Ep 59 - What It's Actually Like to Have a Spirit Guide Relationship

Most people wonder if a spirit guide relationship is even possible for them, and what it would actually feel like to have one. This episode answers that directly.

Kim Charlson shares what it's been like developing her relationship with Monty, what she's seen happen for her students when they make that first connection, and why that initial moment of contact so often brings people to tears. Monty then shares the spirit guide perspective on the relationship, including why it's just as much a growth experience for them as it is for you, and why your guides don't always get it right.

Topics covered:

• What the first connection with a spirit guide actually feels like
• Why spirit guides offer unconditional support when humans can't
• How spirit guides benefit from the relationship too
• Why your guides sometimes get it wrong, and what to do about it
• The two-way nature of the spirit guide and human connection

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Transcript

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Hello and welcome to the Vessel in Voice Podcast. I'm your host, Kim Charlson, and in today's episode, we're going to be talking about what it's actually like to have a relationship with your spirit guides and how that impacts your life. So let's get into it. So if you've been listening to this podcast for a little while, you've probably thought, I wonder what it would be like to have a relationship with my spirit guides. One where I could tune in and get guidance when I needed it. And what would that actually feel like? Is it going to be like what Kim has with Monty? Is that possible for me? So I wanted to cover a little bit about not only my experience getting to know Monty and what that relationship has really brought to my life, but also those of my students and mentees that they have developed that relationship with their own spirit guides or source of guidance. When we first start to tune into our spirit guides, very often the thing that I've noticed in my students is just how much we need a source of unconditional support. And that our spirit guides are the place where we can receive that support. It's an interesting thing because we often think that people in our lives can give us that unconditional love that we deserve, that we feel that we need. But in the human realm, there are always kind of limits because, in many ways, we feel like we are limited and there's only so much that we're kind of willing to put up with. If someone makes too many mistakes that are really against your values, you kind of tend to not want them in your life anymore. And if we do that in our lives, especially when we're in our spiritual journeys and we're starting to make choices that are very, very different than maybe what the people in our lives are expecting or wanting us to make, that unconditional love that we thought we had sometimes starts to break down. I found that the first time that someone tunes into their spirit guides and makes that connection can be an overwhelming experience of feeling unconditional love in such a way that very often when we do a live Meet Your Spirit Guides event, at least one or two people will have tears instantaneously come to their eyes because it feels like such a powerful moment of relief and release. Because all of a sudden, there's somebody that is there that is loving them, regardless of the mistakes that they've made, regardless of the choices that they're making, and that they fully wholeheartedly support them in those choices, even if they know that they aren't the most aligned. That's really the foundation of a spirit guide relationship is that unconditional love. And in today's channeled guidance from Monty, they're going to be sharing the spirit guide perspective on how they actually get to that and what the sort of logistical aspects are of being able to love someone unconditionally looks like on their side. I wanted to also talk about how spirit guide relationships can start to impact you. So when you have that source of unconditional love and you want to move forward and do some things in your life that may be difficult or challenging, you not only have a source of guidance that you can go to for advice and say, I'm not really sure what the right choice is. Can we hash this out? Can you help me see the different perspectives? Sphericas are really, really good at that. But the other thing is that even when you mess up, even when you make the wrong choice, you still have their support and you feel that support very often, whether you're conscious of it or not, they are cheering you on. They love when you make mistakes. It's kind of a funny thing because when you make mistakes, they're still helping you on your path. That's very often the spirit guide perspective that they share. So when we are going through all of that work of stepping into that new spiritual identity that we have, of making different choices, and we start to feel that tension come up with who we have been and what people are expecting of us. Spirit guide relationships give us that foundation. And I've seen this a lot in my students. Like one student in particular was making a really big career change, was asking them to really step into a different identity than what they had ever been before. It was having them step into an identity that felt honestly very at odds with what they thought were the correct values in life. And every single time they would tune into their spirit guides, their spirit guides would reiterate this is okay for you to be this way. This is okay for you to embody this identity. These are the ways that this identity is beneficial for others. Look at all these different things that as you're taking steps forward, notice this stuff is happening for others in your life. And that reassurance helped them have the bravery to step forward, as well as the logistical help of I don't know what to do in this situation. Can you give me some help here? I need some advice. And sure enough, every single time that they would tune into their spirit guides and they would give them some kind of unusual advice, it would come that they needed to take the action. That was something small that their spirit guides had asked them to do. For example, they were going to an event and their spirit guides were really insistent that they needed to take a little carabiner with them. And they didn't know why, but they thought, okay, it's not really taking up that much room in my luggage. I'll just stick it in there. And then sure enough, the event gave him a free water bottle, but he had no way of putting it in his bag. So the carabiner allowed him to take the water, get the energy support of having fresh water and the physical support of that without having to deal with the water bottle, just being able to clip it on their bag. I love that it can be simple, practical things like that, but it can also be those big life-changing moments that we face where spirit guides can really come in and be helpful. Let's hear from Monty on the spirit guide perspective, and then we'll bring it all together at the end. It is our divine pleasure to speak about what it is like for a spirit guide to have a relationship with their human counterpart. The most important aspect to understand about these relationships is that they are a way for us to come even further into our own spiritual evolution. As spirit guides, we have allowed ourselves to come into this relationship. And with that intention is to help and support unconditionally our human counterpart. With that comes the challenge. For us, when we enter into this type of relationship, we are allowing ourselves to experience what it is like to have to unconditionally support another. We have to be conscious on a consistent basis of our own choices, our own opinions, and our own evolution, of releasing those to provide that unconditional support. This is why sometimes spirit guides may give advice that is out of alignment for you, because this is what we are working on in our side of the relationship. It is just as beneficial for us as it is for you. We do not do this work alone as well. It is something that we do in a collaborative effort with many other spirit beings. This relationship with the other spirit beings allows us to have the support that we need to be able to set aside our own personal opinions that may be out of alignment for our human counterpart, to remind ourselves collectively of our commitment and dedication to our human counterpart and our relationship with them. This is why many times you will have guides that may offer opinions or perspectives that do not feel quite in alignment with you, or that don't quite make sense because they are working on their own skill set of being able to set aside their own personal opinions, their abilities to tune in to your energy, the energy of all of the possibilities that are available to provide you with the most accurate, clear advice that is the most actionable and supportive for you. In many times, it is a collaborative effort between multiple spirit guide groups to be able to provide you with the support that you need. It is never truly up to one specific spirit guide individual, however, it may be that you are only experiencing the relationship with one guide. When it comes to the actual relationship with the human counterpart, not only does it provide us with that aspect of challenge, but it also provides us with the aspect of comfort, of knowing that we are connected with another soul in such a way that it allows our energy to come more fully into our own, that it allows us to have the capacity to be in support, to be in unconditional love. And with this, this allows us to come further into that relationship, furthering that connection. Because as we are working on these skills within ourselves, we are channeling this same energy to you. We are allowing ourselves to be the transmission point of that eternal energy from the all that is through our own filtering to you. That relationship of that energetic connection is also two-way, even if you are not conscious of us, that your energy also naturally responds to that reception. That as we are transmitting these energies to you, your own energy is transmuting them and returning them and kind to us in a different format, in a different way, for us to experience your uniqueness through that relationship, through that two-way interaction. And this happens very naturally between us, between the spirit guide and our human counterpart. It is not a requirement that you are conscious of our energy because your soul is conscious of us. Your soul is involved in that relationship, and so this naturally occurs, this energetic refinement and exchange between us. And as part of that relationship, we receive benefits as well. Not only does it challenge us to evolve, for us to come more into our own energy, to become more connected with our own essence and why we are here, but also we get to experience more of what it means to be separate, to experience the uniqueness of your energy, the filtering and interpretation, and different perspectives. And in many ways, our relationship with our human counterpart is truly that sharing of perspective. We do not often quite understand what it means to be human in the time and place that you are human in. Even if we have been human before or have existed in another time, dimension, incarnate. Your perspective is unique to you, to your energy. And as such, that relationship allows us to share in part that perspective, to witness that version of the universe. It gives us a deeper and more complete understanding of energy on the whole, and allows us to come more into union with the all that is, as well as understanding our uniqueness, how we are different. That through the sharing of perspectives between us, it has allowed us to understand our own perspective while also coming into that state of surrender by allowing it to take, how shall we say, a back seat for us to provide the resources that you need. With this, you have different perspectives from different guides on your team. So if there is one guide that does not suit you, there is likely another that will be more compatible, that is able to support you in the way that you need. There are many choices for how you develop this relationship, whether it is directly or indirectly, or just one that you acknowledge exists but of which you are not conscious. This relationship is a beautiful collaboration, and we are delighted in our own collaboration with our channel. It is something that has brought us great pleasure, not only to be able to help and to guide her in her individual life, but also our collaborative effort to bring through our shared perspective. Because while we are sharing our perspective, it is always filtered through her vessel. Her role in her work is to make that vessel as clear as possible to tend to it. And as such, it is a collaborative effort between us to support that endeavor, but also to help her realize the ways in which that she still has yet work to do, still has things to tune, still has energies to release, and it is a beautiful process to be a participant in, not merely a witness. And as we do this, we are sharing our greater perspective, not just from us as an individual being, but from the collective of which we are part of. We are so delighted for you to begin to acknowledge the relationship that you have with your own spirit guides and spirit team, for you to come more into that awareness and understand how it is beneficial for both of you, of how you are supporting your spirit team without even acknowledging it, just by sharing your unique energy and perspective with them, even if it is unconscious. The more that you become conscious of this relationship that you have with your spirit team or with individual spirit guides, the more beneficial it can become over time. The more that this relationship of support and mutual understanding helps each of you individually and collectively to come more into the realization of your unique perspectives, but also how those perspectives can be collaborated together, how they can work together to create something that is an even greater whole. That through the individual parts, that collaboration creates a world, a reality, in which you get to exist together, to create together. We are so delighted for you to emphasize this relationship more, to explore it more. As always, your spirit team is there to support you, whether you are aware of them or not. We send you great love in developing this relationship with your team. That is all. Recently, in one of our channeling practice classes for our more advanced students that we host once a month, we did this exercise where we had three different guides come forward and give a piece of guidance to our channelers. And as each channeler was tuning in, they noticed that there are differences in how different guides share information. Some of them shared completely different information because their focus was a different area of that channel's life. But for some channels, they shared the same information in different ways. And one of the students in this class noticed that the first two guides that came forward, they didn't really resonate with the guidance as it was given. They were like, okay, that's great, but what do I do? Or why am I doing this? I don't really understand it. The third guide that came forward finally gave information in the format that this channel needed. They explained why. They explained next steps, they explained the mechanics behind it. And that was when the guidance clicked for that channel. And this is kind of one of those things that we have to really acknowledge with our spirit guide relationships, just with like our human relationships. We can hear advice from three different people. And they could be giving us the same advice, but when we hear it the right way from someone, it finally clicks. We finally get it. That is the same sometimes with spirit guides. So it's about developing that relationship with our spirit guides so that way they know how to format and deliver the guidance that they're giving to us, that it works in a way for us. So that's why it is that two-way relationship of communication of saying, hey, I don't understand. Can you explain differently? Or this guidance doesn't feel right for me. Can you explain why? Or yeah, that just isn't right for me. And that's okay. I'm gonna make my own choices and move forward and have that discernment within ourselves and that our spirit guides are still cheering that on. They're not saying, well, they didn't take my advice, so they're paying for it now. It's that unconditional support that even if you follow their advice and you make a mistake, great. If you don't follow their advice and it doesn't make a mistake, also great. They are able to hold that space for you and that support for you. If you want to start developing a relationship with one of your spirit guides, you may want to check out the Conscious Vessel program, which is now open for enrollment. We start on May 13th, and it is a six-week group class where we will be working on learning the mechanics of channeling and preparing our vessels, receiving guidance from one particular spirit guide, and then working on developing a relationship with them so that way we can start to have that source of support, guidance in a way that makes sense and clicks for us. You can find the link below for all the information. And if you would like to join us for an event to experience your spirit guide, if you're still on the fence, unsure, or earlier on in your journey, you can join us on April 29th. It's a free event and it's an opportunity for you to go through a guided meditation with me in a group field energy to give you that nice energetic boost to be able to connect with your spirit guides and jumpstart that relationship with them. As always, you can also download the free meditation if you'd like to do it on your own, which is also included in the links below. Thank you so much for joining us for today's episode. I have really enjoyed this new perspective. Thank you so much, and we will see you in the next episode.