Employer vs Employee Mindset

Let's talk about the difference between an employer's mindset, goals, ambitions, and an employee's, especially when it comes to income and work.

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What is up, guys? Welcome to another episode of the Entrepreneur's Wife podcast. I'm your host, Carly Rains. If you are new here, this is a podcast where we talk all about finding purpose as the helper to our small business owner in this feminist obsessed world. And today we are going to talk about have this might not be the whole episode, but I do want to hit on the mindset that employers have versus employees. This is something that Brister and I have learned over the years. I think honestly, my husband at the beginning, when it was just us and he was grinding it out and he was setting goals and he was super ambitious, and the company was really small, and we did not have any employees. I think now having managed employees and firing people, hiring people, all the stuff, I truly believe he is realizing not everybody has the same mindset when it comes to why they get paid, how they get paid, the reasons for getting paid, the mindset towards work, what do you do at work, things like that. So we're kind of gonna hop on to this today. And I just wanna I want to clarify before I begin this, what I'm about to talk about is an observation, not just I don't want you to think this is an observation just coming from within the Texas Outlaw team. This is an observation that I have seen with other employers through myself with being an employee, Briston being an employee, uh observing um just work uh attitudes and mindsets when I was an employee with other um co-workers. This is where this is coming from. So I'm not just don't just assume this is just about Texas L team. This isn't. This is an array of information from various sources that I have kind of came to this conclusion about. And the include conclusion that I'm going to state is I honestly believe, especially as young people, so I'm talking about the millennials and really our generation, Gen Z, Gen Alpha, the young people, we assume that if we show up to work, we just automatically should get paid because of the fact that we showed up. And I hate to bring it to the young people, because I'm young too, but just because you walk through the door on time at eight o'clock and you clock out at five o'clock doesn't mean you deserve to get paid. And so if you're an employee of a small business, you have to realize that if you are not helping the business make a profit, if you're not helping the business grow, make money, at least, you know, putting back some funds, like some revenue, if you're not being a part of that and helping with that, you are wasting the business's money and honestly you're taking up space. And it is very frustrating as small business owners when this happens, because again, beliefs really do like our internal beliefs really do affect our actions. So if an employee is already assuming, because I will be honest, as a small business, all of our team, I don't know how other small businesses run, but all of our small business has an idea every month on are we profiting or are we in the negative? Like, do we make money this month or do we not? And we have been making money for a very long time. There are a couple months throughout the year that are break-even or negatives just because of holidays and certain circumstances, but for the most part, 90% throughout the year, we are making a profit. And I feel like Briston has expressed this many times. I feel like you assume as an employee, oh, we brought in this much per month. Like we brought in this much this month, and you can kind of estimate, okay, if you know how how much a race costs, if you know how many people signed up for that race, and if you know how many races we've put on in a month, you can guesstimate how much we gross profited. I'm gonna say gross, we gross profited that much. You can guesstimate, and that doesn't include merchandise sales, so that doesn't include add-ons when they sign up for the race, that doesn't include sponsorships, that doesn't even include coaching. So you can guesstimate, and it'll probably be on the lower end, what we're making that month, but that's gross. So then you have to consider all of the expenses, and I truly believe as an employee, unless you're doing the profit and loss statements, accounting, finance side of it, I don't know if you really understand all the expenses that go into managing a small business, and I think that's something that you really got to consider, is not everything is just black and white, like there's a lot of expenses that we take on as a small business, apart even from taxes, okay? But we take on as a small business just to get the business running operationally. For instance, we have an office, so in order for us to keep showing up to work, we have to pay the rent, we have to pay the utilities, we have a website where people sign up for races, we have to pay that. And yes, it's an annual fee, but it's a pretty big, hefty annual fee on top of the t-shirt designs and the metal designs. And gosh, there's probably a whole nother topic of expenses. You just get into the race director, the race director traveling to the race, gas, their food, you know, the equipment, just a whole bunch of expenses, course marking signs, aid station food. Like at the end of the day, I think people, especially employees, need to realize that there is a lot that goes into maintaining and sustaining and growing a small business. And so I just have noticed that we really do have this entitlement mentality when it comes to our paycheck. I don't think, I understand the point in a salary, like why salary was created. Hey, you know, you've reached, you're not hourly, you've reached this level where we're gonna pay you, regardless of how many hours you work that year, we're gonna pay you this amount. And it's a salary amount, and you sign a contract for it. What I don't like about that concept is you could be dilly-daddyling at your desk, FaceTime people on social media, watching movies, yada yada yada, and you're just taking up space and wasting the company's money. When the company could have actually have had somebody in your shoes uh helping grow the business and helping bring in a profit. And I also want to say, which I'm sure the majority of these listeners are business owners, but something that just dawns on me is like Briston always emphasizes if you show up, if you give 100%, if you have a, I don't want to say just a good mindset, but if you have a mindset where, hey, how can I help the company grow or make money today? If you have that service-giving attitude, you are going to get a raise, you're gonna be promoted. Like they're people are gonna pay attention to that. It might take a year, it might take two years, I don't know how long it's gonna take. But what I do know is we see a dramatic difference when employees come in and they're motivated and they want to help the company grow and they see the vision. I think that's another big thing is always reminding your employees what the vision is because they're gonna forget. And God does this all throughout the Old Testament with the Israelites, reminding them, constantly reminding them of his promise, his provision, because they were so forgetful. And so I just want to clarify you know, that like going to work and working is number one in the country that we live in, it's it's it's a super big, nice advantage because unless you have an outside job, for the most part, a lot of us are in an AC, we're on a computer, we're we're doing stuff in an AC, it causes very minimal risk and physical labor. And there are jobs that do require a lot of physical labor, but you're probably still in the AC unless you're working an outside job. And I just, you know, I was thinking the other day, like, I I unless you have been raised in the small business environment where your parents manage a small business, or you have a small business yourself, I don't know if you truly can understand the perspective that Briston has whenever it comes to payroll and financials and all that stuff. Uh, I I just I've noticed that when I worked an employee job, people would so take advantage of the whole salary idea. They'd show up late, they'd leave early, we wouldn't necessarily work as hard. And I just look at that and it breaks my heart because I don't think God calls us to laziness. Like, I I I understand you need rest, I understand you have a mental load, like I do get that, but at the same time, why are you wasting someone else's money? I mean, when we do nothing at work and we just sit there, we are really taking advantage of our small businesses' money. It we're like stealing it. Because the reason that the boss, the CEO, my husband, hires people is so that they can do work that he doesn't have time for. So I just I wanted to touch on this because I forget what it was, but something oh, we had a whole ordeal happen this past week. And it's 4th of July week, and we were out of town for a writing conference that I worked, and uh that's also another thing I want to say is I feel like Briston really does struggle with this, but he's getting better at it. Okay, you when you're the employer, odds are you have been working your butt off for years, you're just now getting to the point where you can hire people and it takes a little less of the load off of you. But Briston, every single time, you know, we went to the writing conference, he explains himself to our team every time he's gonna miss work. Like he has that mindset that honestly we all need to have where it's like I show up to work, I work really hard, and then I go home and I spend time with family. And again, the point in your paycheck is to help you live, but if you're doing nothing at work, you really shouldn't be getting a paycheck because showing up is just half the equation. You have to actually do something, put forth something in order for you to get rewarded. This, guys, this is the same thing in salvation. This is the same thing in faith. Literally, James says faith without works is dead. So, yeah, Christ has come to you and said, Hey, I will pay you eternal life, and I will pay you these rewards if you follow me and if you believe in me, and if you repent of your old ways, that's basically like him doing an interview and hiring you. You say yes, you get baptized, you go all in for Christ, but then you just sit there or you sit at church and you do nothing. Like there's no action. And then you're gonna die, you're gonna stand before the Lord, and Jesus is gonna say, dude, you barely made it in. Like I have no rewards for you. You barely escaped the flames because you just sat there. And so please understand that you know, this needs to be a big shift in our culture. We talk about socialism and just the heartbreak and just the burden of socialism. I I I just, you know, it's funny because people are like, well, I showed up and I sat there and I should be getting paid. Um, we actually I had a case where I did a summer program and it was phenomenal, it was great. But um we did this summer program. I'm pretty sure this was still when COVID was like we were getting out of COVID. Um, and so there was a group of us that wanted to stay over the summer um at the at our university and work, and so they allowed us. So one of our projects was we had to paint our farm road uh fence because there's a fence that goes around our farmland, and there's also a walking trail that goes around it as well. So we had to paint the fence. It's in the middle of the summertime, the blazing heat, you're sweating like a dog, you're tired, you're there all day long because you have so much of the fence that you have to paint. And we were exhausted. And I remember uh everybody pretty much showed up the first day because our our boss, our supervisor, was there. But after that, the second and third and fourth day, it was like fewer people, fewer people, few people. Well, one girl um didn't show up at all, like literally did not show up at all. I don't know what she was doing, but she didn't show up at all. So we get done with the summertime and how the school system, college works is you get paid once a month. That's just the educational standard. And so it was school started, it was time for us to receive our paycheck, and she didn't get anything. And y'all, she complained to the school, even though our boss knew she had not showed up because there were plenty of eyewitnesses that were saying no, she did not show up. Um, the school still, after she complained about not getting paid, the school still paid her. And I was kind of disappointed in this decision because what does it teach young people? Like, what did that teach her? That taught her basically, I don't have to follow through with what I'm required to do. I just complain that I didn't get what I wanted, and if I complain hard enough, I'm gonna get what I want, regardless of if I do the work or not. And I just I think I don't think that that's right. Like, Priston has a tattoo that literally says from 2 Chronicles that your hard work will be rewarded. It takes hard work, and I will say specifically for working for a small business, it's hard. You're wearing a lot of different hats. It's not like you know, I did an internship at this pretty decent size organization. They might be considered small business, I don't know if they are still anymore, but they were they had a corporate office, they had quite a bit of employees, and yeah, there were plenty of people in that building that could have used their time way more wisely. I'm sure they wanted to go home, I'm sure they didn't want to be there. You know, they were getting some work done, but not as much as they could have got done, and at the end of the day, they clock out and they're ready to go home. And I just want to say this employee mindset, this will always restrict you to where you actually want to be. If if every day when you wake up and get ready for work, you're dreading it, and you're just thinking, I can't wait for lunch break, and then lunch break comes and you think I just can't wait to get off work, and you're looking for the weekend and after school and things like that, it's one thing to be excited about those things. It's another thing to wear at work that's all you're thinking about is leaving. Like that that would be hard, I think, for a small business to keep you around. Because again, you're taking up space and you're not stewarding wisely what God has given you. And I promise, if you do work hard enough, I know this from owning a small business, if you do work hard enough, they're gonna notice. Your boss is gonna notice, the people are gonna notice, they're gonna compliment it, they're gonna say it. And guess what? That gives you an opportunity to be promoted. But I just I feel like as young people, we just have this mindset where we're like, oh, well, I showed up today, so you should pay me, even though I really didn't do anything on my to-do list, but I did show up and I did make sure that I left on time. I didn't leave early, I left right on time, and you're sitting there expecting a paycheck, and it's like, I'm sorry, I'm glad you showed up, but what did you do? Like, what can you show me that you did? Because again, as a small business, we're relying on you to bring in money so that we can stay afloat because we got a lot of expenses. So, you know, that's my whole spill about that. I don't want to, I don't want to keep going on that, but I I just want to say, I I I desperately want to train my kids to know that hey, when you do a job and you do it well, you will get paid, you will get tips, you will get rewarded for that. But please do not expect, like, I don't want my girls to expect to show up at a Texas Allo race and just automatically get paid because they're there. Like, that's great that they're there. Cheer the race director on, cheer the runners on. But unless you did something that deserves payment, we're not gonna, we're not gonna waste our time with that. Um, so that that's number one. Um, and going back to the employer mindset, the employer mindset is constantly thinking, how can I make more money? How can I bring in a profit, more profit? Um, and I will say that sounds like immediately when you hear that, it sounds greedy. Like it sounds like, oh my gosh, you're just obsessed with money and that's all you want. No, you, but in order to live, you do have to make some form of money. So I think in the church, we have sadly really constricted entrepreneurs to express themselves as entrepreneurs. Like, I I I want to clarify, they're not an employee. The entrepreneur, the founder, the CEO, they're not an employee. They're the employer. They hired you. They are gonna have a completely different mindset, a completely different schedule, and they are allowed to. Like, that's something I want to tell Briston. He's always like explaining to his employees, like what we have going on and why he's late, and da-da-da, this and that. And guys, he's not he's not late that much. He is if he has errands to run or whatever, then yeah, he'll be late. But for the most part, he's not. And I I just want to tell him, like, you do not have to explain why you're not gonna be here for two days to them, unless you just absolutely want to, like, you do not have to advocate for yourself on why you're leaving the office. I mean, he worked his butt off for the past six years, and what a lot of people don't see is he's still working his butt off even when he's not at the office, like when he's at home. He is constantly, unless we're on vacation doing stuff as a family, he's constantly working on the business. And it's funny, I'm gonna end with this, but I I don't think every every person is qualified to be an entrepreneur. I as his wife, I have seen characteristics, I've seen attributes, I've seen attitudes about Briston that truly makes him a successful entrepreneur, and I don't think everybody's cut out for that. I honestly believe there are some people who literally think like an employee, like that's just and they're happy with that, and they're happy with working for other people, and they don't want to have their own thing. Like that that's intimidating them. They like where they're at. Great, but um just as the boss, you don't have to explain I don't think you have to explain yourself for whatever decisions that you're making, you're the boss, and also I think they need to realize even when you step away from The office, you're still answering emails, you're still answering phone calls, you're still brainstorming, you're still vision casting, like you're still working on the business. So, you know, I I wanted to talk about that. I I want to touch real quick on the employer mindset and what that is. And really, guys, the biggest thing about the difference between being an employee and employer. An employer takes action. They don't they don't need other people's approval. They don't, yes, they want to be praised and they want to be admired, but they don't necessarily long for people's approval. Um, they're big visionaries and they're gonna do it regardless of if you agree with them or not. And I think that's where two things I think a lot of people fail and struggle at entrepreneurship because number one, they care too much about what other people think. And when you're starting out, like when you're starting out with a business, you don't know how it's gonna go. So why are you worried about Sally and what she's gonna post on Facebook? Your business could explode, and so we don't need to have the mindset of like getting affirmation and stuff from other people who don't understand what you're trying to do. Now, a mentor, a pastor, an entrepreneur who's done it, I think, yeah, you can listen to their expertise. But a true entrepreneur takes risk, they see an opportunity and they literally close the gap between when they're given that opportunity and when they actually give the full answer and hand the check over or however much it costs over. Like they are quick decision makers, they're quick decision makers, they have leadership skills. Maybe they're not perfect at managing people, but they do care about people. Um, and I don't think everybody is qualified for that. And it's so sad, guys, it's so sad in our fallen world. I'm gonna end with laziness. It's so sad in our fallen world. You see, many people who are lazy, um, and they have broken lives. So I'm not docking their lifestyle and what's happened to them. But I am saying that, you know, there are people that are lazy, and they kind of take on this victim mentality of like, oh, that must be nice. Like to my husband, oh yeah, you started the business in college before he got married. Oh, that must have been nice because now it's here. Uh, well, what's stopping you? You're literally listening to this podcast when you should or could be vision casting the business. So, you know, I mean, Briston looked at his schedule and pretty much every waking hour that he could, he was putting into the business. So this whole like, oh, it must be nice thing, I I kind of want to laugh and say, do you know how much hard work went into this? Like, do you know how much discipline and sacrifice and everything we've done to get to where we're at? Like, I know you see this side of it, but like there was a lot that went into it that I don't think people can actually handle. Um, yeah, I just I want to end with an encouragement that back in the day in history, I feel like this was less common because families worked together. They had a trade, you know, you had uh a shoesman, or you just had different trades of people, and the family worked on it together, and so I think back then they understood unless we sell this, unless we make a profit on this, guess what, guys? We're not gonna be able to eat. Like, that's the beauty that I see in that. And I don't know. I just as the wife, I have just seen the and you know it's funny. I will say this about Texas Outlaw. We're all young, we are literally all around the same age, nobody's 30 yet. Um, I will be the first one to turn 30, and I'm technically not even like working for the business anymore, but we're all young, and that can be a great thing because of new ideas and ambitions, and just it can be a great thing, but it can also be a hard thing where when you need to have you know a difficult conversation or respect your business as the boss, well, you're the same age as him, so so it's a little it's a little different, and yeah, I don't know. I just I just think people just need to understand um the difference between the two mindsets. Not everybody's cut out to think like an entrepreneur, and that's I want to say that's okay, but um, there's so much potential in entrepreneurship, as you probably know. And I have seen this with my husband that if you just dial in and if you just stay disciplined and you just do it even when you don't want to, you're going to love the fruit that comes from it. You're gonna love seeing the impact that it made in people's lives, you're gonna love like the profit that you're getting so that way you can continue to go advance the kingdom. Like it's just yeah. So that's the episode that I have for us today. Let me know your thoughts. Let me know your thoughts about employees versus employers, um, and what your thoughts are about that. So I'll see you guys on the next episode.