第十九期【危险关系：爱，控制与家暴之间的边界（下）】

（接上期）我们从《危险关系》聊起。聊那些看似浪漫深情、实则充满操控与权力失衡的关系；也聊为什么很多家暴，并不是从拳头开始，而是从一次次情绪贬低、控制、试探和“为你好”开始。

有时候最危险的关系，并不会一开始就面目狰狞。它甚至可能披着爱、保护、依赖和深情的外衣，让人一步一步失去边界、失去自我，最后连痛苦都开始合理化。

这一期，我们聊亲密关系里的 manipulation、gaslighting、情感控制，以及那些容易被忽视的“隐形家暴”。
也聊为什么离开一段危险关系，往往比外人想象中更难。

如果你也曾在一段关系里感到过窒息、失控、自我怀疑，或许这一期会让你重新理解很多事情。

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