know why.
They tell us how they are so grateful that their Grandma has been able to share her memories to help, even if a little bit, answer some questions, that their mother is not open to talking about.
They both agree that they could have a good relationship with their mother if she allowed herself to be honest and vulnerable but she can’t or won’t.
What I loved about my conversation with Jamie & Frannie is the amount of love they have for their new sibling, and I hope that others who hear their story will learn and realize how the openness towards a new family member can make all the difference.
And also, when we read, hear or learn about DNA surprises we don’t always remember there are children of, siblings of adoptees, Donor conceived persons or NPEs that are also affected deeply by the lies!
They will share some great advice on how to take care of ourselves during this journey including not to carry the shame of our mothers.
Thank you again Jamie & Frannie for sharing your story with us and your point of view as the siblings of a brother who was lost to adoption!
If you would like to connect with Jamie and/or Frannie please email me at mothersliesanddnasurprises@gmail.com
Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay
