11. Why You Keep Worrying (Even When You Say You Trust God)

Why you keep worrying even when you trust God, and how to finally stop overthinking.

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If you’ve ever prayed, surrendered something to God, and then found yourself worrying about it all over again, this episode is for you. 

In this episode, Petrina unpacks why trusting God can feel real in one moment and then suddenly slip into overthinking, fear, and control in the next. You’ll learn why this pattern is not just about discipline, but about the deeper beliefs driving your anxiety and struggle to let go. 

This Christian encouragement episode will help you understand what’s underneath your worry, renew your mind with truth, and take practical steps toward deeper trust in God.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
 • Why worry and overthinking keep repeating even when you trust God
 • How hidden beliefs shape your reactions more than willpower does
 • What to do in the moment when you feel yourself taking control back
 • How to replace fear with truth from God’s Word
 • Why surrender is a daily practice, not a one-time moment

TIMESTAMPS
0:00 Why do I keep worrying… even after trusting God?
1:30 It doesn’t last
2:07 It’s stealing your peace
2:44 Trying harder isn’t working
3:55 I didn’t fully trust God
4:58 It’s not a discipline problem
9:52 God isn’t fixing behaviour first
10:22 What do you actually do with this?

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Transcript

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Have you ever said, God, I trust you with this? And then later you're lying in bed and you're worrying about it again. You're thinking it through, you're replaying it, you're trying to fix it, and you're trying to figure out what to do next. And you catch yourself thinking, why do I do this? If you've ever felt that, stay with me because this is going to help you understand exactly what's going on. Hi, I'm Petrina, and this is the Pretty Deep podcast, where we talk about the real patterns we keep falling into and the deeper things underneath them that we don't always see. In this episode, we're going to talk about why you keep repeating patterns like this. We'll talk about what's actually driving it underneath the surface and what needs to change so you don't keep ending up back here. Because if you've ever thought I should be further along by now, why am I still struggling with this? Then this is going to show you something that you might not have seen before. So let's pause here for a second. Because most of us, when we see this pattern, we'll come to a very simple conclusion. We'll think, I just need to trust God more. I need to stop doing this. I need to try harder next time. So then we do. And we try to catch ourselves earlier. We try to hold on to that moment where we said, God, I trust you. But if you've ever tried that, you already know something. It doesn't last. You might have a few good days, maybe even a good week, where you feel like, okay, I've got this now. And then something happens. A situation comes up or a decision needs to be made. And something feels uncertain. And you know what? Just like that, you're back in it again. Same thoughts, same patterns, same cycle. And here's why this matters. Because this isn't just a small habit. It steals your peace. You can't switch off. Your mind keeps going at a million miles per hour. And you carry it with you through the day. It creates anxiety because everything feels like it depends on you getting it right. It creates pressure, it pulls you out of a state of rest. It pulls you out of trust and it pulls you back into striving. So this isn't just about being a better Christian or doing the right thing. Because if this was just about trying harder, it could have worked by now. So the question becomes what's actually going on? Now, if this is hitting home for you, make sure you're subscribed because this is exactly what we unpack here. In that moment, when you're taking the problem back, you're not just choosing a behavior. It doesn't feel like a decision. It feels automatic, like something in you just moves. Because clearly something deeper is driving this. And until you see what this is, you'll keep trying to fix the surface. While the pattern underneath, it just keeps repeating itself. Let me show you what I started to realize. Because when I looked honestly at those moments when I was taking things back from God, it wasn't random. There was always something underneath it. For me, it usually sounded like this. If I don't step in, something will go wrong. If I don't handle this, it won't turn out okay. And that didn't feel like fear. It felt like responsibility. It felt to me like I care about this. That's why. I need to do something. I can't just leave this. But when I really sat with it, I realized something uncomfortable. I didn't actually trust that God could handle it. Not fully. Because if I did, I wouldn't keep stepping back in. And this is where, upon realization, it started to shift. Because what looks like a behavior problem isn't just behavior, it's belief. Every time you take control back, you're not just reacting, you're responding to something that you believe is true in that moment. That if you don't manage this, it will fall apart. Or that if you don't manage this, it won't work out or it'll go wrong. You can try to change the behavior without ever touching the belief underneath it. Which is why you can pray but still worry. You can trust God but still take it back. And you can know the truth and still not live from it. Not because you're failing, but because something underneath has not changed yet. You're not stuck because you lack discipline, you're stuck because something underneath has not been transformed yet. And this is the part most people never see, which is why they stay stuck. And until that shifts, the pattern won't shift either. And once you start to see that, it will change how you look at everything. Because now you're not just looking at the behavior anymore. You're asking what's actually driving this behavior. The behavior is not the real problem, it's only the surface. The worrying, the overthinking, the trying to control things. That's just what you can see. And you can change behavior without changing what's driving it. You can tell yourself, I'll stop worrying. I'm just going to trust God. I'm not going to do this again. But if what's underneath has not shifted, you'll go straight back to it. This is why willpower doesn't work. Because willpower is trying to control the surface while something underneath is still pulling you back. So you end up in this cycle. You try harder, you do better, you slip back, then you feel frustrated. And again and again and again and again. Patterns are not just problems, they're signals. They're showing you something that's really important. It's not just this needs to stop, but something underneath needs to change. The real issue isn't that you don't know the truth. It's that you're not living from it yet. You know God is faithful. You know he's good. You know he's in control. But in that moment, something else feels more real to you. The fear feels more real, the pressure feels more real, and the need to control, it feels more real. And that's what you respond to. This is the gap between knowing something in your head and actually believing it in your heart. And until that shift happens, you will keep finding yourself in the same place. So if the issue isn't just behavior and it's not just discipline and it's not just about trying harder, then what actually needs to change? What actually needs to change is what you believe about God. Every time you take control back, every time you go back into worry, every time you start trying to fix it yourself, you're responding to what you believe is true about God in that moment. And for so many of us, this is where the disconnect is. Because we say God is faithful, God is in control, God is good. But when it comes to our real life, the way we respond shows something else. It shows that somewhere underneath it all, we're still unsure. So let's strip it right back. God is not distant, he is near. God is not cold, he is loving and present and involved. God is not waiting for you to fail. He is full of grace and mercy and compassion towards you. God is not unconcerned about your life. He cares about every detail. If you truly believe that, you won't keep taking things back. Not because you're trying harder, but because you won't need to. Because when something becomes real to you, your behavior follows naturally. It's not that you don't know the truth, it's that the truth hasn't become real to you yet. And you already understand this in your everyday life. Think about any relationship. If someone tells you something, but their actions don't match it, they say, You can trust me, I've got you, I've got your back, I care about you. But then they don't show up, they don't follow through, they let you down. You might still know what they said, but you won't trust it, not fully. Because trust is not built on what you hear, it's built on what you've seen evidence of over time. What you've experienced becomes more real to you than what you've been told. Because with God, it's not that he hasn't been faithful. He has. If you haven't seen it or recognized it, then in those moments you won't respond from truth. You'll respond from what feels real instead. And that's why you'll go back. And that's why you can know that God is faithful and still feel anxious. You can know that he's in control and still try to control everything. And you can know that he's good and still struggle to trust him. Because in that moment, something else feels more real than God. The fear, the pressure, the responsibility, they feel real. So that's what you respond to. But here's the shift: God is not trying to fix your behavior first, he is transforming what you believe about him. Because when it changes, everything changes. When you truly see him as faithful, you stop trying to control outcomes. When you truly see him as good, you stop fearing that things will go wrong. When you truly see him as present and involved, you stop acting like everything depends on you. Because you're finally seeing clearly, and that leads to real change. So the question now becomes: what do you actually do with this? Because this is not about trying harder and it's not about forcing yourself to trust God. It's about learning to recognize what's happening and responding differently in that moment. So, step one is to notice the moment, catch it. That moment when your mind starts going, catch it. When you start replaying it, when you start feeling the urge to step back in and fix it, instead of just following it, pause and recognize. I'm taking this back. That awareness alone, it's powerful. Step two, name what's underneath. Then ask yourself, what am I actually afraid of right now? And please be honest with yourself. I'm afraid this will go wrong. I'm afraid they will make the wrong decision. I'm afraid I'll regret not stepping in. Because you know what? Once you name it, you expose what's driving it. Step three, take your thoughts captive. And this is where scripture becomes very real. The Bible says, take every thought captive to obey Christ. Take a look at 2 Corinthians chapter 10, verse 5. What that means is you don't just follow every thought that comes into your mind. You stop and ask, is this actually true or is this fear talking? And then when you've done that, you replace it not with positive or wishful thinking, but with the truth of God's word. So if you're worrying about your children, you go to what God says about your children. If you're worrying about provision, you go to what God says about provision. If you're worrying about your health, you go to what God says about your health in the word. Because you don't overcome fear by trying to suppress it, you overcome it by replacing it with truth. This is what it means to renew your mind, Romans 12.2, or to think on what is true, Philippians 4.8, or to stay your mind on him, Isaiah 26, 3. This is not theory. This is what you do in the moment. Step 4, let God show you who he is. You don't build trust by trying harder. You build trust by knowing the one in who you are placing your trust. So instead of just sitting in your thoughts, go to God's word, go with intention. Don't go to tick a box. Don't go to be a better Christian. Go so you can see him. Ask him, God, please, as I read your word, show me who you are in this. Show me your nature. Show me your character. And here's something powerful to start doing. In the Old Testament, every time God showed up for his people, every time he did something miraculous, they built a physical monument, something that they could look back at and remember, God was faithful here. And we need to do the same thing in our lives. We need to mark it, write it down, celebrate it. Don't rush past it too quickly. Because when you go through something hard later, you can turn back and say, God was faithful there. He'll be faithful again. And the more you see that, the more real he becomes to you. And when he becomes real, trust will follow naturally. Step five, practice surrender daily. And this one is really important. It's not a one-time decision, it's a daily choice. Every day you wake up, you choose to surrender to God, to trust him, to walk in faith. And yes, you will give it to God and you will take it back again. And then you'll give it again and you'll take it back again. And you know what? That doesn't mean you've failed. That is the process. Every time you notice it, every time you bring it back, you're strengthening something new. You don't need to try harder, you need to go deeper. You need to go deeper into who God is and how he works and what is actually true. And in fact, that's exactly what God wants from you. He's not asking you to perform better, he's just inviting you to come deeper with him. Because the fact that you are even noticing this, it shows that this is what you want. And God sees that and he loves it. So you're not behind. Nothing is wrong with you. Instead of seeing these moments as failure, start seeing them as an invitation to come back, to trust again, to know God more in that exact place. Because you're not stuck in this pattern. You've just been trying to fix the wrong thing. And now that you can see it, this is where things will begin to change. And they may not change instantly or perfectly, but they will change genuinely and deeply. Because God is not trying to get you to behave better, he's transforming you from the inside out. And his word promises that he will finish what he started. This is not where your story ends. Let's leave it with this. The pattern is not the problem. It's pointing you to what God wants to change. And every time you notice it, every time you feel that pull to take control back, don't just fight the behavior. Go deeper with God. Because that's where real change happens. If this episode helped you see something you hadn't seen before, please follow and subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. I do new episodes every week and I'd love to have you with me. And if you're in this place of feeling stuck and not knowing what to do, I'm linking another episode for you right here. It's about getting unstuck when you're not sure what's next for you. It'll really help you to take that next step in faith. I'll see you in the next episode. Much love.