She Was MISERABLE With Her Perfect Life...

She had the house, the supportive husband, the healthy kids — and she was miserable inside.

Kelly came to Body In Balance as a former massage therapist turned stay-at-home mom. She was grinding through meal prep, school pickups, and managing an entire household while her husband provided well financially. On paper, it looked perfect. On the inside, she was burning out, disconnecting from her husband, and living a life that didn't feel like hers.

In this fourth and final episode of our Client Transformation Stories series, Dr. Scott Hahn walks through Kelly's story: how the daily grind was showing up as specific stress patterns in her nervous system, why she was consuming self-help content constantly but never taking action, and what finally changed — in her body, her marriage, and her family.

This is what it looks like when the body reorganizes from survival into living.

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CHAPTERS

1:00 Meet Kelly: The Daily Grind Story Begins
2:30 Kelly's Background: Massage Therapist to Stay-at-Home Mom
3:30 The "Perfect Life on Paper" Disconnect
5:00 The Two Wolves: What You Feed Grows
6:30 C1 Apex Pattern: Thinking About the Future
8:30 Nervous System Pause: Connecting to What Matters
10:00 Redefining Family: Decisions from Growth vs. Fear
11:30 The Couples Vacation: Reconnecting as Partners
12:30 The C2 Pattern: Information Without Action
15:00 Engine in Neutral: Why the Brain Gets Stuck
16:30 The fMRI Study — 3,000% Neural Efficiency Change
18:30 How Brain Efficiency Gives You Energy to Act
20:00 Kelly's Full Transformation Summary
21:00 Series Wrap-Up & Closing

ABOUT NETWORK SPINAL CARE

Network Spinal Care (NSC) is a gentle, research-backed chiropractic approach that works directly with the nervous system to release stored tension patterns and increase the body's ability to self-regulate. Rather than treating symptoms, NSC helps the nervous system reorganize — creating lasting changes in how people feel, function, and move through life.

A landmark functional MRI study found over 3,000% improvement in neural efficiency in just 18 minutes following a network session — compared to the 6% change considered groundbreaking for pharmaceuticals.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Welcome to Healing Beyond the Symptoms. Today we're talking with Dr. Scott Hahn about a client story. This is part four of a four-part series. And we're talking about different client stories, how they started care, where they were at, and ultimately how they changed through their lives through repatterning their nervous system. Welcome to Healing Beyond the Symptoms, the podcast that helps people discover the root causes of their health struggles and take back control with science, strategy, and self-awareness. I'm Dr. Leah Hahn, a chiropractor and functional wellness doctor who believes that true healing starts beneath the surface. So let's dive in. So today's story is about Kelly. I love Kelly's story. So tell us how this journey has started or kind of where we're maybe at right now.

SPEAKER_00 0:50

So I'll start a little bit with the beginning because we've been working with Kelly for several years now. And Kelly has always kind of had this similar theme within her life of where she's at and what she's doing. It's not either not fulfilling or she feels like she's being called to do more. And in this scenario, more specifically, what we were seeing is kind of the daily grind and the daily grind of life really just starting to wear on someone. So whether there's the burnout of, and in Kelly's case, where she was a massage therapist and then she was a stay-at-home mom, and just the grind of like the meal prepping, the taking the kids to school, managing everything possible at home while dad works a very, you know, very well off, very well-paying job. So there's the balance of that. And then in addition to that, the other thing that, you know, relative to this story is some of the disconnect that can start to happen to families in these scenarios, where because they're both kind of working in a similar direction, but they're not really managing each other. They're not really managing is not the right word, but they're not connecting. They're not connecting. They're not, they're not, they're doing what society has taught them that this is what our needs are. This is who we need to be to fit into society. This is what we need to do to be successful. This is how society has defined success, which is I stay at home, I take care of the kids, I meal prep, I do all the philandry, I do all the the cooking, I do all the cleaning. And then you know, you have dad who is, you know, you know, doing the job, and basically the you know, the money's being made that way. So it's kind of your older style, if you want to think about the the working husband, the stay-at-home mom, but looking at the aspect of fulfillment within life and connection between the couple and remembering and waking basically Kelly up to help. And she started to realize the life that we've built for us, that society has taught us that we that we should have, isn't the life that I want, isn't the life for me, and this isn't how I feel connected or grounded or supported, and this is this is no longer what I want. But still wanting to maintain the family structure where there was still lots of love between the two of them, but that as the love started dim, because where you place your attention to grows. There's kind of this old teaching that talks about how there's there's two wolves. There's one that's really kind, you know, really sweet, and then there's this other just really nasty one. It'll, it'll pick a fight, it'll bite, it'll chase down anything, it'll kill anything. And and the question that gets asked is, you know, which one survives? And the answer is whichever one you feed. So in this scenario with Kelly, is like, you know, wherever you're putting your attention, wherever you're feeding, you know, that that connection, whatever you're putting that energy into is what thrives. And she was recognizing like the values that she has isn't where her energy was necessarily going. They had a good family structure by, you know, you look at it from the outside, everything looked perfect. But you look at it from the inside out, which is I think what most people can connect with is yeah, we might look good on paper, you know, we might look good on Facebook, we might look good on Instagram, but really we're all suffering on the inside. And those are the things that people aren't talking about because the passion's burning out, like the light is starting to dim. And that's not what she wanted because she still felt connected. It's one of those where it's like they know they're soulmates, they know they're meant to be together, they bring each other a lot of joy. But how do we, you know, how does she really connect in with that? And so I guess kind of bringing it full circle to because that's what she brought into our office. Like, how does that represent within someone's spine? Like, what were we seeing within her system was kind of manifested in two different patterns. I should say actually three, and it's kind of a combination of all of these. But we we talked previously about kind of like the the thoracic apex pattern, which is kind of pelvis and heart and connection there. And in her case, it was she was doing a lot of thinking about the future. What do I want my future thinking about? And is who I am, what am I representing, and and what is that? Is that good enough? And well, the way that we'll represent typically in the body is more of like a C1 apex type pattern. So apex is sacrum or pelvis. So you'll see some sort of pelvic combined with the upper cervical area. So it creates this distortion of this twisting pattern, typically like this lateral torquing that shows up in the C1, because the body's you're constantly thinking, thinking, and I shouldn't say just thinking, but thinking about the future specifically of where do I want to go? And then really it's like, who do I want to be? And is that good enough? And so when you're any for anyone who's, I mean, for any of you out here, probably most of you who are listening, you might have kids or something like that, and there's just where your demands are so high and you just don't have enough time to be able to complete everything. What care did for her was able to get her to say, pause, pay attention, what matters to me. And that's where she was able to start to look and see that it's like I've been doing all these things and I've been fulfilling someone else's dream, but not my dream. I've been fulfilling society's dream, but this isn't who I, this isn't who I am, this isn't what I represent, this isn't really what I want my family to be. And this also isn't necessarily what I want to, you know, show my kids as an example of this is what a healthy family structure looks like, because the parents never talked, they were never together, even though they didn't fight, they were they're cordial, like they got along well, but there was just no longer any connection there. And so, and she realized that it's like, and I should say both of them realized that this isn't really the direction that we want to go, and we want to be able to kind of support that. So helping her through the care of being able to let her nervous system pause long enough through the care to release the stress patterns, to release all of the like, here's what I need to be doing, here's what society taught me that I should be doing, to basically take that pause and have that internal, like, you know, inspection or, you know, like basically looking back and looking at her life to say, like, this isn't really, this isn't where I wanted to get to. This is what I thought I wanted because this is what society taught me. And it looks good on the outside because that's what your Facebook and all those things are teaching us, or I should say, are trying to present to us. But the reality is, is she knew that that wasn't right in her heart, and it was one where it's like, I wanted more, I wanted this connection, and I care more about the family and the other individual than I do about all these things that society has really taught me.

SPEAKER_01 7:38

So by helping her body get out of fight or flight, she was able to get much more in touch with basically her frontal cortex, which is the part of the brain that allows you to think and to process information, be more creative, and be more in touch with who you really are. And so that's kind of where that pause was created by creating that safety within the nervous system. So she really got to a point where she knew how her life, she wanted her life to transform.

SPEAKER_00 8:04

Exactly. And so there was things that she was considering for the kids as far as like, do I want a homeschool? Do I want to put them in this school? Like, what do I want for them? And once she realized, like, this is what's congruent for like, and it's not just her needs, it's for the kids' needs too, but this is congruent for what I want rather than what society tells me I should do, then she was able to make the right decision for both of her kids as far as like, here's what I think is gonna best support them. And also in a place where it's from a growth perspective versus fear perspective. Are they gonna be good enough if they're not in this traditional situation, even though this other situation is actually what's better and they really need, and releasing that fear for them, but also being able to connect into who she is and what she needs so she can best support herself as well.

SPEAKER_01 8:48

Nice.

SPEAKER_00 8:49

And her and her husband actually now have planned a vacation just for them with no kids involved. So therefore they can reconnect back into who they are and what they represent and what they want to create for themselves together as a couple, versus putting everyone else's needs first.

SPEAKER_01 9:05

Nice. So a huge transition in her life. And it I think that you we see that so commonly when people come into the office, there's this incongruency between who they are and the life that they're living. And that creates pain. It's one of the main causes of pain. And so how that's showing up in the body, our job is to figure out how it's presenting in the physical structures of the body and then how that's affecting them on an emotional level and that kind of frequency and tone and help unwind that tension so that they can create this neurological safety within their body. They can become more in touch with their feelings and gradually make those steps to become closer to who they really are and what life they are meant to live, versus instead of like making it just look good on paper. The other part I want to talk about in Kelly's story is that we've talked about other clients' story that were maybe they're using alcohol or food in order to kind of self-soothe or to kind of create this false safety within the body to kind of check out. But in Kelly's situation, she was such a consumer of information. So she would listen to books and podcasts and just take in information constantly, but then she never really did anything with it. So she was almost using those forms of information or just constantly listening to things as a way to check out, as a way to not feel. And so, how did that present in her body?

SPEAKER_00 10:33

So, what I saw with her as well in the process of this is kind of the first part that that will show up as, because we talked about the many different phases and the frequency patterns, is like a C2 apex pattern where you're thinking, thinking, thinking, thinking. It's the proverbial. If you see the picture with the guy with his, you know, hand on his chin, bent over, thinking, that's that's that specific posture. And how that represents on the table is you'll see an upper cervical, or not upper cervical, C2 or C three, typically shifted laterally. And then you'll see the pelvis kind of like on the opposite side pulled out to the opposite direction. So you'll see sometimes you'll actually can see short like even legs, but it's common that you'll see a short leg in this one, and you'll see a cervical pattern that will show up, and then the pelvis pattern will show up, and then the cervical pattern will show up, and then the pelvic pattern will show up. And you can feel the frequency in those two areas is identical.

SPEAKER_01 11:26

And what's the emotional tone that then goes with that? Because I see that in a very specific way. How do you see that?

SPEAKER_00 11:32

I typically see it as this, it's almost like a car. The best way to describe it is like where your foot's on the gas, it's in neutral and it's revving, but it's not going anywhere. So it's like there's high RPMs, okay, but it's not in gear. And so that's where it's like the engine, like the brain is thinking, thinking, thinking, thinking, thinking, but it doesn't have anywhere to put that energy into direction.

SPEAKER_01 11:53

No action.

SPEAKER_00 11:54

No action.

SPEAKER_01 11:54

So how I typically see the emotional tone of that pattern is like resignation. It's like this is just the way things are. Like I can take in all this information, but nothing changes for me. I'm not actually doing anything with it. I'm not taking action with it, I'm not making any life changes. I'm just listening to it and I'm thinking about all these things that I would like to change, but again, I'm not doing anything. And in order for someone to get enough energy to actually make healthy changes in their lives, they need, well, they need energy. They need, if we can clear out enough tension within the nervous system, they can increase that level of energy so they actually can kind of move forward with positive changes. And once that starts, it's so exciting to see how things actually start to progress because all it can take is like an instant of making like enough energy in the system to be like, okay, this is it. I'm making this choice or I'm making this shift, or I'm redefining my family, or whatever it may be.

SPEAKER_00 12:55

So that really reminds me of one of the studies that they did back in the day where they looked at the functional RMRI unit and they looked at the brain and they just had the person move their ankle and you saw how much of the brain lit up, which was this huge part of the brain. And you could see them for the motor cortexes light up more for the part that was coordinated for the ankle. And then they worked on them with a network adjustment and network session. And it was, I think it was 18 minutes was between the pre and the post-reading and the functional RMRI unit, is what they used, which in the functional RMI unit is what is basically is able to detect brain functionality, like what part of the brain is lit up, how lit up is it. And in that 18 minutes, there was over 3,000% change from pre to post of improvement in the neural functionality, uh, improvement in energy capacity, or I should say energy efficiency, because where the whole brain went was completely lit up, now it was just the two motor cortexes. So, what that the researchers actually stopped to look at the machine to see like, is the machine working right? Because it was such a massive change. And for a drug to be groundbreaking, it's a 6% change in that time frame and there was a 3,000% change. So imagine being able to change your neural efficiency. Because if that energy that was going to just random stuff all of a sudden now can get directed into specific areas, you're gonna have a lot more energy throughout the day because your brain is the primary consumer of energy. And if your brain isn't just wasting energy on all these different pieces and it improves the energy efficiency, that will improve that alone. You know, there's all these other ways that it's gonna help too, but that alone will give you the energy to say, hey, now I can take action. Now my brain isn't thinking about 10,000 things at the same time. Now I can think about here's what I want to do, here's what I want to do, like to take action with. Oh, I heard this. Now I have the energy to say, let me take this from thought into action to make change so she can have like, and that's what she started doing. So therefore her family could be healthier.

SPEAKER_01 14:57

So that when we talk about reorganization of the nervous system, it is has a lot to do with how the brain is processing information and then repatterning that the information that's getting to the rest of the body. And so when we talk about how there's so much like brain fog clearing or sleeping better or functioning better, healing better, so much again, like has to do with how the brain is able to process. So so much exciting information, I think, with her story in terms of how she was able to make those life changes, how her patterning shift, how did she became more in touch with what was happening within her body and her life. So I love that. So we've talked about Kelly's story and we've really wrapped up a four-part series talking about different clients stories that were dealing with overwhelm and stress and chronic stress, maybe even overcoming some big life habits, big changes. So it's been really great to be able to interview Dr. Scott and talk about some of the science behind that, some of the patterning behind that, and really how network can help transform people's lives when they really commit to the process of healing and helping their nervous system function at a whole new level. Thank you so much for joining us with Healing Beyond the Symptoms. Make sure that you leave us a review and that you're following the show. We want to help and reach so many more people with this information. Thanks again for joining me today on Healing Beyond the Symptoms. If you've been curious about network spinal or if you've tried everything else and still feel stuck, I want you to notice your body is not broken. It's a pattern, and those patterns can change. If you're ready to experience how gentle care can lead to profound transformation, I'd love to invite you to book a wellness consultation at Body in Balance Chiropractic.com. Together we'll look at what your body needs to finally release, reset, and thrive. Until next time, breathe deep, trust your body, and remember to be gentle and be powerful.