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Defiance of Silence - A Sacred Witness

Defiance of Silence – A Sacred Witness is a podcast for survivors, healers, and those who walk beside them. Together, we stand against the silence that isolates us, and embrace the silence that allows us to be truly heard.

Hosted by Valerie — a U.S. Army veteran, Nurse, survivor, and trauma-informed witness — the show was born from her own two-decade journey of healing from sexual trauma and the power of being witnessed. Through real and unpolished conversations, guests share stories of courage, grief, resilience, and awakening.

This is not therapy. This is not performance. This is sacred witness. A space where vulnerability becomes strength, and where no one has to carry their story alone.

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Defiance of Silence - A Sacred Witness

Becca - Radical Acceptance & Forgiveness: A Practice That Softens Shame

December 17, 2025 • Valerie Foglesong • Season 1 • Episode 9

Some stories crack the shell and let the light in. Valerie sits with Becca—a tattoo artist, mom, and survivor—who turns the old script of silence on its head and shows how radical self-forgiveness can rebuild a life. We move through early violations and the ache of not being believed, into the adult patterns that followed: people pleasing, numbing with alcohol, and mistaking compliance for consent. When a trusted friend crossed a line, Becca didn’t just name the harm; she learned to name her nervous system, too. Fawn and flop aren’t character flaws—they’re survival responses—and that simple truth can dissolve years of shame.

What changes once shame loosens its grip? Becca shares the tools that actually worked. Journaling that challenges “Is this 100% true?” Mindset shifts that turn ten negatives into ten grounded positives. A practice of “neutralizing” people—not saints, not monsters—so the body can stop whiplashing between idealization and resentment. She even reframed abandonment, finding the ways it made room for real love, presence with her kids, and sharper empathy for unseen people. As a creative holding space for clients’ stories, she learned that carrying someone’s pain doesn’t lighten their load; witnessing without judgment does.

The heart of this conversation is radical responsibility rooted in compassion. Not blame. Not perfection. A daily choice to send love to the self-inside the memory, to retire the word "should" and to take one steady step at a time. If you’re ready to heal without a checklist, to trade drama’s “internal drugstore” for nervous system peace, and to feel truly witnessed, this one meets you where you are and walks with you forward.

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Becca Nushell is a tattoo artist, content creator, and mom who has learned the power of radical self forgiveness. By taking full responsibility for her life, she has shifted from living in a victim mindset to finding genuine peace and freedom. Her story is about healing through accountability, compassion, and truth.

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