From Baggage to Breakthrough

We all carry things from our past—family patterns, pain, and habits we never meant to pass on. So what do you do once you see that generational baggage? And how can you begin to repair what’s been handed to your kids?

In this conversation, we’re talking about recognizing broken patterns, finding healing, and inviting God to bring restoration to your family line. It’s never too late for redemption! 

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SPEAKER_03: 0:00

Hello everyone and welcome back to FAMology. We're having such a good time delivering this podcast, but we're also going to try to experiment and try some new different things. So this podcast, we're just answering one question and it's going to be a little bit shorter. And so we'll see how people respond to that.

SPEAKER_01: 0:16

Yeah, we were kind of thinking that it might be nice on our website and even on the YouTube channel to be able to categorize the questions by if it's marriage, parenting, family, is it toddler, you know, just to make some of these archival of the process a little easier for us.

SPEAKER_03: 0:33

Yeah. And so there's an opportunity for you to connect with us and uh give us feedback as far as what you like as well. And so we'll try to connect with you and uh and tabulate some of those things and make some changes because we're learning as we go.

SPEAKER_01: 0:47

Yeah, so give us your opinions below.

SPEAKER_03: 0:54

So we're going to jump into the first question, the only question, uh, which is um, how do you deal with generational baggage once recognized? And how do you repair anything passed to our children? This was given to us by Melissa from Minnesota. Uh, it's a great question. It's a great encompassing family question when we talk about generational things, you know.

SPEAKER_01: 1:16

Yeah. So I in I have a resource that I love, love, love for interuteral opportunities for getting some of this even broken off when moms are pregnant. And it was a resource I didn't find until we were pregnant with our eighth little wonder, Sadie. And I loved reading this over um over her just every day. I would pick one of these and read them over her. And I felt like it was such an awesome opportunity to like wash her in truth and kind of take care of some of this stuff so that it was even handled before she was born. And the book um that I'm referring to is called Pure Joy. And if you're watching on YouTube, I'll hold it up for you. Um, Pure Joy, and it's by Crystal Wade and Arthur Burke. And I'm just gonna read you a little tidbit, so um, just so you can get a feel for it. I'm looking for the one that I wanted. Here we go. You know what? 52-year-old mothers should put on their reading glasses first. All right. Child, I call your spirit to attention in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. Listen as I read the word of God to you. Hebrews 4 16 says, Let us approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. Your Heavenly Father loves you when you are behaving badly as well as when you're behaving well. I bless you with the joy of receiving and responding to his unconditional love. I bless you with the joy of knowing he placed your parents in your life to love you and to train you in his ways. I bless you with freedom from being denied or defined in your eternal eternal relationship to your father by punishment and rewards which are administered by your parents. I bless you with the joy of freedom to extend grace to yourself and to your parents. I bless you to know deep in your heart that your father always loves you unconditionally. And I just think praying this sort of prayer over our unborn, and I think with some modification, you could use it for young children as well. It's super helpful uh to begin to instill truth because I think sometimes we we focus on the baggage instead of actually instilling the the what we want them to carry.

SPEAKER_03: 3:46

Yeah. No, I think that's good, and I I agree about not focusing on the baggage. Um the baggage can sometimes be real, and and there is some generational things that can take place, which is obviously the heart of this question. And I think inheritance is very powerful. Yeah, but we always have to remember as children of God, yeah, as members of his household, that we only have to inherit the good stuff. Yeah. Um, and so I it doesn't mean that we don't inherit the bad stuff, and it doesn't mean that we don't put ourselves in that position and and that we partner with the enemy sometimes to receive what he has for us, the enemy has that the enemy has for us. Uh we can do that and we can fall into the same traps and different things that way. But but we have to remember at the end of the day, we only have to inherit the good stuff. And so the the things that are are ours as an inheritance from a spiritual standpoint. Yeah. And so the the heart of this mother asking this question, of course, is uh there's probably some things in their family line or some things that have been passed down generationally. And how do we cut that? How do we how do we stop that? And uh, and I I think I think the short answer to the question, or my my immediate answer, is that the moms and dads become healed themselves. I think that's the issue because there has to be somebody generationally that stands in the gap and says no more. Yeah. Um, what we've learned in ministry is that the enemy doesn't fight fair and he doesn't care about your age, he doesn't care about your history, he doesn't care about how much CRAP that you've had in your life. He doesn't care. In fact, he'd probably prefer just to pile on and and to take you out. And um, that's that's his goal is to steal, kill, and destroy. Um, and so we have to at some point be the generation that says, no more, we're gonna draw the line, you know. Yeah, and so I know that your mother has been such a great example for our family. And I don't know if you'd be willing to share just a real quick uh you know, testimony, her testimony.

SPEAKER_01: 5:37

We should have had my mother on sometime we will, and we'll let her share her testimony. But my breakthrough for sure. Yeah, and I think so. My mom, in brief, she she grew up in a an abusive home, mostly verbally abusive, some some physical, but I would say mostly verbal. And it was very, very hard. And um, she was the oldest of three girls, and uh, and and because her uh one of her parents just wanted boys so badly, and she ended up with three stinking girls, was the you know how it was phrased, and it was very, very painful for my mom. But in the midst of pain, my mother did the bravest thing that you can do, and she forgave. Yeah, she forgave, and it seems like such a uh Christian word that we say, like, hey, you just need to forgive them, but actually, forgiveness isn't for the other person, although it it is, it's for you. My mother forgave, and it actually set her free, and it set our generations free. The things that held our family line captive, yeah, and their story after story after story, because my mom forgave, those things were broken. They're not inherited, they go no further, and and it's an absolute miracle testimony of the goodness of God and the power of forgiveness.

SPEAKER_03: 7:16

Yeah, you know, the enemy is not the equal and opposite of God, he he is not powerful in and of himself, he only can be empowered. Yeah, and the way that you disempower the enemy is through forgiveness, yeah, through being unoffendable, through through seeing those things uh generationally even and saying, No longer am I going to empower you with with even wrong decisions and and and cyclical behaviors and things like that. We decide that we're just going to disempower him. Yeah. And that's that's the role that we have. And through the blood of Jesus, we can actually do that.

SPEAKER_01: 7:48

And and I'm gonna interrupt you right here because I think one of the keys to disappoint disempowering the enemy is to not fear him.

SPEAKER_03: 7:56

That's good.

SPEAKER_01: 7:57

Fear is his language, it's the language of the kingdom of darkness. And when we are looking to break things off, then we can no longer speak the language of what we're trying to leave behind. And so that means that truth needs to become our front and our rear guard. And we cannot, we have to let the Lord's shalom peace enter our hearts in these areas because I think one of the traps of the enemy is is, you know, we recognize the baggage, as this question says, and then we fear that we're going to see it in ourselves and our children. And that very fear actually gets its tentacles around us and is part of what allows it to happen. I don't know.

SPEAKER_03: 8:43

He he loves to use our history to ensnare us and uh try to convince us that that's who we are, and that's all he has is to be able to disempower us from our identity. And and and so so you're absolutely right. It that it actually breaks generational curses um by by disempowering who he is and making those choices. And it really always comes back to when we talk about generational things, in my opinion, it comes back to the blood of Jesus. Yes. But what what he did and and what he paid for is enough. Yes, and so we have to we have to have such confidence. Sometimes we have more confidence in these generational curses than we do in generational blessings that we receive through the blood of Jesus.

SPEAKER_01: 9:23

And that's laughable, guys. That is absolutely laughable. It is.

SPEAKER_03: 9:26

We we have to understand who we are, yeah. And so there is something called a bond of iniquity, and it's a big fancy religious term, um, but it's it deals with some of these generational things that kind of hold us and bind us. Yeah, and and it says that you know, we we can actually since we're talking about parents, this is what my father would would would preach on often is taking taking the cross, turning it into a sword, and cutting the bonds of iniquity. That that's what he's paid for. Yeah, so so like why wouldn't we use that? Yes, come on. Um, and so that's the blood of Jesus. And so, you know, how do you repair anything? The blood of Jesus, you know what how do we stop generational baggage? The blood of Jesus. I mean, that's what it is, and so we so we with confidence we partner with the blood of Jesus and then just end these things, yeah, you know.

SPEAKER_01: 10:09

And then I would say too that we we partner with the blood of Jesus, absolutely, and then we actually begin to bless ourselves and our children with whatever the opposite is. Right. If you see generational stress and anxiety that's gripping your family, then you begin to declare peace and trust and rest, find Bible verses that you can partner with and bring those things before the Lord. And as you know what, I am thankful that I live in the country because I can go outside and talk as loud as I want to the Lord and just at the top of my voice say these declarations out of what I'm declaring over our family. And don't be the one that repeats what we don't want to see, be the one that repeats the thing that you actually want to take root in your family.

SPEAKER_03: 11:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01: 11:01

Call those things forth.

SPEAKER_03: 11:03

Yeah, I mean, I think a hallmark of our faith, our Christian faith, is that he has reversed the curse. I mean, that's that's our hallmark of what we believe. Yeah, and so if that's true, then let's believe it. Yes, let's let's believe it for our family, let's believe it for your family. Come on. Um, let's believe that that his blood is enough, and and we can and we can by by speaking out the blessings, by declaring what's true, we actually cancel lies. It just makes sense. And so that's that's my message to you, Melissa. That's our heart to you, is is if these are some generational things, then then it can just be ended through the blood of Jesus as well as through the declaration of who you are as the mom, uh, as part of this family, and uh and can begin to reverse the curse over anything that's been spoken over your family. Um, so we should just do that. So uh I'm just gonna pray. I'm gonna talk about the bot cutting the bond of iniquity. If that's you and your family, and you feel like there's been these things that have been recurrent in your family, and you're like, man, I can't shake it, or it's who we are, or you've even declared like this is just what our family is. And uh that that's not truth. It might be true for you, but it's not truth. Yes, and so we have to declare truth. And so um, so I'm just gonna do that. So, Father, we just uh we just lift up these families represented by this question today on FAMOL about generational curses or connections or iniquities. And Lord, and Father, we just we just are so grateful for your son who obediently went to the cross and shed his blood. So, Jesus, we um we connect to you in your heart and your blood that you shed so willingly for us. And we take the cross and we turn it into a sword and we cut the bond of iniquities over these families, over Melissa's family, over every family that connects to this question, uh, that it is no more. Um, and we only have to inherit the good stuff. And so, Lord, we replace that curse with the blessing of who you are and of your blood. And we pray this in Jesus' name. Amen.

SPEAKER_01: 13:00

Amen. Amen. I'm just gonna add to that, Lord. We just thank you for the families, for the generation that's coming after us, Father, the things that you're doing to instill confidence of who you are in them. Father, they are the radiant ones, shielded and protected by you with laser focus, with eyes staring into yours, being propelled further into the kingdom of God. And so we just bless our families, we bless our generations, we bless our children, our grandchildren, and our great-grandchildren that we would be generations that are in hot pursuit of you, leaving behind the former things and pressing on to what you have called us to. Amen. Amen.

SPEAKER_00: 13:53

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