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Defiance of Silence - A Sacred Witness

Defiance of Silence – A Sacred Witness is a podcast for survivors, healers, and those who walk beside them. Together, we stand against the silence that isolates us, and embrace the silence that allows us to be truly heard.

Hosted by Valerie — a U.S. Army veteran, Nurse, survivor, and trauma-informed witness — the show was born from her own two-decade journey of healing from sexual trauma and the power of being witnessed. Through real and unpolished conversations, guests share stories of courage, grief, resilience, and awakening.

This is not therapy. This is not performance. This is sacred witness. A space where vulnerability becomes strength, and where no one has to carry their story alone.

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Defiance of Silence - A Sacred Witness

Rachael - Loving a Survivor - A Sacred Witness at Home

December 03, 2025 • Valerie Foglesong • Season 1 • Episode 8

What does it take to love someone through trauma without losing yourself? We sit down with Rachel—forensic nurse, educator, and secondary survivor—to unpack the messy, courageous work of building safety, voice, and trust when PTSD lives in the home. From a brave early disclosure on a blind date to a life-saving inpatient stay and a parking-lot pregnancy reveal, her story is equal parts raw and deeply hopeful.

Rachel explains why their earliest agreements mattered: medication choices stayed with him and his doctor, he owned appointments, and she stepped out of the fixer role. We walk through the strain of loud PTSD episodes, the quiet damage of walking on eggshells, and the moment a therapist finally said, “It’s time.” Later, a shared trauma retreat reframed everything: secondary trauma is still trauma, and healing belongs to witnesses, too. Rachel describes laying down resentment, learning somatic regulation, and rebuilding a marriage around honest needs and compassionate boundaries. She also shares what didn’t work—unsafe communities that wanted curated stories—and how safe witnesses, consistent therapy, and body work changed their family’s rhythm.

As a forensic nurse, Rachel brings a trauma-informed lens: consent, pacing, and the sacred weight of someone’s story. She offers practical takeaways for caregivers and survivors alike—safety plans with clear steps, removing lethal means, centering the patient’s voice, and modeling resilience for kids. We end with a simple grounding exercise you can use today to release what isn’t yours to carry.

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Rachael Reynolds is a Forensic Nurse and educator with over 15 years of experience in Labor & Delivery, Pediatrics, Hospice, and Sexual Assault Forensic Examination. As both a nurse, secondary survivor of sexual assault and the spouse of a survivor, Rachael brings a deeply personal perspective to her work and advocacy. She and her husband Ashton have been married for 15 and a half years, growing side by side as they navigate the realities of PTSD, trauma recovery, the healing power of empathy, and the everyday work of healing — while raising four incredible children. Together,

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