#42 - Behind the Scenes of Business Expansion, Hosting a Love Temple & Navigating Life (S3)

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my last two and a half months in Tenerife — a chapter of deep expansion, passion projects, and high-level business growth. I share how I navigated building and selling new offers, hosting transformative experiences like the Edge Temple and in-person breathwork events, and balancing personal energy and capacity. You’ll hear how I structure my seasons of business growth, align with intention, and integrate identity and embodiment into every decision. This episode is a peek into the real-life rhythm of scaling a premium business while staying grounded and fully alive.

Key Takeaways
⚡ How intentional seasonal planning (building, selling, delivery, capacity) transforms your business and life.
⚡ Lessons from hosting transformational events — creating safe, magnetic spaces that expand leadership and feminine energy.
⚡ The art of balancing passion projects with your main business while maintaining personal and energetic capacity.
⚡ How micro-strategies like intentional DMs, small touches, and client-first approach amplify consistent, premium sales.

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Transcript

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Welcome to the Bolt Expansion Podcast. You are here because you know your business is meant for more. I'm your host, M.A. Drott, and this is where you'll learn how to make more money, create transformational offers, and step into your truth as a leader. Through premium strategy, identity work and my signature method, Millionaire Breastwork. Each week you'll get the strategy and the shift to expand your wealth, your impact, and your freedom. This is Bold Expansion. Are you ready?

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This episode is gonna be slightly different than most episodes because I wanted to take you behind the scenes with me on my last two and a half months of staying in Tenerife. Tenerife is one of my favorite places in the whole world. I've lived there many times, twice for eight months, and then I keep coming back for two, three months every now and then. And every time I feel like this is the last chapter here, it ends up not being the last, but being another initiation. And there's something really special about this island because it does something to my energy. If you know about astrocartography, then you know that there are certain places giving you different chapters. And for me, Tenerife has been very connected to feminine energy, to my heart, to opening up more as a woman. And this chapter was no different. And it has been a big season of building. Now I want to give you a little bit of context here. In business, I look at it as different seasons. I love going in with intention because I'm moving around a lot. There's a lot of things happening, and the structure in my business and the clarity of what I'm working on and why and what my expectations are from myself to myself. I think the highest commitment that you can make is the one towards yourself. It helps me to understand, okay, why am I making certain choices? So there is four seasons in business growth that I pay attention to. And the first one is the building season. This is where you create new offers, where you start selling it for the first time, where you're really working on new messaging and doing new things, adding new things to your business. Maybe you're refining certain things as well that you've created in the past and they need a refreshment or they need a new angle or new positioning. The second season is the season of selling. This is where you can get the benefits of the work that you've done in the building season, where your new messaging is landing, where you're showing up more bold, you're speaking more boldly. You are so in love with the offer that you build in the messaging that you are so excited to sell at this point. And this is where consistent sales really come in. And it's not just a one-time building launch type of situation. And then the third season is delivery. Delivery is where you're a little bit more focused on your clients and delivering and how you can do that in the best way. Now, this is a tricky one because some of you are very comfortable showing up for delivery. But if you only focus on delivery and you don't keep selling, even if it's in a less forward way, then after delivery you need to forcefully sell because you're in a dry desert. Maybe you've had this before. It's the roller coaster. A lot of the entrepreneurs are on when there's no consistent sales coming in, but they're in launch and then delivery and in launch and then delivery, and it's quite messy, to be honest. And then the fourth one is capacity. This is about personal capacity, but also in your business. Maybe you want to make some changes, set different boundaries, create different structures, close down certain offers. It's really a moment where you look at how do I want to move forward if I still want to expand and if I want to grow. And this is also where your identity and your capacity, your nervous system might be more in the front of what you're looking at. These seasons are themes. It does not mean that in the building season you're not selling, or that in the delivery season you're not selling, or in the capacity season you cannot create anything new, right? It's just that is where your intention goes. And if you've known me for a while, you know I'm quite intentional. I love being intentional in business, but also in life. I think it's so freaking sexy. It's about having focus and understanding the bigger picture. And when you do that, your business and your life and everything else becomes so much more connected to the higher vision, to the bigger thing that you're building. So everything you do can make a lot more impact. If you're just living from month to month, and I've done this in the past as well, you tend to, or me, I, but maybe it's true for you as well, I tend to end up being more reactive. And my nervous system does not like that. My creativity does not like that. Like when I go about my business, one thing that I do is I sit myself down every year and I make an overview. I call this the wealthiest year yet. And it's a program that I run also once a year, so you can join it next year if you wish. And my clients in Expand Mastermind all have access to this one. I highly recommend it, even when it's halfway through the year, because this gives you this bigger picture overview where you know, okay, this is a season of this, is a season of that, and how it's supporting your life. Because we're building a business not to take over your life, but to support it, to make it better, to make it bigger. And when you start to understand, that's when it becomes really fun, because you can already schedule in your holidays, you can schedule in the season where you're slowing down. And you can also intentionally choose this is a season where I'm showing up more, more boldly, I'm choosing more expansion. And that was definitely what the two and a half months for me were in Tenerife. Now I actually was not meant to be in Tenerife because I was quite set on staying in Portugal for winter this year. And I was there for two months, but when I was in Tenerife, I was earlier 20 or I was end of 2025, beginning 2026, December, January, I was already in Tenerife. I was visiting a friend, having Christmas with her. I had a beautiful time, and I thought this is gonna be my last time because a lot of the people that I knew in the community in Tenerife decided to move away. And very often when I go to Tenerife, it almost feels like this is gonna be the last time. But every time there pops up some new reason for me to come back. And so last time there was also a friend of mine that I met in Bali, he was in Tenerife, and he hosted a love temple. For those of you who are into Tantra, I know a lot of you in my audience are have beautiful clients in this field as well, and I'm quite deep in it. I have been for the last five years, and it actually also started with Tenerife. My first ever Tantra workshop happened on Tenerife. It was very mild, and I was prepared for the worst. If you don't know anything about Tantra, you might have wild ideas, which I definitely had at the time, and then that workshop showed me that it was mostly inner child work and eye gazing, which was not at all what I expected. But that is actually a really big part of Tantra. The intimacy, the consent, the boundaries, the desires. For me, I like my tantra a little bit more spicy, and love temples are a part of that. A love temple, you can also look it up, maybe ask ChatGPT about it. That would actually be funny. I've never done that. But a love temple, how I would explain it, is a big playground where you can explore. And within the boundaries and the guidelines of that container, of course, it's different how every love temple is created and brought to the experience because it's just I love this example actually of it's just like DJs. Sometimes you go to a party or even to an aesthetic dance, and then you hate it because the DJ in your eyes is shit. And then you might think some people think I hate aesthetic dance because I went once and it was horrible. Actually, you just didn't like that DJ. And I think it's for a lot of workshops the same. The facilitator has so much influence in your experience. And so a love temple, it really depends on where you go and what the rules are. Some are open to are sex positive, some are not. And this one was not open to that. I've been to some that have, but it's not so much about that. It is not a sex party, it is really about the connection, it's about meeting yourself at your edge, which is something I'm really excited about. And so my experiences when I go to these temples always stretch me. Now, in my last season, I wasn't so much going to these places, but my friend invited me to be part of the team as an assistant. I've done that in the past. I have been to Ista, International School Temple Arts. Look it up if you're curious about this. It's one of the biggest schools for temples, and yeah, it's a retreat. It's all around the world, happening multiple weeks per year in different places. Check out the website, I would say, and it's really where my schooling in this field comes from. And it has changed my life. I wouldn't recommend it to everyone, but for me, it is such a big part of how it shaped me. And when you look at how I show up in sales and how I show up in business, it is very intertwined with this whole dance of masculine and feminine energy, of boundaries, desires, consent. I use a lot of these principles in how I show up and sell and how I teach my clients the same. So for me, temples have been a really big part of my personal journey, but I've not so much integrated it with my business journey because it's just not what I do per se. Even though my business is called pleasure in selling. I don't know if you knew that. I've not been putting it forward as much, but it's so interesting how everything seems to be connected because when I came up with this name, I didn't use it so much. And now I start to see more and more how this is the core of my business pleasure in selling. So my friends from Bali, he came to Tenerife and he organized a love temple where I was assisting. And it was a really good experience. It opened some doors because it was clear that on the island this wasn't really happening yet. And in Portugal and in Bali, where I normally also live, I lived also six months in Bali. There's incredible facilitators. The market is quite saturated, there's a lot of people, people know about this concept, but in Tenerife, it's different. There's a lot of people who know vaguely about it. There's some that are very experienced, there's a lot of people in the polyamorous community there as well. And there's a lot of people into Tantra, but it's more PG. It's more eye-gazing type of events, intimacy. And there aren't that many facilitators that really include the Eros energy and that go a little bit further in the spiciness of Tantra. And so my friend did this event, but he did it quite last minute. He didn't live on Tenerife, he didn't have so much of the connections. He did a really good job. There were, I think, 15 people. I'm not sure if I'm remembering this correctly. And there were a lot of people that showed interest, but they couldn't make it that day. They didn't have the time, maybe there were some doubts, and it was also a gender-balanced event, which means the same amount of men and women. And yeah, for women, there is sometimes more safety needed for these type of events. But I kept talking with some people in the community and everybody was curious. And I decided, I don't know, there was this one day where I had so much inspiration and I was just going with the flow. And I made this WhatsApp group. There were some other magical things that happened that day, so I was just listening to my thoughts and taking action with it. I can highly recommend this because so often we tend to sit on a great idea. And I heard someone say the other day about how God supposedly works. And it's not that he gives only one person an incredible idea, he gives so many different people the same beautiful idea around the world, and then those who take action with it are the ones that actually get known for it. I'm not sure if I'm repeating this the right way, and I'm also not so deep into my religion specifically with God's, but I feel very connected to this idea of there being something bigger than us that gives us inspiration, and then it's our choice to move with that and let that move through us. And so I was doing that day. I made this WhatsApp group, I called it Temples in Tenerife, and I started to put out a little message. And within three days, there were 50 people in this group. So I saw clearly the demand that there was for this type of events, but nobody was organizing. I didn't create it because of that, I just created it to bring these people together and to also give back to Tenerife. That was really my theme these two and a half months. Because for me, I kept comparing Tenerife to Portugal and all the places where I live, and I kind of came to the conclusion that I will always be coming back to Tenerife anyway, and that there were some things that other places had that Tenerife didn't have per se. One of them being the temples. So I created that community. And then I had this crazy thought. Why not me? Why not me? Why wouldn't I create a temple? Because the truth is, when I was at Ista, I actually was part of the team that was facilitating some sort of temple there as well, and I was the MC, and I loved it. I loved it. And I love being in that role. I love the energy that comes with that. I love facilitating beautiful experiences, and I've had really beautiful, life-changing temples in my life that I am bowing down for the facilitators of those because they inspired me so much. So the Edge Temple was born. And that also meant that I needed to come back to Tenerife. And the thing here that was really cool was that I could feel how easy it was to organize this. The location was already happening. I had a beautiful team with facilitators who had decades of a decade of experience and were like seconding me. I really wanted a strong team because I am not a tantra teacher at all. So I wanted people after the temple to have the option to then take the next step with someone else. Because that's not something I would facilitate. So this passion project was born. I got super excited about it. I felt the life force through my body. I felt, ah, this is my edge. Yes, nice. And that was the reason why I came back to Tenerife. Because I was planning to be in Portugal. And then when I was thinking about this in Portugal, one of the main reasons why I decided that I wanted to be there was because last year this initiative was started of the women's circle. A weekly gathering with women with ambition who have their own businesses, facilitators, coaches, healers, but also very different entrepreneurs. And they all came together. We all came together and we just held each other through a lot of things. Sometimes we had just getting together and sharing and talking and doing small somatic exercises. Sometimes we went a lot deeper. And sometimes we did just a clothing swap and a sauna moment and just women stuff. And it was beautiful, and it was such a deep connection that I built with these women in a very short time. And I valued that so much, the whole concept. It was so dear to my heart. And I was like, I want to be a part of this movement that is starting here in Lisbon. I want to be here for that. So I'm going to change my plans. I'm going to be there for the winter. Then again, my plans changed. And yeah, I committed to doing the temple. And then I decided, okay, I actually know some women who are also ambitious who would fit this perfectly. And I'm just going to start this initiative in Tenerife. But I didn't want to do that and not receive myself. So what I did here was that I came up with this almost similar concept. But then I would just initiate it and make it this thing that could live beyond me. Because again, this was not my main business. This was a passion project and also quite selfish because I really wanted to have the weekly gatherings. Because it really brought so much. And I know a lot of you are listening, like, what the fuck, weekly, that is such a big commitment. Because also it was in person. And yes, it is a big commitment, but commitment is freaking sexy. From the testimonials from those women who were in that circle, like it has changed their lives. It was such a powerful experience to be in a room with other powerful women, to see each other in your power, to feel supported, to feel that there is no competition. And in Lisbon, in that circle, I already healed sister wounds that I didn't even know I was still holding. That gathering has brought so much to me. And so I decided in Cinerif to start that initiative. And in the beginning, we were with four. Four women that I knew that were interested, and yeah, that I would want to gather with every week. And some were like a friend of the friend that connected us. And then I was like, okay, I wanted to be a little bit bigger. So I put out this message, and a lot of people were interested, but of course it's a big commitment, so not everybody followed through. And in the end, we were with eight amazing women. All of them bringing in their own things. We all had different backgrounds, different ages, different expertise. And we all brought in our own thing. So this is definitely one of the milestones like I'm so freaking proud. This we did only for the month of April. And I was there March, April, and a little bit of May. And I was very intentional about this because I also didn't want to put too much pressure on myself because yeah, I was doing the temple. And yeah, I make it sound like it was really easy, which kind of it was. I felt very at ease with it. Everything went so smooth, and the ticket sales went really smooth. Two months in advance, nine people already bought tickets. We had 36 spots maximum. And up until the day of the event, like of course, I used a lot of the sales strategies that I know, and my messaging was probably relatively good. Although I also was adapting and changing and talking with the people and making sure it was better without spending too much time on this. Because this is this has been really important for me to learn. These two passion projects were not my main income. They were passion projects. And all the things that I've done over the last two and a half months, I kept reminding myself to not just follow my excitement, but also to keep my commitments towards my big business and to not let that slide and to not get distracted. Because not all projects, not all things that you're doing should get the same amount of time and energy. And so I could be really excited about these things, but I could also let them go. Especially with the women's circle, especially when I initiated it the first session, we all came together, I hold the space. And then I made it very clear for the next four sessions that we have this month, one person should be in charge. And we need locations and we need this and we need that. So I think half an hour of that, or maybe an hour of that first meeting, we spent talking about the vision that we were building together. It was also a free initiative, so I wasn't taking any money from it. So that of course made it easier to see how everybody should be a part of this really. And I also brought up like, hey, if this is continuing after me, then maybe there should be a small investment so that the people being in charge can actually set time apart to do this. But also, in all realness, setting up this women's circle, it took me very little time. I just made the message, had to check some people how they applied, because I made an application to make sure it was the right fit. And then from that point I had the first setting, the first date, and then after other people actually did the organization. And yeah, that was a beautiful process. So these, like the first 20 minutes of this podcast episode, were a lot about my two passion projects. But they're very relevant for me choosing to go back to Tenerife. So I wanted to start with that. The temple itself, it was a beautiful experience. In the end, we sold 30 32 tickets, so only four tickets left before sold out, but it was a very full room. So I'm very happy with this group that came together, learned some beautiful lessons in between, and also really felt in my power. And I really noticed a shift in my energy, my sexual energy, my being. This was, by the way, a temple where it was not sex positive. So the focus was a lot on meeting your edge, on really daring to go in places where maybe you're a little bit afraid. Are you afraid to be rejected or to reject, or to really ask for what you want and to play with your desires, to be seen, to be witnessed? All these things you might think they're not so relevant for a business coach, but actually when you hear me break it down like that, you're like, damn, this is so related. I have this vision of one day doing a love temple for entrepreneurs and for coaches and healers and facilitators, but I think it's also way harder to market, and this was just really fun. So yeah, it was a very good experience. I have an Instagram. If you want to check out what I did exactly, I separated it from my existing Instagram because it's not so related. It's called etchtemple.tenerif on Instagram. You can look it up and you can see how I promoted it. And yeah, I will also share some of the testimonials. Like this is one of the things I have been very fooled the last two and a half, three months. And one of the things that I didn't got to was to reshare the testimonials after the temple. I did ask those who shared something for permission, so I have the permission, but I haven't showed up for that yet because it is a passion project, and I've been doing a lot, including moving countries now again. I'm back in the Netherlands. And throughout these two and a half months, I was in this season of building and selling. Because I had just relaunched the Xpand Mastermind, which yeah, that was a big process of relaunching, recommitting, which already started last year in 2025. I really lost the connection to my business for a while. And then I recommitted by creating Xpand. And Expand had some clients in, but this was also the season to sell, to show up more, to deliver, to create workshops and masterclasses. And I created time and space for that. I knew okay, Tenerife is gonna be a lot about business, and I'm okay with that. So I worked about 40 to 50 hours per week, I would say. Normally I would prefer work weeks of 20 to 30 hours, which is what I'm now scaling back to or not scaling, which I'm I don't know how you call that. It's not scaling because that's more, but yeah, like I'm going back to less hours of work because I know that when you bring in attention and you know that you have certain expectations, and I am willing to show up for that, right? I'm not gonna sit here and lie that I did it without putting in the effort. I've built a big business, I've rebuilt my big business, I've done the side projects, the passion projects, and yeah, I've been creating really beautiful masterclasses and workshops in the last two and a half months. For me these days, it's relatively easy to launch that because I have a very clear vision, because I have the yearly overview, I do quarterly check-ins with myself. I'm not so rigid, so I can be flexible and change, especially when I see that my expand mastermind clients have a need for something else. Because I create my workshops and my masterclasses based on the season that I'm in, what I want to promote, but also I align it with what I see my expand clients need because that's really the home base where I'm showing up for my clients most. They have my priority access, and I'm just there with them. So throughout the season, I did the In Tenerife, I did the content itself masterclass, a revamp. It's one of my signature masterclasses that I really love doing. And I created the magnetic messaging workshop, which oh my god, I'm so happy I finally did that because it's really a 90-minute breakdown of my best work around messaging and how you can use it to refine your content. And this was something that I didn't have so much of a one thing that you could watch in one go and that you could like that could make you thousands of euros just by making some tweaks in your content in your messaging. So I'm very happy I was able to create that. I also did the Date in the DMs workshop, which oh my god, that was such a fun process to create. And also a little bit challenging because for me, being in the DMs and showing up is how I started my business. The first mentor, the first big mentor that I hired, actually the actually the third, but the first where I was really stepping into my English business because I had a Dutch business helping Dutch yoga teachers with authentic marketing, and then this mentor was in English, and he was helping more with the premium offers, and that's where I started to raise my prices, fell in love with the premium business model, laid the foundation of what I now call the premium expansion model, and he was using a lot of the bromarket their strategies, including showing up in the DMs. And at one point I had a really big month, the 16K month. But in that month, I was four to five hours in the DMs, talking with strangers, trying to convince them of my work. And yes, I signed amazing clients through that. But was it worth it? For one month, yes, but I also felt it's not sustainable, and so this is where a lot of people, when they're running their business, they are not so much reflecting on is this for the long run? I actually just recorded the mini training inside of the shameless sales challenge that I also started in May, the whole month of May, a really cool Sales Challenge, which is going to be a yearly event. So join us next year because oh my god, I love this space so much. And I did the training on how commitment is sexy and how being all in and having all in energy and being here for the long run, it is really a different energy to show up within your business. And I am in that energy, and when I'm not, I activate it within me. So when you are in this energy, you show up differently. And for me, I know in my business this is so important to bring that. I'm responsible to create that all-in energy for myself. So let me see, what else did we do? I have a list here of things that I did in the time in Tenerife, and yeah, those, yeah. Oh yes, I was talking about the dates in the DMs, which started when I promoted it as a lead in the DMs. And then I started to get feedback because I created actually I saw that it wasn't running as well. People weren't per se signing up for it. And this is honestly such a powerful masterclass workshop. It's actually a workshop. We're actually workshopping things in there as well. And I'm giving you literally scripts that you can use in the DMs. This is when you have the tip of the iceberg and then you have the iceberg underneath. This is that. Because you can look at other people their social media and their content and you can talk with ChatGPT about this, but what actually goes down in the DMs? A lot of people don't realize that you don't need to live there, but it's the last 10% of someone making a decision. If someone is gonna invest four or five figures to hire you, but they've never had a personal conversation with you. That's gonna be so much harder than when you actually are intentional about how you're showing up in the DMs in the moments that really matter. And I learned from my mentor at the time how to live in the DMs and how to never let a conversation die. And over the years, I developed my own methodology. I even hired the whole shebang that the bro marketeers talk about with having someone who's an appointment setter on your team and having a sales closer. And I did all of that, and it just didn't land for me because it was so much focused on quantity over quality, and that's not how I'm building my business. I'm all here for quality, for depth, for real transformation. I really care about my people. So for me, being in the DMs and showing up in a way that felt aligned was much more important than just really building a big business where I'm just managing people to chase sales and yeah, make it less human. Of course, there's things you can automate and there's scripts that you can use, but that small touch point, I would not outsource that. I see so many people in the industry who have very little people in their audience yet, and they try to automate things and they lose a lot of time trying to figure out certain tools and then they make their business feel less personal these days, especially with AI coming up, being personal in the right moments, that really matters. So, dates in the DMs. I'm so happy I finally created that because it's really a body of work that I've been developing over the last five years, and the best teachings of how bro marketers show up in the DMs and how to be tactical about what you say, and how to not be pushy or forceful and bring in those dynamics, even the temple dynamics, even the tantra dynamics of really understanding when you're in certain energy, like masculine energy, feminine energy, how you're showing up, how you're leading. To me, sales has a lot to do with leadership energy, and dating the DMs is really about that. So, yeah, really happy that I've now added that to my body of work, to the Expand Mastermind library. And yeah, what else did I do? I joined a challenge from my mentor that was a mentor where I'm sometimes dipping my toe in, getting some valuable things, and then yeah, I never was in her highest offers. I was in a membership for two years, but I didn't really tune in so much. But I always really respected her, and I was in a third-day challenge with her, and I just got brainwashed by her. And at the end of the 30 days, I hired her because I was not expecting to hire her, I was not looking for a new mentor. I had an active mentor. I have, I'm actually in two masterminds right now, and yeah, I just felt in everything, in my gut, in my instincts, in my mind, everything was on board. Yes. So that was a big process when I was in Tenerife as well. Because we're talking a 20k investment here, and that's not something I take lightly. So I was really sitting with myself first in that 30-day challenge. I was really enjoying it, having fun, and then of course she started pitching and selling, and then I was like flirting with the idea. But also, that meant making a lot of changes because if I'm gonna be that devoted to my business, to my growth again for the next season, I cannot do another two and a half months itinerates because it was very full-on. And I don't like going over my own boundaries with working too many hours, and I want to be embodied in what I say that I teach. So I don't want to have those 40, 50 hour work weeks all the time. It's okay to have that for a season, but preferably not. I love being rich and regulated, I love taking care of my nervous system. So I was thinking, okay, if I do this investment, how can I make that work? How can I make that work? What do I need to shift? And one of the things that came up for me was if I move back to Portugal, I was always planning to go to the Netherlands because I like to be here a couple of weeks or months just to see my family, and especially now with my twin brother who has his firstborn, a daughter. She's almost one now, and I like to be there. I like to show my face every now and then. And I love actually that we have now my dad's spiritual center. Some of you might know about this. He's had a spiritual center for 20 years, it's where I grew up, and it is for sale, it's empty for the last two years, and every time I'm here, it's almost the last time. And still now, it is here. So I started brainstorming like, how can I really create the space for myself without burning out? Because I've had a burnout in the past and I know exactly how to not get there anymore. So I'm very mindful of those situations. And I decided, okay, actually, what if I would just go there to the spiritual center, stay there a couple of months, have this stability, and especially not the needing to look for a house. Because if I look at my last year and what drained a lot of my energy was where am I gonna live? Like in Bali, I had to change houses so many times. My house got even broken into, my laptop got stolen, it's a whole other story. And then in Portugal, I gave up my long-term house because it was a shared house, and it used to be amazing. It's an amazing location, amazing views, but I just didn't resonate anymore with who I was living with. And I started to notice this is not expansion, this is shrinking in my own house. So I tend to make bold moves, but then there's also consequences, right? Like, where am I gonna live next? So, with this decision, I decided to find some stability. Because, yes, I do a lot of things, I can hold a lot of things, I have a very big capacity, and I am still human. I still have a nervous system that I need to take care of. So, here I am in the Netherlands after the Tenerife chapter, and I'm gonna stay for summer, which I'm really excited about. I really started to sell the idea to myself as I was thinking about it in Tenerife, and oh my god, there's a lot of friends of me here right now, so I'm really happy to be here in this beautiful place and to take care of myself as I am showing up for myself, my business. I'm talking a lot about business in this episode because of course it's my business podcast, but I'm also doing a lot of fun things, and I also really care about being in the places where people that I dearly love are, and that is in Portugal, that is in Tenerife, that is in the Netherlands. So, in Tenerife, because that's what I want to focus on in this conversation with you, some other things that happened was I did an in-person millionaire breathwork event, which I love housing those. But to be honest, it is quite challenging, especially in a new location, and I keep finding that it's not the easiest to do the in-person events, and it keeps reminding me of how much my business model works and how much more people need to know about this. Because I know some of the listeners right now, you're incredible at hosting in-person events, and you do that really well. They sell out, there's lots of people there, and I have not fully developed that skill yet. I'm gonna focus on that at some point, or I'm gonna get support with that. But for me, it's not something that needs to work, because it's not where my main income comes from. And yes, with the temple, I did actually make quite some money because I sold 32 tickets. And still, it takes a lot of energy and organization, and if that would have been the main thing, I would have been a lot more stressed about it. And at this point, I was really chill. And yes, I had some conversations because there's also more people, so there's more people thinking things about things. And if you try and organize an event where you have a gender-balanced ticket sale, at some point there were more men signed up than women, and I needed to get more women so that I could get men from the wait list. So, yeah, there were some women that also voiced to me that they didn't like seeing a discount coming up, right? And because I wasn't that involved, and because it's a yearly event that I'm doing, because I'm gonna do it again, but yeah, not next week, not next month. This is something really important to not be reactive. I know my capacity because I know roughly what I'm gonna do the whole year. I roughly know my goals and my mind my my milestones and my capacity throughout the month. That's why I do one in-person event every two or three months, maximum. And this time in Tenerife I actually did two because I did the breathwork and I did the tempo. But I also knew, okay, I'm gonna do it very low-key, I'm not gonna push the breathwork too much, and I'm not gonna care so much if it doesn't sell so well. In the end, a day before I had four people sign up, and in the end we were with with I think it was seven or eight, and it was fun, but I think next time I wouldn't rush that in there as well. Plus, and I'm gonna come to that in a second, but there were some challenges, and there's like I'm sharing now the highlights, that's what I wanted to start with, but I'm gonna go also into okay, what actually was challenging for me. So yeah, I did the breath work, it was great, and then I also had some other cool experiences, more personal. I did a ketamine journey for the first time ever. I must say I was quite gentle with myself with these experiences because I knew there were quite a lot of them happening. I love Tenerife, I meet a lot of interesting people always, whether it's through my business and it's my own clients, and I am really curious, or it's friends, and so I'm also really curious, naturally. So, what I did was I did ketamine journey, I did combo for the first time, and I received a Yoni massage, not for the first time. So, all these things I also spaced them over time so that they weren't too close, but yeah, at the end, in the last two weeks of my leaving, there were still quite some things in there. I had quite regular bodywork also that I received, and yeah, that was beautiful. All the experiences were beautiful. I didn't go as deep, and I think that also has to do with because I was in this season of more business growth, and that's where more of my focus and attention went. So I was maybe not fully open to receive a full breakthrough, but also to all of them I said, or maybe not the Yoni Massage, but to the new things, I was really clear, hey, let's take it easy. And the guide also was like, Yeah, that makes sense. So it was quite mild and it was a good introduction to it. I also did a photo shoot on April 20th, which was a beautiful experience with an incredible gifted photographer. And soon I will share a lot more photos, videos. It was an incredible shoot, and it was also ready to capture this moment of me and expanding my capacity and becoming this new version of myself because hosting a temple that is an identity shift. Not just did I do that, but I also became quite well known on Tenerife as the main person hosting temples there. Because that's what I was. Like there's nobody else doing anything like this. And the What Tep group that I told you about in the beginning, there's now 130 people in there, and I barely promoted it. And I know I'm gonna do another one because it is my personal growth, it's my edge to hold those spaces. I really enjoy it. And I had people asking me, Are you gonna do one before you leave? And I was like, no, very clear, no, because I'm not reactive. A friend of mine did a new concept of a workshop as well, and it was really well received. And then some people in the session said, Oh, can we do it again next week? And he already felt a bit, which he shared with me, oh no, I I actually but he said yes. And he went for it, but half-ass energy, and they did sell tickets, but it was also gender balanced, and in the end he had to cancel it. That's why I don't do reactive things. That's why I plan ahead. That's why I'm in leadership energy, because that is very magnetic to those who want to come. Last week I posted in that group because I am figuring out the next dates of the temple for, yeah, I say yearly, but I'm gonna be there in October again. I don't know when I'm gonna be there again. October, November, I'm gonna be in Tenerife to be part of a really cool festival, Ko Nectar, which I highly recommend. And also to host my rich and regulated retreat, which I'm very excited to host in Tenerife because yeah, the energy is so special. And it's a retreat for my expand mastermind clients. I might open it up to the premium breakthrough clients as well, but it's not a separate retreat as of now because we're gonna go really deep in this retreat. And I love meeting my clients, so this is also me building the business in the life that I love. So yeah. Yeah, I posted a poll about the temple and the new dates, and 20 people voted that they're interested, but that they cannot say the date yet. 12 people voted both dates are good for me, I'm gonna be there. And then one person I think voted on a specific date. I haven't found the location yet. I thought I did, but I'm probably not gonna do it there after all, because I heard some stories that don't add up, and yeah, it might not. The location is gorgeous, it's in a luxury cave resort retreat thing that is being built now. But if there's one thing that I've learned about hosting events these last two years, is that don't do it with new locations because there's a lot of issues happening. And if you hear a lot of smoke, there's probably some fire. So another beautiful thing that I did in my time in Tenerife is I started the shameless sales challenge. 30 days, actually 31 days, of shamelessly selling your offer and getting into the energy of sales, getting obsessed with sales, understanding a lot of the strategy behind it, seeing the bigger picture. This month this week is week three, so we're continuing until the end of the month, and it's all about consistent premium sales. Every day, an audio training, obvious yes, sales trainings of five minutes to 25 minutes and a few live elements. It's incredible. I'm so excited that I'm running this now. There's almost 30 people in. And yeah, that is something I also started in Tenerife. So lots of things happening, and the reason why I'm able to hold all of this and to create all of this and to make a big decision about a 20k mastermind at the same time and invest and go all in and be part of that and spend also quite some time really getting better at my craft and absorbing her materials and posting weekly podcast episodes here on the Bold Expansion Podcast, recording episodes with guest experts, with power coaching sessions, and just showing up regularly for my X-Pand Mastermind clients. There was a lot happening and a lot of beautiful things. And one of the things that I always say is I don't say I'm busy, I say I'm full. I'm full of life, I feel so freaking alive, and it's been such an incredible season of business growth. I also visited the retreat location again, then I was there, and yes, this is it. I decided as I was there to not just take eight spaces, but to take another house with it so there's more spaces for people, and yeah, it's really been a magical season in Tenerife of connecting with beautiful souls on the islands, but also to really be focused and dialed in and to see the bigger picture, the bigger vision. Yeah, yeah. And as I'm recording this episode, I feel a lot of pride also in how I've hauled myself through it because it wasn't always easy. It wasn't. And I'm not saying this to to justify my success because it's probably my mindset that makes it feel easy and that makes it sound easy because I truly believe life happens for me, not against me. And when I was listing the challenges that I had to deal with, I was like, whoa, that was a lot, but it never felt like a lot. Because I don't subscribe to that idea. I don't subscribe to my life is hard, my life is full, my life is big. I choose expansion. That is my identity. I live on the edge. I'm okay with the challenge because that's the life I'm choosing. So to give you an idea, when I did the Millionaire Breathwork event, I checked, of course, with the location. It was a new location for me. They existed for a long time. I have the things that I need for breathwork, which is the sound system, it's yoga meds, and yeah, that's basically it. I don't need that much. Sound system was not working, not at all. We had to do it in the end with my phone in some. Sort of bowl after having chaos in the room. And yeah, that's not a great way to start off. It's just not. With the temple, I ordered a lot of incredible goodies from Temu. I don't order there often, but yeah, this is perfect for those situations. I even had toilet paper with kisses printed on it. Really small, beautiful details. And it never arrived to the island. So the day of the event, I had to go to a store because I was still hopeful that it would come to a Chinese Chinese store. And I tried to find decoration there, but there was almost none. So I asked one of the assistants who was like incredible and supportive, and she was in the south of the island right before coming to me. And she went there and she got some things. So we fixed it in a way. And it still looked good. And I had some items already. But yeah, that was also a bit of a challenge. My car, I had the I don't know what it's called. It's not the engine belt. I think it's the timing belt. I've heard this word a lot in the last couple of weeks. I had it fixed because it's a relatively old car. I drove it from the Netherlands to Spain a couple years ago, gave it a Spanish license plate. It's really my baby, this car. It's also a minivan. So I wanted to take care of her. And I was like, yeah, I'm gonna be away from the island, so let the mechanic fix her as I am gone. Mechanic fixed it, and within one or two weeks, the car started to not work so well. So I asked him, hey, could this be something that you did? He said, No, I make no mistakes. Then he also said you cannot have anybody else check it except for me, so you have to come and drive here, which was on the other side of the island for an hour, because if someone else checks it, the warranty is not good anymore. So I drove there with a shaky car. He checked it, he said everything is okay. I drove back, I could feel that it was a little bit better, whatever he did, but then I also felt it was not fixed. And over the days it went bad again. I had a mechanic check it at my house, and he showed me exactly what was wrong, and that it was the fault of this mechanic on the other side of the island. So I went back there because I had a video and he had to help me. Apparently, there's also this thing if mechanics really fuck you over that you can ask for this paper, especially on Tenerife. I don't know if this is the truth for everywhere else. And if you file it and they get three files, they have to close their shop. In Tenerife, mechanics are quite an issue, and I'm very lucky that I now have a really good, trustworthy person in the north of the islands that helps me. So yeah, that was an issue. Then I had to fix my empadrimento, which is a paper, something like admin that you're there on the islands. I don't fully live there, I'm registered in Portugal, but I was living on the house of someone, and she wanted me to not be registered on her name on her house. But you cannot do that online, you cannot do that without having a new house. So the last year I've been in the process to do that. And this was something I also had to do as I was on Tenerife. And with me not speaking Spanish yet, I actually have Spanish lessons as well, which I also started as I was in Tenerife, very proud of myself because there's a lot of resistance. I feel very shy learning languages, but yeah, I got that fixed, which is amazing. But of course, admin stuff. Then it was actually really cold in Tenerife, like crazy cold. Everybody was talking about it, especially in the north. In the south, it's always warmer, different climate there. And so when I arrived, I had to buy a heater. A freaking heater, and it's supposed to be the subtropical island. Outside it's still okay, but inside of the houses, because of how they are built, it's just not, and there's no way to really warm it. So I went and bought a heater, which was also a process in itself, and lots of things went wrong with that, but I managed. And in these moments, I'm also human, right? Of course, I'm thinking things like, oh my god, again, and this is happening, and it almost feels like it's happening to me. And what I do is I catch myself, I catch my mindset, and I just don't just don't subscribe to the victim mindset. And I'm just okay, we're gonna just figure this out, right? Then with the women's circle, love the women's circle, it was incredible as you have heard me talk about. But one day we were at my house that I was renting, and there were a lot of stains that were on the table. I don't know, I still don't know what it was. Maybe it was some oil or something, but it was a very beautiful, expensive table. And of course, the woman who the house was off did not really like that. So I went through this process of figuring out how to help her with this, how to get it sorted. In the end, it was a do-it-yourself type of baking soda thing where I was putting baking soda on the stains and like doing that ritual for a couple of days. But then in the house were also three cats, and one of the cats had an infection in its eye, and it already healed. But then the other cat also got an infection. And yeah, like the woman from the house, she of course had all the vets and she knew what to do and how to support. But that was freaking scary because we thought maybe the baking soda was actually the cause of the infection, or it definitely did not help. But in the end, after like the cat really got taken care of, I supported with that as well. I had this awful moment of seeing like this yellow stuff coming out of the eye of the cat where I was like, oh my god, no, and she's such a cutie. And in the end, it turned out she had a leaf stuck in her eye, so it had nothing to do with the baking soda, but I felt so freaking guilty. Then let me see. I also like I don't want to make this like a complain podcast because I don't feel like that. I was surprised when I was making this list of all the things that had happened in this two and a half months, and yeah, I just want to give you a light of like my life is not perfect, but it feels freaking great because of how my mindset is, how my identity is around this. So, yeah, let me see if there's anything else that I want to say that is important. Yeah, the last thing that was a bit stressful at the end of me leaving, like I was living in my van for the last couple of days because yeah, the time that I was renting that house ended, I was still on the island, I had my car there, beautiful experience, sleeping next to the beach, so amazing. But a few weeks before that, like one and a half weeks before that, maybe two, my virtual assistant that is from the Philippines. I've had virtual assistants from all different types of countries, backgrounds for the last five years, and I highly recommend it. I even made a course, your the Rockstar VA system, where I show you how to hire and how to onboard a Rockstar VA for six dollars an hour. And she had been doing a good job, but then a few months before, already I noticed it was getting a little bit less, and then she found out that she was pregnant and she resigned. But I was also yeah, agreeing with that, but it was just really bad timing because there was a lot happening. But yeah, I knew what I had to do. I can complain about it, but I know I want a new virtual assistant. There's a lot of people who find a virtual assistant magically, and then when that person leaves, there's a whole big hole in the business, and yeah, they don't know how to fill it, and yeah, a lot of things crumble. And that's not me. I know how to hire a new virtual assistant, it was just not the best timing. And I'm as we speak now on boarding a new virtual assistant. My other one is helping us, and yeah, like it's nice that it's sorted, but it was definitely a bit stressful, especially because I was in my van next to the ocean in a beautiful spot, and then I had to do some calls with virtual assistants who were yeah, applying for the job, and I had no connection because I was too much in the middle of nowhere and living in my van for a few days. So yeah, that was a bit of a challenge. But yeah, I just ran with it, and then I drove to some other places where I figured the connection would be better and yeah, just did the next call. And then at the end, right before, I gave the key to someone who was renting my car. I like renting out my cars, I don't like them to be still on the island for many months. It's not so good for the car. I found this beautiful woman who wanted to rent out the car. I knew her as well, so I felt really good about it. And three minutes before handing over the key, the engine light went on. I kid you not. And I had this stop-start moment right before the roundabout. I was a little bit in a rush because I had to catch my flight. I was literally giving her the car at the drop-off of the airport. And yeah, I had to hand her the key with that happening. Of course, I was transparent about it, and we've been in really good communication about it the last couple of days. Today I finally heard what the problem was. The mechanic fixed it, everything should be worked out perfectly fine. But yeah, those things happen, right? And yeah, I felt a little bit of stress, and I didn't feel so great about her needing to fix the car as she was about to rent it. So of course I gave her a bit of a compensation there as well. And of course, she didn't pay for the days that she had the car, but I didn't feel like completely stressed out. Five years ago, maybe I would have been like, oh my god, no, what the fuck? And now I was like, yeah, we'll sort it out. Yes, I'm not gonna be in the same country, but I trust that it will work out. Resilience is what I call this. So there's many more things that I would like to talk about, but we've been going on for a while, and this is the behind the scenes. I would like to give some final takeaways of my next season here. I'm gonna be in the Netherlands, I'm gonna give myself that stability to slow down a bit more, to pay even more attention to my nervous system, to create more white space, because the last two and a half months were a bit too full to my liking. And yeah, you can have that for a short period of time, but not consistently. So might be a reminder for you where you can where can you add some white space, some thinking space? Because yeah, if you're in this business, it's also important that you're a thought leader. And in those white space moments is where your thoughts actually come up and where you can be more of a thought leader. So also during the stretch season, there were of course signs where I was paying attention to how far am I stretching? Because when you're stretching your nervous system, you feel it, right? And so for me, there is I know that in a season like this, I am careful with social commitments, that I don't overpromise, that I'm communicating clearly of hey, I'm in this type of season and I would like to do this and this, but this I cannot commit to. But yeah, if you're open to it, I will let you know later. I was also very rigid with my morning routine. Sometimes I didn't do it in the morning, I'm still flexible, but I think the 15-minute exercises that I do, I talk more about it sometimes on my stories, it has changed my life. For six months I've been doing it every single day, and maybe three times a month I miss it. And it is amazing. DM me on Instagram lymph or something, I don't know. Or morning routine. And I'll share the link with you where I initially started doing these exercises from. The biggest thing here is throughout this season I kept remembering who the F I am. This is a big one. If you forget, if you start to spiral, if you start to compare with people around you, that is when you lose grip. That is when you leak personal power. Don't compare yourself to everybody else because you're not everybody else. It's you versus you. What do you ask from yourself? How do you want to show up? What are your values and live by them? I cannot compare myself to my family, for instance, because they're doing something completely different. And giving myself that permission healed a lot in me and how I show up and gave me more permission to be me. But some signs when I started to notice throughout these two and a half months that I was stretching too far and I had to do a rest day the day after, was I notice when I started to eat more sweets and more sugar and more chocolate. Chocolate is really a guilty pleasure of mine. Also, when my sleep is getting worse, like when I have shorter nights or when I don't feel rested waking up. And I have an aura ring, so it helps me track and it helps me understand also when I feel a little bit more shitty. Oh, I didn't sleep that much. My period gets a little bit more present in the months where I was quite busy. My period overall is really good. My health overall is really good because I have a healthy lifestyle, which is really important. Like when you're operating at full speed, treat yourself as a top athlete and give yourself what you need, like healthy food, organic foods. Not everything needs to be organic, but I like to have my meat organic, I like to have enough proteins, I like to have certain vegetables organic because I know it matters for some of them. Getting a lot enough walks in, doing the things that are really healthy, right? But also taking off time. And when I start to feel more rushed, I also know okay, that is a sign that I need to slow down, that I need to go against my usual ways or my usual response when I feel like I'm behind to rush. Actually, sometimes slowing down is the solution. So it's really asking you in a season like this to know yourself, to understand the cues, to see what you're doing and how you're holding yourself through this season. This might have become the longest episode that I've ever recorded, especially for solo episodes. But yeah, I thought it was fun to take you with me on this journey of behind the scenes of a season of going stronger than normally, and how I hold myself through it. And if this was useful for you, if you got some insights, if you already felt like this was helpful, let me know. I love to hear that you've listened to my podcast. I love to hear what landed for you, and that's why I get excited to make these episodes. So slide into my DMs, I would love to chat. Thanks for tuning in into another Bolt Expansion Podcast episode. If this episode inspired you, then hit subscribe so you won't miss any of the upcoming episodes. 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